Therapist gets Demolished by Slaughter to Prevail

[@TroyBoyleAtheistAdvocate]

Something that I find MOST therapists and the mental health community has lost is the idea that anger is GOOD. Anger is useful. Anger is "original equipment" just like fear and joy. I think it's important to recognize the goodness, validity, and usefulness of anger. There is an obvious utility in giving anger free rein when you are experiencing violent conflict. It simply isn't useful to cower in fear. Anger is empowering. I say this as a veteran. The important bit is to know when your anger and rage is appropriate, and when it isn't. It isn't appropriate to express rage over a parking spot, a thoughtless driver, your spouse making a meal that you find low effort, or even as a reaction to insult or infidelity. When IS it appropriate? When you need it to overcome conflict, invasion, physical violence, and oppression. In those cases, let it grow from a flame to a bonfire to a supernova.

[@Someguywhocooks]

That's one hell of a way to express it.

[@morgmatar2117]

I normally make the distinction between righteous anger and self-righteous anger, or anger at vs anger for. I think it lines up with what you are describing. For instance, if I get mad at someone who offends my sensibilities and dwell in that anger it is neither righteous nor helpful. On the other hand, if that person is bullying someone else I can use the anger for that victim to help motivate myself to intervene. This is where the really tricky part comes in- to be angry for the victim without being angry at the abuser. The former is compassionate, while the latter is simply self-serving. This is a major area where the common moniker “love the sinner, hate the sin” becomes so difficult. Another example is with systemic injustice: if I am aware and motivated for myself and/or others to resist or change detrimental systemic imbalances, that is both healthy and helpful; if I am simply angry and bitter that my own rights (or someone else’s) are being violated, however, then I am just pouring salt in my own wound. Anger is not inherently bad or harmful, but it can be quite corrosive and destructive when improperly directed or managed.

[@kingmetalant]

I love that "Iceberg" analogy. Pain is always deeper when it is below the surface and hidden! 50y man speaking from experience.

[@unsainted804]

You're beatiful, that is so cool! Please more Slaughter To Prevail, Viking, Kid Of Darkness, Agony. They have many so cool bangers!

[@marshallyarbrough2972]

Welcome back Liv! Hope to see you more.

[@heffatheanimal2200]

2:51 Some of the guys from Slipknot have talked about how their masks enable them to let loose, to show what's buried deep beneath

[@Megadeth1921]

I always love when I see new people start to understand heavy metal music and it’s people. We’ve always been so misunderstood. I’ve been listening to heavy metal since 1974(eight years old) and I have been through just about every genre of metal there is. It’s always enjoyable when people start to realize who we are and what we are. I’ve been through pretty much everything in life, parents divorced, bussed to several different schools through junior high school years, just about every drug and untold amounts of alcohol, sobriety, children, marriage and divorce. I’m still here. Life is hard, but it’s definitely worth fighting for. The three biggest reasons why I’m still here are my daughters, my family and my music. Metalheads and metal music are always looked at as strange, mean, violent,evil and full of drugs. Funny thing is we’re probably some of the nicest people you’re ever going to meet. We’re not perfect nobody is but as a community, person for person we’ve all been through basically similar thing and we’re a very welcoming community. We always have each other and the music. I think music is the greatest tool to use in mental health especially metal music and I don’t think it’s used enough. There is so much there for people to see,hear and relate to. For the most part, metal music is all based off of some type of life experience, whether self experienced or historical. I guess what I’m saying is it’s help me survive. For me when I’m angry, nothing better than hard-core metal, feeling a little down and depressed? The blues and some good soul music alleviates that pain. When you’re happy any genre will do, if I’m stressed Punk rock works for some reason😂😂, I really enjoy seeing mental health people opening up to heavy metal music. It’s really appreciated. Great reaction.👏👏👏👏🤘🤘🤘🤘

[@edwardfordyce6174]

You guys are awesome. Wish you were around 20 years ago

[@heffatheanimal2200]

Those of us who have gone through prolonged trauma, victimization, abuse, repression, manipulation, being forced into a survival state; we have massive store of pent up emotion. Depending on the circumstances we may not have learned how to express, control and utilize them. Sorrow, pain, anger, guilt, all exacerbated by our environment, but we're taught to repress them. Even after 40+ years as a psych patient, the most profound therapy sessions I have EVER had were in moshpits. When all the circumstances are right, being surrounded by that energy, by people who know and share those feelings, being in a place where its okay and safe and supported to just let it all out. Not only is it a transcendent experience, but its a self learning experience

[@donlengel4770]

The soul screaming out . That's more like it !

[@Pikawarps]

i have a concussion, it was so hard not to headbang to this song lol

[@morgmatar2117]

aaaw man I’ve been there, it’s soo counterproductive lol

[@jamesgreer9366]

Ben there!! Looking at neck surgery... Always do!! Tore my ACL seeing them in August this year....

[@blamedexter]

She's hooked she gonna be listening to STP, Lorna Shore, Exodus, Disembodied Tyrant in like 3 months

[@theparadisesnare]

I love how in tune with the breakdowns and drums she is. Fucking epic, can tell she was feeling it!

[@Mass-produced]

She's one of us already 🖤🤘

[@se7en6two]

Ima go wrestle a bear now................

