The REAL reason why Asians are more successful than Westerners

[@thedscale]

I'm Korean. I did well cus I was scared to death of disappointing my parents. Mostly my mom. Lol.

[@patstar5]

Republic of Korea is one of my favorite countries to visit. Can’t wait til I go back in 2023.

[@y0ungtchalla420]

What methods did they use to create that in you ?

[@Summonization]

@@y0ungtchalla420 Stick. Belt. Chancla. 😅

[@philipanderegg5973]

"FAILURE" lol

[@akairyu3028]

xd so u were forced by fear well maybe that did good for you but if u think that ua re normal , well no one is but soem are more and soem are less ,and fear before something is not an answer cuz is jsut make you a slave , u know u can push a slave to do many thinkg but not anything significant and big .

[@vinny24t]

I am an active public school teacher now in my 26th year. I have had the pleasure to teach white, Afican American, Hispanic, and Asian students throughout my career. By far, Asian students have been the most disciplined, respectful, and studious group. I have taught over nine different courses and have always kept hard copies of exemplary student work to show the next crop of students. The majority of the "saved" work is from Asian students. I rarely speak with Asian parents at Parent -Teacher conferences, because there is no need for concern. Their sons and daughters repeatedly perform at the highest academic levels.

[@manuelr1405]

As Asian parents from the Philippines education is very important but you have to strike a balance also can't pressure them too much or else the risk is also great for them to get messed up.

[@marimar3161]

@@manuelr1405 please don't act like most Filipinos in the Philippines are educated and disciplined. You cant look at how the country is and easily see that that's not the truth. Filipinos only have an average IQ of 86, which is the same as African-Americans. And Filipinos score one of the last in Math scores. Dont act like Filipinos are like other Asians

[@slee2695]

@@manuelr1405 children in philippines run around with no discipline like uncivilized..the single mother rates are sky high Philippines needs to do better

[@kh884488]

I think it has nothing to do with genetics and everything to do with the influence of Confucianism which places a very strong emphasis on education and subjugation of the individual to the group -- in this case, pressure to confirm to the educational goals and aspirations of the family. In contrast, in broad American society, there seems to be heavy emphasis on sports, oftentimes at the detriment of more cognitively focused disciplines of education.

[@manuelr1405]

I agree in the Philippines I'm in the US both my kids had full academic scholarships graduated suma and magna my kids classmates ranking from 1 to ten mostly Asian.

[@dinarap6610]

grades according to Asian parents: A - average B - below average C - can't get dinner D - don't come home F - find a new family

[@johnyang1420]

Lol

[@uniqfox]

A+: don't they have anything higher/better? A-: unsure how to emotionally torture you F+/F-: you're living on the streets

[@0animalproductworld558]

Way too true. A is good or ok. A+ is whatever. A+ in AP classes are great. B is whatever, average and below average. C is you failed! D is you should be on the street and will fail in the future. F is, you are worthless.

[@extra482]

That's true lol

[@TheVictoryMan42]

E - Expelled from the Human race 😂😂😂

[@alsun3627]

I am an Asian. I studied and worked hard because my parents (immigrants) had set a good example for me. They made huge sacrifices (engineer and nurses became technician and seamstress) by coming here so that their children may have a better life. They took low/lower paying jobs and yet never asked for welfare. They endured language barrier, cultural shock and sometimes racial discrimination. I am proud of my parents. I love the song Colors of the Wind: “You think the only people who are people, Are the people who look and think like you, But if you walk the footsteps of a stranger, You'll learn things you never knew, you never knew…..”

[@AndRei-yc3ti]

Lol funny enough they (and you) would probably be better off in Asia now - quality of life in asia currently beats thst in the west in many places but thats not to say asia is without its problems

[@AinzWoolGown]

@@AndRei-yc3ti Asia is a big place my brother.

[@arickjohnson9982]

@@AinzWoolGown India China Russia & some of N AFRICA arabs

[@AinzWoolGown]

@@arickjohnson9982 yeah that's around 75% of it

[@anthonymartinez4307]

You think only Asian people took low paying jobs? All people have a struggle and nobody is above any one there’s wealthy blacks Hispanics Anglo and Asians the list goes on and on. That someone wants to beg it’s their choice. Nobody reaches the glory of anything because when it’s all done you still take nothing to the grave. Russian European whatever you make life what you decide. Drugs and alcoholic beverages destroys people.

[@Misakigi]

My parents walked around UCLA campus in 2018. It was a sunny day, there were many [white] students on scooters, enjoying the sun, reading on the lawn. "Wow. I thought there were a lot more Asians at this school." My cousin said, "There are. They're all in the library or lab."

[@camelisurfriend]

The Asian students are in south campus while the white students are in north campus

[@denzel9455]

@Jogger Crimewave to be those things you need a certain level of thinking(IQ) i'm in the netherlands and many people who wanna be a teacher for an example got issues with reading comprehension or writing same with math.

[@ShauhuaGu]

Asians Chinese Vietnamese immigrants focus lot on education business be good person so we sacrifice eat n exercise n look n power n voice n representation n weigh lifting sport we grow small short shy square scare silly stiff silent sissy slow. That's negative be good at school n business.

[@WisdomMan1111]

👍😆

[@chijiobi7760]

Add Nigerians there.

[@keith692]

I am a Chinese American and grew up with very traditional parents. My mom always said that I know when to love you and when to make you fear me. If all I give you is love and no pain, you will never appreciate the love I give you. From her perspective, a lot of American parents do a great job of giving unconditional love, but there's no consequences for doing bad in school or behavior wise, hence, kids never mature and understand how to appreciate love. This is a very general statement by her so definitely not the case for everyone. And not all Asian parents do a good job of parenting either.

[@Feedmeyoubastard_00]

The doing bad in school wise really does depend because if it’s grade wise they really don’t care. If it’s about attendance, turning in homework/assigments then they would be concerned.

[@LAPesos]

Great point! I believe this makes a ton of sense to!

[@panamera7658]

Why do Chinese people hate America and still want to crawl to America to live? Live your whole life in China, the best country in the world.

[@JohnWilliams-iw6oq]

The Asian culture is one of honour, to fail to live up to expectations is seen as dishonour and unacceptable. Western culture has become one of walking away from obligations if you feel there's not enough in it for you.

[@bilalhamurabi3362]

but are asians happy with it? they dont seem to get a lot of children... is this success?

[@manorui100]

American culture. West isnt just america.

[@lejamesbron5880]

@@bilalhamurabi3362 Perhaps pros and cons. One major con in the Far East is the escalation of taking one’s life, and one big reason for young folks is because of “dishonoring the family” for one’s “failure.”

[@JohnWilliams-iw6oq]

@@manorui100 I wrote "Western culture", not "American", this is a global problem and is not specific to the USA.

[@JohnWilliams-iw6oq]

@@bilalhamurabi3362 the social emphasis in Asians communities is to succeed and in many cases this does not include having children. Remember that Asian cultures used to respect and venerate age in much the same way as westerners worship youth. The issues are complex and well beyond my ability to deal with. I hope you find the understanding you seem to be looking for.

[@eddiepigg5333]

My friend came from Vietnam when we were in the fourth grade. She didn’t speak a word of English and sat in the back of the class listening to cassette tapes learning English. She graduated number one in our class and went to a great school and got a degree in chemical engineering. I was very proud of her! Even though I graduated number thirty-one in our class (of 340) I haven’t achieved anything in my life. (I wanted to be a professional musician) There are absolutely NO EXCUSES for anyone in the United States of America not to achieve their dreams if they want it bad enough! There is always a way…

[@secrets.295]

Not everybody can achieve their dreams. It's just a lie. U have to be realistic. To be a professional pianist where u can become famous internationally is like one in a million. If your target is to be a pianist playing at a hotel or something that is fine.

[@WangGolden]

@@secrets.295it’s called excuses, excuses, excuses

[@howell7136]

Trying to be a chemical engineer is not the same as trying to be a professional musician. You need academic ability or you need artistic ability.

[@doitrightpham9053]

I am an Asian. There is one thing that I don't see people mentioning about is that even though the Asian parents have marriage problem, they are tend to stay with each other until the kids are grown up (even that's the fake happy marriage). They prioritize their kid's future than their own prefer lives.

[@savagecat5499]

I know my Asian friend wished their parents got a divorce because they saw how unhappy their parents were.

[@janetpartyka5968]

Yes, for example, I know of an Asian couple where the husband had his girlfriend live in the same house as his wife. I know the daughter. How disgusting! If your children grow up and watch something like that, you can bet it will screw them up.

[@hxhdjjfj]

@@janetpartyka5968Wtf, ok that's def not typical...

[@monsterrex999]

It's a matter of choice, either you live your life to the fullest and enjoy your personal life, or you start a family and enjoy what a family brings. This is a choice for ordinary people.

[@hleangod]

When a person is older and looks back, you might have wished that their parents had gotten a divorce because they saw how unhappy their parents were. However, their lives might have been very different if their parents actually did get a divorce. Their lives would have been unstable. They might go back and forth between 2 households. There are financial strains.

