10 Things Good Men Should NEVER Agree To With His Wife

[@009AWB]

No woman will ever be happy until she learns that her happiness must come from within herself and it’s her responsibility to find it.

[@ramonzavala3875]

❤yup your 100% correct. Its always the mens fault. Women always refuse to take responsibility for anything or situation they create.

[@gatonasrani5700]

In general, no person, indeed.🙂

[@009AWB]

There is still a difference between male and female as regarding their approach to life and the greater world in general. Much of it is socialization and cultural but gender has a great influence.

[@zeenuf00]

​@@gatonasrani5700no, basically women

[@dougdow1287]

I have a friend whose wife acted like what she *thought* he wanted her to be for 12 years. Finally she walked out and blamed him for her unhappiness. She pushed him to a divorce saying it wasn't him, she just didn't want to be married anymore. A few months after it was final she remarried to a coworker. His life was a shambles for 10 years. He eventually remarried but he's a broken man inside. He would say the #1 sign is when someone makes circumstances. or the other person responsible for their happiness THAT is the real red flag.

[@danielrichwine2268]

I moved trying to make my wife happy. You are correct, it didn't work. Eventually she decided that all these things I tried wasn't making her happy, so I must have been the problem, so she left and shacked up with another dude. She never forgave me for moving on with my life, remarrying, having a successful career and healthy, happy kids.

[@peanutnutter1]

Boss

[@andrewgill9489]

Wow, same experience here!

[@Random_Blip]

She knows that the fact you thrived after moving on proves she was the problem.

[@johnrathbun2943]

Of course it's your fault, you job is to provide for her wants. At least that's what they think. Women will never accept responsibility for their choices. They will always say "well your the man. What ever happened to equality?

[@abewilcox4560]

I bet you were "abusive" too. These women are so out of touch

[@libertydrive4388]

Getting a pet is a convenient way for wives to lavish attention and affection on something, anything other than their husbands.

[@tamasgyorffy1]

I cannot critize that, as I am the one in my relationships who brought more dogs, and cats. Taking care of them all, of course, but only very open, loving women could understand that pets and not competition. I did not care for those who did not get that.

[@marsewolfe3989]

WOW, it's just a shame I couldn't hit the like button 400,000 times!!!

[@MarkHines-p8d]

I found once grand children arrive on the scene, that's it guys. All their affection and attention is given to the grandchildren. Husbands become part of the furniture.

[@berniegiesbrecht5527]

My wife would give her life for her cats and she wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire.

[@funcygames]

​@@MarkHines-p8d and here I thought it was after they were done bearing children the anti-affection walls go up permanently

[@francoiskeulen]

2:50 #1 move to another city 3:47 #2 agree to get a dog 4:43 #3 let her quit her job 6:47 #4 grocery shopping 8:21 #5 open the marriage 9:43 #6 vasectomy 10:24 #7 having another baby 11:23 #8 stopping drinking 12:11 #9 remodelling projects 13:00 #10 counselling

[@vickysharma-gl6gv]

Nice

[@madbug1965]

My life: 1, 2, 3, 4, 7. 😢

[@Hairyderriere]

​@@madbug1965time to leave and make *yourself* happy, brother.

[@darriuscole8544]

My man. You get thumbs up.

[@caseyolson0369]

#6 she told me it was important to her, even though she had no sex drive. Didn't get one.

[@daddycj4109]

I guarantee more men watch your videos than women.

[@amarti53]

It's not like a woman is going to try to improve a relationship. Let alone take responsibility.

[@Brascobadboy]

@@amarti53nope. They just leave

[@The-L-Factor]

Women don't ever think they are the problem. That's one of the reasons why marriage today is in the toilet. So of course more men listen to this channel than women. This is a great channel. I'm divorced, but I listen to this channel and I always get confirmation that I was right about something.

[@josefranciscodasilvaeolive674]

Women don't watch these videos. We all know why.

[@upsidedown4734]

Most narcissists I've met are women. Narcissist men bump against other men their whole lives and maybe it's drilled out of them to a degree.

[@rockkstah2550]

After 15 years of marriage, I’ve done all of the 10. Soooo very glad that I’ve been divorced now for 5 years! Life is good! I have NOT dated at all , NOT going back to that plantation… my peace and tranquility is beyond any money can buy….

[@TheTferrer]

Like Mr. Spock said - Live long and prosper my friend. You are one of the lucky ones. Very jealous.

[@josephbrown9685]

Married 8, divorced 10. The 10 has been far better than the 8. Glad I got a wonderful daughter out of the marriage and a great coparent as an ex-wife, but I’m not ever playing the marriage game again. I feel blessed, and I understand how you feel as well. Glad to hear you’re doing well.

[@Jupitar77]

agreed.....''MONK MODE' is modern day wisdom. Cheers to you brother.

[@thetodd45]

You can't make another person happy but you can make yourself miserable trying to.

[@racebannon96]

Ouch!

[@harisdiz.5817]

Spot on, mate.

[@RaymondNelson-qc2hs]

And there you go!

[@JayToday007]

I love this comment

[@BeckysCraftroom]

Amen

[@SnowmobileHomeMovies]

She wanted to quit working when she already only worked part time. She just couldn't handle working part time anymore! That was one of many obviously BS excuses for her unhappiness. Then when she found someone that was "going to make her happy" she left me for him. He is in prison now btw. I tried to talk her out of leaving, but she clearly had no intention of being fair or growing up, so finally I stopped arguing and helped her pack. It was very hard and very sad, but set me up for success like I never imagined.

[@geemail369]

It's like switching on the lights after some time in the darkness. At first it hurts and you can't quite open your eyes for a while - but boy, the things you'll see once you've adjusted ... 💪🏻🌱

[@flyingfluffyhockey]

"I tried to talk her out of leaving, but she clearly had no intention of being fair or growing up, so finally I stopped arguing and helped her pack. It was very hard and very sad, but set me up for success like I never imagined." I literally just went through this, she left two weeks ago, I had to spend the last 2 weeks packing up her stuff and the truck left yesterday with all her things. Hopefully the second sentence is what happens for me as well.

[@guitarman0365]

Don't talk people out of leaving you. Accept reality they said such BS. Why so many men want women who don't want them is beyond me. Have self respect.

[@flyingfluffyhockey]

@@guitarman0365 sometimes it's circumstances. My dog was in the final weeks of his life and had she left in that moment it would have thrown his whole world into chaos right at the end. I wanted him to have a peaceful ending and he did, but I paid the price for that willingly after he was gone.

[@JacquesOozy]

I sincerely hope you'll head straight to success 🙏 ​@@flyingfluffyhockey

[@jimjohnson394]

Without watching this: Never agree to the following. 1) Abstaining from sex for other than medical reasons. 2) Her going on a "girls night out" to questionable places. 3) Taking on the majority of housework if she stays home. 4) Giving up on your hobbies. 5) Playing along with disrespectful jokes or language with others.

