My Adult Daughter Refuses to Grow Up!

[@sunshinebaconandmusic416]

5 years later, the boyfriend will be calling in to the show. 🙄

[@Cahluvca]

1-2 years

[@timothysherrange]

...after the divorce from which she takes him for 50%

[@MarksTournaments]

Letsnot andsaywe did no sympathy from me, get to really know who you share a life or F off

[@jerseynurse6878]

Lol true

[@mr.speyside5240]

“My wife is $150k in debt, no income and spends like crazy. Help me, Dave!”

[@LeesaLilHop]

I would never marry someone who is in their 30s, living at home, with zero savings or plans. God help that boy for real.

[@ransom182]

Yeah he sounds like a sweet boy. He deserves better.

[@SoTrue144]

@@ransom182 More like a simp and not a man. He needs to RUN

[@sarah3796]

Totally

[@Retiredmco]

She's just a good lil snowflake.

[@jeremywheeler8417]

Hey Jalisa... Wink wink

[@jaclynschultz2616]

If your daughter is 32 and you’re still giving her an allowance....there might be a problem 🤦🏻‍♀️. Mom & Dad are clueless.

[@BlueDauntless]

She makes money and they still gave her $400 a month!

[@l-train7876]

I’ve never heard of a 32 year old woman who has a boyfriend, lives at home, and doesn’t want to move out. Bizarre.

[@NotGahruvey]

L- Train yea usually they call the guys “losers”

[@shannon2748]

True. If that were me, I'd be spinning my wheels very fast to get out of there. I wish God would send me a good man...still waiting. It's tough out there being single with only yourself to depend on for money...but I do it...yes I do.

[@michelthor4117]

She doesn't want to get married. She needs to get an apartment and job to get away from this narssasistic mother. Mom wants her to get married and have babies.

[@kynap7184]

She doest want him for what ever reason. Mom needs to stop pushing her to marry him.

[@Gruuvin1]

And she gets an allowance from her idiot parents.

[@DisabilityExams]

She's thirty two. Stop asking her if she's saving money. She's not six years old.

[@cameronsantiago3155]

She lives at home with no education.

[@JamesWilson-sb9iq]

Yeah just kick her out now. She's 32 not 6

[@carojames6776]

@@JamesWilson-sb9iq she has no money, m um should have made her save.

[@DisabilityExams]

@@carojames6776 No - she is an adult. It's not mommy's job to run an adult's life.

[@cameronsantiago3155]

@@DisabilityExams well right now mommy is funding everything. Including saving money...

[@DJ-ix7gf]

I will seriously want an update on this situation in 6-8 months! Please!!

[@mle011]

I think in 6-8 months the daughter will still be living with the parents. Or the boyfriend. No WAY is she living on her own in any circumstance. She'll either guilt her parents into letting her stay, or guilt her boyfriend into taking her in/moving into that house together (that he's buying with his money, poor guy).

[@tmnic6971]

It has now been six months. She is still living there.

[@Rmathis80]

*Only Maury and Steve Wilkos give updates.* 😂😂

[@TheJuice401]

ill give you the 10 year update. loan was approved, she has twins, drops out of school and work, sucks up everything then divorces you just to come back and take more.

[@stephanieledogar6511]

In 6 months she will be 6 months pregnant, living in her parents home, unemployed and getting an allowance.

[@johnnyb5534]

Mom treats Daughter like a child. Daughter acts like a child. Mom: * Pikachu Face *

[@ladybanks9766]

😂😂😂

[@garronl.7989]

😂

[@MiniatureChickenChannel]

💯💯

[@pawsnotclaws2772]

Johnny B YES

[@kmadrid2325]

“We did X for her...” Yeah but, did she ever ask for X? Don’t be upset if it was never something she felt she needed. Yes she needs to move out but codependence takes 2 to tango. I get so upset that it’s only ever the child’s fault. Making fun of someone “inferior” to you makes you a fool.

[@bryanjacobs1423]

I hate when parents call in and complain about the lazy children they themselves personally raised.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

True

[@shannon2748]

Yes, because a lot of times they are lazy because their parents were always afraid for them to go out and try anything. The fear paralyzes the kids.

[@debrawilliams7983]

Bryan Jacobs Do do I

[@pinklady4703]

It’s not always the parents fault we have 3 daughters that left home but my son is a child in the head and refuses to grow up and live on his own. We keep kicking him out and it doesn’t do any good he still does nothing with his life. We can’t understand why he is different than the girls when they were all raised the same

[@queenleo5578]

Yeah but at some point it’s up to the adult children to take accountability for their own life. She’s full grown now. No excuses.

