The Secret To A Long Marriage | Jennie Allen

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[@dambroangling2828]

Grass is greenest where you water it. That's what my wife taught me. Love her

[@averynmitchell]

Love this 🙏🏻

[@javireyes7333]

Love this toi

[@kirtirajlahiry8135]

Extremely love this line. First time hearing it. Il remember this for a lifetime.

[@Greenfrom3]

Agreed friend, my wife and I have a great relationship. It's been a lot of work though, started dating at 15. Now we're bringing out first child into the world at 30. We had rough patches, but we always tried to be a better partner to each other. Constantly working on ourselves and our relationship. I'm so happy we persevered through our early 20s as she's been such a blessing to me. I love her so much.

[@AegonTargaryen-x8p]

If your wife thought you that, you already lost as a man

[@nathandesantis1788]

First step is CHOOSING the right partner. It doesn’t matter what you try, if you marry someone unwilling to compromise, commit and work as a team. It won’t end well

[@Link12Fox]

I'm 38, married for 17yrs. NOTHING we were told about marriage was reality except for what my grandparents told us, mainly me. They said there isn't a set time where it's the hardest or when things just click. There's ups and downs, but after a while, you'll notice that they become a little easier and farther apart. You'll fall out of love, but then you'll fall in love again, which is the best part. Just never let Divorce become an option bc with kids, it isn't. My grandfather said, "Marriage isn't temporary, so make damn sure you pick the right woman who will respect and stand by you." He threw in a few cus words but 🤷‍♂️ lol

[@LP3me]

Wise words. Deciding divorce isn’t an option is huge. And not saying that word even in heated arguments. If you don’t constantly think it might end and work on it, the marriage will Get stronger. My wife and I always said the only reason we’d ever divorce is infedilty and that’s how all marriages should be.

[@sharonstrauss1146]

It depends on what you want from life.Itz the quality of the marraige and not the amount of years.said from experienceA lonnnng marraige does not mean it is better than a short one.

[@sharonstrauss1146]

Survival and the game gets. .oops red flags.get to the g Thirty year zone.

[@Link12Fox]

@sharonstrauss1146 that's a fact seldom talked about. Probably bc its not coming nowadays with how quickly people bail but nonetheless, spot on

[@jamesstokes1579]

That I think was gold!

[@SuperKwame1]

30 years in my marriage and I don’t look back! All the distractions are not worth it. Stay away from the distractions and you’ll be better off!❤❤❤

[@wutowngurlify]

I've learned who my husband is by going through the trenches and valleys. In those darkest times I love him more and more because I see who he truly is and he is the most real and beautiful man I've ever known.

[@dd007x]

Totally. 24 years here. My wife is hot, stretch marks and all. Two teenagers 15 & 16. We still dance in the kitchen and are very much together x ❤ my hair is thinning but I am told I am handsome af. Lol. Grey on my sides which I hate but my wife thinks is sexy.

[@roccof.depaolo1915]

You can be happy, or you can be right! Pick one! Been with my wife since high school, and going on 27 years of marriage. Two grown successful boys. Bless everyone!

[@raphtube75]

So wise. When the game becomes survival, the couple will be in its natural state of being. No more fake expectations, no more whimsical things, no more childish instabilities.

[@NoBeatGamingReal]

Me and my wife went through the worst few years of both our lives together (I won’t go into detail) a lot of people told us they would of walked away (wasn’t relationship issues by the way)but we stuck together and now it doesn’t feel like anything in life can phase us as long as we deal with it together. To many people walk away as soon as it gets hard. We’re childhood sweethearts and that doesn’t really happen much anymore ❤

[@vulpix2290]

Work as a team so you dont need to suffer in this rough world alone. You each will have a warm place to be soft 💝

[@amylou1783]

I've been married to my high school sweetheart for 29yrs..... This is so true!! When you go through something hard together, you truly learn how to lift each other up. You become a team in life, and really learn to lean on each other!❤❤❤

[@paulgarcia1147]

Been married 33 years and that lady is exactly correct. You work as a team and build a life together. You share every win and hardship together.

[@conniehenderson7071]

Get comfortable with apologizing...both taking and giving them.

[@altonstrose]

Notice she never mentions that she may not be what he thought she would be, but just him not being what she thought he would be. Very telling.

