‘What About the Girls?’ | Phoebe Tells Her Father the Truth

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[@WLTruth]

Phoebe was really the most complex character in the entire show. Very very deep. Underneath the bubbly blond was a kid that just wanted to make everyone happy.

[@MattFromHawaii]

I think so too! I think that's the type of personality that projects and displays something like that to throw off people or guard a deeper complex feeling from others..

[@KOTYAR1]

I can relate to that. My friends find me quirky too, I think I have ADHD

[@KING-dy5wv]

Nah! She was a condescending bitch THROUGHOUT. Being an adult means taking responsibility for your actions and past trauma doesnt excuse you off the accountability. Phoebe is ABSOLUTELY PATHETIC human being who NEVER did anything for anyone else and was specially condescending towards Chandler after he dated and married Monica.

[@charmtantra]

She is selfish underneath a

[@jmbrinck]

Well said.

[@Shmiguelly]

They never did enough with this. He's in this one episode and then never seen again.

[@nessa2482]

This is realistic in my mind. Bad People dont become good overnight, he abandoned all his kids. Dont run after someone who clearly don't want you.

[@nopenotmeunuh]

Especially with Bob Balaban in the part.

[@nl8989]

Ohhhhhhh The Feels !!😢😊🙃🤔🥰😳😭😭😭😭 They did this SOOOOO BEAUTIFULLY 😢🎉🎉🎉 WANT MORE😢😢😢😢

[@pama.6410]

He has the same hesitation in his speech as Phoebe.

[@mary-janereallynotsarah684]

while her dad left her I'm glad she got a brother and sister in law and got to birth 3 wonderful kids. ❤️ 💕 ♥️

[@stashagarcia101]

Now she needs to tell him that lily (her mother) k*lled herself because she couldn't take the stress of raising the twins after he abandoned the family

[@romelleabdulaleem283]

Why? He has dementia of some kind.

[@judyk2987]

@@romelleabdulaleem283did I miss something?😢😮

[@davidramirezangulo6211]

No she doesn't.....she doesn't need to sink down to a low level....

[@jollyquinn430]

@davidramirezangulo6211 Low level? The truth isn't low level. To tell a father who abandoned his family, the consequences of his actions. That's not what low level is.

[@woodrobin]

Phoebe's stepfather has been in jail the entire time since shortly after her mother's death (well, the woman who raised her -- her birth mother is still alive (Phoebe Abbott)) -- at this point, over 16 years. He stabbed a man in the exercise yard during an argument. He has mental issues. *He* is the one who told Phoebe that her mother killed herself. They never say it in so many words, but it's fairly obvious that Phoebe's stepfather killed her mother and manipulated and gaslighted Phoebe into believing he was (like her) a victim of the trauma of the suicide of a loved one, instead of the cause of her trauma as the murderer both of her mother and her substitute father figure (the man she believed her stepfather to be, killed by the truth of what he is).

[@clugoharris]

I love the subtle emotion of trying to figure out how to tell him she’s Phoebe or if she even should

[@frescoclean]

Who did he think she was? Seems weird to recognize your daughter and ask her to pass a note to her mother but not know that she’s your daughter

[@SummerAlleriaWindrunner]

​@@frescoclean But he actually never said she was his daughter. I don't think he knew that beforehand, just that she was at whatever memorial they're talking about

[@darth856]

@@frescoclean as I understand it, he left when Phoebe was a baby. So it's not strange that he wouldn't recognice her. Although it's interesting that he never considered the possibility.

[@jswbr]

@@darth856 The mind can do some crazy things to protect you. My exes father had mafia ties, and her mom escaped and went into protection when she was in elementary. She told me in her 30s that she has very little recollection anymore of what her father looks like and she could walk past him on the street and never realize it.

[@vikaXswiftie13]

​@frescoclean I don't really remember cuz I watched this a while ago but Spoiler just in case Phoebe's dad Frank left her and Ursula when they were children and he never saw them until Phoebe's grandmother's memorial so that's why he didn't recognize her

[@daylight8208]

He came all the way from Hogwarts. So touching.

