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At the end of a romantic relationship, or even working one, to what extent should you cut that person out of your life entirely?
Some of us do this immediately. We burn all our bridges.
We scream, yell, and as a matter of pride we declare to ourselves that we’ll never associate with them again. But is that a good way to end things?
I don’t always think so. We can also get punished later on for being too stubborn in life.
In this week’s LOVELife video, I explain exactly when it’s ok to burn a relationship and when you should leave the door open for some kind of future (even if right now that idea sounds too painful…).
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[@katrinae5422]

being dumped by someone after a long term relationship over text is the worst. it’s like the person didnt really respect you after all.

[@wond3rer]

Katrina Empemano I'm in the same boat thru text after 2.5 years and then joins tinder and sleeps with someone within a week!!! That was just devastating but fuck that bitch just work on ourselves they both showed who they really were

[@katrinae5422]

Jules WinnField Thats terrible. Im really sorry to hear that. Even after a 3 yr relationship you really get to know someone by the way they leave you. Sometimes they turn out to be someone you didnt expect. When I was dumped via text I just walked away. 13 days of no contact and i dont plan on looking back. Keep trying to hold on to the fact that we should be glad we didnt spend a lifetime with people who showed zero respect

[@aaishaaa76]

Exactly.

[@pullabixvm5842]

Well ,I got ghosted by my girlfriend and it hurt as hell. I don't even know if I single or in relationship since there is no closure:( but well I guess I'm single .🤷

[@martanunez56]

Exactly

[@shayb4061]

This is beautifully said. We live in a throw away society where people are always looking for the next best thing. It's a rare and lovely thing to admit something isn't working and the page needs to be turned, rather than ripped out and tossed in the rubbish. It's so much better for the soul to end with grace.

[@betsycollins601]

I hope you do not mind, but I shared what you said here with members of my local singles' group.

[@Kristine14]

A guy just disappearing. One of the worst feelings. It stinks.

[@Kristine14]

+Frances Tiziano Yes. Like you never were. Never was a girlfriend. Never was anything, but nothing.

[@missy07yashy]

+Kristi literally just had that ... we were cool, everything seemed fine and then the texts stop, the calls stop, I messaged him and he would just read the message and never reply ... the worst feeling ever! ugh why are people mean .. :( xo

[@Kristine14]

+Honey Dee Because unless they entered the witness protection program, they are being cowards. And are not wanting to deal with potential conflict or raw emotions with or from their now s/o. In a nut shell, they wish to avoid possible "drama" Doesn't make it right, but in a way they are doing you a favor because you are no longer having your time wasted with the wrong person.

[@Kristine14]

+Frances Tiziano Yes. It can. Or like nothing, which is worse to me.

[@Kristine14]

+Honey Dee Sorry meant now former X s/o

[@JinjiSayson]

My serious partner of nearly two years dumped me over the phone. It's like I never really knew them at all.

[@tamarasumner2905]

Filiprima amen, the exact same situation as me💔❤️

[@KingBabaJames]

My x girlfriend of 8 years dumped me over text. We got back together 3 months later I dumped her over text. Because she started direspecfull. I guess its because I was the one that called her after she first dumped me via text. Been a year ago since break up. I still feel weird about it. Going back to x sometimes they thing you have no other option. But she knew that so many women were chasing. But I didn't cheat. Even when she undergoes surgery she was in recovery stage for 5 years. I was there with her. She disrespected me crossing my boundaries. That's it I'm done.

[@ΑγγελικήΒασιλοπούλου-μ9ζ]

when you break someone over the phone, it is actually due to guilt and fear. fear that the other person might attack, might try to persuade you otherwise, fear that you will feel 10 times worse doing it face to face, awkwardness etc. and franky, I would prefer it if someone broke up with me over the phone. it would be less painful for everyone

[@chamboyette853]

This woman I really liked and went out with just a few weeks asked to see me in person and broke up with me face to face. I had so much respect for her that I even introduced her to a friend of mine telling him that this would be a wonderful woman to date.

[@lobo53695]

my girlfriend just blocked me out of nowhere on everything. not even a text, nothing. then that familiar feeling of a searing knife plunging into your soul came. I cried so much that first night, didn't sleep for three days, and just last night I got quality sleep and feel better. I loved that girl with all my being...we talked about marriage and family and that happens. oh well.

[@toscadonna]

It never hurts to end things with class and dignity, regardless of what has happened between you. You don't do it for them, or for the future, it is because you hold yourself to a higher standard of conduct at all times. You don't burn bridges, unless you absolutely must do so.

[@aaishaaa76]

tosca donna exactly.

[@MR-mv6hd]

Agreed completely. I was just dumped over a text. I just can’t understand why he didn’t have any respect for me at all to at least make a phone call! There is no dignity there at all.

[@seanyshepfit]

@@MR-mv6hd exactly the same thing happened to me. I feel you :(

[@chamboyette853]

Even a short term relationship by text is cowardly and immature. At least do it by phone.

[@nolawihenock4426]

@@MR-mv6hd I told my ex we should take a break and just disappeared well I thought it was the best thing to do

[@inspiredinthedark23]

My boyfriend ghosted me for almost a month. At first I thought he was just busy with work (he is really busy). But then I could see he was reading my messages, but not responding (I only messaged once a week, because I thought he needed space). Finally, I had enough, and dumped him. With polite strength, I told him how his behaviour affected me, that I wish he had more courage, and that I have higher expectations. I wished him well, and ended the relationship. Of course, THEN he responds. But the damage had been done. 35 year old men should not be ghosting their partners (we were together just over a year). Put on your big boy pants and have that difficult conversation, or you risk losing out on any future with that person. I have totally lost any interest in seeing him again, because I have no respect for him.

