The Real Reason Why Overgivers Seldom Receive

The Real Reasons Why Overgivers Seldom Receive
* Does it seem that no matter how generous you are, you seldom receive as much as you give?
* Do many of your Relationships feel like they are one-sided - you’re always the one who’s listening, helping, bailing someone out, and making time for folks - but where the heck are ‘they’ when you need help?!
* If we are supposed to get what we give, how come your Karma hasn’t been delivering the goods?!
* Do you feel like you are a magnet for narcissists and vampires, even if at first they seemed different?
Whether friends, family, or your significant others - if any of these questions are ringing a bell inside you - you likely are an Overgiver!
And without understanding the real reason why you engage this Pattern, your Magnetics will keep drawing in Takers!!
In this video I tackle this issue at the deepest level possible, offering you intuitive insights guaranteed to help you shift out of this draining way to relate once and for all!
Here’s some of what I cover:
* How the Overgiver inside you was born…(You gotta know this!)
* The Overgiver as an Archetype and its Magnetics (what it attracts and repels!)
* The necessity of identifying your Inner Overgiver Team that supports your over giving!
* The Law of Reciprocity, how you are violating it, why you should stop and how you can…
* How the Karma of the Overgiver Pattern really works…(it's not at all what you think!)
If you are tired of giving and giving, only to be drained, exhausted, frustrated, angry, and heartbroken when no one shows up when you need it - you gotta check this NEW Social LIVE video out!
-Robert
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[@sunrise2570]

Finally! Someone said and validated what I have said for years: it is not true that we always get back what we give!!! I’m a recovering lifelong over giver and done attracting narcissists and vampires and takers. I am at the place where sometimes they show up, but I have put new boundaries in place. And if they don’t like me for that, then it shows me all the more that I did the right thing by protecting my time, money, energy, and resources. They would not have liked me any better if I over gave. This was a great talk to help me look deeper into those patterns. Thank you Robert! You articulate everything so well. 🙏😊❤️

[@creativeladyplus]

This was wonderful! Thank you for sharing in such a honest, helpful way. I'll be 75 in March. I wish we had information like this back when I was in my 20"s. The last 2 years I let go of 3 friendships that I have had for 40 + years, one more to go. ......Slow learner, LOL 😂 But still learning :-) Much Gratitude for sharing and Blessings to All.

[@shanti888]

When the student is ready the teacher will appear. No matter the era …all the best on your journey 😊

[@Sunni5050]

Every woman needs to watch this video to understand how society programs us to overgive.

[@deezed6478]

I was just thinking how a lot of men are takers so a lot of women end up in this situation

[@Diana-vl7sk]

Everything you said was spot on! As an overgiver who literally bled for years due to my inability to recognise all these patterns, it took me several days in hospital and the need to accept other people's blood in the form of transfusion to start learning how to receive and get

[@brightfitchic3141]

"How can I give back to you Karma?" LMAO!!!! You are so SPOT ON with everything you are saying. LIKE WOW! Thank you for this.

[@MyIntuitiveBody]

❤

[@Judith1774]

"Just because you can, does not mean you should."

[@isischante2855]

This time when you started to talk about the unrequited lover, I had to stop and not only cry. I felt chills, I felt divine light first and then I started crying. It's healing. I did a bad and immoral experiment in a extreme rebellion phase I went through during almost a year and I am getting out of it. The trickster tricked me out of it in a painful way. I was tired of being this looked over overgiver and be abandonned to vampires. I said if these heartless narcissist bitches get all the love then I'm gonna be a bad ass cold hearted bitch. What I understand now but I didn't know then is these bitches don't attract people qualified for healthy relationships. I tried to break the pattern with the power of will. Needless to say my lover dumped me not for one vampire this time, they dumped me for a whole vampire crew interfering in our relationship. I was publicly dragged in the mud, humiliated and abandonned. That happened just after I was more determined than ever to break the pattern of unrequited love. The experience almost killed me with pain and now my own soul is laughing at how cute and naive I was for thinking I could break the pattern with my cute little will power alone. My guts told me on day one that my ex had a strong unrequited lover archetype too and he wasn't healing from it anytime soon. It ended so badly, I moved to another city to not get my ass kicked by his pervy vampire uncle who tried to fuck me. That sounds like a nightmare. Now I have a cute little house in a greener and more quiet area. May the blessings fall on my yard.