[@VarsVerum]

As a child whose father passed when I was 6, I hate how society is forgetting the importance of a nuclear family unit. My mother was twice the parent anyone could ever be and raised me and my sister well, but there are so many things I feel like I’m learning late because I didn’t have a father growing up. Family stability is a *major* contributor to how well adjusted a kid is growing up. Doesn’t matter how amazing the single parent is, you can’t do two parents’ jobs as one person. Granted, western culture has become very selfish and irresponsible. That include in the realm of starting a family or having kids. I saw my mother shoulder the incredible burden of raising me and my sister right, even if it meant hard work, sacrifice and pain. That’s what motivates me to work hard myself, to show my appreciation for everything she’s done for me at the expense of herself. I don’t really see that kind of sacrifice and commitment from western societies. It’s always about “me me me me”. And to have a nuclear family unit you need to make sacrifices.

[@ueinihctir5650]

same

[@williamseipp9691]

I feel exactly the same.

[@anuptejasvi1]

Yup .. I lost my parents when I was 9 .. raised by my iron sisters !! I have seen them sacrifice there needs over mine !! Owe them everything of what I have become today !!

[@VarsVerum]

@@sarahpark5766 Oh believe me 엄마 tells me all the time that having me and my sister was the best life decision she could've ever made, but that doesn't mean there weren't tough times for her. She enjoys her life and is quite happy. You can make heavy sacrifices and still be happy.

[@VarsVerum]

@@sarahpark5766 yeah I suppose sacrifice does sound like a very negative connotation

[@NHJDT]

I'm Korean and I studied my booty off all my life. I did it for me but also for my parents. They moved to the US borrowing money to buy plane tickets all to provide more opportunities to their children. I didn't want to let them down. Not succeeding was not an option in my mind. My parents didn't burden me with expectations to succeed. They never asked me or told me to do anything. They guided me to make good decisions. Happy news though, now I'm a millionaire and my dad spends his days worrying about his golf game and going on family vacations with us. Unfortunately my mother has passed but before she died, I was able to take her on many cool vacations and bought her a Lexus

[@earlysda]

That's respect!

[@gratefulkm]

Thats because you're not taught to worship separation, the individual the "I" the One!

[@MAMSMB]

@@gratefulkm your right, that's why compared to west we take care our parents when they get old, and we don't kick our kids outta the house at 18. The human brain doesn't reach its final form til 25-28.

[@Maarten8867]

While it's nice that you succeeded I feel such a burden should never be on a child.

[@MAMSMB]

@@Maarten8867 I'm not coming after your opinion and I say this with all due respect, you need to be able to think about a subject with multiple levels and angles. Asian parents don't enjoy the process of putting their kids thru difficulties, but we know it's necessary to build a strong family and society.

[@talex7473]

I am American, my wife is Chinese. I witness with my own two eyes exactly why they’re more successful on average. Every day my wife puts the kids through a rigorous boot camp of math, language, piano, science, etc. My wife literally has no time for herself. I never experienced that academic rigor when I was a kid. Sometimes there’s a little battling between my wife and I due to the western mentality of “needing to be a kid” that I bring to the table. In the end, however, the kids get a good balance and it’s become obvious to me that the cultural importance on education is unspeakably higher in the far east. My wife’s parents are always checking on their grades. My parents always buy them ice cream 😊😂

[@f430ferrari5]

That’s not really the answer. There are many Asian Americans who work manual labor jobs. It’s more about kids growing up and seeing how hard their parents work and make sacrifices for the kids. Sure the parents want the kids to study but not all do. Yes some are strict but not all. Peer pressure plays a part. One factor that is rarely brought up is that most Asian Americans don’t focus on athletics. Yes they participate but come on. The chances of making it as a pro anywhere and make good money is not very high. Black males can be considered blessed or cursed. Some realize their own athletic limitations but some come close but don’t reach it. Focus is not on academics always or it’s really challenging for any student athlete to balance both. Some or many do an amazing job. Yes some struggle. Yes some blow it.

[@CaribbeanBacchanal]

My wife and I are Chinese immigrants, with one daughter and one son, but we never took care of their studies, never checked their school performance, never had extra training boot camp. The kids did excellent in high schools without my knowledge. Now, one just graduated from a medical school in Montreal, the other graduated from McGill university 3 years ago working for a wall street investment bank in New York city. Not every chinese parents are pushy.

[@worstchoresmadesimple6259]

In the Far East, a battery of homework and Straight As minimum standard is applied heavily. Because education is seen by far, more than a financial investment, it is a wealth builder, accumulator, and a progressive community attitude to developing a survival belt of attainment. Dullards and comedians, lazy kids find a niche somewhere in Asian society, but ultimately they are expected to work equally as hard. Whilst there are exceptions, the wealth gained from achievement is reinvested back into the community of businesses and families. Hence a ferocious attitude to like minded marriages. Mixed marriages are somewhat uncommon but I suppose there is a reason, and creating wealth is but one amongst many, hazarding a guess.

[@chrislim7976]

Please also teach your kids basic manners, how to socialise and be civil once tiger mom is done roaring. Good luck. 😂

[@talex7473]

@@chrislim7976 😆 of course.

[@josephjohnson1057]

I had a classmate from Cuba. He said there were two different types of Cuban Americans in his community- those born in the US and those not. The former would complain, use welfare as a crutch, play around, and never really do much in life. The latter would grow up, create business, and lap the US-born. Living in this country, you can get spoiled and used to the opportunity. Those born abroad know what they have and cherish it.

[@enigmathegrayman2953]

Romanticism at is best, but keep telling yourself those lies about people “born abroad” running laps around locals, where’s all the gumption and vigor to save your own land? You’d actually save your best efforts for a place your not even born too? To me thats insanity and cowardice, you’ll never have my respect for that no matter how much money you make here in America. Freedom for any country world wide involves bloodshed, it ain’t pretty to attain freedom for yourself, you must fight for it and willing to DIE for it, not run to the USA and start a business make a ton of money and bang every blonde in sight saying you run laps around people who DIE FOR THIS COUNTRY TO BE WHAT IT IS! 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@josephjohnson1057]

@@enigmathegrayman2953 Actually, this has been proven by the statistics. Wanna know something even funnier? The children of first time immigrants do worse than their parents, even with the same genetics. More proof that when you get used to the qualities of America, you tend to relax more. I had a cousin tell me that "we" won't do the same jobs as Mexicans because "we" have already plowed the fields for 400 years. It's totally the wrong mindset to have. You always should keep grinding. This "land of the free" is made of mostly immigrant descendants. That's why we have so much diversity in culture. You could learn something from these immigrants, and don't hate.

[@enigmathegrayman2953]

@@josephjohnson1057 You’re so lost you don’t even realize how offensive and condescending you’re being right now. You actually think you’re better than those born to this country. Believe me people see right through your “work hard and keep grinding” speech. It’s old and really you need to come up with new talking points. I can’t continue the conversation with someone who thinks they’ve got it all figured out and are completely disrespecting local citizens.

[@josephjohnson1057]

@@enigmathegrayman2953 You do know I’m American born right? Maybe we red blooded Americans should get over ourselves and take notes. It’s this know it all arrogance that allows us to get azz kicked by foreigners. We need to take our azz whippings like real men and quit whining like biatches. The facts we sit on our 300 lb azz es and cry about taxes and rights while other folks outdo us with our own rules is a slap in the face to ourselves.

[@enigmathegrayman2953]

@@josephjohnson1057 You got issues, this conversation is over!

[@NinoNlkkl]

I'm a korean American parent. I raised my two boys to be independent. I never gave them money, I never bought them anything other than basics such as clothes. They had to read books and write an essay to get paid. Every Sunday morning was a pay day. With the money they made, they bought things they wanted. Computers, game consoles, bikes, shoes, toys and everything. I did not tell them to go take after school programs, but they told me they wanted to to better themselves. Costly but I did pay for that for 2 years. They excelled in school and I never worried about them. Both of them are in college now, and have a bright future.

[@II-ii2um]

Good for you man! Well done!

[@princesssamiaa1548]

So how did you raise them to be independently?? I need examples

[@larryc1616]

Excellent

[@mrdayyumyum3712]

I lived in Korea for 2 years and I seen how Koreans respected family and the importance of taking care of your own. By the way I loved the food. i.e. Ju O Tong

[@clueless485]

@@princesssamiaa1548 He said he never gave them money. They had to earn it.

[@tinat5484]

I’m South Asian - I studied a lot in high school and college because I didn’t want to disappoint my parents who gave up their extended families and sacrificed their good life back home to immigrate to America. They didn’t speak much English, didn’t know anyone, couldn’t acclimate to the food and the list goes on. They came here for me. That’s why I studied hard and got straight As.

[@CW-rx2js]

As an Indian from an Indian "Ivy League" University, the competition is just insane. I moved to the west and even Harvard and Stanford have way less competition and pressure than what we face back home. It's like a cakewalk here. There is so much pressure back home- competing against another billion people is not the same as in the west. It's not ideal, there is a lot of other struggles too.