[@Edgaros]

Both sexes do this shit, unfortunately. I am to a point, were i actually wonder whether i'll ever meet a female that has the guts to actually communicate when the situations become a little bit more challenging. Ghosting and ending things without a proper conversation seems to be the norm nowadays...

[@cameliaeffendhi2601]

Salute you

[@lindawaweru74]

Ghosting is the worst kind of breakup i dont think i want to communicate with him because i dont want to waste my energy saying the same thing yet my ex is not willing to change.i personally decided to throw away the whole game of men and go cold turkey.im tired of bulshit .id rather be alone

[@betsycollins601]

EVEN KATY PERRY GOT A TEXT! LOL Hell, this happened to me with a 47-year old high school crush who came 1600 miles to spend four days with me. He pushed me into a long-distance relationship immediately, started making plans to move to my town and in with me (without even consulting me), He pressed me to buy airfare to come visit him this Thanksgiving and then, the bastard dumped my by changing his status to "single" and ghosting me on all media and phone. THEN, a friend pointed something out to me in the background of one of the photos he sent to me during the relationship...the scumbag was using drugs. Ewww....LOSER! He's lost his looks, had three failed marriages, I think I dodged a bullet in the end.

[@seattlered3018]

Word.

[@troyjohnson6889]

What it all comes down to. Is how you treat a person because what you have done to some else will come back to you one day. Have enough respect to talk that person face to face. Not over a text message that's just disrespectful a person deserve that respect.. karma is real because what you think is so worthless one day. You'll find yourself looking for them every day!

[@lucybee3361]

So true. The guy frustrated me so much. I wish I had handled things differently

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

My exes burned their bridges with me by cheating on me and betraying my trust and faith in them. They suck, and I would never want them in my life again I any capacity.

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

+Elle L yea of course I wondered. They told me they messed up. Oh well. They weren't mature. I'm not gonna blame myself for that. I know we could have both been better (everyone can) but I have no control over others.

[@salazar556]

I don't mind a text message break up if the person has extreme anxiety or fears that their partner could potentially become abusive.

[@soniczforever5470]

Yes had violent partner he left. Didn't survive what he did.

[@chamboyette853]

In that case you call. Hiding behind a screen is cowardly.

[@JanesOracle]

I had a nervous breakdown which was so bad that speaking ok the phone would have made it worse. I couldn't risk being put away in a mental asylum,and that may very well have been the case. It took me a year and a half to fully recover.

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

When you dump me by text I can assure you that I will not be available later when I had nothing but respect for you.

[@melina1337]

+Laura Elizabeth yep that is so the truth and happened to me!

[@parisrivers7707]

I just had this happen two months ago... I thought this was a serious relationship... She was super sweet and affectionate... Then boom, out of nowhere. I get this insulting text essay with "reasons" why she was breaking up with me. I never once heard a single one of these issues brought up before. Lost instant respect for her.

[@v4vendetta37]

i broke up with my LDR boyfriend over text because he ghosted me after an argument...tried to contact him via text and phone and he sent me to voicemail and ignored me for days, he also refused to see me when he was in town for the holidays never thought i'd be the one to break up over text but it i wasnt really given a choice

[@betsycollins601]

@@v4vendetta37 Was his name "Truman" by any chance? LOL

[@Doodledoo92]

Yep same thing with me my ex dumped me before Christmas

[@BambiOnIce19]

Very true. You want to leave with style, class and dignity. Specially if you loved, or still love that person.

[@Б.П-в8ч]

Please, people, break up in person. Breaking up over text lefts your partner in not believing that's over. It's the feeling of agony and pain mixed together, becouse you know you should leave other person alone, but you don't have a good proof that you should, so you just keep texting, feeling confused and trying to get the person back. No text in the world could replace voice and meeting in person. It couses s lot of problems with mental health becouase you didn't break up, you just keep the person hanging and confused all the time and that person can't continue. I know it's hard to break up in person, but if you had some beautiful times with your other half, give them respect like that.

[@thamsanqasibanda6376]

How I wish my ex at least video-called me to tell me she felt things weren't working out. It's gonna take a wee while for me to get closure.

[@anewloveofficial9137]

Break up is always unfair because it doesn't happen by mutual decision as what ex-couples often told you because in reality the other party is still in love but the other has already fallen for someone else.

[@ethiopiadinku9881]

It is Not true! Because you can break up with someone for million reasons and not necessarily falling in love for someonelse

[@chamboyette853]

I disagree. This woman I really liked and went out with a bit asked to see me in person and broke up with me face to face. I had so much respect for her that I even introduced her to a friend of mine telling him that this would be a wonderful woman to date.

[@FurahaSGreen]

It's always a good idea to live on good terms

[@Kristine14]

Possibly. However, what is the best route to take when dealing with a Houdini? (Disappearing dude)

[@Alexisurdaddy]

I just was recently text dump with someone I cared for. It just really shows how much they cared for you. Sure they might have had bad past breakups but doesn’t mean you are like them we’re all diff. It hurts Bc you know you will never see them again.

