The "Weird" Thing About Bowling 🎳

Bowling: Wh!te People, Say the "Weird" Thing 🎳 #weoutchea #gullah #geechee #bowling #golf #swimming #weird #history sunnmcheaux.com weoutcheamerch.com

[@danikahholdman2609]

Naivete is something that’s afforded to the privileged.

[@michelecherek5392]

I PROMISE....😢

[@segara04]

Mmmm that is real good. 👏👏👏👏👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿

[@Spark_Chaser]

One part naivete, one part we don't get told about a lot of our grandparents sins because it makes them look bad. Once Mr. m'Cheaux started explaining, it all made sense. This is another instance of "If you're reading history and don't feel some sense of sadness, shame, or remorse, you're not reading history. You're reading propaganda." Too many kids get the propaganda read, or a soft version of the reality, and never fully understand how disconnected from the truth they are.

[@punkroxgirl]

⁠​⁠@@Spark_Chaserperfectly said…i remember when I started figuring out, in my early teens, that I had been fed so much propaganda and that is inexcusable to me. No one needs to “protect me” from shame or remorse that i should be allowed to feel and work through. I even became curious about things like propaganda and mass thinking or delusions because of this. That curiosity hasn’t stopped and I’m 49 now, because I’m still always learning about things that I was lied to about before.

[@melaninmonroe007]

The privileged with phones in their pockets. Access to all the information in the world

[@tyleri.4219]

That makes sense. Golf, tennis, bowling, etc. are also often very expensive, which is just another way to maintain elitism and inequal access

[@joshuakosar417]

Even in sports that are cheaper to get into like disc golf, the lack of a welcoming community, or rather the frequent presence of a downright hostile one keeps folks away.

[@lkeke35]

We need to include music (classical orchestra) , dance (ballet), and academia (college professors in general) as well. It is amazing how only about 30% of the population of the US managed to keep whole populations of "others" from participating in American life by simply gatekeeping various industries and jobs!

[@Metal_Face_Doom]

Can we add cycling to the mix

[@TG-dr6sj]

@@Metal_Face_Doom Cycling for sure, it's unbelievably expensive and every year the SUVs get bigger.

[@kingflumph5968]

Even on public golf courses where it's relatively cheap (compared to the clubs), golf is also a very time-intensive activity. You've got to be able to show up at a specific time and dedicate several hours to it, which is hard if you have a demanding work schedule and can't afford to take time off.

[@thevnsdrkangl]

What ice cube say...(paraphrased)they thought they'd make you mad by not inviting you to their club then get mad when you dont wanna be in their funky little club😂

[@quirkyviper]

And somehow, we STILL do it all, though. I'm a certified SCUBA Diver, my spouse plays golf. Even growing up well below the poverty level, my family still went bowling every now and then. We truly are outchea ppl.

[@denyshadials5702]

I and my family have our own shoes and ball. We don’t rent. Getting a ball is rite of passage after your fingers have stopped growing.

[@itoibo4208]

ikr? This video is racist and stupid.

[@oya-adjuasankofa7338]

Reminds me of the Klorox Klones who are "surprised" that I've never been camping,in my 48 years of life as a Black woman,who grew up in the Northeast,and raised by deep Southerners.

[@lkeke35]

Do you know how many palm skinned people simply disappear in forests and nations parks? Nah. Too much potential for harm in such places.

[@catsrule8844]

Klorox Klones? This is funny to me because black people make up like 11% of the population but account for like half of the bleach bought in America.

[@punkroxgirl]

I never understood camping. It feels like pretending to be homeless and I’ve been too close to being homeless for it to feel enjoyable. I get it if someone is traveling cross country or climbing a mountain or something, but those are also privileged things. I was also raised in the north east with grandparents from the south and I’m 49. I have never been surprised that none of my black friends have been camping. I am constantly surprised by the willful ignorance of white people though.

[@JamaicanemeraldQueen]

That's a hard past from me and I am from Jamaica.. never understood why they are so drawn to be outside in the bush on the ground with all those critters and killer animals just free balling. Ooh and not to mention the true crimes that happen in the bush..like what the hell... Why would I put myself in a Forrest miles from my house to be stalked by other demented people.