[@lordchaos9148]

Minority/diversity quotas look good for western schools. It's one of your privileges being foreign in the west.

[@renebleu8711]

So be thankful.. you’re ahead of most people on earth

[@EugeneTChu]

Academic pressure may be less, but be careful about other factors. Anti-Asian discrimination and violence surged in the last several years. Some Asian men struggle to find romance due to negative Hollywood stereotypes. First job outside of school may be easier, but promotion may be limiting due to race.

[@ruturajshiralkar5566]

@@EugeneTChu When you got Degree in your CV & Money in your Pocket, I'd say romance would always lurk around.

[@EugeneTChu]

@@ruturajshiralkar5566 CV and degree are irrelevant to romance. Asian men are not normally seen as attractive in western countries. Many require matchmaking or dating coaching in order to find female partners.

[@arlenem.4579]

I'm Asian, moved here legally in the 90s. My husband and I raised our kids to be respectful and productive members of society. Ours kids all excelled in academics. We tell them everyday to do their best in whatever they do. If their best is a B or C, we told them that's ok too. But they always strive for A and get it most of the time. School was priority. We did not have computer games to distract them. We taught them to manage their time so there's room for school, sports, friends, etc. We provide the resources so the kids are successful. It is the kids' job to ask us for help if they need it. And very important, we eat dinner together, as a family, every night.

[@cliffchadwicker]

“Moved here LEGALLY”

[@johnjay6370]

"When you pay people not to get married more people will not get married" The breakdown of the family is the biggest tragedy of this generation.

[@daniella8400]

That’s part of it, lack of education is another part. Another several black families but the kids have no structure because the parents are lazy. Look at the dynamic of married black families, the kids still usually perform at the bottom

[@serenesrn3827]

@@daniella8400 Exacty a dustie baby daddy is bad .Same dustie as husband is worse .Asian women have better choice of men so their kids ofcourse benefit from that. You will never see an Indian woman date a homeless guy or date a criminal .African American men who are not providing for their children because of not having good jobs ,being incarcerated etc are still having 4 ,9 and more children all raised by women .Asian women would'nt give 5 minutes to those men .

[@yallhellamessy9291]

The solution is to stop selling out the family structure of having a father and husband in the home for a check.

[@saltymonke3682]

as an Asian, we do take care of our parents' advice, mentorship and respect them seriously. We take care of them because they took care of us. We expect our kids to do the same and by doing that we can preserve intergenerational wealth in the family. That's it. Same thing happens in the Jewish family. It's not a bad thing.

[@saltymonke3682]

@Steven Baas [C] will be scrutinized by the society even in some countries can be criminalized for neglecting a family member who's under their responsibility. Ofc, if you can't take care of your parents or kids due to economical reason, you can seek help ftom the government. But not doing anything to solve it, is a crime. In the West, neglecting your kids is a crime but not the reverse, in Asia, it's both ways. Singapore for example, has Adult Protective Service, specifically for that. It's more than elder abuse case law in the West. That's our family values.

[@saturdaysequalsyouth]

If you're a celebrity and you say this you'll be canceled.

[@saltymonke3682]

@@saturdaysequalsyouth well, that's the sad society we're in right now, unfortunately

[@RKNancy]

@Steven Baas [C] shame on them. If you don't care for your parents just because you don't feel like it or because you were just looking out for yourself, that kid will be a very materialistic. If you don't care for your own flesh and blood just because they don't offer you much, how come you will care for a friend, relative or a business partner if you'll have to help them out of a crisis one day. Unless that parent is being manipulative and abusive, kids should have no excuse to abandon their parents. In my society, you help each other out to survive. A medical crisis is upon you and you don't have enough Money? As long as you got a good relationship with people around you, someone will be willing to lend you money without any interest. Something happens to your child? The whole community will be up in arms to save that kid. But the thing is, you'll be expected to do something similar when you become a full-fledged adult in the future because self-serving nature could only get you so far in life. You start with helping out your own family, and then you can move onto helping others.

[@EugeneTChu]

Not always...Sowell's comments are that Asians are successful due to traditional family and high college graduation. He ignores racial violence, stereotyping and discrimination. Your Jewish argument is similar by focusing on one area, but forgetting about discrimination and violence from anti-Semitism.

[@phineasrumson3116]

A couple of decades ago I taught HS AP calc, I went to the library in the afternoon after class and invited anyone to attend as I would spend a couple of hours tutoring some kids (for free) in math, The only kids who were in that session were Asian and Indian! They were very grateful for all of the extra help, very few black or white children attended. Those who did, were at the higher end of the grading scale, those who could really benefit were noticeably absent!

[@robw9435]

God bless you for providing extra help for those who wanted it!

[@luciensartikilledjohnf.ken1689]

What school and state did you teach at? I'm Mexican and Im studying for civil engineering major , however, I do believe that affirmative action isn't beneficial since it puts a burden on Asian students especially. Ironically though, the same people complaining about Blacks and Hispanics being underrepesented at ivy League colleges also oppose improving the quality of education that they receive prior to post-secondary education. Teachers Unions, for example, are part of the problem since they do nothing to improve the elementary, middle and high schools of black/hispanic children, and they simultaneously oppose charter schools since most charter school teachers are not unionised and because they know that minority children succeed disproportionately in charter schools. Take a look at Success Academy Charter Schools in New York for instance. Sowell talks about it in his book "Discrimination and Disparities" that black and hispanic children who attended SA have OUTPERFORMED white and asian children who attended the conventional public schools , despite the fact that a lot of those white and asian school children came from middle-upper class families, according to 14000 students surveyed there. Take a look at Garfield High School for example. 25% of ALL Mexican American students passing the Ap calculus exam came from Garfield HS because of Jaime Escalante, who I consider to be one of my heroes at the time of his success. . He received a Presidential Medal of Honor from President Ronald Reagan subsequently , but was unfortunately ousted out of Garfield by the Teachers Unions in California who hated him for opposing bilingual education. At the final analysis , if these garbage politicians/teachers unions really cared about improving my peoples education, we would start the process at our K12 schools FIRST. This whole :Diversity, Equity and Inclusion (DEI) garbage wouldn't be necessary in Universities if they'd follow this guideline.

[@luciensartikilledjohnf.ken1689]

Trust me. I've read several of Dr. Sowell's books. My favourite Sowell book is "Black Rednecks and White Liberals" because it talks about the origins of the black ghetto culture in a profound way. He also talks about the ACTUAL history of slavery which should be taught in every institution (from K12 to College ) to lessen tensions between black and white Americans whining about their ancestors' wrongdoings and misfortunes. I have yet to finish his "Discrimination and Disparities" book.

[@economicdevelopmentplannin8715]

Black Americans don't value admission to elite colleges because, drumroll... They've never been considered elite in this country 🤯. It becomes a disincentive to sitting in libraries unpaid for decades, when you are in a lineage of people who worked on these lands for hundreds of years and never received payment. There are psychological impacts of the cotton fields that persist and remain to this day...

[@StephenZ827]

@@luciensartikilledjohnf.ken1689 To fix the problem the Union created. Thus they continue to enforce the problems to keep the Union.

[@HookemFishing]

Vietnamese here. Grew up in the project, i saw many of my black friends drift through life. Most are from single parent and or drug addicted parents. One particular friend, Ken, his parents were hard workers. He didn't care too much for the other black kids who were not going anywhere in life. Ironically he hung out with us, played games with us, and at times, asked for us to help him with his school work. My friends and I, of course, did what we could to help him. All the Vietnamese kids went to college and made something of themself and took care of their family. Our friend Ken went to college as well, and last I heard, he was doing ok as a manager.

[@eqqq54]

Because Ken hung out with the right group of kids.

[@daphnesmith1686]

Association Matters aligning urself with people that has the SAME ambition as it does not matter of race.

[@stephaniewilliams168]

@@daphnesmith1686 exactly also one can be gifted in one area and not the other.

[@daphnesmith1686]

@@stephaniewilliams168 Agree💯🙏🏻💕🥰

[@HookemFishing]

@@daphnesmith1686 Reply is within video context. But yes, I do agree.

[@ToanNguyen-kk1rs]

I’m an Asian (Vietnamese). I approve this message. ❤️🙏 PEACE ✌️

[@pretorious700]

Gee, thought by your name you might be Scottish.

[@babagandu]

Me love you long time

[@TonyMotherfuckinLee]

@@babagandu Everybody knows the US military had nothing but baby killers.

[@johnwhodat8135]

🤣

[@MrRight-xc5nw]

Everyone is well aware Nguyen is Vietnamese. You didn’t even need to say you’re Asian. Glad to see your post fellow ASEAN from Philippines!

[@ReCharredSigh]

Asian parents also tend to emphasize going into careers that are high paying but require a lot of hard academic success to get there. Doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc. Try telling your asian parent you want to become an athlete, musician or actor and watch them discipline you harshly.

