The Truth About Divorce | XO Live Clip

[@brightpage1020]

The great thing my husband and I discussed before our wedding and in premarital counseling with a pastor is that we were making a commitment in marriage to more than just each other. We weren't committing to being "in love". We were committing to staying a family even when those feelings faded. We went in expecting the fade. And expecting to be accountable to God for our union, and supported by Him in it, not just to each other or supported by our families.

[@BigNope3]

This was a great discussion. Love the perspective from BOTH sides

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

I did come into my marriage thinking my husband was perfect. He made a huge mistake with managing our finances and it disappointed me and i have been holding onto that for a long time believing i cant depend on him.

[@kasey5973]

I'm staying in this marriage, but I would NEVER get married again. My husband is a great person and a terrible husband. Marriage is a mirror. I see myself, also. But, I would not treat my husband as he has treated me. I am learning to be my own happiness.

[@paulcohen6727]

I image every marriage goes through difficult times. If you divorce then, it's done and you've made a stupid, harmful mistake. If you hang in there, you'll get past the difficult period in your marriage, you'll enter into a satisfactory version of the loving, fulfilling relationship that you had before.

[@Nzazaaa]

This does not apply to every marriage so please don’t make such a hasty generalization. My mother divorced my dad because he was constantly cheating on her with other women and he wasn’t using protection. I also fought hard for my marriage. I did anything and everything to save my marriage but my husband told me to my face that I am the reason for all the issues in our marriage, he doesn’t want to lead, and that he isn’t my husband. After years of dealing with this I decided to file for divorce. Guess what? It took me filing for him to realize he was treating me horribly. He even said if I never filed he would’ve never change. Divorce is not always a stupid harmful mistake.

[@brightpage1020]

People are 3 dimensional. I'm no more a peach to live with probably than he is... For different reasons, maybe. People aren't all good or all bad. People are human. No 1 person can be all things to anybody else. We all need community and thrive in community because humans are social animals. I think sometimes in love those 1st few years we can get unrealistic even subconscious expectations of one another even despite evidence to the contrary. If we have a sense of humor about ourselves I bet we're better off long term and about situations.

[@gailblunt2133]

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