The Zarna Garg Family Podcast | Ep. 56: Unfiltered Family Drama

[@artbertomedia]

Now we need Veer's version of the drama on NYE. Hahahahahahaha. I laughed too much with this today. Hahahahahaha

[@khushbugangdev]

me too!! Never laughed as much these podcast 😂😂

[@juivaidya7747]

I enjoy these family podcasts ! Thanks for making them. It must not be easy to put yourself as a family out on the internet and be as honest as you are. Also want to highlight 6:43 where Z mam just spilled the beans saying both parents and children do manipulate at times and it’s rare to see someone be so fiercely truthful. Also normalizing confessions, failures, acceptance and growth inside a family dynamic all at once

[@4555165]

@@juivaidya7747 well true that the whole is greater > than the sum of its parts. Even an Ivy League English major knows that.

[@francestan70]

Zoya is intelligent indeed!! She should be in the U.S. Supreme Court, not in computer science.

[@apoorvadasari5782]

Typical Indian career… computer science 😂

[@Katzeblow]

She is doing a mathematics degree​@@apoorvadasari5782

[@lourdessdarveniza3207]

I agree - head for a career that will put her on the path to being a member of the Supreme Court

[@varshamahapatra4091]

Then she would be poor!

[@vlu3517]

Your family is real. I love the way you all can argue and stay collected. I love this family. Zoya be a lawyer. You are so awesome

[@vlu3517]

I missed Veer

[@sreeramvenkataraman6890]

Families argue, the close families can argue/come to peace rather than just keep their frustrations within themselves. "A" grade to Zoya for articulating what she felt sooo well, without trying to hurt anybody.

[@sanjanaali8831]

Zoya is extremely intelligent- her EQ is very high! Brij comes a close second many times. Zarna is also every high on the EQ. But she can be dominating. Shalabh being quiet actually diffuses the situation. Kudos to having emotionally mature and strong kids ❤ also the fact that each family member participates in ironing out issues, this is not reflective of every family. So congratulations on having a family like that. Also, Brij is just being a typical teen boy, especially a typical teen younger brother. He means no harm.

[@hemaseshan]

I really appreciate the fact that as parents both of you are open /transparent with the children ( to the extent possible) .That way children don’t feel left out and a sense of responsibility is instilled when they’re involved in solving home issues.we may not always agree with them but that’s ok. Ultimately, they’re going to land in the same place as husband- wife / parents sooner or later. This is a good beginning for them. … and these are such valuable lessons for their future. This is probably the only best thing we can give them as parents.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@MercymueniT]

I love this messy episode coz its what we are going through as siblings relationships especially after the holidays🤣

[@shahrokni]

It is a privilege to have a close family to argue with, and then apologize and hug them.

[@Banid1892]

Honest arguments that happen in every family.. portrayed so well..

[@ahom9387]

This was entertaining to me because now I see that you have the same issues with your kids/teens/young adult children that I do!! When does it ever end??? A+ to auntie Z for trying not to be offended by their comments. I’ve had the same situation and reacted the exact same way. HNY to the Gargs! Looking forward to season 3. 😊

[@jjbjjbh]

Actually, Zarna is indeed offended by her children’s comments. She is a bully and too confrontational. She wants to hear nothing but praise for herself from everyone. She throws a fit and becomes acrimonious if she perceives any statement as a slight to herself.

[@saltandpeppers8788]

Zoya's yelling "Hold on!" with her finger was so awesome. You go girl!

[@yaminianandan7202]

So… in weird way this was like Therapy to me in thinking through all the wrong ways my family addresses arguments. Thanks for that !

[@AkshayaJayakarunakaran]

I just want to attest that I saw Shalab Garg working too on New Year's Eve. He was so nice and took a selfie with me after the show.

[@deeptikumar472]

This has to be the best episode

[@frimavalentine4756]

I get it Brij… Totally on his side .. Being a middle child and having a different kinda way of thought process does not sit well with Indian families .. I get ya Brij.. This podcast was so real.. Zoya is a total big sister .. Their opinions somehow are always right ..😂😂

[@NS-yz9ol]

Congratulations 🎉 You guys are truly authentic! Generally true that Indian families focus on actions over words in interactions and relationships. Each Garg was right in their own way and perspective. Humble take: trust other's intentions; listen openly to other perspectives; walk away, calm down, then discuss (especially when things are overheated), and don't harp on things. Most of all, it really helps to have basic trust about sincerity and mutual respect. Great podcast, thanks for being real. Most people can relate 🙏🪷 Peace ✌️

[@pinkiehirani2680]

hahaha.....my husband somehow became a hero. Dad Garg sits there silenlty growing his fan base. lol

[@jjbjjbh]

Shalabh is much, much quieter than Zarna. But he is calm, intelligent, observant, and chooses his words wisely.

