The Struggles After Leaving the Watchtower

[@EMMANUELSOBGA]

I have never stayed and listened to someone for more than an hour in KZbin except for music.Much respect to this man.

[@feralwave250]

"I can't think of anything you can be more dedicated too and know LESS about".......outstanding. The most shocking thing for me to swallow when I left. Eleven year elder used at every level of the organization and I literally knew nothing about this, despite being raised in it, baptizing people, marrying people and disciplining people. I went on a journey to learn while I was still a JW. It took years of documents, reading, visiting grave sites, visiting Brooklyn, etc. Years. What I found was horrifyingly bad. And I never knew any of it. EXCELLENT DISCOURSE!!!!

[@Ava2969ny]

@Feral Wave - I know my comment is late, but what do you mean by "visiting grave sites," in reference to the horrifying things you found?

[@gennaropannelli7138]

@@Ava2969ny intende la tomba di Russell tomba e piramide ora tolta fatta scomparire perche un libro ha raccontato tutta la storia ,poi la società Watchtower e atata associata a l'ONU allora distanziavano solo poche miglia ,e investimenti con società di cui la FILIP MORRIS ERA A CAPO IL PIU GRANDE PRODUTTORE DI SIGARETTE AL MONDO e poi vieta di fumare,.da L'ITALIA SALUTI. tanti misfatti che la società Watchtower ha sempre commesso

[@rebeccabrooks4948]

@@Ava2969ny I think he's talking about the Freemason cemeteries that is where Russell is buried. Russell had a huge pyramid on top of his grave with an All-Seeing Eye until the society realize that people were coming there and visiting that and thinking why is there pyramid on his grave that has to do with the occult and Freemasons. I don't know if you've ever heard of the Illuminati. But the Illuminati is part of Satan the devil's world. And so is the Freemasons. So that maybe what he's talking about

[@alfredt5493]

​@Ava2969ny Maybe he ment JW founder's Charles Taze Russell grave. He have pyramid monument built on it.

[@HabitualEcstasy]

Now this is what I call NEW LIGHT

[@brenttesterman3171]

Spot on, good Sir! What a beautifully painful and accurate analogy! I dated a lovely lady that was born and raised as a JW and she was in the process of trying to fade. After preparing a dinner for us, I raised a glass of apple cider and said 'cheers'! She was was visibly taken aback. Then she seemed to realize that she was safe and wasn't doing anything wrong. I'll never forget the smile that grew on her face in recognition, that it was okay to relax and enjoy life. Peace

[@billiewandaferguson2821]

So true! Even something as simple as a toast triggers a fear response, or at least a conscious prick! It has taken me 5 years to be able to rewrite a lot of that program. Now when I have a response like that I look at it, acknowledge it, then smile and feel gratitude that I am now allowing myself to live a fuller richer life!

[@thekidsmomshortie]

Well, you know...the Sister Beagles (busy bodies)...tell a graph, tell a friend, tell a phone.

[@gennaropannelli7138]

Si la società Watchtower crea delle paure delle preoccupazioni che rimangono veri incubi mentali nei suoi aderenti ,brindare in una bella serata a un incontro a una persona ,oa un momento di felicita ,perche dovrebbe offendere Dio ,un brindisi con una persona dolce e come una carezza sulla guancia, e ha Dio fa sicuramente piacere duo o piu personi che sono felici in quei pochi momenti di affetti sinceri con chi si vuole bene ,la società Watchtower divide tutto quello che le personi si costruiscono come affetto o amore .da L'ITALIA.

[@iyesis]

Such a small thing to notice but it's totally apart of the deprogramming

[@louiscassar2537]

I only wish there was something more powerful from thumbs up button! One of the best talks I ever heard from ex jw!

[@bethschmidt1304]

Louis Cassar yessss amazing I am sharing this everywhere

[@loriechristin9485]

@@bethschmidt1304 THE BOMB!!! 💣💥

[@billiewandaferguson2821]

I agree!

[@annabizaro-doo-dah]

I agree. That Maya Angelou quote is so heartbreakingly true!!

[@andejode]

Ooooh yes!!!!

[@MelissaBrownapt215]

This was so spot on. He nailed the stages. I went through them all. I'm in the final stage. Recently, I cut back on ex-JW communication. I'm not cutting them out. I just don't want my life to be focused on the exJW status.

[@CarolineJoyAmico]

Yesss!!!

[@ericbrown7517]

The Best Speech ever given on the subject. Now I really get why it's so hard to see the truth without going back and staying in this Cult!!! Some how I feel guilty for not paying $1000.00 for this Class!!!😊

[@coachrod333]

Hahaha

[@christinesotelo7655]

Oh my God. Thank you for this! If only I had support like this when I was 28. I’m now one of those 73 year olds who look back and grieve my life! Lost family, no one to listen to me, divorce, abandonment, shunning...Oh my God, how I thank you for this lecture. I’ve been stuck in fear, grief, anger all my life because no doctor, no therapist, no one could relate. I have that untold story inside. Back then, there was no support. I remember the shunning, the losses, the PTSD still causes the horrific dreams. People would actually cross the streets rather than pass me. But I was courageous to leave and get my little kids out. Yes. But to lose marriage, family, health, and keep on living-NO Armeggedon in site to end suffering even if for me it meant destruction...wow. It’s been hard. Thank you now, late in my life of trying yet never really fitting in anywhere, for the support in these, my final years.

