How to Forgive When it Hurts

[@VibeWithVida]

Forgiveness stops being so dang difficult when you realize you don't have to have that person in your life. Forgive them and if necessary, remove them. And DON'T talk garbage about them. Move on❤

[@jackbeaven-duggan559]

I been having a hard time not thinking about a person I haven’t seen since two years ago but I do think about how he’s family will feel if I give hate to him but I can’t help the fact that I wish the person can realise what he did that upset me I never know if he did or he just dismiss me like my feelings didn’t matter

[@jackbeaven-duggan559]

Even though I did talk to him

[@cebe07]

Trying to forgive my Husband y’all pray for me!

[@cynthiathomas4622]

You and Me Both Chile!🙏

[@ceeceedior21]

Same!!

[@liinaemvula2223]

Hope you're doing better a year later!❤️

[@lynnecarnivale6414]

PRAYING. God bless you. Peace, Lynne 🍃💜🍃

[@shaneydavy16]

It's hard especially when it was your sister and husband...a year later and I still haven't fully forgiven

[@saranagh7097]

Love my Lord, but forgiving is easier said then done. Give the person back to God...and keep the person far away from Me. Game over.

[@sweetspirit3887]

Sara Nagh Amen to that

[@lacrossslounge5403]

Sara Nagh 😂

[@alisalauzon9291]

Yes!!! Many kinds this is right.. to cut ties. The end.

[@renegarcia3459]

I forgave today. It released me from a lot of pain. I still care about that person, but that doesn’t mean I will get in a relationship with that person ever again but, it sure opened my mind

[@rosiebruh3138]

@Jesus Rey de Reyes A Lot of times people get me angry. Or i just get frustrated with things I do. I try my best to calm down. But sometimes is difficult.

[@magnavtwin750]

it is easier to forgive someone who is not an immediate member of your family but it is more difficult when that person who has hurt you who is an immediate member of your family whether it be a parent or child or spouse and wild forgiveness is called for when the person is unrepentant it is more difficult

[@thebeatagp]

Very true Michael.The closer they are the more difficult it can be.

[@unavocatepice]

This is very true!

[@dsmith9214]

Michael Doling Exactly! Currently struggling with this!

[@TOMMY-WANT-WINGY]

D Smith I hope you were able to forgive. Please let me know what happened if you're comfortable

[@brianslaughter7557]

Michael Doling amen I agree 100 percent

[@mikemartinez4918]

God I trust you and I'm letting go of my pain. IN YOU ALL IS POSSIBLE. AMEN

[@Jacqueline8]

I guess we shouldn’t hold on to those negative emotions but sometimes it’s hard. They’ve hurt so you deeply it’s hard to forgive but if the Lord says to do something, you have to learn to take responsibility when you decide not to listen to his warnings. I chose to let go and pray for the person that’s hurt my badly, well the two people that hurt me. I realized that I didn’t want to learn the hard way and if God gives us many warnings, especially when it get repetitive, there’s a reasons for it and we have to try hard and listen and trust him even when we’re feeling in doubt.

[@shaneydavy16]

Hope you doing ok with your situation

[@petrabassey8842]

Amen this is so trueee, God calls us to a lot of things that we wouldn’t simply do on our own understanding. He calls us to forgive(Matthew 5), to give joyfully (2 Corinthians 9:7), to be a light (Matthew 5:14-16), etc He’s so gracious to us when we struggle to do so as He knows we’re not perfect. But nonetheless we’re still to obey!! ☺️

[@Godlywoman88]

I made the choice to forgive, but I struggle mentally with CPTSD and when the memories resurface, I feel triggered with anger. When this happens I try to redirect my mind or declare forgiveness by faith over the memory. I have wandered of feeling triggered means I haven't truly forgiven

[@kellarenna]

this was so helpful for me. I have a very young child with an extremely verbally/emotionally abusive man. I've had trouble with forgiving because I thought that meant i would have to allow him back into my life to hurt me more. I'm recently realizing that I CAN forgive him but that does NOT mean he has to be a part of my life, and I pray for him so often. thank you for the encouragement

[@roselanemable3141]

I can truly see God in you brother Allen Parr 🙏✝

[@conkervertex]