[@SpacekidMuradiye]

That is manipulative, Matthew. You don't have to burn bridges but this mentality of "i might need them someday" is very opportunistic

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Hi 💢... Sending you alot of love and positive energy 💞The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy and a peaceful relationship with him. I will advise you seek out his help thanks....

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Send him a message on Whatsapp 💕

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

[phone].

[@artsytyger3222]

This is very very true..especially in business.

[@PrincessElisa8]

Yeah, the worst is definitely what happened two weeks ago. We were completely fine, had a small argument, and then he disappeared and never responded to me.

[@asmrsleep3079]

I totally agree... my ex and I broke up with an mutual decision that things at the time weren't going to work out. Mainly due to external factors like me going to college and him trying to move up in his career... We both agreed that in the future whether we get back together or not will still be there for each other as friends. There was no bad blood in their relationship and it ended on good terms with an in person talk.

[@cjmckaena]

This just happened to me recently. The guy I was dating just disappeared and blocked me on everything. Which sucks because prior to this happening he had reassured me that he really wanted to make this work. I'm so sad right now, but I know that this is for the best. I don't need someone who would just drop me like that. I will be ok!

[@MandaMindyMoo]

+cjmckaena You do not deserve that

[@LoveLifeSunshine]

Mindyhallowseve This helped me bc I’m going through the same situation right now thanks ❤️

[@AngeliRose010]

cjmckaena me too :(

[@martinemaryhernandez729]

A person who leaves abruptly and just walks away like Nothing ***ALREADY HAS HIS LOVE AND IS NOT WILLING TO COMPROMISE HIS RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE*** sometime or maybe all the time there’s always signs you can’t be blind to them or they’ll get you very time.... A PERSON WILL ALWAYS WALK AWAY FROM A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP LIKE NOTHING CAUSE IN REALITY YOU DONT KNOW THEM ***remember that***

[@saraha8276]

Except when it's needed. My ex did the most cowardly thing and just broke up with me without explanation and by blocking me, because I guess he just didnt want to give me the time of day to explain and got bored of me. This two days after I saw him and everything was completely fine between us. Therefore, there is not point in keeping low quality, cowardly and immature individuals in my life.

[@chamboyette853]

This woman I really liked and went out with just a few weeks asked to see me in person and broke up with me face to face. I had so much respect for her that I even introduced her to a friend of mine telling him that this would be a wonderful woman to date.

[@cuddlesxyz]

and thus why people should never feel safe when the ex is still around. ..

[@MLoveWinter]

But why would i want someone who took me for granted and ghosted me without explaining anything, come back to me? There is a reason for that person to become my ex.

[@letmobilet]

same, I did everything I could for us to talk and stay in good terms, but I couldn’t handle the way I got treated so I just unfollowed her so I didn’t see anything on social media :(

[@MaddiedeVillada]

Oh you are right. You live with a girlfriend, she discovers you cheated instead of leaving, if you were unhappy. You move out. Then you realize you left something behind. You may wave your stuff goodbye.

[@vovanminh999]

this is so true , my ex cheated on me and after 3 years , she's still want to get back with me many times but i never want to look at her face again , because i don't want a liar and cheater back to my life again .

[@sonohrina2012]

Only once I ended a relationship in a way that would force me to not go back to him but that relationship had a cycle we were always on and off so I wanted to make sure that was the last break up cuz he always had me falling back.

[@robertedison2331]

It seems that you haven't known the good way to get your ex back

[@robertedison2331]

That happened to me too but all thanks to one mystical magician who gave me some clue to do here is his number in case you need him

[@khanm.a]

Broke up an hour before watching this. I'm so proud I broke up in the best way possible. She understood and she is okey but it wasn't easy. I felt my throat was about to bust and my eyes were filled with tears.

[@annaschmelz8786]

I don't know why but I love to hear him talking. He has a nice voice and way of speaking

[@randysonkin3769]

I came across this video tonight and its so well produced. Because relationships are so emotional between partners, when its time to let go, someone is going to get hurt. None of my relationships have ended on pleasant terms including the one that just ended in June. After 8 1/2 years. Just a lot of bad feelings. A lot of lost dreams. And now just the memories.

[@shaalis]

I think the reasonwhy so many burn bridges, is closure: so often closure isn't issued during a breakup and closure is created when a person is stuck on the person, the feeling, etc that was left behind. So in order for them to get on with their lives, they make closure, or burn a bridge, etc. And some bridged NEED to be burned, like an abusive relationship, or leaving a workforce that was bad for your health, bad for your wellbeing. Sometimes writting a person off isn't a bad thing: It's a liberating exercise.

[@dajewel1982]

He is absolutely correct. There is saying that goes ‘the same person you see going up the hill is the same person you see going down the hill.’

[@janellinell4552]

Some bridges need to be burned because they’re abusive and toxic so I agree with this only 50%

[@BrittneiLeon]

Its difficult and releving at the same time. I've done this since I started dating. Being so young and watching my gfs completely tell off their now ex-bfs just never sat well with me. And Matt is right you have to be aware of how you are treating people because you never know who will come back in your life in a time when you will need them or they will need you.

