The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen

[@anayuliana6170]

This video makes me realize that you are your own therapist. You are your own support system. You are your own friends.

[@anayuliana6170]

I would say self-compassion is the way we accept ourselves all of our flaws and believe in our goodness and build ourselves to be better

[@ccburro1]

Yes. This talk was an epiphany for me. Having a great therapist experienced with mindfulness-based/self-compassion therapy is a big help while on this “journey”, but, ultimately, she helps us learn how to help ourselves, become our own “best friend”.

[@citytrees1752]

This woman is so gentle she even has trouble imitating a harsh voice.

[@karunapbhatia]

I am glad someone noticed it :) It's hard for Empaths to be otherwise.

[@ergegregreggregregreg8205]

I used to feel proud of myself because of my good grades, when I lost it i crumbled, my sense of self worth was GONE. In glad I came across this video. Everyone talks about raising self esteem but self compassion is so much more important.

[@anshikapriyamvada2317]

Same case bro

[@Lovethegoddess]

@@moondustcompliments5329 I’m very much so proud of you and I hope you see the message you put and be like wow I came so far because you did❤️ keep it up ! You are loved you are worthy

[@amandamccutchin426]

@@moondustcompliments5329 Kim

[@katiedoucet4748]

I feel this so hard

[@dr.gbailey]

Yes, self-compassion is a way of living. Once you feel compassion for yourself you free yourself from feeling your worth depends on success or anything else. It is so much more empowering to be kind, caring, and understanding to ourselves than just boosting our confidence.

[@Rabeyaru]

I have never heard of a voice more kinder and compassionate as Kristin Neff. I could listen to this talk over and over. Thank you!!

[@clairenuttall2320]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤q❤❤❤

[@MrNimtiz]

The way Kristen says 'Okay' is like a warm hug for the mind

[@thepassionatebeing3691]

changed my life in 19 minutes. going to watch this whenever i forget myself.

[@heartworkbykitty7933]

the passionate being Just a friendly reply to remind you to rewatch this. Hopefully all is well and you don’t need it, but just in case... Hugs

[@aaronbuckets1326]

I would recommend that you read her book as well. It’s been really beneficial for me while trying to learn self compassion

[@annabellehull4199]

watch it again

[@muddweed]

“Comparison is an act of violence against the self” - Iyanla Vanzant

[@steffitanshihmay]

Her voice is so beautiful and kind and I can see her love of her work in her eyes.

[@CeciliaEavesWalkerMEd]

True. She is a product of her own work.

[@xxKEVZxx]

Love is patient, Love is kind, and she embodies that completely ❤️

[@WilliamJCroft]

Her work and herself, a gift. Example of a new 'mode' of being.

[@anthonydentice8180]

really? i dnt mind the subject matter but the voice just pisses me off

[@FrogmortonHotchkiss]

@@anthonydentice8180 Why? For example, do you think it's phoney niceness or something like that?

[@MileSnowflake]

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change.” - Carl Rogers

[@haleymitchell1371]

Realizing I was confusing “Pushing myself” from “Punishing myself.” I teared up when I thought about my day and how many times I punished myself for being overweight, not doing the dishes, not cooking the chicken, watching tv all day, and eventually making my self feel bad for feeling bad. No wonder I was having so much anger and depression lately, and I realize something needs to change because what I’m currently doing is not just hurting myself, but my soul and who I’m meant to be.

[@Liisa_011]

Haley...it does help to hear you express my experience...I believed the lies and programming of my Father and Mother who hated each other also,my whole life,divorced at 2.

[@cartergomez5390]

Practice mindfulness by doing yoga and meditation. Yoga means unity. You have to clear your mind and work on your inner self. A little bit like "inner engineering". What this means is that you are managing your emotions and your energy in such a way, that when you experience outside life, you will be able to handle it. Also, practice positive affirmations and visualizations with all the goals you have.

[@bobpurnell6721]

Bless You and Hugs. I can identify.

[@john007abc]

"Confusing 'pushing myself' from 'punishing myself'". So good! Thank you for sharing this! Helped me a lot! 👍🙏

[@maureenhanif4567]

A

[@pedrotojuarez498]

This woman has saved my life. Two years fighting with insomnia just to figure out compassion as a whole concept. I embrace myself now more than ever. And feel beyond grateful!