[@mjbankhead9063]

Her boyfriend better exit stage left QUICK!

[@ezeamadi5151]

MJ Bankhead left, right any direction is fine.. disaster ready to happen if he marries her

[@slyfoxx2973]

Heavens to Murgatroyd exit stage left! Flee for your life even!

[@kingandpriest4637]

It may very well be too late for the young man to "exit stage left"; apparently, they are engaged, and nowadays, there's little doubt they've not had intercourse. Scripturally that would mean that they're already married! In fact, that's the only means to be married today, since the Supreme Court nullified all State Constitutional marriage laws in the U.S. between one man and one woman. State civil law marriage no longer exist. For the young man to exit stage left he would first have to give her “a bill of divorce”, or both being guilty of adultery in the near future.

[@eddygarcia3954]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Beanhill_94]

Extent left, chased by wo-manchild

[@Jasta85]

Wow, my younger sister is 30 and is married, has a house, a job and a dog and volunteers at the zoo in her free time and tells me she's worried she's not doing everything she could be doing in her life. I'm going to show her this video for some perspective.

[@Iburn247]

I'm the boyfriend in this scenario.... Not the actual boyfriend from the story but I married a woman that had a similar upbringing and I've always supported and taken care of her...20 years later and I'm finally getting tired... Burning the candle at both ends for so long I don't have much more to give

[@susanhampton9671]

I always worry about if the roles were reversed. How could she take care of you if she has no experience? Being a team is both parties need to be able to handle it. It is none of my business. You deserve better. Good luck.

[@Kra-ri6fd]

My husband was a single dad who moved back in with his parents. He lost his job and was jobless foe YEARS after...only worked on cars to pay his car payment, phone bill and I think cable or some trivial bill. When we married he was 45 years old. I was a single mom with two teenage boys...going it on my own for the most part. I had told him he needed to get a job...he had excuse after excuse. It finally boiled over when finances got really tight. We had agreed he wanted me staying home..I was collecting a little bit of veterans disability but that was it. He told me he couldn't work certain jobs because he couldn't deal with people. I blew up. I told him I can go out right now and get a job...any job really and that him not being able to push his issues with people aside enough to help me was extremely hurtful. I told him he needed to step up and asked him if his parents weren't there to support him and his son, would he have made it on his car income? He had to admit he couldn't. He told me straight up his self esteem was shot and he felt worthless. We are a year out now from that conversation and he is supporting this household with a really good paying job and busting his butt for us. His son now lives with his parents and at 23 is now the entitled adult child and my husband's now going off on him. My husband learned his lesson. I'm not the kind of women who likes telling her husband off but after making it in the world on my own since the age of 17 I have absolutely no patience for entitlement. I hope your wife can come to understanding how hurtful it is to you for her to stand by while you struggle and to put her wants before your needs. If she won't listen to you, I would suggest counseling...maybe she'll listen to a professional. I can't believe my husband actually listened to me and proved it by holding down this job, advancing, getting awards at work...I'm so freaking proud of him and I am sure to tell him how much I appreciate him busting his butt for us. I wish you two the very best.

[@joyceboisvert9167]

Marriage is suppose to be fair give and take if she not given and just taken it not a marriage you need to make sure she does her share or you could wound up in the streets

[@frnks3020]

I wish my parents did that. My parents didnt want me to ever leave and I had to force myself to move out at 26 whether I had money or not. I felt highly dependent on my parents and it was hindering my growth. This was a few months ago and I grown alot over this few months on my own. I wished I only done it sooner.

[@Moshbearpig]

Exact same thing happened to me, parents didn't want me to go but I did.

[@ferngulleyhomestead]

I had the same situation, my parents were very upset that I moved out. I moved out at 20 and made it work with a below poverty level income and never had to ask them for money. It’s called being an adult and it’s something I can be proud of even if others aren’t!

[@frnks3020]

@@Moshbearpig it's part of growing up congrats 🙌

[@frnks3020]

@@ferngulleyhomestead Something about making it on you own is just so fulfilling lol congratulations

[@sbrazenor2]

I hear all of the whining going on with millenials about how they can't afford to live. I bought a house making less than 40% of what I make now. You just have to be responsible. The mortgage comes before the toys and entertainment.

[@nealp885]

that boyfriend should NOT marry her...

[@sarahm9723]

She will ruin his life.

[@tpolerex7282]

If he is that much of an idiot he deserves that miserable woman and life he chose.

[@marknewton6984]

No way.

