The Truth About Our Relationship...

[@DONGIN]

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[@Yoongiwifie]

Dongin, sir don’t scare me like that…. I hope you both are not breaking up! I would be so heartbroken…because you guys are amazing

[@Firecrackers_Official]

Ok thanks

[@FarinaJo]

hope this was helpful for some of you 🥰

[@rishikasihmar9386]

Yes thank you 🥰

[@kimshri8654]

Yesssss unnieee

[@x_raes]

It was. I especially loved the fact you told us the way you solved your communication problem by doing the Love language Test. It is especially very helpful

[@xiaoarmynotcreatinganycont7483]

Yeah ty :)

[@ganahi_17]

Is there any way we can take the same quiz you guys took

[@simplykaitastrophie]

You guys don’t owe us anything! Your life is yours! (I know that wasn’t the main point but I just got to that part and I want to let you guys know that just because we’re the audience doesn’t mean you guys owe us anything)

[@tonikugel9995]

True!

[@soumyasingh2823]

Exactly

[@adag7649]

I almost died with the tittle omg don't do that to me 😭😭😭

[@nadiaandamal6993]

yeah me to

[@justlinc-hy4of]

same 🙄

[@patiesward]

Me too 🤦🏽

[@suz-2050]

fr woke up read the title and nearly went back to sleep forever😭

[@snehabiswas3081]

Me toooooo

[@melodeene]

Some really wise words from Dongin and Farina. My husband and I are complete opposites of each other, but today is actually our 32nd wedding anniversary. Learning how to express love so the other person feels loved is so important! Gary Chapman has actually written several books on this, you might be able to find them at your local library.

[@chloegeorges5098]

I love the idea of the video, I think it can help a lot of people to understand their relationship and to help them realize that the problems can be solved but they just need a little help ; which can be like you said difficult to admit, that they have problems make the relationship works. Your experience can help lots of people so it's really cool to share it, thank you !

[@a-02aakanshachaturvedi52]

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[@peachiepao942]

This is super relatable to me. Me and my most recent ex were also very different and we had different love languages. (Mine being quality time and his being about giving and receiving gifts). It's important to understand the person you're with and try to make adjustments so you give them what they need while also ensuring you get what you need. **We broke for reasons other than our differences in case anyone was wondering. The point is, people that are different can still be in a relationship and make it work.

[@niiiiisac4101]

This felt like BTS festa this year😀at first I thought that is a breakup video, finding later that’s a real representation of how relationships work♥️ Thank you Dongin and Farina.♥️

[@lunar_dreams]

It is actually super interesting, I grew up receiving a lot of love through physical touch and affirmations. Now being an adult my love language is also physical and I like to share food for example but it's sometimes really awkward because I have friends that don't like touch but I'm really touchy.

[@siouxzieq17]

I'm so proud of you in: 1. Seeking counsel as the stigma can be debilitating. And B. The language difference...not just linguistically, but also Love Languages is doubly difficult!! BRAVO for working through it!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 🙋🏼‍♀️😻🤟🏼♥️

[@Charlie_Wolfe]

💜💜💜 It’s so nice to see couples admit that it’s not healthy to expect relationships to be perfect all of the time (some can be, just don’t expect it is all I’m saying) I think that’s something I get paranoid about, because I’ve been dumped out of the blue without warning that I get nervous that when things seem to be getting dull, the person will just leave me without talking about it

[@moche2303]

I really appreciate this video. It's really hard to remember sometimes that social media is a selective image of a relationship, and that relationships aren't supposed to be the way we see them online because they're always more complicated. And couples counseling rocks!!

[@rachiehahaha]

I think the most healthy a relationship is one that communicates. People can be different and “incompatible” and ur right the difference makes the relationship fun. I can’t imagine being with someone EXACTLY like me. no relationship is perfect and like I love my family yet we get in so many fights SO MANY sometimes we are incompatible but our family still works. U guys got this~

[@astheyasewgobind8370]

I think this is such an important part of a relationship that people tend to underestimate. This basically forms the foundation of any relationship. The more you both commit to work on it, the stronger it will get. Thank you for shedding some light on this!