[@axiompathos7570]

you have no idea how helpful this has been, I had a cathartic moment and broke down, then started planning MY OWN LIFE the day after...

[@trierchick]

Awesome. Am ex-mormon but can totally relate to soooooo much of the programming and feelings of being the chosen people. They start religious classes for the kids at 18 months. No wonder by the time they are 8 and baptized they are indoctrinated completely. Began doubting at 18 but afraid to leave till I was 64. So much happier and secure in Gods love than ever. Keep up the good work and God bless you.

[@adechalus]

The elders will cut a conversation short once someone ask questions. The apostate label is their excuse to shut down anyone with questions because they’re conditioned out of fear to avoid asking questions. I remember having questions and training myself to believe that ‘Jehovah will reveal all things in his time so we shouldn’t question him”’ But the questions wasn’t for Jehovah it was for these men who has conditioned our minds in believing that asking questions about what these men say is the same as questioning Jehovah. Also Matthew 7:7 says “ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and it will be opened to you “ So God will accept my questions. Who are these men that I’m not to ask them questions ??? Above God Almighty?

[@Elroi3310]

You should give the talks at assemblies

[@lawrencevincent1]

ALL the questions go to the 8 creeps at the top..ROFL

[@tanyadepoalo9085]

Well said!

[@jasmineduran6731]

April D I never thought about it like that before. 🤔 It seems like questioning these men is like questioning God.

[@feralwave250]

Ironic, isn't it? You can't find one instance where Jesus denied a question. In fact, he often revealed VERY pertinent information to women; something the Watchtower/elders will not do. John 4 is an entire story of him telling a woman he is the Messiah....before he told ANYONE ELSE. And not just a woman, but a highly immoral one. As a former elder, MOST don't now anything about the Bible or their own literature, so they shut you down.

[@markdenouden5607]

Thank you for this talk . It helps me to go on and forget them with their behaviour. But i feel sorry about all the people of JW stuck in their life

[@andromedav.884]

Wow! Amazing talk, Sir! I am not an Ex JW but there is something for EVERYONE in this message. Beautiful, inspiring and I love your poems! 👍✨💚✨

[@CassielovesYahusha]

This well presented talk is good food for anyone who was involved in a cultic organization. Thank you for posting.

[@cherylseebreth3926]

The only exjw motivational speaker I've heard. Great great great lecture. You are the boss

[@runawayslave1724]

I specialised in book production and printed some best selling books. I met Prime Ministers etc. at book launches and yet in 30 years not one brother asked me what I did for a job. I was a woman and a nobody. Thank you for your inspiring words!!

[@joanferguson4194]

I noted this early on. Women were tolerated, seen as second rate to men and nobody gave a damn what you thought about anything. Took note of how this played out across the board, one of the many questionable things that finally impelled me to leave before my brain turned to porridge.

[@deedaartyst]

Mannnnnnnn, such terrible dumbness.go forward

[@Beleen-gw3vw]

that’s my stumbling stone! thank you!

[@marycurlee2163]

That's so wild l was born in JW when I was little l was told to nerver go to the public library before I got grown l went the library only three times the first time I was scared to death it was the school library a friend talk me into it and went with me l saw a book l wanted to take out but was scared to the librarian said you can have the book it's your. My first beauty book. the other two times I got in trouble and was told not to ever step foot in there again. When l got grown and was disfollowship l push my one year old son in a stroller walk to the library l was like a child excited about all the different types of books l was like there is a book about everything WOW the librarian look at me like you really never seen these kind of books no books on sewing teaching your child to swim which is one of the books that save my son life because after a week of teaching my son to swim in the tub he fall in tub full of water but brought his up l was cooking so only heard his screaming when ran into the bathroom he was standing up in the tub full of water Glory be to God. I knew more then that something not right able being a JW then the search was one l start going to Christian book stores found book from ex JW lt all started to come together. Now in 51 years old l took 30 years to fully come out but enjoyed the grow l had to do like Coach Rod did,💯 l am in College getting a degree in Early childhood education working at a daycare going to go for a bachelor degree master degree in education alone with a psychiatric major plus l want to write books. I am excited about what God has for me even more 😂😂😂 l give God the Father and Son all the glory.

[@deedaartyst]

@@marycurlee2163 mannnnnnnnnn, dats craaaazy, uvknow the things parents said and believed from this religion, i could totally see this being " done away with" like they say iz gonna happen to religion n general. Soo sorry for your lost yrs, but yeaa we gotta move on somehow. Thankful your child was able 2 survive from your "rebelliousness".

[@mariafagbuyi5516]

Thank you. This is just what I need. I am on my way out of the JW after 37 years. It is difficult to find a new balance. This advice really helps me.

