The Truth About My SEX Life

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[@shanboody]

Really proud that almost two years later this video is still being viewed and shared! Please subscribe and I hope to see you

[@LisaEsselAddo]

Thank you so much, I really needed this. I can relate so much.

[@monroeindigo9017]

💚

[@EuphoriaFaith]

❤️❤️❤️

[@rosekraftsprings1992]

Girl thank you so much for this i just found ye channel first video I've watch of yours. Thank you so much im so much like you you when my sex life. Thank you do much for sharing.

[@HIMDOWNSTAIRS650]

As a men I learn alot from this page glade your in the space you are in now. You just got a new follower

[@kayajoel]

Shannon, you are a champion of normalizing human (especially female) sexuality, and I am deeply proud of you. Continue to change the conversation.

[@shanboody]

+Kayana Joelle what a beautiful and poignant comment thank you Kay

[@MrH066y]

Kayana Joelle people only like normalizing things to cover their wrong lifestyle.

[@VishalSingh-dj2uk]

+Shan BOODY Hi

[@SonsOfLorgar]

KEEZE dude... you are projecting your own fucked up attitude.

[@priscahermene9107]

KEEZE uh? What’s a right life style ?

[@rodnell100]

Her openness and honestly is ridiculously refreshing

[@LS-cj8jd]

Your face is refreshing 😍

[@malcolmskinner3117]

He's hiding his face.

[@RamataaBah]

I thought Shannon was 23..... this woman just kept flying through the years and I’m just sitting here like this woman does not age

[@RamataaBah]

God's Child She’s 31..... but I refuse to believe it! Her wisdom says so but her face/body says otherwise

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

I love u I like u Am saprat 😘😘❤😍😍😍

[@ksudayakumar8966]

Udaya

[@oohcomma]

The conversation starting from 10:30 is such an important one. Whether it be sexual assault or rape, people fear saying the words, people fear being the victim of that. It seems like such an outer worldly thing that should never happen with someone you trust, in a situation you "put yourself in". That's why it takes people so long to register that it even occurred because if it wasn't a white van, dark alley situation, if you had a connection with the person, you take some responsibility of the situation and it takes far too long for people to realize that it's not their fault, and it was rape, it was sexual assault. We try to sugarcoat it because if it doesn't fit the scary rape/sexual assault stranger narrative, we are made to feel like it wasn't real, that we are at fault for feeling how we feel.

[@shanboody]

+Classic Nostalgia if i had to power to make this the top comment I would! Thank you

[@oohcomma]

Shan BOODY I just saw this reply. Thank you. I know first hand how long it took me to take all of my experiences and realize that I actually did experience sexual assault. The psychological effects it has is hard to realize unless you can truly self reflect.

[@MsLaney234]

This comment describes exactly what I am currently going through. If I may ask, How do you stop blaming yourself? I constantly blamed myself for “putting” myself in dangerous and unsafe situations when in reality it really wasn’t my fault. I am so angry at them and don’t know how to let it go after I realized what happened.

[@kgkaitlyngarza]

Thank you so much for this.

[@georginachirinos6208]

Classic Nostalgia d&dddddd2ddddddddddddddddddddda2

[@Rakiya96]

Shan, you're great. You're very confident and tbh that's a shocker to many people. Seeing a woman who is extremely comfortable and confident talking about sex and similar topics scares some people, it's not normal to their basic minds that a woman be so "bold". That's their problem. I hope one day they get it. Funny how bold they feel behind their screens, in the safety of their rooms. Keep killing it, you're one of my top fav. KZbinrs. x

[@Rakiya96]

Just finished watching the video. Wow. I must say your partner sounds amazing. Sounds like the epitome of a healthy relationship. I'm glad you got that. x

[@bezlichnyy7675]

You think she is confident? Based on what? She just told you that her past sex life was miserable and it wasn't her fault. Confident people don't have regrets about their sex lives. Confident people are in control of their sex lives. They don't just let "sex" happen to them. They desire it and have orgasms from partnered sex. They don't blame other people or are victims for their bad sex choices.

[@hannahjohnson2898]

Bezlichnyy It's not up to you to define what a confident person is and isn't. ♡

[@olympem.4522]

I think you're not very aware of what kind of journey is female sexuality... you have a looot to learn...

[@MoPoppins]

Until it happens to you, most people don't realize that a great number of rapes occur with acquaintances that you trust and have absolutely NO reason to suspect that they're planning on harming you. SO glad you shared details about your relationship partner. I think a lot of people who've never had positive experiences don't know what to look for. Your concrete examples will help a lot of people to create their own checklist.

[@serenitymg1221]

The fact that being raped is so common these days makes me so mad . Something needs to change . People need to know this is not normal , this is not ok . Great video and I’m glad you spoke about it . Me being 17 and naive im glad I can hear your experiences and hopefully use them to make wise decisions . No matter how much hate you get I want to thank you for putting out this video .

