👀 Conversations Black Women AREN'T Ready To Have [TikTok Compilation Reaction] × VOOPOO Vinci Q

[@TheeMademoiselle]

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[@kaishawna3753]

I think Black women need to talk about the detrimental mental health issues they impose of their own trauma and are taking it out on their children. The black women need to be willing to open up and get help for their own mental health before causing unwanted mental health issues to the next generation

[@NiaG34]

Telling a boy he’s the man of the house and then telling a girl that she’s acting fast when she does normal things any girl would do 🚩🚩🚩

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Tbh 😩😩😩

[@CynthiaNotG]

Telling girls they strong and independent but in assistance and got their cashapp in their bio 🥶

[@rayerwings8913]

And then they would complain about black women not being feminine enough 🙄

[@bmoe4609]

Thought someone was cute n got called fast. Wanted my hair down n was called fast. That word made me hate myself honestly, it does alot of damage.

[@sadebraimah5962]

I agree with the “men want to feel needed” statement, and I feel like that’s where a lot of the discontent comes specifically between black men and black women. Black women are raised to be independent and raised not to need a man and I feel like the men should be more understanding of that considering most of us have had that pounded into our heads since birth. I also notice that being independent tends to be something that black women will get clowned on for. I also feel like the standards for men are changing women no longer need a man for the basic necessities of life (house, bank account etc.). Men are having to change for the first time in history and that’s why I feel like there’s such a big rift between men and women now. Men actually have to do more than just be a man.

[@rubybrown1676]

Yeah, I think it's less about the need to be needed and more about the way men want to be needed and like you said, with the way things are changing, it's time to be more than just man, be a partner and contribute any way you can. It kinda makes me question their understanding of their role in a relationship if they feel useless when someone doesn't need their money (unless they're belittled or denied when they try to do for their spouse)

[@aylanae4797]

Well said. I feel that, I also want to say as BW we've had to see what not being able to provide for us looks like. Majority of marriages back in the day where the man was abusive and alcoholic or a rolling stone, and seeing our grandmother's, mothers, aunties, cousins, etc. Die after being loyal to a man who had none for her made us move different. The want is still there the men just need to re-volve like we have had to and find what their needed for now.

[@notyourfrind9415]

This comments section is on fire, loving it.

[@jaydubbs8277]

If the man actually WAS needed he wouldnt need to “feel” needed…

[@aylanae4797]

@@jaydubbs8277 I get where you're going but I feel like this. Just because we know our man loves us or thinks we're beautiful doesn't mean that we don't ha e the need to be reminded . I think the bigger issue is how they handle not being "needed" in a traditional sense. Providing food, home etc.

[@m_nash]

calling your son " the man of the house " is BEYOND weird to me...!!! my son stays in a child place because i love his innocence he will eventually become a man until then hes a child...

[@TheSReaction]

This!!! I love his innocence. I didn’t get to be a child so I want my son to be just that!! Be a kid and just enjoy!

[@diannabricks4854]

The whole comment abt black women being in competition with each other and the fake compliments, sums up The Real Housewives Of Atlanta

[@TheeMademoiselle]

That show is a lot…….

[@Nominaze]

Yes, it’s sad how they still have another season after last season…it was a mess.

[@miracleyoung7076]

Black moms verbally and emotionally (cussing, embarrassing, and just not being loving) damage children while black dad's physically and sexually (absence, beating, the unthinkable) damage them. I'm 34 with no kids but if I would have had a child ten years ago 🥴🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️ just a cycle on repeat

[@thepurplequeen256]

Girl, you are still young and if you decide to have one you are better. Emotionally more mature. My big cousin is 36 and just got married and had her son last summer. She never wanted children either but things change. It's also your choice to not have any. I'm 29 and only want 2 after marriage. My fiance wants like 4 but he's very nurturing , loving and understanding. I took therapy for 2 years before even dating because my mom was a TERRIBLE person to me. Black moms hate their daughters because we have youth, time, options etc. Black moms are usually alone and angry. We need to break the cycle.

