The reason why people get married | Jordan B Peterson

[@superpantman]

I’m a married man and my own personal advice is to always be honest about how you’re feeling. Communication is very important. It doesn’t always fix your problem but you definitely cannot fix your problems if you don’t know how each other feel. It’s important you communicate, even if you know it’s not something your partner will want to hear. At least you know where the other stands. This literally saved my marriage.

[@nsmac1969]

The world is a better place because of Jordan Peterson.

[@MyMehdi9]

Totally

[@__loafy__]

There is no Jordan Peterson anymore, the Jordan Peterson you knew is gone. Destroyed by pills to the point he has wetbrain, where he can't remember day-to-day details. His daughter is an embarrassment.

[@nsmac1969]

@@__loafy__ WOW that's really nice of you. I pray he will find full a recovery.

[@__loafy__]

@@nsmac1969 Pray all you want christfig, he literally went to Russia to induce a colma to stop him from his addiction to Benzo's. pathetic fanboy

[@nsmac1969]

@@__loafy__ go get some help.

[@lauravanvoorhees1279]

THE voice of common sense, reason, and great advice! You're a treasure Dr. Peterson! 🤗🥰

[@romeoj30]

Spot on !!

[@samsmith9075]

He honestly needs to write a book

[@michaeldoran4367]

@Psychonaut haha. Quite the winner we have over here

[@Brunette3030]

Spot on. Love it. Miss you. Thank you to the curator of this content.

[@Laura-fh1er]

I am so grateful for Jordan Peterson and for him sharing such deep truths. They helped me understand so many things about myself and my relationship. What he says makes so much sense and whether one likes it or not, implementing what he says or at least reflecting about it is really helpful.

[@rabbitholehomes]

Still waiting for JP to return from the wilderness. It's way past 40 days and nights. We need his sensibility right now more than ever. Though to be honest, he could easily just tweet "Told you so"

[@jamesbryant8133]

@Bob Wilson Peterson means a lot to a great many people. Fuck you for looking down on them.

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

@@jamesbryant8133 I think the phrase "stupid disciple that needs the ressurection" is all you need to know about this guy. They *really* needed to be abused, tortured, ridiculed, and persecuted all the rest of their lives, eh?

[@theveldtrekker2550]

@Psychonaut LOL. Trolliest statement I have ever read. Thank you sir.

[@theveldtrekker2550]

@Psychonaut ah. Righty. I didn't know that I knew he was in a Russian hospital. Didn't know what for. So all his advice is bs because of that? Interesting.

[@theveldtrekker2550]

@Psychonaut I just read about it now. He almost died several times. They had to put him in a coma because of his severe symptoms. He can't walk or write without help. But yeah, he's the asshole in all this right? It's easy to be an armrest critic.

[@theeconomicrevolutionist]

So my wife bought me four new t-shirts. All of them containing Jordan Peterson's quotes . Loving them. And glad to support a great mission that Dr. Peterson is doing. I am thankful everyday for him and his lectures.

[@techdiesel4026]

This is the reason I get along with my brother so much, because no matter what we do to each other(good or bad) we’re going to stick together. He’s not someone I can just leave and be free. Despite our flaws we can work things out because of that commitment

[@Iambriangregory]

It seems like you're trying to tell us that you're Siamese twins

[@freddurak9065]

‘Every bump in the relationship is the potential dissolution of the entire relationship’

[@AJ-ey4ev]

“Everyday. Everyday . Every Godammed day for the rest of your life.” 😂

[@dejavudvora]

Jordan Peterson inspires in me the confidence, trust and aspiration to be able to build a healthy, lasting marriage. And as the child of divorced parents, hardly branded by that and not religiously committed, no one has ever been able to make me believe in marriage like Jordan Peterson. Thank you for giving me that hope and courage!!!

[@yannickjg8228]

The feel of being educated.... blisss

[@pauljudd9825]

God and Marriage - Ephesians 5:25 Genesis 2:24

[@impactajuvenile]

My wife of 13 years is leaving me with our two little ones. I never thought I would be a part time father or raise my kids alone when I have them. I’m heartbroken, I want to reconcile with my wife and restore my family. I think my wife has met someone at work. I’m praying that God hears my prayers and restores my family and they come home.