[@yaimavol]

A lot of it is the epidemic of bad parenting these days. Teenage girls need their fathers to explain how guys think at that age and that no matter what they are saying to you, they pretty much want one thing, and you have to be careful what situations you put yourself in.

[@Natashea]

serenity gates unfortunately I think it’s been pretty common, we just share these stories via tech now so it’s overwhelming

[@emilycanfield2634]

@@yaimavol Fathers need to tell their sons to not rape women. It doesn't matter if she comes over, what she wears, what she says. If she says NO. It means fucking no.

[@jimmywhitlow7174]

@@emilycanfield2634sad thing is many of these young men doing things like this never had a father to teach them.

[@AkshayKumar-ue1fp]

it's not common..stop spreading propoganda

[@Fatima-up8lw]

Honesty and strong women. For some reason makes others feel uncomfortable. Which may be the reason, they feel the need to leave such sad and in some instances hurtful comments. I hope you understand, that is not a reflection on you. That is only them. And the clear, deep routed issues they have towards upfront, gorgeously honest and again STRONG WOMEN. You do you Shannon! 😘

[@deej5608]

WELL SAID HUNNY YASSSSSS

[@LostWorldVideo]

I can speak as a young man (20) I Love strong women and men. Basically people that are aware of themselves and aren't afraid to be themselves, That to me is what I look for in friends lovers and just people I surround myself with.

[@daniellenicole6989]

You are SO transparent, and REAL and AUTHENTIC and I ADMIRE that so much!! You have no idea how much of an impact you are making on other people's lives! Keep being you! Much love to you :)

[@maddyG7414]

That third experience...I am so sorry. No is no. And I relate. You think because you went to their house that it's your fault. But the truth is, people NEED to start taking responsibility for their actions and if someone decides part way through that they don't want it, YOU have to respect that and not make another person feel guilty. This mentality that if you choose to go see a person you give up the right to your own body is so wrong.

[@alexandrawilliams5955]

Maddy Harvey oh my god yesss. say it louder for the rapists in back plzz!!!

[@jackieade6599]

*Thank you,* Ms. Harvey. He *planned* that ish. Clear predator.

[@jackieade6599]

And most rapes = planned.

[@nalediserunye4073]

I can relate as well went to a party willingly and yep happened there.

[@maddyG7414]

@@nalediserunye4073 me too girl. It took me years to realize.

[@Simbwaful]

This is like breaking all the rules about what you think that sex should be. It takes so much faith, but frees you in the end. This is such a great video, starting with the first story, and ending much more better. Your stories are like a blessing for people who haven't the chance, the courage, the environment or just the habit to talk about sex, espacially like you do - honestly.

[@LIVEFRMNYC]

Damn, is there any women that hasn't been raped? And I'm not saying that to be funny. Most of my homegirls had been raped before. Damn near every female celeb and popular youtube personality has a rape story. As a man, I'm truly disgusted, and this scares me to even bring a daughter into the world.

[@TactFilez]

dont let anyone alone around your kids, keep a knife and/or gun at you at all times and keep the shotty at home ready for action... Cant even trust your own family, assume everyone is pretending and sick in the head...

[@Langstonviewz]

This is raw. I'm always impress with your vulnerability.

[@mannygathers2114]

Great piece Queen. Saving this for my daughters to hear; good advice from a female viewpoint.

[@meemeeciicii]

💙💙

[@jelissasmith6971]

Save it for your sons too

[@noragross9380]

First off your eyes are amazing. Secondly, and more importantly, thank you so much for being so transparent and open about stuff like this. It's not talked about enough. So, it helps so much to hear other people's stories and know you're not alone and that other people deal with the same things you've gone through.

[@AilsaB123]

i was victim to a pretty brutal rape and i totally relate to the feeling of not giving a shit about ur body afterwards. thanks for opening up about these things xx

[@AilsaB123]

Andi Loveall every day I get closer to believing that. thank you so much x

[@abigailmiller7193]

You know deep down you're beautiful I wish I could prove it but only you can! 💕 just love yourself because no one can ever love you better than you 🙌 Don't let what happened limit that kind of love. I don't know how that felt but you're strong enough to be alive, be strong enough to love you. It might not be quick or easy but try. You're worth it.

[@JoannasEssentials]

Girl, you rock. End of story. Me and my girls out here in Germany, we luuuuv ya :)

[@safiticachirindza138]

ohhhh hey Girl ^^... btw ich liebe deinen Kanal 💓🙌

[@senfnacken]

and the one boy from germany

[@lujitsu1251]

Joannas Essentials rockin body,

[@mukeshkumarmukesh3596]

Ilove you baby

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[@deannatorres2472]

This really resonated with me. When I lost my virginity it wasn’t consensual, and a few years later I began a sexual relationship with the same guy. And I felt so guilty even saying that the first time we had sex I didn’t want it. Like how did I now expect people to believe me if here I was having consensual sex with him now. Wow. I really thought I was alone in that situation.