[@Dannniellleee]

Nope. You can make different choices

[@Motivation4Actionn]

Crazy considering many black men leave and aren’t “ fathers” at all

[@neri3376]

Crazy considering the moms bust it open for losers that didn’t marry her and plan on sticking around

[@VixxKong2]

That's why BW right now are saying to stop getting pregnant for these clowns. There's literally nothing good in doing that

[@jeangriffin2536]

I find a lot of black women get very jealous when they see a nother black women is self employed. They always have something bad to say about them. I think it is uncalled for.

[@dinkyboss]

I find a lot of self employed people have this delusion about themselves that people are jealous when literally nobody cares. And I’ll go one step further to say that the reason why everyone feels black business owners are rude and full of themselves stems from this same delusion. They think they’re better than people because they don’t have to call anyone else “boss” and thusly expect folks to envy them.

[@ivoriangodess1]

It's because we feel less than, who doesn't want to be their own boss/independent? I said what I said.

[@ladydeath3463]

I got beaten severely, dragged by my hair and when that no longer worked she used my trauma, mental health and body image issues to put me down literally saying i should r.i.p she isn't my biological mother but its clear from her daughters that shes been like this forever shes 74 now i turn 23 soon and met her 12 years ago. When she became my mother. I think a lot of older w.o.c don't want to change or improve and can't take having mature rational, honest conversations with their children without it being disrespect. Now i still love my mother but it doesn't mean she's free of critique.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Wow….im soooo sorry 😢

[@Bmbxlx]

I understand and empathise with you, I am going through a similar experience. It is very hard because they are older than us and so stuck in their ways that it is hard to change their mindset. I realised recently that I do not need to help her anymore or have to worry because I started to get anxiety and be scared of her as a result. It is better to work on healing yourself and working towards your future, as their time has gone and they've wasted their lives worrying and fearing everything and everyone around you, rather than work on themselves. It's best to just empathise but create boundaries with them, which is hard. But just trust that it will all get better.

[@ladydeath3463]

@@TheeMademoiselle thank you but I've learned through therapy that she hurt me because someone hurt her. She wasn't all bad. Its up to the youngest generation to break that cycle and improve.

[@ladydeath3463]

@@Bmbxlx it took a long time to realize you cant make someone love you the way you need to be loved. You can't force people to change. You find acceptance and you try to heal.

[@samirahmccaulla4260]

Did we have the same mother ?

[@GetPrettyWithPuff]

come on retwist!! and yes i agree w the lady that said black women support black men waaaay more than they support us. 🥴

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you and facts

[@ohthatsti]

I partially disagree with the woman around 25:00 minutes… because lighter skin and darker skin women have not gone through the exact same trials and tribulations like she said & that’s just facts

[@asvpxtati]

I came to say this.

[@nethaniapierre8149]

Exactly 💯

[@dreamscott4952]

Yes girl these light skin girls be so tone deaf sometimes

[@bajandougiejoe3345]

The problem is a lot of them see it as corny to have their lives together

[@diannabricks4854]

So funny you mentioned that because I was watching a video in regards to black women and someone was saying that when you’re a black woman who doesn’t want to be a statistic or wants better for yourself some black women look at it as u think you’re better or you’re being judgmental meanwhile if a non black woman were to say that they don’t want a life of suffer, no one bats an eye

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Chillllllllle 😩😩😩🙆🏽‍♀️

[@earthangel90210]

@@TheeMademoiselle my mother literally told me to go to college to educate myself only for me to come home and be called boujie and that I act like I’m better than everybody

[@bajandougiejoe3345]

@@TheeMademoiselle we gotta start fighting narrative about us

[@dulaneygibson2014]

@@diannabricks4854 google “black women entrepreneurs Harvard business” then tell me how this is true yet this stereotype you’re trying to push is also true. Then google “who is the most educated demographic?” Then answer the same question. From a black female attorney with nearly zero black males in my profession to link with but many, many black women.

[@soniacharles5292]

Please do the conversation that black men aren't ready to have. Love the top by the way.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you and will do

[@michellemackey8272]

These ladies had great points. I work in Healthcare & really want to move toward helping other black women, as well as our girls in community service. There is so much we have to unlearn while giving ourselves grace at the same time.

[@rushiaj1222]

Amen!! Let’s make changes instead of excuses. Let’s turn those negatives into positive stories.

