The Simple Cure for Loneliness | Baya Voce | TEDxSaltLakeCity

Baya Voce is the host of "The Art of Connection", a web series looking to experts from across the globe on how to the live your most fulfilled life. In this TEDx talk, Baya reveals a simple tool you can start using today to create more happiness, fulfillment, and connection.
Baya's business journey started as a cast member on MTV's The Real World where her interest in relationships was nurtured. She transformed her TV exposure into an entrepreneurial adventure, learning early on how the power of one strong connection can transform your life and career. Her inherent belief that the quality of your relationships equals the quality of your life and that your network is your net worth, led her to her interest in connection, community, and relationships. For the past decade she has studied connection in three pillars: connection with yourself, your partner, and your community. She is a Dating and Relationship Coach, founder of Secret SLC, co-founder of Womenpreneurs and hosts a monthly segment on ABC as Utah's Relationship Specialist. Baya is a Certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner, studies Emotional Intelligence, Positive Psychology, and Body Language, and mentors under intimacy and relationship experts.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@ktheplayer3296]

"Lonely? Easy, get Friends." This is like saying "don't be sad, be happy" to a depressed person.

[@chrisyorke6175]

or like telling an emaciated beggar to eat more and put on weight.

[@kimmyball4961]

Think happy thoughts!!! My mother actually has said this to me!! Lol

[@ApurvJyotirmay]

@@kimmyball4961 same.

[@kimmyball4961]

@@ApurvJyotirmay They just can't understand. I do know they mean well.

[@oldskoolordie]

Starving? Why not eat food?

[@aprilthomas1489]

Solution to loneliness: Have friends. Got it. Thanks for the revelation.

[@bigdickmarly9657]

Yeah she doesn't know what she is talking about

[@maclaudi246]

Hahahah yes.

[@beanhead7632]

This is a bit off topic, but it’s like being severely introverted in a way (as in having social anxiety), and EXTROVERTED people just tell you “just be extroverted, it’s not that hard! just talk more, no one will judge you” Social anxiety is *very easy* to overcome. Just tell yourself to stop over-analyzing and be extroverted! It’s that easy.

[@CaptainThrilla]

She’s so out of touch of what she’s talking about 😂😂

[@lami5048]

@@beanhead7632 exactly! Youre introverted? Just be extroverted! Youre homeless? Just buy a house!

[@robindeanna1323]

She reminds me of all of the disappointing therapists I have encounter throughout my life.

[@forthesakeofsanity]

Oh my god right! Like you start with "oook is this going anywhere?" .."This story better be going somewhere good..." "yup nope. Great."... "goodbye hope. Next" 😆

[@SianaGearz]

@@beanhead7632 One i went to was 85 years old and she comes from Dresden and she went like "Oh well i was there when my city was bombed and i was 12, so i had it worse". A little senile much? It's not a goddamn competition. I just wanted to share this because i think this is a little unique, but still fits into the theme of therapists not taking your issues seriously.

[@robertogiraudo4435]

me hizo reir tu comentario Robin siento lo mismo tanto tiempo gastado en nada, life is paradox.

[@tammyk29]

Haha one therapist I went to because of social anxiety and depression told me (after I told her I was bullied a lot in elementary school and I can't get over that) "Well that was a long time ago, you shouldn't think about that" THANKS LADY, YOU CURED MY DEPRESSION

[@aylamiller5752]

I had a therapist that just kept telling me that yoga would help me cure my depression. Every. Single. Time. I. Came. In. I gave up on therapy.

[@Nuti196]

It's like when you tell someone about your country where millions of people suffer from hunger and they respond "Oh yes, I know what you're talking about. I also experienced hunger, I forgot to bring my lunch to work the other day and I was starving"

[@Jimmymatthewb]

Haha that is literally the perfect example

[@HeyitsBri_]

And how they “wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone” 😂

[@lordsodikusa6709]

man u're speaking my mind

[@ninayahmi4281]

exactly !!! god

[@Aey1507_]

EXACTLY

[@roryxo4623]

Her cure to loneliness is... Talk to your friends like wtf the reason why I'm lonely is I have no friends lmao

[@kellemese6252]

Everyone had friends once in their lifetime. You have facebook. Reconnect with them. Easy-peasy.

[@Ladyblue7620]

@@kellemese6252 not always that easy, dude. People change, have their ways and eventually forget about others. You still can be lucky and succeed in reconnecting with them.

[@korykloth9244]

Some say women are not emotionally equipped to be any kind of therapist. Because of their emotions. Plus, many have it more easy. Some make their issues because they like drama, to cry, just like some men, but not as many.

[@johnmonterosso3100]

Then make friends who have the same interests as you talk to people try new things you will be able to meet new people

[@TheR0bbe]

@@Ladyblue7620 it is... it feels likwe it isnt but life is THAT simple

[@Error-5478]

Came here depressed. Left suicidal.

[@TheBlackSheepDiaries]

Come on over, might find something to smile about. Someone cares, I care.

[@MrJohan66642]

Respect your parents to keep you life at least 9 month on your mother's.

[@rmmd1003]

Quite funny but hopefully not a real suicidal ideation

[@Hala-ataa]

Most underrated comment 😂

[@saikumar6216]

hhahahha

[@florine2546]

Everyone in the comment section should become friends

[@marciamcgrail5889]

wey to go Florine, let's start a revolution! I have found a friend!!!!!!

[@anapaulavilhena6327]

Marcia McGrail agreed! I' m in!!!

[@marciamcgrail5889]

great! er...so how do we go about it?

[@anapaulavilhena6327]

Marcia McGrail We can create a chat on KZbin, Instagram page, Facebook group, whattsapp group

[@marciamcgrail5889]

ok Ana - I'll go with the majority decision but just to say I don't do fb or i'gram.... : }

[@hannahlack1061]

I didn't know being this tone deaf was physically possible

[@VestinVestin]

Wow. It's like those frugality guides that assume you have a lot of money to begin with. _"Let me tell you how to not feel lonely (assuming you already have friends to cherish and relationships to cultivate)"._

[@patphilosopher]

I feel the same way about this video. Pointless, waste of time... She's not speaking about loneliness... She just craved for more time in front of camera. Look at my life, i travel , i have friends... Bla bla bla

[@bayavoce]

Hey Vestin, I completely understand where you're coming from. I don't have all the answers to loneliness, but I'm going to dig into some research this week because I know what an important topic this is and you're right... not everyone has someone to turn to. I'll be posting about this in the coming weeks.

[@MrHy0]

Yup... doesn't seem like she's ever been truly lonely. She just felt lonely.

[@patphilosopher]

H Colleter Exactly, totally different things.