[@IamaDanish]

I realize this is an old comment but just so you and others like you (and Shan) know: it is pretty common and you’re most definitely not alone. As I understand it, it’s a way to reclaim the control the rapist stole from you. Unfortunately there are people who aren’t educated or empathetic enough to understand this but please don’t feel guilty or blame yourself. It was an attempt to deal with the trauma the best way you could at the time, it still wasn’t and never will be your fault that you got raped. And you having consensual sex with that person afterwards does not cancel out their wrongdoings. ❤️

[@whosthatchick5150]

Shan majority of the people who leave those comments are just thirsty for attention and notice how none of them have dp's.... says a lot about them as people honestly As for me I LOVE YOU AAAND YOUR VIDEOS❤️💖💕 I always leave with a life lesson and being inspired✨✨

[@IamSunil017]

Eww

[@macanmurda2001]

😍😍

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

I like u 💑💑😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@yaelee3508]

forreallll love comments like urs

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[@AlwaysAmeera]

Shannon this video changed my life. Because you told your story and it was so similar to mine I gained the strength to finally confront my rapist after 10 years and finally tell my entire family. I didn't lean on anyone for support and I held on to that secret for almost a decade. And that changed the day you uploaded and I watched this video. And throughout it all I had sexual relationships that allowed my body to be simply used over and over again. I thought the more sex I had the more empowered I was but I didn't feel empowered because the sex wasn't for my own pleasure. I would cry on my way home from most encounters. It wasn't until I met my now husband that my pleasure became my priority and his love and attentiveness opened that door for me. So I say all of that to say thank you for being so open. you have changed my life girl!!! And I plan to pay it forward and do the same for other survivors and thrivers. My heart is more open than ever now. Thank you!

[@lutakmathilde9672]

Omg, Your testimony is amazing too, take care !

[@sabrina.natalie]

Wow! I also had a similar experience. My sexual assault happened when I was 15. Being raped broke me in a way that’s indescribable. It shattered my soul. I felt like the inside of my thighs were tainted, diminished, and damaged goods. I felt disgusting-both literally and figuratively. For a long time, I blamed myself, felt extremely humiliated, and overwhelmingly shameful. My innocence was stolen, my body was violated, and I felt like my soul had a permanent stain. It is heartbreaking to realize that so many individuals-both men and women-have been raped, assaulted, molested, groped, sexually harassed, etc at least once in their lifetime. Sexual abuse of any form is so extremely common, it’s mind boggling. I know more people in my life who had been raped, than those who haven’t. It shouldn’t be that way. There are some evil, demonic, and twisted predators living among us, who look like a human-with eyes, a nose, etc. Sexual abusers are often charismatic and charming. Often times, it’s someone you know and trust, someone you thought would never betray you. But underneath their skin, lies a demonic spirit that preys, abuses, and exploits. I know this comment is 2 years old at this point, but I stumbled upon this video just now, and immediately fell in love with Shannon. I’m sure comments like the one you posted is the reason she continuously makes videos. I’m so happy to hear that you’re doing well. Truthfully, I’m still struggling with the trauma and demons that my raped caused me to have, but I’m taking it one day at a time. I pray that your marriage is blissful, that your wounds are healed, and that you’re happy and whole. Much love to you. May God continue to bless you abundantly! 💖

[@IamSunil017]

That poor was so starved and beta stupid... Her current partner

[@lujitsu1251]

AlwaysAmeera like your hair.

[@LMason-qd7sq]

I'm a hetero man, but I find you and your channel like a hero for everyone. You are so incredibly strong and amazing, especially for having the strength to tell your story. Hopefully you can be the "older sister" for all of us who don't have anyone. Thank you

[@abbierobinson6873]

It’s been so fun digging into these older episodes. You age like a fine wine girl! This is so relatable and just love being able to hear your story.

[@lisbethpichardo7755]

You are sooo freaking braveeeee for sharing your experiences like this.. i feel soo empowered by you!!! Thank you SHAN you are a freaking ANGEL( in the sense that you are here in this world to bring awareness, wisdom, love and growth to us all) 💚💚💚 i love you!

[@ShaneiceCrystal]

Love ur authenticity shannon... thank u for sharing!! 😘😘

[@Edwarddreamer]

I love your videos it's cool that you also like Shannon she's amazing as well. Both of you rock!

[@shanboody]

+NaturalNeiicey love you Neiicey the texting prank on ur channel was so so cute!

[@ShaneiceCrystal]

Shan BOODY lool thanks boo!! Loveee u

[@lujitsu1251]

NaturalNeiicey nice hair....and butt

[@nirajpathak5238]

@@shanboody hiii india se Hello

[@Kluermoi]

My teenage sexual experience was so horrible, I wish I just knew more about sex back then and valued myself more. anyway great video as always love!!!!

[@suras8984]

I just lost it recently in my late late 20s. I grew up in a religious cult that shamed sex and abusive household so I think that contributed to me losing it so late. I had a great first time with someone I chose and I knew for 2 years. We were not in a relationship though and to my disappointment it didnt turn into one.I have only had sex a few times. Im disappointed because I thought I would be learning with my first partner and now Im not a virgin and still no experience. I wish I lost it as a teenager so I wouldnt have to deal with this now as an adult.