[@rubybrown1676]

I think a lot of people are misguided when it comes to black women empowerment. Understanding our struggles turns into pitying us, especially dark women, and trying to balance the scales by shutting down anyone who's deemed privileged (white, light skinned, etc). I don't think its all malicious, I think we're struggling to find a balance with all this new info on race relations. Like a new guy at work who takes rules too seriously and literally, but eventually learns when and how to apply the policies

[@dinkyboss]

Great point

[@briannanickson6656]

Exactly

[@rushiaj1222]

What I’ve found is men want to be needed. My hubs is like most most men in the aspect that he’s a fixer. If there’s a problem he’s on a mission to fix it. If the kids or I want or need something he’s thinking of ways to make that happen. So when a person says they don’t need a man. I think it kind of takes that man’s purpose away. Not that he doesn’t want you to be independent but it may make him feel inadequate because there’s nothing he can do to make you happy. Idk if I worded that correctly but men are action driven more than emotional driven in my opinion.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

You worded it perfectly that’s exactly what it is. My boyfriend is the same in that aspect. He always wants to make me feel ok no matter way.

[@BlackberryTitties]

Okay so when all these men are hollering about "not taking care of you." But then hollering about "being independent." Yes your hubby may be that way. But it's a lot of BS for a lot of women out here. There are so many hoops black women have to suffer through.

[@DesertSister]

There were a lot of valid points in these...I can't lie. It's making me think more intensely on what I can change in raising my daughters.

[@MarloB]

I know some horrible moms too .. one of them her child called child services to come get him so he can go back to foster care 😔

[@TheeMademoiselle]

No way 🤐

[@babygirla5717]

Oh wow Fr!! Sad, but if he didn’t feel safe then he did the right thing.

[@coilylani]

The way my neck hurts from nodding my head so much , you spoke nothing but facts 💯

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thanks sis these people was on the moneyyy

[@Sninabina]

That feeling like a burden is too real

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Verrry

[@paulinecompass6840]

I TOTALLY AGREE THAT MOTHERS NEED TO DO BETTER, PERIODDDD!!

[@aniyamarie8370]

I’m at this point in life of trying to compliment or start a conversation with anybody in person to work on my socialization skills (anxiety). So, I felt the Tik Toks pointing out black women not matching the personalities they have social media and being rude in person. I always follow my gut when it tells me to back away from the black women simply giving me the stank face and unfortunately, I think that’s why I don’t have any legit black friends aside from my cousin.😭

[@aylanae4797]

Gir yesss. Lol it's a double struggle. Anxiety and making friends as you get older is hard asf.

[@shai2137]

@@aylanae4797 I say making friends is easy BUT finding great ones are hard =\.

[@londynk1085]

@@shai2137 Yeah that’s me. I can get along with anybody if I want to. That doesn’t mean they’re gonna be great people though. Just means I can get good with anybody. It’s annoying though, because then I have these relationships with people who I don’t genuinely want to be actual friends with. Cordial, yes, friends, no. And it’s hard for me to break up relationships, so now I’m pretending to be friends with someone who was at first a friend, and now just somebody I pretend to be nice to. Call me fake if you want. I just find it hard to be the person that says “I don’t wanna be friends anymore.” I don’t know why I’m like this.

[@morii7575]

FACTS!!!

[@DeSjawnalittle]

THAT FIRST ONE WAS EATING. coming from someone who works in child care i feel as though women drop the ball a lot when it comes to kids but worried about a man . my mother wasn’t a bad mother at all but i did get hurt same for my dad he loved me just couldn’t do better bc of his environment.

[@samirahmccaulla4260]

Not gonna lie sis . You said sum about commenting and I be doing my hair while listening to your amazing videos I’ve been watching for yearss now I’m 15 and I’ve been watching since maybe 12-13 everything u be saying be factual and even when we disagree I be like “I get what she means “ you’re highly educated I respect that

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Thank you ♥️♥️♥️

[@coilylani]

That lady talking about glasses is just being mean tbh. Some women definitely give the “sexy librarian” vibes with glasses 😩🥺😩

[@serenatsukino5252]

I thought that man was going to say something rude, but I actually agreed with his points! So many young women want a "bad boy" that when a nice guy comes around it's "Ew, I funny want him" which is messed up.