[@yashaspriha5636]

Zoya!!!! You are right! Stand up for yourself. FIGGGHHHTTT 😂

[@saltandpeppers8788]

💯

[@sahanasekharpc3250]

This was too entertaining 😂

[@leenajose2657]

I bet Zoya just wanted to put her hands through the camera and just hug a bear hug to her father

[@mitinammoyong]

Zoya being the 1st daughter syndrome……I can’t denied the feelings in this podcast.

[@dhruveshbhabhu5042]

Somehow I agree with Shalabh on point he mentioned about Zoya as feel she has stronger strength of articulate her thought or meaning or definition she wants to put in front of everyone. Believe me I would have messed a lot on what I want to say or think. Great job Zoya I am learning from you. But please dont run for President lol!

[@VivekEtte-sf2ld]

Hi Zarna! Me and my spouse are 1st generation immigrants living in the US with our 2 year old. I am really inspired by how you have raised your talented kids, and love how confident and opinionated they are. I love your family podcasts, especially I look forward to podcasts which teaches us something about parenting. Out of all the roles you have played including being a popular comedian, I admire you as a parent as lot. My request is to create a new podcast series about parenting. This would really give us insights on various aspects of parenting including education, instilling confidence, character building, what to do what not to do and so much more. Would love to hear your opinions! Thank you!

[@blah9095]

Love you guys ❤ Zoya, just like Dad Garg pointed out you can beautifully articulate your thoughts. Brij is probably not going to understand the impact of his meaningless apology now 😂 he’ll figure it out in a few years 😂 Mom Garg you are a beautiful soul and trust me the kids and Dad will start seeing through your perspective in a few years as well ! ❤

[@preetiraju]

What Shalab said about Zoya! A++ grade. Best Dad ever!

[@saltandpeppers8788]

💯 Exactly the comforting and vindicating thing to hear

[@KhushiZope-d3h]

i was laughing my ass off towards the end of the episode

[@jjbjjbh]

Zarna, to start off, PLEASE, at the very least, make an effort to start validating your children when they are genuinely expressing their true feelings, especially when YOU feel (rightly or wrongly) they are being critical of you as a mother. Say to them : “ Zoya, Brij, Veer, I am so sorry I never realized my saying so and so or doing so and so made you feel this way. I said things in anger without anticipating the lasting impact my words would have on your self worth”. AND MEAN IT. Then hug them and tell them you love them and are incredibly proud of them. Yes, they know you love them, they know you are proud of them, but actually hearing it from your parents is an indescribable feeling for a child, no matter how old the offspring is. PLEASE Zarna. It’s time to stop being combative with your precious, highly intelligent, incredible children and prove yourself right all the time. Be magnanimous, graceful and let them have their moment in the sun.🙏

[@pds7596]

Wow!! Your tone!! You are so preachy!! And you sound really worked up. Dont watch them too much least you get a panic attack someday 😂😂 Zarna has brought up some awesome kids and is definitely doing many a things right. I dont know what entitles you to give this unwanted lecture. Please save them for your kids! Honestly it is ok to share your opinion on what you think about them but you sound lecturing Zarna here. I dont know many moms are learning about parenting from random strangers on youtube. 😂😂

[@Ucatde-67]

😂😂😂 what happened to you????

[@64letsgodriving]

Loved everyone's opinion. Brilliant episode ❤ hugs to zoya for the end.

[@yashb8658]

The end !!! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@shubhangijaiswal2717]

so unhinged!!! I love it 😅😅😅😅😅

[@crystalrojas1438]

Love you guys! Great and real family with healthy discussions. 😊

[@carolineschaad7936]

Votre honnêteté et votre humour sont rafraîchissants. Beaucoup de sagesse, d‘amour et d‘humour pour votre famille. Il est difficile d’agir juste dans des disputes…Soignez vos relations et elles supporteront beaucoup

[@x11y22z33me]

This is so authentic…keep it up!