[@islepresque7149]

I know you wrote the comment to yourself, but somehow I feel warmth in my heart when I read your comment. I guess self-compassion is contagious. Thank you so much for making my day!

[@Peanuts76]

yes, i figured out just recently that we are too harsh to ourself, and become something we hate, a perfectionist (narc) and use violent (psycho's) if things doesn't go our way.... self compassion is the cure.....

[@szymon200000]

How’s your sleep been 10 months later?

[@pedrotojuarez498]

@@szymon200000 It's a thing of the past now. I'm not afraid anymore. I'm anxiety free :)

[@chompet123]

I really thought I have gone crazy. I thought I was starting to hear whispers in my head. Thank God for the comments section. XD

[@marsbernard7912]

lol same i feel u

[@marianunley2422]

Lol

[@Rainbows.unicorns]

Me too hahahahahahaha

[@sugarcookie1592]

1 minute in and I had to stop the video and collect my thoughts

[@lunarcappy]

was looking for this comment lol

[@projectimpactg]

This should be a class in our school system. It would change the way we live with ourselves and with our neighbor.

[@authentic_101]

Absolutely!

[@crucialhabitsforlife]

self-compassion and self-acceptance are two of the most important things in life you can do for yourself.

[@quruxleyqalanjo5485]

Is it diference selfcompasion and self acceptance

[@caroledouillot8858]

@@quruxleyqalanjo5485 i suppose being self compassionate makes you accept yourself as a result with your flaws and uniqueness

[@quruxleyqalanjo5485]

@@caroledouillot8858 absouletly true sis

[@dr.gbailey]

Absolutely. The good news is that if you really practice and feel compassion for yourself, you start accepting yourself with all your parts automatically;)

[@alicepierce3263]

@@quruxleyqalanjo5485 I think self acceptance is part of mindful self-compassion.

[@Fudgeey]

Almost ended in tears listening to this. What she said here was like reading a receipt on my entire existence.

[@alim9160]

@Vic Flair I'm glad to see people like you and me finding so much meaning in having watched this - may we all continue to learn and grow not only in relation with others, but perhaps first and foremost, ourselves so as to heal and better learn to navigate through this world and our experiences. Praying for a continued journey to health and wholesomeness, onwards and upwards!

[@authentic_101]

You're definitely not alone buddy 🙂

[@NabekenProG87]

Let's practice some common humanity then

[@Jazztizz2]

Took some notes. If I got any of the time stamps wrong let me know and I'll fix them. This is such a great talk, not just about the #empowerment of self-compassion but in every single way that this skill affects our lives: 2:35 "For many years psychologists really saw self-esteem as the ultimate marker for mental health and there's a reason for that..." 3:08 American Culture: High self-esteem = special, above average. (Logical impossibility). 4:02 #narcissism levels in college undergrads is the highest ever recorded 4:31 #bullying 4:49 #prejudice 5:09 #success 5:38 #women #supermodels 5:57 ♀ feelings of attractiveness diverges from ♂ in about 3rd grade 6:30 solution = self-compassion ("embracing ourselves as we are flaws an all) and has 3 core components 6:58 1. #Self-Kindness 7:45 2. Common Humanity (shared human experience - where we connect 8:56 3. #Mindfulness (includes ability to recognize our own suffering) 9:56 #motivation 10:18 #cortisol #adrenaline (fight or flight response) triggered by self-criticism so both attacker and attacked body's response is to shut down 11:24 #depression 11:33 #safe-place #care-giving #Oxycontin #opiates (feel good hormones) #evolution (mammals) respond to warmth, gentle touch and soft vocalizations 12:14 #parenting (how to best motivate our #children) - there are two ways; one has long-term negative consequences 13:52 #research strongly supports #compassion 12:42 self compassion offers the benefits of self-esteem (strong mental health, stable sense of self worth) without the pitfalls (#narcissism, social comparison, ego-defensive aggression 15:13 Self-compassion steps in just when self-esteem deserts you 15:30 #autism #autistic kids #challenge faced by Kristin and she found grace under pressure through self-compassion (example given) 18:00 Self-compassion is *not* self-indulgent or selfish because "...the more we are able to keep our hearts open to ourselves, the more we have available to give others..." 18:14 You know how to be a good friend and comfort someone. I invite you to be a good friend to yourself. It's easier than you think and it really could change your life.

