The truth about masturbating in relationships (expert sexuality coach explains)

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[@kalimadasa9378]

I have seen this idea come up within my friend group. I believe self pleasure is part of self love, and care. I absolutely agree with you that the " hiding" of this aspect of self care, can lead to shame, and can create a divide within a relationship. There is another piece that hides inside this, however. The " thou shalt not masturbate, while in a relationship with me", vibe, carries a sense of ownership with it. Your body, and your physical *parts, belong to no one other than you. When someone has the "thou shalt nots", Somewhere in there is the idea that your pleasure, or worse, your physicality, somehow now belongs to them. And it does not. These are very difficult conversations to navigate. Thank you for your thoughts around this!

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[@Jess-wk5jo]

I have question What does mean I keep on looking girls does mean i am bisexual or lesbian but i sill love boys and what be with boys i got attracted for girls too like boys? What should i do

[@notdefining]

Hey there. Thanks for reaching out. This would normally be what you call bisexual.

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[@Jess-wk5jo]

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[@Matty12333]

My friend hugged me and touched my belly at night outside and heard birds singing i found it rather flattering but I just couldn't touch or kiss him myself, does that make me straight even though I liked it a bit, but wouldn't do the same to him?

[@morgbiman]

You sure may have the ingredient or seed enabling you to become bisexual over time. I had many moments like that back then when I was "straight". Not kissing, but there was a moment when a best friend that I know just gave me a massive hug and said "I love you". I blushed so much that I forgot in that split second, that we were only friends and nothing more, then a few seconds later he said "as a friend". I snapped back to reality and realized my reaction and became very embarrassed. Would I have done the same to him? Hell no! but it sure told me something was lurking inside. Today I fully identify as bisexual, but I was straight before, and same-sex attraction began to develop slowly but steadily, and you may very well be on a path there just like I was. In case like yours, I would recommend you to stick to your current identity (straight), but be prepared that one day you may have to accept, that you have become bisexual (or even gay, even if more unlikely). I did the mistake that I was terrified of losing my straightness, and since I was in such an early phase I thought I could reverse it. Spoiler alert: it didnt end well. Don't try it.