[@incognitofool6516]

Hang in there. I finally faded last year. After 30 years of being indoctrinated, it was hard. But it is possible

[@mariafagbuyi5516]

@@incognitofool6516 Thank you for giving me courage.

[@lillyfields5626]

I'm in the same boat as you currently! Hang in there also and congrats on being brave!! :)

[@grammyj17988]

Maria Fagbuyi ~ just remember Jesus Christ LOVES YOU & died to make you FREE!

[@mariafagbuyi5516]

@@lillyfields5626 you too. We can make it

[@jlux7898]

Two minutes in and I want to hear everything he has to say. Great speaker!

[@befree5641]

Your talk was for everybody, not just Witnesses. I just sent your talk to both my Sons, this has to help them. You’re a true inspiration. Thank you.

[@pritendintasleap7457]

I'm in tears... I'm only half way through, and this is one of the best speeches I've heard on this subject. (You lost me for a second with the confidence push exercise lol)

[@malba411]

I still need to hear this. Keep asking myself why did I not wake up sooner. My anger and hurt took years. I am so grateful that there is now support groups and utube to help other's make it thru. Knowing you are Not alone helps the healing. Excellent talk.

[@AV-th7uy]

This!!!!! This was so beautiful! Wow!!!! The whole thing about finding an identity - learning who YOU are. That was such a long and hard lesson I had to learn when I left the org...and everyday am still learning, 10yrs later! It is SO important to fig yourself out...take your time learning what you like and dont like, etc.

[@queue555]

So which false religion are you with now?

[@WJTM88]

@@queue555 How does it feel to pretend like you agree with the teachings of JW when in reality you don't. I feel sorry for you because you live a double life. Pretend you agree with WT theology but then don't practice it that is sad jt

[@gabrielkoncowski9663]

Great comments I agree.thks

[@gennaropannelli7138]

@@queue555 Qualsiasi falsa religine e migliore di questi falsi profeti che ingannano i propri fratelli con i loro investimenti con tutte le societa del mondo ,controlla JP MORGAN E LA SOCIETÀ WATCHTOWER, HA IL 7%100 DI AZIONI INVESTITE INVESTIMENTI IN ARMAMENTI, POI NON FANNO LA GUERRA ,CON LA FILIP MORRIS E POI NON FUMANO ,CON L'ONU E POI NON VOTANO IN POLITICA, E MOLTO ALTRO ANCORA EPPURE I TESTIMONI DI GEOVA NON SANNO NULLA ,RIV 18:4; USCITE DA ESSA O POPOLO MIO DICE GEOVA SE NON VORRETE PARTECIPARE AI SUOI PECCATI, DA L'ITALIA.

[@IntrovertidoTieneFlow]

I was raised in it, but it never seemed right. Once I moved away from family I became a man of truth after being homeless and realized that everything that I was taught to believe was a lie. I have been finding myself for the last 2 years and loving it.

[@alphacentauri2134]

Wow, you're a genius to have come up with the analogy: in prison, born in prison, raised in prison! There're many ExJW KZbinrs but I haven't come across anyone coming out and giving a speech! And what a great speech it is!

[@alphaecka1949]

What u. Meana ?? Commonsense tell u they removed the shackles from ur feet on put in ur brain ..your all are SocioEconomic prisoners..how can u not reconize that .mind. Controlked. M.K.U. ULTRA what is hard to desifere bout that..like the president is a Popoette he is selected not elected. U all think prisoners are the ones behind barrs ..one thing to piont it out ..let ur concious mind and spirit tell u how to be combatten

[@1414141x]

Whether you are a JW, a Mormon, a Muslim, a Hindu or just someone who is lost in their life this is an inspiring speech and relevant to everyone who needs to change their path.

[@vivianearaujo6758]

I love your talk. I have been in therapy for 6 years now and I am finally building a life of my own. It took me, and still takes, a lot of work to make peace with my past. But I have hope now that I will be able to make myself a life worth living.

[@justpde]

Not myself having been nor am a JW ( I have friends who are), this man's talk is powerful applied to any concern in life. One of the best talks I have ever encountered.

[@KN-mq9ce]

I have bumped onto your channel, yesterday and I have just immersed myself in your videos the whole day today. I feel like this what I need right now. I have made my research, resigned from the stupid elder position, left the org and I felt like I needed new perspective in life and shake off all the hurt and the brainwash that I have endured for years and your videos managed to fill that void. Thank you very much, with love from South Africa.

[@KN-mq9ce]

@Gary BarlowWhat! 🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@mthokozisilanga4497]

SA jdub Africana Hola Mzansi! I am glad that there is light shinnig down South.

[@cherylseebreth3926]

So happy to know that you woke up my brother. I am from the Caribbean but woke up while I lived in Africa.

[@ernestdooley6409]

@@cherylseebreth3926 woke up??? Anybody who is stupid enough 2 leave Jehovah has not awaken but is clearly in darknesd.

[@jenburlock377]

Welcome to your new found freedom, now go live your life to the fullest while helping those who don't know about this destructive cult/org!