[@Susan-fg3nv]

Facts!!!❤

[@bashiruddinahmad408]

34 months no sex from the wife..even in good times it was 1 time a month..brutal

[@vickysharma-gl6gv]

True

[@sgairgunner]

​@@bashiruddinahmad408geez bud you may need to move on

[@bashiruddinahmad408]

@@sgairgunner getting divorce soon..thx

[@mgtow6287]

So many of the 10 that I heard about in my previous marriage. One day, I was just fed up with her berating me for no apparent reason and asked her: Damn, woman! Do you ever have a good, a happy day? Of course, this sent her into giving me a silent treatment for several days. I'm so glad to be gone from that "relationship". As they say, the juice is not worth the squeeze. Now, if I have an unhappy woman around me, I can just push the eject button after giving her a few chances to course correct. No more marriage. No more living together. They just don't know how to be happy, in general.

[@LastRebel1978]

They have a happy day when they spend all your money or buy something. But nothing that’s not fleeting or that would last or doesn’t have more responsibility for you to keep you away from focusing on the building the real relationship you’re supposed to be building.

[@Jupitar77]

XX's are now invisible to me......and I used to have great ltr's a decade + ago......never again, I'm retired.

[@truckywuckyuwu]

You can find many good women who realize that happiness and fulfillment in a relationship comes from contributing to that relationship and showing love for others But yes so many of them think that they need to have things done for them to make them happy. I am happy when I'm being shown love and respect. And happy that I have someone that reciprocates. And happy that I have someone I can show love and affection for, and they appreciate it. But I am never going to say hmm, if I had a new bathroom that would make me very happy. that's just stupidity. My current partner has told me that she will be happy with security. Aka food and shelter, and a loyal relationship. I also see how happy she is being able to show love to me and have it reciprocated. She actually was happier after moving, but only because where she was living before was awful. Rampant crime and power outages, expensive food etc. That's a valid reason to be unhappy and constantly stressed. My last partner told me she would be happy if I just let her do her own thing in the relationship and spend time with her guy friends without me complaining about it. She was actually a narcissist and was abusive. Worst 2 years of my life by far. The one before that wasn't happy with herself as a person and was constantly taking her insecurities out on me. Trying to claim I needed to treat her differently or in a special way. When she just needed to do some serious trauma work and nothing I really did would help with that aside from supporting her. And the one before that thought another man would make her happy. Moves to another country for him. Is still not happy. But hey, he's got more money than me I guess. At least she can be surrounded by nice things while she's unhappy. The bonus being is that the guy works away from home for a month at a time and stays home for like a week. Constantly gone, so she can be extra lonely too.

[@mikelofing3226]

Karyn- thank you for helping me realize I am a "high-value man". I am 67 years old and have been married to my narcissistic wife for 45 years. She was the prettiest girl in town and I was committed to being the "world's first perfect husband". Long story short... I rolled out the red carpet and she walked all over it. The more I gave, the more she wanted. It never ends. I am here to tell younger "high-value men", that if you don't stand up for yourself and set boundaries it will only worsen. You have the power. Karyn - you are a "high-value woman". You are sincere, authentic and courageous. Thank you for what you do. Finally, we "good men" have someone in our corner.

[@soladeogloria5839]

Great assessment, my friend!

[@recoveringsoul755]

@@mikelofing3226 so you married for her looks, as a trophy wife. Not really a true partnership. You're even putting yourself above her in your comment. Beauty fades. Fortunes can be lost. Health tragedies can happen . Sounds like she was high value at the time too the way men measure value (youth, beauty, fertility). Marry someone you enjoy talking to and share decisions with her.

[@mikelofing3226]

@@recoveringsoul755 You couldn't be more wrong.

[@recoveringsoul755]

@@mikelofing3226 your anecdotal comment is based on your opinion of your own personal relationship. My comment is based on the same. Personal experience after decades of abuse from someone who is at minimum a narcissist. A sadistic one at that. I gave and gave and gave. He took and took and cheated and drank and abused and married me for my money and destroyed everything. He probably believes himself to be high value also. Because narcissist don't live in reality. Nothing is ever their fault and they refuse to take accountability. One of my therapist told me he was the M*rd*r/s**c*de type. She frequently had to reschedule because she had to look at a body in the morgue. So she knows what she is saying. Most of my boyfriends were great, normal men who treated me well. But this one who tricked me into marriage, and one prior short relationship in college with an ex con, were both awful. The boyfriend I had between them single handedly restored my faith in men. I had serious trust issues so it took a long time.

[@KevinLife-xv2hh]

I hear you brother, same exact scenario for me as well (25 years marriage (3 kids) stay strong brother

[@capricornsounduk6023]

She was convinced by friends and herself that WE needed marriage guidance until the councillor suggested we need separate sessions . Then she said that was a waste of time and would not continue. She expected the councillor to say that our problems could be left at my feet only!!!!

[@cherrypieforbreakfast1499]

We did the same thing. After a few double sessions the counselor started seeing us singly. I loved it, as I began to see some of my views were legitimate. She absolutely hated it, because the counselor would not side with her saying everything was my fault

[@capricornsounduk6023]

@@cherrypieforbreakfast1499 it’s crazy so many people have comparable experiences but only find out through conversations. Whatever is said about any bad influences of social media, it has been a godsend for opening everyone’s eyes to what’s going on around them!……

[@jwill9877]

You have no authority in your marriage and you agreed to give the authority of your marriage to a Counselor. Your wife will never respect you until you take the lead and are a husband worth respecting.

[@anonymousplanetfambly4598]

You've touched on a lodestone of what many women think. When women discuss "problems", they aren't looking for solutions. They're looking for affirmation from the other person, male or female, that what they are feeling is VALID. They aren't seeking to make changes in themselves, they are perfectly happy with the way they feel and react to others, it's always the other person that needs to change to make her happy. For a dose of real conflict, put two women in a room with different opinions and tell them they have to agree with each other on a hot button topic before they can leave. They will either stay there forever or kill each other. Same thing with two women in a traffic situation...each of them believe they should be FIRST. Many wrecks happen because of this, especially in shopping center parking lots.

[@jefffelton8016]

The only thing on this list I agreed to that worked out, was getting a dog. I ended up with a true best friend in the divorce

[@flyingfluffyhockey]

100% ditto, see my avatar...he just passed last month, and 3 weeks later mt GF left me. Nice.

[@martinfiedler4317]

Man's best friend! (MAN'S!)

[@Dailywordsofdiscouragement]

A dog is great because some of the woman’s attention shifts to caring for the dog and that takes a lot of pressure off the man. Get a dog!!!