I've said everything I needed to say to her long after she betrayed me. I told her how I felt, what I went through, and how I had to take control of my life after her. She destroyed a massive friendship circle and truly gave me a lesson on how to trust people as I trusted her. She was almost my wife and she threw it all away on a person that was supposed to be my "friend". It was the worst feeling in the world and some days, I still feel pain from it. I asked God "Why would you let something like this happen to me? I didn't do anything wrong." Clearly, it was the wrong question - and it had nothing to do with God. However, it had a lot to do with Satan and how he overtook and inspired her to commit such evil. When I talked to her, three and a half years later during a sudden run-in, I told her how long and grueling that time without her impacted me. How bad things were and how deeply she hurt me. I'm hoping that she knows now never to hurt anyone like that ever again. My mom and close friends really helped me cope with the pain and mom told me to let God take care of both of them, whether it be positive or negative. It's a very hard thing to do, but if I can get to the point where I can pray positively for them, then I'll know that I truly forgiven them for betraying me. It's a gradual process. Situations like this will take time, healing, and trust in God.

[@thebeatagp]

Wow, so sorry to hear this Conkervertex. That is truly a shame. I hope and pray that God restores you and her for that matter. Thank you for sharing such a sensitive story.

[@conkervertex]

THE BEAT by Allen Parr The best thing is that she's far away. Out of sight, out of mind. It's the most difficult thing to handle if you see the person who hurt you everyday. It's just best to move on and keep your thoughts on new people. Work your way on the road to happiness and let all the negative thoughts go. For a while, I was a firm believer in revenge. But I can't do that or anything that will betray God. As much as he saw me hurt, I know he had something much better in store for me. I've just got to keep fighting and push on to find someone who will make me truly happy.

[@alisalauzon9291]

Been in your shoes!! You sharing and others reading it. God can use what you shared!!! And what you learnd!!!

[@rachaella2359]

I forgive people who wrong me and and betrayed and I forgive people 🙂 I know God and Jesus Christ and the devil too This is Rachella 🙂

[@christianprince1337]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Here I am, a Christian thinking that I have truly forgiven someone yet I have not. Thank you for opening my eyes to be better brother.

[@davio2k0]

it's easy when it's a stranger but I find it difficult/impossible to forgive family as I expect better from them.

[@thebeatagp]

Forgiveness is NEVER easy. I hope you'll find it in your heart to forgive those who have hurt you. God bless,

[@mowebster9155]

davio2k0 In my sleep, I prayed and cried at Jesus' feet begging for forgiveness. I had hurts in my heart from many years ago...when I woke up, I felt relieved. They were family members as well, just know we ask our Father to forgive us and He won't if we don't ❤️...it does truly take time as well

[@alisalauzon9291]

davio2k0 Yep ,for me too. Only in praying and asking Jesus to help me heal and forgive. Thru him its possiable. I will say it hasn't been kaboom all done and over either. It's been in parts.. cuz so much pain..and so much to forgive. !!!

[@parastoobakhshi5573]

that's right.I have exactly the same problem. especially when they do it again and again

[@tylique9142]

Yeah same it hurts bad especially when they don’t repent from it I struggle with forgiveness

[@gadbenezer9329]

Me personally I forgive alot of people even if they hate me, even though I did nothing to them. im someone who does not like violence.

[@tracieross9928]

How did you get to that point. I am struggling GREATLY with this. It is very hard.

[@maxwellhoffman7712]

Tracie Ross forgive your parents. Because that most likely how you BECAME angry. Also check out Jesse Lee Peterson. He’s a forgiveness specialist.

[@HiThere-zh6sf]

Because you're scared of it. If you had gotten justice you would've felt empowered and better than them because they shouldn't have hurt you to begin with. What if that person contributed to ruining your childhood during your most impressionable years which led you to having lower self-esteem and having suicidal thoughts? That person deserves to have their reputation destroyed. They need to cry and feel all the pain you felt, and they need to know how it hurt you, and they need to understand that that was not okay, not just get away with it. That is how the world needs to work.