[@punkroxgirl]

@@JamaicanemeraldQueen exactly 😂🤣 every horror movie shows us that in creepy wooded areas, the black friend dies first!

[@IndomitableAde]

And still we rise...

[@scorpleeon]

My dad caused ruckuses at Swinney Park pool in the 60s for making it inhospitable for his kids to swim there. He learned to golf for his new white collar career in the 70s but he wasn’t invited to every round and knew where he couldn’t play. He got good anyway. Y’all act like you don’t want to know. Say the thing.

[@fdm2155]

Well there have always been folks who find a way. However, that doesn't negate the reality that extra hurdles mean many fewer people in the targeted group have tge opportunity. And why should your father or anyone have to work twice as hard for access??

[@scorpleeon]

@@fdm2155 agree with you 100.

[@ToniGlick]

I was a lifeguard at the YWCA in Jackson Mississippi in the late 80's. We were severely underfunded because of being the only organization that kept the pool open to everyone after civil rights. We taught a lot of black people to swim. I only lived there a year or so, but I hope the swimming education was passed along.

[@mistresstia]

That is how I learned to swim when I was a teen. The only lifeguard was black and he made sure he taught all the kids that went there how to swim properly and tread water well. I’m still not a strong swimmer because I don’t frequent pools that often but if it wasn’t for him I would never go swimming at the beach.

[@denyshadials5702]

My dad was a lifeguard instructor and swim instructor supervisor in the 90s for the YMCA. It was one of the few jobs he could work after drug rehab in the 80s. My brother and I were ‘practice drowners’ for his students. Floaters and swimming all the to the bottom. I don’t even remember the age we learned to swim. Felt like we’d done it forever.

[@gailgfaust208]

We have to include dance as well. The excuses that we don't have to right bodies, feet are too big, etc, have kept black dancers away from the art form! But we are showing up and showing out!!!! We always do!! #weout hea

[@mistresstia]

Fam they say all that and steal our moves and still don’t have the swag and sensuality to make it look right 😂😂

[@punkroxgirl]

@@mistresstiayou’re not lying 😅

[@MrBazBake]

Know where residential zoning came from? Berkley wanted to block a black dance hall, so they brought zoning laws to California so only single unit housing could be built. Decades later, it spread across the country, 75% of residential zoning is single unit, and now nobody can afford to rent anything!!! Berkley just ended it a couple hears ago and apologize for the racism. 😂 If there's something in this country that just seems designed not to work, it's because white people were so desperate to hurt black people they never realized they would end up hurting white people.

[@tlrcarroll]

😂Exactly! Misty Copeland, anyone? 🎉

[@minalhabash3893]

It's wild to me that this isn't more obvious to them? Like my first thought was oh probably segregation

[@Nisa1971]

They are the fish that do no see the water. What water? 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@gooaygar]

segregation has been illegal for a very long time though

[@BooDotBoo]

They don't think about this stuff. They don't have to and are trying to erase it, so they never have to think about it again. Let's be real, they wish all this slavery and racism would go away, while not doing anything to change it. Just tell us to stop making a big deal over it and stop holding a "grudge". LOL.

[@raed3240]

​@@gooaygaryou can't legalize social attitudes. Private businesses and households can still discriminate. It happens everyday unfortunately.

[@demekonrn]

You are goofy as hell​@@gooaygar

[@Nerobyrne]

The weird thing is racism. It's just been around so long, most people just accept it.

[@TawandaVance]

They are so oblivious to the things they've done, it's getting downright pathetic.

[@zenith8417]

In my experience its not that I’m oblivious, its that I wasnt educated on it. I always felt like the history books in school kinda glossed over slavery and racism considering how much of an impact its had on the black community, and yeah, they did, it was some sincerely fucked up and inhumane shit done to black people for no reason

[@dragonhero14]

@@zenith8417 That's the problem. There was a reason. Inferiority complex going back before the founding of the colonies, and solidified with the help of governments, churches(Blacks are those forsaken by God/ sinners bc their skin is "dirty"), and science (Charles Darwin as an example). You don't hang bodies in a tree and have a picnic below them in the Sun with your family having fun for no reason. The reason is that they felt that it was their right to do so because they were white and others were not.