[@angelical1234]

It does not matter how things ended, it could have ended well or very badly, if they are meant to be in your life in the future, they will. EITHER WAY, what matter is that you find the peace within you regardless how someone else treated you. this is the first video i dont agree with, Matthew, we should not live our lives thinking "WHAT IF...i might need this person in the future"

[@star1Lu]

I agree. While you can uphold yourself to a certain standard of class, at the end of the day when it comes to relationships and feelings, and the degree of the misconduct and damage, some bridges are meant to be burnt. If they come back in your life, they will and by then the both of you will be in a different capacity and that situation would be of a different purpose. And then... We see. But not wise to think of the WHAT IFs

[@sawsanbellaj]

Exception done to psychos, with which one should never hesitate to burn all bridges and run away without notice. These people, no matter how useful it could have been to spare them for one day when you might need them. It is always better to keep them away. As for those psychos knowing that you are compassionate and not running away from them, only means that you are still possible to get back.

[@VforVanity10]

I just wanted to say something very similar. Thank you. Sometimes people have hopes that you'll come back and misenterpretate a normal kind behaviour, espiecially those who have the tendency to turn out aus psychos. With normal people I even think the contact just naturally remains friendly.

[@cristilopez3232]

Just want to say thank you. I am going through a divorce and you are helping me get through it.

[@grjabalpuriya1039]

my ex broke up with me, we didn't have a fight she said she wasn't intrested then i said hey i respect your decision, i adore i want but it takes two people but if you ever change your mind let me know. and left it with that and walked away. and moved on. i hope she can find what is looking for. plus this relation ship wasn't a bad thing for me i come to know so many things about my flaws which i can improve for my next great girl who is waiting to meet a guy like me. thanks i didn't burn the bridge but my pride is saying now that she has to earn me back because i was dumped so things are going to be on my term. i have no regret coach because i gave whatever i had to this relationship. i'm just smiling now. future is waiting for me💪

[@MegaNice22]

Gourav raj Jaiswar Respect Follow up, How are things between you and your ex

[@VueN92]

I am going through the same similar situation except my ex broke it off through text.

[@mrl4646]

My girlfriend of 2 years abruptly ended things, hysterically crying down the phone saying she loved me unconditionally. 2 months later I found out she was seeing someone from her workplace. If it helps anyone, the person you fell in love with doesn't exist. They're not real, it's a fantasy. Move on and find someone good for you. Not perfect. Perfection does not exist in anyone.

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Hi 💢... Sending you alot of love and positive energy 💞The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy and a peaceful relationship with him. I will advise you seek out his help thanks....

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

[phone].

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Send him a text message on Whatsapp 💓

[@mrl4646]

@@AndreaGomez-nv4dq what a load of rubbish 😂

[@DurjaySarkar]

My ex girlfriend break up with me in a terrible way, she did it through a text message and i felt like she didn't have the gut to end it face to face. we spend a meaningful amount of time together and i felt i deserved to have a post break up conversation face to face because i already accepted her decision of breakup. but rather she started being abusive to me, damaged my confidence in every way imaginable with so many ugly words and started to threatened in every possible way including killing me. a lot of people break up through text messages without realising that it would make things even more painful for the person being dumped. it's easier for them to break up like this and they don't have to see the reaction of another person. some people are very bad at doing awkward things face to face. and it made us feel they didn't really respect us after all and it's the worst feeling.

[@kathleencarosi2343]

The wound is so much deeper when it is the last person you expected to hurt you. It is painful but I will hold my head up high and know it is a reflection of them and not me. I will find the strength to keep my heart open. The last guy that ended it poorly with me is someone I went to K-12 with so the wound cut a little deeper. Hurt people hurt people, but I will break that cycle.

[@tendai.chikava]

Not everyone deserves to be treated with class, dignity and respect.

[@fillyaboots3484]

Firing someone is always a management failure. It's one, or more, of three possible failures 1 hired the wrong person 2 didn't support them well enough 3 getting rid of them is a mistake This also applies to relationships

[@talitaevangelista8697]

Some people just have to leave for good, you know. And that's better. Specially when they've repeated the same mistake.

[@ArtStardust]

I would have liked more specifics and examples here. I understand that it's wise to not sabotage all future chances of connection and working together. The actual process of moving on, though, can get super messy. When I try to walk away from people, they often dig in their heels and tug, and my attempts to be as gentle as possible still gets twisted. Professional acquaintances are easier to keep because there's not such a deep emotional pull. Not to mention that sometimes the situation is dangerous and lacks trust, and you may not want to leave that door open for your own sake as well as theirs. It can be really tempting to go back to a bad situation, so closing the door firmly is a way to help both people.

[@MonicaMartinez-xw3gs]

My boyfriend of 7years left me not trying to resolve the situation or didn’t even want to talk about it. Than the real pain came after he told me that he loves me but he not in love with me..that pain u feel in ur chest.. its hard to even bare the pain ..HE TRULY BROKE ME

[@zinazoulou3574]

how are you doing now?

[@bch5758]

My girlfriend of 4 years ended with me by text.. its hurt me beyond belief .. no closure - no real reason why ..

[@fantakouyate2307]

By the time I break up with you I’ve already done a calculation to see how useful you’ve been to me in the past while we were in a relationship and how useful I think you might be to me in the future when we are not in a relationship. If I decide to scorch the earth with you it’s because I consider you useless. That’s far in my life that strategy hasn’t been a problem and I feel immense relief when I can really give somebody a piece of my mind rather than staying quiet to keep the peace.