[@richardwill2828]

exactly. took the words out my mouth

[@dee5635]

She really said “how to overcome loneliness?? Talk to your significant other at night”

[@cati896]

She's an absolute genius. If you're lonely just have a pajama party with your group of friends

[@lukejanis2016]

And go on a trip to france with your girlfriends

[@vex_ahlia7]

This video is like a fish teaching me how to climb a tree

[@wingedstring]

I get your point but please type goby climbing a tree in google and eat your words

[@Julianabaus]

💔

[@IamStereotype]

The way to cure lonliness... is to not be lonely *audience claps*

[@kaycee8323]

omg right? I couldn't believe it when they applauded this hard...fools

[@martinamoskale2445]

@@kaycee8323 Reminds me of pain management classes:" When you are in pain try not to think about it".

[@kaycee8323]

@@martinamoskale2445 "just go on vacation and you won't suffer anymore"

[@martinamoskale2445]

@@kaycee8323 I'd love to.go on a holiday. Need to check my purse for some spare euro later!

[@legendkillersshittyduffleb932]

Lmfao

[@lookwithinandsee]

I’m more depressed after watching this than I was before. Monday nights on the couch by myself I guess. Sounds like this lady doesn’t know what lonely really is, when most people are their own anchor and we are sinking.

[@НинкаШепелева]

Yeah, same here. Hope you feel better now though

[@JakeBayCity]

Jen M I’ll be your friend

[@murariualina2144]

What is happening to this world? Why are we so lonely even though we are so connected? I feel the same, like the walls of my house are screaming at me... 😕

[@kitheaxeman]

Yeah I got the same feelings by watching this...

[@beanboywilliams3871]

Well I’m lonely and in Florida... I would be more than happy to go on an adventure.. I hate being lonely

[@daniellaioannou2331]

She’s never felt lonely before

[@valovelightg7795]

I think she just felt someone else was in the spotlight..I think she always had options..

[@malcolmisgee]

EVER.

[@kwesley8094]

Most people who talk about loneliness know very little about it.

[@aparajita1in]

Agree.

[@shvlamarts]

yeah most lonely people don't say anything and just stay lonely. that's probably why we're lonely ayyy

[@Amp1771]

Her version of loneliness is how a rich housewife gets lonely or feels lonely and have people to talk to.

[@hellyeah_ellajane]

Why does she sound so excited while describing an attack where a dude drives a truck through a crowd of people? 😑

[@ew6588]

Ikr. She said "we didn't feel like going out" as if the tragedy was simply an inconvenience.

[@Khaterate_Laptopi]

she gives me psychopaths vibes hahaha

[@seth7712]

@Evey & Co Because she was excited thinking about the wine she and her friends would be drinking once they made it back to the hotel. SMH

[@elizabethharvester6111]

I didn't get that far - I couldn't listen to her prattle on about being so-called "lonely". Ugh.

[@LianExfeind]

This talk in a nutshell: "Look, I have friends, family and we cuddle a lot. You don't. See ya!"

[@summerghost6551]

sad but true

[@VortokMercadia]

The cure for loneliness is to regularly surround yourself with people that you'll actually interact with. kthx bai I feel like the problem wasn't fully understood before the solution was proposed. There is definite value to that sense of friendship and/or community that she talked about, but it isn't exactly a one size fits all method.

[@celsothedevil]

hahahaha lol i liked that ted talk but you are right

[@TechnoForbes]

Soo True 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@homemadecookie7392]

Yup...I don't have a family...and hardly any friends..where can I get that ⚓ of connection...?

[@dogski2822]

I’m going to analyze this Ted Talk because it’s the middle of the night and I’m bored. This would be much better if it was labeled as “How to strengthen relationships” or something like that. Not how to cure loneliness. Nothing about this woman or her story screams lonely to me. I’m getting more, “14 year old girl who listened to 1 Billie Eilish song and now things that being sad for 10 minutes is depression” vibes. Wanting attention and wanting to not be lonely are two extremely different things. This talk isn’t about loneliness. She said loneliness, like 4 times in the entire talk, most of them being in the first couple minutes. She also says to not do something new to cure loneliness, but to the whole ritual thing, immediately after her story about going to France. It’s common for people with depression to go to places like France to try and cure their depression, only to realize that the only difference is that they’re still depressed, but in France. Most lonely people either don’t have friends or don’t feel intimately connected with their friends/family. Her advice, while good in concept, isn’t going to be super helpful to most people who found this video by searching something along the lines of “how to not be lonely” into a search bar. I’ve lost many really close friends over the recent years for reasons completely outside of my control. (They didn’t die or anything, just to be clear, life just lead us in different directions.) And now I’ve subconsciously associated having friends with losing friends since I’ve pretty much lost all of them a few years after I met them. Now I’m afraid of making connections, of having friends, because I’m afraid of losing them like so many others. Her solution for loneliness being “just get friends and be close to them” is not helpful in the slightest, it may work for some people, just not me and those like me. It’s kind of like that joke “Depressed? Just be happy.” or “Have asthma? Just breathe!”. I realize she has to be general and this one ‘solution’ isn’t going to be a cure-all for the nearly 5 million people who watched this, but as far as the comment section is concerned, this was extremely unhelpful to pretty much everyone, and frankly, I can see why. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. Also she keeps bumping the mic and it’s driving me insane.

[@thehaglin]

Thoroughly enjoyed your Ted talk. Actually much more insightful than this little chickie 😉

[@edgardavid1653]

It was worth the read.

[@Splimbo]

"The weird times when your not busy feeling fantastic, A vacation story!" should've been the title of this video

[@prostudentdriver9347]

I think this woman is just looking for personal exposure.

[@thumbprint7150]

Pro - Quite a few TED talks are promotions for businesses or the person giving the talk. She said she liked attention so this is one way to feed that need. But she is garnering a lot of negative attention here.

[@golfmaniac007]

how did she get on ted?

[@onlyhuman5669]

@@golfmaniac007 it's TEDx bruh, not the same.

[@thedude8526]

Its really clear she isn't all that proficient at delivering a message. Makes me wonder if she has ever gone through clinical depression as a result of loneliness and disassociation.

[@ErinHye]

Me in bed talking to myself “the thing I love about you most...”

[@vahinirai510]

Same..🙁

[@sarahlaghrami3008]

Actually I think this could be the best thing to do! We aren't kind with ourselves so for once, let's just try it. It could feel a little bit "lonely desperate Bridget Jones" at the beginning but I'm sure that doing it with heart and sincerity will help you a lot more than hearing someone else saying that you're cute when you're angry. 😊

[@BTSArmy-uo5pm]

@@leenagil do you wanna be friends? We are both lonely and I also love bts🤭

[@MoonchildDontCry]

@Erin H The thing I love most about you is when you smile.

[@lettinggrace]

Yes :(

[@RJ-ty5ln]

I think this woman was a cheerleader at school.

[@bayavoce]

Haha, you're right on the money. I was a cheerleader back in the day.

