The wedding scene- Unorthodox

[@boogieonthebeach]

this is the song she then sang at her audition... now I'm crying harder

[@WolfsmithXP]

Not hating or anything But Why would you cry?

[@mimimarie44]

xpt0 Why wouldn’t you cry? She was forced into something she didn’t know is what she didn’t want. Following traditions and into and unhappy marriage. Forced to lose her virginity. Forced to be silent. He didn’t listen. Her family didn’t listen. She had no friends. No one to talk to. By the time the audition comes around, she’s free. She has friends. When she auditions, she doesn’t have to hide. She doesn’t have to be silent. My reasonings aren’t that strong, but I cried like a baby.

[@user-eh7bn8fe3k]

omg i’m realizing it right now omg

[@Adeloah]

Jwe song 🥰🥰

[@mimimarie44]

@Abel Bort wdym?

[@stone1488]

For those who don’t know and see the men moving back and forth whilst singing, in the Torah somewhere it says that you must move like a blade of grass whilst praying, it’s as your saying your alive and present within the prayer

[@EughhBrothereughh]

No disrespect but its so weird

[@Redrum101896]

​@sty731 and yet your comment is still disrespect. 🤦🏻‍♀️ When someone says anything and then uses the word "but", the first half of what you said doesn't even count. In your case When you said, "I don't mean to be disrespect, but". Nah you meant it.

[@belle7893]

That’s such a beautiful thing, I never knew that, thank you for sharing this 😊

[@Kaykay8080-j6x]

@@EughhBrothereughh It is disrespectful.

[@Kaykay8080-j6x]

I had a Jewish teacher who told me it was to show respect to god something like that

[@annimu9081]

It's sad how she looked so happy when they got married but as soon as the wedding ended that high ended hard. I really do believe Esty and Yanky would've been a much more content couple if it weren't for the reality that they had an arranged marriage.

[@koolaidman6251]

I think that if she didn't have the physical problems with her vagina she might have been ok. She would have gotten pregnant right away and been too distracted with the stress of a new baby to do much else --- it's why religions want men and women to marry so young -- when you are tied down to multiple children as soon as you are capable of bearing them, you have no time for anything else.

[@dumalun8388]

@@koolaidman6251 it is not physical problems, it is lack of tenderness and foreplay. Sex is emotional, it starts outside the bedroom.

[@Wxtst.3]

Koolaid Man Physical problems? The dude went dry bruh ofc she’s gonna find it painful.

[@koolaidman6251]

@@Wxtst.3 The character has a condition called vaginismis -- it's impossible for women with this condition to have intercourse no matter how much lube is used. The woman must spend months or even years training her vagina to relax. It's most common in women who have been raised to believe that sex makes a woman dirty and filthy.

[@BabsChannel]

@@koolaidman6251 I had vaginismus for years. Then one day I didn't. I didn't have to train myself at all.

[@kathconserv]

These people don’t have privacy. It’s disturbing. Everyone knows everyone’s business.

[@BabsChannel]

Ever been to the south?

[@lalala5471]

Ever been in Balkan we are worse unfortonetly

[@kathconserv]

@@BabsChannel sure but I’m referring to this culture.

[@dOVERanalyst]

Ever been to Asia?

[@lindaschreifels9889]

Ever lived in a “small town”?

[@naorshahar7759]

this song sent me to my childhood can't stop crying seeing it..

[@M.Free23]

What is this song about?

[@naorshahar7759]

@@M.Free23 it's about loving

[@annasoph8967]

naor shahar did you grow up orthodox

[@naorshahar7759]

@@annasoph8967 yes

[@dmenwatson1954]

@@naorshahar7759 your not orthodox anymore?

[@depyk7989]

It reminds me of the movie sleeping with the enemy. Both of these women experienced ruthless violence but their desire for freedom and salvation from their prison overcome any hesitation and fear.

[@A.Alegria]

''ruthless violence'' XD

[@samirzapte]

I love this song, this scene ❤

[@pamscott-fahnestock8601]

I felt sorry for her. Her husband didn't seem to know about foreplay or lubricant. Then goes to his mother for advice.

[@giselestrauch5146]

I felt almost the same way when I married my ex bad memories watching this for me.

[@malyab5341]

Were you forced to marry him?

[@annasoph8967]

Stay strong

[@teresawilson3893]

Like a lamb to slaughter that’s all this is!

[@ancoloco]

What an intense scene.

[@LinusLarrabee]

It’s like boarding scene of Titanic.

[@prabjothsingh4612]

I love this wedding song "Mia Bon Sach". This culture kind of bears a close resemblance to Indian cultures. I also feel the orthodox Jewish community is shown in a negative sense in this movie.