[@cynthiae.6016]

@@HiThere-zh6sf : Yes, It's hard to forgive those people .Especially people that went out of their way to destroy ur spirit as a child. In my case the pain of my parents not doing their job to protect me was worse. My mom doesn't even know I was homeless, all my clothes stolen , abused , raped ....I did everything she always wanted and my sister got away with everything. As soon as I was 18 , she kicked me out for dating someone that wasn't a Christian. I was molested when I was little by the preacher's son and my sister dated the guy when we grew up. My mom's response was , he didn't rape you though. She never acknowledged the pain I still carry and told me that she can't wait for me to get over my sickness when I told her I was diagnosed with manic depression. I'm still on my healing journey so I have good days and bad days. Read scriptures on forgiveness out loud and ask God to free you from the pain of it all. In therapy, I was taught that it's ok to stop all communication with toxic people including family members. It's a loss I always deal with. Play music that correlates to the feelings you have , beat a pillow to get rid of the pain .....Louise Hay taught me that. I had a best friend that betrayed me but introduced me to Louise Hay Affirmations ...go figure. Vengeance belongs to the Lord ....he said he will repay them for their evil deeds and I believe him.....if not in this lifetime , the next one then .

[@reg8297]

How would u forgive a parent if thry abused you your hole life caused u to meet a partner who turned your kids against u cause he was an abuser how does a person forget end forgive that

[@justareminderministry3136]

I thank God for this channel, your teaching is with such simplicity and understanding and right on point, Many blessing to you in Jesus name.

[@thebeatagp]

Thank you so much JARM! God bless you and I hope you enjoy the other videos on this channel.

[@rachelneri4911]

+THE BEAT by Allen Parr hi Allen ,can you help me to explain about people who keep saying I will pray for but they never be there for you when you need to talk to ??

[@rachelneri4911]

+THE BEAT by Allen Parr hi Allen ,I have this issues with fellow Christians,who keep saying to people I will pray for you but never be there to listen to their concerns ,is that a really true Christian faith especially when we are all in one group ,,I mean how can we just pray by neglecting to listen.thanks

[@reignsupreme7686]

Agreed

[@Jess4vt]

Yes! Thank you!

[@lindaludwig2855]

Ohòooooooooo my dear brother, this message is Perfect. when we pray Our Father Who At In Heaven, it says Where that And Forgive Us Our Trespasses As We Forgive Those Who Trespasses Against Us. So You have said it all. Thanks so much and Remain Bless

[@thebeatagp]

Thanks so much Linda!

[@johnnylara7032]

@@thebeatagp I have a question. What does this mean? "If you do not forgive those who trespasses, then neither will the Father will forgive YOUR trespasses." Who is "Your"? Me or the person I hurt with words? The one who might not forgive me or me? I texted him bad things about him. Should have thought first before I texted it. He was my classmate. We played Clash of Clans together. Not much as friends, though. He left the clan when I said it to him. Only me and him active about it. When we got back to school, he said, "Naw, man". It happens since May. Didn't mean to say it. I never said to him personally, only electronically. He should be able to forgive me. Will I still go to heaven if he never forgives me? I really am sorry about it. I wanted him to forgive me. Will God not forgive me or him? Who is "your"? Please answer my comment. May God be with you.

[@pautabora5618]

This is really helpful. I hope everyone here who reads my comment would pray for me and my immediate family member to forgive each other. I'm tired, angry and regretful everyday and its a cycle I don't want to hold on to anymore because I know this isn't the real me.

[@dennyjay4252]

I love this discussion on forgiveness. It comes down to control in a negative manner Give it to God instead

[@agapemills6885]

Pls pray for me not to deceive myself but to truely forgive, I am so hurt broken I don't want to live any more , I just want pain to go away as I feel crippled. In Jesus name God have mercy forgive me and help me to sincerely forgive as You hav forgiven

[@thebeatagp]

Hey friend, thank you for sharing such a heartfelt issue. Yes, please forgive so you can live in peace within yourself. I know it's difficult but when we don't, trust me, it ends up destroying you and making you bitter in the long run.

[@alisalauzon9291]

Agape Mills Pray for healing.. and for Jesus to help you to forgive... Don't expect to be able to do it all on ur own. For me on my own.. It was impossible. The pain was so deep and went on so long.. way to big for me. Jesus came to heal the broken hearted and to set the captive free !!! He will make you able ! Because He is Able.!!!

[@alisalauzon9291]

Can I just say.. if its an ongoing sutuation... boundries... seek Gods leading on boundries!!! Bless you!!SWEETIE!!

[@unsettledmind863]

Agape Mills , I’ll keep you in my prayers. However I know exactly how you feel. There are times I don’t wish to live anymore because of what a person has done to me. My life has been completely altered because of what has happened to me and still dealing with it. I pray that you find a way and reach happiness in your life. Much like I’m trying to do.