[@SamanthaRichardsonWP]

+Niki Flow This is amazing, thank you so much.

[@Jazztizz2]

I'm really glad it was helpful +Samantha Richardson! This talk touched my heart so deeply -- I wanted to remember it really well. ♥.

[@heikika6078]

yesssss thank you!!

[@aymanb7041]

You deserve a nobel peace prize for this! That's gonna make it way easier to rewatch it and recap, thank you!

[@offgridliving1196]

Niki Flow I

[@lindas8898]

I absolutely love minute 17:30: Putting her hands over her heart, she said, "This is so hard right now, darling. I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I'm here for you." I have copied that out to keep at work, thank you.

[@lenas5613]

SO hard. 😥

[@momoshiggles3631]

Kristin Neff is the bomb. I've had her book for years and I'm still alive and well because of this woman. Heed her words - self-esteem is for suckers. Get into self-compassion and free yourself.

[@siiiriously3226]

I am glad you are still here! Well done!

[@Valeria-sx7uv]

My parents unconsciously took the critical approach, because it was how they were raised. The problem with it is not only that our brains don't get motivated this way, but also that people often don't bother to explain how to achieve things. It is easy to say "You should know Math better! Why can't you just bring good grades?!" or smth, but it is hard to explain to child how to learn more effective, study equations and so on. It requires efforts, time, knowledge and patience from parents.

[@nekkinekki4721]

13:31 * *cries in asian* * ...okay jokes aside, this was one of the most relatable ted talks I have ever heard. My parents have always harshly criticized me for studies and ngl it actually worked my grades went high. So I started self criticizing myself too in order to motivate myself since my parents don't criticize me anymore. So I extreme low self compassion, low confidence, anxiety, sometimes self harm, suppress and ignore my feelings a lot, etc etc. But I am doing my best to get out of this years long rut and I will definitely be successful.

[@fleshpuppet2679]

Just Being Grateful to be yourself as being YOURSELF is the first baby steps to self compassion and self worth.

[@alext4183]

This makes me think back to sobbing while home alone at 16 staring at myself in the mirror and genuinely asking "Why are you so mean to me?" It can be so hard to be nice to yourself when self-criticism becomes the norm 99.9% of the time.

[@minificus]

Kristin's voice is special. It comforts me as she talks as if I have been the child she talks about.

[@AnaFlores-il8hp]

"Self compassion is a way of relating to ourselves kindly, embracing ourselves as we are:flaws and all". Love it

[@dr.gbailey]

Exactly, self-compassion is the antidote to self-criticism;)

[@Creasy5678]

She makes an awful lot of sense. If you cannot be kind to yourself, compassionate, how can you ever expect to be to others, really? Really glad I found this.

[@drakedrones]

I am 35, over-weight, not good looking - unable to find anyone who would marry me, have a PhD but cannot find a job..not even a low-paying menial job. Its been 1 year since I have been unemployed...its eating into me now. I am overwhelmed and I am just trying to stay strong and sane. Thanks for the video.

[@lulika08]

You're a beautiful lady. :) Remember to keep stong and know you're not alone. We are all connected.

[@dinishselvaraju]

I only have a diploma at the age of 39 working as a registered nurse. It is comforting to know that i am jot alone in this imperfect world. Thank you Drake.

[@JessyKaye]

I don't have a PHD, but I feel your pain. I'm overweight, getting out of an 8 year marriage to a narcissist that has left me incapable of holding down a job. I have so much mental/emotional work to do until I can begin to take care of myself financially. It feels like I'm a failure and it's so hard to feel like I'll ever get better. But I'll tell you what I tell myself: keep going lady. The world needs that special something that only you have. You're beautiful. Your life has purpose and you have people in your life who love and value you.

[@rfeyman3682]

Welcome to the world of the well educated and unemployed. Fully 2/3rds of the jobs created since the so-called recovery are low wage positions. After working very hard to get ahead in school and business I was unemployed for two years, massively under employed for one year, and now I am unemployed again. Welcome to the new economy - yippie!