[@kathleenshackletonshacklet1145]

Baya Voce

[@Lue.cooks1]

yeah her body language is loud & attention grasping

[@mckenna8663]

hahahahahaha - or a tour guide at a theme park. EXACTLY.

[@rikikz]

😂

[@petramarton2334]

Me: I need some help Also me : types in loneliness Result :a girl, who talks about how she wanted to be famous and was in a reality tv show, drinking wine on Mondays and have the money to go to Paris. Thx girl,you helped a lot.

[@ashishdev5151]

Bruh! This is exactly what happened to me

[@luizaugustobarcelosnoronha9189]

hahahahaha LMO

I've noticed that Baya took the time to answer as many comments as she could on this video. That's really thoughtful, not usually seen from TED speakers

[@bayavoce]

Thanks so much for this, Benito. I really appreciate your comment, it means a lot.

[@TheVikingSkater]

You are the right kind of perceptive my friend, I am glad you exist Benito Tonatiuh Rojas Mayorquin.

[@robo9466]

this woman is like "GUYS I GOT IT, THE KEY TO CURING LONELINESS, WE TALK TO OUR FRIENDS AND GO TO EUROPE": That's the reason we're lonely in the first place honey, we can't do that.

[@davidbritton6121]

u got it sistah i mean u r right theres so much more goin on w a person who feels lonley she shuld be sayn tha not blanketing lonliness as reason fopr anythn

[@PerfectWoodGrain]

This chick hasn't spent 5 minutes alone in her entire life. Sometimes TED is a massive waste of time.

[@colinpeterhill]

A-fucking-men to that.

[@faikai]

Perfect Wood Grain That wasn’t her point. Loneliness is in the head. Sure, she spent time with people. But maybe she never had a deep connection with a person. So.

[@KabooM1067]

Loneliness isn't the same as being alone. The former is mental and the latter is physical. Sometimes the physical can lead to the mental version but they're separated and they're not the same. She was talking about 'feeling' lonely. Not being alone. Would you stop feeling lonely if you spent your whole life around people but you did not feel connected to them? I didn't think so.

[@STAND-ALONE]

Ditto. I just coudnt stop noticing the camel toe.

[@trendsetters06]

No offense, but that type of snap judgement is probably why you are suffering from disconnection.

[@Namasaty]

This is like a healthy person telling an afflicted person how it feels to be afflicted, having never felt it...or really not even knowing what the affliction is...

[@gonzaminator530]

this is probably one of the top 10 worst ted talks

[@RetroPlus]

Easily the worst

[@reicrystalline2506]

The title of this video needs some tweaking because some of the people watching this video don't actually have a friend to sit on a couch with, let alone 4.

[@abeyshe1021]

Rei Crystalline seriously! !

[@xxdarkjes294]

exactly. I don't have ANY friends and I thought this video was about how to cope with that

[@onepurpleflower8910]

Wow! So relevant. She absolutely is clueless 🤮

[@Future_Pheonix]

I know, if anything this made me feel lonlier..

[@onepurpleflower8910]

LandAhoy ❤️❤️❤️

[@DonnaBrooks]

Who ARE these people that give her a standing ovation?! Are they all her friends, partner, & family, & the organizers of this event? This talk, instead of being helpful, basically taunts people who don't have the emotional support system and/or financial resources she has. Does this woman have even a clue what it's like to fill out forms & when asked whom to contact in an emergency, you don't know how to respond? I don't feel lonely often NOW, b/c I've learned to make the best of holidays alone, but there was a time when I just dreaded them. I have no family, no partner (and haven't even had a girlfriend in 20 years), and no friends with whom to spend Christmas. Every year I go to both the Columbus & Worthington 4th of July fireworks alone. I went to watch the solar eclipse alone. I go to various community events alone. I go to an Easter sunrise service alone. I am the only person I see at any of these events who is alone. I spend every birthday alone. If someone asks me what I'm doing over Labor Day or Memorial Day weekend, I usually respond with, "Oh! Is this Memorial Day weekend?" I never have any plans so I never even know when these variable date holidays are! I looked over the comments & gave one after another a thumbs up b/c people were experiencing the same thing I'm experiencing,- no family, no partner or girlfriend/boyfriend, and no friends, and (and this is the important part) seeing no way to find or create these relationships. What do you do when all your YEARS of effort at trying to meet people don't lead to any relationships? How do you continue to feel good about yourself when you know you are a priority to NO ONE! Everyone else has significant others, families, groups of friends, classes, work, and interests that take up all their time. It's almost impossible to get together with anyone even ONCE, much less every week or every month. I don't even have anyone to BURY me! If we had these people in our lives, we wouldn't BE lonely. *I* could have given a much better talk about loneliness than this woman did!

[@JaguerRhye]

Hi Donna, Yes, I get frustrated listening to popular, well affirmed people lecture me about curing loneliness. Validation is like air - You tend to notice it's absence more readily than it's presence. Most people don’t walk into a room with air and are like: “There is air in this room!” But if they walked into a room with no air, they would certainly immediately become aware of its absence. Likewise, people who have the presence of validation in their life on a regular basis are less likely to understand their great dependance upon it. They, as it were, breathe in the air of validation on a regular basis which helps satisfy their intrinsic need to feel valued by others which gives them a great sense of well being. It’s generally only those people who have endured the suffocating pain of regularly experiencing little to no validation from others who truly understand how important affirmation/ validation really is and how devastating, agonizing, crippling loneliness can be.

[@Amira-eq2gc]

Relax

[@leilei2062]

The fact you're still going to these events is quite positive. It can be hard to be alone in a crowd. Wish you the best for 2019

[@sandynguyen3162]

JaguerRhye You and Donna pretty much wrote a short on what kind of world I’m living in. I get tired of people who have support try to give me “advice”. When I point out to them the reality of things, such as I don’t really have anyone around me to support me like they have, they automatically think I’m negative and they get offended.... Or they tell me my loneliness and depression is just an illusion and I’m pretending to be depressed. They especially say these things when they CANNOT RELATE to my situation. From that point, I stopped completely talking or explaining to people about anything that I am feeling. No point. I usually just smile and wave or nod when I’m at work. When I go home I talk to my plushies and game characters.

[@huss4659]

well said

[@lesrach3]

I can tell this lady has never experienced true loneliness. She's always had somebody who wanted her in their life. Maybe she had a glimpse of loneliness from that person simply not being enough to fulfill her overwhelming desire for attention, but she has never been truly lonely. She talks about curing loneliness by using cues which would mean you are not truly lonely to begin with. For example, she talks about her boyfriend, family and friends and ways to interact with them. This is not true loneliness. True loneliness will make you experience absolute rock bottom and I can tell by the way this lady carries herself to the way she speaks she has never been there. She has always had somebody there to coddle her. True loneliness is when you have no family, your closest friends have all died, your significant other no longer thinks of you as significant and knowing nobody else out there will want you. True loneliness is when you have nobody.