[@lkeke35]

I wouldn't get too bent out of shape about not knowing stuff. I'm reasonably educated on Black history (I knew about the swimming, golf, and national park stuff for example) but I'm just now finding out about that whole bowling thing, and I should've guessed that.

[@Skenjin]

Yes, I am oblivious to things done by people who were doing these evil things before I was ever born. No I didn't really learn much about black history and how bad racism still is because when I went to school it was so whitewashed that things like slavery and the Civil War were practically footnotes. So why do I watch him? BECAUSE of how little I learned about these things. I'm tired of being ignorant, but nowadays lack the attention span to do the research.

[@kaylynnanson6231]

To be fair, a lot of history education stops at ww2 in high school and not many young people are curious about history these days.

[@beckiejani7782]

Wow! No comments yet! A good discussion could be had concerning outdoor activities as well. The history of some of our national parks, forests, etc hasn't always been that great where non white folks are concerned. And then for some people, the economics of sports and activities can be a hindrance.

[@lkeke35]

Also being alone in the woods with the potential of any white people you might encounter to harm you, does not inspire PoC to go camping, hiking, backpacking, and whatnot!

[@MrBazBake]

Every time I hear a white person talk about Teddy Roosevelt reserving 100 million acres for the national parks system, I think they need to look up from whom 81 million of those acres were taken directly. It's obvious why white people keep getting upset about people rehashing the past. It's because 9 times out of 10 white people's favorite thing is stolen from a non-white person and given to them. 😬

[@JustFluffyQuiltingYarnCrafts]

Did not know about these incidents, Sunn. Thanks for the knowledge. 💖

[@KATHLEENTAYLOR-im3mt]

That makes me so sad, but thank you for saying it. History is heartbreaking sometimes. Sometimes people need to get their feelings hurt with the truth.

[@yugoxgc]

Hard to enjoy something when your enjoyment of the thing is not welcomed

[@20quid]

The guy asking the question genuinely seemed like he would welcome it though.

[@yugoxgc]

@@20quid Yes but who' had more influence? The guy welcoming you to a space NOW. Or generations of racists that would Lynch you back in the day?

[@yugoxgc]

@@20quid Yes some or even most welcome it NOW. They didn't around the time of your Grand daddy's YA years. Which was not that long ago. Or at least not long enough for the bad taste of that to go away

[@20quid]

@@yugoxgc So you wanted to do it when you weren't welcome, and now that you are welcome you don't want to do it? Do you not see the problem with that line of thinking? What's the point in earning long-fought-for freedoms if you're just going to refuse to use them out of spite?

[@yugoxgc]

@@20quid At this point Im not sure if you're Actually this oblivious or baiting 😑 Im not even from US or even Black & I get it. How is it confusing for you?!

[@dre_withwithout]

Yea I read about that bowling massacre bullshit… We can’t have recreation? 😂 A system created against us isn’t for us.. duh

[@mswetra2610]

You ain't never told a lie!

[@jayy2949]

Pools notoriously had whites only day hours and the lil bit of late day was for ppl of color, and I Believe that 2 hours was suggested but an hour was the longest some folks could hope to swim around for in the heat while learning to swim and teach the kids, the gates locked for maintenance with no maintenance workers, just the owner/ manager of pool smiling and threatening police call, this happened in "a sweltering week where a lil pool water was more like medicine than recreation" I was told by an older lady who lived it and the kids not learning to swim was primary concern of hers, the next few days go by and I'm watching a true crime forensic files type show about drowning, saying 11 year old black girls rated the highest as victims of drowning decades later, why? Not getting to learn to swim and pass it down to boys and girls alike at public pools in that crap little window of time ppl had after the whites left and pool was due to close. The episode was from the 90s! These gifts of hatred keep on giving. Oh be thankful we refuse to be our monsters monsters, it's a true gift we won't be under the bed waiting, as that's not our shared general way of doing, thanks to all who passed down history and with it love, patience, and tolerance

[@jusletursoulglobaby]

hell i dont know any black ppl who DON'T bowl... few who have their own balls, the rest enjoy the outing. i DEFINITELY didn't pause to think/consider that DT that happened to the students. I mean, OF COURSE, but dang.. i didn't know and im so saddened to hear it. But of course. Never thought to make a connection between those activities and DT either. well... golf i did but swimming and bowling, total blindspot. kinda want to question my parents a bit on this bc but i want to know what they thought involving us in swimming and bowling as jits was about. i hope they say it was a F you to mr. charlie.