[@gevans5446]

Same. These days, I spend much more quality time with her dog than I do with her. I take him on long walks where I can clear my mind or listen to podcasts, and it gives me an excuse to get out and find some peace when I get home. The missus is not one for exercise, and nobody walks him. He's the only one who greets me at the door with genuine affection when I get home. I go grocery shopping because nobody else will, but I get what I want and couldn't care less if anyone doesn't approve of my choices. I will not stop drinking since the occasional beer is a way to unwind. I'll do remodeling projects if I deem them necessary. Counseling/therapy never did much for me. Despite the protests, I am not moving to another city, as my job is specifically tied to where I live and I have built a comfortable life for us here. I will not engage in arguments. Instead, I walk away. I regret not having enforced strict boundaries in the past, and I am paying the price now. I love and respect my wife, but after two decades together, I've reached the point where I refused to bend to fickle whims and absurd, baseless advice. Ironically, this mindset has actually improved our relationship and given me a measure of happiness that I never thought possible within the relationship.

[@jefferynordgulen4436]

Yup my dog is my best friend too

[@howiesfunware]

The reason she wants an open marriage is because she no longer loves you (or she settled for you) and is shopping for your replacement. When the question is raised is when you exit the marriage because she is already cheating on you and is looking to legitimize her betrayal.

[@Jupitar77]

likely ''she's'' just a 304.

[@truckywuckyuwu]

Its done so they can cheat without the guilt. This one can sometimes actually play out in your favour, especially if she's constantly pushing for it as you know at that point you're just being used. If she's doing this and asks you and you're basically done with the relationship. You can agree and go find yourself someone that enjoys you and your company and wants to be with you. And it usually ends up giving her a huge ego hurt that'll last for years. Most of them never expect you to take advantage of being able to sleep with other women because they expect you to simp for them and be like, oh no babe, I would never cheat you are the only woman for me etc. Seen it happen many times, satisfying because they think they're so entitled and that you're their puppet, and then they explode when they realize you're not. Even better when they end up unhappy and you don't, and even better when she comes back saying I made a mistake, because then you can deny her. I'm not usually vindictive but when someone is using you like this.. well that goes out the window. Plus, I believe this is a natural consequence of karma.

[@peagee4518]

Men: dont let her force you to buy a new car. the number of times a woman came into our dealership bragging that she was going to make her husband buy her a new car....telling us she intended to divorce him. In all cases, she wouldnt be able to purchase a car after divorce either because of credit/income.

[@caseyolson0369]

My wife has already mentioned getting a new car. Nope, it's not going to happen. She can get a new one after our divorce.

[@Sid20-jd7mb]

@@caseyolson0369😂

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

This is how my wife made me happy, very happy. It took 24 weeks to actually work. I had to go to my doctor, a psychiatrist who ordered me Prozac, it took actually 24 weeks to achieve this. April 1st. to now, after my divorce. I feel free.

[@ChrisAthanas]

Unfortunately, this is the best option for most men these days, and DON'T GET MARRIED AGAIN! you will repeat this until you understand

[@jayviktor6130]

Men have only accomplished enriching lawyers and the state with divorce for the past 6 decades. Mentor young men and teach them about women's true nature. Tell them, never sign a marriage contract with the state!

[@johnsawatzky2128]

Lol. It took me a minute to realize… Good for you

[@ConspiracyPundit]

Prozac is a proven toxic placebo as all anti-depression pills are. Ask your doctor what chemicals are imbalanced in your brain, and watch them squirm. Congrats on the divorce, I am a two-time loser.

[@stormchaser419]

You learned a bitter bitter lesson. Never make the mistake again to marry or cohabitate.

[@danstout3154]

The move to another city argument, for 10 years, ended a 23 yr relationship. I refused due to the financial impact and when she said she was going anyway I said "I love you but I'm not going". 7 yrs later (2 weeks ago) a 2 yr LTR wants to move together to a big city and I said no and she was WELL aware of the previous situation. She started being disagreeable and withholding affection so after a discussion, and being blamed for petty BS, I moved on.

[@moneymentality6552]

#11 Sexless Marriage

[@lastreagandemocrat]

If wife thinks a sexless marriage would make her happy, then she's got a whole 'nother level of issues. Time to call it quits!

[@ColtonRDean]

11: Buying a house together IF YOU ARE NOT married.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@ColtonRDean, that's a good one.

[@mechellepeterson9707]

I feel so bad for you men. If I was a man in this day and time I wouldn't want a wife.. I can't believe how they are, it makes me sick that our men who God created to be leaders, protecters, providers etc... are treated like crap. I met my husband when I was 16 years old, married him at 17 we were married almost 41 yrs then I lost him to cancer, I was devastated, I become a widow at 58 we had a great marriage, not perfect, but we always talked things out and worked things out, I loved being with him. It took me 4 years to move forward. It's now 5.5 years and I would like to be with a great man again, but its scary.. so I feel for you men who would just like a good women to stand by you, encourage you, and support you and all the other good stuff! I hope you all find a good woman. Maybe someday I will find another GREAT man to love and take care of me, and I take care of him. As God would have it.

[@jazamaraz8029]

Wishing you the best.

[@Jupitar77]

you should.......Western women are dumpster-fires. XX's are invisible to me, and increasing

[@Handlegoeshere1234]

The comments in your videos always remind me my situation is not unique at all. God bless.

[@anonymousplanetfambly4598]

The hive mind with women is REAL. They think and act very similar even in different situations.

[@NovaResource]

#10 was mine. My wife bugged me for years. She made the comment that she and her best friend prayed for me for years to change. She never said she wanted to change. I didn’t agree to counseling but told her she was welcome to go if she wanted to. She didn’t and eventually she had an affair and left me.

[@jimbrown4640]

You got lucky, Bet your life is easier and happier without her.

[@NovaResource]

@@jimbrown4640 Not really. After 27 years married (29 years together) and 3 kids (26, 24 and 20 years old) it’s not easier. Lonelier, but not necessarily easier.

[@jayviktor6130]

Happiness is a blue-pill term socially conditioned people use. It's an illusion. Life is hard, but determination will grant you contentment, and that's far more valuable than happiness. I recommend reading the Bible. Obedience to God will bring everything else into alignment in your life. I wish you and your children peace and recovery.

[@anonymousplanetfambly4598]

"She and her best friend prayed for me for years to change". This is why I refused to date religious zealots when I was younger, they can really be whacko. They are even worse in groups, and a disconnect often happens between people involved in groupthink in the church and reality. There's a HUGE difference between religion and spirituality, and it sounds like your ex was into religion (the performative aspects). Let me guess - the affair partner was from church. That happens a LOT. Your comment also sounds similar to what others have said about how women stipulate that "we" should go to counseling, but when the therapist suggests individual counseling, it suddenly becomes "a waste of time" or they refuse. Women are only interested in marriage counseling when they can complain to the therapist about the problems she perceives about her husband...she is not willing to make any changes, doubly so if she is the source of the problem. She is only seeking validation about her feelings from an "impartial third party". Again...this happens a LOT. If it doesn't happen with therapists, it happens when she gets with her girlfriends on "girl's night out".

[@AlexR1ish]

@@NovaResource Perhaps its time to do some self reflecting. Why would anyone turn down being better?