[@simayozturk9489]

I wish I've never seen this video. I watched till end with hope that she is gonna tell a cure for loneliness. I feel worst because I don't have friends to have a damn ritual on monday nights. I want to smash my laptop.

[@albertvasquez5066]

I can be your friend. That's 1 friend :)

[@silviaov633]

I'm sorry, she tried to be relatable but ended up being invalidating.

[@timmysinvestments3110]

"If you are hungry, eat something." Wow, thanks, Einstein.

[@Selameena]

Hostile Hero hahaha

[@lilianabeltran4330]

Hostile Hero 😂😂😂😂😂

[@GordieGii]

"If you have anorexia, just eat something."

[@sarahjohn6712]

Hah

[@maclaudi246]

Hahaha :D

[@Parradoxonn]

This talk is about MAINTAIN your CONNECTIONS and NOT loneliness!!!

[@eggXglove]

this fake acting of hers is triggering me

[@kelkabot]

seriously!

[@lenanona-p1x]

It’s so over-coached and sounds like every other TED talk that’s overcoached. It’s sad because the topics are actually noteworthy. I just can’t get past the high school speech contest quality.

[@patrickwalsh8913]

Right? She reminded me of that obnoxious girl from napoleon dynamite. Vote for summer!

[@ds.b1942]

Yes!!! I try to listen but she is just too much... not natural at all

[@aaleyah5380]

dante sparda ok I thought it was just me. As soon as she started speaking I paused it and started reading the comments. Way too over-animated

[@LethalLemonLime]

lol I'm glad I read the comments. I was watching this like "where is she going with this?" thanks for saving me the time

[@heatherway25]

Exactly.

[@yobro2453]

Leslie yea 😂

[@jamiephelps1413]

Same

[@glittery566]

me toooo!

[@aslmad1]

Well what is it? I’m looking

[@sofiag.m3803]

Lonely? Go out with your friends 😋❗ Hits the same as: Sad? Smile more ✌️🥰🤗

[@506-siddhantjadhav7]

This video focuses mainly on how to strengthen your relationships rather than how to form one. Most of the people don't have any social connections to begin with. "THE THING I LOVE ABOUT YOU THE MOST"......Oh c'Mon, if I had someone with whom I could play this game, then I would have never felt the need of watching this video in the first place. The only thing I learnt from this video is that I am goin to die early. Seriously, this woman has no clue what loneliness is.

[@AYS-pn6vq]

yes she clearly has no clue, people who feel real loneliness don't have close friends all over the world.! She sounds and is happy, her voice alone reveals that. she has no idea what a real lonely person goes through every day and especially through the night. real lonely people would do anything do get rid of that pain -they become creative and join/form meet up groups. I did all that, dating sites, meet up groups..etc. yet I am still lonely. If in public you even start talking about being lonely...people drop you instantly like a hot potatoe.! they don't want to know or hear about it ....that is why i don't see an end to the problem . I want to be pro active ...who wants to help finding a real solution ?

[@deeksha1141]

You got friends and a relationship. You may not have always had it, I wouldn't know but it doesn't seem so. I have 0 friends and 0 pre established "connection". I also happen to be an introvert with anxiety, that's a battle in itself. To make matters worse, I live in India where being "social" is culture and mental illness is not a thing. I'm easily labelled as "rude" and "ill mannered", I don't even think I've met a lot of understanding people who are nice. The few I did meet were when I was a kid, it's acceptable for kids to be shy and introverted. Adults, not so much. My point is, you have a very narrow idea of loneliness based on your experience.

[@SB-ip6th]

Dee Mash id be ur friend

[@kattybrunette]

Let's be friends 😢

[@AJITHPJ18]

Hey girl..... Just chill..... The storm won't last forever...... It would eventually die.....

[@GIOVANINHA04]

Do you wanna be my friend ?

[@ericpoon6684]

I think this comment describes it perfectly

[@kaufmanat1]

This lady's solution to homelessness: move into a house. Brilliant!

[@geertruivanbroekhoven7209]

🤣🤣🤣

[@vars280287]

I'm alone not lonely. Wish people understood the difference

[@bayavoce]

There is absolutely a difference. Being alone and lonely are definitely not synonymous. You can be just as lonely in a group of people as you can on your own and you can be completely content by yourself or on the flip side, completely lonely by yourself. Thanks for contributing to the conversation.

[@vars280287]

Baya Voce thanks very much for understanding the distinction. I have a support system of friends and family members around me however I tend to prefer spending time alone since that's where I feel most productive and comfort. However, I definitely don't feel cut off from people and if I do, I just go back to them and enjoy the company before resuming. However people do tend to label me as a loner for this reason whereas I just simply like spending time alone.

[@heewonkim8371]

I think that....the best connection among all.....connecting to ourselves and nature......accept 100 of who we are....and 100 trust of nature.....we never feel lonely even we are in wildernesses. Life is Good. Nothing is lack in nature..everything is fully harmony each other. Only our Mind and Thoughts are Not connect to the surround. It does Not matter how many or how deep relationships we have....as long as we don't connect to ourself purely and understanding nature.....sooner or later...we will find a big empty hole in our mind. 🙏❤️

[@ThatManAdrian]

oh hello

[@DJinKERRY831]

I am alone and im lonely ;(

[@sallytaylor3247]

Loneliness doesn't occur only when we are physically alone. It can also happen when we are with other people. This beautifully delivered TEDx talk left me inspired to cultivate closeness in my relationships. Thank you Baya!!!!

[@bayavoce]

Thank you for your response, Sally! I couldn't agree more :).

[@mcpartridgeboy]

haha women talking about loanliness what a discustingly insensative joke ! you dont have a clue !

[@mcpartridgeboy]

***** of course you do your a stupis mall brained woman ! you think romantic solutions to everything because your life is piss easy and you get everything you weant on a plate while sitting on yourt fat ass and doing nothing ! no her answer was utter bullshit ! utter woman bull shit, of course theres an easy solution for women, of course a woman never suffers from loanliness so when you feel like you want someone for a week or 2 before you get what you want and could have someone earlier if you chose then an easy solution is available ! your too privelidged as a woman to ever understand real loanliness and your brain is too small and selfish to understand real loanliness, luckily for you your a woman though so you wownt ever understand ! basically just a smug little piece of shit !

[@Turtle1631991]

I think it is biggest issue few people recognize talking about this. But truth is that in fact many people feel loneliest when surrounded by people. that is for example why I personally love that special kind of solitude you find in nature. There being utterly alone is usually where I feel least lonely.

[@juan9571]

Thanks for the comments! You avoid me having a bad time watching this. I’d love to meet y’all. Have a nice day

[@sani71]

The worst TED Talk I've ever seen. I guess she was in the wrong venue - the topic should have been `How to get more attention`. Just talking about herself and overacting too much!