[@MisakiBlossom]

My heart is 9 3/4 broken

[@susanvalentin1208]

😂

[@alanabear2736]

I thought the same thing

[@supernovah1184]

😂😂😂

[@theresabraddock9310]

😂❤

[@christophb2736]

And this performance shows, why Lisa got an Emmy.

[@avalerionbass]

That dude did a good job too

[@diaescalante]

And deserved it! For me, Phoebe was always the best and more complex character of the serie

[@Nirndust]

@@abdullahal-mamun1053so???? The person was just saying 😅

[@abdullahal-mamun1053]

@@Nirndust must’ve misread what he said, only just realising how stupid i sound 💀💀

[@courtneyr6645]

And this comment shows, why lessons in punctuation are important.

[@MrCejw]

And Phoebe.... Is on this couch😢

[@erickmejia4602]

"Where? I don't see her"

[@justbplz]

Made my girl tear up... Yup just my girl lol

[@trdestruction6678]

Guys I think phoebe got hit by a couch!!! Probably during a tornado incident.

[@Khrisstieg]

😭😭😭😭

[@DrakeDeath7]

Who’s cutting onions 😢

[@dinoface4]

Phoebe has so much lore. She deserves a spin off drama series.

[@nora0000]

I wish they showed us Phoebe’s step-dad, he sounded like he was such a good dad to her and Ursula.

[@darkopz]

This comment is so interesting when compared to the other comment claiming phoebes step father killed her mother and lied to everyone about it.

[@Sandra-1wiq]

@@darkopzI heard she committed suicide?

[@acousticmonkey2209]

Didn’t her step dad end up in prison shortly after their mother died? How was that a good dad? He was the reason she was homeless at 14.

[@nora0000]

@@acousticmonkey2209 she also talked about how he played with her and Ursula in their yard and how he sold his blood to buy them food, and he didn’t leave them voluntarily, and she wanted him to walk her down the isle, so he’s already a better dad to them than Frank, I’d say.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@Sandra-1wiqAccording to the comment he claimed that yes but he actually killed her

[@elissel]

Lisa outshown every other cast member with regard to her superb acting, especially in dramatic scenes, as in this one. Wow. Amazing young woman.

[@user-sl5qt3sd3y]

My favorite friend

[@bonnie1303]

And when you hear her talk about her time making the show, it seems like she really felt like the #3 female lead. WHICH IS CRAZY!

[@josephmcaleer7832]

She was always my favorite. And she is still.

[@davidbain5419]

The reason she got canned from Seinfeld. She stole to many scenes .

[@KatE-iz5hl]

Also the fact that phoebe doesn’t have to think about how long it’s been since her mothers death, she just quickly says 17 years like she thinks about it all the time

[@1SqueakyWheel]

The year you lose a beloved parent is never forgotten. It will be thought about at least from time to time, but it doesn't have to be constant, per se. You just know it, and it's an easy calculation.

[@amandaburnham8626]

She was probably processing how long as she was processing him.

[@keithbartholomew9433]

or maybe, just maybe . hear me out.. it was written in the script

[@1SqueakyWheel]

@@keithbartholomew9433 nah that's just crazy talk!

[@richardd.9223]

I miss my father everyday. I will be able to do what Phoebe does till the day I die .

[@dianaellul9345]

So bright and bubbly Phoebe (on the outside it seems) has a really sad backstory.

[@dmc9862]

Sadly, the majority of bright and bubbly people have horrific backstories. Robin Williams and Freddie Prinze Sr. To name a few.

[@kn4cc755]

Many times the carefree exterior is a mask.

[@zushiba]

That really was the point of her character. They made a joke about it, because, you know, it was a comedy. But the entire point of her character was to put everyone else's shitty lives into perspective. No matter how bad the others had it, Phoebe had it worse. And she kept smiling. Her character was particularly powerful.