[@lisannegudegast5667]

After I watched this video I had to think about the way Dongin was so happy that Farina surprised him with a vacation. That really shows how serious you take each others needs and try to make the other person as happy as possible. :)

[@namtellectjoonal7230]

Thank you for making this video I think especially for the younger part of your audience it is super important to remind them that even the healthiest and cutest relationships have moments of conflict and imperfection. It's important to manage expectations and put actual work into getting to know your partner and finding compromises/solutions I also really appreciate you destigmatizing couple's councelling and showing that it's not necessarily just for married couples on the verge of breaking up Amazing video

[@annamoxiangdai2481]

I’m sorry destroying the serious mode, but Dongin is actually wearing purple and not black!✨He looks so good💜

[@thegirl3225]

While farina is wearing black lol

[@annamoxiangdai2481]

They changed roles lol

[@mgy3383]

Wow. So glad that you talk openly about this. Just wanted to say, a relationship is something which doesn’t need two compatible people. Cause it’s something which is special if it works despite the differences. And you are together for over 3 years. That shows that it worked out although you weren’t compatible the whole time. We can learn a lot through relationships and that’s amazing. At the end of the day it only matters with whom you really want to spend your life and not who is compatible. Because otherwise it would be too easy and boring hahah

[@katherynne8241]

couples counseling is the BEST and is such a good idea especially if you want your relationship to be long term or life long. i wish people would be more open to talking about it and seeing it as a healthy thing.

[@kpt002]

I think usually in a good relationship you have enough similarities and enough differences in some kind of a balance. Too similar or too different people won't work in a long run. But then what is extremely important is to try to understand each other's different point of views. And since no-one is a mind reader to expect things (like certain behavior) of your partner without telling him or her what you need, won't work. So good and honest communication is needed if you want things to work in a long run. I have often seen couples getting in to long lasting conflicts cause they were both assuming things and not talking straight and honestly about their expectations in the relationship.

[@6873d]

I didn't expect this kind of content but this is actually very helpful. I realized a lot of couple gone through this and both of you able to show us that not compatible doesn't mean you can't work it out. I really hope more people aware of this problem and how to solve them

[@leahjones5689]

Wow this was such a healthy conversation. loved it.

[@xp___]

dongin: we absolutely love each other... farina: 🥰🥰🥰 aaaahh love everything about this video!!

[@barbaranader]

My mom’s a Taurus and my dad a Piscis as well and they have the best relationship ever! So compatible

[@helenaxhelili5628]

its alright guys you dont have to feel as if you owe us explaining your relationship. thats life things happen but kuddos for you for working on your problems

[@shelseyann-klarelmomplaisi8639]

If you guys break up i will never fall in love, i wanted to cry when i saw the sentence" WE ARE NOT COMPATIBLE" .

[@sakshilade5873]

You guys are cute together 🥺☺️

[@venu_uss]

you have just opened my mind. what a great act of love must be done to accommodate the preferences of the other and learn to show affection in another way. how beautiful it is to see that you are a couple wanting to stay side by side, thank you for teaching us something new 💖

[@breakitdown2099]

Thank you for opening up and telling us a little bit of behind the scenes. Even though you didn’t have to, I appreciate it. I have been in a relationship for almost a year, and we recently found ourselves having issues with understanding each other. I thought maybe it was a bad sign, but we are figuring it out and seeing it being a normal thing in long term relationships is really comforting. Thank you! Love you guys!

[@tine9494]

After everything your life is yours angels 🥺 , we're here just for supporting u and being with u in every moment , I luv u sm and always u are my fav couple 🥺🍄

[@dianalau2680]

Hahaha I love the way Nord VPN came into this deep conversation 😅 you guys are awesome and I hope you the best, as a couple and as individuals 💜

[@theresemartin3920]

Gosh ! You can't imagine how helpful this is ! Thank you both of you !!

[@vickiedemand112]

I love that book the five languages of love. It is so wonderful it helps you to know how to love the other person in the way in which they will feel loved and vice a versa

[@saryichigo]

Thank you guys for the honest conversation! Really helpful to bring some awareness about improvements in our couple relationships

[@Lealinchen97]

Thank you for bringing this up and sharing your positive experience with Relationship counselling. I am a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach and I wish more people knew that it’s normal and helpful to see someone with more expertise around relationships and that it can be fun to improve! We’re so conditioned to believe that knowing how to build healthy relationships (or have sex) should come natural to us, but it really only does to a degree. Part of it Skills, knowledge, deconditioning and putting effort into that is f*cking sexy if you ask me. It’s normal there’s stuff to learn and unlearn and sometimes heal. So many people come to us right when their relationship is at the brink of falling apart and expect us to fix it within one session. We’re pretty good, but we’re not saviours. Do yourselves a favour and start early - I promise it’s worth it even if you break up because you take your knowledge and skills into your next relationship :) but it’s more likely it’ll last in the first place

[@luciakrc]

This actually made me think more in depth about my last relationship... Thanks

[@RedRegina]

Thank you for this, thought about it but never had the guts to bring up counseling. It’s nice to see some realism

[@corilewis]

Such a good reminder that healthy relationships (of all kinds) require self-awareness, others-awareness and work. :D

[@jo_lives4jesus]

I’m glad you guys are being open about your relationship it’s nice to see people be truthful nowadays 🫶🏾✨✨

[@jyothisgeorge7326]

For a moment I freaked out ! But thank you for this video. You've shown how important it is to be transparent. This video is an important reminder. Thank you both.