[@eatnplaytoday]

They were giving her an allowance til she was 32. That's kinda sad to be honest. Parents seem like they keep doing everything for their child too which has taught her to be dependent on others. It's unfortunate...

[@digitalbrand5510]

A parent’s job is to teach their child how to be an adult. Failure to launch. I do feel for her boyfriend (walking ATM).

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

An ATM that wears tennis shoes.

[@thecatnextdoor12]

Hmm, he deposits $200 from her every paycheck to his account. Who gives whom the money.

[@AaronHernandez-xv4qh]

She needs to learn her lesson. You got to stop babying her

[@dionnakemp4291]

@Ethan Wood Bruh! Lol!

[@cherylnielson4710]

Daughter sounds like a professional student. The mother is a big-time enabler.

[@BradtheWest]

That poor Christian boy better run

[@corey407woc]

Brad Hibbard simps gonna simp

[@superhamz7]

@TerrorWest the lady literally says christian

[@cerebralcaustic]

daughter is super-hot or the fiance is a chump. maybe both.

[@DeezNuts-]

Run forest run

[@edgarolivar1388]

She got that mac and cheese

[@j.flaner8506]

The mom really wants to push the daughter on the boyfriend. God, I pray that the young man comes to his senses and does NOT marry this girl before she has stood on her own as a fiscally responsible adult.

[@wykkydtruth]

You're spot on. If I were the parent of the boyfriend I'd let him know he needs to let her be on her own at the very least a year. But ugh, can you imagine how high maintenance this girl would be?

[@anneshirley9560]

I went from my parent's house to my husband's house. XD I've never been independent. I guess, at the end of the day, it just depends on the person.

[@indiaxlovee]

Nicole Albanese thats kind of sad

[@NeededGR13F]

Imagine if they have kids.

[@samr9622]

Nicole Albanese Same here! I met my husband at 21 while living with my mom and attending college and the year we got married we moved in together in to our own place. It does depend on the person. My mother never babied me and I helped in any and every way I could while living at home.

[@getyourpassport]

She's not ready to get married, dude I hope you are reading this comment section don't do it yet .

[@leifc.6045]

i see marriage as a business.

[@joycewatt3443]

The bad news is..... the parents are part of the problem! To the daughter... Grow up! Prepare to be a wife/help meet BEFORE you become one. To the young man....Either run Forest run, OR read the book of Proverbs especially chapter 31. That woman was handling her business and her husband had no need for spoil. Walk in wisdom... Wishing you all the best.

[@AdaEstherGJ]

She is not ready for marriage for sure. Tough situation to be in.

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

*Yet?* How about "Don't get married to her, *EVER!"*

[@debrawilliams7983]

Christian Fajardo Run Man Run!

[@joshuawebb3337]

There is a saying "necessity is the mother of invention" it kinda applies here too. Ppl tend to figure out a way, when they have to. If she doesn't feel a dire need then she wont make anything happen. Some ppl need that rock and a hard place experience to move on to the next step in life.

[@HereIsWisdom1318]

4:49-And mom says “why’s that?” Mom is just as oblivious!!

[@karenhardie1132]

It's called enabling. Way too old to be living at home.

[@wannabecarguy]

Title should be. I refuse to let my children be adults. Or " I identify as a helicopter and I hover over my children 24/7.

[@mrmackey8956]

I mean it wouldn't be bad if she had a job and was saving money but she is just straight mooching off her parents

[@ryannt]

Living at home is not the problem. I live at home and with the money I saved I just bought my dad a brand new car. Most of my friends are renting and owe a lot of debts. Being immature is the problem

[@tracywalker244]

Ryann T I wish I would have stayed home while working so I could spoil my mom. Like you said, there’s nothing wrong with staying home as long as you’re pitching in.

[@pseudonymshqipe854]

@@ryannt I live at home also. I've had enough to buy a decent home for a while.

[@hiquality_distraction4084]

Calls back in 2022: Daughter still at home.

[@momthatdoesstuff1610]

With her husband and 3 kids. They feel bad they don't want their grandkids to be homeless! They all get $100/wk allowance because kids need toys. Ok ok I'm going to far with this lol

[@trapsarentgay4195]

Momthatdoesstuff not far enough

[@granitemoss1451]

….and mom and dad gave her another 6 month extension, but then they MEAN IT, by golly.

[@debrawilliams7983]

hiquality_distraction Yep

[@joiab11]

lol!

[@Yugiboii]

Moved out at 22 right after college and had to find roommates to make rent affordable. Being independent really does shape your character and growth.

[@lisacraft9929]

Me too!

[@Ryan_DeWitt]

While the daughter is the ultimate reason she is lazy, a big part of the problem is speaking during this call and it is not Dave.

