The Simple Habits That Helped Me Build A Happy Self-Relationship & Self-Love

[@lagomholly]

What are you thoughts on our self-relationship? ☺ ✨ My Artisan Bread Roll recipe is in the description for you to try too! 😋

[@letterbox203]

"Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you". Paul's emphasis on accurate self-assessment is critically important for personal growth.

[@lottielewis-l8j]

We cannot truly love anyone until we know how to love ourselves first. It's the experience I've had and couldn't be more true.

[@lagomholly]

Perfectly put and sooo true! Thank you for sharing this✨

[@StefanPagacik]

The journey to know and love oneself, and then to share that knowledge and love with others is perhaps the greatest gift we can give ourselves and the world.

[@lagomholly]

What a beautiful way to put it, and so true! Thank you for sharing this!🫶✨

[@fraudebs8786]

I live alone Holly, out of choice too after being in a very long relationship. I've loved getting to know myself, the good bits and not so good! I never really thought much of myself in my younger days, but after living alone for the last 10yrs I actually love who I am now! Sometimes you just need the solitude to really begin to know and love yourself. Such a lovely thought provoking video for people that might need this 💖

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing this! I’m so glad to hear you reaped the many benefits solitude can bring and the strong self relationship you have formed☺️ There is a lot of beauty in solitude should we see and choose to embrace it!🫶✨

[@carlienvandernet7902]

You accomplished so much at this age already. I’m 59 and still hate myself and a lot of the decisions I make, so I hide in a book or keep busy just not to think about everything. You made it absolutely clear in this video how to deal with yourself and I hope that one day I will be able to get comfortable with myself. Thanks…I look up to you 😊

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for your comment, I’m sadden to hear you feel that way as you definitely deserve nothing but the best and are worthy of so much! These things take time and effort to overcome though so don’t be too hard on yourself for feeling this way at times. Be kind to yourself and realise no one is perfect and nor should they want to be - it’s what makes life exciting having imperfections and space to always grow!☺️ Wishing you the best, take care✨

[@markevans7269]

Am beginning to love being alone just me and my fishing rod 🎣🐟 spending time on the river 🏞 if there's one thing I love its the river's .thanks for your video 💐🌷❤

[@lagomholly]

Something very therapeutic and relaxing about being in the company of a body of water, so I resonate with this!✨🏞️ Its very freeing to enjoy such simplicities☺️

[@tolisk.5002]

Every time I watch your videos I feel peace! Thank you A LOT!

[@lagomholly]

Thank you so much!🫶 Really glad you enjoyed this and found it peaceful☺️✨

[@hanchad]

What a lovely and honest video Holly. When you said about not being born with this mentality I did want to add a little spin on that I’ve heard before, the notion that when a baby is born it has full self worth and doesn’t worry about annoying people or have criticisms of itself, like for example it will cry when it wants something, it will sleep when it wants, etc. and that it is society or poor life circumstances that has taught us (sadly often from a young age) that we do not have worth or that it must be achieved or to love ourselves it is indulgent or big headed. Just a little thought. I loved what you said about the conversation with yourself, finding what you like. I’m a believer if you can be your own best friend then you’ll know you’ll always have someone, it is a process I am very much still working on. Lovely video, and ps the bread rolls look (and sound!) delicious, it reminded me of myself when I have to tuck bowls of proving dough next to the radiator! :)

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for your comment and very interesting perspective here, I really enjoyed reading. I do agree that our environment is a significant contribution to the way we view ourselves and the perspectives we form but I do believe we can combat this by turning inwards and utilising self awareness to form our own judgements that better serve us✨ A great perspective though and one that rings very true! Thank you for sharing this and watching☺️🫶

[@hanchad]

@@lagomholly oh yes definitely! I agree that it is a case of relearning (if we have been made to believe we are unworthy for whatever reason) that we do have worth and can love ourselves. It’s having the awareness as you said and then taking steps to cultivating self love again! :)

[@PromisingPod]

I've never really thought of it as a self-relationship. I would just say, it's important to feel comfortable with yourself, just as animals are relaxed with themselves, not being so self-aware and self-conscious and instead, being at ease with yourself. It's hard, because you want to carry out certain actions that are predetermined and other times you want yo just go with the flow and not think too much on it. Perhaps a combination of both where you plan on what you want to do for yourself and then just go with it and let it happen, might be good. Good video, thanks Holly.

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing this! You make a good point comparing the concept to how animals view themselves, being comfortable and content is definitely key! I like your perspective here, I do believe it is a combination of both, but intuition and experience will both guide and tell us which is right I believe!✨

[@SuperSiddhu]

Well articulated, Holly. I do enjoy being alone. At work, I eat my meal alone in peace. Others may mistake it for sadness, but for me it's normal. During COVID, I've experienced loneliness. However, I've come to appreciate the benefits of solitude, such as being able to focus on my work. When I wake up in the morning, I always take a moment to look in the bathroom mirror. It's a chance for me to meet an interesting person every day - myself. Sometimes, I have doubted my own abilities, but I know that I am capable of achieving my goals. I have also noticed that when I speak positively about myself, it has a positive impact on the people around me who are important to me.

