The Trauma Does NOT Define you, The Trauma Builds you... IF YOU LET IT

AHH my first ever interview, in my new studio, with my soul sister. Julia Robinson. My bestfriend sits down with me, and dives into her experience with grief after losing her mother to suicide at the age of 10. She takes us on the journey of what it's like living without a mother, how she handled it, and how it built her into who she is today. We then dive into my loss, and how she mastered being an amazing support through it all. I am not confident we know how to properly show up for the people we love in this world, and I want to raise awareness to how we could do a better job at being present for those we love. Truthfully, she embodies the definition of a fantastic friend. Blessed to have her on the show, and I hope her story inspires you, as much as it inspired me.

[@user-hr3ip6te5r]

& yeah the shock of it all it lasts such a long time it’s so hard to wrap your mind around the timeline of everything and how they were here and now they’re just not. loss changes you forever and changes your whole outlook on everything

[@user-hr3ip6te5r]

i know exactly how you feel babes. it’s crazy how everybody’s life keeps moving and your whole world has just completely stopped, and you’re suppose to just continue on too. it’s terrible :(

[@jess4308]

I am 27 years old and I lost my mom in 2018 to cancer and I struggle every day with my grief. It’s different for everyone and I definitely still hold a lot of anger in me. The part where Julia says she loves moms really hit me because I am the opposite. I don’t hate them! But I also can’t stand being with my friends moms or listening to them speak about their sons/daughters. It is very triggering to me when I see moms interact with their daughters. I get instant sadness and anxiety but then it also upsets me when I hear others speak negatively about their moms or not valuing them. It’s like, please value what I can’t have! Grief is very confusing... Thank you for this conversation! It was very eye opening and encouraging listening to the both of you 💕

[@JG-sm2uw]

Hey just seeing this comment now and feeling less alone. I hold a lot of jealousy and anger in my heart that was caused by grieving my dad. He was my number one. Lost him this year and nothing seems to get better only missing him more:( don’t want to have kids now without having him around. Life has stopped.

[@jess4308]

@@JG-sm2uw I’m deeply sorry that you’re experiencing this pain as well. Grief comes in stages, sometimes we won’t understand ourselves but please be patient with your emotions. Let your heart feel what it has to feel. I hate saying this but trust me, it does get better. Not in the sense that everything will be perfect, like nothing happened but it will get better in the sense that you will learn how to deal with yourself and your triggers. There will always be moments were you feel anger or deep sadness, don’t ignore those feelings. What also helped me was educating myself in grief and seeing how different people react to it. It’s not the same for everyone but we can learn so much from each other. I wish you tons of courage and please don’t give up ❤️

[@taigangillotti]

This one hit home so hard.... My brother yook his own life on december 14 2021 and he was my best friend. Im still so lost and still cant believe he is gone and that he took his life. I wish i could jave saved him. I love all your videos, it shows what grief is and what its like! I love you girl, im so sorry for your loss and if you ever need to talk im here! Ive been through alot between my past (drug addiction) and overcoming addiction and being sober now for 11 years now trying to get through my grief with my brother which was my only sibling.

[@robertandkristinhall5006]

I have lost many people. My dad and my brother included. I will never ever forget when I was 12 years old and my mom woke me up to tell me my dad had died. It will stay with me forever. Every second. My own daughter is now 12 and I cannot even IMAGINE her having to hear that about myself or her father. At the same time at this age she has already lost two uncles and an aunt. Young. No matter the reason it hurts. God bless you both. "The dead are not lost for they live in the hearts they leave behind".

[@gabriellaconstantinides3948]

Two strong,sweet,well spoken and inspirational women.I love how real you are with eachother.💗💗💗💗

[@heidin9598]

grief is hard..i wrote a book and out it on amazon..hoping my story helps others..this podcast is great it will help a lot of people

[@calliemarvel3276]

I just came across you channel a few days ago, many of your videos have made me break down. But this one hits me in so many different ways as my relationship with my father and his passing was exactly like this woman and her mother. It has been a year and 1 month since i lost my dad and i really needed to hear all of this. Thank you.

[@TheBlazeFamily]

I love thissssss!!!!!! ❤❤❤can’t wait for moreeee

[@charmcrafter7587]

They say do not enable an addict, so dont give money, dont buy big things they can pawn, but still help. Take them to rehab, to medical maintenance. Allow them to grow and deal.with the inner demon on its own. However do not just cut them off. Give them the love, but understand not to expect them to change until they finally are able to .

[@absolutmaja]

Hope to see more of you and this content 🙏🏽 You both seem like beautiful souls ❤️ Lots of love from sweden ✌🏽❤️

[@juli.strangex]

I lost my mum 2013 to cancer and it still deeply affects me. Grief is such a hard thing

[@Babylah-cy9ho]

Hey I’d love if you can have your friend again bc I lost my mom at 26 and I didn’t know how to grieve and think I still haven’t loved to here more about how she got out of the funk. Also love your process too your such amazing being Ty for sharing

[@kimg2022]

Very helpful video for anybody who has experienced the trauma of loss and for those who are supporting them

[@valentinawilliams1250]

Hone yI m terribly sorry for your loss of your love. Your speech was the most beautiful thing but also Very emontinal everyone felt so courage and honored to hear your speech and It made me feel cherrished. That was a very kind thing oof you to do. So. sorry for your loss Honey I know how your feeling so sorry honey .

[@emilypalma5763]

So so so so glad I found this

[@krystaldonovan6335]

I didn’t know you went to FAU! That’s awesome I go there too!

[@aliciaallt4650]

❤❤❤

[@Mariambae69]

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[@user-sk7kd5nk9u]

looking at the comments i don't think they should date i think kaitlin needs him as a friend but needs a partner not so similar to francesco to start fresh in that makes sense but i love them both so much💕💗