[@EugeneTChu]

Some Asian parents fail to realize that academic career does not equal success in life. One Korean-American doctor married then divorced a beauty queen after discovering that she secretly did prostitution. One Vietnamese-American doctor got beaten by police after refusing to give up the airline seat that he legitimately paid for.

[@ReCharredSigh]

@@EugeneTChu right. Academic success is good to pursue, but not the end-all-be-all for shaping a young person.

[@schokoladenritter7969]

Yet being an athlete, musician, or actor also requires a lot of hard work. The problem with pursuing those passions as jobs are that the market for them is extremely volatile and success is often determined by luck/connections that most Asians don't have. Being a doctor/lawyer/engineer is in reality a lot easier to do, and there's more stability. That's how my Asian parents explained it to me - no disciplining needed. Your parents must be terrible if they discipline you for asking questions.

[@mew9797]

My parents said back then when Asian countries were poor, businessmen were the only ones who were rich. Musicians, actors, and athletes didn’t make money that much, didn’t matter how famous they were. Also after some time of being famous, their fame died down and they were constantly replaced by newcomers, so they stopped making money as much. Doctors, lawyers, and engineers made good enough money and their careers were stable; you can have those careers for the rest of your life. But now that Asian countries are growing economically, those in the creative and sports field are doing exceptionally well, even better than doctors. However, those industries are still unstable, you either make it or not. So Asian parents often discourage their children to be musicians/actors/athletes

[@s._3560]

Asian parents advise against these because those fields have less job stability. There are many people who don't become famous, and they end up with low to no income. Because the arts field is somewhat subjective e.g. actor. Moreover, professional fields like scientists, lawyers, doctors etc. have erected many barriers to entry to protect their profession, to ensure that they all have good pay, less competition and more jobs. As the other previous guy says, a more developed and rich economy helps support those jobs in the entertainment, arts field because people have more disposable income. Asian parents mean well when they advise their children to choose the more tried and tested way. They also want their kids to aim high so Asian kids can reach higher than they've dreamed!

[@holycowtube]

I’m Korean. I didn’t do well in school and I’m not very smart. But I worked hard, learned as much as I could from others and never said no to more responsibilities.

[@georgesykes394]

Work Ethic, values, and their Nuclear family structure largely intact.

[@ClarenceJBoddicker1987]

I have never met an Asian that grew up in a broken home. You are definitely right.

[@georgesykes394]

@@ClarenceJBoddicker1987Some have grown up in broken homes. But compared to the other group's I believe those numbers are lower. The Asian Community has a strong internal safety net. In which they help each other. If that kid had a unstable home a Uncle or Aunt or grandparent will take them in and guide them. Also with The Asian Community I've noticed Koreans the money stays in the community that's where the real economic power is.

[@RBLACKPEARL7]

EXACTLY

[@oreally8605]

There ya go! Ever wonder why you see a young Asian male in a Nissan GTR? ( $150k car) and owns his own shop? Work ethics and family values. 👪 exactly that.

[@Kathy-22]

Exactly

[@Mark-hc8ek]

When I was in college back in 1991, I had to write a last-minute article for the local newspaper on a Saturday night. Because my dorm was partying down I went to our 24-hour library to write in peace. I walked in after midnight to a packed library. There was nowhere to sit. And every single one of the students there were Asian.

[@PolishBehemoth]

wow. thats amazing.

[@nunyabiznes33]

Holy shit! That's crazy.

[@rogermetzger7335]

...every one.....was Asian. And I don't have a college degree.

[@sav7568]

My school was similar. During 1983, my last year of classes, if you went to the library after 7 pm you would see that half the people inside were Asian. 5% of the student body was Asian.

[@XYtotheZ]

And it's no coincidence that in 2022, 95% or more of the Asians in that library in 1991 are now uber successful and are "owners" here in the USA rather than the serfs that make up most of our population.

[@MbisonBalrog]

I’m Asian. I did well academically cause I couldn’t be a pro athlete, actor, porn star, rock star, or anything famous to make money.💵

[@kaze6979]

I agree that Asians have a strong family bond, but that bond also puts heavy pressure of Asian children to succeed. In some ways they are the extreme opposite of Western culture and what is needed is a good balance from what used to be the Judeo-Christian culture in the West and the strong family bonds from the East. Everyone has something to teach and learn from everyone around you.

[@Cryptum404]

You are incorrect, as an American we do not claim you as one buddy

[@kaze6979]

@@Cryptum404 What is incorrect? And I served, did you?

[@naturalLin]

Not really, maybe high earning Asian parents. Not for the majority to pressure their children.

[@TheRealTburt]

If we stopped lifting some schools as being "the best school," there would be less pressure. I have never asked where my doctor got his degree, I have never asked an accountant where they got their license. Where one goes to school doesn't matter to regular citizens. All that matters is that you got the tools and you passed the courses.

[@brandonmccrae5472]

Nothing wrong with a strong family bond. Pressure creates diamonds.

[@joemahony4198]

Paying people not to get married, the result if not the intention.

[@nicbahtin4774]

maybe it was the intention we can't excuse their behavior for just incompetence. this is just another step in their plan of dismantling the west

[@helenahooley2076]

If thats the spin you want to put on it, you go right ahead. I see it as money finally gave women the chance to escape from horrible men. Just because people stayed together in the 50s does not mean the wives were happy, they stayed together because they had to. Western husbands can be quite horrendous, black men a lot more so. Perhaps Asian husbands are just better husbands and thats why women prefer to marry and stay married to them.

[@joemahony4198]

They were provided benefits only if they were not married, if the boy friend etc stuck around they would receive nothing. Your misandry is showing.

[@MuhammadFaiz-qq6xo]

@@joemahony4198 Dont bash me i agree with you. “Umar RA said, “Must every house be built on love? What about loyalty and appreciation?”.i mean yes if the man is Shyt then ofc divorce.But most people are degenerates chasing pleasure and happiness and the burtterflies.

[@readyornot27]

@@joemahony4198 They were initially only offered benefits after their husbands deserted their families. Western individualism and lack of family values strike again.

[@Alex-xi3bw]

And now we're being punished for it both academically and professionally with diversity quotas

[@RBLACKPEARL7]

Thank you God for this great man Thomas Sowell, and the man taking the time to speak/interview him getting important history to us 🙏❤️👍!!

[@my_pronoun_is_your_excellency]

We need more people like Mr. Sowell in this country, rational and affable, who can explain a difficult concept with a simple example, very zen like!

[@CheckThisOut77]

I was an in-home salesman and saw this MANY times: The Asian families usually used their dining rooms as learning rooms.

[@blacklavoux]

There’s pros and cons about us asians. It wasn’t rainbows for us also. I learn about mental health from non asian countries and to me that is vital. So i think there’s a good balance in taking example from other countries and race. Either from behavior, characteristic, work ethic.

[@sillasaram9121]

If you want to see mental health problem, look at homeless in DemoKKKrat cities like LA and SF. You rarely see Asian face among the mentally ill.

[@EugeneTChu]

You have valid points. While some Asians do well with college and initial job, they face difficulty with career advancement and romance. Asians also face discrimination and violence based on jealousy of success similar to anti-Semitism against Jewish people.

[@sillasaram9121]

@@EugeneTChu Anti-asian jealousy come from DemoKKKrat who are exclusively pushing racist affirmative action, hindering Asian advancements (see tech firms dominated by DemoKKKrats and lack of Asian management), DemoKKKrat dominated entertainment industry portraying Asian men as meek cowards.

[@mewtubeofficial]

Its not like Asians didnt understand mental health. Yoga, meditation is all about mental health. Even martial arts, chants, minimalism. Saying stay hydrated and wake up early does contribute to better mental health. They just didnt see paying someone by the hour on a regular basis and popping pills as a solution. However they also ignored serious psychiatric problems and didnt develop open communication.

[@anng.4542]

This is exactly what the New Left wanted 50+ years ago. I remember organizers in the antiwar movement during the Vietnam war era, who constantly repeated the phrase, "we must destroy the nuclear family!"

[@JackHaveman52]

Marxists ideologues. I remember them well from that era. They seemed to disappear but they just changed how they approached things until they were ready to try again. Apparently, they think that they're ready.

[@tomlaureys1734]

The family is the nucleus of human civilization. The people who want to destroy it are effectively saying that they want to destroy human civilization.

[@Mark-hc8ek]

I had similar experiences with the gay rights movement in the mid 1980s. They kept screaming about how great communism was, coming especially from the lesbians. This is where I parted ways.

[@Rensune]

They succeeded.

[@rubyus7332]

… destroy our history, destroy our Constitution?! Why do we allow to do it to this great country?!

[@tubtsab7905]

As an Asian kid, I know I worked hard because of 2 things, and this is just my personal experience but I’m sure others can relate. 1. I had to do well because my parents weren’t about to lose face. 2. Bring home anything less then an A and well I never found out because my pops always reminded me “bring home anything less then an A and you’ll regret it” As a kid it was horrible. As an adult and a father, I thank my parents every chance I get.