[@debrawilliams7983]

Ryan De Witt Yep. Her Parents

[@Silented1234]

This happens when you’ve babied a child all their lives. Tbh, I’m totally with Dave and the caller on this, but it’s kinda like you spoil her all her life and expect her to just change on a flip of a coin. It starts early and if you don’t loosen the reins early, this is what happens.

[@mphomolapo1562]

@@funtechu Is this *co-dependant?* People throw that word around a lot, but i think it applies here.

[@PAPERCHASERCH47]

@@mphomolapo1562 yes ma'am this is definitely a co-dependent behavior

[@shannon2748]

@@funtechu Exactly. parents should not ask adult children how much money they have or mention the cost of something if they are not paying for it. I think most parents do this at least once though.

[@sarahm9723]

You can tell the mother is hesitant to tell her the truth.

[@user-ik3mg9ud4r]

Exactly brother

[@poppin2249]

He’s a responsible saver she’s an overgrown child it will never work.

[@MsBrendalina]

Agreed. I would NEVER want to be with somebody that I have to financially babysit. I had to deal with parents who were financially incompetent and it almost destroyed me emotionally and financially. I would sooner die than marry someone like that no matter how much I loved them.

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

I would like to say to that young man, if he thinks he can "fix" her by marrying her, I have a bridge in Brooklyn I'm about to sell him.

[@mikenelson8377]

🎯

[@TwistedTexures]

This is an example of co-dependency and enablement.

[@letsgobrandon911]

Every piece of advice given, the mother protects her. The mother created this monster.

[@waynekerr2472]

The mother and daughter are probably very alike moms leaching off dad and daughter is to

[@freshurb8963]

A 32 year old ADULT living wither their parents is a PARENTAL FAILURE.

[@carojames6776]

You haven't helped to prepare her for adulthood, you wait until she is 32 and then you want to throw her out, GOSH!!!!

[@Jerry.anthony.c]

You don't buy a house with someone you're not married to, Ever!! Boom. Dave *mic drop*

[@PauAngie]

I'm her age, single, and I still live with my parents (we're not from the US). I've been saving all that I can, I own my car, have no debt, and I'm like 2 years away of buying my own house in cash. I pay all the groceries, half the utilities, and give my mom some money every week to spend in whatever she wants. I live with them but I take care of practically all the expenses. I don't plan on moving away to pay rent to some else and not give that money to my parents instead.

[@johannesswillery7855]

I think you are different from the daughter in the phone call. She pays no rent, buys no food. Likely does no chores. Congratulations on your progress towards buying the house!

[@RandyLy]

I don't see why it's so hard to grow up. Don't they realize that one day, your parents won't live forever and that you'll one day have to take care of yourself?

[@bettye444]

In a word, no.

[@alexcerny5881]

Falsely teaching kids entitlement

[@stephv1563]

Red flag to me that she’s depositing her checks directly into her boyfriend’s account...but isn’t excited about moving in with him and marrying him...makes me wonder what’s going on in that relationship, sounds very controlling. Sounds like the parents may be very controlling. She needs a therapist. There’s a reason she’s failing to thrive.

[@jamespungello8361]

Guys! We're missing the point here... Who butters both sides of their toast?

[@unique32journalist]

I wondered that, too! Eww! 😖

[@lizcanal9194]

James Pungello 😂

[@deborahsimon1101]

I think it's Dave's way of saying she's being a nut... she (the daughter) wants to "live life her own way" even if it means living with her parents for the rest of her life.

[@JamesRDavis-ft3wq]

Legit laughed at this

[@thomasmith28]

😄😄😆

[@James-vj5hz]

I forsee a divorce in that young man's future.

[@andriif.5329]

+ alimony and child support (

[@kirbyaugustine761]

Andrew OMG 😮Yes. He’s willingly walking right into it. God he’s going to get reamed royally by her if he gets married.

[@andriif.5329]

@@kirbyaugustine761 yep, this is waiting such brainwashed blue pill simps. Unfortunately, there are a lot of them here in the US.

[@kirbyaugustine761]

Andrew I, shocked Dave is suggesting that he not marry her because I know he’s pro-marriage with men being responsible for women’s behaviors

[@NeededGR13F]

@@kirbyaugustine761 it wouldn't be pro-marriage for him to give his blessings to a relationship that's doomed for divorce. Dave is more pragmatic than that

[@thuglifebear5256]

Hearing the complete cluelessness and utter lack of apology from the mother just makes my blood boil.