[@JustEddieGaming]

Very powerful talk, I would have loved this 10 years ago, but I am glad I did what he talked about, kept working on re-wiring my brain. At this point in my life, I am happy and I'm on the verge of going for the life I really wanted. Hopefully, others who leave that destructive religion finds peace and finds a way to move forward as well. Peace and love.

[@TBillingsBrand]

This was such an amazing talk. I am not nor have I ever been a witness but we can apply this to every area of our lives

[@jeanettedawson8500]

This is like therapy to know that other people are going through the same thing and are rising above it. Being a JW was the best thing in my life, because it kept my mind filtered and safe, yet it was the worst. It remind me of the song " Because of you i never strayed too far from the sidewalk". And be aware a lot of these people have influence and will sabotage you to fail if they get you in their path and stalk you until you return.

[@jeanettedawson8500]

Excellent talk. I a ppreciate you.

[@lisajane4330]

Listening to this was so therapeutic, thank you.

[@cindyluwho72]

Thank you: Present Stage #3.. Anger & hurt... My situation was never kept a "confidential matter" as the elders promised, so the shunning already started before any "judicial action" has been announced. I'm hurt that family doesn't love me enough to listen to my reasons. I'm angry that they want to elongate the process & keep asking questions they either already have the answer to or have no business knowing about.. Ready to move on to step 4 & rebuild my new happiness ❤

[@alyceoakley5953]

By far, the best outlook on having been in the JW religion and the path out. Thank you!

[@johnnyruins9025]

Well said Coach Rod you are an excellent speaker.

[@janiaburns7662]

I was the sister the elders would avoid calling on because I did extra research and didn't answer verbatim from the paragraph. A few elders and some JWs did praise my comments, but for the most part, many elders avoided calling on me, Yes it is true that being a JW becomes your identity, therefore being an ex-JW can also become your identity without finding your true self. Moreover, I have heard many JWS expressed feelings of being special and superior to any "worldly" person and as their saviors.

[@jasmineduran6731]

Jania B I noticed that they put themselves above worldly people and it’s so arrogant.

[@birdyelke775]

Instead many of us common people will told them that they're the puppets of the world, and the Bethel's had imprison them, I still do it, cause after trying to tell them how they'd no excused now that they're roaming the street with the finest IPAD , they can't remained blind. every secrets is out about JWH... before pointing fingers on others, look at your hand pointing back to you, with three fingers toward you.. your laundry stink!! no hard feeling!! Yeah!

[@livingwithtandj8956]

You said every single thing that I’ve felt for years!!!! I’m tired of living the lie. I love my family and I’ll respect whatever decision that they choose to make. I understand but I have to be true to me and my children. My son left when he was 17 and he’s now 23. My daughter is 7 and it’s all she’s known. I just want out as peacefully and gracefully as possible. I love the comment about the label of being disfellowshipped. I have to keep that in the front of my mind.

[@coachrod333]

Let me know if you want to talk.

[@livingwithtandj8956]

What would be the best way to contact you?

[@gennaropannelli7138]

Proteggi la tua famiglia non permettere a nessuno di perderla, e un tuo obbligo verso Dio e verso te stesso ,sii cauto e pacifico con tutti .da L'ITALIA

[@carmelovella9728]

Who is stopping you , lieyer,, , go where? Jump

[@andregooden2098]

This video is gold! I wish i could have watched this 20 years ago!

[@Fabijola555xjwc]

Andre Gooden if only the public talks were this intense and interesting. Then we wouldn’t have been all falling asleep in the meetings 🤣🤣

[@FeliciaThomas4asl]

at 61 years old me too. but its not too late. we have breath and life. Kernel Sanders open his first KFC at 72 years old

[@bernadettekelly2772]

Me Too ,me too!!

[@bernadettekelly2772]

@@Fabijola555xjwcThe meetings ate rehashed !! And predicted to the point of Boring Boring and Boring!

[@carolynstevenson9085]

I left & went back because I thought it was the Truth. After returning every Truth had gotten new light, the light got brighter. Doubting , fear couldn't keep me there. Been gone the 2nd time for 6yrs. My light gott Brighter, because of having the courage it wasn't the Truth. I was really Hurt more so than Angry, because I really was dedicated to the belief. Bamboozle is the word I often the use, I decided on a date to leave, I past up a carrier , married someone who I really didn't know. 6yrs later it is the best thing I could ever have done. My Blessing is I don't blame JW , I use it as maybe this is what I needed to do to get to where I am. I'm grateful that I was allowed the opportunity to know that I saw that it wasn't the Truth. Listening to you enlightenment me to know that we can move on. I have not allow myself to pick up a religion at this point. Mentally It hard to listen to most religion. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@justkea]

Excellent!!!!!!!!!!!! Every last word!! I can relate to this in so many ways! Thankfully I got out in time to be able to recover and get a second chance at a free life.

[@john_carter8243]

43:00 i'm a grown man and I CRIED LIKE A LITTLE GIRL! most speakers reach my head... you reached my heart!