[@adamjosephholmes6583]

Fantastic. Saved everyone here thousands of dollars and years in therapy. Q) how should an over giver react toward hostile adult children who are manipulated against the over giver by the narcissist/vampire.

[@arielfaulkner9332]

❤❤❤🦋 You have inspired my transformation from shame into knowing my value and now completely shifting my energy around money. 🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@AKayC77]

I have absolutely reached a point of mental breakdown due to over giving. I have taken 6 months off and still recovering, unable to leave my home for more than 2 hrs a week and can only participate in a few social activities by over drinking. I’m absolutely shattered

[@anam_cara_222]

Holy shiz. Penny drop moment. Thank you 🙏

[@TheBams1026]

I cannot tell you how much I needed this at this time. So grateful to have recently found you and your work.

[@k2r75]

I just assumed that I could not receive since I grew up in a family of narcissistic family. So I was trained that if they give you ANYTHING you pay for it later BIG TIME!! Again and Again!! But I have to say for me I worked on the Buddhism premise of Sword of Compassion that was life changing than Robert talked about the Cult Dimension and I got out of that and it’s incredible my life is Completely different!! 🎊 🎉!! Thanks Robert this is an interesting take also!😊

[@consciouscommunity3897]

This comment has helped me so much!

[@k2r75]

@@consciouscommunity3897 I’m glad it helped! But I also know if it helped you that you have had it rough, and I’m sorry and you deserve better and better is possible! But just know that for me self compassion is Huge and you need to be nicer to yourself than the users around you!! Remember your love is so powerful that they manipulate, abuse anything just to get more of your love! Now imagine you showering yourself with ALL that love, it’s fabulous! You got this!!

[@SusanWinsel-df7xw]

So thought provoking. Robert, you really have such a gift of wrapping everything up and putting it out there in such a clear way.

[@RobertOhottoIntuitive]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@coolbreeze1971]

No more learning about personality types the hard way🙅‍♀️. You are an excellent teacher! I always wanted to learn & understand astrology but it was very complicated for me & you made it so easy & relatable in layman's terms to where I was able to pick it up immediately.🙌 You are exactly accurate word for word. Note to self: Look for low self-esteem cues🚩🚨. The knowledge you provide is too valuable & precious to ever even consider not charging for it. You are worth every penny you charge for your products & services & beyond❤. You are here to prosper & to support yourself as well.

[@michellewilliamson5495]

Crikey Moses! that was a smack in the chops!! harsh, emotional, raw and real, hilarious, enlightening... I'm signing up! I'm finally ready! thank you.

[@111mrbm]

Thank you, Robert!

[@Zach-vf4ly]

This is life changing! Thank you so much Robert you are an amazing person ❤️🙏🏾

[@mimiatcomptcheblooms2159]

the last 20 minutes or so of this video is pure gold!

[@mariben80able]

We are not engineered to give without receiving..... excellent !!!!!

[@DrAndreaDinardo]

As a former lifeguard / rescuer… you are once again on point OHOTTO 🎯 ! Thank you for sharing your life lessons with the world. I teach about personality disorders in my clinical psychology class. Your examples bring it all HOME ✨ Dr. D ❤

[@ernielopez44]