[@BooDotBoo]

I bowl, but most of my older family, which is from the south, they do not like bowling. And I know it's for a reason. So many people seem to forget we were not welcomed for the longest time in certain things. Shoot, we still aren't, but we try to represent, anyway. Like, I remember wanting to be a ballerina or figure skater when I was younger, but then realized, I NEVER saw any growing up, so assumed it was just not a thing for us. Even now, how many of us do we see in certain things and, when we are there, too many of us experience enough racism to want to quit. I just read an article about, I believe, a "football" player who lives in Brazil, and he's so tried of the racism that he cries about it. Like, where is all the progress they keep telling us about when we can win games and Olympic titles for them, but they are calling us derogatory names in our faces or suggesting we are different from normal (white) athletes?

[@aliceangl3563]

Thanks for the History Lesson Sunn, the stuff they dont teach us in public school.

[@joshuakosar417]

Still see it everywhere, even in my personal fav sport to play(disc golf) where the monetary barrier to entry is low and most courses are public parks(albeit in the wealthier parts of town)... The community still isnt welcoming and the corporate sponsor money mostly goes to young white guys who's parents can afford to support them touring until they make a name. Philo is still the best commentator to ever pick up the mic and a fantastic player. Having him on commentary is all it takes to make a tournament worth watching for me. 😊

[@KaptainFuzzy]

It's honestly baffling to me how little I know/realize until Sunn points it out. I think I owe him tuition at this point.

[@Odin029]

This video proves to me that none of us should ever ask a question that we don't want to know the answer to.

[@Zectifin]

nah cus you get an answer and you learn. I knew the answer was probably racism, but I still learned a bunch from this about the exact reasons why.

[@leitmotif6854]

You should want to know the answers.

[@20quid]

This video proves to me that when someone asks a question out of genuine ignorance the correct response is not to browbeat them, because it's going to have the opposite effect to educating them.

[@hotonenickie]

​@@20quid no. First, as a white person the stance "probably racism"and then do some research. Instead as a collective group white people choose "y'all always make it about race" ignoring the fact that white people injected race into everything for hundreds of years and then TOLD is to just get over it over night. Also, not our responsibility to coddle y'all.

[@kalenanichol8375]

@@20quid Black History education, especially in predominantly white schools, is severely lacking in the US. Everything I have learned has been through my own education and finding people like Sunn or my AP US History course in high school with a teacher that is anti racist. The rest of my history courses barely taught me anything with regards to Black History.

[@nimo4335]

Great commentary!

[@wastedinspiration]

It's one thing to be ignorant, but once you've been enlightened, then it's time to be better. I wonder if this will open his eyes.

[@wastedinspiration]

Hi, it's me from the future, because of COURSE this wasn't ignorance, it was intentional /sigh. To be honest, I did kind of see that coming, but I was hoping it wasn't malice.

[@RobinRaye-np3vw]

​@@wastedinspirationOh? What happened? Did the guy make a response or something?

[@SewNola]

Exactly!

[@gloriahines5756]

💯 🎯

[@jennifercook6497]

I didn't know that happened to Tiger, that's crazy! What's worse is he kept trying to fit in with them and gain their praise.....🤦🏿‍♀️😤

[@Spark_Chaser]

That really does explain a lot of it. Whyte people ruining things for others.

[@Volundur9567]

As long as they exist, it will never change.

[@20quid]

As long as what exists?

[@BruinPhD2009]

This reminds me of growing up in Baltimore and going to Gwynn Oak Amusement Park. We had to be extra good when we went there because it had only been a few years since black people were allowed in the park all the time. The first time I went to Ocean City, MD with friends, my parents repeated "The Talk," because OC was notoriously hostile to black people.

