The Trauma Of Having A DeadBeat Father In Africa, They Act Like Supporting You Is A Favor.

[@nomsatorcida9612]

Owamie the way you have sacrificed for your siblings👏👏👏 You have become both their mother and father, you deserve all the blessings the Lord has for you. Your sisters are lucky to have you ❤❤❤

[@cecileliralicious]

In Cassper Nyovest;s video with Mpoomy Ledwaba he spoke of controlling women with money. This is something that is not spoken about enough. There are men who want you to act in a certain way before they support their children financially. They want to control you with their money.

[@lovelyheart800]

i heard someone actually say they won’t support the child unless they are in a relationship with the mother 👀👀👀 basically this guy feels entitled my question is does that child stop eating because the relationship is over guys be extra be-careful who you fall pregnant for and also never depend on a man for anything .

[@charlottemakola4927]

That's my baby daddy,these guys are sick

[@MalesoleMocheku-gn7ox]

Parents like that are the first to claim you when you become successful and they will be demanding saying you will be blessed

[@nandiphasomana8501]

That's true.

[@PhilileNhlapo-k8o]

True

[@NakaMonxo]

The way my father loved me,rest his soul,ndiva buhlungu that you have rich fathers who chose themselves😢..

[@lesego4802]

Perhaps have a lawyer specialising in family law as a guest that can answer questions and enlighten people more about the options they have regarding maintenance.

[@nosicelonosiejikumlambo8323]

Great idea 💡

[@aobakwekgosi313]

And this is the topics that needs to be sang out there.... raising a child is no child's play.....it's not about financial support only, there is more...

[@moe_ramz]

If you have kids you’ll realise what a huge role money plays…not being able to do the bare minimum will stress you out as a parent….

[@_molebogeng6281]

I also think it's not only about financial support, Monique's son exposed her not so long ago for being a deadbeat mother and all he was asking for was to be loved by his mom not money. Kids who have toughened up will want money and those who are given money and lack the other, want emotional support

[@moe_ramz]

@@_molebogeng6281 The reality is kids need emotional, physical and financial support. One can’t do without the other. When it comes to parenting, you need all three aspects consistently. If you’re a parent who’s never stressed about finances you’ll never understand. When you have the money, you struggle with time(physical availability) sometimes you’re not emotionally connected to your kids. I’m starting to believe this is why God wants us to have kids in marriage. And for two parties to be together and share the responsibilities. This is why we are struggling with co-parenting. One party is doing the bulk of the work. Whilst the other gets to disappear or do things part time. The hate between men and women who are not equally sharing those responsibilities will never end. Marriage is the way.

[@thatotlhowe]

Sesi Owamie coming for deadbeat fathers and giving a wholesome advice to them kids from 33:34. What a wise woman ❤

[@thepheonix6501]

Unfortunately some of these deadbeats are so evil they even go as far as paying corrupt court officials to make sure you get frusrated to a point of giving up but karma knows everybody adress including those who sit behind the keyboards and talk nonsense against the single mothers not even knowing the full story....

[@PhilileNhlapo-k8o]

True very evil

[@disekomotsepe]

So sad that men think that they have a choice 😢😢😢😢

[@lebogangportia328]

Yoooo this is sad, am also going to court with mi dad so that he can support his kids, mi mom just passed on last month & was like if i don't do something the burden 'll be mine

[@Nthabeleng507]

Yuh!!

[@wanjiruolive]

Also, there are dads who are just providers. they're not emotionally close to their kids. They leave all the raising and emotional raising to the mothers, and if you have a rageful mother who takes all her emotions on her kids because she has an emotionally distant husband, it aint easy.

[@sinethembamagasela1833]

Yho Owamie I can feel the rage in your voice,, but I hope you can find peace for yourself because you can't change someone who behaves in this manner. ❤

[@dineomametja3277]

Being the first born truly makes on a deputy parent. Your only choice in life is to be strong. I'm the first of three and I can totally relate with you Owami. I didn't go through the same hardships but as the first one,I always have to have my things together cause I'm the eldest and they look up to me.

[@Khadjo_m]

This is why we have so many broken kids, it's so heartbreaking

[@moe_ramz]

Hyper independence= you’re extremely independent and don’t rely on anyone.

[@dineomabothadimple4845]

You went through exactly what I am going through currently and it’s really traumatic 😭at this point I am just living for the sake of my siblings

[@_molebogeng6281]

That girl's father came on Beyonce's internet and said all those things 😂Yoh some people's reasoning capacity is shocking!!! Yet there will still be women out there who will bear that man kids even after they heard all those things

[@wanjirualice35]

Marry before you carry,old advice that helps avoid broken families and absent fathers.Women lets chose fathers for our children,we owe them that.