Stumbled upon this video by accident (Synchronicity and serendipity) and totally needed to hear and receive the message. Hopefully I can absorb, retain and sustain it! ;) This past year, especially since venus' retrograde conjunct pluto in December, I've had many dark moments dealing with one particular narcissist thatvhas led me to badges earned and lessons learns after that bridge was rightfully burned. Breakdowns led to breakthroughs eventually once i peeled the projection away rom my sight and saw him and myelf as we really are. It was a shitty but necessary experience I only saw the value in after the many dark nights of the soul that essentially made me stronger and I held myself accountable for my side of that story. Until I saw and defended my own value and worth I was a victim. But once I was able to empower myself and view my empathic overgiving nature as a strength VS a weakness I upheld myself and this narcissist to this new level of naming and owning our shit which allowed me to say hell no to being bled out and holding him accountable. He knew what he was doing and became even more interested in me after I called us both on our bullshit. I know part of him will always regret ruining what might have been and as much as part of me may always care for and hold space for the love I HAD for him there is no turning back an redoing what was. No planet's retrograde could reverse that but I'm better off for it and like to think he is too although I'm pretty sure any lesson he did learn has been fogotten by now. I can and will always remind him if need be and he knows it. I am about to finish a long poem I wrote about that venus/pluto retrograde fairytale/horror story and finally post it on my channel. I've re written it about 3 times because I'd cut him off then he'd "open up" and apologize but always go back to shitting all over a good thing as a narcissist does. It was a trip that whole situation. It's called "Shady As Shit" and I'm really proud of it. I've had a secret hope that when I do post it finally it validates, heals and helps as many people as possible going through that same hard journey of finding self worth and beginning to assert their own sovereignty and hard won personal power. Hopefully I edit and record it to share today. Thank you for your message and the time, effort and love behind, beneath and within it. I found myself nodding and agreeing with you in parts and my heart well up with gratitude in others. Your light will help many light their own indeed. Thank you. I liked, subscribed and hit your bell. Here's my comment. ;) I'm excited to learn and grow more on this journey with you and what you have to share. God bless and guide you. - Ernie Lopez

[@ernielopez44]

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[@Triple_Moon_Goddess]

I absolutely over give w/my children primarily after an abusive Marriage & HORRIFIC separation 🥺🥺💔💔 the hardest Over Giver Dynamics I believe cuz its soooo easy 2justify!!!

[@mazbarnes5299]

Robert Ohotto - it seems there have been many times I have been drawn to you and the timing is perfect. Awesome x

[@agarcia1634]

Wow! I rarely comment on videos but this one is absolutely excellent!! I am only a third of the way through and there are lightbulb moments already Thank you Robert very well said!!!

[@blacksunshine1127]

I didn’t listen live, I’m aware now, and it’s Friday, now, so right on. This was super helpful. It wasn’t earth shaking ground breaking revelation, yet it is. Because we givers are so busy trying to replenish, through again, unsustainable means, that we forget to ask ourselves. Is giving this something I really want? Because yes I give with no expectation, and when that shows up, later, in another shadow, I have to hermit the hell out of myself to earn back enough worth, to do it all over again. And exhaustion looks and acts, horrible on me. I wrote all the self activated questions down, so I can meet these shadows, and transcend them. Yay for me, I carry that relevant and appealingly terrifying gene key, in my where? Subconscious side. So this will be fun. Powerfully fun. Thanks for the gift of empowerment today. You are a sparkle in a day, that’s a fact.

[@Judith1774]

It is the intention behind the transaction.

[@shanti888]

Yes!

[@jaishgheyandaw5446]

Each time I watch your videos, I leave enlightened-Thank you!

[@noonenooneneither3838]

again this was awesome Tack tusend tack Robert! every time I move to another country/culture I find myself overgiving, probably it was a way to survive in it...in a foreign territory.

[@maria_lara111]

True 😢😅

[@samwatling]

This is life changing stuff - thank you Robert. I listened to this 8 months ago when i was going though a big confidence crash and gone back to this video again. It's taking time to seep as the pattern is deeply embedded its slowly getting me to shift and into dark night so i can move more deeply into my spiritual journey 🙏

[@Triple_Moon_Goddess]

For me, Over Giving Manages. .OTHER PEOPLE'S EXPECTATIONS OF ME. .Attempts 2gain PERFECTION. .the filling of my Self-esteem Cup. ."PROOF" of me being a "GOOD PERSON". .my feeling of RELIABILITY. .Proves being a GOOD MOTHER, ESP if u were constantly called a bad mom by an abusive partner. .these r just off the top of my head but the list is endless!! 🥺

[@Triple_Moon_Goddess]

My husband of 18yrs is a CLINICALLY DIAGNOSED NARCISSIST. .talk abt living an entire lifetime as an over giver🤦🏼‍♀️😭 After finally leaving I never learned how2 STOP the hyper management of & hyper over giving which led me 2another relationship w/yet another ABUSER. .stayed Single 3yrs now 2heal & work on ME!