[@ItsOnlyBannor]

Sura S you waited and that’s important. Society hypersexualizes young women to explore but std, spiritual ties, disappointments, unwanted children is a real thing. Take your time and learn about yourself, sex is a beautiful thing when done with the right one

[@suras8984]

@Its only Bannor .... thank you for that :)

[@SomeHowSomeOne]

Same here! I resent society for it! We should have been better educated! It's especially important for us women since we are very vulnerable! We are trusting and eager to please.

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

I like u 💑💑😍😍😍😍😍😍😍💏💏

[@Ena48145]

this popped into my recommended and I just needed to tell you how much respect I have for you. the fact that you sat here and told the entire world about something so personal with absolutely no shame or hesitation is amazing. these people who have left disgusting comments have no right to. we all have mistakes. most of us have given our body to people who cheated on us or someone who continued to hurt us. you didn't owe an explanation to a single person but you took your time and energy to do so. you are so incredibly beautiful on the inside and out.

[@missava7924]

Watching this in December 2019 - almost 2020. I adore your openness because I'm very open when I talk about sex and love and just life in general. A lot of people can't handle someone when they are 100 proof. It makes them feel insecure, so they spew hateful comments. I was raped and I never processed it until later on, I was 14 years old and he was 18.

[@babarnadeem6090]

Welcome Friend.. You always keep smile like a Red Rose.. 🌹🌹🌹

[@LifeWithWit]

It takes a lot of gut and bravery to acknowledge your history to not only yourself but to an online audience. What you do is so needed - no matter how uncomfortable your topics may seem. And they are only uncomfortable because sex is a matter that is not discussed in real life as it should be. The truth is - what you are doing is what every woman wish she could do. Talk about our sexual pasts. Our histories. Our mistakes. Sex is such a taboo language. Thank you for creating the dialogue and allowing women, like me, to feel comfortable about their sexual identities - little by little. Keep growing and sharing everything that comes out of your mind! You are a force to be reckoned with.

[@sabrina.natalie]

I wish I had the ability to express myself this intellectually and articulately. 👏🏽 Thank you for reaching into my soul and putting my emotions, thoughts, and opinions about this video into words! Sending lots of love to you. May God continue to bless you abundantly.

[@rsking6729]

sex is such a taboo language - I like that.

[@michaelfrench9494]

Shannon thank you for your ability to articulate about sexuality and the anatomy and physiology of it. As a pastor and physician I can tell you there is a lack of accurate information for both teens and adults.

[@Always_Veronica]

Shannon! Thank you for being so transparent. I think when people share their own stories of hurt, healing understanding and life in generals is what helps other people gain a better understanding of themselves. Our individuals stories are also what make people interesting. No journey as identical and you shouldn't be made to feel bad about what some trolls on YT have to say!

[@jackcoltrane5532]

WORD!!! More people should speak so openly about the human condition!!

[@MeLyric]

Ignore them. "If a dog barks at the moon no one cares. If the moon responds, then it's a press conference. "

[@bayyinahel-amin363]

Phenomenal Transparency 🧘🏾‍♀️ High Vibrations all around 🙏🏾 Grateful for this greatness👸🏾

[@mixedprincess91]

I almost lost my virginity when I was 15 years old, but I changed my mind. I am 25 years old now (10 years later), and still a virgin.

[@shanboody]

+Shawna Tracy good for you!!

[@mixedprincess91]

Shan BOODY Yes, but I have dealt with a lot of guys asking me for sex and I reject all of them. I want to have sex, but I resist and like I said, I want to wait until I'm married, so I can be with someone who I truly love and who truly loves me.

[@crossing.the.cosmos84]

Shawna Tracy please waiy, I had sex at 23 and Shannon is right its not all its cracked up to be. I wouldn't take the moment back...but I'm not doing it again...I can live without sex.

[@mixedprincess91]

Kinky.coily. ஐBeebe ஐ Treeஐ I wanted to have sex, so I could have the experience and not be made fun of because I was a virgin. I have only given oral sex. Sex should be saved for two people are in love with each other and shouldn't be wasted.

[@HisaLight2mypath]

Shawna Tracy good sweet

[@KhoasD17]

Was I the only one who got super happy when she finally found a meaningful relationship?

[@ksdelicia2000]

I cannot thank you enough for sharing your story with the world. I am 35 and your words are resonating with me. Thank you for your honesty, for your rawness and for your realness. I hope this reaches and teaches someone. You are amazing, keep doing this work!!

[@bermyFairn]

This is a must watch for young men, and probably a should watch for all men. I wish I'd had your work to share with my daughter when she was younger. Good job Shan. You rock.

[@minkiemonkey9]

Loved the video but it really crushed my heart when you said "teenage boys will be teenage boys" I don't think that's an excuse to be a jerk and share your information.. That's such a jerk move of him :/ love you Shan.