[@JB-tr2un]

The boyfriend sounds like a SIMP for dating and taking care of that 32 year old womanchild. My one word of advice to him: RUN!!!

[@JamConcerned]

I don't know some men eat it up, must love control. She will have to come to him for everything, and he takes care of everything. Mom so glad she to turning her over to someone else.

[@laurenletsche1134]

I luv u crypt keeper!

[@JB-tr2un]

@@laurenletsche1134 Hello boils and ghouls...hehehehehe...

[@NotGahruvey]

He’s not gonna leave, like you said he’s a simp dude must not be doing the best because if he was he could find a woman better.

[@marknewton6984]

Time to Man up!😮

[@sunshinelawfan7693]

The chances of the 32-yr-old moving on Friday? And the chances of this smother-mother pushing her out? {crickets}

[@licoreen]

I would recommend counseling for this family. I went to a few sessions with my mom in my early thirties. The counselor simply told each of us to back off and let the other live her own life. We have a much healthier relationship now.

[@professional.commentator]

It's almost like spoiled children lead to dependent, narcissistic adults.

[@gigi8528]

I wanted to move out at 12 so I couldn’t imagine still being at home at 32.

[@jhughes974]

😂

[@AmenMama-qe4sq]

Same. I was done. Bye. 😂

[@leipzigescobar4085]

...I was so close to make a similar mistake with my 18 year old daughter😱😱😱. She wants the responsibility, but I was trying to keep her at home while going to college but she refuses..Im so proud of our daughter👏👌🌟🎉

[@nuggyfresh6430]

Sure as long as she is paying her own money with a job. If she is just going to take on debt and call that being an adult, she made a bad call.

[@thuglifebear5256]

In that case I applaud your bravery in doing the right thing

[@elitesportstakes9913]

@@nuggyfresh6430 For real! Taking on debt and going away to college doesn’t make you an adult!

[@bumpcity9794]

I can see her in her bedroom lying down, taking selfies acting like a teenager. Time is passing you by sweetheart!

[@carnival30]

Bump City LOL I see the same thing.

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

And will keep marching and marching on and on, all over her, if she doesn't wake the h*** up!

[@LTJuni0r]

She enabled her daughter for 10 years too long. I bet you mom is pushing her out hoping boyfriend will propose. That guy better run 🏃

[@davidb3852]

4:48 Dave Ramsey : God help this boy if he marries her Mom: Why’s That ? Lol 😂 😂🤣

[@ezeamadi5151]

Ask mommy if Christian boy was your son would you be happy? There you go..:

[@carnival30]

Peter Peters that jumped out at me too. Did she seriously ask why is that? This woman raised a bum and is confused as to why somebody wouldn’t wanna marry her. She must be a bum too.

[@blastoiseking1437]

@@carnival30 True for it to get this bad smh

[@diannathornton2911]

The mom doesn't even think there's anything wrong with the daughter being so dependent. Mom's just ready for someone else to take care of her.

[@newphonewhothis1536]

Its like mom is delusional or something 💀

[@brycehedstrom374]

Horrible parenting. Dave is extremely kind. In our house, we told our children at age 19, "We love you and we want you to make it on your own. We hope you will be able to to come by every Sunday after church for a home cooked meal and loving conversation with your family." Both of our daughters are fabulously successful and are married to spectacular men. Stay strong, my friends.

[@vaska1999]

So, you threw your daughters out when they were 19?! In Europe, we consider such parents mean and cruel, incredibly selfish.

[@brycehedstrom374]

@@vaska1999 not sure why you would think your opinion would matter

[@vaska1999]

@@brycehedstrom374 You wouldn't be, would you? Lol

[@donaldhutchison4652]

@@vaska1999I mean if it worked lol my parents wanted me to leave at 23 and tbh I’m glad they did years later

[@EC-rd9ys]

​@@vaska1999that's because in America, you actually *can* make it on your own at 19, with the right preparation. Land of the free. We have a historical culture of pioneering people. Our culture works for us. If yours works for you, maybe you should just be happy with it.

[@javim310]

Just charge her rent, she'll either pay or leave.

[@greenAbbot]

Our 21-year-old son is paying us more than $700/month for rent, and we're still getting ready to kick him out...it's time. And no way to I want to be in this woman's situation in 11 years. More importantly, I don't want my *son* to be in her daughter's situation in 10 years...

[@cameronsantiago3155]

@@greenAbbot Don't want to be a rude, but if my parents charged me that much rent I'd rather be on my own.