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing your honest thoughts and experiences here. I admire your honesty and how solitude has helped you to grow and recognise elements about yourself you hadn’t previously identified. Fundamentally the benefit it brings to your relationships with others is always the main reason I find it so worthwhile as you too have experienced😊 Thank you for watching🫶✨

[@JoeSmithton]

Thank you for this Holly. My self-relationship is definitely something I need to work on but this video has provided much encouragement I will get there.

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing this. It’s a lifelong journey though I believe and a process that will bring back a plethora of rewards along the way!☺️ Wishing you the best✨

[@Games_22s]

Thanks for this video❤, I live a lonely life currently, am focused on self development and business in general and to me a rate this 50.50 of living a lonely life. It does require someone with strong psychology to live a lonely life🙏.

[@lagomholly]

I know what you mean, but I think it’s all about perspective and adopting the right mindset that being “alone” is not something to be feared and when done right, it can be very liberating and rewarding for both yourself and others!✨ Wishing you the best😊

[@TimelordUK]

You are such a lovely person x

[@lagomholly]

Thank you so much☺️🫶✨

[@TraciCrowell]

Thanks for sharing this wonderful message ,ive been working on srlf love now for five years now after divorcing after 24 years .self love is the key to loveing you again and with God 😊❤🎉

[@lagomholly]

I’m so glad this resonated with you too and you are giving yourself extra time following a difficult period🙂 Wishing you the best and take care🫶✨

[@cherylverber7672]

So glad you managed to upload the vlog in the end. And it was so worth the wait. A lovely message today and as always calming and just perfect 👌x

[@lagomholly]

Absolutely!😄 Thank you Cheryl, so glad you enjoyed this!☺️ Appreciate your patience and for watching!✨

[@mawes5500]

We seem to share the same mindset around solitude and building a relationship with oneself and it's very liberating to hear your thoughts about it. I haven't really come across anyone that explains it so well and it gives me confidence in the choices I have made for myself. I have worked very hard on getting to the roots of myself the last decade, uproot what's needed, sow seeds of new things. And I finally feel that I have somehow arrived to a greater capacity within myself. Thank you for sharing all that you do :)

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing this and it’s comforting to hear this resonated with you too!☺️ I am so glad you’ve reaped the many benefits of solitude and your confidence in yourself has grown so much because of it! It’s a life long journey and from my experience it only gets better!🫶✨

[@danielpanizza]

The food you cook for yourself is self-love becoming matter. :) Love the excitement in your eyes.

[@lagomholly]

Thank you! They were so so yummy so the patience was worth it😆😋

[@312John]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this video, Holly. My self-relationship is through introspection and self-reflection. I agree that we, ourselves, come first. Each day I learn that I like and love myself more. This nurtures my self-esteem which allows me to become more selfless.

[@lagomholly]

I love that and am so glad you’ve reaped the many benefits too! It’s a life long process for sure, but the fact you’ve identified how it’s enabled you to grow and continue to do so is inspiring and highlights why it is a worthwhile investment☺️✨

[@jyotsna_tiwari]

Thank you for this empowering video! Your words are a beacon of light, reminding us all to embrace our own worth and find happiness within ourselves. You're not just teaching, you're inspiring us to love ourselves fiercely and unapologetically. You're a true role model for self-love and inner strength. 💖

[@lagomholly]

Thank you very much! Really appreciate your kind words here🥹 You couldn’t have summed it up more perfectly, we are all worthy of love and deserve to be our truest selves! Appreciate your support!🫶✨

[@sandranorth6016]

I love my own company, jusy me, myself and I 😊

[@Transamandy]

Looking back I know if I could be who I am now I would have made better decisions and that knowledge comes from taking the time to learn more about myself and living alone can really help if you use the time correctly and not create every distraction in the world to avoid practicing being silent and still for a moment…it’s very hard to hear anyone with so much chatter going on in this world let alone hearing & describing your own feelings and putting them into words so that you can understand yourself better..also I have found that happiness is not a place or a situation it’s a state of being & that has allowed me to be a much more positive person to myself and to every living thing around me.. I have found that being grateful for everything and giving thanks for everything has become such a huge priority in my life I have finally met someone that I love and have a great respect for…myself…I just wish I could have been this version of myself a long time ago….now Holly please don’t be mad at me for sounding like a broken record but I believe you are one of the most beautiful people that has ever graced our planet💫..bye & thank you 🙏

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing this thought provoking perspective and your experiences here Andy. I couldn’t agree more regarding happiness, it’s not something that can be “found” but that is acquired and felt within and state of being that can be with us right now. The main thing is that you are the person you are today and can recognise the journey you have made to be here… you wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for those experiences and the learning that shaped who you are now!✨ Really appreciate your lovely words that are always so kind🥹 Appreciate you being here!😊

[@Transamandy]

@@lagomholly thank you Holly 🙏

[@kellybrown6149]

Great message😊

[@lagomholly]

Thank you!☺️✨

[@mandyadams918]

Great video Holly. I love living alone and feel my confidence is growing daily as I can now focus on me; exercise, diet and sleep.