[@keeplearning4441]

just one word for Jordan Peterson on the subject: I love you MAN!

[@theeconomicrevolutionist]

I admit. As a married male to a female, this topic is my exact problem. Man! This is not good news. I need to change.

[@jamesbryant8133]

Work at it or call it quits. Up to you if you think it's worth it.

[@theeconomicrevolutionist]

@@jamesbryant8133 I need to change. It is worth it. I will be actively working at saving my marriage. Not quitting.

[@carloscarteiro5666]

Man I'm happy for you. That's a great thing! I'll pray for you and your wife. It is never too late for a good change. Cheers!

[@theveldtrekker2550]

@@theeconomicrevolutionist If I may be so bold; How do you intent to do it? What is your plan? What does your wife need?

[@theeconomicrevolutionist]

@@theveldtrekker2550 Well. I am not going to get into details. But I am implementing my plan which is a combination of local marriage counseling to help provide me with some needed tools to address my problems and then apply those tools to our marriage. Another part of the plan is learning how to better love myself and address my personal issues. It comes down to now realizing the damage I have done, to stop the weaknesses and build on the strengths. I hope this addresses your questions without giving to much information to the world that is private.

[@joshuaalon496]

We need you now more than ever Mr. Peterson! Society and sanity is collapsing; we need the strongest minds to preserve peace and order. Fight against SJWs, and fight for the truth!

[@ghalmenschlager]

Jordan Peterson’s droplets of wisdom and sanity 🙌🏻

[@rogeralsop3479]

What a marvellous man.

[@MyMehdi9]

Man! That was incredibly eye opening words

[@jeffberridge176]

As a father AND step father, I find a lot of truth in his last statements. I do my absolute best to treat both kids equally; my actions are based as if my step child is *my* child, or at least to the degree that I’m capable. But it’s very hard, especially when it comes to patience. I think the biggest reason might be the subconscious acknowledgement that my daughter looks like me, and so I see myself in her, and I like myself, so in turn, I can empathize much more naturally. With my step daughter, I really take a lot of time to reflect on every interaction, especially negative ones, to make sure that if I’m not doing something right, I do it less wrong the next time. So… as easy as it is to screw your own kids up, I am sure that it is even more likely that step kids go through a lot.

[@TheReaper569]

You know most psychologists know and do nothing about actual psyche of their patients. They just want them to live according to the wishes of the therapist, its like raising a child. You dont solve their problems you convince them to live like you want them. It is a corrupted form of maternal instict because the problem is therapist is human too and probably she is just as screwed as you are. Worst is a female therapist that is divorced 2 times with 3 kids giving you advice on how you should solve the problems in your familiy... GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.

[@holly9240]

My mother is a therapist and can confirm that she’s even more screwed up than most of her patients. In my opinion I don’t think she should be giving advice to anyone but she’s a militant feminist and trying to tell her that is not worth the effort on my part. She’s a very disagreeable person.

[@phish_1]

I so remember when I was dating it’s easy for me to say “Let’s Break Up” 😅 Now I am married it’s easy to say “Let’s just get divorced” 😂 Thank God I have no kids… Relationship doesn’t work like this when pride dominates us! Now I just realized that my husband is a good mentor! I swallowed so much pride than I ever did in my past life 😂😂😂

[@veronicalopes8948]

I like what you say the way you say feels so good talking about divorce the way you say with that action

[@BrotherTree1]

Moral of the story: Think things through before you get married.

[@Iambriangregory]

That's the biggest mistake people make rush rush rush

[@a.bagasm.7253]

my world is a better place because of Jordan Peterson

[@a.bagasm.7253]

hes the most brilliant college professor i have ever litsen to

[@zapfanzapfan]

Wow, you make marriage sound so wonderful! :-)

[@slixlixx]