[@cameronsantiago3155]

@Josh S still wouldn't want to live with my parents though

[@dionnakemp4291]

greenAbbot Can't you just let your son save up most of that money on the side? That way, he can use the savings to move out to an apartment or a house he can afford. He's probably not moving out quick enough because he's paying a lot money he can't even save. Just saying. Correct me if I'm wrong. 😂

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

@@greenAbbot thats messed up. 700 is alot...he could use that to move on

[@Eubones]

This woman will go from her parents taking care of her to a husband taking care of her.

[@sarahuber8567]

That’s how it was in the 1950’s.

[@tonylevine2716]

This phone call is absolutely ridiculous!! These parents are her enablers!! 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@90cyar]

My Mexican parents got depressed when I left the house at 23, some cultures just never want their kids to leave and others want you out by 18. Anyway, leaving the nest made me responsible and I’m grateful for it!

[@lenaheart8103]

Same in the Asian culture

[@mariannelim2082]

Same I stayed at home till I got married. But “paid rent”. Then my mum saved the money and gave it to me as my wedding present

[@kay22100]

Shame on her for manipulating her parents. I hope she grew up!

[@Rmathis80]

*Instead of asking Dave Ramsey mom, you need to ask Dr. Phil. Dave is not a psychiatrist, he's a financial advisor.*

[@momthatdoesstuff1610]

Seriously...this question really had nothing to do with money. He should direct get to family counseling. Not that his advice is bad, but he doesn't have the full story either.

[@shannon2748]

Forget Dr.Phil...go to an actual therapist in your area.

[@debrawilliams7983]

R. Mathis He , Dr. Phil, would call her worse

[@jamisojo]

Nah. Dave tells it like it is. He was honestly too gentle with the mother. She just keeps talking instead of accepting that she caused this.

[@Africa-ky1bg]

What is the college degree the daughter earned ? Basket weaving ? Is that why she is now tossing that aside & learning to he a barber ???

[@peaches75x]

Codependency 101. Sad that the parent isn’t acknowledging their role in the behaviour.

[@archiealsobrookii4755]

They are scared to admit that they failed her trying to protect her from all pain and disappointment not knowing they were doing more harm than good.

[@BLacknesmonstaz]

Omg these parents are the reason there's safe rooms for college students.... this generation of parents did this. 32 years old???!@! Come on...

[@mikenelson8377]

She’s a pushover plain and simple. 🤦🏼‍♂️ Edit: and it’s the parents’ fault for not loving their daughter enough to tell her she needs to grow up and start adulting for once in her life.

[@LasVegas_Sandra]

This family sounds like future Dr Phil show guests.

[@debrawilliams7983]

I can hear it: six months from now, her Daughter will still be there

[@thomasreedy4751]

Some guys like to provide 100% for their wives and have that level of control. I think he may be happy with his choice as a partner. Who am I to judge.

[@pseudonymshqipe854]

Lol many of these people that are judging don't have a grand saved up

[@thecatnextdoor12]

Exactly. Only broke dusties tell the man to run, because a lady won't contribute financially.

[@italyapotts7709]

Just had to put my 21 year old son out after he refused to go to Job Corp, keep a job, and follow the rules of my house and it was hard. I went through the exact same thing with my son. I told him that that he had to leave in the mornings when we leave and can't come home until we come home and that set him off. He didn't think it was fair.and said he had been applying for jobs online. So after my eyes were opened to the truth that he just didn't want to do anything I had to make the hard decision of putting him out.

[@NotQuiteEpic]

Girl needs to learn to live on her own instead of moving her dependence from her parents onto her man.

[@CeeLiberty]

"We've been trying" The important word here is "trying". Trying usually means nothing is getting done.

[@Dquelch8]

This is scary!!! If she doesn't learn some independence, she will become a Lifetime movie about her husband leaving her and now she has no idea what to do or how to do anything! She does need to be pushed into the deep end. If you're no good to yourself, you won't be good for anyone else. Lord help her not to be a disaster going somewhere to happen.

[@copwcuffs5415]

She may not want to move out so she can inherit the house when her parents pass. I've seen youngest offspring do this. They then guilt their older siblings into letting them keep the house because all the older siblings moved out and bought themselves a home, but the youngest "needs the home to live in" and "you wouldn't want to make me homeless."

[@mle011]

Happens probably more often than you’d think. My aunt never moved out of her childhood home and she’s in her 60s now. Inherited 1/3 (there were 3 kids) of everything and 100% of the home (in SoCal, so not cheap). My husband’s brother is in his 30s and still living at home, we think he’s going to do the same thing.

[@racpatrice]

I'm so glad that I'm an only child 🤣🤣🤣

[@carnival30]

Josh S LOL my thoughts exactly. I rather get a mortgage.