[@f430ferrari5]

I didn’t grow up that way. My parents were very easy going. I wasn’t a very good HS student. I didn’t try. I made choices to just play basketball and other sports or activities which kept me from studying much. I hung around a group of friends who were not trouble makers but just not very focused. I went to a community college. It was a certain amount of peer pressure and my dad finally asking what I planned to do. Also, when dating once the Asian girl sees you’re not going anywhere in life she’s not interested. Most are not. These were my incentives. I buckled down. Transferred to a 4 year university and began my career which I enjoy. It just mind boggles me as to how somewhat easy it was but also challenging in passing exams and getting promoted.

[@michaellim4165]

@F430 Ferrari So did you land an Asian girl?

[@f430ferrari5]

@@michaellim4165 I’ve dated Latino but she hung around Asians. Dated white and also Asian. I dated a lot more after I had my career established. I married Asian woman.

[@janedoe5229]

"Saving face": an integral part of Asian culture. I don't even think American kids can even define it, let alone do it.

[@DavidGivinsnhe]

​@@f430ferrari5similar here as I lounge in NYC planning for the future wealth and intelligence of humanity and to govern all governments with my intellectual property that they are fighting against! Lucky me Mr Givins's NHE!😊❤

[@jeskerjames3260]

This is why when people ask me why I have such an interest and appreciation for Asian cultures, I explain where they get right a lot of what we get wrong. And I tell them we need to import some of their values to the west and we would be a lot better off for it.

[@bobs3354]

We used to have (in the US) many of the values you refer to. The left destroyed them.

[@jeskerjames3260]

@@bobs3354 And that’s why Japan and South Korea need to avoid becoming Americanized by all costs!

[@xchen3079]

The West culture is not the problem. The problem is the cultural Marxism

[@jeskerjames3260]

@@xchen3079 And cultural marxism has taken over the west to the point it has become the western culture.

[@xchen3079]

@@jeskerjames3260 Not totally yet, half I guess

[@imnotanalien7839]

Great discussion of bureaucrats setting people up to fail. I knew an Asian with top scores, sending out college applications… but NOT to elite colleges….why?…. he said he would rather be a guaranteed top dog in one loop down (other great schools) than fighting for top dog status with other top dogs. It’s not just getting good grades.. it’s other opportunities at the universities… like research with professors, etc. Also, a math class is a math class, colleges use basically the same books for undergraduate classes. There is no reason to go to a Harvard or Yale for an undergraduate degree. It’s just for looks, like carrying a Louis Vuitton handbag…. And ditto for a masters or Ph.D. There are wonderful professors at many schools. The Elite schools are for networking. I lost contact with that really smart Asian guy… but I am quite sure he is flying around somewhere with the other top dogs.🐶

[@user-yc3fw6vq5n]

I agree with that philosophy

[@johnwhodat8135]

It's not about what you know but who you know. This applies to every aspects of life.

[@Ldsyldsy]

I went to Caltech. They do not use the same text books for undergraduate classes. My Math 1 (Calculus) text was written by the Ma professor himself. Still, text books aside, it is the homework and exams that set these schools apart, not even the teaching. Math 1 finished 1 year of HS calculus in a few weeks. Each math homework problem would take me an entire afternoon to solve. Overtime, these assignments pushed and unleashed my problem-solving and analytical potentials to several times what I thought I could do. No, it is not like LV bags or just about networking. The students had to work 10x as hard or they may flunk out.

[@aaronmontgomery2055]

It would depend on your field of study. Some courses are better at MIT then other colleges and also their electives and first years courses also are better (for technology as they don't make you take the BS classes other colleges makes you take, as in more emphasis on tech). This is not to discredit other great colleges like Georgia Tech as they also have a great aerospace program but certain schools have better programs (for real courses like STEM). Now Yale and Harvard are great for lawyers as you get connections (like congressmen and presidents) however their programs are definitely just that (though they a great astrophysics program). This is just based on my family's anecdotes though and we are immigrants so the college gen is mine and we are in the late 20's age now (besides the lawyer as that is just based on the astrophysics cousin's view). Yes all my parents generation children are together and we are Asian.

[@spankroy]

@@Ldsyldsy CalTech is on a whole different level than the Ivy League schools. You are among the academic elite if you are admitted to CalTech.

[@mushy18100]

I’m a Filipino. We don’t call 911 or social workers if our parents DISCPLINED us as a child whether physically or verbally instead we digest and suffered it that day and the next day we become better individuals.

[@manuelmoraleda9684]

Filipinos know intuitively the difference between DISCIPLINE and ABUSE.

[@manuelmoraleda9684]

@BtK-gn5hb I totally agree. Success is admired, but not worshipped in the Filipino culture.

[@manuelmoraleda9684]

@BtK-gn5hb I heard this Korean said this - Filipinos are just playing in learning American English while I'm trying really hard. Many Koreans and other nationalities go to the Philippines to learn and refine their American English in a cost-effective way.

[@manuelmoraleda9684]

@@BtK-gn5hb let's us not forget that South Korea gives us lots of wonderful advances in technology.

[@Feedmeyoubastard_00]

There’s a difference between disciplining and abuse. Don’t make us fellow South East Asians look bad

[@lifeseries7944]

As an Asian, I can’t say one race is better than the others. I believe each has his/her own merits and strength. However, being married to a westerner, I do see many differences between us, especially parenting. While I thought we share similar money and family concepts with my husband, our parenting styles are very different. My husband doesn’t push the kids to do better while I push them to reach potential, learn different skills and gain experiences. He let them do whatever they like but I have rules and custom (eg set limit on computer usage or screening for web surfing materials for our teens). He wants to befriend with them but I parent, teach and discipline. He has very low expectations for the kids while I have high standards. He thinks kids are born that way (we can’t do anything about them) but I believe in teaching good habits from the young and molding them along the way. My husband has fixed mindset but I have growth mindset so while my husband stays home watching tv, I am camping and learning outdoor cooking with our teen boys right now.

[@Ryo8761]

Western culture pushes for the unique individual creation and development. Eastern culture is for the community. In general. Yes, there's self development, but it does lean on the better for the community. So a balance between the two perspective would be great.

[@earlysda]

"My husband has fixed mindset". Sounds like you are the one who needs some help.

[@jajalee1572]

@@Ryo8761 I always said there may be more genius or creative people (born that way and not being pressured into) in Western countries but they are only a very small fraction of the population whereas in Asia, the whole group is generally better educated and more productive but may not produce that many creative people or genius. That might also explain the general IQ score in different population.

[@Ryo8761]

@@jajalee1572 that's true, I agree. The standards in Asia is higher but it produces few extreme outliers like the Western culture.

[@osirusj275]

@@Ryo8761 but lots of Americans outliers are usually from other countries like Israel, Germany, other European countries coz they pay them well

[@ricya1982]

They dont play victim. They dont make excuses. Theyre focused.

[@8dholland]

You haven't been around enough people from that region. There is a reason why they immigrated.

[@malama8981]

I grew up in Hawaii and during High School, I took an Asian studies class that taught language (Chinese and Japanese) but also Confucian philosophy. Filial piety is the primary tenant which teaches respect, responsibility and bringing honor to the family. This belief struck a chord at a young age and has been my guiding principle throughout my life (am semi-ret). During grad school (I have multiple grad degrees) the Asian students (foreign and domestic) were in general not the most talented, but worked extremely hard and in general got the highest marks. In my humble opinion, it's up to each individual to set goals and work toward achieving them, regardless of their circumstances.

[@stephenc2481]

True. We don't have the "one" race that is the smartest. But the separation is in the work ethics.

[@jamescc2010]

I am an Asian American. We should focus on individual and personal passion/achievement instead of race, national origins which can be inaccurate and counterproductive & discriminatory. Surely we all regardless can learn and apply some practical good techniques from each other. Good or bad depending on individual kharma, not race or anything specific.

[@JonSmith-wz6vl]

Confucianism died China and Japan Communist China killed it Impalism Japan killed it proper Confucianism survived only in Korean Peninsula as a Historian view

[@ck3908]

While I agree for sure individualism most important overall, your comment generalizing Asian students as not most talented appears to be totally unsubstantiated when admitting that group got highest grades. A tinge of jealousy perhaps? So based on your logic if one studied hard and do well, it is because that student studied hard not because underlying talent? how did you come up with that conclusion that someone scoring lower is actually more talented? Point is you can't make that generalization period without hard evidence.

[@davidaloha5084]

Culture, not race.

[@roxstix]

I'm Asian-American in my mid 50's and I still have unprepared college exams dreams/nightmares lol.

[@robw9435]

I'm a white boy, age 56. Once or twice a year, I still have what I call "The Dream." Sometimes the details vary, but the theme is consistent. I'm back at Georgia Tech, it's time for final exams, and I haven't been attending class for the past few weeks. It's a horrible feeling. My cousin says I have academic PTSD. She's not wrong.