Oh boy. The internet. Everyone is a master of what they’re saying on here. You’ve got one group of people promoting staying together no matter what for 80 years, then another side promoting running away from your responsibilities. Jordan and other motivational speakers don’t have some cosmic insider tips that the rest of us don’t. It’s all opinion. No one really KNOWS what the fuck they’re talking about; you just form opinions and present them as knowledge that resonates with some and not others. What we should be doing is promoting knowledge and understanding and preparation. What good does it do to shame someone for getting a divorce? Or to applaud someone for “living the life they want”? These things happen, no matter what, it’s life. We should be preparing for these some times inevitable outcomes. Teach people about marriage; the practical points. The fact that your spouse could possibly have an affair, or you might fall out of love, how you’re going to raise your kids. It’s not a fantasy world. Life is going to happen rather you like it or not. As a grown man who never had a father the perspective in some of the opinions on divorce and life is so surprising. My parents got divorced when I was an infant. That pales in comparison to the fact my father stopped seeing me when I was 8 or 9 years old and I’ve never seen it heard from him since. It’s all about perspective. Then people are talking about divorce like it’s a tragedy; what the people involved in that divorce do after the fact determines if it’s a tragedy or not.

[@Travellingveganandfrodo]

It is not a sacred vow, it is forcing people to be stuck in relationships just because you a legally obliged to and “agreed to” in front of people.

[@jenniferespiritu2172]

I do believe in your point of views about marriage vows professor,,,, To the person who is normal man , those things is a sacrament sacrifice for couple who oath to tie their knots....God bless Professor Jordan Peterson and more power

[@Womenswell022]

Always telling the truth the way it is...

[@ROMA--AETERNA]

…and people get married to create life, to sustain the existence of our nation and sustainably support the elderly (who've had children); it's the circle of life. Great clip. 👍🏼

[@dr.mantistoboggan7530]

Man did they miss to tell you you dont need to be married to create new life and have children

[@ROMA--AETERNA]

@@dr.mantistoboggan7530 , good luck with that culture.

[@d.o.7784]

The world is a better place because less people are getting married 😊

[@plutoplatters]

Yeah...... and the second someone's " FREE " they're searching for someone ( 24/7) else and everyone of them will say ...... " They're NOT looking for anyone "

[@jannetuomela9023]

A wonderful video and the timing was perfect for me! My fiancé left me two days ago, shortly after admitting that she had been sexually abused by her father. When I bring up how her history has been the obvious cause of most of her dysfunctional behaviours, she left me for bringing up some of the most disturbing observations that I had made... This video will get her to see the value of continuing with me, although there is an initially high emotional prize🤔😊

[@lifelonglearner1863]

:)

[@lifelonglearner1863]

take care. do your best !

[@videostoragechannel]

So did she come back? Hopefully youre doing well sir.

[@edbohi2389]

Can the description for this video get a like button too? Words of wisdom as always. Hope you're doing better.

[@DrinkElectrolytes]

"What's the alternative? Everything is mutable and changable at any moment?" Well, that's how life actually works. Get married if you want, I am going to, but doesn't change the fact she can die at any moment. A real relationship is built on a foundation of trust that you won't leave when things get rough. That foundation is built every day on a deeper level then you could ever get to with a ring, vow, and expensive wedding.

[@theradiantmomclub3173]

Women want the ring, the wedding, and the vow. One who doesn't probably has deep trust issues.

[@DrinkElectrolytes]

@@theradiantmomclub3173 100% agree. I'm actually proposing next week :). That being said, I have no illusions about our relationship - it's built on a rock solid foundation of trust and communication. Too many people think being married somehow is the real foundation in which their relationship rests, but the real foundation has little to do with marriage and a lot more with friendship, respect, trust, and communication among everything else that great relationships are built on. Guess I probably was off topic here lol

[@theradiantmomclub3173]

@@DrinkElectrolytes I've been married to my husband going on 19 years. We are more in love now than we first met. We only dated 9 months and eloped. What kept us was a "team mentality and we are staying no matter what." Most of our troubles have been outside situations (laid off work, sickness, almost lost our home, even bankruptcy). Our relationship has been a refuge from the madness, and our faith has been a foundation for a good life with 3 amazing kids. God speed and enjoy marriage for all it is.

[@abhisekbanerjee96]

Thank you I am not getting married or having kids because I don't want a personal project to work on.

[@admiralkipper4540]

Have children, don’t wife her though

[@superpantman]

@@admiralkipper4540 not always good advice. Marriage is great you need to find the right woman. They’re hard to find and a lot of them make life too hard but when you find the right woman you can cruise through life. She isn’t always the best looking but she’ll rock your world.