[@OnjelieMarie]

You're right. Being a teenager isn't an excuse to be immature

[@deej5608]

AMEN AMEN AAAANNNDDDD AMEN

[@crystalpad2010]

I appreciate how brave and open you are. I was raised to kind of conceal certain things because I'm so honest which isn't always appreciated but you always remind me that it's fine to share in order to maintain authenticity and to help people. Thanks a bunch

[@ShalisaCordilia]

!!!!yasss you said ittt!!!!!!!!!👐👐

[@deej5608]

Crystalpad WELL SAID

[@Faith-sr8zw]

I wish I could speak with clarity like you

[@KeepItBrightTV]

you're so refreshingly honest, and it's beautiful! so sorry for all the undeserved hate you get, and for all the bad partners and shit you've been through, so happy you're in a loving and appreciative relationship now queen!

[@KyeeAltranice]

This is really good info! I love your transparency and honesty. It sounded like you were reading portions of my life. We as women (especially black women) really need to have these conversations more

[@tomfree7768]

Most women only want to share the good experiences. It takes a lot to put certain things about you out there for the world to see. You’re not afraid to share the bad experiences knowing that someone will precede it as bad; another may learn and hopefully benefit from it. Women need to be more like you, comfortable in their own skin. Keep doing you and being you. You’re awesome! I really enjoy your videos.

[@shanboody]

+Tom Free wow thank you Tom

[@savannahandstuff]

Wow, this was so raw. Thank you 💖

[@fransuaoteromargary5144]

"teenage boys will be teenage boys" No, they have to learn to respect. That kind of behaviour is not intrinsic to the fact that they are either boys or teenagers, but the socializatiom process OF becoming a boy. And that is not okay and we don't have to be passive about it.

[@ashleecarrington]

Why would you bash a women trying to promote heathy sexual freedom?! People are so hateful for no reason.

[@mataafa1]

Ethos Thirteen could mean many things ? Could mean not having sex ? Could mean ensuring protection is used? Could mean only having sex with a partner after certain personal conditions are met example time frame, commitment etc etc and the list could go on and onnnnnn.... however the most important thing here is an individuals choice at deciding whatever sexual freedom means to them is uniquely their own and theirs alone.

[@davidgdmz4551]

Bury Me In Chanel within your statement is a HUGE deception that has swept Western culture in the last generation. Within those 3 words is the biggest lie ever told > there is NO SUCH THING AS 'HEALTHY' sexual freedom. Healthy sexuality only exists within the structure of marriage between one man and one woman. Done.

[@lujitsu1251]

Bury Me In Chanel mmmmm

[@magisterhpp]

@Sara Bunting And then these repulsive (to all men but whoremongers) morally depraved women lie and stab another human being in the back. Greed and Love never go together.....ever! You will know them (tares) in their youth. Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed *undefiled* ; but *fornicators* and adulterers *God will judge* . 2 Peter 2:14 14 With eyes full of adultery, they never stop sinning; they seduce the unstable; they are experts in greed-an accursed brood!

[@shariporter6002]

@Yahudah Israel Sexual freedom does not equate to promiscuity. one has nothing to to do with the other. there are women who do not understand the science behind sex or how to protect themselves sexually that are incredibly promiscuous. sexual freedom means the right to choose because you have the knowledge to do so. keeping people in the dark does not get rid of natural, instinctual behaviours like sex. ignorance is not bliss and it is not godly.

[@christinahernandez1637]

Love you Shannon! I do want to comment on one remark you said. When you said that at 16 years old individuals are physically ready to have sex, I want to remind the young viewers that physically being ready and mentally being ready is two different things. I remember being 16 and how I was not interested in sex at all. And that was because of many factors, I was always taught to focus on my schoolwork, couldn't date yet, etc. So I just wanted to mention this point, because I believe there is this other side of it where everyone is ready in their own time. When I was ready and interested in sex I remember feeling exactly that. It no longer felt like it was this thing that other people did, it was this thing that I could see myself exploring because I was there mentally (I was 19). I also want to say that Im sorry you get negative comments like the examples you showed in your video. I applaud you for fighting back. Ive been a subscriber for under a month now, and I subscribed because I see how intelligent, confident, humble, and beautiful of a individual you are!

[@lujitsu1251]

Christina Hernandez gorgeous

[@oxjobros]

wow wow wow I needed this fr. and now he's your baby daddy ahhhh I cry

[@royalengwenya5124]

The amount of knowledge that I gained from this video is unparalleled. I'm 19 years old turning 20 this year, and I was always self conscious about whether I was not experienced enough for my current boyfriend or if I was too complacent for my own liking. I too was a victim of sexual assault from my own boyfriend from that time. What you have said in this video resonated with me on so many different levels. There was no better time for me to bump into this lovely self actualization video. I have not only been inspired but I have been gifted with the fact that it is okay to say no, it is okay to know what I want, as well as its completely okay to be imperfect and vulnerable at your own will. Thank you so much.