[@brilliantmind9729]

Divorce happens and men abscond responsibility of taking care of their kids

[@Reegan317]

I know single parents in a wedlock 😏😏

[@BlackWoman-is5wh]

Weeeehh guys guys today I am not gonna mention divorce You will be shocked to realise that there are many single married mothers doing everything while they have a nonchalant husband who’s just there physically..whether married or not have kids when you can afford to in all spheres & even the number of kids let it be your own decision not his …

[@BlackWoman-is5wh]

@@Reegan317 the stats of such is shocking and ppl still think marriage guarantees children a great upbringing 😏

[@pileshongwe7827]

What a naive statement marriage today guarantees nothing there are so many married single mothers, divorce happens,character can not be changed by marriage a deadbeat will always run away from responsibility married or not

[@Elizabeth-uz3le]

Owamie I love you, thank you for this video👏👏👏🙌

[@shuzashuz3038]

As a deadbeat you will find every excuse to not support your child, if you are not a deadbeat, you will find any excuse to see your child.

[@ThandiKate-c5w]

The emotional side of the child that is very important Owamie well said ❤.

[@Sin-Ber]

Well spoken ❤

[@shireenmonama5765]

I hear you hlem ebile I’m emotional just watching this vlog.

[@ncisept5900]

You can see a man be a very good father to his child/children, but that doesnot mean he'll be a good father to the ine you have with him. And you're left shocked(From experience).

[@Reegan317]

Why Mara ??

[@nontobekoncube8450]

Same with moms, it's personal agenda. It depends on what happened netween them. Its just that with mothers it is hard to spot since they are usually the primary custodian.

[@LocalGossips]

If a man truly loves you he automatically loves your kids. If not , he won't bother. It doesn't matter if it's his kid or not

[@anitatumeka1466]

I'm sure my deadbeat baby daddy has a story of hw he supports the child to his friends 😂they lie

[@moe_ramz]

💯

[@SibsM93]

And these deadbeats live long hey 🚮

[@shemaneexpressdeliveriespt8869]

I can't wait for part2 where the very same topic is facing the opposite direction. Three of my brothers has be traumatized by their baby mama's pretty bad 😢one burnt himself up and died three meters away from me...

[@sinazobogicevic3442]

Why is that Owamie's responsibility? She is speaking from her own experience as the daughter of a deadbeat father.

[@shemaneexpressdeliveriespt8869]

@@sinazobogicevic3442 Until you check the opposite direction you will never understand the full story, like I said for some of us it is a living reality.

[@sinazobogicevic3442]

@@shemaneexpressdeliveriespt8869 full story of what? This segment was about deadbeat fathers. My own brother has a deadbeat baby mama so I know how that can be a living nightmare. My question was why does Owamie have to cover that if she hasn't had that experience.

[@sonixboy5481]

we love you so much Owami

[@idahmunyai1653]

I'm experiencing that owamie is painful

[@lebogang7600]

Eish queen Ninja and the engrishhh sometimes she reminds me of Makhadzi... Eneble or Enable? 😂😂😂

[@charmainesayi]

Majority of South African men 🚮

[@disekomotsepe]

Within 🖤

[@mrsspringbok]

😡😡 Yoh they make me so angry! I’m failing to understand what is the reason why black men HATE their kids. Is it because most of them are not there in labour wards or what? I don’t get 😢 it

[@Itsnomfundo]

When Owami was searching for a stick 😂😂😂

[@mahlatsemasinamela]

I am so triggered Queen Ninja but ke life goes on 😭

[@Reegan317]

Over 2Years Nothing is finalised ??

[@moe_ramz]

See why most women give up. It’s pointless honestly!!!

[@letushilaalina]

7:32 AMEN!!!

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Nna I decided a long time ago that I want to be chilfree. I am willingly choosing not to have kids. And everyday I hear stories from different women with their struggles with their kids and it reinforces my decision not to have kids. The men of today are a joke. If you want to have kids, bare in mind that there's a 70% chance that you will be a single mother. Make peace with that possibility first and then go ahead and have kids.

[@AshmiraldaKhoza]

Good for u dear & don't let anyone convince u otherwise or make u feel bad

[@beeyoutiful4086]

But there are situations when one would leave the incident to God. Going to health facilities and not getting any help just because they can not diagnose what's wrong with your body. Then in that case it's God's work

[@nomfundomatshika]

Yoh this is so sad😢😢

[@rnk236]

Hmm…🥃 Owamie

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

Signing in.

[@starcaron8282]

Being a man must be nice , you get to choose whether you want to be there for your kids or not and as a woman ? You have no choice but to be a parent .