[@darrelray4673]

All I can say is thank you. This is spot on in my experience. Two marriages to women who were never happy. I have been happily NOT married for a total of 31 years. I have consistently had the best and most sex when not married. Had the time and money to travel much of the world. Build a business that I loved. Enjoy my children and grand children, all without any nagging woman to tell me I am responsible for her happiness or how I do everything wrong. I am 73 years old. I only wish I had learned this lesson before I married my second wife. But thankfully, that only lasted 3 years. Men, you are responsible for your own happiness. Enjoy the only life you will have and let the women you choose to be with take responsibility for their life and happiness. If they can't, move on. Most of all, don't marry. There is a switch that flips when you "put a ring on it." The woman you marry generally turns into something quite different within 4 years - and it ain't pretty. There are plenty of women but only one life.

[@racebannon96]

Their mask falls off. You see the real wife come out when you are married. Some are better at it than others.

[@gevans5446]

Damn. This is solid advice. There's no substitute for experience.

[@OneEyedLion]

Why would men do any of these things? Because they're afraid of getting into a disagreement or losing his wife. If these men had enough confidence in themselves, enough balls, they could just say NO. Sometimes the best thing is to walk away.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Don't ever play 'her game'. Better, stay yourself. Play stupid gamez win stupid prizes.

[@AlanThomas-hp3fn]

Saying No is a bad move if you wait for too long before drawing the line in the sand. Learn to say No early and often .

[@009AWB]

Agree. Often laying down the law and showing that you are serious can derail bad attitudes and the bad behaviors that come from them.

[@AlanThomas-hp3fn]

@@009AWB Retired from public school. First thing a teacher had to do on the first day is lay down the law. If you didn't get the classroom under control from the beginning, control is lost. You cannot dtaw the line in the sand later. The children will run the teacher out if the room.

[@009AWB]

@@AlanThomas-hp3fnagreed.

[@red7fifty]

Yeah, I gave up. Told her to get out.

[@Jupitar77]

''begone THOT''!

[@paulbarber1077]

So true... I moved to be closer to her parents and took a job that paid enough for her not to work. She really wanted to be a stay at home wife. In two years she wanted to have a job. You are so right. Some women are never happy no matter what you do for them.

[@anonymousplanetfambly4598]

Some...? Most.

[@Tusk-ruk]

To be fair, one can change one's mind. But did she actually get the job, or was it just a rant ?

[@digitalphoenix72]

The one thing I can say, is if one spouse has a drinking problem, both quitting drinking is incredibly helpful for the situation. Both my partner and I quit drinking at the same time, even though only one of us had a drinking problem. Helped us keep the alcohol out of the house, and really helped us be on the same page. It was a success, over two years sober now, and we've never been closer. Now, the partner who did not have the drinking problem, drinks in moderation once in a blue moon, maybe once every few months. With no issues.

[@madbug1965]

Wow. This sounds like my life. When we got married, she quit working and got the dog. I got stuck with all the chores including the cooking and shopping. Twenty years later she is unhappy all the time and unaffectionate.

[@marsewolfe3989]

I gave ya the 1st thumbs up cept we got cat's.

[@jayviktor6130]

I've been in this morass for 23 years. I've resigned myself to the fact that divorce is a financial oblivion to me. The family court is merciless with men now. I am condemned to suffer through it to my eventual demise.

[@berniegiesbrecht5527]

@@jayviktor6130 Its been 24 years for me and this is the last one. She will be leaving and my home will a happy one once more.

[@anonymousplanetfambly4598]

@@jayviktor6130 What most men do that are facing this situation, is simply leave and go do their own thing. If you're retired, buy that car or bike you've always wanted and leave to go on a trip one day. You can come back when you're good and ready, and if you do, act like nothing happened. Never agree to a divorce, and just keep living in your house. As far as you're concerned, she's just a roommate. Just don't do anything that could initiate a divorce if you live in an "at-fault" State (adultery, for example...or prodigious amounts of debt, like hundreds of thousands of dollars). Good luck.

[@Thinker1985]

​@@anonymousplanetfambly4598 Sure, but living like this is still annoying. Unaffectionate wives don't make for good roommates. They will whine over any chore and will generally pester you with nagging and bad attitude. Who wants an obnoxious roommate who is not even paying rent or pulling her weight? The bad attitude is the worst part, though... If she feels you are happy, she will be pissed and you'll know it...

[@mikemay2064]

Number ten is the one she insists on. I need counseling because I'm angry, according to her. My "anger" is the reason for all our problems. Regardless of the fact that she does things that would, of course, make me angry. Like leaving me out of decisions that directly involve me, agreeing to do one thing, then doing the opposite, making financial decisions without my input. Just to make a few, not to mention the gas lighting, accusing me of manipulating her. I was lucky to get a little something something a couple or three times a year. But I'm angry. I'm not allowed to be hurt, or have feelings that matter, or an opinion that counts. I'm just the bad guy who loves his wife and kids, and wants what's best for them. Instead of talking, she put up walls, and doesn't want much of anything to do with me until I deal with my anger. She kicked me out. I'm not angry anymore. But she won't believe me until I get counselling. Yay me 😤

[@Billy-the-Kid]

I recognize that anger. It's hard not to get carried away. Best way is to make her reverse the things you absolutely don't want/need. Make her very clear you won't put up with the things you don't agree with.

[@klaaspekala6804]

Sounds like you could need some counseling: to help you get on your feet, cast that anger into a fruitful form, realize what your goals are and then either stand up for yourself or file a divorce.

[@MichaelOrthodoxChristian]

I relate strongly to your experience. Thank you for sharing.

[@drivventodrumm1]

After we commit to marry and sacrifice ourselves for the family the woman losses all attraction and we turn into an ATM machine. This woman will never respect you and only cause you frustration. I know because I went through it. These days I never give a woman a title like girlfriend or partner and things have gotten a lot better.

[@009AWB]

Find a counselor who will agree that the source of most of your anger and problems is your deadbeat wife and then use that information to get the best divorce lawyer you can

[@apnachannel4419]

I m not married yet but your videos helped me with family problems and because my mom does some of those things that you mentioned in your videos and i always got blaimed for her unhappiness but i always tried to make her happy and fix whatever problem she was dealing with but after watching your videos i realised my efforts were making it worst and creating conflict and thats why everyone starts blaming me too and i would get mad because i believed i was trying to do good and when i yell they would just call me crazy but now after realising what i was doing wrong i would just keep myself calm and not engage in her conflict and tell her to please keep calm and be respectful and this simple thing is working way better than anything i tried so far

[@MrSleepyconejo]

So many things I agreed to. My whole goal was to keep everyone happy. Sad, lonely and free, but no longer triggered. I married so young. Now I’m looking for my authentic self. The more you go down the road to make others happy, the more you realize how it doesn’t work. They just notice more and more when you don’t.

[@kenpresley45]

Pickleball did it for me, so many new friends. . They've been very supportive after she filed.

[@anonymousplanetfambly4598]

@@kenpresley45 You found your "tribe".

[@nolan9221]

Grandma said "Son if you had periods for 3 months per year, give birth, breastfeed, lose your body then face metapause would you be constantly angry? Nothing makes us happy for long, not even the perfect man."