[@williamseneka9959]

Stand tall girl. Choose to be what's right for you and ahead. Taking control of your vulnerability is maturity, growth and ensures you make the call, not him. Ciao🙏🏿

[@KeenaButtah]

Shan, I personally believe it's better to use the term "sexual debut" versus "lost my virginity". The latter sounds outdated and weird- we didn't "lose" it, we just simply had our first sexual experience (whether it was good or bad). When talking about sex I personally use the term "sexual debut" and it seems to resonate well with others and I would suggest sex educators and others use it too. 💗

[@xmodeldreamx]

Yes ! I think so too because 'losing' seems to make us feel guilty or that something was taken from us rather than a mutual experience.

[@airparris]

i like that term :)

[@Signedxlisa]

KeenaButtaH wow love this

[@bezlichnyy7675]

Well done. That is such a good point. I agree. You give someone your virginity not lose it. Your sharing your sexuality. Lose it sounds more like religious fanatics that think that lust should be withheld until marriage. I think a person may have sex with a person they like and it is mutually desired. I like your style though, sexual debut is interesting.

[@TammiBloo]

YO I love this! ("sexual debut" sounds a lot funner too lol)

[@zaythaman6032]

I'm a guy in a wheelchair 27 years old I'm glad I found your channel because you are candid and knowledgeable about sex and truthful about It and your experience you have went through your life you help me a lot much respect and thank you for making these channel and helping me out.

[@kelcibee1648]

This has to be the best video she has done. I see Shan in a different way. I respect her and Im proud of the woman she has become.

[@g.money888]

your truth, your thoroughness & openness are making the world better. thank u for what u do. it’s hella uplifting and inspiring. helping people understand their experiences and feel empowered in their sexuality. it takes courage, integrity, vulnerability & hard work to do what u do! you’re a light 🌟🌟🌟

[@autumnalexander9082]

I love your honesty. A guy I've been seeing (that may be wearing out his welcome) said "I hate that girls talk about sex life, that's private" and my answer to him was "Girls just gossip about that stuff, it's fun" which in some ways is true but I also think that women have to. Like some of my friends had never orgasmed even on their own and we traded tips and experiences and it happened for them. Guys get off most of the time regardless of who it is or intimacy etc. I texted him and changed my answer to his generalization (that I don't think is true. Men ain't all hush hush all the time that's for sure) cause of this video.

[@TheRelativeUnknown]

He might have meant that he prefers discretion. Sharing your sexual experiences with others doesn't enhance the relationship, and many times might ruin it.

[@autumnalexander9082]

He said specifically that guys don't talk about sex in any realm even beyond personal sex life. And I understand some people prefer privacy, that's great. I'm not into sharing specifics about my sex life necessarily. Also he is wearing out his welcome for very many reasons but not that specific comment, I understand if he likes discretion in a partner.

[@TheRelativeUnknown]

Well he is definitely lying. We talk about sex, and in great detail. Some of our friends could direct a movie based of our descriptions and it would be on point scene for scene.

[@Pal3sa]

Autumn Alexander He's lying. I've spoken to guys about sex, fetishes, all of it. Guys talk about sex. So do us girls. It shouldn't be something we keep quiet about.

[@0Kimchi0]

Wow, Shan. It takes great bravery to share your history with us, and unfortunately relive some horrible moments. I appreciate you so much and you make me a better person. It's not often we have a woman of color confidently telling us about sex, relationships, and how self-examination fits in-between. Thank you for serving us and making us smarter with each upload. Your experience matters. You're a star!

[@daedae7288]

Really wishing I’d watched every single video when I first found you a WHILE ago. Probably would have prevented a lot. Thank you for sharing.

[@kelsey24k27]

Although my experiences are not exactly the same there are no words to explain how much this video helped me I'm old enough to know that I'm not alone in somebody's experiences but hearing someone talk so candidly about things like this is very healing.

[@kaserey]

Shan, Im so grateful that you dont succumb to some of the negativity in your comments. Im 19 and throughly confused about love/sex/relationships and I look to you for advice often. I want to thank you for sharing your stories with us here on yt, always being so candid and real.

[@oldcomic1]

Some people can't stand it that you are beautiful and smart and not ashamed of your sexuality. There is a word for them, LOSERS

[@shanboody]

+oldcomic1 lol I adore you

[@marcusavery1601]

fact

[@oldcomic1]

If only I were about 35 years younger ....

[@throwthatassinaprayercircl2662]

and some people view her as narcissistic.

[@theveganflower5135]

I'm so sorry for what you went through, we do need to have a convo about how society takes woman saying no as them secretly wanting it or being hard to get. Thanks for being a voice for female sexual empowerment 💖

[@chelseafcfanforever2529]

I think I just found the best channel on KZbin.