[@broomhilda6115]

They really did hurt us didn't they?

[@john_carter8243]

@@broomhilda6115 you got it Broom... what year did it happen to you?

[@FeliciaThomas4asl]

Yes John I agree!

[@miazas149]

They really did hurt us... 4,5 years now...

[@john_carter8243]

@@miazas149 Hang in there Maria!

[@jimbobaggans1564]

Best video on the internet! Probably the most accurate description of my way of thinking. I had to rewire my mind fifty years ago. It's not an instantaneous thing. It takes awhile. But anyone can do it.

[@jenburlock377]

This was so enlightening, even though I have been out for 13 yrs! And you are so spot on with all your reasoning, and tips for those who are struggling no matter how old they are.

[@tquabba]

The information in this video is an incredibly empowering dose of hard-hitting common sense that leaves the viewer no choice but to continue towards their authentic self. Thank you for uploading this talk. My Dad shared it with me yesterday, and I've finished watching it for the second time. The ideas of letting go of resentment and focusing on gratitude are wonderfully articulated. A beautiful gift. Thank you

[@jlux7898]

I am appreciating this speech so much. You're telling my story. Didn't realize I was courageous for leaving till told by a therapist. After many years of struggling with anger, resentment and thoughts of ending me, from the damage caused by that org, I fought with my fears and doubts and became a stronger, more determined me. Still working out some kinks in the wiring, which is why your words are really resonating with me and helping put some lost pieces together. Remembering just how impactful that religion is on lives. Thank you. Subscribed!

[@laali-miller4463]

J lux. My Therapist told me i was Brave as well.... she had Plently of witnesses that were still active as Patient's. And she told me they All needed to be disfellowshipped...Lol. They choose to keep their lives a Secret and to scared or to proud to go to that back room. But would judge someone like me ALLLL DAY! She knew some stuff. And told me i was Brave and Strong to face things head on.

[@carmelovella9728]

Why , you lieyer, what they done wrong to you, The teaching is from the Bible, why? Why you lieyer,, you don't like the narrow road,, semple,, you don't whant to follow Jesus,, and do the of his Father Jehovah,, semple,, you not a sheep and love tge truth , and honesty,, ,, Jehovah is the Truth God , what they teach not there , is what Jesus the head of the organisation, , why, you say bad things , you don't like just livee , semple ,

[@bigmyke587]

Awesome.... this should be broadcast across every network in every country...

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

Ever considered your Israelite heritage?

[@mrk1075]

No, this story doesn’t help you build a foundation for the real life. This guys story is only to live for the now.

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

@Big Myke I guess you haven’t considered your heritage as an Israelite descendant. Perhaps you’re very busy seeking validation and approval from white people. Particularly those lovely alabaster snow bunnies 🐰. Well, enjoy! Hope it’s worth losing salvation for.

[@queue555]

@@arrellehnisrael8229 I agree with you. Another jw hater. Like he's going to decrease their global congregation. Its always thexsame ' they want to do what they want to do'. I know alot of jws who are quite happy as they are. Families too. They have good solid marriages. Theres a reason for that. They dont mind distancing themselves from tainted people this. They dont mind being ' out' of the things Jehovah does not approve of.

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

According to JWs Jehovah doesn’t approve of beards. Yeah, that’s a clear sign that the TRUTH is elsewhere.

[@saracarlson-kringle]

Thank you, Coach Rod...you are the right man, with the right message, at the right time.

[@mildredstallworth4914]

This talk hit on so many levels for so many people. Write your own book, live the life you were meant to live.

[@deedaartyst]

Rite, mannnn e were robbed

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

The problem with us Black people is we worship white people not GOD.

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

@Derwin Davis For Black people... whites introduced us to GOD and in all drawings and films... God is Caucasian. White people named themselves white and "coincidentally" named my people Black. White associated with positive connotations and Black is the exact opposite, negative! In the bible white skin is a curse from God in this world its a blessing. White people validate all truth. Information from non white sources are deemed unreliable. JOEL 3 prophesies that Armageddon is God's judgement on all nations for enslaving the Israelites, removing them from their heritage, culture etc.., and scattering them all around the world. Only a few people can discern who the true Israelites are from that statement alone. Every Empire from EGYPT to AMERICA has enslaved the Israelites... I bet you still can't discern who we are...(smh)!

[@deedaartyst]

@Derwin Davis ahhh, good 1.

[@deedaartyst]

@Derwin Davis say again, what do u mean?? I dnt get it.

[@adilysreyes2904]

What an amazing speech!! So inspiring. Thank you 🙏

[@soniagreene6248]

This man is so intelligent .

[@patriciabanse]

Thank you for your powerful speaking. You are so strong, dear brother!

[@carlsands4060]

Absolutely excellent!!! You definitely speak the truth. Thank you brother.

[@ron4498]

Just found this Video today, Coach Rod you are not only a outstanding speaker, but me being a X-JW going way back some 45-Years ago, and NEVER went back or even would look back for that matter, I can assure you , as well as anyone else here that is viewing this video, for the very first time, everything Rod says is ( ALL ) 100% so true.