[@ronaldashby935]

Amen

[@annastaciaparker2902]

Her facial expression in the close up...Priceless...I felt that!!! Stellar Performance 🎭

[@9elypses]

Growing up i wanted to be strong like Pheobe. She seemed so sure and secure in herself and her world. Well now ive gained some perspective and survived more than i meant to and all i want to do is hold her and cry.

[@Loralanthalas]

I was the same. When i was younger she seemed like nothing touched her. Having grown up, I realize shes had the hard life of the group.

[@DeathnoteBB]

Yeah growing up in a hard time makes you either softer or harder.

[@truffles365]

This comment made me cry. I hope your future holds only the best things ❤❤❤

[@lecooldude]

I wish you the best

[@sadia2395]

'Survived more than I meant to' 😕 Hugs XX

[@andimjennifer2260]

Phoebe was easily the best character on Friends

[@Karma-qt4ji]

Not even the slightest doubt about it. With all her ditsy ways, she was the one true person in the group. Loved her to bits.

[@wcstrawberryfields8011]

Never saw a full episode but Kudrow's character was iconic.

[@bluenote5630]

And that Character 😢 she play was Awesome in real life totally different person good actor.Lisa Kudrow/Phoebe Buffay.I never😭seen this 😳 scene of Friends

[@assmosis4573]

Easily?? Personal opinion I guess.

[@Karma-qt4ji]

@@assmosis4573 Are you new to the internet? Everything here is subjective buddy.

[@jeanneratterman]

What a way to ‘meet your dad’. I never saw this episode. It looks very touching and relevant. 😢

[@vjshoegal4027]

Phobe was always an enigma...her character a roller-coaster of emotions 😢😊

[@amandak208]

Bob Balaban is such an underrated actor, he is absolutely spectacular no matter what he does, especially when it's heart wrenching like this.

[@spenceroman242]

Gee was he an NBC Executive on Seinfeld?😅

[@amandak208]

@@spenceroman242 I think so, yes!

[@babikatspelman2308]

And Phoebe is on this couch... 😢 Made me cry... I miss my father....

[@carlhollis47]

This was a very emotional scene. Both actors nailed their perspective rolls

[@Mindy-lr4xh]

I'm sorry.

[@Mindy-lr4xh]

😢

[@Blessed_by_GOD_2010]

At least he went looking, acknowledging pheobe and lilly, mine denied me to this day on everything legal and verbal

[@mirroravis]

He didn't go looking. He thought her grandma left something for him in her will

[@Sandy-tj4wn]

I am so sorry. My husband grew up without a father. He worked hard to be a good dad, hard worker, great neighbor, great husband and Father

[@chosenlight7289]

The way you got here may not have been ideal but it was certainly God's will for you to be here. I don't know you but you are a gift and I pray that you have a blessed and prosperous life. Your "Dad" blew it but you don't need that toxicity anyway ❤

[@MonicaA777]

Jesús is always available as a father ❤

[@Sammy-qf8bl]

​@@MonicaA777oh shut up. Some people have real problems.

[@golden90s57]

This clip is proof how important the background music in movies and TV are. I never cared about friends or found it good but this clip with this music tells more of a story than I'm sure the episode does.

[@benjaminalbasil59]

I loved Phoebe the most.. she's lovely always.

[@create773]

That was a sweet moment those facial expressions were flawless. I wish phoebe would’ve had more time with her dad.

[@jordansummers2790]

Agreed. I wonder why the writers never followed up on that story line. Too serious for comedy??

[@ridgewellhawkes2961]

YES! the facial expressions were priceless

[@frankwilliams6216]

Absolutely - and not all actors have that ability to convey such meaning with their facial expressions. She is gold.

[@stellaferraz1668]

I don’t think the TV show ever acknowledged the credit that the mum who raised Pheobe and Ursula deserved. She struggled mentally and still took the girls in and was a mother to them, even after being left alone by this coward here. She tried. At least she tried.