[@erikalee2530]

I don’t feel personally attacked because I’m an excellent mom. I’m all about learning and growing and giving my child a better emotional support system. My parents were wonderful but they didn’t give me a strong mental and emotional foundation

[@annoyedbyyourface]

It sounds like you're doing a wonderful job! Please keep learning and growing as a person because you're so right, it totally helps you be a better support system for your child.

[@wake5307]

Wonderful. Please continue to break the cycle. On another note it’s not really about being personally attacked it’s how these men will paint all black women to be this way so as to demonize them and to justify them uplifting/praising other races as being better. But save that for another conversation. Lol! Wishing you the best.

[@monique6092]

This was very loaded but also very true and part of me thinks that these are conversation we need to have but a part of me feels like all this has already been said and it just goes in one ear and out the other or it’s said, acknowledge and nothing changes. I hope you react to the conversations black men aren’t ready to have because all that’s ever said about black men is that they aren’t providers, aren’t in the home, and don’t support black women. I feel like men, in general whether it be young boys or grown man, are ignored in the conversations about black people and are just free to be men with stipulations.

[@neo1053]

Stop blaming black women for black men bad behaviors

[@BeachBrah247]

It takes two to create a child, it takes one to think about the decisions you make to hurt your child.

[@jaelynstellamusic6562]

I feel like the the common denominator is black men that are simply absent

[@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068]

@@BeachBrah247 leaving that kid is the biggest hurt

[@gwendolynallen3218]

My father hurt me a lot less than my mother who was there to abuse me, same with my sister. The problem is the parent who stayed and caused the most trauma. If you are willing to believe otherwise, you are part of the problem.

[@yurihimepilled]

I wish everyone would just heal individually so we can be better versions of ourselves.

[@kristlecasey9506]

The second one sounds EXACTLY like my bf!❤😫 he told me the same thing. Besides his mom he Also saw how is female friends got abused in relationships and made a promise to himself that he would never do that

[@alexwilliams2276]

Colorism is a real problem but the way it’s being handled is something else. There needs to be a middle ground.

[@deshardemcguffie8705]

People deal with their trauma in different ways the only thing you can do is cut those toxic and dysfunctional family members off healed and live your life to the fullest don't your trauma destroy your present and your future

[@SharieMonique781]

Oddly enough, the most dirty looks I got from other black women was when I was pregnant, which made me uncomfortable to go anywhere by myself. Like my whole pregnancy it was actually white and Hispanic women congratulating me and asking what was the gender and etc. Black women of all ages would stare at me like I was crazy or just flat out mean mug me. Very odd.

[@Daijaray]

Black women gave you dirty looks for being pregnant?!...oh wow..

[@SharieMonique781]

@@Daijaray It was crazy. During the third trimester of my pregnancy (at this point my belly had got pretty big) I was walking around the mall and one black lady just looked at me in pure disgust. Almost like she wanted me to feel bad for being pregnant? I don’t get it but the remainder of my pregnancy I never went anywhere else alone.

[@Dannniellleee]

WOWWWWWWW…. That’s so strange

[@nataliei.4114]

They probably think you're a baby mama.

[@SharieMonique781]

@@nataliei.4114 Key word: THINK. They don’t KNOW me

[@honor21221able]

I had to cut my mother off because of all the toxic drama she put me through. The straw that broke the camels back was when she called me three in the morning the day of our uncles funeral telling me that if they ask why she is in Georgia to pretty much lie and say that she was on a business trip, she was worried about people finding out she was in rehab. I tried lying for her before and I got caught in the mix . I told her well I wasn’t going to tell them you were in rehab I was just going to say you’re away for personal reasons and if they are concerned they can call her. That wasn’t enough, she began to argue with me and hung up the phone and left a nasty message telling me if I go to our uncles funeral I would no longer have a mother. When she said that I cut her off and we have not spoken since she denies telling me that. Another thing that makes me not want a relationship with her is that my god sister recently told her about my graduation my mother pretty much said that she does not want to come to the graduation. According to my mother she said that I’m disrespectful and began to talk about things that happened years ago that has absolutely nothing to do with what happened recently. I’m so fed up with her black mothers do need to do better with how they treat their children especially their daughters.