[@queen_j1422]

..."it's YOU that has the problem" has been THE rebuttal and will continue to be, until they change their attitude. I was 1 of 3 black people on a Travel Soccer team. The 1st coach wouldn't let us play often although we tried out for the team and made it! State Teams aren't for everyone it's for the chosen, not leftovers. We felt like left overs. If the other parents hadn't rallied with ours? That coach would have stayed. Each year we had tryouts to stay on the team or be eliminated. I played 4 years until my Sr year of high school. I loved Soccer, but even in our away games YT ppl made it difficult for us to have fun.😮‍💨 My sister played Softball and Volleyball (she's 4 years older than me), she had a trash experience with her sports as well, and was often 1 or 2/1 of 3 black folks on her teams as well. We just wanted to be great, but it stopped being fun with all the extra mess added.

[@reidlosurt4093]

Sounds so Christianity of 'em

[@omnitheory]

oof... thats gonna sting some brittle souls.

[@22soap14]

Thanks for letting me know brother. Gotta be informed to be a white ally!

[@japhya0378]

WeOutchea!!!

[@JamaicanemeraldQueen]

I am a wii bowling champion...😂😂

[@Astro_oh]

Yeeeeeppppp, it's ironic how they completely forget this shit but it did NOT happen that long ago.

[@biharcourt]

That last part was cathartic AF 😅

[@nahoo7748]

I would love to get sunns thoughts on the black American heritage flag

[@Rang89]

Not that I would ever wonder this, not out loud at least, but I had no idea there would be such deep and horrific meanings behind these fact. It's a good thing to ponder, why certain groups do or don't do certain things.

[@akwaabab8504]

I dont understand why they dont mind they own businesses!

[@Mostlyharmless1985]

I honestly didn't know there was a thing about being hegemonically barred from bowling. It seems to be a fairly diverse pastime in my city, at least.

[@Lambeh]

Thank you for being willing to teach these lessons. I don't know what I don't know. Massive massacres over trying to share a space. As much as some of these newer laws in red states are trying to distort history, I think we might already have been learning two different sets of history. Thank you again for your dedication to education.

[@Waitingfortheday]

Hahahaha!!! You didn’t have to do it to them!!!! I wanna be like Mike!!!

[@marethahoneyb1541]

“It’s you” Nuff said✌🏾

[@ppinkston1697]

Point on as always!

[@noblevendetta]

This was the real reason they were hell bent on ridding CRT.

[@levmoses742]

OMG!!! So powerful and clearly stated.

[@n.anderson5938]

🙏

[@Skooh2000]

Spaces have spirits that warn you of past dangers. We live the horrors daily.

[@ApolloandMuse]

Ah yes. Marginalized people just ‘happen’ to not be in places. What mystery.

[@triemcallister]

I love to bowl and I'm happily blickety black.😊

[@diealovesveggies1762]

I'm thankful to be aware enough of my own privilege not to be walking around this painfully ignorant to my own existence. 💚 Thank you for being one of the reasons I am able to be more mindful of what I say and do. I was raised in the south by a racist family. It's wild the things that you don't learn as a white person growing up. I wish more of us were educated younger. Thankfully this next gen has really been working on that. 💚

[@LaShawndaLP]

My great aunts & uncles started a bowling league of their own because they weren't "welcomed" (allowed) to bowl with white people. The league is now 60+ yrs old. 💪🏼🫡✊🏼

[@BooDotBoo]

The funny thing is, when we create our own things because of this, then they get huffy about not being allowed in, too. I never forget the old calls, from when I was younger, but hear now, too, as to why there is no WET, but there is a BET... when we were barely on tv enough, so we made our own thing.

[@BruinPhD2009]

​@@BooDotBoo Right? TV IS WET.

[@sandraodell610]

Thank you.

[@fung4310]

Preach!

[@RedScareClair]

I mean i was just mad he stole that joke. Bruce Bruce told that joke YEARS ago. But dyaaaamm you went in hard 🤣

[@EveMe]

And although we don't participate all the time, I literally went bowling with my mom and my son for Easter. Please stop watching us, and live your life. Now, I am going to swim.

[@joesmith4098]

Lol, this reminds me of what one of my college basketball coaches would say, "there ain't no pools in the hood"

[@lovesyah4618]

Time is running out thankfully 🙏

[@dallasflynn5200]

❤❤❤ #weoutchea

[@spyczech]

They dont even think that in the past, people might have been excludeded. Itc clearly self exclusion right---- CLOWN EMOJI

[@conniemcmillian7010]

Agree with you 💯

[@TheRazorTongue]

Shoutout to Orangeburg! And all he said was true.