[@willhooke]

RoofTop... Korean? 🙂

[@roxstix]

@@willhooke Yes 😁

[@bobjacobson858]

Occasionally I have such dreams, but they're usually about having a report or term paper due, but only remembering about it either the night before or in the morning of the due date.

[@johnwhodat8135]

@@willhooke look up 1991 LA riot. You'll see what roof top Koreans are all about.

[@TM-li7bl]

In spite of what is not right with America, I’m most grateful to have lived in America for over 50yrs. If I lived in South Korea instead of SoCal, I’m not sure if I would have been as successful as I’m today. SK is so competitive I don’t think I could have done as well there as I have been in the US…., We as Asians in America, let’s be thankful and give back, pay it forward…, this is my goal as a person my 60s now, to pay it forward. God bless America 🙏😭❤️

[@Alan-JackofAllTrades]

As research has shown, the number one indicator of success regardless of talent and background, is hard work.

[@beaupierrebondurant5651]

Thomas Sowell is an American treasure.

[@brud1729]

Yes, a buried treasure with a local following.

[@caspianhall]

Lol you know how many American treasures there are that you idiots haven’t heard of

[@FM-dm8xj]

The family structure is very important.However often the conflicts residing within that structure are commonly problematic and as result, what superceeds the family structure is the predominant culture with the said (asian) community. This is ideally what seperates asians from others, a culture that stresses the important of studying for ones future.

[@naps3386]

I have seen kids who were home schooled through primary years and then wanted to go to public skool completely adopt the social norms at public skool within one year. If they go to college they adopt it then. Forget having a family in Western society today, it's futile.

[@FM-dm8xj]

@@naps3386 Nope, Family structure is important. Its the glue that holds many important responsibilities together.

[@Valour-qh9ie]

I don't understand . Can you elaborate?

[@MaiProject2024]

I was raised by a single parent. My dad passed away when I was 8. I think I did well because we were poor growing up. My mom was on welfare and I don't want to be in the system or repeat the cycle. Also, I wanted knowledge and want a better life for my kids. I mean we were poor, I have about 5 outfits to wear to school for 5 days, wash and wear again. My undergarments were less and I still remember I used to wash them by hands and hang dry them for the next morning. Yes, it was hard and I don't want to see my future kids go through what I went through.

[@sillasaram9121]

Many poor Korean immigrant kids had just 2 clothes to wear to school and often teased for wearing the same thing. But they stuck together knowing their poverty. One of them got a PhD and now running a big venture you probably heard the name.

[@paulsummers2640]

Asians don't expect the government to give them anything.

[@MrSuckeragi]

I'm half Chinese. One thing I aprreciated about my family is that they think "Generationally" - my grandmother was poor, survived world war where she had to hide in the mountains with just one box of belongings. She had several children, worked hard and made sure her kids all went to college, most through scholarships. My dad was able to go to college in the USA through an exchange program, he became a lawyer. He worked so hard he got constipation and impacted bowel from working all day and night without using the CR. He and my mother worked so that me and my siblings could have a better life, just like grandma worked and saved for her kids. I can only pray I can do the same for my future kids. Every time someone tries to make me feel guilty for being "well off" it always annoys me, my family didn't just wake up rich or rob other people for money, they all worked hard so that their kids could reap the benefits. People these days only think about themselves, what they want, what they need - which is why most people in my area stay poor, as soon as they get a paycheck they spend it all on things THEY WANT instead of investing in future generations...

[@slayermate07]

thats consumerism babyyyy and ironically its that sort of belief that supported many generations of your partial compatriots throughout the generations in the first place.

[@Feedmeyoubastard_00]

Exactly! But as a fellow Asian I understand why a lot of Asian diasporas dislike the “think about other people” mindset because it puts unnecessary burden on them.

[@1975KyleDavid]

Asian culture is different from other cultures by how they raise their children to approach work. Work ethics is what leads to success; the sooner a child is taught to be a hard worker, the sooner the child will overcome one's obstacles. Whether a child is male or female, he or she will have one's own series of obstacles to overcome because no two persons are the same. The sooner we learn to overcome what stands in our way, the sooner we will be successful.

[@sct4040]

My father tutored me in English when we came to the US. He translated my readers for me. In 3 years, I went from being a non-English speaker to reading on grade level. I also loved to read, that helped.

[@DLG24]

This happened to me. I was top student in high school. Got a scholarship and went to the bottom half of all my classes. It was a 'cold' awakening to my self-esteem. It made me feel so dumb for a long time. Only now do I see I was just in the wrong place competing with the wrong folks. Essentially, out of my league.

[@stephenc2481]

True. I once though I was one of of the smart people in the world, till I go to college. There were so many people much smarter, and it wasn't even a brand name college. Just about any one is accepted!

[@PChan-yt4uf]

And that possibly is one of the reasons. That "it's always other people's fault" mentality. For the Asians, that might be a rude awakening but also a reality check of their place among the top 1%. Their response probably would be to work harder if they really want to be among them. Or be happy that they are at the bottom of the 1% but better than the other 99%. Asian mentality is one can always succeed if one works hard enough and that they make their own livelihood. They don't have a habit of depending on others to make things better for them. That's why they always have a sense of gratefulness and humility when help is extended, which westerners take for weakness. That's why they have a resilience in the face of adversity. In no country that they had migrated to were they ever a subject of affirmative action or given special privileges or help. Yet they consistently have been the most successful group even within 1 generation.

[@riav7467]

Most probably you were the right person at the right place except you did not work hard enough. School is the place where anyone with some sort of memory can coast through the classes and still top. College is a different place where you have to put in actual effort because of the extend and depth of subjects to learn which is why average students who do a lot of hardwork shine in college that the top students from their schools because they are used to putting the effort in. Also the former top students are less likely to ask seniors or teachers how they can improve their studies, or how to get better grades or placements, they simply think passing the exams is all that they need and fail at it. The average students ask around to know better and hence are better equipped to deal with the pressures.

[@reisschancellor9753]

Better to be in the bottom of the best then the best of the worst.

[@edwinamendelssohn5129]

And everyone knows so it makes it worse.

[@kendallevans4079]

I witness this dichotomy daily from my window. Across the street is a Asian family (2 grade school age children) the rest of the street is made up of a mix of other kids. I work from home and watch all these kids go to school in the morning and come home about 2:30PM. Just the differences in body language, dress, manners and even walking is palpable. After school the Asian kids disappear while all the other kids play (roughly and LOUDLY) in the street. Who do you think is getting the homework done and the good grades that go along with it?

[@carmenprado5320]

I am 62 years old. LatinAmerican Woman inmigrant. I did the best I could because I wanted to be proud of my parents. I live with comfort after hard work and study.

[@daninspiration4064]

They are strict and grounded. Their parents don’t allow them to slack off.

[@markmccarty9793]

Reading this I'm reminded of what a black friend told me one day. He told me he was so tired of hearing the excuses that people gave him for lack of success! "My daddy was a drunk, my mother was a slut and didn't love me, dad was a whore hound, a gambler." He said a guy ran that song and dance on him just before work and he told him "my grandma raised me and I get to work on time! WTF is your excuse for being a POS again?"

[@uniqfox]

listening to this makes me want to drink 🍷

[@zoikles1]

I am a teacher in an East Asian country and there’s another factor that reinforces this trend, although I don’t believe it discounts the impact of family or affirmative action. East Asian cultures put a far stronger emphasis on academic achievement as an indicator of success and social status than Western countries, and children are conditioned to study hard from a very young age. Their societies are also far more conformist, so children who are of average intelligence or who are not academically inclined are still expected to dedicate most of their time outside of school to study. It’s no surprise then that Asian American children whose parents instil this value set would out-perform their peers academically.

[@BrokeAgain]

It creates good followers

[@johnnypham2850]

This is not a trend but a pattern

[@ajays9936]

@@BrokeAgain You would think so but indians and asians disproportionately represent founders of tech startup unicorns that reached ipo or series B and also disproportionately represent F500 CEOs.

[@mewtubeofficial]

@@ajays9936 why would say disproportion... what proportion was it supposed to be?

[@hailyrizzo5428]

@@BrokeAgain But isn't that what westerners want? East Asians that meekly comply with what they say, instead of asserting themselves.

[@c.galindo9639]

It goes to show that high values are made through the cohesiveness of a family and is better suited for helping the next generation succeed. Spoiling and making indulge into their selfish desires without consequences is what structurally deteriorates the family relationship as a whole and leaves it up the children who grow up in that environment to succeed through their own means of upbringing

[@imbored3782]

I’m black and I can relate to the sentiment of hardwork and effort that Asians and other academically gifted student put out

[@hawkeyepierce7035]

Asian Americans are just more disciplined that other groups. As a South Asian American, I grew up in a small rural town and the vast majority of my classmates were white. My white classmates were getting Cs and Ds and seemed contented with those and were far more interested in sports events and being popular. Whereas I was mostly getting As and a few Bs and would be disappointed if I got a B minus.

[@neens1369]

I am Asian. I didn't do well academically. It seems I am an anomaly.