[@kelleyoneal9780]

Message made me cry because of a situation with a guy I really care for. We are just friends now, but he said for now he wants to stay friends and cares about me because he is an alcoholic and seeking treatment. I didn't freak out and/or cry. I held it together in front of him and said "Thank you for trusting me with this information. I do want the best for you and support you through this as a friend. I care about you too." He didn't burn bridges with me, and I didn't with him. Not to say I didn't later lose it and cry once he left. I do want him, but sober. As far as I know, he's never been drunk around me, as it's usually right after he's left work. I just can't be around as a girlfriend yet. Hopefully get help and get back together if I am emotionally stable and supportive and not cut off all contact after him opening up to me on a very deep topic.

[@NoName19984]

It’s always better to let go of coward people, coward people are boj in my life. I will never accept coward people in my life because I strongly believe continues and open communication is a key to successful relationships

[@NoName19984]

@@shreenjandutta Once the respect is gone, that relationship is over. Love without respect is meaningless. Love alone cannot stand without respect. Try loving someone you don’t respect. Try being in a love relationship where there is no respect. See, how that relationship turns out. And it’s also true that you can respect someone but do not love them. Try being in relationship where there is respect but no love. See, how that turns out. Once a love and respect turns into hatred and disrespect, it’s over forever. You shouldn’t even try. I have experienced people in India being liars and arrogant because they have money and nothing else. India is changing for better and people are too for worse. I had respect for India but not anymore. And will never visit India ever again..

[@shreenjandutta]

@@NoName19984 where are u from if you don't mind me asking! Like where do u stay!

[@NoName19984]

@@shreenjandutta People in India live under a lot of society and parents pressure. So you never get to experience your true potential. And a lot of personal decisions are made due to show off mentality to society

[@shreenjandutta]

@@NoName19984 what does society and parents' pressure have to do with relationships Palak!!

[@NoName19984]

@@shreenjandutta Everything , don’t you know???? Parents decide that you need to be with someone who is two years younger than you and parents decide choose a woman with less years of past. Parents decide to send your second end partner to tell all women you dated to keep burning in jealousy… All that is enough to break your confidence…. And that’s what the game players wanted… After all that damage, I would never ever have any respect for them, doesn’t matter who they are … That’s the poor mentality India that exists in USA. That’s how backwards Indians of USA are And that’s how coward Indian men are living in USA, poor mentality, backwards thinking and keep a name like Martin Desouza…. F***** Pu**y B***. Albino with Pratiksha Patel name, must be Martin desuza’s sister from a different Mr. Bit…

[@iluvsmokeythecat23]

When my first boyfriend broke up with me, he did it in a terrible way, he didn't really tell me, he just had another girlfriend, and I found them together, and I was very mad... My boyfriend of over 3 years just broke up with me today, but he didn't really say much of anything at all. I asked him for one last hug, and I told his family I would miss them, and I left. I highly doubt he'll ever talk to me again, but I wasn't angry, I am of course really upset, since I believed he was going to propose this year, he told me about how he had the money to buy me a ring and everything. I'll miss him.. I almost wonder if it would have been better if he would have done it in a bad way, because it would make me feel a bit less pain.

[@seattlered3018]

I dumped him over text but, I wasn't crude or disrespectful, I was simply direct and final with my words. I was tired of him avoiding me and hearing his excuses for not keeping his word. one afternoon He said he was too busy to talk to me so, texted him "very well, I understand that you are busy so I will be brief, this is the very last text message you'll ever receive from me and I'm breaking up with you,Goodbye." I didn't feel the need to get nasty or complain about his behaviors or explain why I was dumping him when I already told him before that, that I don't put up with that kind of treatment from anyone and promptly ended things. When you break up with someone this way, you maintain your dignity and are able to hold your head high knowing that you didn't accept mediocrity and disrespect but you didn't get petty or vindictive about things not working out, you simply end it and move forward to something better than what you were getting in the past which was unacceptable. Thanks for the video! ❤️

[@kh9234]

I agree i would always end things face to face and truthfully however if someone ever does a ghosting act or a text break up I can assure you they will never be welcomed back .

[@chamboyette853]

Like what you said. Would love to date you only for you to break up with me face to face and respect you after that. It is so seldom that one sees this today.

[@dianapapuc7995]

I have recently left my boyfriend of 4 months, and I broke up with him through text. Ik that people might think this is cruel, but I have tried to break up with him in real life, and it was so hard, he gaslighted me, and I just couldn't do it. It was because I loved him too much and still do, and trying to say goodbye to him was too hard. When I said goodbye, I was gentle with him and did it without insulting him. I apologised for my mistakes and how I treated him because I am sure that he wasn't happy with me either and wished him nothing but the best and truly forgave him for what he did to me. But we truly have to normalise breaking up through text but in a gentle way. Even though we aren't together does not mean that one-day destiny would not get u guys together. How you said Matthew that if u leave with elegance and class then one day that relationship might be available.

[@Eaglespirit007]

Never ever again, I don't know if the one I loved is selfish or a narcissist, but that ex left me twice when I needed them the most. After the a decade of a supposedly friendship she left like I was nothing.

[@FreeSpirit47]

Have to disagree with you, Matthew. If I have broken up with someone nicely, the guy always tries to come back as soon as his willie is hard and he can't get laid. So.....I started pissing the guys off when I break up with him so that they don't try to come back later. Sour milk is still sour no matter how many times it's taken out of the fridge then put back in. It rarely works if ever. They become exes for good reasons. Ex boyfriends, ex bosses, ex employees, ex friends. No second chances. Been there, done that, learned.

[@grjabalpuriya1039]

Brenda B diffrent storkes four diffrent folks.