[@shengdavis4597]

This is life changing!!!

[@K777C]

This is so stinking good and helpful! Geez! You are teaching your ass off!

[@chirode]

This video will be my daily meditation for a while....You managed to create the best therapy for me!Thank you!

[@sassy7339]

You should consider adding a Trigger Warning to the beginning of your videos for any newbies - I always feel so called out by your teachings, but it's expected and I love it. Thank you Professor Ohotto. You're the man. :)

[@fionawhiteford2128]

Thank you .your video title caught me eye ,it just popped up , I rea,ly appreciate how articulate you are as you talk about elusive,nuanced and often confusing understandings and insights .about our relationships and behaviour etc ..thank you . I am and have been for many years trying to figure out my own shit and listening to you IS shining lights into my shadows .thank you

[@maryshort7733]

Hi From Australia. You are absolutely talking about me. All that you say is spot on. I have been saying over and over again that I will change but to no avail. I always say that I’m used and abused. When I need someone they’re are never there for me. All they give me is excuses. 😢

[@maryshort7733]

The only time I see or hear from them is when they want something. I am learning to say “no” and/or make excuses back.

[@shanti888]

@@maryshort7733 - good for you ! May the Universe support our healing journeys. May our authentic light shine through.

[@aquariusstar7248]

glad you called out the misinformation of LOA. it has gotten out of control...the universe cldnt possibly be built on one law so why wld only one work for us? Thanos for bringing out the law of reciprocity.

[@mimiatcomptcheblooms2159]

ouch and thank you I needed this - perfect timing on my journey

[@maria_lara111]

I’m always available 😅 absolutely right I’m always planning what to give back 😂 this is a great video. Thank you ! I learned so much of who I am . My subconscious mind is so controlling

[@Paola.ZunigaSD]

I love these social live Fridays! Thank you for such a great conversation. 👏🏻

[@jayner9556]

Wonderful inspiring deep informative funny gorgeous! It always takes me some moments to settle myself into your teaching style so I can receive it - I think it’s because my ego knows another pelting is coming. Thank you and bring it on!

[@HomewithAurora]

My mother said there is no need to give back to someone who is strong and could stand alone. I know where and when it started.

[@krinc6]

❤ Amazing insights as always!! Thank you Robert I’m grateful for the work you do!!!!!! ❤

[@Alexandra-ci4py]

Brilliant teaching - thank you Robert. Very timely and profoundly helpful. X

[@wendywoowoo9237]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏Thank you so very much!!!!! I so needed to hear this!!!!!

[@nadinevanderpoorten7416]

Can you talk next Friday in part 2 about ' modeling ' and ' mirroring ' in connections around the ' Overgiver ' Archetype.

[@julielea8344]

I actually did hear I was enough, what do you want to do with your life? As a child, & definitely not from my parents, I'm the scapegoat, but at 17 I met my soulmate (home), then he was killed, & well, life sucks doesn't it. I was watching this for what I've been through in the last year, I'm not a overgiver, generally speaking....but watching a child you love so much be destroyed will motivate probably any decent person to try to fix it. I did let go of my adult son, which was painful. NO ONE is in my life. So I can't be overgiving. Everyone has died, or they were just POS, or had issues I couldn't fix,etc

[@patriciagorostiza5282]

Thank you so much! It clarified a lot for me!