[@sadiaali9856]

Zoya's EQ and IQ 💯!!! my god, you are so inspiring 💗

[@Basicblissbelle]

Keep the natural arguments flowing guys don’t cut them short 😂

[@jjbjjbh]

Zarna is the most immature one in the family.All 3 of her children (even 13 year old Veer) conduct themselves with more grace and gravitas. Sigh.

[@MsStunna11]

I love the realness! Love you all! Happy New Year ❤

[@nitinleoburnett]

Zarna: I'm the most accepting Family: _(bwahahaha together)_ @25:25

[@Ace_Of_Bace]

Why was this so short? Please finish this vlog.

[@jamesbarajas9224]

at minute 16:55, Zoya I think what you are trying to convey to your Mom is the concept of an Emotional Bank Account, she definitely does things to take from the ledger but is not vocal in her love or affection to add to the emotional Bank Account balance. I know I'm butchering the concept but I'm trying to reframe it in terms of words of affirmation (Love Language).

[@douglas7376]

Awesome bro, been waiting 😂

[@QSophieZ]

Zoya, stop organizing for them, they are grown adults. Go hang out with your friends. Or if it’s a family event, just chill, layback. There is no point not relaxing on NYE

[@Ace_Of_Bace]

I love the honesty of your podcast! A+ to Shalabh for being straightforward and calm. (This was a normal family issue had at least 100 in every family I know) I don't think it's fair of Zoya to keep throwing her, "I could have stayed in SF with my friends." don't compare your family time to anyone if, for whatever reason, you think you would rather be elsewhere there.

[@Bhawna_99]

One of the best episodes may be the best....

[@tinaroberts5858]

Best episode ever! ❤

[@mrinalpandey6024]

Best episode!

[@rumaahmed6447]

Hahaha hahahaha I laughed so much watching this episode today. You guys are so real and relatable. I’m a desi mom of 3 adult kids and have a husband of 30+ years living in NJ. I can relate to all the arguments with you all so much it’s not even funny. I feel for you Zarna 🤗 I get in this kind of situation all the time 😢

[@dinahfink9761]

Zoya just wants once wants to hear " I love you". Why can't you do that for her. It makes me sad for her.

[@jjbjjbh]

Amen, sister(or brother), Amen! I elaborated on this same idea yesterday. These children are just yearning to hear “I love you” and “I am so proud of you”, especially from their mother. Not rocket science.

[@today4real72]

banger episode

[@SravaniGullapalli]

Zoya! Zoya! You were amazing! And I feel so seen and heard as an eldest sibling who is also a girl! Happy birthday Zoya!

[@personal3766]

Sorry Zoya. Your brothers are used to you & your mom organizing everything. Only once you don't, will they realize how much you do.

[@saltandpeppers8788]

Exactly

[@sadiaali9856]

completely agree w this

[@aaravreddy9868]

This was the messiest episode ever I love it.

[@aditichitnis5370]

damn the consistency

[@joannedavis182]

I have so many thoughts and have to be somewhere soon so I’ll be brief. I’ve been young and now I’m 61. Learned a lot. ABSOLUTELY never apologize to anyone for any reason unless you mean the apology. You know someone is sincere if they stop doing what they apologized for (or at least catch themselves the next times and realize they’re working on it and are sorry). As for New Year Eve dinner…..let it go. Bringing up things (as in continuing the fight) is harmful. Acknowledging the argument happened is one thing. Continuing on another day is harmful. Except if you both agree to take a break and cool down to later, more calmly. Sometimes, conclusions cannot be come to. Occasionally, it’s ok to understand that someone doesn’t see it your way. You’re all different people. You won’t always agree. Fighting it out til the death to win because you feel you’re right doesn’t grow family bonds. It just exhausts everyone. Believe it or not, I’ve done the same thing. Years later I can sit back and go “why did I argue like that about that thing? It was worthless in the grand scheme of life”. I’m. To saying your feelings and passions don’t matter. I’m saying yours don’t matter above everyone else’s and it’s important to remember that. You never know what a day holds. Hold onto each other and be kind to each other. Have your discussions but don’t fight til the death over food, sitting to eat, or whatever else you disagree on. Reserve that for if someone has or is hurting a family member and their life is in danger. I love your podcasts and will keep listening!!💕 I see myself as a younger woman in Zoya and Brij and I see myself now with wisdom as a grown woman in Shalab and Zarna. Blessings to you all and Happy New Year!! Don’t cut the children out of the podcasts…..they are loved by you both and so valuable to you both and to your listeners!!💝🤗

[@nickyrathod4438]

Understand this, mom is always right, after that the eldest daughter is always right and brothers cant make decision for food ordering, decor or anything of that matter so I do get Zoya totally in this matter .