[@lesliethomas5088]

Jeremiah 29:11 Read it Now! I'm praying for you. God loves you and so do I!

[@MimiW333]

The most helpful advice on how to deal with hurt for me was step one. "Forgiveness is an act of Faith." . That's what I needed to hear. Thank you so much.

[@hiddengemsandpolishedarrow7482]

Any brothers and sisters out there who have dealt with Narsassitic abuse please know that step #2 is different for us, ABBA knows this He has us covered:) we dont get to skip this step but we have to achieve this by other routes.

[@figglezworth1112]

This! Thanks for posting this comment ❤

[@chrollo7102]

How do you get past narcissistic abuse because I am having a hard time forgiving this person and myself for putting up with them.

[@IntentionalityMentor]

I am working through my bitterness. Betrayed trust, and resentment for being treated as insignificant disrespectfully ...& found this video vary encouraging. I will scramble over the wall of my pride knowing forgiveness is not the end of the pain I feel but it is the end of my distrust of God to deal with it, end of my desire to get revenge ruining the offerenders reputation, and the end of responding with resentment towards the relations. It the beginning of my praying for & celebrating God's favor, blessing, and breakthroughs in their life.

[@Moving_Forward247]

Thank you. I will also say it’s important to remember that we/me are not perfect and to consider the possibility that the other person may be “putting up” with you in some ways too. I have been disregarded and disrespected and blamed sometimes for things that are not all my fault. And I am learning to Trust God. In the end, I want to win. I will not win through sin.

[@jhpvids]

Forgiving is hard but it can be done. remember it's for you not for them

[@ashabafrica7211]

Really... 😢coz i was 6 till now.. and the abuse is still ongoing...i'm trying, i really am...

[@papitatz6632]

This guy has a gift of preaching got amazing wisdom

[@holmeshuddle985]

Everything you've said makes sense , but telling the person who hurt me how it they've hurt me , doesn't work when they're too spiteful and hateful to listen .

[@frick6946]

sometimes if you tell the person, and they are narcissistic and a verbal and emotional abuser , they will say it was all your fault, try to make you feel guilty , and they will not apologize or be sorry. They may even be happy in the fact that they hurt you.

[@jimsmith9981]

You are the only one that has explain forgiveness correctly. Many base it off how they feel but according to the scriptures it’s the choice to forgo the opportunity to gain revenge on someone. This is likewise important. Just because you DO forgive anyone doesn’t mean you can trust them so it’s ok to keep your distance...

[@sukaenacornelius9285]

Being a prior service member who served in the middle east, I always hated the evil that prevailed and took control and committed the most vile acts. When I first met my wife, who is an Iraqi Christian who moved to Syria before fleeing to America, I remember talking about her experiences and what I thought, hoe hateful and vengeful I was, during thr conversation, dhe mentioned that she forgives those who committed evil against her community and that she hopes and prays that the Lord forgives them and that they turn to Christ. I remember being so dumb founded by that, this was a woman who has seen death experienced true prosecution, brutally beaten by her class mates instigated by the hate of influenced by the media in her mother country and had her life in jeopardy and lived in the harshest conditions. Yet she still prays that God forgives them and that they find Christ as their Lord and Savior one day. She truely taught me the grace of forgiveness that day and lead me to Christ. I’m so blessed that thr Lord sent me this Angel of a woman and has allowed for us to marry each other and have a family. I forgave alot that day, as an atheist who held so much hate and resentment towards those who wronged me. Now I live in Gods grace and forgiveness and am so thankful that he forgives me and loves me. I pray that all will be forgiven and are saved.

[@DanielTuutafaiva]

I needed a this. Been working under evil leadership who constantly belittle not just me but others. Rips off hard working people an so on. I wanted so bad to hurt this man physically but if Jesus could ask his father to forgive the perpetrators nailing him on the cross who am I ? I am nothing lord help me to forgive father and give me peace so I do not hold anything against him in my heart.

[@unbelaneablebeautyy]

I’ve had a hard time forgetting family for hurting me, especially my mom because I’m still in the home and she continues to do these things despite how they affect me and my dad. In giving it to God fully and taking this forgiveness journey seriously.