[@theaeronaut2703]

Exactly. Boy is she shallow!

[@helena1151]

Me too

[@user-wz5py9kf7i]

Yes ikr. I mean talking with your hands is good in some degree, but she just anoys me with her big movenents

[@kjpiper8398]

A very practiced choreograph

[@Barkerfam6]

Anyone here after watching Sixteenleo?😆

[@pareen93]

TED Talks have lost their quality. Everyone is a TED Speaker these days.

[@ajaxbuchann5243]

This is TEDx, not TED

[@jaredkick1177]

Let me see if I can sum this video up for you: *How to Not Be Lonely* 1. Stop being alone

[@Fussfackel]

How I watched the video: "Look at some term I just made up. In other countries, people live differently. Look at me and my friends. We sit on the couch, have fun and drink wine. Look at me and my husband - on vacation. Just do everything as you did before - as if I would care how you feel. Thanks for your attention (what I am still seeking and getting from you...)!"

[@lolisierra8754]

Jared Kick ...... Was going to watch it....., but now, I'm not!

[@skinnytuber6446]

Jared Kick hahahaha😂😂😂😂😂 nailed it dude

[@jillmariaplatteaux6083]

Jared Kick 🤘

[@hqtennisllc9311]

Jared Kick lol true

[@MarcoSanderCoaching]

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ― Mark Twain

[@darksouls6014]

Where I feel lonely: 01) in a friend get together all of your friends talking about a massive story they only experienced which you never heard of, all you can do is smile when they laugh and listen like you are not a part of the crew. 02) When your school teacher say "pick up a friend and do this assignment" and you see all your friends has already taken a partner and nobody in your class approach to you and say " can you be my partner". All you can do is approach someone and ask to be your partner with an idle student. 03) When nobody wishes you or surprise you on your birthday. 04) When you see an empty desk right next to your friend and when you try to sit your friend say "this table is reserved to that guy" 05) When all of your friends sits on the dinner table and there is no enough chairs so you need to sit on a different table alone. 06) when you see in a social media group chat everyone tries to be offline or leaves the conversation after you send a simple message like "hi". 07)When you get roasted all the time when you try to join a conversation like they dont want you to be a part of them. 08) When you see in social media all your friends were having a great party or a trip and having fun which you never get informed and you question yourself "why i never get invited?" , "dont they want me to be part of their fun?", is it my looks that they dont like or my behavior?" 106

[@Bmxmusikian]

This is bs, she just says hang out with friends family n partner, what do u do if u dont have any

[@tomasdelatoba7572]

go find them

[@travisvanderlaan9829]

You have the internet find like minds though social media

[@casper-z9rkls6gl]

So we're back to square one---retreating into our Facebook cyber-world.

[@laellassmann2233]

Maybe friends, but can't find new family.

[@DonnaBrooks]

Travis VanderLaan Social media is not a good way to make friends. How many people have you met thru social media with whom you've developed a friendship IN THE PHYSICAL WORLD?

[@leopardd3744]

If I had friends I could hang out with every day and a partner to care for. I wouldn't have this problem in the first place.

[@yungtrxllofficial4628]

so to cure loneliness you "simply" just gotta not be lonely 🤔

[@Blujonny11]

This is connection advice for 'the girl that has everything.' Half of these Ted talks are nothing more than 'look at me!'

[@veronicajernegan6208]

I too believed the chosen title did not match the discussion.

[@brucelennon9224]

Soon as I heard she has a partner I said .....she doesn't know what loneliness is ...her answer is visit friends and family .....or loved ones which is non existent .....I don't even have anyone or anything to love ....this talk was just about keeping what you already got .....

[@momsspaghetti286]

Loneliness has nothing to do with "wanting to be popular" like wtf

[@misslady9286]

It's the cheerleader / choreographed hand gestures for me! She really thinks she did that...lol, bless her heart!

[@bingbingbong3798]

right? It bothered me so much. She looks like a child doing some choreo in an elementaryschool play at times...

[@armorpro573]

@@bingbingbong3798 Looks like some really bad audition for the Disney Channel

[@elizabethharvester6111]

gimme a P, gimme a U, gimme a K, gimme an E.... yep. cheesy cheerleader vibes

[@internetstrangerdanger3790]

Her, basically : Feeling lonely? Hang out with friends! It's like telling someone with asthma to just "breathe"

[@tradingmelon1470]

Alright this helps A lot I’ll just go make a bunch of friends find a girlfriend and travel around the world man loneliness is easy to overcome

[@ew6588]

Baya Voce, I hope you are reading these comments because you have a lot to learn about loneliness and should not be conducting a discussion on something you obviously know nothing about.

[@salmgeremew8793]

She felt lonely while having friends because she wasn’t connected with people on a deeper level. And while admire her presentation I don’t think she did her research well about loneliness. Some people literally have no one to even speak to.

[@alexatasoula9945]

That's exactly what I was thinking and most ppl in the comment section

[@salmgeremew8793]

Alexa Tasoula People were very harsh towards her. Her level of loneliness may not be as bad as other people so she was being dismissed

[@mrclean2022]

Yea let me tell you how to cure loneliness by telling you how I spend time with my friends...

[@gomezk1493]

Jesse Desousa right like that doesn't make me more lonely than I already was😐people like her are the same people who in high school make you feel lonely because when you talk to them it's a huge circle it always goes straight back to her.

[@sakinagoriyawala6323]

True

[@pavithrawonderskycloud7000]

Some of you dont understand...loneless is not just not having everyone in ur life...sometimes its about having everyone and yet feeling not belonged or closely connected to...i feel that way and so i dont disagree with what she says

[@Knightsbridge256]

Jesse Desousa what if u dnt have friends??

[@Knightsbridge256]

Pavithra WonderSkyCloud very true

[@christaphobia1613]

Wow good so I just need a magic wand to get myself a group of friends and a boyfriend. Thanks 👍

[@Adrian-yi8fl]

And a Magic Carpet to take you all to France!

[@mzatmaca]

-I am lonely man, do you have any cure for my condition? +Share some mutual rituals with your riend - but I have no friends, that's why I'm suffering from loneliness + stick that ritual with your friend, under any condition - Thanks... that was really helpful

[@wylieryanjonlean3661]

First step is to be your best self. Upgrade yourself. In every aspect.

[@tummeti]

If you have friends and family and loved ones to create rituals, you most likely wouldn't be lonely to begin with.

[@lamontwallace4323]

You can tell she has practiced this performance MANY times over

[@LorettaBangBang]

to be fair, EVERY Ted speaker does

[@Zachorazor1]

She's a prat. Needs to be admired. It's actually quite sad.

[@zr_1234]

It goes both ways though. Just because someone reaches out doesn't mean that you are necessarily going to feel seen, heard and valued.