[@arianegravenor7453]

R Feyman I feel for all of you, disillusioned folk. Do heed her advice, and find the courage to carry on. You are not alone, and someone, somewhere can benefit from your knowledge and experience and reciprocate in different ways.

[@VerissimusAurelius]

30+ years of AA, which I recommend HIGHLY, but I attended a recovering Dharma meditation and Kristin Neff was brought up...and now I EMBRACE this practice...it makes sense and combats the GUILT I lived with and shame...in a very short time I personally have felt a TREMENDOUS RELIEF. Thank you. I anticipate a revolution towards this as it is so POWERFUL.

[@authentic_101]

Happy for you! Even I'm on a journey towards freeing myself from Shame. And this helped me! Thank you!

[@spiritfilled5758]

Oh dear I do appreciate your talk / teaching. I pray I can imbrace these truths and work toward healing

[@picklepirate]

This is such a great talk. I almost cried when she mentioned little girls’ self esteem taking a nose dive after 3rd grade. It’s so true and becomes a fixation for so much of us going forward.

[@ckmegatron]

If most people in the world thought like this woman, it would be a much, much better place.

[@bowiekung9161]

such a great distinction between self-esteem and self-compassion. one leads to toxic competition and the other leads to warm community.

[@curiouscarpenter3152]

The critical voice in our heads comes from our immediate caregivers. We internalize the critical parent when we are very young... just because you have kids doesn't mean you're a good parent.

[@ukaszferenc5249]

Great talk! Really something that is important. I have spent last 10 years on self-improvement and books alike that were making me feel bad about myself (or I have felt like this and they made it worse). And what I needed was psychotherapy and self-compassion. Life is so different now. Thank you Kristin.

[@authentic_101]

Makes a lot of sense brother! Rejecting ourselves doesn't help us really evolve. I've done the same mistake. Been on self-compassion journey, and it is helping me in a fundamental sense.

[@CoachGayle]

This is so crucial. Learn to give yourself compassion. . . and you will be able to give it and get it from others.

[@salmanisrar3772]

Her self compassion excercises and meditations has helped me sooo much. I have high emotional stability and high self compassion levels now. 💛

[@indikapremarathna8295]

Best ted talks related to my life.found the answer I have been searching for years. Thank you verymuch.

[@YiCaiShan]

I love how she talks! It's reassuring. It's almost maternal, I feel safe :) I don't feel it insults my intelligence...

[@suzypyne9486]

Self-esteem is contingent on success. Self-compassion requires: Being as kind, gentle and encouraging to yourself as you would be to a good friend. Finding the common humanity - how am I the same as others? Mindfulness - acknowledge & validate what is there in the present moment. Self-criticism undermines motivation & may result in shutting down. However when we show ourselves compassion, when we feel safe & comforted we can find ourselves in the optimal mind state to do our best. Self-compassion is not self indulgent; the more we are able to keep our hearts open to ourselves, the more we have available to give to others. Thank you, Kristin.

[@Evanthenerd12345]

I love your comment

[@PHanomaly]

This is what ive done with myself beginning as a teenager. It truly does have a profoud effect on your inner strength to get through tough times and come out resilient in a positive direction. I always remember to be kind to myself because i know that turning against myself is the worst thing i could ever to do, that it only ensures failure and hopelessness. I love my inner being, and it allows me to be far more compassionate to others.❤

[@megansaunders7244]

This is so good that you discovered this at a young age! I'm thirty and only just figuring out how to love myself💜

[@mediacritic]

One of the best TED talks I've seen.

[@SholaT39]

Returning to this video to reinforce what I’ve been learning about self-compassion, I’ve set the speed to 1.5; BEST thing I’ve ever done to listen to Kristin Neff

[@101wrf]

I can't give enough praise to this video! Imagine what kind of world we'd have if everyone knew and internalized what's in this video.

[@krystal9206]

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this as a fellow mom who has been through the autism diagnosis, grief, shame, etc. He has actually taught me a lot of self compassion. To let go of judgement in order to live him as he is.