[@morgmatar2117]

that was one of the chillest bears ever

[@Robert-nx5ez]

Man if you’re going for an emotional metal, check out pain remains 1-3 by Lorna shore. Whole set of songs deals with loss.

[@timmyzg13]

Just one word...catharsis

[@WednesdaysVlog]

I'd like to request one of your therapists react to "Save Me" by Lacuna Coil, I think it would be a perfect choice for HeartSupport to do a reaction to. The lyrics focus on themes of mental health and relying on friends during dark times and musically it's a beautiful Metal ballad!

[@WednesdaysVlog]

I second this, even though I wrote the original comment.

[@nathanhimmerich2]

There's a reason we have more male metalheads. Anger in men is suppressed. Women deal with anger in a socially acceptable way, regardless of whether it escalates the conflict or not. The masculine way of dealing with anger is not socially acceptable, but is more direct. Any therapist will tell you that communication should be direct, that your feelings are valid and need to be expressed. The idea of masculine anger being a problem to express is a big part of the catharsis in metal, we get to vent some of those frustrations. I'm 6'2 and intimidating, but had a narcissistic mother (as in NPD). I'm a bit sensitive to the female side of anger as a consequence, and have always felt the need to repress my own anger lest there should be some big reaction. I also don't want to be labeled an aggressor just because I'm angry for a valid reason, but masculine anger is "scary".

[@FasterLEE]

Слушатели Дет металла самые спокойные люди!

[@tylercourtney3060]

Hey huge fan!! You guys do soooo much! Could I request a song.... "to the flowers" by British band While She Sleeps would love to hear your views in this song! 🤟❤

[@mquilez01]

+1!

[@The.Metal.Therapist]

This is a great great song I have had it on repeat recently in the run up to seeing them on Saturday in Manchester!!

[@Tyius420]

Alex is super sweet and a big softy irl

[@viktororlov5105]

Шиколай конечно зверюга

[@angelnova5854]

Саня рулит 🎉

[@krodin7884]

Should do a react on please end me by paleface Swiss or really anything by kublai khan tx

[@lvalledor3440]

Liv 😍 Please do react to some more Slipknot 😊

[@pboom738]

FIXXXER by Metallica please 😊

[@yungcv1060]

U should check Bring Me The Horizon - And the snakes start to sing

[@metaboys2409]

Listen to scissors by slipknot!!!!

[@AveSatanas-f1t]

How’s Tay Tay doing sending love to her

[@RipCityMixes]

This girl is hilarious

[@METALLISTIC]

Russian deathcore😎

[@yadevk8025]

You need to react to Arcane and League of Legends music videos. Trust me. -_-.

[@wolfinthesno]

Not a therapist, but anger, is something ive often been told that i have "managment issues" with....the more and more that i explore it with my own therapist the more i realize that no, i dont have management issues its that people have ignored my needs to the point where a blowout occurs and i let them know theyve crossed the line, unfortunately in my circle, some of those people dont even seem to understand what crossing a line means. Fortunately through mindfullness practice, and a fair bit of exploration through both meditation and some psychadelics i have realized that anger is just as legitimate as love. It is a powerful tool, that unfortunately weve been taught to supress, particlarly for some women it is not "pretty" to be angry. However i can think of at least 4 or 5 different stories of me using my anger in a situation, that it was a valid way to both express myself, and to calm someone else who was angry, on the opposing side to my anger. Customer relationships are a tricky thing to manage. If you have a pissed off customer, who comes in and challenges how youve chosen to deal with them, or their business or whatever, and you just back down, and say yeah "we were wrong" heres a refund, you can still lose that customer. However for example i had a customer come in furious with us. IT PUT ME TOTALLY off heal. So much so that i just sat down when i realized how angry they were. When i did this i did it intentionally to allow the customer the space to vent his anger at me, and with me. The customer managed to say a few things that i happened to know 100% were not true of how we handled the situation that had arisen. So once i had heard the full argument, and he started to circle round again, i intentionally let my anger come to a controlled boil. When i hit the controlled boil, i stood back up calm, and controlled, i waited for an approptiate time to interject, and started by saying something along the lines of "I have heard your argument, and i understand your frustration but its now my turn to speak", and the customer being a rational respectable person, accepted this and allowed for me to vent my frustrations for the things that he said that i knew were false, and apologise for the way the situation had been handled, so that he wound up feeling this way. As i vented my frustration i could feel his anger level coming back from a full on boil over to boiling, eventually to a simmer, when i saw him hit the simmering point, i again intentionally sat back down, and then we continued the convorsation along the lines of how we could avoid further misunderstandings, and how we can better serve them. This ended in me managing to maintain a customer and bring him back from the point where he was probably going to ask for his money back, and we would have never seen or heard from him again, and now he will be back for mor business later on. Anger, should be respected. Boiled over anger, is the result of someone pushed past the breaking point, and past that point it should be respected doubly, because a person at this point as you even pointed out, may say things completely unrelated to the current situation, that lend to understanding why they are truly angry. For all i know, just giving my customer the space to vent may have eased over tensions that had nothing to do with the dispute he had with me.

[@Narwelch]

WRONG

[@ArtemPadalkin]

STOP. PROMOTING. RUSSIAN. ARTISTS.

[@mattroden4544]

Why does it matter where the band comes from? Its the message of the song and the feeling that is all that matter