[@whitneymorris2544]

Um, I think the show was a comedy. Sooo.....

[@jjm152]

Agreed, but technically theri Biological mom abandoned them first, which I find wild and Phoebe doesn't seem to have much of a problem with her.

[@ayaa.1351]

She could have given them to adoption. Anything other than also abandoning them. Suicide is not some romantic notion of loss.

[@conner3841]

My mom committed suicide, you are right it’s definitely not romantic. Especially if they saw the body. It leaves stuff in you forever. Especially the stress of realizing people die in minutes and getting consumed by visions of people you love dying when they aren’t answering the phone or texting right away or hearing a weird sound in the other room. That’s not including the emotional effects it has as well like abandonment issues.

[@conner3841]

@@ayaa.1351oops forgot to tag

[@IamLivingAmber]

Lisa Kudrow has always been a phenomenal actress.

[@cdfaulk]

She did that scene so well!!

[@nastycrafter4640]

Fun when they don't recognize you. Last time I spoke to mine was a few days after my birthday. He called to get mad at me for forgetting HIS birthday.

[@godivagal1]

My dad and step monster do the same thing. I finally flat out told them that I'll call when I have time, same as they did when I was a kid. That call ended poorly 😂

[@jontobin5942]

Same. My father only does holiday or birthday stuff in the hopes that he can catch someone else forgetting and gloat. He never actually cares. If anyone else forgets, he thinks they’re a POS. If he forgets then you’re a POS for not reminding him. I don’t care if he forgets. It’s him that makes a giant thing out of it. I don’t care that much that he never had or had time for me. That’s his choice. It’s fine. It’s just galling that he then tries to hug me or talk about shared trips (that I never went on because he forgot about me but brought his current girlfriend’s kids.) as if we have this great relationship. The man is delusional.

[@dianemartin152]

I never knew my father..only saw him once and he was drunk...got arrested.

[@anbrown78]

Sending you love. 💜💪🏼🫶🏽

[@pinkangel2nv]

My dad called me on my birthday to remind not to forget to call my older brother on his……he is 4 years older and we are 10 days apart it was my 18th but no biggie 🤦🏾‍♀️🫠

[@drme66]

Before my dad died in my home, while i held his hand, he asked i find my mom, who made us leave in 1976. I tried and tried, finally she called my number about four years ago on my 51st birthday to wish me well.

[@gannjones4480]

Spirit is powerful

[@shaniecesingleton3704]

But his distress and immediate shift into worry about the girls

[@BN-zr4pc]

He wasn't too worried about them when he abandoned them over 17 years ago.

[@allison3480]

That would be called guilt

[@trenae77]

Never really watched the show; but do we know why he abandoned them? Not why they say he abandoned him, or why even HE says. Do we know there wasn't a mental break there, something that has haunted him years after that he comes back looking for them?

[@MissZeely]

​@@trenae77doesn't really fit in his case because then he got with another lady, got her pregnant and then abandoned that kid too

[@xejelah]

@@trenae77 He didn't come back looking for them - he heard her grandma died and thought she left something for him in her will. He disappeared after this too. Let us bypass the fact the mom killed herself not being able to handle raising twins by herself to focus on the man's mental health.

[@nothingsacred8684]

You’re really gonna make me cry first thing in the morning from a Friend’s KZbin short.

[@simonegodwin7449]

I just burst into tears! Seen this hundreds of times!

[@MetalMama-Mimi523]

I so adore his expression at receiving this info. It's so deeply heartfelt that it's hard to believe he's acting.

[@ladybug9647]

if they do any reboot i hope it’s for phoebe’s backstory like young sheldon lol

[@kate_6436]

That would be a DARK show😂

[@ladybug9647]

@@kate_6436 oh my you’re right

[@ana419]

What a gentle way to break the news to someone.

[@briancaine9130]

She made this show.