[@OfficialZayZay]

As a 23 year old heterosexual man watching your videos I absolutely love you Shannon!!! You're honesty and openness is something I truly admire. Most people hide behind what they think their reaction should be, or what's expected of them but you being authentically you is amazingly refreshing! The honesty and pride you convey is contagious. I've used your videos to spark conversations between me and women I'm involved with, I've referenced you many times when explaining an idea I got from one of your videos, and I've referred women to your channel when in need of some insight. You help me help the women I'm involved with to find their authentic sexual being and be prideful in it. You are great!! Keep up with these awesome videos! Thank you!

[@shanboody]

+Isaiah thank you for this incredible affirmation wow

[@OfficialZayZay]

+Shan BOODY You're very welcome! thank you for your continued authenticity and transparency.Oh and for responding to my comment lol. low-key wasn't expecting that at all

[@user-om8lu4nq4v]

Hurt people hurt people. You're a goddess Shan. Fuck the hate, eat cake!

[@MsMercy1992]

Girl this video has given me absolute life. So candid, so raw and direct. I've now subscribed. I can't wait to find an attentive and open partner.

[@BrianaJadeCreates]

Omg as I’m listening to you I’m like wow I wasn’t the only one going through this as a teen and my college life so many people go through this thanks for the courage to put it out there!!!

[@mayrahu1122]

I think it's so brave and powerful that you share your story. It's honest and raw and funny and sad and all the feels. It's so important for young girls to hear a story like this to relate too or to get more informed or to get more perspective. Thank you💕

[@mayrahu1122]

And for people all ages too!

[@icomefromCuba]

I could literally listen to Shan talk forever. I always learn so much and walk away feeling a bit more at ease about my own experiences. Loving these long videos girl, thanks for all you do!

[@va4life398]

I love how you got so excited when you said he listens. Lol. Like, yeah, the sex is great, but he LISTENS! So much more intimate and stimulating than sex. Men need to understand that.

[@ruaimaahasan6049]

I never ever got that “slutty” or “thot” vibe from you at all. You always seemed educated, dedicated, sincere, thoughtful and like you knew what you’re doing. Like a very conscious being. It’s not our place to judge you for who or how many people you’ve slept with. + I think it’s so cute that your first time was so natural and you both were virgins haha

[@LolitasWorld]

Your a FUCKING BEAST!!! Who gets on camera and is THAT honest? Shannon, I don't know you but your a fucking amazing addition to this planet gifted from the Universe. Stay REAL! It's such a helpful testament for all of us! Love ya all the way from Tdot!!

[@KINGKB93]

You're strength is beautiful, I admire your drive & tenacity bun the haters,your knowledge and the way you spread it through this channel is unique and keep your head up and keep reaching higher

[@shanboody]

+KINGKB93 lol bun the haters! I haven't heard that terminology in awhile

[@KINGKB93]

haha we still use it over here in the uk

[@jamrockk331]

KINGKB93 Jamaican slang originally

[@JK-eb5li]

Having symptoms of ptsd and boarder line personality while trying to date and create bonds is the hardest challenge I have ever faced.

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

There is so much shaming involved in ALL directions with this. I lost my virginity at 23 to my first (and last! still going strong) serious relationship and the amount of pressure I felt not just from peers but from female rolemodels in my life as well between the ages of 13 and 23... like something was wrong with me for not being in a hurry. I just wanted to be true to myself, just like everyone else is allowed to be. There is so much virgin shaming, too, and so much suggestion that it implies you're unwanted. Especially my own mother regularly drew parallels between me and her older sister... who spent her entire life alone. Can we stop telling women how to rule their bodies?!

[@brookesbestlife4918]

I wish you wouldnt say "your bigfoot gross self" hair is not gross. All bodies are beautiful, keep in mind your language because you are perpetuating negative ideas of womens bodies, and I know you don't mean to :)

[@shanboody]

word :) oxo

[@brookesbestlife4918]

thank you for what you do!! I actually aspire to do what you do I am pursuing womens gender studies in grad school and i want to empower women and myself/i have also had similar experiences.

[@shanboody]

that's amazing! You have no idea how proud it makes me to have women like you give their time to me. Thank you endlessly

[@brookesbestlife4918]

thank you for the work you are doing!!! yay strong women

[@kingabe07]

3l

[@GJStone-tf7vl]

obviously those trolls don't know that you're an educated teacher on the subject of sex,etc. i see all of these vlogs as educational; and i'm so sorry i didn't have you or someone like you when i was growing up, but you're here now and i am sponging it all up. thank you so much for being, teaching and giving. thank you!

[@IamSunil017]

Eww...

[@analyst1777]

The beginning of you story broke my heart. I am glad you found someone that is helping you to heal and that represents men in such a positive way! Keep doing what your doing! I am sure you story will helps a lot of women and men!

[@1212lilith]

this video and your story resonates with me so much and i just want you to know i appreciate you being so open and honest about everything even your mistakes. it really helps

[@71PSALM]

Thank you for being so transparent. don't listen to haters. Girls women and everyone needs to watch this. THANK YOU.