[@MsHelper2]

Your analogies are so on point. I just found you on here, and so delighted that I did. Thank you for sharing your encouraging words (and poetry)!!!

[@marie-clairedelongchamp1330]

L Johnson me too! 😌

[@jeanettedawson8500]

I thank God for never leaving or forsaking me. He kept me through all of the confusion, and I'm still a good, loving and kind person who will trust God and his words until I die. I believe and trust in Jesus my strong deliveror and defender.

[@720reddog]

“Public truth telling is a form of recovery, especially when combined with social action. Sharing traumatic experiences with others enables victims to reconstruct repressed memory, mourn loss, and master helplessness, which is trauma's essential insult. And, by facilitating reconnection to ordinary life, the public testimony helps survivors restore basic trust in a just world and overcome feelings of isolation. But the talking cure is predicated on the existence of a community willing to bear witness. 'Recovery can take place only within the context of relationships,' write Judith Herman. 'It cannot occur in isolation.” ― Lawrence N. Powell

[@Stillswingingforthefences]

I am not a JW but just stopped by. Your speech is very useful to the everyday man. Thanks for sharing this video. 🙏🏽

[@gson6456]

This was absolutely fantastic!

[@mathwizree]

I thank God for the steps and process I went thru. It was hard, painful and brought me to my knees but I would do it all over again. To come to a place of understanding of enlightenment is worth the journey. Then to realize my journey has just begun, gives me hope. I was afraid of shortcomings and failure now I understand its a part of life its how I react to them that shows my growth. Thank you for speech, I can take this inspiration with me on my journey.

[@bladenot-runner1795]

Thank you for showing me how to acknowledge and take steps away from my self-sabotaging tendencies. I've only been out of the organization for about a year, and despite being so much happier, I've spent so long seeing myself as broken that it's been difficult and terrifying to break away from that kind of thinking. It's hard to look at the future when I have seen myself as destined for nothing but failure. Thanks for the motivation.

[@joanferguson4194]

Blade: this is how we were programmed to see ourselves... failures, sinners, not worth anything. We were told we were nothing without the org. This is why the Watchtower BS is so insidious, so toxic to personal growth and development. They want it that way on purpose. Recently my JW brother asked me sternly if I saw myself as a SINNER! My instant reply was “So we’re now Catholics? And by the way I didn’t ask for this imperfect state so I refuse to feel guilty for something forced on me and the whole human race!” End of confrontation. Getting that cesspool sludge out of your JW pol

[@joanferguson4194]

Hit the wrong button, sorry Blade! What I was going to say getting the JW sludge out of you sub-conscious is going to be like an archeological dig, one layer at a time. The treasure is there, just be patient with yourself.

[@kirieltee]

Thank you so much for this video. I am a 40 year young, successful Black woman who has had a very difficult life. And, after years of deep introspection and self-analysis, I realize that much of my troubles stemmed from being raised in the organization. I graduated high school 2 years early and at the top of my class but was told that college was a worldly pursuit and I needed to dedicate my life to Jehovah. So I walked away from thousands of dollars in Scholarships. And although I was a young adult and had a right to date whomever I wanted, I had to date in secrecy because the congregation insisted that only the eligible "Brothers" within the congregation were suitable as partners. I ended up in an abusive relationship and couldn't talk to anyone about it because I wasn't supposed to be dating a worldly person anyway. Even after I decided to completely distance myself, I always had this cloud hanging over my head...it is still a challenge to fight those niggling vestiges of their doctrine. But I am working on it day by day! Happy to know that I am not alone!

[@kirieltee]

P.S. Maya Angelou is my favorite author. Meeting her actually helped me find my way. 💓

[@carmelovella9728]

Come on gi be honest, why you lieyer, wake up , love Jehovah whit All your heart, semple

[@spinav8r]

I have no personal connection with anything related to JWs, but I am drawn to intelligent, rational, effective speakers, and you, sir, are a very intelligent, rational, effective speaker!

[@danielladjibidjeerochford1364]

Rodney thank you so much, I seriously needed to hear this.

[@mgm3643]

I am not nor have I ever been a JW. This video came up on my recommended viewing so I decided to click on it and boy am I glad I did. This teaching is so very powerful. I learned so much to help me in my journey. I especially liked the poetry. I have added it to my watch later so that I can watch it again and again. Repeat to Rethink. Thank you for sharing/caring.

[@greyhoundmama2062]

Coach Rod, you are a very gifted teacher and analyst. It's taken me years to "reprogram" my mind. I am by nature a person of faith, so my "new wiring" is reading the Bible and studying about the Saints, people who were truly Holy and Godly. I have made great progress and I'm very happy and close to God. The process you describe is very accurate. I see parallels between the techniques of mainstream media and the Watchtower all the time.