[@lagomholly]

I very much agree, it’s a real opportunity to work on ourselves and grow towards being the best we can! So glad to hear you’re reaping the many benefits too!☺️ Wishing you the best🫶✨

[@antonialangner5632]

Beautiful video ❤so wholesome and everything you said is so true…it’s a good motivator to see someone who’s gone through the process of getting to know oneself deeply, to show it can be done, because I am finding it very difficult. Thanks for this amazing video 🙏

[@lagomholly]

Thank you very much! ☺️ I do believe it’s a lifelong journey though and the process never stops - we’re here to constantly learn about ourselves and grow and I think that’s what makes things worthwhile🫶✨

[@mark_tolver]

I don’t think anyone can be truly content with themselves until they fully understand themselves, both the bad and the good parts. Those bad parts of us particularly, reveal themselves when we’re going through bad times and stressful situations which is why we can grow through suffering. We learn to accept we have those negative parts and try to develop strategies to control them so their effects are minimised on both us and the rest of the world around us. Far from easy though! I think being alone, while easier for the more introverted, can still be hard without intermittent, real life human interaction which is why the overall trend towards more people being single for extended periods of time is going to be really tough for a lot of people. Being able to self-reflect helps deal with the negative aspects of being alone but as a society we’re probably going to have to develop more effective and up to date ways of developing social interactions and creating more of that sense of community that people seemed to have decades ago. Anyway, that’s my rambling musings!🙂

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for sharing this mark, this resonated deeply with me and I think you’ve summarised things perfectly that it’s a balancing act between solitude and human interactions✨ I’ve come to find though solitude has really benefited my relationships externally from the reflection and self awareness it brings. I do agree being naturally introverted it comes easier but I do think there is benefit for everyone to know themselves deeply😊 Really appreciate your thoughts here! Thank you for watching☺️

[@abdullahallsultan8275]

Very very nice ❤ You Are such a lovely Person ♥️

[@lagomholly]

Thank you really glad you enjoyed this💛

[@skinsahkpkeskus]

Thank you, I love this kind of content!

[@lagomholly]

Thank you! So glad you enjoyed this!🫶✨

[@sarahhill1644]

Lovely video ❤

[@lagomholly]

Thank you🫶✨

[@stephenmacafee5478]

Fantastic video Holly :-) I can tell you've become a master at using that coffee machine! Lol. I really love when you said "Life is much more easy when you're on your own side" that actually opened my eyes. I have a relationship with God, and I nurture that relationship through spending a lot of quality time with Him, that's my most important relationship. However, my relationship with myself is very lacking at times I admit, and your video reminds me perhaps I need to be kinder to myself. Often how we treat ourselves is how we end up treating others. If I for example, don't have grace towards myself, how can I be graceful towards others? Anyways, I love how you make your own bread, it's actually had me thinking for quite some time.. hmm.. maybe I should try making my own bread. Thank you for the beautiful inspiration as always, Holly :-)

[@lagomholly]

Thank you for your comment Stephen and sharing your thoughts here!✨ There is always opportunity to strengthen our self relationship and it often starts with being kinder and more compassionate with who we are and that we’re not made to be perfect but to learn and grow. I completely agree though, it takes one to know one and we must love ourselves to know how to and give love to others✨ Wishing you the best and thank you for watching!🫶

[@stephenmacafee5478]

@lagomholly All good Holly :-) thank you for your kind words and advice, I always love hearing your perspective. I do need to be kinder and compassionate with myself, thank you for the friendly reminder that I needed. I think it's wonderful you were there for your friend during their tough time by the way. Wishing you all the best too and have a lovely week :-)

[@andy_intruder]

You're face is just a picture when you cook Holly, i can tell you can't wait to taste these Bread Rolls so i'll let you have mine as well seen as it's you haha. Another lovely video as always, hope you're having a lovely day, keep smiling beautiful Holly.

[@lagomholly]

Thank you Andy!😄 They were genuinely delicious and the patience of letting them cool down was worth it😋 Appreciate your support and hope you have a lovely day too!☺️

[@kbi_201]

wonderful video Lagomholly, is your name Holly by the way?

[@lagomholly]

Thank you! Yes I’m called Holly and Lagom is a Swedish philosophy about balance☺️✨

[@user-cu8lw1uc5w]

Hi 😊have a wonderful day🌱 and see you soon🔆 my friend 🐇

[@lagomholly]

Hey there! Thank you so much!✨ I hope you have a wonderful day too☺️🫶

[@thomasthgersen]

I like it