[@JohnLee-qi9pl]

it is the culture, not race. Not all Asians are like that: Grew up in the US without mother, tortured daily by step mom, ignored by dad. Been in hundreds of fights, football n wreslting, expelled, jailed, kicked out of military, became an addict. Then I pulled my life together thanks to a lady from Asia. we got married. She raised our kids and worked her butt off. 2 doctors out of 3 kids now. no addicts, no fights. Yup, i would say Asian values n family structure are pretty important.

[@brianmincher716]

Before I even watch this I’m gonna say hard work and intact families.

[@alphacause]

The devaluation of fathers in the black community, far more than any of the historical atrocities committed against them, is the impetus behind why they underperform in so many areas of success. After all, its not like other racial groups are free of historical oppression, ethnic cleansing, political disenfranchisement or war. Yet these impediments never hampered their progress,, once opportunities were abundant. So to rationalize the failure of black communities to thrive based on the sins of the past is a facile and ultimately wrong answer. All it does is imbue Blacks with a mentality that ensures that they will be mired in the same condition they are in. Stop infantilizing them. They must do the hard work of demanding that the men in their community start to act like men.

[@finchman1]

💯👊🏾

[@carrad123456]

But why devalue men ?? What is reason?

[@PolishBehemoth]

This is what blows my mind. As someone that has dated black women even in the ghetto. I never understood the total animosity and insistence on not staying with the father that these bitter hateful women have their babies with. Even if the dad did nothing wrong. They pride themselves on taking care of kids by themselves and pride themselves on government hadnouts. Its nuts what ive seen! Im a white dude originally from suburbs of annapolis, MD.

[@finchman1]

@@carrad123456 The reason being men are considered the providers, protectors and pro-creators of the family unit. They are the moral authority of the household.

[@carrad123456]

@@finchman1 hmm, I think till there is not change and flexibility in outlook these gender dislikes will continue, Both man and woman in relationship should bring their best out, and can change roles of protector and nurturer over course of life on a single day as well • with not many wars there and not hunter gatherer type of lifestyle anymore women find more protection outside home, similarly men are also nurturing young kids by taking them to school , co circullar activities, reading stories, cooking meal etc etc , both in a relationship should find what suits them best and then work as team• In most Asian societies that is normal actually, if you observe asian family we see man wear nurturer cap sometimes amd woman wearing protectors cap sometimes• and other way around• It helps in stable families and mentally stronger kids•

[@robertjacobsjr1]

When your family values education good things happen. ❤

[@btsarmyforever3816]

I'm Asian. I did well in school and college because I didn't want the sacrifices my parents made to go to waste. I also wanted to have a safe and secure future. The problem with the west is they like to dream too big. They live in a fantasy thinking things will eventually work out. We need money to eat and clothes to wear. As such we need to have an education that gives us an opportunity to get a well paying job. Granted many r unemployed today but I'd rather chance that than take a huge risk to try to become a singer or painter or poet or something. Very few ppl succeeded and it's also not a guarantee to last. Asians always teach our kids to be realistic. My parents didn't force me to be a topper. They only expected me to do well. I got 90% in my board exams and distinction in college. My future is set. In India your education is also a factor for marriage. If you are less educated, wealthy and well educated families won't pick you as bride or groom. Also filiel piety is very important. We take care of our aging parents when we become adults. It's to return the care they had shown us as kids.

[@Mister_Best]

Asian values on respect, on religion, for the elderlies, education, work ethics and entrpreneurship cannot be compared to Westerners.

[@mh_golfer]

Strong family structures and because they prioritize education.

[@488ferc4]

I’m a 2nd generation Asian American and work ethnic was so important. Work harder than everyone else! Most of cousins and family ended up getting doctorate degrees in some field and I ended up also investing heavily and becoming a multi millionaire - I thank my parents for sacrificing all and to push me to the max and I do the same now for my kids - even at baseball!

[@gobot4455]

I bet you got the same "you must work harder than the white person to get the same success" speech too, lol. It's funny reading through these stories how similar they are.

[@justadummy8076]

Wow, who would’ve guessed that when you incentivise the breakdown of the family structure, children suffer…

[@willhooke]

The people who incentivised the breakdown would've guessed 😐

[@larissagomes451]

I am from brazil, but one thing i notice about asian woman is that they protect their wombs. I hope we adopt this mindset here in my country, women are having kids as teenagers with any guy that gives them attention. We need to focus on our studies and then get a relationship, no ring no baby.

[@Ytorisv]

😂U haven't been to Asia have you🤔?

[@larissagomes451]

@@Ytorisv i am talking about east asian, china, korea and japan.

[@brucelee5576]

Don’t tell your kids the are the best , they can be whatever they want to be , instead tell them if you want to be the best you need to work hard , you need to work hard to be what you want to be. That way when the fail over and over they’ll know that the can work their way to to solution.

[@user-yc3fw6vq5n]

Nice

[@shootingbricks8554]

Working hard isn't enough. You gotta work smart too.

[@user-yc3fw6vq5n]

@@shootingbricks8554 Yes, I absolutely agree, tell your kids that working smart is more important than working hard.

[@goodolearkygal5746]

Whether I agree or disagree with him, he is so brilliant that I want to read everything he's ever written and hear everything he has to say

[@RBLACKPEARL7]

Amen, EXACTLY 💯

[@NaNa-wj8tw]

If you don't agree then you better be damn sure you've the clad iron facts to support yourself or this man will beat you black and blue with his.

[@mranderson8725]

@@NaNa-wj8tw You are being a liberal trying to tell this person that can’t disagree with him

[@maryk446]

He had a collection of essays years ago called "Pink and Brown People." You might want to start with this one. A lot of what was in this book stayed with me for years.

[@goodolearkygal5746]

@@mranderson8725 just don't answer, when someone says you're not allowed an opinion, ignore them. God bless

[@abramswee]

I'm from Singapore and the entrance university requirement is so difficult that I couldn't get in despite having a good diploma. My family was poor, so after my military consciption, I worked full-time at 40hrs a week and put myself to part-time study at night schools 3 times a week for my advance diploma, degree and master in IT. All these programs are self-funded. After I migrated to Australia, I managed to enroll into the part-time doctorate program and put in another 7 years of part-time study before I graduate at the age of 55. I did this while working full-time and support my family. To me, education is a privilege and that is something that always eluded me when I was back in Singapore. I learnt to cherished my opportunity and will never let it slip through my fingers.

[@8dholland]

This is a golden comment. I have been arguing with people for a long time, that despite Asians adoring education, why do they have to migrate to find better lives? My argument is that education in and of itself is not virtuous, and neither is hard work, by itself that is. There is a changing combination that validates education and work. Else, why in the US do we receive such talent when they work harder in that country?

[@jsnagra1able]

Moral of the story - traditional family values are a good thing.

[@andrewlim9345]

As a Chinese New Zealander, I think the focus on academic achievement and putting the interests of the family at the forefront have been the reasons for success in some Asian cultures. Cultures that avoid dwelling on victim hood and value education and entrepreneurship tend to succeed.

[@ultraali453]

Good points raised. Thank you for sharing!

[@meinegeheim2801]

We were raised in predominantly Asian communities in San Francisco. My mother shared their views of parental respect and education. I'm glad she did. I am a woman of color.

[@sallymerrell4491]

You are a woman of color? Which color? Is not WHITE a color?????

[@joebungus3447]

Cringe, poc😂

[@meinegeheim2801]

@sallymerrell4491..........didn't GET IT did ya.

[@joebungus3447]

@@meinegeheim2801 you’re cringe, victim mentality is gay

[@jimnam4444]

@@sallymerrell4491 Is pale a color?

[@alienlife7754]

I worked at a hotel owned by a family from Taiwan. They owned three more in New Jersey. Very strict parents. The daughter was pre med when I worked for them. I assume she’s a doctor now. And the younger son was king of sad. His parents never let him do anything. He actually had to read encyclopedias ( this was pre internet ) every day after school for two hours. I’m not judging the parents but they were hard on their kids. I guess the trade off is success.

[@johna3734]

Lol. My dad made me read reference books as a kid.

[@Dei_Chi]

Wow! I read encyclopedias for fun when I was a kid because there was no internet then. I was such a nerd. But it helped me in the long run.😊

[@BestWOTReplayss]

"king of sad" :(

[@beagruy2386]

yeah, I was also forced to read as a kid. The kickback is a lot of trauma and somewhat of a burnout, but the result is that I excelled in writing and reading and have reading comprehension skills more than most of my peers. I guess you win some, you lose some.

[@BestWOTReplayss]

@@beagruy2386 honestly, and this feels so shitty to say, I feel so burned out from my childhood. I wonder how many other Asians feel this way. How does one differentiate "getting used to working so hard at a young age so they're more successful", vs. "I worked so hard starting so young so I'm burned out when I'm older"

[@kevinw1090]

Always enjoy watching conversation with Thomas, his viewpoints are always so trueful and direct that can explain many of the social problems in our time.