[@josephfernando4867]

I am an avid follower of tedx talks and every month I think aaaah...i have come across the best tedx talk....but every time I am proved wrong...after watching this talk I must confess it happened again....the best talk according to me at the present moment as i type this in....

[@eunjungchoi9657]

너무 훌륭한 영상이에요. 눈물이 조금 났습니다. 스스로 비판하고 자책하는 성향이 강했어요. 그래서 실패도 두려워했구요. 이제 자기 연민을 실천해보려고 해요.

[@jolovesnailart]

WoW this just WoW. Eyeopening!!! The comparasing between self-compassion and self-asteem made so much sence. Thank you so much 🙏

[@JO-zh9kg]

Thank you Dr.Neff 🌹, You are a Great Doctor, and a Wonderful Mom 😊

[@ASAFYY]

we need more people like her in the world!

[@mundoinvisivelxd1936]

the internet needs more of this ..and less off 4chan or other toxic narcisistic psychopathic places of the internet. ...people of the world need this.

[@PHanomaly]

Then be more of her❤

[@ASAFYY]

@@PHanomaly trying

[@PHanomaly]

@@ASAFYY I seriously believe that when you truly care for yourself and understand how to be there for yourself in the best and worst times, only then can you have deep empathy, understanding and wise compassion for others, only then will you realize how harsh and cruel people are with themselves. I'm very delicate with peoples egos because I dont want to make them beat themselves up, I want them to embrace their imperfect being like I do.

[@castmarco]

Amazing research and beautifully explained. The world is a better place because of the likes of Kristin Neff, Brené Brown, Liz Gilbert, Prince Ea, etc.

[@maggielL77]

Breńe Brown for me 😊

[@BrittReints]

Excellent message! As a parent, I think I'm going to focus more on teaching self compassion than self esteem.

[@crct2004]

Wow, I have been waiting to hear this for 46 years. i need to replay it every day. thank you!

[@wisdomest]

Thank God there is TEDTalks!

[@speechie14u]

This was so what I needed to hear right now. Thank you. I have the same airplane story with my autistic son when he was 2 years old and before he was diagnosed. It was traumatizing. At 52 years of age, I wish I’d heard this talk sooner.

[@lila8008]

This here is a true game changer for real. Self-Compassion is far more beneficial than self-esteem.... I definitely will be exploring this more in my own life. I'm so glad I discovered this Ted Talk. ❤

[@H.Wotton]

I respect Dr. Neff deeply. I loved her book about self-compassion, it changed my life. But I gotta be honest, her therapist-voice sets my teeth on edge.

[@antonellapaolo6270]

I can’t stop crying. I’m extremely grateful about this

[@luisortega4991]

Thank you. This is currently hugely helping me cope with a very tough (and unavoidable) period of my life...

[@GallifreyanCat]

How are you doing now? :)

[@RiddhiMittal]

One of the best talks I've heard. This is life-changing research, with an impact on everything from parenting to schooling and the education system to workplace environments and leadership to even relationships

[@paullahi2091]

You are a very kind soft spoken lady.

[@gabrielajimenez6745]

Reading her book and just watching this to further instill this practice. Emotional well-being here I come!

[@doe8244]

I recently self-harmed, and I knew I had to tell somebody, so I told my guidance counselor, and she told my dad. He was so supportive and kind about it, and didn't press too hard, but he gave me a book and told me about this video because I do have the toxic thoughts that I'm not good enough. I hope so badly this helps

[@craigmorrin1164]

Self-harming is just one more way for people to cope. It is no different than drinking, over-exercising, or over-working. It is OK if you self-harm. Just do it safely.

[@craigmorrin1164]

...and think compassionate and self-loving thoughts about yourself while doing so.

[@SunnyGee-jd6pb]

I think it's good that you were able to inform someone and have support from your dad. And the fact you have awareness of your actions. What's something you like to do when you feel upset that can maybe counteract or even disprove your toxic thoughts? I want you to know that you are special and good enough! And the toxic thoughts you have aren't what I see from what you wrote! I see someone with potential and self-awareness!!

[@lizafitzgerald1097]

I hope that a year later, you're doing better. I used to self harm as a teen and eventually found coping strategies. It is a difficult thing to break.