[@papitatz6632]

The best thing i loved allen parr is his wisdom and the way he xplained .so clear easilybunderstand and he spoke so clearly loud and clear.

[@janemorrow8802]

When it is someone close, and the offense continues with occasional apologies and promises to do differently... And then the pattern resumes. It's been decades and it's harder each time. Discussion has been rebuffed. Augh! I am praying for wisdom, and as a Christian I am looking to God for HELP.

[@divineenergy7237]

Thanks for message going to apply it to my life tired of letting people steal my joy in Jesus name

[@MONOPOLY35]

God forgive that homeless, potentially drug addicted SOB who tried to mug me unsuccessfully downtown yesterday! I am most grateful to God that I was able to narrowly escape from that monster, report him to the police, and warn my friends, places of employment, and local churches of the danger I faced. It is still very difficult for me to release my feelings of anger towards that fool. God guide me in these challenging times.

[@alisalauzon9291]

MONOPOLY35 Im thankful to God for u!! That you are safe!!! Love ur faith in God!

[@alemayehuwoldemichael585]

I asked God to help me forgive because I couldn't make it by myself. So the Lord made me feel that they are nothing more than my table or a wall and He took away all the hurt. It became very easy to forgive them after many years of bitterness! Praise God.

[@jdjenny]

I came here this morning looking for a biblical answer to forgiveness- ✝️❤- THANK YOU!!!!

[@maemarcus5659]

Thank you for this, during this time hard time I know we're being called to forgive and let go of this pain before it destroys us as a community and drives a further wedge between other communities too

[@davedajanine1665]

4 years ago, but right on time in 2020. Thanks Brother Parr

[@Ip2always]

My cousin attacked me so much for my faith in Christ and this video is just what I needed

[@MikeEZ]

it took me 10 forgiveness videos to get the answer to the one question i needed one for and that answer is at 0:40.. Because Ive heard many folks make the two synonymous with eachother. Thank You

[@BryanLChess]

Agreed! I've heard the same thing.

[@superalanman74]

I really needed this reminder today. It's been over 2 years since I experienced a deep hurt and just out of nowhere for the last couple of days these emotions have come up to the surface again and I really didn't know why. Examining the steps I clearly haven't truly let it go. I really thought I had. Will commit to pray for this person and really pray God's best. I have been trying so hard to foster a relationship but I have never expressed the deep hurt. That one may be tough.

[@unsettledmind863]

This is a great video , Thank you. My cousin sent me this because I told him that I was going to Hell because I can’t ever forgive someone that did a horrible thing to me as a child. I hope that this video helps others that see it. My whole life is a mess and no I will never forgive that person. That doesn’t mean that this video won’t help others. God bless you all.

[@imjustbluedontmindme2329]

I am really blessed to be able to find this video. Thank you for sharing these things. God bless brother.

[@thebeatagp]

Hey man, thanks so much for stopping by. I appreciate the kind words!

[@pennyrobinson4266]

When I need to forgive, I give it to God to deal with, knowing He may choose to be merciful to someone or full of wrath. That isn’t my call. I just know I don’t want to be the unmerciful servant. For a long time it was hard to pray for God to bless someone who had hurt me, but then one day it dawned on me: if He does bless them, then I prayed according to His will! That is always good.

[@sheepofthelord]

I’ve struggled with abandonment from my parents but God has blessed me with the best grandparents in the whole entire universe and I am forever grateful and will always thank Him for that. Recently, I try to look at my abandonment as something to be grateful for, because otherwise I would have never been blessed with the many opportunities that God has given me through my grandparents and uncle and aunt. However, I find it very hard to fully forgive my mom. I keep asking the Lord to make me like Joseph and cleanse and purify and deliver my heart from pain and despair and bitterness toward her. I’m certainly not perfect either and I have also done things I feel extreme guilt for so I can’t in good conscience continue to hold her to this wrong when her guilt looks just like my guilt, and I expect to be forgiven by God. He is an on time and perfect God and although I make a great many mistakes I’m going to keep thanking him and learning about him and growing on to be what He wants me to be.

[@angellavocals2147]

This is the perfect video for me. Thank you Lord!

[@rachelneri4911]

all of your videos were clearly explained ..thank you so much Allen ,may the LORD continually use you to teach us I learned alot ,Amen

[@arrichard1022]

Clearly communicate the pain to the person who hurts you, unfortunately, we cannot change a person for example the person wont be sorry, she totally does not care, some people even when we say the thing that hurt us, she wont listen to it, finally we need to accept, to forgive and to come close to God because as I said the person wont change ...