[@bayavoce]

No, not at all. I think you're absolutely right. That's why it's so important to find the people who you feel seed, heard, and valued by.

[@zr_1234]

I think I was just fixating on all the immature and insensitive people I grew up with. Totally need some validating people in my life. Amazing talk by the way!

[@Mollyfolly33]

correct:/

[@larasartori9505]

Vicki Ly

[@Oliver-qd4ee]

She confuses beeing lonely to be alone, sometimes whrn im alone i dont feel lonely and sometimes with people i do, lonelyness comes when you feel alone even if you are with somebody... and sometimes you dont have someone that is a really good friend that understands you or a family that does...

[@folasko5120]

Gotta take it with a grain of salt. I know when you come from a darkness that only you can understand that it feels so compelling to say bitter things. That's the thing about loneliness, you become defensive, start to pity yourself, feel a guilt and worthlessness that never seems to stop building up and it's a real trip down the rabbit hole. But we have to consider that she's only speaking from her experience. The point is, now you have one idea on how to find connection: look for your "Anchor." you dont need a life like hers to find it. Have faith that you will find it your own way. Taking this speech too personally is only going to make you feel worse.

[@cb_norwood]

Eat some salt. Now that's a remedy for isolation that I have not heard before.

[@lauriemtz8616]

Folasko Music I wonder if you might be taking the “bitter” comments personally? People are where they are. Something to ponder

[@Krystaldoll282]

Some are upset because she seemed to miss the mark .. the topic was loneliness and she seems clueless about the subject matter.

[@miraculoustalesofobliviousness]

That so true!thanks for the nice message and not being hateful like 90% of the comments

[@lovelyt8022]

This should’ve been called “what helps me feel better when I’m having an off day” honestly idk wtf it should’ve been titled but definitely NOT the cure to loneliness. Girlllll you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely af. It’s like a cloud that follows you and you are the only one that feels the storm in your body. You clearly never felt loneliness before. It’s deep and dark and hard to crawl out of. Glad you don’t know what it really feels like .

[@FreeD00M]

If you want to feel connected, connect with yourself first. Treat yourself, be kind to yourself, so you don't need others to be kind to you to be happy. Now you can connect with other people, but you don't need to anymore. Much Love.

[@teeahtate]

But, do you still need friends?

[@darkwebgirl]

The beginning bit about going for goals because of the feeling you'll attain and it not being real simply isn't true. I used to be a professional cheerleader. I will never, ever, ever forget the feeling I got waking up after being chosen after the audition, it lasted EVERY SINGLE DAY as part of that team. Every day. You wake up, and for a few seconds you're a blank slate, you barely remember your own name. And then the reality of your life and who you are and what your day is about to be comes rushing back to you, and the realization that you achieved a hard goal that you worked for and that so many others weren't as lucky to achieve is one of the best feelings on the entire planet, I live to recreate that feeling every day.

[@datdankdj8264]

Yeah, no. If you’re lonely, you usually don’t have friends or loved ones to turn to. You’re alone. By yourself. With nobody but your own maddening thoughts to comfort you. I can’t go to France with my friends because I don’t have money to travel, I don’t have a passport, and What few friends I do have, I have to constantly ask myself “do they really care, are they pitying me, or manipulating me” if her methods had a strand of truth woven into them, I probably wouldn’t have to lay awake at night crying until my eyes are bloodshot, or have to separate myself from everyone, even though I hate being alone. I wouldn’t have to look at people with smiles on their faces and ask myself “why can’t that be me?”

[@yunanuna210]

I hate how most ppl talk about loneliness like it would go easily especially those says” go out, meet new ppl, ask them out blah blah” the problem if u trying but they don’t want to go out with u, they bail, they forget, they never call if u don’t, and you’ll probably end up needing someone to talk to but no one to call. what it hurts me mostly when i open up to bunch of ppl about how lonely i feel and they do totally nothing about it i wonder about humanity because i’d never leave someone feels lonely , they don’t feel lonely, they don’t mind it ,they got friends when they want to go out, they don’t feel the crucial level of emptiness you struggle with everyday, so why would they bother ??

[@waterlilynymph]

Interesting her talk was all about friends and family and reconnecting to them…but what if a person has no family left, or friends? Truly this is the hardest thing I have dealt with in my 40s after my separation of living with my husband for ten years. The only thing I have left is to feel connected to nature, but this is not a hug, kiss or cuddle that you need. It’s really a pandemic of loneliness in these times for single people.

[@TheBlackSheepDiaries]

It's a rough road these days, y'all hang tough, we got each other out here.

[@jerry0145]

The ritual doesn’t have to be as grandiose as going to Paris. Join a bowling league, book club, volunteer for a charity, etc. Find something that you are passionate about and try to connect with people with similar interests. And repeat the activities on a periodic basis. Life is about having stuff to look forward to. I came here because I am feeling down about becoming an empty nester but this may be a breakthrough for me. How I always had something to look forward to with my kids, I can make new friends in becoming involved in rituals that I enjoy. Be positive, it will work out.

[@user66568]

Can we please talk?

[@amyyang5698]

I don’t agree with what she says that “hanging out”with friends is the cure to loneliness. It doesn’t make any sense at all. But I do agree with her that make girls or boys talk as a ritual and do that every week might help with loneliness. It works for people who don’t fight for loneliness frequently, but a whole.

[@konan4175]

I feel so lonely and alone at New Year's Eve not to mention undergoing a breakup and searched for contents that helped me ease my loneliness. Apparently this video did not helped me lol. Fellow lonely people, you may check out the TED Talk of Olivia Remes about the same topic, really loved her strategies in overcoming loneliness. :)

[@vapeking466]

I read somewhere that in the US now it's 1 in 3 are lonely! I believe social media and less relationships is causing the majority of the issues.

[@mariapitsillidou8178]

Does a TedTalk about lonliness Talks about pre sleep time with her boyfriend and trips to France with her girlfriends

[@tylermanuel1623]

😂

[@ANIK5261]

true ;-;

[@waynebollman]

This is why I stopped watching Ted Talks. It's shallow.

[@Dan-hz5gx]

@@waynebollman this is Ted x, not Ted Talk so....

[@captaincockpuncher]

Does she even know what anxiety and depression are like? She mentions it but she clearly does not understand it, I feel like when dealing with loneliness knowing what Depression and anxiety, as well as other mental health issues is *very* important

[@jordanshepard8919]

"Feeling lonely? Just go to Paris with your friends!" This woman is clueless about the topic she's presenting on and is infuriatingly oblivious to how her privilege has scrambled her brain cells.