[@Secilliaa]

Hope ur doing ok bro

[@markahearne3280]

Thank you for the vid. Peace love compassion truth and gentleness always and everywhere. God bless

[@amandakemp3113]

I love practicing gentleness with my self.

[@cheryldigiannurio7880]

There is a lot of power in compassion. Give it to yourself and others. I love what she said about showing compassion to kids concerning their grades. Kids need more compassion from the adults in their lives instead of so much criticism - more self-love.

[@ianwinter90]

This cleared a lot of old fears for me. I realize the most important thing that I have never given myself or others at times is compassion. Thank you so much I love this video!

[@solvirtudazo9540]

Thank you Kristen for enlightening us about self-kindess, common humanity, and mindfulness!

[@LiveTilliDie]

Whispering is only in the beginning, a great talk! Thanks Kristin!

[@najiyahali7116]

her voice is so soothing

[@PamTaylorGlass]

I really needed to watch this today. Thank you Kristin Neff.

[@heikika6078]

I agree totally :)))))

[@RiyasPov]

being gentle and kind to myself is what im doing from now. and that is not selfish of me.

[@judykrings]

I especially appreciate your personal story. Many thanks! Accept your inner critic. Take it by the hand. Accept it. Learn from it. Be compassionate towards it and reap the rewards.

[@j03150315]

The best talk I have listened to! I found myself not able to truly practice self-compassion precisely because I perceived as self-indulgent deep down, and I worried I would become lazy. Your research debunks all those myths our parents and society imposed on us!! Thank you truly so much! I can’t believe this talk was given 11 years ago. It likely will forever be relevant.

[@candykandy]

Steps to self-compassion summarised: 1. Self kindness: Kindness over harsh self judgement. Treat ourselves like you would treat a good friend. 2. Common humanity: how am I the same as others? To be human means to be imperfect. It’s what connects us all. 3. Mindfulness: being with what is in the present moment. Accept we are suffering to give ourselves compassion. Self criticism undermines our motivation.

[@believer2734]

Kristin, I love your soft, kind, soothing voice and you have given us a very important tool to help one struggling. I am so hard on myself and yet I am able to give others such compassion. I am going to start giving myself some. Bless you dear. I bet your son has grown into an amazing young person by now!

[@alisonm5174]

This is great wisdom- it makes perfect sense. Self compassion has to be at the start of all that is good in life. It creates a fullness and presence which I feel is inseparable from spirituality religious or secular. Offering 3 separate components and by implication a 'how to start' guide is a wonderful gift. Thank you and I will try and accept your invitation.

[@DeBoraMRicks]

Excellent! I'd started practicing self-compassion some time ago. But I forget. But earlier today, as I walked through the park, I remembered. Then I "stumbled" upon this video. Thanks for reminding me that I, as much as anyone, deserve my compassion. Yes, this indeed is an idea worth spreading. And I shall.

[@marlyhurtado130]

Thank you Dr. Neff. Extraordinary message that touch one deeply. Your dialogue between the boy and his dad after ‘failing’ at a test as a practical example for self-compassion couldn’t be clearer and more human. Excellent delivery of psychological research presented in a beautiful way. 👏🏻♥️😊

[@wendyackroyd8382]

I have suffered depression most of my life, and have not been enjoying this human experience. I feel like I'm just mad so good to find you

[@blondierooster421]

Omg this vid made me cry! I never ever cry even during really tragic movies...the way that father talked to his son got me...I realized my parents never talked to me without criticism...getting an A was "my duty" and getting a B was a shame to the family...I don't treat myself with compassion cause I am not really used to ig...I always give it but to receive....

[@justthedejavuguy]

I had some tough times and self compassion helped me to accept reality which is really the very hard to swallow pill. I feel so relatable to this, thank you.

[@openmindstudio7969]

When we see ourselves as connected to all others and not in competition with all others, we are well on our way to positive well being. Thank you for sharing your important research.