[@admiralkipper4540]

@@superpantman The number of women in my country that want to have the same kind of lifestyle as me is relatively small so I’m not optimistic

[@shivangibrahma4423]

He is fantastic.

[@cathybaldry7822]

Lololol my step-parents are the exception. They have been an absolute boon to me. I have gained soo soo much from them. They have been my major source of support throughout my life. Out of of biological parents it has unfortunately been my mother whom has failed the most. Emotional cold, unsympathetic lacking empathy or care.

[@DontTestTheX]

Nailed it.

[@Irungujr777]

Great Content 🙌🔥🔥🔥

[@MalinaImport]

the reason for sticking through difficulty is LOVE, not marriage.

[@Redflowers9]

I disagree, the fact that a man has to strap a bomb to themselves that self destructs when they leave the marriage, in order to prove their love, is not a sign of a healthy balanced relationship.

[@garylake1676]

Not enough work is done to make sure that people getting married are compatible, the words 'I do' are very easy to say, but very hard to adhere to. If marriage was a product regulated by the financial authorities, which it should be, then the hoops that would have to be jumped through would sort the wheat from the chaff.

[@metalbob3335]

Yes it is hell on the kids, the constant most don't think of .

[@Caz1242]

I miss JP 😔❤

[@AdrianaVata]

Jordan is dreamy🥵🤣

[@pvr10]

What’s the answer? Divorce ?

[@johnnybrix5308]

Soo glad I'm Aromantic

[@nerdzilla1355]

ok but he doesn't answer the question, he just says why divorce is bad

[@Floridamanknowsbestt]

a vow in faith and a government contract are two different things

[@maurice_chavez5550]

What kind of course is this What does the exam look like how is this a course at a college

[@weaver03]

If the only thing keeping you together is so you don't have to face financial and emotional penalty, then maybe you shouldn't be together. Maybe you should be together because you both want to.

[@phoenixking7449]

Marriage sounds like a very stupid thing to do. How can two people believe that they will never get upset with each other throughout their relationship enough to not want to be together?? That is impossible. I never want to be with any person non-stop forever. Not my Dad, my Mum, my siblings....nobody. Everyone becomes annoying eventually. Therefore Marriage is both unrealistic and foolish.

[@warrendeimler5556]

Why in the hell would you give someone the power to destroy you been single all my life and like it this way.

[@txlyons2937]

You're wiser than most.

[@zkh173]

40 to 50 percent marriage ends in divorce, that gives you an idea how "sacred" marriage vow is

[@techytimo]

This is more like "why you should not marry and worse still, have kids"

[@circularman3340]

So she can take your money if she leaves.

[@michaelpeck1346]

Marriage in the modern context is a losing proposition to men. You can honor your vows and she still might leave you and take half your wealth.

[@James-4812]

I think of it this way: once you start getting married and having kids, you're basically admitting to yourself that you need more & better reasons to get up out of bed in the morning & once the time comes when you're getting married & having children, you are proving to everyone that your life really must be getting very boring & that you're running out of reasons to stay alive.

[@lm2487]

Better to take in more stray dogs. Or get another motorcycle.

[@TJ-kk5zf]

but people never really "marry " anymore ever, not since the 1960s. 1:48... I have a sister like that

[@Rusty4u]

I think I’m on the wrong video 😂

[@Beatrizvillacorta]

Groundhog Day

[@IlhanAbdiaziz-qo9uy]

I god divorce 2 titimesv i have Jason from the first one and the reason i i got divorce was my son he was jealous from my son he abused me n and my son he was 10 years ago , after my last divorce will be last one i i dissed to not marry again im 36 years old

[@Tabatista281178]

Do we have any updates on Jordan’s healthy condition?

[@B10401]

Maybe mikhaila his daughter on joe rogan is the latest. I think she said he’s through the worst of it.

[@Tabatista281178]

B10401 , I’ll take a look, thank you!

[@wynandbritz9056]

This is pretty much the best argument not to get married ever.

[@OokamiKageGinGetsu]

Or the best argument to not take marriage lightly.

[@captainhelmie2888]

You missed his point entirely

[@OokamiKageGinGetsu]

@@captainhelmie2888 Who, me?

[@pvr10]

People get marry to get divorce?

[@mohitgp4447]

This video really don't make sense.

[@Lightnings]

You should talk to your daughter about this.