[@SetsabileDlamini-pp9xp]

I thank God for my mom.....growing up seeing your father with his new family enjoying life changing cars and you guys are just surviving .....its a pity now that i am the one taking care of him because he has nothing wife is gone because there is no more money

[@koke9297]

So sorry for your experience, its really not nice seing your father loving strangers more than the child he gave life to. Are you taking care of him because you are forced to out of guilt or because you forgave and love him?

[@SetsabileDlamini-pp9xp]

@@koke9297 my mom and my grandmother taught us about forgiveness a lot so it's a process because sometimes when he asks for money I get mad that I never got a cent but I pray and if I have I would send it .....mom always says do not let him block your blessings forgive and help where you can it's not easy but I'm getting there

[@nomfundomatshika]

I personally enjoy this story times❤

[@puseletsokhena5322]

Because is all about a Man 🧍‍♂️ that why you enjoy it….

[@Veey10]

Queen ❤

[@Gumani232]

Owami Rikhou sapota we even bought them gift for their gal friends 😂 and their friends

[@vonanizitha8074]

Yes it's 1st Timothy 5 v 8

[@SnehN]

Im here.

[@NonhlanhlaGamede-kr4vt]

1 Timothy 5:8.

[@moe_ramz]

Here❤

[@Lovyours]

❤❤❤

[@sebehmiyah2314]

Where can I get your email

[@Teigh_xx]

My mother in law remarried and is raising and taking care of her new kids and grandkids. My husband lost his job in 2019 was unemployed for 4 years this woman did absolutely nothing for him or my daughter as a grandmother. Literally didn’t care if he ate, dressed, could pay rent or even breathed. I was the breadwinner for 4 years making ends meet with the help of my family but thank God we made it through. My daughter is her only biological grand child but she’s counted as the 3rd after her ‘other’ grand kids. I’m waiting for the day I can give that woman every piece of my mind.

[@Reegan317]

Narcissist grannie

[@moe_ramz]

You are meant to support your husband though. Your post is confusing. 😶

[@Teigh_xx]

@moe_ramz absolutely and I sure did. But your child having a significant other doesn’t exempt you from being a parent and being supportive. It was tough times, needed all the help. Also the step children she supports now are adults as well surely she could’ve shared help for her son as well.

[@moe_ramz]

@@Teigh_xx I hear you. I’m not trying to be insensitive. I just believe when a child marries, they’re no longer a “child”. They’ve left their mother and father and cleaved to their partners. So in this case, if the parent chooses to not assist, it’s shouldn’t be taken badly. I’m glad things worked out for you guys.

[@Teigh_xx]

@@moe_ramz valid. & I agree to a certain extent. We weren’t married then. What warrants not being in your grand daughters life when you raising other peoples children? Personally no child of mine will ever starve or not have a roof over their heads while I’m alive married or not especially while I raise another womens children.

[@mpendulombeje3073]

❤😊

[@jackeyklow8697]

Owami there are dog's out there, that resign from their jobs the minute the court garnish their salary 🫣

[@emeritatee1597]

That’s the stupidest thing to do lol 😂… once they default payment for 3 months they are due for imprisonment

[@lethufulani9581]

Such useless father's!

[@sanemshazi7000]

Nothing beats the pain of having a deadbeat father

[@BukiweQha]

❤❤

[@bigbearpodcast]

I just don't get it. Yall pick these men and get upset with the outcome. We all know you don't want the good guys because if you did you would have been with him from jump street. But anyway

[@Yassmiinn.]

Kanti are deadbeats written on their foreheads that "nna once you have my child I'm gonna slyze"? Ya'll are so harsh sometimes marn.

[@bigbearpodcast]

@@Yassmiinn. Having a child with a man then calling him a deadbeat does not exempt you from taking Accountability from the poor choices to whom you give your womb to🤷🏿‍♂️. Doesn't make you a martyr. That's on you and him

[@Yassmiinn.]

@@bigbearpodcast I don't even have a deadbeat but go off, atleast it distracts you from the stress of your failing podcast.

[@bigbearpodcast]

@@Yassmiinn. 😂😂😂😂😂Is that the best you can do? How old are you 5 ? Instead of being an adult you resort to hurling insults... So you are choosing to invalidate someone's opinion based on their channel. That has got to be the most baseless comment I have read in this space. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. In your feelings😂😂 The comment didn't apply to you I don't know you lady.😂

[@bigbearpodcast]

@@Yassmiinn. That's the problem with people like you. You can't even hold off a few comments before you resort to hurling insults. 😂😂😂😂Off a comment. Again in your feelings.

[@Reegan317]

They can go for Vasectomy Mhxm 🙄🫤

[@nomfundomatshika]

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[@matlalaprecious1196]

❤😊

[@tsholofelomofokeng4901]

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