[@tracywalker244]

Cop wCuffs My mom put it in her will, sell the house. Thank God we all have our own homes.

[@shannon2748]

I know a 48 year old guy like this..parents coddled him his whole life. Bought two houses for him to stay in...he said he wished he could move back in with them but they said no. He lived with them until he was about 33 or 34. I bet he is hoping to get their house when they pass, too. His older sister in her 50s has always worked.

[@christitmas2044]

I left home at 20 and got a teeny tiny studio apart with my then gf, now wife. Worked pt through school, graduated. Been with the same company since I graduated, now they are paying for my mba. I’m broke because I pay my bills, working on baby step 2.

[@talyahr3302]

I'm 23 and I known I'm practically a baby but this woman makes me feel so grown up! 😁 I pay my own rent and save money. Just gotta get fired up about paying off my student loans! 😤

[@NSGLiv]

I left home at 18, I’m 20 now watching these videos really make me feel better about myself, 32 still living at home 😂😂🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@mapofthesoultagme7143]

it said she doesn't want to move away, nothing is wrong with that

[@S4h4r4s]

Haven't lived with my parents since I was 18. 31 now with more than I deserved. Thank you pops for quicking me out 😆

[@ShariWalker-f9n]

My daughter is 19 and decided that she did not want to go to college/trade school after she graduated high school. She got an entry level full time government position with benefits a week after she turned 18 and 6 months later we began charging her $500/mo in rent. We put that money aside for her for emergencies/a down payment for a home so she essentially is forced to ‘save’ $6000/yr while learning how to pay for living expenses. We also have rules for her to follow. She’s a great kid and we love the fact that she’s still here in the home with us.

[@SteVibiana]

I moved out at twenty after completing a vocational school course. I was more than ready emotionally to move out by eighteen. I can't believe these people who let their kids stay kids forever.

[@coressh5967]

Holy cow, she is too old for that. She was blessed to have her parents this long in helping her. Stay firm parents and enjoy your live's. Change your locks too once you put her out. God is with you😊

[@debrawilliams7983]

When she said she had a Boyfriend, I said wow! There are some more FOOLS out there!

[@tiffaniepatricetl]

She keeps saying she understands and agrees but they're giving her an allowance and enabling her. It hit home when Dave said she wasn't ready for marriage

[@natas0733]

He has a credit acore in the high 800s.... she will RUIN that if he marries her

[@roolyfe]

Where is the father! Discipline and structure

[@wykkydtruth]

Shame on those parents for letting it get to this point.

[@aaronosborn7395]

The boyfriend is stupid he needs to run as fast as he can from her

[@jordanneedscoffee]

Well I mean can she be a good mom though? 50 years ago that was the only question that mattered aside from is she hot

[@thecatnextdoor12]

She in fact sounds like a sweet girl. Her mom is a warm person, she is probably alike. She also loves her parents and that's a great quality.

[@PracticalBibleStudies]

Christian man wants to buy her a house and get married????? Call me. 🤙🏻

[@sopascat7]

@ Practical Bible Studies , LOL!!!

[@salomekabinga3282]

Call me too😂😁😂😂😂😂😂😂 I work🖑

[@kevinm8865]

@@salomekabinga3282 The thirst is real.

[@salomekabinga3282]

Lol not really

[@Beanhill_94]

Dave's right about the suffering makes you marriage material thing. Suffering a little makes you a compassionate and smart adult.

[@tmcfootball96]

Depending on where you live at, people in their 30s living at home with their parents is not unusual especially if the cost of living in the area is expensive. Ex: South Florida

[@katbaal4540]

@TravYou're so right, Trav! Also means their standards are too high...they can share an apartment in not such a fancy neighborhood to save money, etc. And as Dave says, no one is forcing you to continue to live in expensive areas!

[@silvereyedstacker1842]

Kat Baal Exactly. When you are low skilled or even medium skilled, you can find work anywhere. It’s when you are super skilled and highly specialized that it becomes more difficult.

[@debrawilliams7983]

tmcfootball96 But you have to at least try

[@DinaStrange]

Exactly. I guess they would rather her live away from her parents with 300K in debt. Its only in US parents throw their kids at 18 to pile on tons of debt and make dumb choices. In other countries single people often live with their parents until married and rates of divorces are LOWER.