[@klsar1]

I’m Asian and I grew up in a broken family where my parents kept quarrelling and fighting between them. I decided to raise myself.

[@toddlee3909]

me too. would have preferred traditional Asian family structure.

[@shootingbricks8554]

Very few Asians are single parents due to having kids out of wedlock. Being a single parent whether you're a man or woman is very hard. My coworker is a single dad due to his wife passing away with 2 kids. Without family support, he told me life would be even harder.

[@Arcad1010]

Asians are family oriented society while Americans are more individualistic society.

[@victorias6250]

@@Arcad1010 it’s true. I used to teach in South Korea and now Sweden (also individualistic). There are pros and cons with both ways. One side tends to think for itself and the other tends to think for the group. Although my Korean students succeeded well in grades and were good at following orders, I did find them, at least those I taught, to have a harder time to think for themselves and think abstractly. Most of my students were waiting for me to tell them what to do and how to think about almost everything. My Swedish students are a lot better at that and can engage in interesting discussions differently, but instead most of them don’t put as much effort in studying the subjects. A balance between the two would be ideal.

[@EugeneTChu]

Some Asians are single parents due to bad marriages that fall apart. Some Asian men have difficulty finding romance in western countries due to negative stereotyping. Some Asian women choose abusive white husbands based on desire for adjacent racial privilege from marriage.

[@jennifergottliebel-azhari149]

Agree I'm single mother not by choice. Husband walked out on us. Even with an ivy league degree and a law degree I needed to live with my mother for ten years and being from single parent household very hard on my kids who were given message they were not worth theirvfathers love.

[@angxiang3186]

I m an Asian ~ my sister single handedly raised my nephew to be a lawyer. Of course, as an uncle I took particular attention upon my nephew studies ~ I tuition his English/Maths n Science. I was very strict with him to correct his below expectations during his early teenage.

[@phantomrio5222]

I had no parents, no home. As a teen, I slept in a drain, covered with an old galvanize sheet. I got not a cent from anybody. But i worked 3 jobs daily. By the time I was 45, I was enrolled in a PhD program.....so nothing being said makes sense to me.

[@buffalohead7783]

Because asians don’t complain. They just do what’s best for their families. Having a mom and a dad too help.

[@CaribbeanBacchanal]

My wife and I are Chinese immigrants, with one daughter and one son. We both graduated from McGill university. but we never took care of their studies, never checked their school performance, never had extra training boot camp. The kids did excellent in high schools without my knowledge. Now, one just graduated from a medical school in Montreal, the other graduated from McGill university 3 years ago working for a wall street investment bank in New York city. Not every chinese parents are pushy.

[@sunway1374]

Sometimes the examples the parents set and the environment they create are enough for the children to thrive. Also you must still had boundary, expectations, nurturing and discipline for your children. You didn't abandon them to be totally wild. The opportunities and options available to your children in Montreal or Canada are amazing. Don't underestimate these. My parents barely finish primary school education. I grew up in a region with not even a single university for 2 million people. The deprivations continue to the current and future generations.

[@CaribbeanBacchanal]

@@sunway1374 Yes, Canadian schools are a good place for a kid to play and study. Many immigrant kids are very ambitious. The learning environment is generally benign.

[@JohnSmith-ct5jd]

Thomas Sowell: "Yeah, I graduated from Harvard.....but, uh, please, you don't have to spread that around." LOL.

[@stephenc2481]

He was humble. I am sure he met the high qualifications, for being there.

[@SerenoMHuerta]

Whose idea of success are they talking about?

[@steve222345]

Am Asian and grew up in Asia. Yes, this is due to extreme importance of Education in our culture. However it's a double edge sword. We also has this nasty habit of "Hitting the nail that stands out" Which puts our race very susceptible to authoritarianism. Just look at China. They are one of the most hardworking people on this earth. But most of them are still locked down in their homes because of one man.

[@greentea8852]

If they're not strict on the lockdown statistically they will have over 1 million deaths, they also don't have enough capacity of ICU beds. For Asian culture family is important, the govt won't survive if they are not strict. As timr goes by the virus is weakening and with tha currently the govt is loosening many restrictions. Besides they are the manufacturing hub for the world, if China is in crisis expect delays in most things.

[@servantrose]

@@greentea8852 that wasn't his point.

[@unicornsrice1667]

@Green Tea You do know people died in lockdown. People were locked inside with no way to leave to get food.

[@directxxxx71]

@@unicornsrice1667 No plan is perfect, but it saves more people than it kills, it is a fact

[@cramsa]

High work ethic and determination… in their community the “smart” kids are respected.

[@EugeneTChu]

Smart Asian kids are respected, but smart Asian adults face obstacles. Some Asian college graduates do not get promoted at first job. Some also face racist violence from jealousy over Asian success (similar to anti-Semitism against Jewish success).

[@williamgodin1110]

Thank you for the content

[@geckojinn1604]

Does anyone remember that old Family Guy skit where the Asian boy is in his room doing homework, and his father barges in and asks, "Are you doctor yet?" and the boy responds, "No, dad, I'm twelve." The father then tells him, "Talk to me when you're doctor!" and slams the door?

[@squidusn71]

I'm that Asian dad lol.

[@venkatasundararaman]

As an Indian parent with 2 kids the family bonding is somehow passed on through generations. Somehow myself and my wife feel our kids are our number 1 priority. May be it got to us by seeing our parents doing the same. Even though we have so many differences we have developed tolerance towards each other and the main reason behind that is our kids. That’s the reason I feel the divorce rates are very less in Asian countries.

[@rs-dp6pr]

Because you compromise.. that's all.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

Not really India is huge filth hole He is talking about smart east asians

[@sanjadebbarma2388]

technically you are asian but here dicussion is about asian race not indian pakistan

[@user-jt3dw6vv4x]

@@sanjadebbarma2388 There is no such thing as "Asian race". Asian is just a demonym to describe people native to Asia. They're talking about Asian academic excellence in the US, what is the group that tops the list among the Asian groups with the highest household median income? It's the Indians. The Asians that dominate Americans universities are mostly East Asians, Indians and Filipinos. Silicon Valley is controlled by Chinese and Indians.

[@diehardernxgt2161]

@@rs-dp6pr so that our children can live a better life, yes. We're not selfish like the western people.

[@raymondzehrung9274]

My three daughters are all half Chinese. They are all in doctorate programs. Their mother is the traditional Dragon Mother.

[@ByronWatts]

I live in the Philippines and see a strong family bind, but the family structure has fissures because of some of the issues in this country. While the country says it values marriage, in practice it isn't working quite the way it 'should' and the number of practically single mothers, whether legally single or married, is enormous. In many cases, the family infrastructure still does some level of support, but the father's are in many cases not present.

[@squidusn71]

The men love to drink, and they do it often. They also cheat on their wives the very first chance they get. The women with children who are cheated upon are the backbone of the family who goes abroad to work as a maid and then sends all of her earnings home for the children.

[@jamescc2010]

Real problems, it is so bad why men don't care (or women got with a wrong men) about their children is beyond being a human. Sadly it happens in other parts of the world too. To force good changes against establishment need people unity and goals from grass root up. .Look at US, what a mess too.

[@supermelville7838]

@joe nishimu Filipinos have more of the Spanish culture. Pretty laid back. Their culture is different from Chinese or Japanese.

[@haisee1671]

@@supermelville7838 hate that legacy spaniards left in our country, same problems from all the latin colony that spain put to our culture. I wish we were never colonized at all or if it so i wish it was the Brits.

[@supermelville7838]

@@haisee1671 Spanish colonizer did not encourage education as when the Americans encourage education when they over the Philippines. the Brits establish law and order in their colonies such as India, Hong Kong, Malaysia or Singapore, South Africa. Look what happens to the Spanish colonies such as Mexico, So America, etc.

[@Vcdvd]

I'm asian and in my country divorce rarely happens while in western countries divorce is very common

[@unicornsrice1667]

There is also a lot of spousal abuse and women stuck in horrible marriages.

[@SushiRoll-pb3jo]

Good for them. I guess they want a medal. 🥇

[@truthfactory6429]

I am American Indian. My son who is a senior in High School is a straight A+ student. He is an accomplished violist, pianist, debater. 1600 in his SAT score, internships n 10s of white papers. 0:01 His shelf is full of awards n certificates. We don’t want handouts, we want fair chances.

[@heyyoubuddy6749]

I really wish Dr. Thomas Sowell was younger and able to be our president he is such a wonderful blessing to us all. Thank you Sir for all you have done for us. God bless you and your family.

[@joseywales148]

They wouldn’t vote for him- neither party wants a man of honor, character and integrity into the office

[@heyyoubuddy6749]

@@joseywales148 amen cowboy!

[@gaidhliglass]

He's already said he'd never run and previously turned down offers of political positions.

[@joseywales148]

@@gaidhliglass He’s 92 years young -

[@joseywales148]

@@GH-zh8zg They would…and get away with it, as most citizens are functioning illiterates