[@timstingley98]

Have gall bladder attacks for 12-16 hours per day for 6 months. It's akin to child birth with each attack, according to women and some doctors who've had them. Child birth complaints are bullshit.

[@tamasgyorffy1]

that BS. Men face waaaay more severe challenges through life. Way more. Women dont care. (unhappy ones, i.e.) They only care about themselves and that is the trick. So. Our hormone levels flutcuate wildly in 24hs, did you know that? No? Cos its not the end of the World. Then they fluctuate wildly in spirng, summer, fall and winter. We have menopause, comes more slowly and has more severe consquences our our brain, and our body, Much bigger fall than what females experience. What she told you is BS, that you accept if dont KNOW its BS. One-sided, but double standard, as most things "woman". And at last: if a woman finds her own inside happiness, as promoted in this channel, she will be able to be more/less happy in her days, just as we try to be.

[@peanutnutter1]

Bad attitude gran

[@wascawywabbit0987]

Gramma know whaddup.

[@geraldfranklin6049]

Granny was a wise woman and did what your mother should have done. Educate you about women.

[@GB-en7ue]

My ex said ‘birth control was on me now’ and strongly pushed the snip. Looking back, she just wanted ME to have no more children.

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

Same. I didn't get the snip though

[@red7fifty]

Her way of castration.

[@madbug1965]

I would not get the snip. Two friends of mine did it and regretted it. They said that it never worked the same again. 😢

[@upsidedown4734]

​@@madbug1965 Mine works fine. Strong like Bull.

[@andrewgill9489]

Same here!

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

❤❤ There's only room for 1 crazy person in a relationship not two.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

@@kjettern ❤😃I'm married 25 years I love the challenge. *I married a nymphomaniac.* After the 5th year of marriage, the nympho is gone. And I'm left with the maniac.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

@@kjettern 👊🏼😃 Funny! porbably true. Seriously though if I do what I'm told she says I won't go missing.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

@@kc6810 ❤👊🏼😃Rodney to me was the Best! I'm going to check out his one liners. Thank you!

[@ChrisAthanas]

Thank you for this, it makes my divorces make sense, because at the time, I didn't understand any of this at all. Nor was I warned about any of it.

[@racebannon96]

Same here. Everything was my fault, including her unhappiness. She had dumped every chore and responsibility on me including our children. Her best gift to us, she finally left us.

[@GodWorksOut]

“Happy people don’t need you to do things to make them happy and with unhappy people there is nothing you can do to make them happy.” Well stated.

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

Thanks Karyn, so many things my wife asked me to do and she still filed for divorce after 24 years. She says she fell out of love.

[@jayviktor6130]

She was never in love with you. She just grew tired of acting the role. Enjoy watching her fall flat on her face now.

[@Steverz32]

I am sorry your going through this Salty😢 You know we the family are here for you😊

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

@@jayviktor6130 I'm starting to realize that. I won't be having any joy in her failures. But I appreciate your sentiment.

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

@Steverz32 thank you Steve. I know you guys are behind me. It's so tough, without a doubt the hardest thing I have ever been through.

[@Steverz32]

@@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor I got you brother! You can & will survive this! When I went through mine, it was hard at 1st seeing her new boyfriend help her get things out of the house while I was at work. But I did survive it & you will as well🥰

[@tankmeister8131]

The councillor said I wasn’t the problem, she had councillors and church people and never accepted blame for anything.cancer got her in the end.

[@GalaxyTabFamily]

Bonus things good men should NEVER agree to: Never give her your passwords to your phone or your computer. Even though she says she will trust you if you do that, she will NEVER be happy after the fact. Never change yourself for a woman. That’s their ultimate goal is to change a man. If everything about you that she “fell for you” for was not an issue, she would never want to change you and what you accomplished and what you strive for personally and/or together. Thanks

[@kenpresley45]

Correct. I changed over and over again. Rediscovered myself after COVID, I'm happy with an evolving life, she has two unhappy friends and filed for the divorce.

[@daniellemills3849]

That’s kinda suspicious…

[@Brascobadboy]

Controlling dominating

[@MohamedTarikRochdi]

The common trait for these 10 things and any that have been mentioned is the search for external distractions to the internal problems. Said another way: it's the constant fleeing from confronting one's demons through novelty seeking.

[@Xerokbyte]

it's nice to hear this from a woman... My wife thinks it's my job to make her happy " if you do this, or don't do that" basically change everything about myself and go above and beyond what I believe to be true to please her in the name of her happiness. But I think the worst thing is, the total lack of respect she has for me, my feelings and opinions.

[@jackanderson1288]

Yep. I already had a vasectomy when we got married, she knew that. But suddenly, problems were 'my' fault because she changed her mind and wanted a child. Of course, it was 'me' that was court-ordered to pay her monthly for 'maintenance' as well as half of her immense credit card debt because of the state we lived in. Yeah...true 'love'. Riiiight.

[@justinjex1]

If she wants the marriage open, you need to leave that marriage. PERIOD.

[@kls701]

Definitely

[@michaeldalton8374]

I played that game for 12 years. The kids need to be homeschooled. The kids need to be in school. My place should be at home right now. I want to go to work. We need another child. This, that, the other… back and forth. It’s the telltale sign of an unstable mind. Post-divorce, she was diagnosed as bipolar. Drug and alcohol addiction. Another failed marriage with another child, raised by another dude. 3 different dudes per week doing the smash and dash. Alienated her own children. Thank God I got sole custody. Mentally unstable. Psychotic. Train wreck.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

My wife has done or asked for every single one of these things. She doesn't even ask for a dog, she just gets one. She has taken me grocery shopping with her for 22 years.

[@exisfohdr3904]

Same here. I came home one day to a puppy that she had "saved" from a kill shelter. I did not want the added responsibility, as I knew it would be me who would have to take care of him. I did not dislike animals, I just didn't have the time to dedicate the necessary time to take care if an animal properly. Needless to say, within 3 months, she had already grown to dislike the dog. He would lay at the door waiting for me to get home because I was the only one who would play with him and take him on walks. She quickly resented getting the dig because I "showed the fog more affection than her". I pointed out to her that she never once greeted me happily at the door when I got home from work.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

Women always get infatuated with new things, then quickly get bored. Be it moving, pets, babies, the "new guy", and weddings. They have no ability to commit to something long term like men do.

[@jonathancarey3029]

I did all of these. I am now separated.

[@jonathancarey3029]

Correction-- all of these except the open marriage.

[@RedRed-cl7zj]

YES YES YES and YES!!! Your TOP THREE were exactly the things my ex GF was pressuring me to do. It took every ounce of strength that I had to kick her to the curb, and it has taken nearly a year to get over it. We also had #10 (going to counseling)... but it didn't start out that way... Like with everything with her, I initially agreed thinking it would be a "two-way" thing, but after a few sessions it became ridiculously obvious that her entire focus was on using counseling to find fault with me, and justify her position that I should fix MY things, but she was as good and pure as the driven snow. Once I realized that, I stopped. Thank you for this one.