[@rickileah080]

💯

[@sagesufferswell]

Living single made this show. She made the whitewashed version somewhat interesting.

[@qnladybug1891]

@@sagesufferswellyes! It’s crazy how Friends copied off on some of Living Single episodes too, smh. So disappointed when this came out, I no longer was a big fan of Friends.

[@marilynseptember21]

No, I disagree....they all did....all of them...even the guy that pours coffee....

[@Lambchoppe53]

​@@qnladybug1891I never could like this show. Joey was the high point

[@KatE-iz5hl]

This scene with sad instrumental music hits different

[@Bl00dyWh1teRabb1t]

The song is Come Back Home by Ardie Son

[@paulbrown5934]

My favourite part of this scene was Phoebe finding out that the lullaby that her dad used to sing to her as a baby was the melody that she would later use for Smelly Cat. Even though he abandoned her, he did leave something with her.

[@royfrye2871]

Yeah. That was a cool twist.❤

[@Ang3ldust2024]

Dad: what about the girls Phoebe: dad I'm right here

[@elizabethwilson7835]

Mine said he was sorry he couldn’t be there for me growing up but that when I was an adult and he could see me more freely, he’d make it up to me. He never got the chance to fulfill that promise. He died when I was 19. When I was 15 he asked me to promise him if he was ever so sick and on life support that I would not let him suffer or linger. He asked me to vow I’d pull the plug. Though I could not stand by his bed and hold his hand as he died, I did fulfill the vow of a child to her father. That was the hardest promise I’ve ever kept! ❤

[@eclectic_savant]

I'm sorry you had to go through that experience. However, you're not alone in such sadness. I had to make all the medical decisions for my dad when he got sick. Though I knew what he wanted and I tried to respect his wishes, I wasn't as strong and had to make sure that I had done absolutely everything possible before the final decision had to be made. The fear of possibly making all the wrong choices instead of considering all possible choices kept me from respecting my dad's requests longer than we both wanted, but I just had to make sure. I didn't want to lose my dad.

[@amman9242]

I think they ruined her story when Lily turned out to be not her biological mother.

[@itsdannyhoney]

The whole Phoebe’s background story was done poorly

[@maureenlaneski2802]

​@@itsdannyhoneyKind of like Sheldon's in TBBT. Now they've had to retcon it because it isn't funny to watch a dad be drunk and philandering and hurtful every week on Young Sheldon.

[@EterPuralis]

​@@maureenlaneski2802I think y'all are forgetting there's such a thing as an unreliable narrator.

[@tvtvtfan3767]

@@maureenlaneski2802maybe he will be closer to the original as the series progress. Didn’t he already cheat so far. So maybe the drunkenness comes later

[@AD-jq7ow]

So her real mother is the woman in Montoch and her father is still that guy??

[@ceebee8042]

Papa was a rolling stone. Where ever he laid his hat was his home. All he left us was alone.

[@Vitoandolini13]

All he left us was a loan

[@idgamingfederation202]

I'm not crying I'm just rotating my ocular fluids

[@momcat5213able]

Doing a flush and fill.😊

[@LadyJolisa72]

I've only "seen" this show through shorts ...have never had an interest in it... Ever. Phoebe , makes me want to watch it.

[@nennie86]

It's hilarious. I can't recall how many times I've seen it and I still watch it lol

[@1SqueakyWheel]

I'm not a consummate TV watcher, but it's a great show. Sometimes the characters were better than the writing, but most of the time, the writing was great. Worth the time to watch it at your leisure.

[@andytay5507]

Being adopted, not knowing who my biological father is, and watching this scene gives me a melancholy, pleasure and pain, nearly simultaneously.

[@vanessalambrecht6311]

I love all of them but damn Phoebe 😍

[@MonMon-ed6uw]

Just watching made me cry

[@seshasatyakrishna5016]

Well he finally thought about his girls 17 years too late...

[@wakranich3488]

Never judge anyone bc you don't know what they're going through.