[@namizou3305]

I'm 21 now but ever since i was little i was told by black adults and children i am not black i am white all bc i don't ig speak loud like them and i like almost all genres of music especially classical instead of limiting myself to just rap or R&B, and i love anime and told i just wanna be white bc I'm willing to date outside my race. (Just like the mention in this vid my bf is black as well and had to go through his mother making him man of the house as a child sadly). Anyways I'm always gonna be black and no one can take that away from me and nothing i do could ever change that and i have no issue with it.

[@morii7575]

I’ve been told to at I was white because I don’t speak with a lot of slang and how i talk is deemed “proper”… that is extremely problematic

[@namizou3305]

@@morii7575 It really is problematic. They put others down for speaking a certain way and them saying you speak proper is like they're saying that black ppl are supposed to speak all broken or something. It's so destructive and ridiculous. Im sorry you go through it as well.

[@MaryJane-th7mg]

It's really sad and confusing when people associate wanting better for yourself or wanting to be different as being inauthentic. When that's not true at all, it's the complete opposite. We as black women and the black community at large have got to change that, it's damaging and most of all stops us from reaching our fullest potential.

[@pandaluvr]

Your hair looks so pretty. It's grown so much !!!❤️

[@antjaguar9]

Black men and black women really need to get along like seriously 💯😡

[@niaanais895]

The first one was speaking mad facts

[@minxwashin]

...maybe I like wearing my glasses. How is that hurting anyone?

[@kuroe-chan5190]

Even though it can be hard to Hear he did make many valid points. Of course I know it’s not meaning all of us of but I have seen some of these issues with my own eyes in my own family….but most of the mothers in my family are amazing. It definitely will help me be mindful when I have children. It is time for us to stop making excuses which I feel many black folks do with anything thing controversial and fix it

[@gloria1060]

I love your videos and I would love to listen to your storytime about your part time job. Also, I like the design on your top 🥰.

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Bettt and thank youuu

[@therealshortyq5495]

Thats true, to not realize your depressed, it creeps up on you. Once you recognize it, got to address it, learn and research the tools to help yourself out.

[@user-zc3th7bk3g]

Girl, can I just say your hair is absolutely beautiful and so fitting on you ❤️

[@ChamStar625]

Had to rewatch a few times! So much was being said 😲❤💯

[@yashipatel3241]

Struggle love should of been in this because you shouldn’t be in a relationship suffering and and being mental and physical down

[@Mickeii617]

Sorority I agree with the girl actually. The hazing is very bad and my friend got have so bad that he was sent to the hospital. I know/have seen alot of problems with them. But I would also like to say to not be judgmental if all. I'm just going to talk about the ones that were around me and the campus that I was on.

[@namizou3305]

Thank you for reacting to this one! Yes pls react to black men aren't ready for this convo. ❤

[@jmjenkins97]

Yeah which is why more BW are declining giving birth…

[@cozyrissa]

I want to see the black men version of this vid & you should do the story time on quitting your part time, maybe on patreon if that’ll be more comfortable lol

[@gingerbreadorgingerbell1045]

No-Contact ma’am, With all due respect, my eyes, lashes, shadows, contacts and readers are none of your concern. Because you don’t know what people are facing. So if I see you screaming, I understand. Just keep it away from me. Thank you and may blessings fall on you.😇

[@arnellaj.9146]

Oooo these hit the nail on the coffin forreal and I love that shirt!!! ❤️❤️🥰🥰

[@astridediva]

Thank you so much the Mademoiselle 🙏🏾♥️♥️♥️

[@yawadithalyzahdawahda8978]

This was a very informative video. Now all that's needed is effective solutions that can be put into practice and passed down from generation to generation.

[@cinderellahour1070]

I've got to say with the colorist thing is I understand with mixed people they don't fit in. Shoot I'm an unambiguous black girl and never fit in with my black girl because I was an oreo. But I think it's ok to be mixed. I just think it sucks when I see someone say the first black woman and it's a woman that looks white. Idk I think we're moving in a direction where mixed people are more able to be involved in society were as back then it was your black. Shoot look at Mexico. They're a full group of mixed people but over time they're not viewed as mixed. Idk. I fill my thought on this should be fleshed out more.