[@harrisonwintergreen1147]

Paid for college AND barbering school AND she's living at home at 32 AND she gets an allowance AND she thinks she dictates to her parents? 😳 This is what Simon Sinek was talking about in that viral video: "failed parenting strategies"

[@kialeeendsley9496]

I know lots of women like this with older kids at home and all they do is complain make ultimatums and never stand firm on them 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@nikkole9951]

She’s my age. I can’t imagine still living at home. I’ve been on my own since I was 19. This is insane. I would have jumped off a cliff if I had to live with my mother any longer than that.

[@AmazingStoryDewd]

Why?

[@iriamonge1704]

So weird that in my country living with your parents it's a good thing, the fact that you still live with them makes people think that you're being a good daughter. I'm the only one who thinks that at 30 you should be independent

[@AmazingStoryDewd]

Many people would disagree with you on that. On my cultures that I've seen (Including my own) it's socially acceptable to be living with parents/family at that age. Nobody blinks an eye and nobody judges you. The difference being while these people live with their parents they are financially independent.

[@kevinmcm19]

Just do what my parents did and move back to Ireland

[@CassRudolph]

HER cheques are being deposited into HIS bank account?! her parents didn't even encourage her to get a bank account of her own? she's 32.

[@shannon2748]

I see this ending badly....reallllllly badly.

[@thecatnextdoor12]

$200 of every paycheck gets deposited to his account. That's savings. She probably has her own account she spends from. I still don't like the idea of depositing money into the boyfriend account for any reason whatsoever.

[@donaldhutchison4652]

I had a bank account at half that age literally 😂

[@ginah.864]

“Buttering your own bread on both sides after it comes out of the toaster...this is ridiculous!!!” Omg Dave!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mnola4742]

My problem is the opposite. I want to move out but I get opposition from my parents. Partly due to income and partly because they just don’t want me to move. Either way I’m hoping to get situated to move this year 🙏

[@barbaras676]

The boyfriend has a credit score in the “high 800’s”? Not for long😂🤣😂🤣

[@marymccann6110]

she will destroy that.

[@SR98889]

Good lord. It sounds like they are trying to arrange marrying off a child bride. Handing over custody... 🤢

[@nazbah5929]

like what my mom was/is trying to do and i refuse.

[@christinebutler7630]

She acts like a child.

[@Schmuddel]

What does it take for boomer parents to accept that a lot of their kids' behavior is their own fault?

[@NeededGR13F]

What made you assume the average Boomer understands the concept of personal responsibility.

[@jennaarmerding81]

Whether or not they contributed to what got her here they still need to get a plan to help her go from here.

[@jennaarmerding81]

@Elle D I'm not sure why you're even responding to me like a said something crazy... I said they need to handle it, I just don't think the fact that her parents clearly messed up is a blanket excuse for her not doing anything with her life.

[@NeededGR13F]

@@jennaarmerding81 it's generally best to understand the cause of a problem before finding a solution. Otherwise you might be going with the wrong solution or repeat what caused the problem.

[@madamextraordinary511]

More like a Gen X parent than a Boomer actually. Regardless, they did this young lady no favors by helicoptering her life and now wanting her to move on without any life skills. The woman admitting they were cutting strings at 30 is a little late to be honest.

[@jadeinthewoods]

I was a homeowner at 32. Time for some tough love. She’s too comfortable.

[@enigmathegrayman2953]

.....and they want to buy a house together? I think she should’ve brought that up earlier in the conversation!

[@michelthor4117]

I've never heard of a person living at home and putting pay checks into a boyfriend's bank account that lives on his own. This is insane? Mom only cares about status, money and not her daughters happiness.

[@justocho9090]

Your daughter never gonna leave. Parents are too soft and too loving

[@sofiarangel1315]

The conversations they are just now having with their daughter should’ve been had when she was 21. Unbelievable.

[@fossilmaker5745]

Wish I had an update on this. My guess is daughter still lives at home and parents are still giving her an allowance and no longer has the boyfriend.

[@sunset6010]

Her "next career" move : 5 KIDS

[@D4x4Bronc]

Exactly

[@bryanjacobs1423]

Being a stay at home mom is a viable career. According to the Bible it is the ideal career for women (Titus 2:4-5). This woman won't be having 5 kids anyway since she's already 32 and likely doesn't have enough time for that biologically. That said, she should be using her time prior to marriage and motherhood to be productive elsewhere and she's not.

[@D4x4Bronc]

@@bryanjacobs1423 can have kids up to 40. Most have 100k debt from a master degree partial doctorate and want to stay home too.

[@KennethSee]

@@bryanjacobs1423 exactly. Glad that someone else sees the truth.

[@Nanubaby3385]

D4x4Bronc actually it’s highly dangerous once the woman reaches 35 or has more than three children. The child is more susceptible to birth defects and such.