[@FullMoonOctober]

@@wakranich3488 Apparently he wasn't going through fatherhood.

[@danikahholdman2609]

@@FullMoonOctober 🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭

[@PhoenixFlowerEmma]

​@@FullMoonOctoberyou are the real MVP

[@PhoenixFlowerEmma]

​@@FullMoonOctober💀💀💀

[@huntergirl7275]

I don't think I've ever seen this episode. 😭

[@judithmcfarland943]

Me, either!

[@terristrickland6671]

Who cares I never watch that show big deal

[@slowedvibes5348]

@@terristrickland6671no one asked

[@ibcheel9021]

Please link the next let, because it shows how phoebe is kind of like him. With comedic effect…

[@tammyallison6283]

That one always makes me shed a tear! Just realizing that her Dad never knew her Mom had died…

[@jeffreycoffman7409]

Very touching moment. The violin in the background makes it.

[@angieb976]

It sucks that none of her family members were able to make her wedding she was trying so hard throughout the series to find her family

[@HitlerfromStatefarm]

The most shocking part of this is that Ursula can afford to live in soho on waitress pay check

[@nostradamus7648]

Ursula is a porn actress, not a waitress.

[@paulbrown5934]

​@@nostradamus7648She's both.

[@maui3551]

That scene made me cry 😢

[@jeffkidder5282]

Their was so much packed into this conversation, it could have gone in so many diffetent directions; it's breathtaking and awesome how everything unfolds with such gentle kindness. ❤

[@MrsShocoTaco]

I cant feel sorry for someone who walked out on his entire family.

[@jennifercole7872]

I can’t either.

[@ddthewolf]

Especially someone who does it two times, since he also walked out on Phoebe's half-brother

[@micheller6804]

It depends on the circumstances. Sometimes people know they are in such a bad place, leaving might actually be the kindest thing they could do. It's far worse when they stick around and just cause chaos and damage.

[@debrh.b]

But he gave her "Smellycat "

[@MrsShocoTaco]

@@debrh.b He gets 2 points for "Smelly Cat," but that's all!

[@eksophia]

Okie dokie just ugly crying on a Tuesday afternoon watching KZbin shorts

[@chightower1989]

Lord Jesus! My eyes watered seeing this. The type of music playing with it made it a huge impact. 😪😭

[@rite2bcreative]

This comment section makes me feel like I'm not alone in having a really shitty parent 🥰

[@moefoe6827]

Except shit at least stays around for a while..

[@royfrye2871]

You aren't. My dad was a drunken jackass who I was convinced hated me for existing. He quit drinking when I was about 35. For the next 18 years I got to know him some.

[@mcmmx]

The most poignant moment in friends

[@rebdoug4316]

One of the best lines....Phobe is on this couch.

[@markgalati]

I never really saw "Friends" growing up but this has to be one of the emotional GREAT scenes. To meet your Father after 17 years would be soul crushing.

[@CountDoucheula]

"I'm not crying; you're crying"

[@phyllisdorre5312]

And he looked at her with so much love 🥰

[@smallfootprint2961]

This is part of the reason Phoebe won all the awards.

[@teresaloss1012]

I loved this episode. To see so much love but heartache too, this is like real life for so many children 😢.

[@joandeisem9742]

Unbelievable. Real felt bad Phoebe. But the look on his face you could tell he didn’t know. 😢

[@gangapoornima]

Phoebe is my fav

[@PoloMaldonadoM]

This chapter was the one that made me respect Friends as a masterpiece.

[@nancyreneemitchell4829]

He does a good job when he realizes he's been talking to his daughter and the look of love on his face

[@karens1967]

My son's father walked right past him going into a donut shop and never recognized him

[@RaquelSantos-hj1mq]

That's sad. Kids change so much in just a few years and if a parent misses it, they can never get it back.