[@dan-nineteenartworks3dconsts]

Thanks for telling the truth as it is🙌

[@Ruth-vy1qj]

I need to hear this. Sometimes you can tell the person about the pain they don't care usually out of jealousy, unhappiness, etc. I saw people abuse their position. People do reap what they sow. I saw it many times in my life and others life God can't be mocked.

[@fredericksmith919]

I'm so happy to know what forgiveness is not. Thanks

[@tabithadorcus7359]

Point noted that we should speaking positively to those who hurt us.....thank u brother

[@alanwhite8454]

Thank you for your prayers. Dear Lord Jesus Christ, please help me to forgive Sally for breaking my heart. Please heal my broken heart my Lord. In Jesus name Amen

[@diannamichalidas9014]

Thank you for this video!!! I struggle with forgiveness, and this just continues to confirm what it is that I need to do.

[@tshepor8759]

Brother keep up the good work I thank God for you. You speak truth because it sits well with my spirit keep up the good work. I am a born again Christian whose still learning and growing into maturity and your videos help a lot!!!

[@tracieross9928]

Having a great deal of trouble with this. Seems like those who have done wrong or mistreated me are living a great life and I am struggling in so many areas. Hard to do. Have to pray everyday. Hope I can get to that point soon. Plz pray for me. Thanks

[@hannahmarie7043]

I know that this is an old video but thank you so much! You are so right and I’m ready to take the next step. I’m already feeling hopeful for the future. Amen! 🙏🏽 This helped a lot!

[@MsCreativePurpose]

Number 1 is my philosophy. Had to do that to heal. #3 always did but had to check my genuiness

[@esternolan6775]

I think it is Romans 12:19. "Vengeance is miNe I will repay" I SHARED your message to our church. May God bless you and let your light so shine beforemen that they may see your goodness and glorify the Father in heaven.

[@AbstruseDaPoet]

I had to get to the point of forgiving and praying more. Forgiveness isn't an one time event but its daily surrendering to God.

[@renehiggins1117]

Forgiveness is definitely hard. I had to let some people go because they were effecting my attitude. I still love and care about them but distance is key sometimes.

[@omarsabry9489]

It is hard , but thanks .

[@TheKnallkorper]

Your video was by far the most helpful I’ve come across on this topic

[@davidnewhart2533]

God bless you Allen Parr.

[@Geekygirlsjournal]

We are called to forgive..eventhough it may not be easy at times

[@someshortemokid4750]

I realise this feeling inside me to hold anger against people to hurt me(the ones who hurt me not too bad) comes from a part of me that holds a grunge against the people in my early life. The people who traumatized me and people I know I could never trust again and I must move on from. I have great friends by my side,and I got to realize that bumps and unhappy times are natural in all relationships,and what makes it healthy is when you speak out your feelings to them and come to forgiveness and agreement. I will be happier soon I know it,I just must learn the proper ways to move on for when the good people in my life mess up. It happens,nobody is perfect. It doesn't help that I'm going through a period of emotional dissociation,but I know that I can move past my issues and bring back my happiness with people. Quality time, intimacy,and talking are keys to grow relationships and once again feel happy and forgiveness

[@amandalaurenparas5131]

Very helpful, specially the outline on the description box. Will use it for our bible study. God bless you!

[@lauriegianquinto]

wow! yes! I have SLANDER! I get hurt and then bad mouth them continually. Thank you for that last statement to stop talking negatively about those who hurt me! God - forgive me. 😥🤗🙏

[@wyattandwill12]

I wish that it could be like The Shack and the Trinity was there speaking directly to me and guiding me through. John Piper said that we can't fully forgive someone because we're flesh, but what it is is holding a grudge and enjoying the anger it gives you. I hope that's really what Jesus thinks. I definitely need God's help on this because I can't do it on my own. I've prayed in desperation and faith many times for help in this, for Him to change my heart because I don't wanna live with so much anger and fear, especially because He won't forgive me for my sins if I haven't forgiven all of these people in my heart. This is a person I haven't talked to in over a year and we burned our bridges way long ago, so I hope God will let me forgive her without speaking to her, to just forgive her in my heart. I feel in my gut like I'd have to contact her though. I feel like there's a lot of people I have to forgive and doing it all on my own wound be like running through a battlefield that's raining bullets.