[@CaptCMoore]

The secrets are the following: communication, caring, loving & fire/desire🌹❤️

[@jeremypena1730]

You answered so simply and it is amazing not everyone follows this example. Marriage or partnership is not a happy ending, there would be good times but it has to include the bad. Marriage or partnership is of a journey, a new step to get over, and the harder it is to go thru it, the better is is worth having❤

[@Tarasyoutube]

This sounds right. Good advice

[@PapaCasual]

Lower your expectations and remember that the person you are with is imperfect like you. They have their own wants and needs, and being with them is agreeing that those are just as important as your own.

[@ronvictor2622]

She is right: most divorces in United States is because of Financial. Someone in the relationship doesn't want to endure the hardship or challenges financially

[@davenelson916]

A relationship that honors and is pleasing to God! Sharing everything and loving each other faithfully but always loving and serving God and giving him the glory, and he will bring joy into your lives.❤

[@jimbobsliice3737]

Completely incorrect.

[@TysonAk-s9e]

Focusing on mastering difficulties is what romance truly needs. We have had enough of the hyper love, we have forgotten what makes it stick...the hard times.

[@universalservicetechust3578]

Be a step ahead of a potential issue or problem in doing so you protect each others peace by having each others back 🙏🏼💯💪🏼

[@taniavankordenoordt3929]

💞Amen Sista.. My Mum n Dad over 62 years Cheers Tania VK from Downunder 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺

[@theoak64]

Hard also teaches you how to listen to each other and not just hear each other. Not just with the ears but with the body, an understanding.

[@amberhill8395]

Yes, go through hard together. Mum and dad have been together for 41 years. Dad served in the army as sniper, mum worked and looked after three girls. It's not easy. Stick with it. Don't give up. That's the easy option, news flash, life's not easy.

[@mikedenton6485]

20 years married and 23 years together, its not all highs and we've faced the lows togther. Which makes the highs even better.

[@bmellis1984]

She's blessed, cancer took my wife away and I'm now having to raise 3 daughters ages 6 and under.

[@24what24]

Yaaa...this is true when both people do it. If you're both not pouring everything in, it'll fail miserably during hard times. The sad part is for the person who does it when the other one quits. That person will never be the same.

[@aboveitall4763]

Where are you ladies asking that question? What's the secret your believers you should know you love one another. You forgive one another. There is no secret

[@Boldstrummer]

Marriage is a crucible for growth it polishes both husband and wife

[@samsonslmpson1986]

I don't know why this is so hard to understand. Treat eachother better than you treat yourself! That's it!

[@laidbackLUKEY]

A great way to describe it that I’ve never heard before 👍🏻

[@azinoobrando4820]

It was a dream of mine to be married until death do us part . Divorced twice and don’t think a third attempt will help. Good luck to all who are married. Please try as hard as you can to stay together and find ways to deal with all these secular influences that speak against God’s Institution.

[@abrarhashmi6025]

My parents father 70 and mom 65 I guess Still living a lovely life with love ❤

[@Bobbie-G]

Together, 20 years & we've rarely been on the same team. It's been hard for 20 years. There is more hard than there is anything else. 💔

[@shanblegaramo8853]

Look at her she’s gorgeous and looks wayyy Younger all because she’s smart!

[@kelleymccoy7456]

Ive been married for 41 years. I agree you have to do the hard. But we lost our daughter to breast cancer 6 years ago and he fell deep into addiction and left me to deal on my own. That was the hit that has scattered our marriage and it will not be repaired hes still in his addiction and im done finished. I have nothing left for him

[@mr.nilraps]

The secret is there is no secret. A marriage is a commitment. All you have to do is be committed. If both of you are, you’ll make it together no matter what happens. You aren’t happy? So what? Sounds like a personal problem. Cope, lower your expectations, and carry on. You made a commitment so keep it. If that’s not good enough for you then don’t make promises you can’t keep.

[@eman4959]

This is very true !!

[@CuntriBoi71]

Who in da world is the host, she is so gorgeous!!!! Point also well made sis - go thru Hard together!!!

[@chase7440]

My wife my better half ,my beer drinking friend, my best friend my side dish 😂my little angel my business partner my girlfriend my wife

[@themick6586]

Married 45 years , we are in this together, we have each others back, friends and lovers, this is my second marriage, first wife thought she was going to monkeybranch up, she screwed up. I did upgrade , smart, loyal, non- materallistic, happy in her own skin. Easy to live with.

[@thewrestlingroom410]

This is right on the money! You close all of the backdoors, get rid of all the parachutes, and work together to figure it out...or die trying! No Plan B.

[@Nazgull92]

That's the realest thing I heard today!