[@Jdwest6]

Damn. That was dope.

[@1cosmicdebris]

Every single time I go bowling (and I'm black) it's like a meetup!!!! I'm always happy that we show out for bowling. Where don't black people bowl? It's one of the things we definitely do!!! Well here anyway!!!

[@sunnmcheaux]

Don't let your personal experience block you from seeing our collective history and lose sight of the point. It's not that we don't bowl at all. The point is that systemic racism shut out a large number of us from these pastimes. Which doesn't negate your personal experience or vice versa.

[@SlimThrull]

Wow, that sounds terrible! If only the times had changed. Ah well.

[@octaviasanders8696]

And also how they did build swimming pools on top of cemeteries for black kids talk about their freaking irony

[@honeybrown2845]

When we were kids the boys and I girl club took us to go skating the chase us throw rocks . An we never went back .And yes it was white kids and adults.

[@macylouecorio66]

Sir, I would like you and Candace Owens to have a conversation...

[@sunnmcheaux]

Candace Owens doesn't deserve the validation of a conversation with me.

[@keeblertime1486]

I see plenty of black people having a good time every time I go bowling. You're talking about things that happened before you were born.

[@MisterIncog]

Sigh, these people just wanted to be a little pissy over nothing. You didn’t even really criticize the guy in the original vid for anything, just shed light on an important and interesting topic and used that ticktock to jump to it. Good comeback (except for bible citing)

[@jacquelinek]

Okay but what about now? What's stopping black people from enjoying bowling today?

[@OBNOXIOUSBLA13]

Im assuming this is a genuine question. Bowling might be a largely individual sport but it is typically done with a group. If none of your friends bowl you are unlikely to as well. And even if you and your friends go to bowl if yall the only black folks there you automatically feel, if not unwelcome, then Noticed. You dont get the privilege of just being another group of bowlers if its only white people except for your group. You have to make sure you dont look "dangerous" or "get too rowdy" by whatever standard the white people there collectively decide. And maybe its a bunch of decent white folks who will mind their own business. Maybe theres even some good ones who would step in if a bigot decided to ruin a black persons day for no reason. But maybe they are all a bit crooked, or maybe they are too complacent to step in if someone starts harassing the black folks. We dont know that walking in. We dont know that when we walk a room full of white people that all of them are nice. But every white person knows that we'reblack as soon as we walk into the room, and we have no idea what they are gonna do about that. This is speaking as a black southern woman who often goes Bowling with my cousins. But there have been other times and similar situations where my family and i have been the Only Black People in the room. And it was an immediate feeling of being Noticed. The conditioning to ostracize and suspect black people, to "other" us, never went away. Its just considered impolite to kill us in the street now so they dont do that as frequently.

[@sunnmcheaux]

This video INCLUDES NOW.

[@jacquelinek]

@@sunnmcheaux This video explains why black people didn't bowl in the past, but I disagree that these historical issues are enough to prevent someone from bowling today. It's not like swimming where you need someone to teach you or golf where it's expensive. Anyone can just walk into a bowling alley and start. You don't need to own any equipment. There's at least one bowling alley in every major city. It's probably one of the sports with the lowest barrier to entry.

[@MishasMama]

​​@@jacquelinekBowling has rules. It is a social sport and there is bowling etiquette. If you are not familiar with the game, or the environment, there are plenty opportunities for making people feel uncomfortable if that is your aim. Someone else in another comment thread also suggested to you other reasons why/how history has impacted the present. Racism still exists today.

[@vlogily8043]

I mean I’m not trying to be cool or anything but my wife’s friend/coworker’s daughter had her birthday party at a bowling alley and yeah thinking about it now I don’t think I’ve seen that many black people in a bowling alley before, but some do, kinda racist to assume at least some don’t go bowling, but it’s a very white sport let’s be honest and yeah there’s reasons for that

[@20quid]

Can't help but feeling like saying "it's you" to a guy who looks like he was born after Y2K let alone after desegregation just perpetuates the cycle of hate that created the situation he's questioning. Sure he's ignorant of the reasons, but the way he's asking the question makes it seem like he would genuinely welcome more black people into bowling, thereby having the opposite attitude to the people who created the situation. When someone is trying to extend the hand of friendship it really feels like the wrong thing to do is slap it aside just because of the actions of an unrelated person who happened to look like him.