[@Austmostwanted]

That’s just what I was looking for. Praise the Lord. Thank you Brother :D

[@davidrichard2761]

Great stuff bro’ I’m 71 a widower, was picked up two years ago by a woman and dumped after two years. But she was not fully divorced two years ago so could I really have expected God’s blessing? However, this video is the best advice I have heard. I am consumed with the loss and hurt. Hurt Pride, self guilt, self pity, inward anger; time to follow your advice.

[@davidrichard2761]

@jazzyj2182 I’m sure you meant well but just throwing Bible verses at people is too easy. Forgiveness is misunderstood listen to Lise LeClerk on this. We have real relationships to handle. Just letting people off the hook so to speak is not dealing with things properly. God did not let us off the hook, Christ had to pay for our sins for the Father to Forgive us. I’m not expressing myself well but there’s a much deeper aspect than to brush things under the carpet with a Bible verse.

[@papitatz6632]

Thankyou sir Allen everything you said is true you arevtruly s man of God

[@drosky310]

thank you men , i will trie to watch this video early in the morning as long as i can , im 33 and im starting to think im bipolar , and i feel no escape , the same situation over and over again , and i feel like i have done it too much my femally . want exept my asking for forgiveness

[@joannemichel7264]

Rom. 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 19: Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. You are so right, God is the one that takes care of ever situation for us. There’s no need for us to intervene in His plans.

[@4201ford]

Romans 12:17 actually says "Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Try to do what is honorable in everyone’s eyes." Romans 12:19 is the verse that says Friends, do not avenge yourselves; instead, leave room for His wrath. For it is written: Vengeance belongs to Me; I will repay, says the Lord.

[@laiasatori6378]

Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation nor removing the pain but simply letting go of anger and thoughts of revenge Forgiveness is an act of faith, trusting God that has this. Always remember God is in control Pray for them - love your enemies and pray for them Stop talking about them 😃 It is your choice whether to stay in their control or breakthrough what they have seen saying to you Forgiveness is for yourself

[@benjientertainment2615]

God bless you Allen Parr and your work

[@mariwhite8794]

Wow this video has blessed me immensely. I thank God for using you and your Videos to help others

[@standup4jc]

Amen! Well explained! Thank you for the video!

[@types6661]

Today I couldn't stop crying. I thought God couldn't forgive me simply because I thought I've sinned so much and never would be able to be forgiven because I always knew there was a god but never had an interest or tried to have a relationship with him. I then saw people starting to say that if you knew you were sinning but didn't stop he would never forgive you. I then stopped everything and truly started believing in him. I totally stopped sinning since and just today as I was walking home from my school still thinking that God wouldn't forgive me when I found a letter on the ground. I didn't think about it and I started walking away from it.. but then I just felt like I had to look back and pick it up and read it. What it said inside was "The light of God's love shines through you and your every kindness." I started balling and when I got home I just started watching this channel and I had the reassurance that God loved me and he never gave up. I wasn't grown up in a Christian family but at my daycare when I was little there was a church in the morning. I hated it and didn't understand it. I never really went back to going to church and I never truly had a relationship with God. I hope God can forgive me and I can't wait to start getting to know my creator! (P.S I just turned 14 so that's why I was walking home from school.)

[@minianoiz6492]

Praise the Lord. God bless your heart. This love msg is on point. 💞🙌🌈

[@jimflagg4009]

1) It is not a matter of revenge it is a matter of loss of trust and love. You want to be able to trust and love that person again but it is hard. 2) Some times you can not tell the other person how they have hurt you because they take it as an affront and get mad at you and hurt you again.

[@lillydimartino6834]

i agree BUT when dealing with a narcissistic psychopath whole other ball game.. I've tried LORD knows. I can forgive but trying to communicate how they hurt me and many others to this individual when (she) believes she can do no wrong. a predator and a dangerous one at that!!

[@thebeatagp]

I agree. That's why the bible says, "with as much as depends on YOU, live peaceably with all men" meaning sometimes it's not possible. Thanks so much Lilly!