[@Thundercookie33]

My dream for my wife was someone i meet young, like 20-22 and we work together for our life. Both hustle at first working and saving up for kids, a house, and just life. Realized before 18 they dont want to be apart of the race, they want to wait for the winner. They feel safer cause that guy made it, but those guys dont cherish them the way they want because they are smart enough to see its not typically them they want, just what he provides. This woman is 100% right but nowadays everyone is so open to "opportunities" they see a better situation and look around and ask why tf am I here when i could be there? Then, they get a little further up the hill and notice another spot from there that's just a little better. By 24ish most have so many experiences they grab bits they loved from their experiences and patch together a dream spouse. Doing so, creating an unrealistic standard they demand and give absolutely no wiggle room on. No compromise.

[@troyvenom6186]

29 yrs for myself. She is absolutely right. Love is not always pretty. It's fu**ing hard. Not for the weak.

[@C_91]

The nice way to say stop being entitled and rude and judgemental and getting realistic and humble.

[@MrCrakrock66]

Listen what she said girls, its the struggle that creates the bond aka THETEAM then love comes naturally... Love is easy for the Man if she is his teammate, period.

[@marymarks7046]

Hard is fine as long as he hasn’t physically and emotionally abused you!

[@niyiaf1]

People like this are the "REAL RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS" Not those clowns who be in and out of Relationships giving relationship goals.. She broke it down with that magic word "Hard-together".. Not all these clowns on social media talking what they know nothing about..

[@someutubchannel69]

Have intimacy... Emotional & Physical

[@shaunphares8995]

What a wonderful wife and life partner

[@glorious6779]

Yep. Its been 19 years for me and kids later. So true 👍

[@hulius9320]

World needs more woman like this.

[@ianmcintosh5747]

To many women think they are going to go find a better knight in shining armor instead of dealing with their emotions and bitterness and getting through a tough time. They leave a man thinking they are going to go find something better and just end up hurting themselves the guy and the children, because they are to blind to realize they are a part of the problem as well.

[@adriandejesus4473]

WHEN UR WITH A NARCISSIST THERES NO WAY I. WORKING WITH THOSE PEOPLE. ECAUSE THEY DONT EVEN LOVE THEMSELF THEY JUST STEP ALLOVER U AND DESTROY U

[@brotherbutcher1]

She nailed it

[@malvinsthembiso1634]

Ladies... She said once it stops being about me..... Remember that

[@williamhermann6635]

Wake up and actively choose to love your partner every single day. Love isnt a reaction or a feeling, its a choice. Simple as that.

[@krisjohnson4807]

So therapy, not getting needs met, hard times then just try to survive and get through this?? Sounds AWESOME...sign me up!! Lol

[@essence____beauty_92]

Whew testing times we just getting started only married 2 yrs in dealing with some challenges already 😅😅 we got this though ❤❤❤❤❤

[@w.s.2102]

I was married 20 years, with 2 Children, and it was the worst experience of my life.... I'm so glad I'm free now

[@amerm7139]

I wonder what compels people to tell strangers how long they have been married. It’s not a competition

[@CountryMusicMan]

I went through hard and she fucking dipped.

[@Supermusique99]

If two regular people are married to each other, yes. But if youre married to a narcissist, NO DICE

[@akarannathan]

I'd like to listen this again without the music, this music is simply mesmerizing 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@SpiritusFrumenti]

Yea, most people today are too focused on being happy all the time that they forget theres more important things in life....

[@annajackson4546]

She's right

[@VisaliaMuscle]

"Just kidding... that served as well"... Don't laugh or down play it, therapy helped you to come to this mindset. You paid the toll for this scenic route

[@colombianminxfitnessreviews]

I like don’t understand marriage at all. I sacrifice, cook, clean, financially support, keep myself looking the best I can, and then the man just plays video games all day? Or in my last marriage you ask how his day was and he just drinks, screams, yells, and disappears whenever while you’re left taking care of the household? Like I don’t understand men. And they change like a year into marriage so you can never vet them well enough. You still do marital counseling, therapy, and do all the right steps and I still get cheated on. Idk like just “making it work,” still doesn’t make sense to me. Yes I only speak on my side here but family and friends confirm I’m not crazy and would tell me otherwise. So I just don’t buy, “just make it work.” It would be less stressful if I could pull the household alone in peace. Again I don’t understand the point of marriage at all. I’ve read books on it, studied love languages, gone to church to understand it from a spiritual perspective and none of it adds up. It’s the equivalent of laying down on a train track.