[@juliet.carmona9249]

Robert I am sorry for writing this here but I just saw your last video and I could not comment. I know my name was misused, I am terrible sorry for that. I am not a victim I would like to be a co-creator too. My blood got changed completely 11 years ago due to scepticimia. I noticed I had a change in personality too. My ex husband had cancer on his skin and now I understand why he changed that much : ( he never wanted us to know about his condition. He started to push me away until one day I ask for the divorce. Tusen tack Robert! Hugs! Hope everything goes more or less and not to painful with your step-father. Hugs!

[@deannabrown7825]

Wowza, great job. Very insightful.

[@leebaginski4829]

An excellent sort! Thanks.

[@ashaviolet9664]

Amazing content thank you 🎉

[@minookalantari]

Thank you Robert 🙏

[@jaqsclarke9583]

So brilliant !!!

[@Dés-m2c]

Penny drop! thank you for this!

[@natachadagadu2139]

Thank you so much for your valuable insights ! I am confused though about how to have a balanced relationship with victim narcissist. I ve been friends forever with someone who seems to be constantly facing financial and medical issues. All our relationship is defined around me supporting her, she has no other friends and I feel guilty not providing assistance. But it seems to be never ending 😣 I m at a loss of how to deal with this

[@nadinevanderpoorten7416]

good question, what does the overgiver archetype manage, I think this archetype manages self - worth, self - value, I will be enough, I will feel enough when I feel I giving enough!

[@clairecalitz4036]

This was very uplifting. Thank you.

[@sherryjackson-barrett7542]

I am one of the few but I am burned out today. The cup is fucking empty!!!

[@user-os1ku3eg9z]

My childhood abandonment

[@MiillieMesh]

I fuck with this video a lot. It put things into perspective for me about my friendships & even romantic interest. I see you didn't mention the over givers being Vampiric Martyrs & I appreciate that, cause I did not want to refer to my friend as a Vampire in any way 🤣 I've also been a people pleaser. And that pattern played itself out time & time again until I started affirming & having better internal conversations & actually loving myself (self concept). I did stumble into Law of Assumption, which to me is better than Law of Attraction. I found out about it around late December of last year. I do believe our thoughts create but I also know & appreciate that life is full of surprises as well. Every single tiny thing is NOT in my control & I'm glad. I've yielded parts of my dream into my life, even while being depressed I was a rap star. So the whole aligning your energy & always having to be in a good mental state to gain anything isn't true. I also don't like the way Karma is looked at either. I believe what people experience & come to realize in their own life is personal & true for them, thus further proving we are creators. There wasn't one entity that came together to create these programs we live under either. Team work makes the dream work in any realm. We see things change everyday over time due to a group of people. Big things done in mutual agreement, so I do actually believe we could all put some shit on our vision boards & work through it togethe & flip the whole world upside down but yeah strength in numbers 🙃 Nonetheless, I believe God is all possibilities & there is power in "I AM" statements. So I do believe rewiring my brain is possible. Creating new patterns & walking in better assumptions about myself & that leading to a different worldview. AND I do also believe logic plays a tiny part too but Science will never fully explain it all. All I'm saying is I'm getting somewhere with my philosophies & others combined & it's fun 🤣💖

[@elleng2061]

Enjoy your teachings, I have noticed that I seem to have disturbing dreams after ingesting a session. Is it just me or can this be a common occurrence?

[@lostjunglist8704]

U Got Some Pretty Bedroom Eyes . . . . 💙

[@nadinevanderpoorten7416]

I signed up for your premium membership, will do it monthly for now, I love to learn to make visionboards the right way.

[@GeorgiexoxoTV]

I'm waiting to sign up too! ❤❤❤ I can't see that it's open for me to do so right now?

[@stephanieeno8390]

This has cost my happpineas

[@sheilahughes5185]

Yes!! Yes and yes!! lol

[@sherryfracheymusic]

Can someone be an over-giver AND a vampire?

[@consciouscommunity3897]

Yes, explained well

[@sherryfracheymusic]

Is martyr still an archetype?

[@Hollyhock7]

🙏🙏🙏💗🙏🙏🙏

[@firesunwatermoon]

How do you sign up to be part of the inner circle?

[@marthalopezsoprano]

Thank you, Robert. 💗