[@mamtasrivastava4201]

Zoya is the best.Podcast is interesting 😊

[@Hemalatha-ot2iq]

Zoya A grade 🎉❤

[@frimavalentine4756]

Indian families never resolve disputes .. Period !!! It always has to come up in another agreement.. I assign A grade to Brij..

[@belamitaguedes5962]

Good golly I can laugh because it reminds me of most family squabbles.

[@nomiefilms2532]

Zoya soo upset 😁😁…so cute 😁…

[@anngeliqanngeliq]

It is so sad. That poor girl.

[@katieramos5868]

My parents argued in front of us on purpose, even when we were young, in order to model conflict resolution. They weren't always _great_ at it, but they did it. 😄

[@nimeshpatel6090]

One narcissist in the family is enough to stir so much chaos! You all know who the narc is.

[@jjbjjbh]

Well said Nimesh. We all recognize this narcissist. I would consider this person a bully. Asking others to be honest and then dismissing their opinions as trivial. On so many occasions in just this one podcast. Awful.

[@anngeliqanngeliq]

No kidding. I started feeling sorry for the children after watching the first 3-4 podcasts of this channel. The narcissist completely disrespects the children, is ultra competitive with them and the other adult on the podcast. My heart goes out to the children who just want to hear the narcissist validate them as individuals and their successes in academics or life in general. Unbelievably immature of the narcissist.

[@jishanoble8444]

You know she’s a comedian right? And this podcast is obviously for entertainment?

[@frimavalentine4756]

Such an unfair comment and comparison.. When you have no Understanding of a certain culture and where it’s coming from .. I totally disagree with this comment

[@ZarnaGarg]

yes. its my husband. He's a complete and total narcissist -

[@jalajjainjalaj]

This is a very bad and sad episode. I am sorry to see you guys like this.

[@aydraddishbe]

hahaha 😂

[@NS-yz9ol]

Happy New Year wishes to everyone!

[@LSTEdD1]

The real issue seems to be that Zoya wanted to be with her friends in California.

[@TheFoodie101]

What happens when Veer leaves .... ! LOL

[@jjbjjbh]

Zarna will go even more batshit crazy than she does now. She will have no one to control, no fuel for her narcissism. Shalabh mostly tolerates her, but looks like he doesn’t get into the nitty gritty with her. He says calm and very rational. Zarna will be on the psychiatrist’s couch. lol.

[@dee_1023]

My A grade goes to Zarna, she was really hurt by Brij’s statement

[@jjbjjbh]

Zarna was the initial offender here. She apparently says hurtful things to her children often. Both Brij and Zoya attested to it in this podcast. Brij’s comment to Zarna was in response to Zarna telling him he did not contribute anything to the Family. Which obviously hurt Brij enough for him to say he could never remove the memory of that comment from his brain. So if Zarna was hurt by Brij’s comment which was generated by her own hurtful comment to him, well, pot meet kettle.

[@4555165]

Jeeze how do you put up with this drama queen? There are better ways to handle anger without exploding at your children. Seriously. There is. You need to learn.

[@jjbjjbh]

Amen. What is worse, is that Zarna thinks she should be getting the award for the best mother in the world. Which is why she explodes every time she even perceives a hint of criticism coming from the children. She simply doesn’t want to, or cannot bring herself to admit she could possible ever be wrong.

[@madhavigarg8376]

❤

[@nirmalajohn3732]

Does Brij have a cold .?

[@jasminelingam9329]

Typical Indian family! And I must say you guys are really entertaining!

[@LSTEdD1]

Space can be time to reflect.

[@Harsh1223]

The daughter's point of view makes sense.

[@spatel4097]

are you guys washing your dirty laundry in public?

[@jjbjjbh]

I don’t think Zarna meant to. She just wanted to pile on as usual on Shalabh and her children. She was stunned and totally taken aback by what Zoya and Brij said regarding their mother’s controlling behavior and the fact she says awful, hurtful things to her children. Often. And then expects them to just forget about her nasty comments. Brij even went so far as to say he could never remove the memory of his mother saying “you don’t bring anything to the family” to him. I am sure if Veer had been present, he would have agreed with both his siblings.