[@yuqichen4056]

Can't agree more!

[@CupNoodleKitty]

Yeah, a bit hard to do when your boyfriend just broke up with you for the 6th time over text.. I made the mistake of always leaving the door open for him to communicate although he always said we're "done for good". He has the habit of partying and ignoring me for a few weeks and then coming back, saying he missed me and wants to move in together and start the life that I'm dreaming of... And I always gave him another chance. I'm not saying I'm perfect or flawless, I definitely did make mistakes in this relationship.. All I'm saying is that it's probably not always a good idea to give everyone the chance to come back into your life.

[@melina1337]

+CupNoodleKitty that is soo true

[@robertedison2331]

That happened to me too but all thanks to one mystical magician who gave me some clue to do here is his number in case you need him

[@robertedison2331]

@@melina1337 It seems that you haven't known the good way to get your ex back

[@robertedison2331]

@@melina1337 That happened to me too but all thanks to one mystical magician who gave me some clue to do here is his number in case you need him

[@scottyh8494]

Very true. What goes around does come around again in different ways.

[@amberjones3221]

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[@lalina1304]

His talk sounds like it's coming from a recent personal experience...But that's true, its so much easier to just run, but the right thing to do is seldom the easiest.

[@Ktvanada]

I had to do it by text, because he didn't had time for me, neither let me call him he was at his party once again for two weeks he didn't want to see me. And I just understood that I was not having my place in his life so I quitted and now I am way better. I was respectful, saying thanks to him and what he brought. Something in my life but I needed more time from him, text were not enough, and if it was like that for a month, and I discussed already about the miscommunication. But he didn't want to do anything for this. So be happy and I'll be on my own.

[@littleripper312]

I learnt this the hard way when I was in my late teens to early 20's. I would leave jobs and not care about giving my two weeks because I have a new job to start. Big mistake because in the future when I needed 3 job references I didn't have 3.

[@CarminePietroniro]

The ultimate sign of disrespect and cruelty is too break up with someone by text. Says alot about the person doing it. Be thankful they are out of your life.

[@alejandraquintana692]

I’m not going to lie, I’ve broken up with someone over text. I broke up with him because he was putting no effort and I just felt like a doormat in his life. I broke up with him knowing I still wanted it to work, but couldn’t see it working between us if putting in effort wasn’t something that came naturally, plus I sensed he was talking to other women. I felt bad, of course. He was older than me and I just started opening my eyes more to how he was treating me especially whenever there were any issues. I didn’t want to extend the relationship further and wait for him to get back to be honest, I couldn’t see myself saying I was in a relationship seeing how little effort someone can put in even developing a relationship. I knew I did the right thing in the end when he resorted to engage in his typical silent treatment similar to every time there was any issue except this time the silent treatment seemed fitting. And finally, he came back saying, “it’s going to hurt you more than it’s going to hurt me.”

[@ryanharrison2260]

My gf if 6 years ended it with me on the phone saying that we had nothing in common. We survived family tragedy, were long distance for 2.5 years, but none of that meant anything to her. When I met her face to face trying to get answers, she would just yawn and act so disrespectful, nothing like the woman I fell in love with. I left my dream career because I was so afraid I might lose her if I stayed with it. I felt so low that I actually contemplated suicide because I didn’t want to feel that way anymore. I don’t know what I did wrong. Hell, I’m with somebody now and I still feel that way, a shell of my former self. I called her the love of my life and I only intended on using that phrase with one person and now that she’s gone, I feel like my heart wouldn’t be able to feel that way again. Anyways...yeah...

[@binarisachendra8589]

Hope you’re doing ok now

[@MatBad96]

@Ryan Harrison "I left my dream career" "I called her the love of my life" - that's what you did wrong 😉

[@jhovymedina6593]

😞

[@erikvaros]

So here's my story. My girlfriend broke up with me because of *one single lie*. We're both 16 years old, at school, everybody knew that we were made to be together. Sometime at the beginning of the relationship she asked me, if I had a girlfriend before. I didn't, but I said yes, like every boy of my age would do who wanted to sound a bit experienced. I've also planned on telling her the truth later on. And in seven months of being together we've only talked twice about that and only for 2 minutes in total. A month and a half ago she somehow found out, that I didn't have a girlfriend before and she instantly broke up with me. She said it was not about what I lied to her, but that I lied to her in the first place. I went into no contact almost right away and she reached out to me last week. But there was no conversation. Wish me luck guys and girls. And thanks for the advice.

[@lorindaarmstrong7593]

Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.

[@lorindaarmstrong7593]

Message him on Whatsapp

[@Tes73792]

Good advice. But very often in life when you decide to do this the other person reacts too badly to these news and starts behaving like they are hating you.. Especially when it comes to personal relationships. I've seen people breaking up with their partners and their reaction is hateful and stays this way for too long. Therefore, it's incredibly hard to end things in a classy and friendly manner (you can be classy always but what if the other person is not? I mean it's hard to expect that you and this person are going to be if not friends then just on good terms. It depends on the character of this other person whether or not the relationship will stay friendly.

[@matimarwa6689]

The best youtube video I ve ever watched in my life What a wisdom! Thank you so much Matthew for passing your wisdom

[@aokijukai3012]

So true. I have felt this way for a long, long time. I wish more people actually took this into heavy consideration.

[@JerseyGirl0911]

My fiancé broke up with my in text and then blocked me. We were getting married in 2 months. I never felt such pain. How does someone do that when you are so invested.