[@pacifico4268]

Counseling f'ing sucks! What you described is exactly how it goes down the majority of the time. Always starts with let's fix things and suddenly the situation is your fault. So typical

[@RedRed-cl7zj]

@@pacifico4268 Oh, that was her M.O. from the get go. I was the only one who was unaware of what I was stepping into.

[@hautha4705]

*I love the grounded reality of this channel!!!* Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, $47,000 weekly returns has been life changing. AWESOME GOD❤️

[@hautha4705]

Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

[@charlotteJMiller]

Wow that's huge, how do you make that much monthly?

[@charlotteJMiller]

I'm 35 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

[@hautha4705]

Thanks to my co-worker (Scott) who suggested Mrs Maria Angelina🙏.

[@hautha4705]

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

[@pmarreck]

11) Retiring the hobby you love 12) Agreeing to demote your own priorities

[@psybertao]

Fudge. I gave on to her getting a dog. The two of us had an amazing relationship. She was so jealous.

[@psybertao]

@@kc6810 I wasn't going to pay for the renovations.

[@chuckcribbs3398]

We got two small dogs and I feed them and they end up on my lap. I enjoy them but I never asked for them. They’re both males; maybe it’s a guy thing. 😁

[@Jupitar77]

so pathetic a xx was jealous of an animal. Spoiled brat pre-teen ~~~modern fe_males.....smh

[@benkanobe7500]

30 + years ago my wife made her happiness my responsibility. It tore me down. She sucked all my life long optimism and happiness out of me. When I would try and cheer myself up she would/does try to make me and others unhappy. It appears she is only happy when she has made others around her unhappy. I discovered she is a Narcissist here on youtube and it explained a lot. At least I now know I am not crazy. I just had 30 years of life sucked out of me trying to make a sick person happy. Now I do whatever I want and enjoy that it really pisses her off. The tantrums continue and she has escalated them to no limits, but I just smile at her and say nothing. I am finding myself again.

[@heman7767]

I know no other channel that speaks to women's issues in a marriage as well as yours. I don't know how you've learned so much about yourself and women in general and in particular, but you sure are a learner and great teacher!!!

[@racebannon96]

I agree. The toxic wives that should be watching won’t do it. At least men are seeing these videos and blogs that they are not alone with these Jezebel spirited women.

[@troymcintosh2564]

My wife has hit me with like 7 of these. After getting a dog, she then changed her mind and blamed me

[@gtom70]

When I enlisted in the military 20 years ago, we had 2 kids,1 dog and 1 cat. She said the dog was too much. Got rid of the dog right before basic. Retired from the Air National Guard after 20 years. Total of 6 kids and now 2 cats....I insisted an got a dog. A big ole yellow Lab....Who is ALWAYS happy to see me when I come home....no judgment just pure joy.

[@edgreen8140]

The dog the lack of work. Nothing but working on oneself can make one happy. Expecting one person to make another person happy result in either side of codependency.

[@justdoityourself7134]

There is only one way for a wife to feel happy. By sincerely meeting her husband's expectations without withholding and subverting. Everything else, EVERYTHING ELSE is a shit test.

[@Handlegoeshere1234]

Yeah always raised to believe the opposite, like a lot of people I think. And that gets you no where good.

[@godleveleldritchblast5257]

​​@@Handlegoeshere1234we all were and in most cases it was our own unhappy mothers who raised us to be like that

[@Abenn944]

Gross. Absolutely not.

[@justdoityourself7134]

@@Abenn944 Nothing gross about it, she can always say no and negotiate alternative options without manipulation. You are subverting by implying that husbands' expectations are bad and can't be reasoned with. What is gross is subverting, withholding and setting up conflict to get your way. And then commenting in this thread doing the same thing. Gross.

[@NHLCrazy2007]

It is not worth my time to even date anymore let alone ever consider sacrificing myself completely for an ungrateful woman. No thank you.

[@fostever]

I caved to about 5 of these in the last 15 years of our 30 year marriage which eventually ended in betrayal, gaslighting, and now attempting to alienating me from my own daughters and grandchild! 😢 Your insight is absolutely spot on 😳

[@ericbibeau5631]

Number 11. Agree to raise the credit card limit by 10k...Number 12. Need to increase your credit score. Number 13. Do more house work. Number 14. Take seperate vacations. Number 15. Spend 20k on a vacation. Number 16. Waste your time making list like these,....

[@hmurchison8123]

Separate vacations?? Good lord.

[@tatasonfelix]

Sadly it takes us men a very long time to finally figure out that we can't make a woman happy like Bill Burr said, "women can't be happy". The earlier we realise that whatever we do is never enough and that we must stick to the things we love and the hobbies we enjoy regardless of what a woman thinks, the better.

[@ricksylva8834]

I have done several of these...and am still in the process of getting a divorce...everything mentioned would make her happy a few weeks or a month maybe then ugh. Looking forward to getting through this nasty mean divorce and back to healing and enjoying life again....ya'll have a wonderful tomorrow.

[@stephend7420]

I did the repeated moving. Divorce followed move number six. After that she miraculously discovered an ability to work and earn an income.

[@Young_Swagger]

One thing I have noticed is that in relationships / marriage, I never have peace. Women are always unhappy and create problems constantly that need to be solved by jumping through one hoop or another. It is never good enough to be carrying out a financial plan that eventually leads to financial independence through teamwork. At this point, I will probably never engage in another relationship after my ex-wife destroyed half a million dollar in a heated divorce. We could have gone our separate ways and been good, but her conceit and greed led to lawyers and court hearings that destroyed everything we had worked to build. My kids were damaged in the process too. Just having a girlfriend will cost a man $15k/year. I would rather have peace and spend that money on myself and my hobbies. I am not alone. Men are done with women's nonsense. If that means the end of our species, so be it. We are going to watch it all burn with a drink in our hands and laugh.

[@clintdavis7434]

A multi millionaire told me years ago. Women don't know what they want. You have to tell them what they want. So true.

[@racebannon96]

True, women don’t know what they want. They also get bored easily and the boyfriend/husband is expected to read their mind and provide entertainment for them. Their rules are constantly changing. When you tell them NO, all Hell breaks loose.

[@jimlyon7311]

I have a good one for you. We've been married for 24 years and since the beginning my wife has received License for Counseling in social work and as the years have gone by she has increased her education. As the years have go by when we have maratal problems each time when I try to discuss them I tried to be as respectful as possible but she analyzes every issue I bring up. She doesn't know what it is to leave her work at the office and shut down when she comes home. Discussions with her to resolve the situation are nearly impossible because I can only keep her attention for 10 or 15 minutes before she backs out of the Conversation and I am spinning my wheels no matter how I discuss how serious the situation is getting. Even though I love her in my own way I feel like it has gone on so far that there is no Is way to get my love back for her. She is very talented at what she does and I did my best to get her dream as a business started as quick as possible. She's a beautiful lady at heart but is a mistake marrying a counselor. You cant defend yourselfe.