[@futurehofer1564]

thats literally not what she said, congrats on missing the point

[@juliethomas377]

@@futurehofer1564 dude, do u even know what loneliness means ? It's not about travelling of having friends, if u don't know about a subject just don't talk about it, to sound smart

[@futurehofer1564]

@@juliethomas377 I dont know about loneliness, I suffer from it. When did anyone say that it was about traveling or having friends? She SUGGESTED those as ways to be less lonely. Being lonely doesnt necessarily means being alone, more so feeling like you have no one by our side, no one that cares about you. One of the ways to end that is finding someone that does. ONE OF THE. If you think loneliness has no solution thats your problem, dont try to push others into it. I believe there is a way out and I believe I will reach that. if you want to be pessimistic, again, thats on you.

[@juliethomas377]

@@futurehofer1564 and where do find those real friends that care about u, that be on my side no matter what? Not the fake ones..like where do u find those people kind of people aka friends?? And how do u know the "friends" you have rn or You make are Not fake??

[@futurehofer1564]

@@juliethomas377 well if I knew I wouldnt be lonely, but I came to these conclusions: 1. Be patient, making friends takes time, specially establishing deep bonds. 2. Value what you already have. Sometimes, there are already some people in your life (family or some colleagues), try talking more to them. Like she said in the video, maybe try to establish an activity you do with people (like always eating lunch with someone, or every friday playing a game with someone) 3. Don't let yourself go into a negative state of mind. Try to remain positive and confident, whenever you get into a dark place it doesnt help at all, it only makes things worse. 4. Be open minded and put yourself out there. Be more open, like if you dress appropriately, smell great more people will be drawn to you. Also, just be brave and go for it, the toughest part is to start the conversation but after doing it you will be glad you did it and notice that it isnt all that bad. 5. Again, this isnt easy, nothing great comes easy and this is no exception. You will fail, you will meet some bad people, but as long as you keep going and trying, it will eventually happen, you have to believe it. Hope this helps

[@aetherjuice]

"Bruh, just make friends" Yikes, never typing lonely on YT again.

[@negulipersonal]

Wasn't able to watch more than a couple seconds. The talk by Karen Dolva is significantly better. She's a bit nervous, but you can feel the pain she's gone through and somehow got over. Not any particularly useful tips from her either, but it's somewhat inspirational at least. Either way, hope you're better today than at the time of writing that comment. If not, keep struggling and learning about how to deal with loneliness. It doesn't have to be a losing battle.

[@verilyheld]

Yeah, that's what I was told. "If you want friends, be a friend." "People would be your friends if you let them." Okay, what is a friend? Oh, no explanation? I don't let people be my friends- okay, what should I do? No explanation? Gee, thanks for the help!

[@smartcow360]

Go check out the school of life’s videos on loneliness and confidence KZbin they’re actually pretty helpful with this stuff I find

[@disorganizedclutter5513]

there's some good videos on lonelines on youtube

[@disorganizedclutter5513]

@@negulipersonal Karen Dolva's talk is legit

[@musfiqurkashem8614]

KZbin recommended this, they know I am lonely, but I am having a great time reading the comment section and knowing there are many people who struggle just like me. Didn't even bother watching, just went straight to the comments lol

[@xj-vn4eo]

With the opening few minutes, it's evident comment section will be great.

[@lilalila213]

sorry didn't understand: you mean you're happy because you're not the only one lonely?

[@cursed7094]

@@lilalila213 that's what I thought xD

[@lauriemtz8616]

Musfiqur Kashem good strategy 👏🏽

[@SuperReznative]

Hey ,l me too. but ... upon seeing comments from months ago , .lonely again...

[@maleficara]

Hot Take: This is actually a Ted Talk about how to troll the lonely.

[@davidbritton6121]

u know um crank up The motels only the lonley can play but hey if she pure good but lonliness is not anytng its hwat got u to feel that way is the mesage she should be conveying

[@pamellaarias]

🤣 it’s a roast for the lonely and no one got the joke!

[@couldbe8348]

😂

[@michelleu.8925]

something tells me she is still starving for attention and thought going on a ted talk would be a good idea even though she has no idea what she is talking about. smh

[@yahienvros6460]

Exactly! I feel like she's trying to be confident just to be like the previous speakers but she can't fake herself.

[@bobonya6978]

faxx

[@emmavrijburg6676]

Interesting statement

[@Khaterate_Laptopi]

THIS!!!! I thought EXACTLY this!

[@Zachorazor1]

Yep. Just wants to be liked.

[@trevgeasley]

Anyone who is genuinely lonely doesn't go to Europe with their friends. Genuinely lonely people go to bed and hope tomorrow will be better.

[@hanae9742]

this girl is waaaaaay out of her loop. She has no idea that flying to Europe with friends is something out of range for the overwhelmingly vast majority of people. This isn't a solution, it's just a rich white girl thing.

[@darthnihilus7951]

Well said

[@onyabikejoe7643]

I go to bed a hope I don’t wake up.

[@SHlFTEH]

Trev - I think you're 100% right about that. I'm working on something that I hope is an actual cure for loneliness and I was hoping to hear some more of your perspective. Let me know if you want to chat.

[@richardpeate8716]

Or Hopes that tomorrow never comes at all.

[@adamsczech]

She was lonely for 10 minutes and thinks she knows it all...i came here depressed, now im depressed and pissed off...

[@eleanorjones26407]

me too

[@matthewstewart2228]

Exactly... I feel depressed kos I lost my bf... Ummm that’s not depression

[@spitfirarez]

Thank you for your comment! Didn’t even try to watch it. Before I start watching any videos, I read some comments. It’s clear that this one doesn’t worth watching. T☮️💜

[@Reichieru1]

Yeah, this video is for people who already have lots of people in their lives and are good at making friends.

[@matthewstewart2228]

Tedx is now a talk show for people who want to feel important

[@ahiatskarks1770]

This lady doesn’t know what she is talking bout, loneliness is when you can’t connect to anyone but feel the strong desire to have some emotional support, loneliness is when you don’t have friends or family, loneliness is when even if you have friends, you feel left out and betrayed staying with them. Loneliness is missing human interaction to the point where you feel something is wrong with you, loneliness is when your self worth is measured by how important are you to others, Loneliness is the suffocating feeling of drowning in your emotions, hoping for someone to save you but knowing that no one will!

[@lowbodycount]

Hiatus Kark, I'm sorry you have this much pain

[@sebonvlog3230]

I hate myself for relating to this:/

[@swastikasinha3448]

This got me tears I can feel each n every word because I am going through it n I do feel helpless n get anxiety attacks

[@MrJohan66642]

I hope, we all will be saved from loneliness

[@bflame2512]

Being lonely is feeling like a monster from craving some kindness, to share your life with someone, and when you try to do that with someone you feel like they're going to betray you so you feel lonely again, and isolate you unconsciously, because even though you are lonely sick... You dont want to get backstabbed again, so suddenly there's no one, you go to work or to school, eat, return to your house, sleep and repeat, hoping that someday that routine stops and you get destiny finally give you someone who loves you

[@unscriptedpodcast13]

This should actually be renamed as "Ways to strengthen your relations" not "how to overcome loneliness"!