[@valleykwc]

I understand this perfectly. It was also kind of bizarre watching, because it is exactly my husband and me. I am white, pisces, acts of service. My husband is Korean, taurus, words of affirmation. He reacts and makes decisions based on emotion, and I have emotions about things but react and make decisions based on rationality. Our basic values and goals align. Relationships really are a learning process and require compromises (on things that are not a solid must for you). Love is absolutely necessary, but work is required too.

[@albietg2544]

Most divorces happen due to their inability to express their feelings to one another, and in some cases most of them don't accept their own mistakes. Expressing your feelings and accepting your own mistakes can make the relationship healthy. And this is what I show in this video. You are going to live together forever, there is no doubt about it. Both of you are good persons. May god bless you.

[@minimonimonismoon7523]

I'm not sure if they know this, but they literally compliment each other. Them being opposite makes both of them stand out in a good way in which there's equality in the relationship. Since they both have different needs and perspectives, those are being catered differently but equally since they're opposites.

[@tatianapaniagua5102]

I really love this kind of videos becuase I feel that we have so many common thoughts about healthy relationships

[@sherryphipps2283]

Learning these love languages is life changing. And stay in counseling, even if it’s only monthly…. ❤

[@nake]

i found out about love languages a few years ago and it was mind-opening! i think stuff like this is super important to know in order to have a better chance of having a good and healthy relationship. what is the number one for any relationships is communication though. as long as you communicate open and honest i'm sure you can better connect to each other and actively solve problems, express feelings and needs. i really like that you did this video and once again spoke to us in an open and honest way. personally i believe this might help a lot of people that imagine relationships to be perfect c:

[@OnTheWorldStage]

One of the most important videos I've seen in terms of understanding why we often feel unloved in relationships

[@gsilveroak]

There really isn't such a thing as a perfect relationship. Relationships are like a garden, it takes work and care to keep your garden beautiful and free of weeds.💜 I'm glad you both worked through issues and are together. I do think you have a very good relationship. Opposites do work!

[@natashanovaes1280]

That's so nice to see. My boyfriend and I used to fight a lot bc of our differences, we weren't able to accept and understand each other, a lot happened to us but we got so much more mature, and now we really get pretty well with each other, even with the differences

[@chiarawicke814]

Very nice and informative video about your relationship!💜

[@purpleturtle7375]

Love how open you are and wish you’s the best 💜

[@camilyborges5070]

I absolutely loved this video.💖

[@myewzek2913]

This is really interesting, great video! No shot your couple counsellor was right about your types btw, ISTP-T is rarely more emotionally available than INFJ-A lmao (I’m guessing with the T versus A). That test they made you take is unreliable, it’s not an official test at all (I know which test it is based on the terminology of “virtuoso” and “advocate”). Kinda weird that they told you you were “incompatible” based off of that thing. Though you’re definitely incompatible with the love languages lol. But I believe there is no golden pair; incompatibility doesn’t mean impossibility and compatibility doesn’t mean certainty. I think the highest indicator of success is if both individuals are willing to try to understand each other and work on the relationship, regardless of type.

[@treespirit3796]

Couple therapy is really great. I think it makes couples way stronger, and it's especially beneficial with a preventive approach

[@genevaeram]

This is why you both are my favourites

[@itspragatidesai8021]

Cutest couple I ever see 😻💜

[@jackami2835]

Having different love languages was actually my main reason (not the only one) to break up with my ex. I just never felt like he unterstood what I needed while he was mostly happy with my way of showing him love. So I guess it's a very important topic. I'm gonna consider doing this test with my next partner in the futur.

[@mikaelaoliver9919]

really appreciate this video! thanks for being so open and honest.