[@Mattheus217]

I hadn’t thought as much about structure before or Point number three but wow, that does seem very significant. Like when someone doesn’t care about how they look or how they dress or whether they pick up after themselves or ig they grow or anything because every day you can just do whatever you feel like. And then they may be critical of you for having to go to bed early or that you seem busy with work and things and you’re not spending enough time with them even though they have tons more time than you do that’s free. And then Point 4, grocery shopping, I’ve done that a lot of the time because I figured it was a good way to help out Oh man and number 10 going to counseling I’ve been dragged to counselors a lot, and it seems like the finger is always pointed at me. Like I’m the reason for all of our problems of course I make mistakes and of course I can improve, but there is just a large imbalance and it’s almost like Counseling was just a third-party to try to guilt, shame, blame or manipulate me to do the things that she would want. There didn’t seem to be fair negotiation or compromise. It seemed like the burden was on me to make the compromises.

[@wperkins225]

Most (stay at home women) aren't stay at home women at all!! There just woman without a job!!

[@WesB1972]

More time to shop and cheat .

[@kenthil]

If your spouse is asking for an open marriage, she's either already cheating, or has someone in mind to cheat on you with. If she asks you for an open marriage, the odds are highly likely it's already over.

[@rapsack7058]

I agree to all 10 points! Things i have done for my partner to make her happy: I listen to her. Just listen and ask questions to help her figuring out, what she can do to be in a better place! I never solved the probelms for her. I never tryed to buy her love. I was there for her. I treat her with respect and i care for her. BUT i never tryed to win her with expensive dates and steady smal gifts etc. I made her to be invested in the relationship as much as i am. I expect that she cares for my and may wishes and needs. I think this way she feel that she plays as an important part as i do and that make her feel that she has value and not only valued by me!

[@CurtisKlatt-il2xh]

I skirted around making decisions for my ex because if I had decided for her and it never worked out I would get blamed for telling her to do it.

[@geraldpolmateer3255]

The primary difference between failure and success is discipline. Whenever everything is stripped away, everything you have left is what you really have.

[@khalidkhalifa2391]

The list starts at 02:50

[@williamloney8633]

I came home one day and there was some guy in my kitchen that I didn't know so naturally violence ensued she came running downstairs screaming at me to let him go. He got the hell outta my house and she said it was my fault because all I do is work and sleep. She doesn't work and we have no children. I thought I was being a good provider. I wanted her to be able to have the things she wanted.

[@TheTferrer]

I do not let my wife go grocery shopping for very simple reasons: 1) she does not cook, 2) buys junk food instead of fruit or vegetables, 3) shops for the little pre-made items like ready meals or microwaveable items to serve as dinner, 4) does not know how to shop for vegetables or fruits by seasons - always buys bananas and nothing else, 5) cooks following recipes straight from the box. If an ingredient is missing, she stops cooking and returns to the store to get what she forgot to finish the meal. By the time the meal is ready, it is 10pm - no one wants to eat that late; 6) orders take out instead of making something at home - but she does not cook; 7) I am so run down and so tired to the point where I decided to sleep on the floor with my dog in a quiet corner of my office so I can recharge. I will never get married again.

[@racebannon96]

I was doing the cooking when I was married. She use to yell at our kids so much at dinner that I would feed the kids before she got home from work. She didn’t figure that one out. After she got herself a boyfriend, she left us. I helped her pack her stuff.

[@AlexR1ish]

I busted out laughing when I read this. Especially the part when she goes back to the store. Same Damn thing with my wife going shopping. Also random items that nobody eats because its soo damn specific, like salmon paste , or green olives, or Kale.

[@clubdesalud1488]

Dude, I could've written that

[@clubdesalud1488]

​@@racebannon96lucky man! I hope you got custody

[@racebannon96]

@@clubdesalud1488 I did. She would sabotage her own visitations. She often tried to change the rules and times during the holidays and birthdays. Our kids are grown now but I will never forget what she put us through.

[@danstout3154]

After reading comments and listening to plenty of videos my advice as a good man, that I now follow, is 1. force a conversation quickly-within a week or two and NEVER longer than a month, 2. if gaslighted around your comments or conversation shut everything you do down except taking care of the kids, 3. stop putting money in any joint account and you pay the absolutely necessary bills only, 4. protect your money-be fair but that is all, get her name off your accts or better yet close your accts down and open new ones, 5. figure out your exit strategy fast and get rid of all debt you can and quit acting like you are stuck. 6. If she comes around quickly- fine and if not separate and then if she doesn't come around then divorce. believe me I have more experience than I should have but I eventually got there and am relatively happy most days.

[@racebannon96]

I agree with you. It is disturbing to read comments on husbands that are so beaten down and have lived that way with their toxic wives for 20, 30, 35 years. Divorce is devastating to so many of these men when they lose everything they have built after providing and sacrificing for their families for decades. Many of these men lose their homes and become homeless. The self-deletion rate with these men is extremely high.

[@User-wv5rx]

Ouch, decent list. I fell for a couple here. She’s absolutely right about how you’ll feel after if you give to these through coercion.

[@KevinLife-xv2hh]

After 25 years of exactly this, I’m officially divorced, and I’m more at peace. It only cost me $500,000 but I think it’s soooo worth it!

[@marknieuweboer8099]

What a f****d up country the USA is. Mine cost me less than 1500 Surinamese dollars (back then the equivalent of a few hundred USD).

[@rockman5066]

If a wife asks for an open marriage, it's over. Ridiculous.

[@jameskrobar7814]

Man she really nailed it on most if not all points!

[@fallen546]

She wanted a dog. We got 1, and then another. She wanted to live in a city. We moved to NYC and then Miami. She wanted to travel. We spent 3 months in Bermuda, Bali, Italy, Hong Kong and Miami. She loved instagram homes. We remodelled the entire house... twice. She felt I was lazy in my career... I make 300k. I've earned the right to slow down a little. Then she broke it off. lol She was a miserable person. Nothing I did could possible fix that. Now I wake up every day just as happy as my labrador. lol I honestly feel bad for some women. It must be horrible going through life feeling miserable and thinking someone else will fix it for them.

[@racebannon96]

The wife over here left the kids and me for an alcoholic on dialysis. “He is so exciting,” she said. I helped her pack her stuff. I got the divorce done quickly and custody of our kids. She hates me.

[@Trizzer89]

Why cant they just be normal instead of grumpy?

[@LastRebel1978]

That is their normal they just fake it occasionally

[@franco-cespi]

Wow, I relate a lot to what are you talking. I experience a few relationship where I tried to 'be enough' and solve her insecurities and do what she thought will be the best. I only find my self stuck and then dropped after they realised that me being 'good' wasn’t making them happy. There where good thing also, of course, but I never felt better and more confident that when I stood firm on my own structure and let them fit in it. Lovable women will do their best to adapt to the healthy frame you offer.