[@limeducky0209]

During the wedding scenes, I couldn’t help but notice how they intentionally try to cover up the bride and draw less attention to her, instead shining the spotlight only on the husband and the men in the ceremony. This demonstrates a lot about how these traditions subordinate women and cover them up rather than make them feel valued or paid attention to.

[@kristalhenderson7590]

That is actually incorrect. The opaque veil she wears is an orthodox tradition dating back to the days of the Bible. Don’t try to apply feminism in ancient traditions.

[@princessbananahammock5470]

lol u so dumb. Most orthodox weddings are all about the bride. (This coming from an orthodox)

[@bosska2012]

@@kristalhenderson7590 So if it is an ancient tradition, it can not be against women? It is not about feminism, it is about how many religions degrade women. And yes, usually it is from ancient traditions, which does not mean, it is right.

[@dOVERanalyst]

@@bosska2012 What every orthodox person like me is saying here: Across religions, brides are the main attraction in a wedding. And most brides have faces covered during the wedding. Not to degrade them but to give them more importance. Yes, many customs can be wrong. But the whole point of showing the best in the end isn't something new. Doesn't seem weird to me at all.

[@izabelmoala8380]

YES !!! I so agree with you like i was one for loving and getting to know their culture until it came to the womans who has no rights smh how the hell is that even fair?

[@renaj9206]

The grooms really head banging hard isn’t he?😂

[@strugglingcollegestudent]

He’s rocking back and forth because he’s praying and that’s how Jewish people pray hope that helps

[@tabindashamaoon124]

Can someone explain the tradition of breaking the glass and what it means? Why did the mood suddenly changed and lifted up drastically?

[@stitchedmouthgirl]

It’s like the final “I do”. It signifies the end of and the completion of the service. Also the beginning of their marriage.

[@myopinions1]

The glass is a nod to not having the temple in Jerusalem and the fact that we are always mourning that even during the time of our greatest joys. Usually the wedding isn't that depressing. This is an over dramatization of the serious and the happiness. Remember it's a movie.

[@shulidernis1418]

@@stitchedmouthgirl no, it's a reminder of the destruction of the temple. Even on your happiest day you must mourn the loss if the temple and Jerusalem

[@lillybet5772]

@@myopinions1 it's a real story of the girl

[@strugglingcollegestudent]

Well I’m Jewish and my mom claims it’s “as hard to break this marriage” as it would be to put back all the pieces of glass

[@39zhanna]

This was my life, the worst part mother in low had to take my sheet after first night and show to whole family of the husband to prove I was virgin, I felt raped. When I divorced my husband no one in the community wanted to talk to me. Unfortunately in my situation I left my husband and community after I gave birth to my twins, which made it so much harder to be in the real world .

[@prarthanaperera1997]

I hope you're doing better since then. Sending you much love ❤️💐

[@strugglingcollegestudent]

That’s horrible I’m so sorry

[@39zhanna]

@@strugglingcollegestudent thank you

[@MP-vy7ot]

I hope life has been kinder to you since then ❤😞 a big hug

[@39zhanna]

@@MP-vy7ot life is great now when I’m single , thank you.

[@margalit3]

שמתם לב שהוא אמר מגורשת לי????😱 כדי שלא יהיו קידושין אמיתיים 😄

[@Mk-vd9qs]

I am not so sure, he said it in a chasidishe accent and it seemed to me he did say... and he gave her a ring... cd be a real problem....

[@הדרבנאיס-ל7כ]

מרגלית טל כן שמתי לב אבל היא משחקת גם בשטיסל ששם הבחור אומר מקודשת לי בטבעת זאת..

[@Mk-vd9qs]

@@הדרבנאיס-ל7כ I.heard.both and.defintely he said "mekudeshet", which basically now gives her a problem as she is halachichally married to this actors, and will have problems in the rabanut... she would need to 'divorce' them

[@i335]

חחחחחחחחחח

[@tg2683]

@@הדרבנאיס-ל7כ עכשיו היא לא יכולה להתחתן אם כהן

[@tinad7101]

She seemed happy at the end

[@SUNNY-Z8]

Free

[@sriddle3569]

Love the mens hats

[@theflower6455]

Shtreimels ...

[@missyrabbit5250]

This was such a good movie

[@ayesa8866]

I loved this show but I have so many questions about the Hasidic community and their rituals now. Like why is Yanky moving back and forward? Why has Yanky closed his eyes and he is sort of led through the wedding? Why is Esty's head fully covered?