[@marie-clairedelongchamp1330]

I will listen to this video again so as to sound it into my mind & heart, as well as write down your poetry, that I may refer to it as often as I wish . Thank you for the inspiration, I am determined to get there. Glad I came upon this message! 😌🇨🇦

[@KPTN123]

you are possibly the best speaker i have ever seen. First video i watched from your channel but definitely not the last one

[@nancyorkeithm1518]

Awesome! I think the ex Scientologist leaders would love this description of prison, rewiring and running back where it feels “comfortable”

[@EnzoneDance]

Yo!!!!!! This is scary good!! You've definitely found your Godlike self bro! So Proud of you!

[@dawnelizabeth1828]

Hi Coach, don't forget the resulting complex post trauma, social anxiety, grief and claustrophobia they instilled in me. I miss and love you, take care and thanks.

[@greatdayn4651]

"Institutionalized... it's your cord that needs to be rewired...Five stages to freedom... It's the courageous that leave. It's the courageous that question...Not fair; but whatever we're given in life, that's where we have to live from...It''s like a man calling himself an ex-con and trying to get a job...I wouldn't want to hang with you anyway...In a blink of an eye..." I wish I would have heard this 40 years ago. (New subscriber)

[@LavenderFrog]

Even just the first 5 minutes is so amazing and is so so true! Wow

[@_Churchy]

Wow! Really inspiring, real thought provoking, really uplifting. Great words, brother, and your poetry...what a blessing. Thank you sincerely for sharing.

[@sjgonzalez6493]

I agree with this speaker 100%. This is what I try to explain to members of my ex JW groups. Some have so much hate they haven't started living the good life!

[@talithiamcleod5108]

Yes so true

[@TinaMo4Sho]

I appreciated this. Thank you for your transparency and willingness to address the aftermath of walking away. This is beautiful.

[@Nadineperry1]

Thank you so much for this I’m not an ex witness however my husband was and he passed away from COVID19 we was married for 22 years I missed him so much I can’t describe it with words. His siblings is a Jehovah witness she continues to not speak to me while I’m grieving because I’m not willing to become a witness. It’s so sad and it’s a constant reminder of the damage this religion has done - but this tape has explained to me my purpose in my marriage he was blessed to discover himself to live his life -

[@coachrod333]

Bless you my friend. Sending you my condolences, I can see that you come from a place of kindness and love.

[@mattgml7638]

hi did he get the Jab like the organization told him too??and i hate that they treat you without compassion this is not Christ like!!

[@Nadineperry1]

@@mattgml7638 no my husband passed of covid prior to the vaccinaton being available.

[@DiEdraStinson]

MAGNIFICENT is the answer to the question: What is this? Bravo, BRAVO, Coach Rod. You got me! I can't subscribe fast enough.

[@saracarlson-kringle]

Yes, everyone is after your mind...it's prime 'real estate' with a lot of squatters who aren't going to wait for permission to set up camp. In a real life scenario, you have to 'patrol' your property OFTEN and act quickly when someone's stuff shows up on it, because it's about a 3 year process in California to go through legal hoops to get them gone.

[@cheryldidur2300]

I really appreciate the necessity of getting rid of the labels, stop using JW vocabulary, and stop judging ourselves by their rules.

[@Passion535]

I understood and felt everything you had to say! You had my attention through out.. I lived and breathed every thing you mentioned in your speech.. I just think PEOPLE are so Odd sometimes, "OR a lot of the times". Whether it's religion or politics OR a form of Hypnosis "it all seems to be the same".. "They" really believe in what they believe in!!? And, "don't even try to talk to them about it"! Because, "you become the BAD Guy"!! When all you do, is care about them ! You can't even talk to them like you used to.. And that's OK, "you'll find others who'll want to listen to you"! And listen to you, because they want to listen to you.. THOSE are your real friends and Family! Most importantly, "Enjoy Life"!!!

[@Melaniejjones]

Wow such an inspiring insightful talk, I hadn’t realised I was stuck. Life changing for me Thankyou!! I shall watch this many times to reinforce this message and to move forward

[@goranbosanac1366]

👍👍👍from Former Seventh Day Adventist.

[@homemadehappiness3132]

🙌🙌I couldn’t stop listening to this!so good & true.😍 My partner cannot move past stage 3 ☹️🥺I’m gonna get them watch this thanku x

[@capricorndragon1577]

One of the best videos I've ever heard!

[@nettycline5528]

Wow... I've been stuck... I've had an odd witness experience...I'm considered an apostate, and my parents cut all communication with me, but I was not ever baptized... thank you... I needed all this

[@John-mu2js]

Stay away from Christianity. I live in San Francisco and am willing to baptize you. The Christian church is a satanic cult of lies and hypocrisy. Seek Jesus on your own, 1John 2:27.

[@dawnelizabeth1828]

Hi, i love your comments back at me. The validation and sweetness are helpful.Take care and thanks again.

[@incognitofool6516]

Why are none of these held around me. The challenges are so real. And no one understands. We are Refugees of an Invisible Imaginary War.

[@faerynsember3805]

Simply incredible. I would like it 100 times.

[@john_carter8243]

Brother... I really wish I could've heard you give a talk back in the day at the Kingdom Hall! OUTSTANDING to use your gifts to WAKE UP those that need help!