[@PeterAcrat]

"She's unhappy" because she's childishly refusing to look deeper within her thinking process at the meanings, beliefs and 'mental frames' that give rise to the _crappy feelings_ which she can change as soon as she wakes up to herself as a intelligent being! FACT: It's _the same structure for anyone_ no matter who you are; if you identify as a human being, you have this going on - and you are _The Only Power_ who can find it and change it). ☮

[@raamtselon]

My wife got a dog 2 times. The 2nd time was the bad one - she did it despite my requests and concerns against it. Then, she didnt care for that dog - at home or outside....i had to.

[@KCBCollier]

Good list. Lotta stuff I’d never have thought about as a common pressure point to try and make her happy by going against your better judgement. Like getting a dog. Just listened to a Ramsey show highlight where a guy married a girl who, among other debts, had spent multiple thousands on a dog before they got married. She’s still making payments on the loan for the dog (must have been a designer breed), and they’ve been married 3 years. And the dog was already dead. That dog still making her happy?

[@NicholasKeen-u8p]

I have moved 3 or 4 times ,I agreed to the dog which I looked after. I am now looking after the horses she wanted. We even set off in a bus travelling, I was told it was our new lifestyle only to return home in 6months.

[@JohnShreve-hw8zm]

Desperately needed this advice in the 90s and early 00s…still good to hear it tho!

[@Brother_from_Oz]

Oh good god.... Im pretty confident - I did 7 out of 10 of these... thinking i was making her happy.. Then one day she was gone....she planned months in advance and flew OS to spiritual new age healing retreat for women. This absolutely shattered my world to pieces - after being together for 21yrs. Heartbreak and the betrayal - that pain ive never felt before.

[@AetherXIV]

being fine with your wife not being happy is key to being able to lead and love her. The sun always shines.

[@socom2173]

This just perpetuates the their false belief that someone else can make them happy

[@robertlavigne6738]

How do you know my wife so well???? Sounds like you moved in with us!!!

[@andrewdenny5571]

Don't take on the grocery shopping? Been doing it for 12 years, the entire time we've been together. If I didnt do it, we'd never eat. She doesn't even know when we need milk! No idea, no clue. I am a shopping machine as a result. If it aint on my list, it doesnt get bought! If she wants some fancy shampoo, that is on her! Otherwise you get what I choose based on our budget

[@Concreto1984]

#5 and #6 are pure madness. I can't even wrap my head around the fact that a sane man would agree to that.

[@carlmanis879]

The woman's movement goes against the God and the bible. Anything God said the devil try's to undo. God said the man is the head of the house hold. You want a happy wife take back your position of head of the house. She will feel safe and secure when you do. Now to make her super happy show her love and respect and affection and demand the same from her. You reward good behavior in your marriage and punish bad behavior as head of the house hold.

[@soladeogloria5839]

More easier said than done. Even Adam didn’t get it right with Eve and, hence, the Fall. Today’s litigation that overwhelmingly favours women is a degrading factor for good men also. I have been divorce raped doing just what you (so correctly) point out. Fact is, sin is pervasive and negatively affects us all. Women too are lesser because of their ability to manipulate good men. Thank God we have hope still.

[@racebannon96]

Wishful thinking in today’s society. Emasculation, wives cutting off affection, intimacy, support, and sex for control and punishment on their husband. It is a page out of Feminism handbook. Feminism is not about equity but power and control. The modern wife wants to feel empowered over their husbands. It is the quickest way to send a husband into depression. It will also lead a husband to think of other options. Too many wives are plain miserable and want their husband to be miserable too. Good luck to the husbands that have their wives run their marriage.

[@stephenkilpatrick807]

When I was going through my divorce, my wife said "I've always said that I don't care how much money my husband makes, as long as he worships the ground I walk on" (I'm not kidding, those were her exact words.). My response was "you may 'ALWAYS' say that, but you've NEVER said it to me. And I KNOW you didn't say it to me before we got married because, if you had, we would probably not have gotten married 35 years ago. Why did you think I got a bachelors and a masters degree? I I work hard, I have a career plan, and I want to provide the best for my family, and have always wanted to do that." What a bunch of crap! She was certainly happy to walk out of the marriage with half of everything I had save up and built up with my career. She had some savings, but I didn't ask for a penny of it.

[@Hogiewan1]

Listen carefully from 1:20 on. She is telling you how life with a f3male partner is if you’ve never been in a relationship for any time. Standard equipment

[@RealOGWithin]

What’s a f3male?

[@PaulBrunson-s3h]

Karen you are dialed in! Point 2: My wife wanted a puppy, kids wanted a puppy, constant badgering and shaming me for not letting them have one. My reservation was I knew I'd end up doing the lions share of the care. I finally caved, the moment we brought the dog home all the promises of how she'd do the work flew out the window. The panic attacks and crying began and guess who has been doing nearly all of the dog care for a year now. The silver lining, is I've done a good job training the puppy, it has grown up into a great dog that I enjoy going on long walks with to get a break from the whiny wife! And more hilarious, the kids and wife now complain about how the dog clearly loves me most. Duh! :D And ditto on points 1 ,3 and 4.

[@user-sy6jf4hm3t]

My Ex was miserable all the time, played sore loser, said she gave up career opportunities to relocate and have kids. She never tried, and many opportunities were right in front of her. After it ended and the dust settled, she admitted years later the life she once had was better and wished she never took it for granted. You cannot force anyone to see the truth, but you can wait to say "I told you so".

[@kenthil]

My STBXW has quit 2 jobs without having another lined up because she wasn't happy with her current job. She didn't quit working, just jumped out into the ether flying blind and hoping for the best. She wore me down both times until I felt pressured to agree. She also wants to move out of our city, thinking that she'll have a chance to be happier away from everyone and everything. She doesn't realize that she'll never be happy until she finds out how to be happy with herself.

[@racebannon96]

Get out of her way and watch her self-destruct. Block her number when she moves or change your number. It will get ugly. The ex-wife over here finally acted on her delusional fantasies. I helped her pack her stuff and moved her. I am still relieved she is gone and someone’s else’s problem.

[@warrensmith2902]

#4 - My second wife tried that tactic, I bought the wrong brand. She started to be upset with me and demand that I take back the wrong things and go get the right one. I took the jar and threw it out the back where the bottle broke. I then told her go and get the right one from on. Now sehe sends me a picture of the right one. #10 - My first wife tried taking me to church leaders and marriage councilors. After much of her dumping on how repressed she was, and how I was to blame. They usually, came back with a short list for me to work on, but a big list for her to work on. That usually ended the trips to the councilors as they just didn't understand where the problem was.

[@racebannon96]

Everything was my fault. I was working full time and overtime. Still, she had dumped every responsibility and chore on me. Also, I was the one that took care of our children. She did not appreciate any thing. She finally left us but tried coming back two months later. I said No. I got the divorce done as quickly as possible. She had a horrible business sense and made a lot of stupid decisions during the divorce. Don’t interrupt your enemy when they are screwing up.

[@noelstokes6901]

Nag nag nag whinnge whine complained. Stop talking about my wife