The truth about masturbating in relationships (expert sexuality coach explains)

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Specialist sexuality and relationship coach Mark Cusack explains why self pleasure in relationships is a really good thing.
Oftentimes we worry that masturbation or self pleasure is damaging our relationship. The truth is that it can actually improve your sex life, as long as you don’t hide it.
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[@kalimadasa9378]

I have seen this idea come up within my friend group. I believe self pleasure is part of self love, and care. I absolutely agree with you that the " hiding" of this aspect of self care, can lead to shame, and can create a divide within a relationship. There is another piece that hides inside this, however. The " thou shalt not masturbate, while in a relationship with me", vibe, carries a sense of ownership with it. Your body, and your physical *parts, belong to no one other than you. When someone has the "thou shalt nots", Somewhere in there is the idea that your pleasure, or worse, your physicality, somehow now belongs to them. And it does not. These are very difficult conversations to navigate. Thank you for your thoughts around this!

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[@tomjardine100]

My friend hugged me and touched my belly at night outside and heard birds singing i found it rather flattering but I just couldn't touch or kiss him myself, does that make me straight even though I liked it a bit, but wouldn't do the same to him?

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