[@Muse-V]

Yanky is praying, they also do that whem they are learning Torah. And she's covered bc of some story of the Bible I can't remember right now but I do remember she is covered also because he is marrying not her outer self and beauty but her inner self. I hope that helps a little.

[@tg2683]

He's praying with deep concentration for peace and happiness for him and his bride.

[@footyfan101ful]

There is a story in the torah where a man got married and he thought it was the woman he was marrying but after the ceremony she took her cover off and it ended up being ladys sister.

[@nicolina1026]

@@footyfan101ful Rachel and Leah.

[@dmenwatson1954]

@@footyfan101ful that’s not what happened

[@pythagoreanteacher1558]

I really like his hat

[@jesssander568]

Thank you

[@reisagerber5515]

Beautiful

[@milesm1234]

What episode is this scene from?

[@suryap9386]

The 2nd

[@margiejohnson5722]

Read the book, “unorthodox”.

[@ghazaletaigar8268]

ممكن جميع حلاقات الفلم وتحياتي من المغرب الشقيق

[@sabinaj5455]

Please can somebody explain why they have so strict rules, so very much traditional, which limited women’s right (in some cases also men’s) ? I’ve read number of stories and in many cases women’s rights were infringed. What is the philosophy behind those rules? If it’s religion driven is the religion directly says that women have limited choices about marriage, education, work etc

[@lizahope1233]

Sabina J our rights aren’t limited or violated. On the contrary we live beautiful meaningful lives filled with joy. Unfortunately this series does a poor job portraying the reality of our culture.

[@DreamnEnjoy]

@@lizahope1233 I have no doubt that people can be happy in your community. But like any community, the questions arise when someone feels like they don't exactly fit, which happens everywhere, all the time. In some communities, most people around them will adapt, in others most will not. In this case, the woman who left very obviously was not happy there. Her husband sucks, they are both too young to actually know who they are and what works for them in a relationship. And she's under even more pressure because of her health problems. Others are very happy around her. Because they managed to fit. She didn't, and felt like she had to leave because of this. The question is not "do people get to be happy there?". It's "what are their options when they don't ? ".

[@t.r.s.5129]

I would recommend finding books with a different perspective on what an Orthodox Jewish life is. There are a lot of online resources also available that explain in depth the theological principles and philosophies that guide us. It is very sad to see that most portrayals of Jewish Orthodox life in the media are characterized by unhappy, abusive marriages when there are also magnificent stories of love, strength, resilience and faith. There are multiple Rabbis with multiple opinions and if this one seems too strict for you, there are other groups that are not so strict and still follow the Halacha (Jewish law) without abusing anybody or making anybody miserable.

[@caylabrown5550]

This is a cult

[@orsors2129]

Sabrina, all religions infringe on women and their rights. The more strict the religion, the fewer rights they have.

[@malyab5341]

Quelle tristesse, on dirait un enterrement !

[@i335]

Malya B MDR je suis juive mais t’as pas tort

[@malyab5341]

@@i335 Oh Sorry! Je rêve de visiter votre pays un jour, il m'intrigue tellement

[@i335]

Malya B ne dis pas Sorry je suis pas religieuse mais j’habite à Paris pas en Israël haha

[@malyab5341]

@@i335 🤦🤦🤦🤦😁😁😁

[@frederique9344]

Ça a juste un caractère solennel qui s'est un peu perdu de nos jours.... J'aime beaucoup cette culture. L'aspect religieux fait toujours des dégâts et passant outre l'humain avec ses désirs propres, pour les femmes, pas simple, mais chez d'autres, ce n'est pas mieux mais les juifs ont une merveilleuse culture... À part dans le bon sens du terme. Tout à un sens dans leur façon de célébrer les choses.

[@pythagoreanteacher1558]

So how does this wedding thing work she drinks from the cup and he stands on it??

[@strugglingcollegestudent]

Yes, wife drinks the water and then husband steps on the glass

[@pythagoreanteacher1558]

@@strugglingcollegestudent interesting 🤔

[@milkarosenberg1905]

So false in yiddish they say a gemochte machsheifa is erger vi a gebirene which means a false which is worse then a born one

[@onthespiral4054]

More like 200 thousand

[@donandygore6690]

If he hadn't broken the glass with his foot , what?? 🤔

[@spacelasertech8359]

Then he'd stamp on it again until it broke. It happens.

[@اناروان-ي2خ]

why are thy holding her as if she was a Prisoner lol

[@analunegrao325]

EU estou comprometida com um amigo judeu

[@nicoleoliveira405]

?

[@jeanbartok7163]

ça manque d'un Louis de Funès...

[@smollilbean]

I would really, really like to know the meaning behind these traditions. Like she drinks from the cup, and then he stands on it, what does that signify? Why is yankee always bending forward?