[@mackenziegall9]

Light skinned privilege is definitely a thing. Yes Black women have to be unified. But colorism is alive and well.

[@biancanatrice794]

The first girl. Just had a bad mom, my mom was perfectly fine. She never called me a bitch, she always made sure I had nice clothes, she was terrible at doing hair. Use to rip my hair out, she wasn’t that educated even doing things to her hair so. I don’t blame her, she just never took out the time to learn for herself or her only babygirl, love my mom to death. She is human, we make mistakes motherhood doesn’t come with a manual. She tired and still is to this day❤️💗 all that truly matters ppl trying

[@pinkstoniie5187]

This was alot to take in it reminded me of my toxic mother and how I lived in an all female family and I I have twin brother my Mother would always call him the “ man or should I say the”boy in the house”while every time I went somewhere she would always be down on my neck but Im glad I got away from her plus I’m a grown women myself so It was a lot to take in but thank queen for talking about this 👑👑👸🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ELP1125]

That lady ranting about the contact lenses 🤡 She ever stop to think that some ppl might be ALLERGIC to contact lenses/ solution, like myself. 🙄

[@angelaabron3080]

The woman with the filter said a word! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾much love ❤️

[@valeriecarre8967]

why does everything fall on a black women, as if we are not trying to change, going through therapy I hear a lot black women doing that. My mom was a great mom, I knew a lot of great black moms. I know some bad. I also will say that the black women ends up being the scape goat even when they are good parents, but that is also because they get left. My solution maybe if you don't have a man that will be in a healthy relationship with you and who don't love you... guess what don't have kids.

[@jadesmith1156]

I LOVE YOUR TOP 💗✨!!! Where did you get it from???

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Shein it was a 2 piece set

[@queengnett8722]

You right though I be lazy and cheering 📣 keep it up 👍🏾

[@honnylore181]

OMG I JUST MADE a video like thiss lollll ..i luv ur content so much and how we think almost alike❤️❤️💯💯

[@katnile5472]

The sororities in my school ( I go to an HBCU) we’re all nice and real. I didn’t join because I couldn’t add more stress to my already stressful school load, but I have friends who became a Delta, and AKA and they love it.

[@girlwithadream5608]

That last girl was saying something that is very real.

[@3triplemmx]

Very valid points indeed

[@ivoriangodess1]

I love my glasses, I tried contacts and it's just not for me. So sis needs to have several seats🤦🏾

[@clarajupiter5675]

We can’t call people life experience excuses and wonder why they are not looking for solutions. Saying yeah horrible things happen to you you making excuses causes people to never deal with their trauma they just internalize it. Taking a bad behavior and put it on something or situations outside of yourself and your character make it more digestible therefore easier to correct. You are able to say I’m not incapable I need more work. Give people a chance to acknowledge and find reassurance about things that are not under their control so they can better take responsibility for the part that they control. A lot of us are emotional so having a solution based argument is unproductive bc you are lookin for solution while the emotional person just want to feel better. Instead of forcing people not to be emotional let’s validate and soothe them so we can move to the step of accountability and solutions

[@dinkyboss]

The problem is that when confronted with their toxic behavior, instead of acknowledging the harm they’ve done and seeking to better themselves, folks will list off every single reason as to why they are the way they are as an excuse as to why they can be better. It’s one thing to acknowledge and work through your trauma. It’s another thing entirely to only bring up your trauma to deflect from blame. They aren’t looking for solutions because they’re comfortable using the fact that they’ve had it hard as an excuse to never try.

[@clarajupiter5675]

@@dinkyboss that’s why the cycle… if someone feel like no cares about their trauma why would they care about the ones that she’s inflicted to others. In the mind of someone with a certain toxic behavior they feel like well if I went through this and I’m still supposed to be ok and a good person why can’t you do the same. I’m supposed to just get over my trauma you could just as easily do the same if I hurt you. That’s doesn’t sound right Han it’s an excuse but not in the way people think it is… like if they did this to me and I survive you can do the same survive me hurting you like I did them hurting me . We have to let people have their reasons even if we are going to hold the accountable invaliding those reasons just further the toxic thoughts that what they went thru is not that bad therefore it’s not that bad if they do it to someone else.