[@dianelitten2511]

Thank you so very much for your talk and topic. I am going through the most difficult time in my life, and part of my mantra is, "How can I love myself right now? What would that look like to me? So, when I am in the middle of my 25th day of two to three hours of sleep per evening, instead of cursing and swearing, like was my usual tactic which never got me anywhere but soreness from hitting the wall, kicking the wall, literally, etc., I ask myself those questions and then I start to say thank you, and continue saying thank you until I get an idea or fall back to sleep. One evening while I was up, I turned on Hay House Radio and was looking for my favorite author. Instead, I came across a show entitled, "Loving Kindness", and decided to listen to two of the shows on archive. I was so inspired that I was able to relax and my mood and lighten up. I was able to get back to sleep but, more importantly, I had listened to some information on that show that i could inspire others with. Thanks for listening.

[@blairashby5652]

Thank you Kristin Neff. This is a beautiful message. It's wonderful you're helping more people learn this.

[@TheSleezyBishop]

That was seriously the best talk I've ever heard from TED Talks, really changed my perspective on self esteem and self compassion! Thank you Kristin!

[@marydelaney367]

This presentation was so enlightening. We probably know deep down that receiving harsh criticism isn't motivating but how nice to hear that there is research to prove it. I want to hear more about the practice of self-compassion.

[@bonnieschnautznd]

I've listened to this a couple times as it's so powerful and in alignment with what I'm studying. Thank you.

[@SamanthaRichardsonWP]

This is such an important idea worth spreading - Kristin Neff hits the nail on the head with this 'epidemic of narcissism' our society faces. As someone who has struggled with depression, I do believe we would all benefit from greater self-compassion.

[@zohracassim8612]

Thank you so much for telling me about Thank you Allah ameen

[@zohracassim8612]

Thank you Kristin for your self support it was pleasure to listen to you

[@I_am_nobody2025]

I have tears in my eyes.....as a woman I know this is so important for every women to watch and embrace.......plz share as much as possible

[@nancylamb1117]

This is so important and I'm so grateful to be here...

[@itoilinks]

So good, so important! "Love thy neighbour as thyself"..

[@etumnumatthew2286]

Beautiful thoughts on self compassion. I clearly understood how high self esteem can be harm to ourselves. Thank you for this clarity. I'll adopt self compassion more.

[@alexjamesdf]

Your talk is the most profound I've witnessed so far through any channel. I actually cried, a healing cry. You switched on a part of my brain that had been lost to low self esteem. The only thing you are wrong about is that look-based self esteem issues don't affect males. Ever since early school I assumed I was not 'cool enough' despite regular compliments on my looks. As a man its only got harder, ever since acne in my 20's. I wanted to be better looking than everyone. I thank you for so much!

[@Evanthenerd12345]

Hey man, that's awesome! How are you going now?

[@ELRosas13]

I love this! I watch this over and over and every time I learn something new! Thank you so much for your research

[@Mr.Gratitude]

So amazing and genuinely narrated. It's 💯 true, it's starts with you allowing yourself to be compassionate towards yourself. So grateful for being able to listen to this, thank you so much. ❤

[@pmw3839]

Very interesting and helpful. Never thought about this before, but makes a lot of sense. No wonder Buddhism is so popular with westerners. What a great concept. And very well delivered.

[@Molly-sh4ng]

Simple. Exacting. Thorough.

[@alexanderpantoja882]

This was seriously amazing. I was dealing with heavy heavy depression and anxiety, this helped me identify so many things about myself, people lack so much self compassion. We forget to be kind to our own minds. Thank you so much for this.

[@CatherineGuimard-Payen]

@kristinneff a huge thank you I have been a bumbling fool all this time and hope that my children will now see and feel the difference... My child was diagnosed asperges (soon) but in his late late teens ... so for 3 yrs has been hiding in his room...

[@maisieliberty1319]

I love her family. I knew as soon as it started who she was. You have to read the horse boy and the long ride home if you haven't. Her autistic son rowan was healed in many aspects of his autism thanks to a horse and the shamans of Mongolia. Truly inspirational! :D

[@BiMidbar_Farm]

Maisie Moo oh of course!

[@mariavaldez2143]

Self compassion give us the opportunity to really embrace the good and the bad ares of us and become more a a whole and complete people. I just hope that if we practice self compassion the world would be a better place.

[@Octavus5]

...but self compassion can also give people who do bad things feelings of solace. It's a double edged sword.

[@Evanthenerd12345]

@@Octavus5 Yes!