[@katiejoseiber7619]

Thank you for sharing your story of rape...it's too common of an issue that women don't recognize or scared to speak up. I love your talks and your openness! Super proud!

[@kirkgonzalez353]

Awesome video. Incredibly brave sharing with the perspective of time and forgiveness (for yourself and others), and such mature understanding of your motives and attitudes. You are so well spoken and accessible. You're persona made me feel you were my sister (I don't have one - but as I imagine.) that was talking just to me in a very frank and open way that made me want to forgive and understand my own sexual history and make me a better man going forward.

[@iheartcandra]

Watching this years later and realizing she’s talking about Jared at the end is just *chefs kiss* a testament to growth honey! 🥰

[@ARRTY97]

fantastic video. you always make me think and take me on a trip I never expect. Thank you

[@ARRTY97]

oh and I am also glad you found such a giving and authentic partner. glad to known that ish exists.

[@ohxchummy]

*Starts petition for a Boody podcast*

[@tavianastar21]

It’s sad that people usually are in these compromising positions because of fear and being afraid of saying no. I wish people felt more comfortable and vocal about these situations. Thank you Shannon for sharing your story!

[@soulfullexchange4794]

I love how engaging you are. You are a great speaker and your truth is appreciated and empowering.

[@RobertLoyale]

This is why I enjoy your channel. I not only get a perspective about how to treat my girlfriend/fiance, but I also can now understand the structure of women and what they think or probably thought about after our encounters.

[@mariovanda9504]

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[@kaelyn5322]

Love your transparency!!!! Don't let ignorant people take you down! 💕💕💕💕 You're doing awesome and exactly where you should be!

[@folorunsoadu1605]

I love and enjoyed your sincerity and honesty. The presentation is a good material for education. Thanks for sharing.

[@palabalababutsu4617]

Thank you for this video. Not for now knowing what you're sexual life has been until now, but encouraging everyone watching this. I hope everyone loved it as much as me

[@ShannonDoheny]

Love how you're so open! I'd love to see more collabs with Amber!

[@Pr02tatuzz]

It's amazing to see the humanity in your story. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@3171jay]

Sorry that happened to you. Nobody deserves that. Awesome that you opened up about it. Shows the realness in you 💯

[@jstjade]

A panel full of women who I can relate to ❤️ I’m so excited to see more videos and getting to know you as a person !

[@taywilburn1447]

Sending love and virtual hugs to Shannon for sharing so much of her life with us! She is a beautiful woman on the inside and outside! I always come away from her videos with something that adds to my esteem (sexually and as a woman).

[@agossipqueen]

Hi Shannon was wondering if you could do a video on proper vaginal hygiene, smelling alright, tasting ...decent, signs of sexual infection, dietary affects on the vagina and things not to do.. was talking a friend yesterday that still douches! So a lot of people don't know ! I could even learn a few things !

[@spirituallypresent4034]

Bethany Tuise I believe it’s like water and vinegar in a bottle and you squirt it up your whoha. I’ve never used them. I heard if you use them you’ll have to keep using them or you’ll stink. I’m good with soap and water.

[@Tr0ublezz]

Yea our vaginas clean itself lol no need to put anything in it ...if there is a smell there could be a medical reason ...diet plays a big part as well as stress ..can cause so many different things

[@MyLoveShouldBeASong2]

I want to take this moment and thank you for being so honest about your life and telling your stories. My friends and I all have a similar story about non consented sex, that once we shared with each other brought us closer and also made us realize we were not alone (sad to say) and it is horrible that as females this is something we had to bond over but at the same time at least we have each other and we continue to embrace our sexuality and move forward. Hearing what your sister said to you was all to familiar because at one point I said the same thing to my best friend. I had went through the same experience and didn't know what to think of it and never wanted to talk about it ( I normalized it in my head). Their are plenty of females out here that need your stories and education so please never stop or think that what your doing is going no where because you are changing lives and empowering all women.

[@mithzynelson3110]

I can 100% relate to the hairy legs and being concerned about not smelling like a fresh rose 24/7

[@tatid6743]

your third experience was my third experience..and I still feel the same confusion... dawg why are you so real? you feel like my sister or something

[@eman2537]

Shan you probably won't see this but I am fairly new to the channel but from what I've seen you seem like a very cool person very smart and very beautiful inside and out keep doing what you you are doing god bless.

[@shanboody]

didn't the beginning of the video show you.. I SEE ALL COMMENTS lol. This is a place of dialogue and I owe it to you guys to see and hear what you have to say. Thank you so much for doing the same for me

[@richelle9193]

Wow I didnt even know that I needed to hear this. This brought up a lot from my younger years but in a healthy way. Thank you Shan

[@andrewilliams8056]

Wow, it takes a lot of courage to speak about real experiences that happened to you and actually sharing to educate others. That's what's up. A true role model especially for young girls and women 👌

[@DeeJay00001]

You are a brave woman & feel for you for the things you had to go through. I hope you're in a good place now.