[@dinkyboss]

@@clarajupiter5675 regardless of how they feel others perceive their trauma it’s up to them if they ever want to work through it and move on with their lives. I hate to break it to you but most people are too consumed with their own issues to care about someone else’s problems. Everyone has their own trauma to work through. So regardless of whatever excuses they have for not working on themselves the only people who will suffer is them and their kids who will then be put in the position of having to work through trauma.

[@SHAWNTESH]

Personally I prefer eyeglasses over contact lenses because I don't think I would like the feeling of something covering my eyeballs.

[@ramonaanderson9275]

I believe if men who come into a women's lives , being open, honest , respectful and transparent , there would be far more women receptive to men leading them. 🤷

[@Eribella955]

Please do a story time on quitting your part time job please girl!

[@andreablossom3929]

I hate wearing my eyeglasses when I'm dolled up, but I hate sticking things in my eyes even more.

[@ParentalDiscretionIsAdvised]

Keep these vids coming, how you do "Unpopular Opinions", you have to try and do a "Don't Wanna Talk About" SERIES!

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Gooood idea 💡

[@lovely4013]

I’m not gonna lie , I thank god I grew up in Atlanta. There’s always gonna be bad apples but my circles growing up we’re some of the most uplifting women I know till this day. We complement & show each other so much love. Since I’ve moved to Oklahoma it’s been harder to find women who are like minded or open because of past traumas. I know it’s harder to make friends the older you get but I feel like the energy in friendships are lacking. I just try to do my part an hope to attract the same energy

[@cadarriusbrooks1794]

💙💙💙💙 keep up the success beautiful .

[@camillehardy5529]

This was top tier and pleeeease react to the one for black men so I can send it to my dad

[@GIJadaSmith]

Pretty toxic for a generation of young women to act victimized and oppressed as if their mothers and/or grandparents didn’t live through Jim Crow. The CRA was signed in 1965. You young ladies are ungrateful honestly

[@morii7575]

so that means that they can’t have feelings toward the abuse their mothers put them through?

[@lynnharris9454]

You're part of the problem.

[@nubian_queen4471]

give us the storytime sis. you are capricorn. you wont feel bad lool. xoxoxo

[@tresvegan3633]

Some of them were speaking truths but I do believe black women are getting there slowly very slowly but surely. 🙏🏽

[@KylaLatrice]

Still wit you don’t need no breaks

[@TheeMademoiselle]

♥️

[@ravengyal]

Think I just got bullied into commenting 🤭 Great content per usual and I agree with most of it

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Lmaoooooo thank you.

[@lunamonetmonroe]

I would absolutely love if you were on Patreon! I get not wanting all storytimes/content public. The lady talking about lashes and glasses had me dyingggg. Like WHAT? It’s not that serious ma’am. 😑

[@TheeMademoiselle]

Nah dead asss lmao. The Patreon thing I just wouldn’t know what to really offer so that’s why I haven’t done it yet dragging my feet of course 😩😩🤣.

[@lunamonetmonroe]

@@TheeMademoiselle I feel that tho. Making tiers is hard I bet. I’m sure you’ll figure it out sooner or later! 🥰

[@mariahjonesbest239]

Lots of valid points made, BUT ole girl who got issues with glasses need to square up with me lol Most eye insurance plans cover either glasses OR contacts, and even then it’s a certain amount paid towards lenses then a certain amount towards frames (god forbid you NEED a certain type of lenses such as bifocals). They also only cover one eye exam a year so if you want contacts AND lenses you have to pay for one of the exams (unless you catch a sale at Americas Best or another retailer). I’ve had glasses since the first grade, I remember my first eye contact exam at 19 because that was when I was told flat out there is only one brand that’ll even be able to make my prescription. I buy my contacts online now and while there are more brands available, its still pretty much the same. I got some new glasses this year cost me about $300, and it would have cost me an additional $400 for contacts if I got them in office.