[@oscaka0073]

@@jaicabardo4357 Thought she's divorced ? Do they get back together or ... ?

[@vanessa271]

That's why I am not married. I know the impact of the vows and the commitment, "voluntary slavery." No thanks!

[@testsubject10101]

Voluntarily accepting responsibilities, is the only place you're going to find meaning, and real happiness in life. Marriage is a great responsibility, and a great joy.

[@vanessa271]

@@testsubject10101 In that case, I would ge generous to let you volunteer to accept my responsibilities too, to give you greater meaning and happiness.

[@testsubject10101]

@@vanessa271 I don't consider myself capable of bearing yours, and mine, but if I could, you can bet I would be a very fulfilled individual, if that's what you mean.

[@vanessa271]

@@testsubject10101 Well, I'm less capable than you so I would rather not have to bear mine if I have a choice.

[@testsubject10101]

@@vanessa271 You may be more competent than me, who knows Responsibility is an opportunity you are confronted with to do good, you can wish there was no difficulty in the world to ever have to overcome, but in a world where you can't stop time from confronting you with obstacles, you have to eventually learn, that the greatest joy will always be found in doing our best, it's a gift to be able to.

[@ChristnThms]

Y'know why divorce is so expensive? Because it's worth it. You want a hardcore metric about how bad it is? A guy looks at losing more than half of his life's accomplishments, or suicide, and then looks at his marriage, and still decides that loss or death is better. This is the world that feminists demanded.

[@alicezsa]

what about the woman? why should she stay if she isnt happy or, even worse, if he beats her?

[@testsubject10101]

I don't consider modern man a good judge of what is "worth it"

[@ChristnThms]

Ummm... did you see anyone say anything about what a woman should do? I don't. I said that getting away from a miserable shrew was worth losing half of everything, or even your life. If you think, at that point, half a fuck is given about what said shrew does or doesn't do... then you massively overestimate her value.

[@testsubject10101]

@@ChristnThms You're right, just remember that there are bigger problems with divorce, bigger than the benefit of getting away from a terrible person.

[@ChristnThms]

@@testsubject10101 ummm, no. To somebody who is willing to give up their own life in order to escape, I'm on pretty solid ground to say that there is nothing more important. While you may be over valuing this horrible shrew called wife, you're also underestimating the negative impact. You may want to direct the "change" idea at the horrible shrew, but that's not my concern. If she wants to be such a horrible person that her husband would rather die than stay with her, then we know everything we need to know about her. My guess is that you've entirely missed the point of men going their own way. Nobody is trying to tell women to change. Nobody is trying to control what they do. The men who walk away are simply saying that they're not worth the fight. They're not worth it. The women no longer have value. Get it? No value. If they want to be valued, it's entirely on them to change the dynamic.

[@WRPUS471]

Never marry a Karen. He ignores the idea of men NEVER getting married.

[@WRPUS471]

@Just Ryan He's not talking about the benefits of marriage. JP is talking about the disaster of divorce. You avoid the second by avoiding the first.

[@testsubject10101]

@@WRPUS471 Baby out with the bathwater, huh?

[@WRPUS471]

@@testsubject10101 Yes

[@magaman6353]

Which is why ONLY the Catholic Church has it right.

[@Futbaldesaoloa]

Why get married when... 1. Becoming Official BF & GF is like a marriage proposal anyway nowadays 😂 ( Love Island ) 2. No matter what she looks like on the outside...The large amount of 😼 out here has been rinsed and the Market Value of it is the same as a Tin Of Value Baked Beans at The Supermarket 😂

[@testsubject10101]

Because you should never marry for those reasons

[@WisdomIsPrecious]

I think this is one of Jordan’s weaker arguments. Sounds like the rationalizations of a married man lol. Why would you want to force yourself to stay with someone who you wouldn’t unless you had already bound yourself to doing so?

[@DansEarway]

unsophisticated dispute settlement.. HA!

[@lm2487]

Don't get married. Get a dog & a motorcycle.

[@adamprickster]

This man is so overrated..this is about why people get married?...this is about the consequences of a failed marriage

[@luizmarinho6138]

Most of them fail, so yeah. It is nearly guaranteed.

[@captainhelmie2888]

He didn't name the video.