[@myothethan2624]

Can we be friends? Priyadarshini Singh ✌️

[@hardikkarelia3783]

True.

[@silviaov633]

Well done!

[@johndough3125]

@@myothethan2624 Lol, looks like you got your answer...A no in absolute silence

[@myothethan2624]

@@johndough3125 Yeah dude, I’m completely fine with the rejection.

[@theodoreroosevelt7471]

Loneliness IS when you start lying to your colleagues that you've seen some friends during the weekend while you just spent two days alone. loneliness is NOT going to the south of France with a bunch of friends Update 2020: loneliness IS when you go through weeks without using your voice or receiving any text message during lockdown.

[@rudyflores7843]

Lmao I have to do this every Monday

[@BTSArmy-uo5pm]

I feel you

[@localman12]

Your comment wants to make me cry...because I tell people I did things with friends when I have none. I try so hard to connect with someone and no one every try's with me.

[@BTSArmy-uo5pm]

@@localman12 why does this so represent me

[@terrabiker]

I don't have to lie to my colleagues , nobody cares what did i do during weekend :D

[@michealpadraigpriomhuaduin7812]

I finally understand what people mean when they talk about privilage. Like, she may have her issues in life, but it ain't loneliness.

[@mycatisabastard2361]

I absolutely agree. She is speaking from a place of privilege.

[@edelleaa]

yeah.. i don't understand how it even got to the point where this woman is giving a ted talk about loneliness of all things.. and it got approved by other people?

[@michealpadraigpriomhuaduin7812]

@@edelleaa Ted talks get vetted quite a bit. Ted X talks, though, are actually a lot easier to get into. Ted talks are a lot more likely to have credible speakers.

[@edelleaa]

@@michealpadraigpriomhuaduin7812 i never really knew or at least never paid attention that there was a difference between ted and ted x talks, thanks for the info!

[@kellysurfer7302]

She’s delusional af

[@shadowofthemoon9195]

So she basically speaks about how to STAY in connection and nothing about how to make a new connection when you've no friends elatives\partner. Lonely people are called lonely because they don't have those people in their lives... Yes maybe it's useful, but for some time in future when\if i'm going to have anyone, lol.

[@bayavoce]

You hit on an important point. Unfortunately in the time I had, I could only cover a small bit of an extremely complex subject (I didn't come up with the title and I actually think it's a bit misleading). Either way, the reality is that whether you're alone without anyone to turn to or have a community of people surrounding you, loneliness doesn't discriminate. It doesn't only impact people who are psychically alone and I think it's an important misconception. Thanks for your comment.

[@shadowofthemoon9195]

Sorry about saying "she", i didn't know you're going to be reading comments yourself :) You say loneliness does not discriminate, but have you ever tried to be honest and tell someone you've got noone (in case you ever been in the situation of true loneliness). No wonder you'll get the question "why?", what can you answer to that without looking mentally sick\like a loser? If someone confesses to be lonely it's understood by society that there's something wrong with that person and people stay away, making it a closed circle. People tend to think that if you're lonely - it's only your fault. So yes, it discriminates. Not sure about USA, but definitely in my country.

[@matthieurouyer1826]

I'll be your pen pal Ekaterina (I'm guessing this is your correct name, forgive me if I'm wrong) !

[@shadowofthemoon9195]

Yes you spelled it right. Lol sure, check my page facebook.com/katya.zhu

[@matthieurouyer1826]

I added you ! (Matt)

[@maritaschrino8072]

It’s easy to talk about a cure for loneliness when you have friends

[@akashjohnson613]

U always have

[@caterpillur5029]

Wanna be friends?

[@saulv960]

and money to travel around the world

[@Undefinedcreature394]

@@caterpillur5029 ill love to be friends

[@williamg780]

Cure for loneliness according to her: - Have friends - Have friends you spend Monday nights with - have friends you drink rosé with - Have friends you go to Paris with - Have friends you can have long French dinners with - Have friends Cure for loneliness thanks

[@Sonic_sorceress]

haha right??

[@randomname5580]

Normally that’s cool and all, but during quarantine it’s not so easy 😂

[@juanpedro4083]

@@randomname5580 l have schizophrenia and I would like to smoke marijuana. What to do? Can you help me?

[@kayvour8862]

@@randomname5580 wait what? How tf do you even talk to people even without quarantine?

[@beanhead7632]

I can totally make friends that easily and hang out with them...

[@foreveryoung3998]

She clearly has no idea what loneliness feels like

[@ahlikz5639]

@Chris Corbett lmao I should've seen that coming

[@cbass2843]

Chris Corbett I think you mean no attractive women

[@thumbprint7150]

@Chris Corbett - Why genderise the issue?

[@musicpqwer345]

It’s not genderizing it’s facts

[@mariadrinkstea2297]

@Chris Corbett wow that is not okay

[@zigivigi8058]

I mean she has a partner, bunch of friends, travelling here and there, eating in Paris and taking about loneliness. is this some kind of joke going here??

[@studybug2010]

this is why I will only trust a seasoned "introvert" on a subject like this. ..like the saying goes..."never trust a skinny chef"....lol

[@chrisbova9686]

This bonehead would die of loneliness in 1 hour of my life.

[@pjalcntra9119]

Chris Bova same with mine! Hahaha! It’s not that we’re bitter, but she’s a very lucky girl. I have nothing of what she has. I can’t see why she’s complaining. I thought by looking at the title of the talk we’d be listening to someone about finding the value of one’s self and not relying on others, but it’s exactly the opposite. Hahaha. But seriously, since I listened to this talk i’ve been more depressed. Tedtalks should just delete this bs!

[@chrisbova9686]

@@pjalcntra9119 I am very unique, and most people don't like to talk about anything from a perspective not found in the mainstream. I probably think too much of myself, not too little, but I feel uncomfortable trying to connect with anyone who is not out there enough for me.

[@imfunbut2994]

Chris Bova I hope you can find that one person

[@fouseyzch9685]

The problem is i don't have a partner.... I don't have friends to talk with ... I don't have money to travel So That Didn't help

[@SHlFTEH]

I'm working on something that I hope is an actual "cure for loneliness" and I was hoping to hear some more of your perspective. Let me know if you want to chat.

[@bigjohn8407]

Make friends, make money, and make time.

[@Andrey-nh4mj]

I agree, she gives an absolutely useless advice. If you have connections and still lonely then it's definitely a different problem. If you don't have any connections that cure your loneliness, then there is a reason for that and I really expected to hear a solution, but no luck.

[@latinlatino5146]

@@SHlFTEH ayee

[@thumbprint7150]

@Kainan Sugal - Does your money cure loneliness?