[@KnijMagz]

Some these I was like um ehhhh... A lot of these have truth to them but some of these i.e 24:31. I disagree with as a young black man. I get her message about how black women treat each other. However, let's not pretend that colorism doesn't exist and "all black women" have "similar if not the same struggles". General struggles yes, perhaps, but struggles based on phenotype, no...let's be real about that. Growing up I saw how in predominantly black spaces how darker skinned unambiguous black women are treated vs light skinned or mixed girls were treated. It's not the same, by any chance. I won't even go into the details of why it's not (I know this lady knows that). Let's also not pretend that Biracial, multiracial, or ambiguous women (and men) don't try to cling to blackness because they know they are generally not accepted anywhere else. Plus the historical concept of the one drop rule... These days, blackness is not forced on anyone like that. For those that are like, well they (they=white and other non black people) see us (light skinned, biracial,or mixed people) as black. No they really don't. Thus why you get the questions "What are you...what are you mixed with...?" It's because they don't see you as black until you say it or in sone cases act like it. It's your choice to identify with what you actually are. Heck, even black people don't see mixed people as truely black in my opinion. Hence the whole exotification of mixed women and children. Notice I didn't say men because I bet this lady also knows that if she had a brother that looks like her (and is light skinned or mixed), his blackness has likely been challenged by his peers. Or if a mixed woman goes with a non black or white man, shes no longer part of the group. Mixed people are pulled in and pushed out of the "community" I know that much because I have seen it. It's sad and shouldn't be a thing. I advocate for mixed people to have their own space and still be a part of the black community because they are half black. It seems like this lady (if she doesn't have 2 black parents) is trying to project her ideal that all black women are the same (including herself) and that her struggles along with others that look like her matter too. Not a message that is genuine nor clear-cut. I strongly disapprove. It's a multifaceted convo.

[@JelilatElias]

To the lady that wanna talk about glasses… BUY OUR CONTACTS THENNN!!! If it ain’t nothing to your wallet go get them for us and book our appointments while you’re at it. 😂 Look this is one of those where she’s just talking to talk because why does what someone chooses to use as a means to see bother her?? I’m sorry she sounds slow. I genuinely love glasses and if I wanna look cute while trying to see I’ll buy a hundred pairs and still wear them with a full face of makeup so she can go on and punch the air about it and/or seek help.

[@Dannniellleee]

On the very first video about being bad parents… yes, yeS, YES!!! And if you tell most of “us,” how much you want to bet they’ll try to fight you?? PROVE 👏🏽 ME 👏🏽 WRONG! 👏🏽

[@peppapickmeisha]

WE 👏🏿 CANT 👏🏿 WHO 👏🏿 CAN 👏🏿 ARGUE 👏🏿 AGAINST 👏🏿 THE 👏🏿 CLAPS 👏🏿

[@Dannniellleee]

@@peppapickmeisha I can’t see Peppa being a “pick me”- she’s way too honest for all of that!!

[@zynedibee]

So the lady who made the comment about the glasses, you know there are people out there who cannot wear contacts right? I happen to be one of them. That comment was so unnecessary and she could have kept it to herself.

[@alyssasabb]

please make more of these

[@Chrissiisoverit]

Im glad with my growing i have grown out of those bad habits 🙌🏾 but Yassss im sittin here otherwise naming black women i know that do each of these

[@SailorSlay]

That’s bs to me. Everyone likes to feel needed and everyone’s responsible for their own feelings. I have zero desire to be with anyone who’s putting their self fulfillment on my shoulders. Why do I have to NEED a man??? Why can’t I find a partner and want them because I want them???

[@DrLesiaThePreachasBarracoon]

Family Correctional Tax is an idea that can help Black Families recover as a whole unit: Active live-time benefits.

[@mindingmybusiness2129]

Thank you.

[@honeybunn_deluxxe]

Great video!

[@vanessa6236]

OFF TOPIC...live for your shirt.

[@dhuey5658]

still here 💚

[@SerenaE11a]

Informative as always ❤❤❤❤

[@IMDAKEYS]

Omg I got my first gray hairs in the 5th grade. Definitely due to stress