[@nicolemorillo6903]

I love the video, I think it’s so much important to know about each other for understand much better and have a better communication with your partner, it’s really important respect each other and try to understand and respect the differences point of view, I really like this video because I think it’s important to know that, so much people ignore this things and have so much troubles with the partner. Thank you so much for makes this video I really like it.!

[@madarasamanta2494]

Being a couple is really hard + add entertainment business and pressure from public , it will be double hard. But yes, communication between partners is important and there is no shame or need to be shy to ask for help or just get a different point of view from third person (better from professional of course). This can help with the thing you are stuck with and help seeing things from different side and see solutions. So you both do what you need to do and that works for you. Best wishes Farina and Dongin. ☀️

[@bakeneko7039]

Not to stereotype but as an asian, Dongin's love language is so relatable. In asian households acts of service is definitely something that we do to show our love. We are mostly too embarrassed to give words of affirmation. That's just something asians don't do mostly.

[@kimedina7014]

You guys have no idea how much I needed this

[@sarahmoller7308]

This was a great video and I think all of this applies to friendships and other human relationships as well. I just lost a long term 'best' friend because we were too different and honestly none of us was willing to put in the effort to fix this friendship. And the fact that I'm not even sad that it's over makes me upset yet realize that maybe it wasn't meant to last a lifetime. 💔

[@treespirit3796]

It was very insightful to hear about the difference in love languages.

[@dannyth5413]

My love language is gift giving/ receiving!

[@palakkumari112]

This video is actually very helpful ....Thank you

[@elizabethb7550]

Yes!!! Let’s normalize couple therapy 👏👏👏

[@x_raes]

I did the love language Test and My results are Like Dongin. -32% Acts of service -28% Quality Time -26% Giving of Gifts And 6% for Both Words of affirmation or Physical touch. I think I apparently don't need it BAHAHAHAH 🤣

[@patito4985]

Where can I do the test? 🤔✨

[@alyssaalexandra14]

thanks for being honest!

[@nuchii4128]

I realized how Dongin's not in black and how they're kinda matching 👀🤗❤️

[@nadaarmy2503]

I love you two so much 💜

[@pminho9855]

Self awareness, a very important thing which is really required in this fast moving life these days. Thanks for delivering such content. 👌💜We love you both, looking forward to more such counseling videos and other stuff 💜💜

[@the.anxious.girlboss]

UPLOAD KING DONGIN IS BACK!🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@jijiart5690]

The best video that i've ever watched about working out a relationship ♥ love you and thank youu

[@btonez208]

You owe us nothing !!! But thank you for the reality check…. Glad you guys are a natural normal couple.

[@debbiejones3911]

This video was really interesting and helpful.

[@asablue4615]

I actually needed this

[@dristkv]

This was so relatable wow 😭

[@nia_melody1342]

He is back yea💯👑🤗

[@AngelsOnScreen]

I just started the video but Dongin you look really great in that color!!

[@cermalis5184]

Love you guys and love that you talked about the importance of understanding each others love languages🫶🏽

[@alexanderson3612]

It's great that you're talking about it🙂👍

[@carlethiastreet7596]

I enjoyed; thank you. I am glad to see you could be so open. That gave me something to think about.

[@isyy9911]

Love the way you guys described at the end how it is to evolve as individuals and together as a team in a relationship “like a rubix cube” lol 😆 100% right 🙌🏽

[@andreacoates3198]

FANTASTIC video! Thanks😊

[@nikimylonaki3688]

You guys are amazing

[@Cassszzzzz]

Wish the best for u both💜😚

[@-inefable]

it's so funny watching this video bc I'm literally an advocate and my primary love language, with a 40%, is Acts of Service as well hahahah I asked my partner to take the quiz after watching the video bc I always feel like Dongin described in the video btw you two look lovely here

[@lennmathew]

Such a healthy conversation! I wish you guys the besttt

[@sophiamassella4244]

Love you guys 💜

[@FranciscaRilo]

You guys are precious!

[@Rurubynaii]

I got scared by the tittle and then looked at the description saw the sponsorship and thought there is no way they monetised a break up right?

[@1922anne]

You are so right!

[@chrisleneperceval4484]

Loved it!!!

[@anaabrantes975]

This video was so helpful! Had no idea this existed, will definitely take that quiz 😊 The sponsor for this video should've been Betterhelp 😅

[@freebirdy333]

very insightful

[@rey.mohammdizadeh]

Wish u guys the bests💙💙💙

[@Staa_delulu]

This is a very educational video

[@valentinaco]

I love the both of you. For real❤

[@pamelacruz3789]

I learned a lot with you, thanks for this video.