[@kJ922-h3j]

Not going against your experience at all, and it’s understandable you would now be put off, but there will be many many men who have had equivalent experiences with women. I’m pretty sure if you had a male friend for whom what was the case you would advise him to not be bitter and judge all women based on those experiences right?

[@dreamagery]

Been married 1/ years. At first it’s bliss, and after its steadfastness.

[@braydenboyko8525]

My mom got married at 18 and has been married already for 40 years , 26 years is not a long time 😂 I like how shocked people are by thatv

[@crystalmccade7225]

What does hard entail? Does hard mean crying on the floor and them having no sympathy at all? Doesn’t feel like a team feels like fighting for survival to make it through the day.

[@sarahbalcerak6754]

Takes 2 though. A wife can do all she can and be all she can but if he isn’t willing to work at all, it won’t

[@ToOffend.IsToCare]

Unfortunately, too many people give up before hard has been experienced. In comes crazy high divorce rates and destruction of families.

[@CaseyRyan]

A long marriage doesn’t mean a happy marriage.

[@missinterpretation4984]

Yeah fighting through usually means one person putting up with endless BS.

[@jordanloewen7636]

I really wish I could have something like that but I need more money as a 22 yo guy with debt up to my eyeballs. I feel like if I don’t have this by 30 then I will end it all.

[@TeacherRoger]

She's been cheated on 😢

[@aaireg]

awesome, way to go

[@wheelz1325]

Crazy that 26 years could be seen as a long time nowadays my grandparents were almost together for 70 years😂

[@bonganirobin5431]

Some women don't want to be team, at least not team with the man on lead. I filed for divorce

[@o_j_o6447]

Unnatural expectation is worse And it's much more worse when you think you minimum deserves that expected thing and take everything for granted don't work for it Chasing exceptional perfection is also bad, Exceptional perfection makes everything unnatural Ex-"Look at the 1st girl's leap filler "

[@braydensteele2892]

If only modern day women knew loyalty so maybe more marriages could last as long as hers

[@jessicagriggs4159]

If only modern day men knew loyalty so maybe more marriages could last as long as there’s

[@amandlaawethu1538]

304's feminist don't think this way. They only think me me me

[@privateprivate2421]

33 years. Just be each others bestfriend.

[@jacobramirez9869]

Wished my wife understood this now I’m 25 going through divorce

[@jeffhermance4886]

My job is extremely hard and one of the biggest compliments i ever got from my foreman "hermance will die on that wall WITH me before he'll walk away " If you aint her dont even look my way

[@corporategirlprobs]

why do you HAVE to get through this and it’s about survival? life’s too short to not be happy living i survival mode to stay with the same person for your whole life. you don’t get brownie points for staying in a marriage once you arrive at the golden gates

[@abcisneros91]

Because oftentimes, even being single, there will be hardships you need to survive through. When you're married, you have to figure it out together rather than alone. If you want a long, fruitful marriage, you have to compromise. There is no vulnerable, deep relationship that exists and lasts years, without compromise and perseverance.

[@ServingChrist]

Why didn't she have reasonable expectations from the start? Who taught her to have unrealistic expectations in the first place? Sharing these thoughts in this interview is a good start to reversing the cycle in future generations especially when many would not admit they were in the wrong regarding unreasonable expectations.

[@rossmarshall4947]

What’s the secret? There isn’t one. Just respect each other. It’s simple.

[@jk41shadow]

The way she explains it sounds like lol a loveless marriage 😂. It is no longer him meeting your needs, or him being the perfect person is just got to get through this.. survive. Her words not mind, at that point. Might aswell divorce, hahahah atleast you will be happy and satisfied. Instead of complacency. Like a job your used to are comfortable but is not taking you anywhere. Its what it sounds like.

[@lyesterday]

The secret is having a Godly marriage. The man seeking God and the woman seeking God. Nothing else works. Living for the world can't be any more

[@IWasGivenRest]

Jesus is the answer!

[@qazwack1068]

The mute button goes hard on this one...we dont need the loud tiktok song over every video

[@DJ-ll9hv]

Oh my god….such a hard concept 😂😂😂😂

[@misterpogi23]

Happy Husband = Happy Life

[@isaiahdryg9725]

Women these days don’t now how to go though hard. Every time I’ve ever been struggling financially or mentally I’ve been left. Granted I’m only 23 and it’s only happened twice but I’ve been in only 2 relationships so it’s just pattern recognition. I figure I’ll give a relationship one more try and if she ain’t shit I’m gonna join the military

[@benjaminarthur5101]

What's the name of the song?

[@CruiseWavy396]

Crazy cuz both of them ran through.