[@gailmuhammad6446]

This presentation is good for everyone; no matter what your religious preference. Very insightful.

[@danalan9559]

AWESOME motivation speech.

[@Rick_Alden]

Finally, finally, finally, someone has told the truth about TTATT namely that life isn't a bowl of cherries after leaving Watchtower, but there's a reality out there, the life we had wasn't ALL bad, the things we learned, and there is still a lot of work to be done, especially upon ourselves. Thank you for this illuminating talk, Brother!

[@badassociation8750]

Yes! Life happened. Life goes on.

[@compositioncompilation]

Leaving behind the witness life Doesn't mean the world around you has become better, right ? It's still there But you may look at it in a different light.

[@Rick_Alden]

@@compositioncompilation: Exactly!

[@compositioncompilation]

@@Rick_Alden ??

[@katiedotson704]

A beautiful lecture. I am not nor have I ever been a JW. I was raised a Southern Baptist with Assembly of God overtones. In truth, I have been an atheist since I was 10-12 years old but it took me 50 years to admit it, even to myself. I now have no family, but I am OK with that. Far too long and boring a story for this post. Thank you, Coach Rod. While I realize you are still a believer, this lecture was not about that. It was about discovering and embracing who we are on an individual basis and embracing that person we were meant to be. I needed this. I will share it with others.

[@cknowles7402]

Love, gives you trust

[@rebekahwarriorspirit8110]

This talk is 100% true, I was lucky enough to have a father that was not a full jw. So we didnt have that full control but I was definitely brain washed, after being 6 years out I still struggle to find who I am and what I believe. It's hard, I have great true friends that are not jws that are a big support system. I suggest someone to get a good positive support system

[@clarity2478]

Powerful. I needed that. Spent a lifetime ... needing that. My life now is packed into a small chunk of time but the view is fantastic. Love those impelling words Rod, thank you for following your bliss.

[@spreadlove8947]

Your statement 🗣Focus on success & victories not fear of failure a quote I will say to myself daily. Thanks

[@laali-miller4463]

I shared a Quote from Harriet Tubman earlier today " I have Freed a thousands Slaves...I would have Freed more if ONLY! ☝ they knew they were Slaves" *H T. What an Overwhelming Beautiful feeling to know when you were a Slave that has been free to look back at the house you helped build ....and come to find out you have the God given ability to REBUILD your OWN MIND again or mabye for the first time. TODAY I looked back at that house i helped build with the slaves still looking at me in Disqust , Judgement and Disbelief-- Disbelief that I could possibly want Freedom. THE AUDACITY. Yes I do. Everyone's experience and journey will be different...however, we all have been taught and terrified the same. I wish everyone Peace throughout your Journey...and Pray that no one feels any Guilt for when that Peace is upon them. *** i made my comment before i finished the video...that is how powerful this video is. I was unaware of his Harriet Tubman reference. I am overwhelmed with this video's message of Enlightenment and encouragement. Thank you.

[@vlogwithpetrina4193]

So glad I found your channel. Please keep your work. I left JW completely 4 years ago. I was raised in it also. Working so hard to be reprogrammed. Thank You!

[@Xoxo-mh9zr]

Same. With a mom who is drowning me every chance she gets about the organization...ugh . Had to get away for my reprogramming ❤

[@720reddog]

This is quite a brilliant and honest speech you give here. I am truly touched by your frankness and how in tune you are to what it means to exit this cult.

[@nomoresecrets3065]

Aaaaah. You have perfectly describe what I’m feeling. I’m so confused. I’m lost in a unfamiliar world that I once knew how to navigate. I’m so uncertain about reality.

[@ernestdooley6409]

No more secrets, sounds like u need 2 get back under jehovahs protection.if u play wit the fire of this world u r gonna get burnt.

[@nomoresecrets3065]

Ernest Dooley I was raped under Jehovah’s protection. Nothing was done about it and I was told to leave it in Jehovah’s hands. My husband was an elder. He beat me so bad and nothing was done- under Jehovah’s protection. When I say ‘navigate a world I once knew’, I meant my daily life. I had a routine with meetings, study, fields service , etc. Now... I am lost and I am hurting but with all of the evidence that JWs ARE not following Jesus example- how can you ignore it? How did you feel about the watchtower regarding molesters? Did you know smoking marijuana is a conscious matter? Elders can commit disfellowshipping offenses and keep their privileges? There are people who are not JWs and live wonderful fulfilled lives. Going back to a cult like life is not protection. I appreciate your concern and I understand where you are coming from- but I will never support a religion that protects child molesters.

[@incognitofool6516]

@@ernestdooley6409 You are so supremely ignorant. When you wake up and realize your in your 70'd in this system, and havent done anything for yourself, you will realize how wrong you are.

[@incognitofool6516]

@@nomoresecrets3065 I am so sorry about all of that

[@lillyfields5626]

@@nomoresecrets3065 Wow, powerful reply and another familiar story of growing up inside this organization. I'm so proud of you for standing up for what is right and true!! You take care of yourself!! Lots of love!