[@megha-q2x]

Missing Baby Veer!

[@alezandradavila2581]

I just avoid I do me they do them ❤

[@aaravreddy9868]

I miss Veer, it's been too long

[@loretta6823]

I don’t think the kids should be involved in the parents arguments. I know I wouldn’t have wanted to with my parents that’s between them and only them🤷🏻‍♀️just my opinion

[@jjbjjbh]

Really depends upon the age and maturity of the child. Zoya at 21 or 22 is fully qualified to give an opinion about her parents’ conflicts with each other. Brij at 18 is probably as well. Veer at 13 is still too young.

[@ManojGanesh]

Such negativity and vitriol was never part of your podcast. I don't know if this is a new strategy but really unfortunate to see this kind of broadcast

[@anngeliqanngeliq]

It is unfortunate. But it’s the truth. Unfortunately.

[@Inki_Smiles]

Is brij becoming insensitive as trump administration is in power? Like really !! Zoya❤

[@spatel4097]

hello

[@naylabyxbe3411]

HOW to fight like our Indian friends…..

[@rawrimasainxd]

Why is Brij so hostile? He's getting more and more rude as he gets older and it's looking disgusting for his future. I feel for Zoya as the oldest daughter in an immigrant family. Zoya, you do everything and more for your family. Most of the time, our roles are to be the "glue" for the family and we almost always get no recognition while others walk off scot free. You are resilient and it's not easy.

[@ronyboylive6934]

He's just an American relax

[@jjbjjbh]

Brij is not being rude. He was asked a specific question and he answered it honestly. That was the goal of this podcast. Is he supposed to camouflage his feelings and pretend? Neither of the three children is rude. They are instructed to be transparent, and when they are, you call them hostile? The most hostile person on this podcast is the mother Zarna.

[@Basicblissbelle]

Yeah Brij definitely wasn’t rude here, he’s allowed to have and express a different opinion

[@simransharma281]

Wow this was an eye opener for me. Have not experienced this. Probably just take the “I “ out of the conversations and it will flow much better . 😂

[@odettealvares3891]

British was just being a normal kid . He is allowed to have his own thoughts and feelings and can give honest answers when he is asked a question. He is not responsible for anyone else's feelings.

[@Shreekant-p7r]

I completely what Zarna was feeling. Bratty comment from Brij out of a lot of good comments. Btw - he should have apologized seeing his mom sad.

[@jjbjjbh]

No. Zarna’s comment to Brij was bratty, immature and thoughtless. Brij was asked his opinion about crossing the line. He responded honestly. He wanted his truth to be known. Nothing bratty about that. What kind of mother says to her 17-18 year old son “ you don’t contribute anything to the family”? Apparently Zarna has said hurtful and horrible things to Zoya as well. And Zoya clearly said so in today’s podcast. Lucky for Zarna Veer wasn’t present today or we probably would’ve heard from him how hurtful Zarna has been to him.

[@tseyang9472]

I agree with Zarna… she gets the A

[@You-ov3yb]

why is Brij laughing? is he enjoying hurting his mother?

[@jjbjjbh]

Your real question should be to Zarna asking her if she enjoys hurting her own children. Zarna was the initial offender here. She apparently says hurtful things to her children often. Both Brij and Zoya attested to it in this podcast. Brij’s comment to Zarna was in response to Zarna telling him he did not contribute anything to the Family. Which obviously hurt Brij enough for him to say he could never remove the memory of that comment from his brain. So if Zarna was hurt by Brij’s comment which was generated by her own hurtful comment to him, well, pot meet kettle. Good for Brij for standing up for himself.

[@sadiaali9856]

Brij, please try to care more and be more warm. Sometimes give such a nonchalant vibe and only care about being right.

[@jjbjjbh]

Brij is a warm, sensitive and caring young man. He is being honest, which is what he is expected to do on this podcast. Unfortunately he has to stand up for himself because his opinions are dismissed outright by his mother. If he says “I agree” and his mother doesn’t like it, she explodes with “Brij, no, you do not agree!”. LOL. The children do not feel validated by their own mother. They have no choice but to speak their truth and not sugarcoat their feelings.