[@vovanminh999]

You are fucking cheated , that's why he did that , no men are break up like that .

[@mr.campbell4579]

From what I observed, from a lot of the comments, there are many hurting people out here, I've been one them. Trust me. The only things I would say.....is first, KEEP YOUR HEART RIGHT! Do NOT become bitter, or the person who've hurt you, betrayed you and your trust. Just because someone has discarded you, does NOT make it so. NO ONE is worth discarding (who has a good heart). Right now, Selfishness is like an epidemic. Second, search for something other than you that brings you up and not down. Pours into you and not strip you....of your time, your love and your spirit. For me, it's my Faith! Keep choosing love.....

[@susanna8612]

Maybe STOP USING people in a first place and work or relate with them with respect and dignity then u will never need to burn bridges and can call them even if your paths separated at some point and maybe they will be great partners then that you never need to end things with over all.

[@kachikacha2930]

There is times where is impossible to befriends with someone who you loved much but fucked with your feeling .. I would say never it never!!

[@onlyallegra]

I've had exes dump me in kinder ways than my therapist did. I am never having another male therapist again. Completely tactless at times, and I will never forget it. It's going to suck when I have to see him in the hall everytime I see someone else. I thought therapy was supposed to relieve suffering not open old wounds and trigger more.

[@kiwiqueen8174]

my guy disappeared by blocking me and he had anger issues he disappeared to another country without any closure

[@fadajoana]

Beautiful but do not give the other person false hope that will prevent the other person from moving on...

[@Tanluthmatts_biggest-fan]

Bro my girlfriends dad didn’t like the “long distance relationship” and she didn’t say anything and blocked me with saying anything and I’m furious

[@helenamoniqueclarke8135]

Not to mention that some less pleasant people have a funny way of showing you a whole other side of what they are capable of if they arent ready for you to leave them. Best not to throw fuel on any psychotic fires. That goes for everything from ex's to employers.

[@kikianasahmad2328]

Good point, old sport.

[@jpbart1390]

Strongly disagree. Once a bridge is burned, it can never be mended. Those from the past who want to reconnect with me, especially those who wronged me should keep away from me if they know what's good for them!

[@noreexic]

I had a guy who after the first date invited me back to his and cooked for e and cuddled and watched tv and even bought me dinner on another occasion only to say weeks later we had no spark. Surly if there's no spark you don't ask for a second or third date? Ughh dating can really knock the wind out of your sails

[@soniareigns1088]

When distrust, dishonesty and deceit are the reasons of burning your bridges with the father of your child. Please tell me why I’d want anything from this person? I only communicate with this person when I necessarily have to in regards to our daughter. That’s it. He broke me and used me in such a way. I want nothing to do with him. I have been working on myself. Since the break up I’ve accomplished self growth, self confidence and a mindset that I couldn’t do it without my faith or prayer. Ladies and gentlemen keep your heads up. Put God first he knows best. The rest will follow.

[@rachelcole1775]

When I ended on good terms with my former fling/ first relationship, it gave me hope for us to be together sometime again in the future. Two months later, after not talking to me because he wanted me to move on(and he went to his home country), he tells me he still has feelings for me. We then speak again for a week but he kept leaving me on read and all I wanted to do was catch up and not do dirty/flirty talk all the time. When I called him out on leaving me on read, he said maybe we shouldn't talk anymore because it will hurt both of our feelings, we live an ocean apart. So we decided to be "friends" and he told me maybe we can talk when it's each others birthdays. I opened up to him fully about how I felt and he responded a lot with "idk" or I don't know what to say" When I asked about being friends, he quickly said "okay sounds good" After that it made me doubt if what he said about missing me was real. I still miss him and feel for him more than he does for me, but now I have a bad taste in my mouth about him and how we ended.

[@tzu-huisherryyang9251]

Oh my god I feel so much for this one. I hope you're doing fine now because I had exactly the same happen to me except my friend ended up blocking me after we went into this nonstop attacking and insulting. Me and my friend pretty much started the same way you did. He started getting flirty when the moment we had years back was purely platonic although he had shown romantic interest in me at the time. But we left things good when we had to part. Then years later, the pandemic hit and we started talking more despite being on different sides of the world. We even tried to have a long-distance thing at one point but he decided to take a step back after the conversation started getting stressful for a couple of months. I was already emotionally invested and had a hard time detaching when I should have. I did try to be friends like he wanted after that but my heart wanted more so fights just kept going on to the point where there was no respect left at all. Just sucks that some people would rather end things on bad terms than talk it out. What hurts the most was that he was the one starting the chase but I am the one left in pain. I still miss him and he hasn't blocked me everywhere but the last thing he said to me was to tell me to f*ck off....after 6 years of friendship.

[@jrvargas3096]

I went through the process of getting the actual help I needed for my self from child hood trauma and learning how to communicate and be understanding and mindful of her needs and wants took the time to be patient kind and loving I did everything I could differently this time around just to be told i wasn’t enough I can’t be mad at her my past is a lot to carry for her and I understand completely by why you break up with me on my birthday 😂 although it’s hurts I’m a believer of god and he’s getting me through this I just pray every guy out here who’s really trying to change and do better do it for yourself.