[@sweetspirit3887]

lilly dimartino i agree

[@pinkpostergirl]

Thank you for this post I have dealt with a guy who was a narcissist personality disorder borderline sociopath and the level of pain he hurt me is sooo deep. For two years I had trouble sleeping at night I wake up in the middle of the night crying. My spirit was so trouble. I tried to tell them how they hurt me and they basically mocked me and dismissed my feelings.So many traumatic things occupied but I was publicly humiliated and that's hard to get over when others know my personal business and can harm me over again.

[@kellarenna]

lilly dimartino you can forgive him and let go of resentment. that in no way means keeping him around to hurt you

[@kellarenna]

lilly dimartino she** rather

[@Ky-fb5fv]

Forgiveness is not easy, especially when it has made someone upset inside. It is an interesting topic btw.

[@borbi.cosmosproductions]

I FORGIVE THE DRIVER 🙏🏻❤️❤️ I LOVE YOU GOD

[@papitatz6632]

The beat is part of my life now..

[@cockyandfunny]

Thanks for making this video. It was so needed.

[@londonkhareem6515]

Thank you for your perspective on this important manner.

[@myeshadapisces]

This is a hard process.. I pray on this matter daily. Please lord help me work on myself and foegiveness.

[@janetberyla2409]

Thank you for such blessing. Kindly share another on the same, longer and more elaborate version, with scriptures and personal experience

[@nuncaigual180]

Trust God to deal with the people who hurt you Tell the person about how you were affected Pray for them and not curse Do not speak negative of them

[@need4HIM]

Easier said than done. But it can be done, if we move in faith and not in the "feeling" realm.

[@christopherburns2922]

Thanks bro! What encouragement I needed to hear despite how difficult the application.

[@goumimika]

Thanks for inspiring me. You really helped me a lot. Thanks God!

[@loncotton3692]

Thank you Alan, great message

[@lucymaynard6798]

Thank you for this! Much needed to address what I’m going through

[@stanza77]

That first point is the most crucial aspect of forgiveness. I keep hearing that it is letting go of anger. While that’s a part of it. That’s not the meat and potatoes of it. Forgiveness is letting go of the debt. That’s why Jesus uses a debt analogy. God forgiving you through the cross is Him letting go of your debt and giving it to Christ on the cross. You no longer owe ME, I have released you, I have sent your bill to collections. And collections in this case is God. If there is vengeance required, God is going to take care of that. He is going to collect on the debt on my behalf, you and I are free and clear. It doesn’t mean you like each other, or that you’re automatically reconciled, it doesn’t mean there’s no longer pain. it just means I no longer hold that debt against you. That transgression is no longer on your record. That doesn’t mean it’s no longer in my memory, and as far as the memories, I now need to discipline myself to not repeat them because they will lead to bitterness and tempt vengeance.

[@shirleymarie98]

Thank you so much for this video Allen. Trying to navigate my father infidelity in my adult years and I’m struggling. I really appreciate the practical and tangible advice/advice.

[@ovs_6256]

Amazing channel !!!! This was so detailed and just amazingly perfect !!! God truly blessed you with a gift !!! God is great !!! May he bless you with more

[@grannywoods12]

Some people, you have to have continuous mercy on them, and a constant forgiving spirit, because they KEEP on hurting you. Then, there are some people who are still living, but you don't want to say anything to them, and it's because you don't want to hurt them. They don't even know their fault and how they hurt you a lot because of that fault. Then, there are situations where you've been hurt in the past, but you don't try to forget the past (my situation). Sometimes, it's good you think about the past, because God uses it in your life, now, in the present (again, my situation). So many different things and stories and situations where hurt and forgiveness are concerned. One of the hardest things about forgiveness is it WEARS YOU OUT, lol! You find yourself having to forgive people all the time. You're just living your life, not hurting anybody, and bam (!), someone does something, and you're thinking, "Why did you have to do something?! Now, I've got to work on forgiving you. Why can't you just not do anything, then you can be happy and I can be happy and have peace?". Wears you out! Lol

[@enkokamehameha4819]

Solid advice Mr. Parr. Thanks. Many thanks.

[@celenafreeman3624]

I have been able to forgive past hurts, it's a question about reconciliation that I came here seeking. I wondered if I had truly forgiven an offender if I did not want to have contact with the person ever again, especially when that person has been told how she offended me, but keeps the bad behavior going. I choose not to be around someone like that. Thank you for explaining this clearly.