[@shellswetrick3395]

I'm not crying you are😢😢😢😢

[@JuniAllen]

The look on her face when she says who she is. All i can think is, "so there! I'm phoebe what now sir? Do you see me yet?!" All in one look. Breathtaking. I've always wanted to be strong enough to give this look ❤

[@jeanhuguenot6573]

That scene is much deeper than the usual Friends thing. Moving actually. Phoebe's always been my favourite character in the show. She's a graceful solar wounded bird. Moreover that scene reminds me of a beautiful song by The Who: Pictures of Lily.

[@kishanthakkar7027]

I am curious tho how he heard about the grandma passing but never found out about Lily until 17 years later

[@elvenroze2552]

Maybe lily's was sorta hushed cause of how it happened?

[@UnicornzRreal92]

Ive never liked this show but this clip, i had to watch a few times😢

[@joshuamurray9403]

Lisa's acting in the last two shots of her are the best I've ever seen.😢 literal embodiment of remorse, judgment, pain, regret, blame, longing for closure...A face of sorrow, but still wanting approval. She's simultaneously little girl wanting to be loved; while also being street hardened woman who won't be broken anymore in life. She looks right into his soul, while a part of her tries to hide.

[@christinehelms6782]

My ultimate favorite t.v. show from the first episode when they started in the 90's to today..i love wat hing them over and over im glad they were syndicated so now we can watch them every night and day pretty much!!

[@alexxbloomofficial]

It made me cry oh cmon ❤ she is the sweetest

[@mariesakowallis171]

I love that his first question after he finds out how long its been is about the girls. It goes to show he always cared about them even though he wasn't there for them.

[@weaveandwelfaretookblackme]

Cared enough to abandon them😂 males never take accountability for nothing

[@annerg5192]

Not all males, but there has been much pain. Jesus took responsibility for all that blame that was not his. A lot of people say they follow him and don't, but a lot of men are actually pretty decent.

[@kimayapanash8998]

Why wasn't Phoebe's mother,brother at her wedding?

[@harshadixit6204]

I always thought this thing at least his brother could've been to her wedding she gave him kids.

[@danahenrickson3378]

I think they explained that no one from out of town was able to show up due to the blizzard. Her mom lives in a different state and her brother moved out of the city after his kids were born. I vaguely remember a scene where she asks and either Monica or Rachel explain the situation.

[@RaquelSantos-hj1mq]

Probably they couldn't get the actors.

[@CarlottaHall]

​​@@danahenrickson3378did her twin sister make the wedding? I didnt follow the show.

[@danahenrickson3378]

@CarlottaHall no, she and her sister had several falling outs due to Joey and another guy her sister had hurt. I think the most recent falling out at this point in the show was when her sister stole her identity to become a p*rn star. After that, she kind of cut ties with her. So, obviously, she wouldn't have invited her to come.

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

He’s very good. They communicate their feelings so well.

[@juliecurran9884]

The expression in Phoebes eyes when she said she is on this couch.Brilliant acting ❤

[@helenageerts2115]

Is that her father?? How did I miss this episode??

[@parryxxlivxx]

This was around the funeral of her grandmother; her dad showed up and Phoebe pretended that she left him something in her will in order to meet with him again. The whole thing doesn’t take up too much time, so I guess it’s not too hard to miss unless you’ve watched the whole thing multiple times already

[@helenageerts2115]

@@parryxxlivxx thanks!

[@mangafq8]

I forget his character's name, but he was in Seinfeld, too.

[@deborahklinlger8565]

This is the first time I've seen this on Friends----- thus actior played on Seinfeld & in Jurasdic Park. I wish the writers had written mire on this storyline mire of Phoebe"s / Ursula storyline.

[@maryhorton7876]

I believe his name is Bob Balaban

[@deborahklinlger8565]

@@maryhorton7876 😊 ty.

[@WiggyWamWam]

@@deborahklinlger8565Bob Balaban was not in Jurassic Park

[@deborahklinlger8565]

@WiggyWamWam Yes he was -'----- he played the Ceo of Elgen in the 2nd film.