[@OBNOXIOUSBLA13]

(I do not have TikTok so i can only go by what Sunn's video has shown.) Yt Dude asked a question, one that was ignorant, in jest because (going by this incomplete clip) he assumed that there was no particular reason beyond simple preference. There is an actual answer to his question, however, and it is no laughing matter. It should be noted that bigots will often "hide" their prejudice in "humor" and without the full context of the original video i cannot know if the man was asking a genuine question or if he was simply taking a shot at black people in a way that would garner him protection from people by using the defense that it was "just a joke." But even if he was being 100% genuine in his ignorance without an ounce of malicious intent, there is the point of what you said which is that we, black people, should spare this white man's feelings because we are telling him the truth unkindly. That same truth is far more unkind to us and no one will moderate their tone for us. They will not spare our feelings as they perpetuate history. WE are not PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE for racism WE face. Yet every single one of us is affected by it. And pretending like racism is over because Some of us have it a bit better now doesn't fix the still present issues of racial inequity. In a system that is intended to regulate certain groups to the lowest socioeconomic caste "not being responsible" for racism isnt enough. You have to actively be anti-racist and consciously dismantle the assumptions and prejudices that are ingrained in you by the function of this social system. And getting mad because the people being oppressed by that system do not use their "p's & q's" to tell you that Shit's Fucked is getting hung up on the Wrong thing. Tldr; we dont owe this man anything. If his feelings are hurt by us telling him that the problem is white people as an extension of white supremacy, he should consider how upset WE are about white supremacy.

[@pinkmoonrabbit2072]

"you should be grateful a white guy is inviting black people to bowl! how dare you deny his extension of friendship! You are perpetuating a cycle of hatred". thats how you sound. even if his video was actually about wanting black people to bowl, the entire idea that black people should always be grateful and grovel to white peoples invitation (who shouldnt even have the power to be arbiters of these spaces in the first place!!!) or else they are doing reverse racism is nothing but white fragility and racism on your part. The white guy doesnt just "happen to look like" other white people and is being blamed for segregation. He is white and doesnt just "happen" to be a part of white systems of power that are the SOLE reason why he isnt seeing as many black people in bowling alleys. Hes saying its "weird" that black people dont bowl as if its something about them. Its not. The only thing "weird" is white people on that situation, for making public spaces so violently inhospitable for black folks. please stop and learn about anti-racism and how to challenge your white fragility.

[@pinkmoonrabbit2072]

"you should be grateful a white guy is inviting black people to bowl! how dare you deny his extension of friendship! You are perpetuating a cycle of hatred". thats how you sound. even if his video was actually about wanting black people to bowl, the entire idea that black people should always be grateful and grovel to white peoples invitation (who shouldnt even have the power to be arbiters of these spaces in the first place!!!) or else they are doing reverse racism is nothing but white fragility and racism on your part. The white guy doesnt just "happen to look like" other white people and is being blamed for segregation. He is white and doesnt just "happen" to be a part of white systems of power that are the SOLE reason why he isnt seeing as many black people in bowling alleys. Hes saying its "weird" that black people dont bowl as if its something about them. Its not. The only thing "weird" is white people on that situation, for making public spaces so violently inhospitable for black folks. please stop and learn about anti-racism and how to challenge your white fragility.

[@MishasMama]

@20quid, no that's not it. No one is "slapping the hand of friendship". Stop bypassing and making excuses.

[@sunnmcheaux]

Nonsense. If you don't comprehend the concept of the royal you (majestic plurals), just say that. The rest of what you said is rubbish, too.

[@JohnSmith-kp7yr]

Good

[@caesmonde]

Word

[@SystemParanoia]

Found a pair of websites this week.. segregationbydesign and segregatedbydesign Ties right into this video topic unfortunately

[@JohnSmith-kp7yr]

I’m glad, stay away