[@imanelag884]

My ex just left me without saying anything...NOTHING...He didn't give me any reason.all I know is that I texted him' I love you' but couldn't tell him that because I was too afraid to be rejected...I don't think it's a valid reason to ghost someone or give a silent treatment. He treated me like a queen everyday and now all that is gone. It's been a month now. The most difficult thing here is not knowing what happened.

[@dukessw7319]

Gosh this just happened to me. My long term by ghosted me for 4 months. Completely ignored. Then 4 months later I get an "I miss you" text. Well matey you stopped talking to me the damage is done. Then throws the biggest freak out when I go to pick up my stuff. What did he expect?

[@DurjaySarkar]

This is a sign for you to understand what type of person you shouldn’t be with..these people are not healthy, they can’t communicate in a healthy way. My ex broke up with me by replacing me with another guy and gave me silent treatment for 3 years. Never gave me a breakup conversation. I asked for it but in return i was treated so badly, in fact i was called a stalker and she complained to police saying i was harassing when all i wanted is a conversation to end it in good terms.

[@brianw5336]

I think the worst way to break up with someone is to get someone else to tell them

[@eduamygdala637]

I followed your technique & now i lost the control i had over this situation.

[@laksuh6926]

But what if the other person was distancing herself, had no time for me and was very cold towards me? she needed space but didn't want to end it, however she also didn't wanted to see, kiss or touch me anymore. I was left being hurt and wanted to end it, I didn't want to see her anymore because it only would make me emotional about how she treated me in that time so i broke up via text, I believe she didn't care about how we broke up but felt good after I finally did it. I didn't want to see her how vulnerable I would be breaking up with her while she was showing no emotions towards me, it would've been devastating.

[@DarumdarimdaEveryday]

We ended our relationship in good terms but he dumped me over text, never expected that

[@jayyjuju9344]

My ex of 1 year just recently left me 😢 she said “she don’t have the same feelings for me “ I asked her if it was someone else, she constantly said no , but then I found out she was talking to another guy and me simultaneously, instead of just letting her go I tried to fight for her and I think that pushed her away even more , cause now she is currently with the guy she left me for 😔but we live and we learn I guess …

[@sonias9722]

I don't want to be available to my exes. I don't want them to think I am approachable after they've slept with a bunch of other people

[@lordtrytin7398]

I don’t like using the word (ex) I’ll use the “old lover” word. My old lover won’t let me get closure off of our break up that happened 6 years ago that I held onto until I had time to deal with it, I’ve been trying to put our dark shadows to connect again for a relationship but my lover was booing me for not having a license or a job, I do have a growing career on TikTok and probably end up getting into kick boxing but I’m having issues connecting the closure.

[@DellaSparkles]

How about this one. My husband ended our 23 year marriage, completely unexpectedly, via text message two days before our anniversary.

[@Kristine14]

Omg! That is just horrid! How rude, hurtful, extremely disrespectful and completely lacking any empathy. I am sorry for this situation. Maybe though, all though it may not seem like it at this time, you are truly better off without him as your husband.

[@DellaSparkles]

+Kristi thanks so much. It has been 3 1/2 years and the hurt has subsided for the most part. I am happy and in a new relationship now.😀

[@denim9045]

We've been together for 14 months, in the last two weeks we've been fighting, I said sorry for what I have said in the argument to save our relationship, but what I did get from her is that this time it's not going to work out. I stopped and I asked her what can we do, and now she said it's better that everyone stay alone (break up) through email 😭😭. and she said that she is afraid that she is going to regret that decision she has made. she said that she will miss me. before she sent that email, I tried everything so that we solve all the issues we've been having, and now she said that she needs to work on his health, personal issues, etc. I've decided to not contact her again because I'm heartbroken and I need to move on. I tried everything to save this relationship, but now I'm the one fighting to keep our relationship alive she has mentioned before that she has some mental illness but in the email, she said that it has nothing to do with our relationship. I WANT TO MOVE ON. Your advice are highly appreciated..... 😭😢😢😿

[@scifijunky1979]

Whenever your ex systematically sabotaged the relationship, and monkey branched to someone else. Then yes, it is that black and white. Might else well burn that bridge because they will repeat their ways on you if they decide to come back.

[@siulong1394]

After one and a half year of chatting every day, calling each other every weekend, out of the blue she became cold and made everything possible to convey the message she didn't care anymore about me. Still, when I told her: "If I've became a burden, just tell me and I won't bother you anymore", she reply that I shouldn't think in that way, that she was just too busy with her job etc. She disappeared for three day after that... Finally she told me we were just friends and one week later she told me she started dating someone else. I was devastated. I am still struggling to accept that she did this to me. I wasn't expecting anything like that from her. I thought she was different. I cried for days. Even now, after one month, I still miss her despite what she did to me. I went no contact and she never ever tried to reach out despite she tried to friendzone me during the breakup...

[@kushnoj9015]

Buddy, you were in a friendzone loooooong before the "breakup".

[@arushigupta6016]

I totally agree with you ... Mat... And I do follow that in my life where ever it's possible..

[@MakMaja]

I really needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@bbudacious]

I guess sending a text is not good

[@freezelacold8184]

My recent ex ripped me to shreds with his words 3 days after my miscarriage. He said i was directing my love at the wrong person and should have definately made sure i didnt fall inlove with him. Its been a year. I cant talk to him still

[@kelvindoble]

Just been dumped by email after eight and a half years totally out of the blue I am so so sad

[@thunabs7759]

I'd think of him as an opportunist if I knew he thought that way. P.s. Matt. The beard suits you.