[@Izaakwalton_]

This was the most hilarious friends episode ever. I loved it. It made me laugh for several days after.

[@koan4349]

I heard a faint laugh when Phoebe breaks the news to her farther when he expressed grief.

[@pcbassoon3892]

I don't like this trope on TV shows. Deadbeat dads don't just show up out of the blue and start acting like dad's. Maybe there are some exceptions if the dad didn't know the kid existed, but that's rare.

[@manicpepsicola3431]

They do like to show up occasionally if youre grown just to see you then leave again

[@liammaxsmama]

They like to show up, see that you’ve apparently turned out alright to relieve some guilt and then dip right back out of your life. That’s my experience.

[@nuclearmomof5750]

My dad’s biological father did just that. Contacted him after my grandma died. My dad was grown, my siblings and I are grown, and his grandkids exist. My biological grandfather wanted to be the picture. He means nothing to me, my siblings, our kidlets, and close to nothing to my dad.

[@recoveringintrovert717]

My dad did. He's casually in my life. Came back the day after my mother died. I told him I could never see him as a father, but maybe as a friend. He didn't like that, but that's how it is

[@nikribble]

I think it's pretty realistic, considering he never shows up again in the show

[@elizabethhughes6312]

What is the music in the background?? It's beautiful!

[@peli201]

Came to ask the same!

[@TakecenterStage]

Commenting just in case!

[@rahulsuram1080]

Yes please

[@Glitterandgoldfinds]

Me too

[@thetruename3075]

We need answers y'all!

[@annacobb1140]

The look in his eyes at the end hits me every damn time

[@rebeccamiller475]

The music with this scene really does make you feel more of what the characters would possibly be feeling. I like it. ❤

[@leslieharrison4230]

Is that Bob Balaban?

[@sammygirl6910]

Yes

[@oop4841]

Ursula being a waitress and living in Soho is nuts

[@gretchenbond784]

She lived near and served the folks in Mad About You. 😉

[@oop4841]

@gretchenbond784 Soho is and always has been soooo expensive though! That's what makes me laugh 😅

[@Marcel_Audubon]

​@@oop4841not always .. It used to be a dump

[@oop4841]

@Marcel_Audubon During that time, it would not have been a dump

[@Marcel_Audubon]

@@oop4841 your exact words were "is and always has been"

[@saleembassadien7144]

This is one of the best edits to a scene I've ever seen. The music is just perfect.

[@bradleymcdaniel7915]

To me this is by far the most heart wrenching moment in all of FRIENDS!

[@RainbowOwl24]

What season and episode is this please?

[@Sparkelr]

Season 5, Episode 13 "The One with Joey's Bag"

[@koenigkorczak]

he smiles and doesn't hug her

[@RelaxingForLife]

I guess his her long lost uncle ? not dad ?

[@judithmcfarland943]

Hugging would have been inappropriate.

[@ddthewolf]

He tries to at the end, but Phoebe doesn't want to

[@1SqueakyWheel]

It's an awkward situation. He's guilt-riddled, and she's obviously emotional and guarded. You don't just go for it in a situation like that... could make all the pain even worse, and he doesn't wanna do that to her. Nor does she wanna make him feel unnecessarily worse than he already does. Whaddaya do?

[@ronan1me]

What a way to deliver a line.. She could jave said Pheobe is me... but saying Pheobe is on this couch is genius

[@nateboytwo]

Beautifully done , soft acting at its best 💜

[@thebestoffriends_]

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[@tothbojana5825]

Hey do you know the name of the song that's playing under this scene? Thank you

[@pequenaesposa3286]

Part 3?

[@pequenaesposa3286]

​@@tothbojana5825Shazam it my friend

[@SimphonyArt]

​@@pequenaesposa3286 Iqra is that you?

[@wild_z7602]

@@tothbojana5825 Music (I belive): Come Back Home by Ardie Son Might be wrong but sounds pretty close