[@יונתןהילזנרט]

We break the cup in order to remind ourselves that jerusalem has been destroyed.

[@malkarozenthal1930]

It's too much real 😪

[@princessjune]

I’m converting to Orthodox Judaism. I’ve never been so happy in my life.

[@elizabeththeuser2282]

good for you...idiot

[@dmenwatson1954]

@@elizabeththeuser2282 no she’s living a life of truth and following god now

[@dmenwatson1954]

Good for you!!!! Orthodox Judaism is the only real religion

[@dmenwatson1954]

@@josebergua3363 that’s what I mean

[@yaritzasanchez9736]

SHALOMM

[@bleach8619]

This show or movie isn’t true

[@popev3887]

I watched this last night. Unorthodox is the portrayal of the swarmy, seedy, underbelly of the secret society of the Hassidics. This secret sect and their enslavement of child brides is just a part of the disgusting behavior of this sect acting as agents of God. They are very similar to the Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints, except the Hassidim import millions of doses of illegal narcotics, such as ecstasy, into the USA every year. And when the Hassidim are not busy smuggling drugs and making billions of dollars on their drugs that pollute and destroy the neighborhoods of New York City and others, they are illegally shipping stolen precious stones across international borders, think Blood Diamonds and making billions of dollars. The Hassidim do not pay any taxes on any of these illegal activities, obviously. They are protected by the politicians and the medial whom they buy off and own like so many other things. Yes, this is the true picture of the Hassidics.

[@noorrougelewis6704]

Why were they happy at first when they got married, but then became very unhappy? What caused her to become unhappy and miserable? I find their strict lives and culture in their own Jewish communities fascinating, and I've never known much about it before. I've been wondering why jews have always been so hated. Have they ever actually done anything to make people hate them so much and want to wipe them out? I'm really just curious. They've been targeted since biblical times.

[@sarahgrape2651]

This story is supposed to reflect the experience of one individual, who essentially had a difficult home life (her mother left). They have marital problems (she has vaginismus) and for some reason they don't deal, though in the book it says they fixed it , she runs away to Berlin where her estranged mom lives. She experiences a non-Jewish lifestyle and chooses that over religion.

[@sarahgrape2651]

I think people opt out of dealing with their personal demons, or with the people who oppress them (though oppress may be a tad dramatic). Instead they collect G-d and the whole Jewish people, and religion into one neat pile, label it fundamentalism, or something similar.

[@sarahgrape2651]

This is one story, one story of many. But you would be connecting the wrong dots if it came to religion. Because there are plenty of people who aren't religious, who aren't even Jewish, who go through the same traumas.

[@39zhanna]

She was happy because she didn’t know what marriage is about in this community

[@guccigirl2389]

This was like a scene from a horror movie..

[@j4v-cyberpunk-music]

The way to avoid an invitation to a wedding of someone you really don't like for unspoken reasons here in the Valley Hells Kitchen for one like me is to show up in a really good blue suite without any porcelain at the Polterabend and several times loudly state that you always thought only Jews at the actually wedding crack porcelain... #IhateyouGermans

[@dinagreen5165]

lol this is so fake... bride doesnt take off vail in middle of chupa and groom doesnt give her wine...

[@dodogh1372]

هل هذه طقوس اليهود

[@dodogh1372]

@@BB-wv5vl thanks

[@sleb6259]

Who ever made this film has no idea how a Jewish wedding is performed.

[@Lazaro38Roca2]

Misery

[@yallmd0654]

This is a well knoiwn Bobov wedding March. This film has little similarity to the real Hasidic life, and the commenters know little about Jews andJudaism.A babble ofd dopes;

[@תהלויצמן-מ7י]

הדוסים האלה באמת כאלה או שחקנים?

[@chrisvanbenschoten910]

billie eilish live

[@batelbensimon]

The way the groom moves back and forth doesnt seem real,....sorry...

[@gina2930]

It's very real if you've seen any hasidic wedding

[@i335]

Its a tv show

[@tzipi22]

it's real

[@yael_eizikovich]

נכון. נראה מזוייף ממש. לא כמו שבאמת מתפלל בחופתו

[@annasoph8967]

Clearly you’ve never been to a Jewish wedding

[@whatever4929]

Why does Yankie look like he has stomach ache?! These Haredi live on another planet.

[@nicolepelletier9081]

they arent Haredi, they are satmar hasidic Jewish

[@downeastboy84]

@@nicolepelletier9081 do you know what the difference is between hardei and Hasidic is there any difference if you know anything please let me know I would really appreciate it thanks so much