Therapist Reacts To: Shades of Cool Music Video by Lana Del Rey *eye rolls for the old man, NOT LDR*

[@CatnapWhisper]

In her blue jeans video she meets this man (who is her age at the time), in her born to die video he's the cause of her death, and in this video her memory is haunting him in his older age (she has the same bathing suit on as when she meets him in blue jeans) (the older and younger version of him are both in the west coast video too!)

[@mendwithmere]

Ok, this is fascinating

[@joed8612]

West Coast time 👀

[@gmz1925]

this is just a fan theory this is not confirmed by lana

[@nataliacoronado1300]

Does it also relate to off to the races?

[@karlitapalacios5719]

It's a dark theory but it's just a reference, Because the two songs talk about heartbreak, it's just a theory the songs don't relate like that and talk about other topics.

[@daisy22741]

I was amazed when you reacted to Black Beauty and literally said “this person is unfixable”!!!!! Perfect that you did this song next

[@mendwithmere]

It’s wild

[@aymanchakir6556]

@@mendwithmere it is about the same person but dw he wasn't an old man😭

[@skiddlydip]

your face everytime the old guy came on screen had me dyinggg

[@Cami_2006.]

My interpretation of this music video is that she already left him or perhaps died but he can’t stop thinking about her and seeing her everywhere.

[@obhatti]

Exactly - which is why he's blue aka depressed. Which also explains the drugs and alcohol usage on his part.

[@mendwithmere]

Interesting!

[@grllikesboy5118]

I thought the premise of this video is that he was haunted by her ghost

[@amandacarmona8981]

Back at the UV era there was a theory on tumblr that Lana is actually a ghost in this MV. THere was a whole debate about why she died and why she continues to haunt him, one of them being that he was responsible for her death. As I recall, the scene where he sees her swimming and makes the sign of the cross was one of the main points that gave birth to this theory.

[@shilohgoes5544]

Violets for Roses may be an uplifting break from these darker songs 💛

[@GiovanniBorgneth-fb8pm]

I agree

[@eljorthesun]

omg yes❤

[@aliunplugged91]

U r so right

[@JJ-hr2ti]

YESSS!!!

[@neftalialejandrovegavega7263]

Definitely, such a powerful song

[@gabospacecowboy]

There's a theory that this older man is actually the same guy from when they were young... but Lana's character "died" and the ghost of her haunts him. I recommend watching the music videos for Blue Jeans, Born To Die and West Coast. They are connected.

[@XUndyingNightshadeX]

THIS!!!

[@SummerDelReyboy]

This literally makes sense cause she cut off a scene of her drowning like in the blue jeans music video and also the guy is doing the cross sign when he’s seing her swimming

[@cherrydelrey1949]

@@SummerDelReyboy I never noticed the "father-son-holy ghost" crossing motion before. Good catch!

[@SummerDelReyboy]

@@cherrydelrey1949 yeah ‘ sorry for the wrong words “ cross sing / father son holy “ i’m french lol but thanks :D

[@marcodavidalmeidanevarez797]

She being a Therapist, being stressed out by Lana being....unwell, just gives me life and make me laugh so much. Love your videos❤

[@CarmenNevada]

One of her best videos is Chemtrails Over The Country Club. I think you'd enjoy that, has a "women who run with the wolves" feel to it. The song is excellent too, finding peace in the mundane with your girl friends. There's a clear distinction between Lana's earlier work (focused a lot on provoking issues, substance/sexual abuse, daddy issues etc.) and her later work... I think a lot of the comments suggest you go explore her earlier work because it has a stronger sound but I think her later work is where you'll fully enjoy and embrace her due to the lyrical content and her insane self-awareness and clever writing.

[@mendwithmere]

You had me at “women who run with the wolves”

[@longislandnamibia6879]

This is honestly my favorite Lana song. Visually this music video is a masterpiece!

[@elinakhisamova3569]

THE BEST MUSIC VIDEO REALLY

[@housekinokuni903]

@@mendwithmere yes it's a gorgeous song and video, very girlpower-y

[@yaseminkaya6826]

​@@mendwithmere on beautiful which is a song in blue banisters lana says let me run with the wolves let me do what i do you can check it out this song it is really inspiring

[@claraazevedo1826]

shades of cool is my favorite song from any artist, it’s just so beautifully made, from the production to the emotion in her voice

[@TheAnastyB]

The way your face changes from very impressed to unimpressed in 5 second is so funny 😂 love it, love you

[@carmencaiin]

i think the bonnie’s blue line is a double entendre because what u said makes sense relating to history which lana has an interest in but also i think she’s just saying she’s one of the many girls (bonnies) that are sad (blue) now because of this man

[@mariamiguelmartins6227]

There are a lot of people who think this song is about an old man being haunted by a dead lover. Love ur vids btw❤

[@joicheri6206]

The manny bullets "crossing" her holographic image (which looks like a ghost), him making the holy trinity sign/prayer when he sees her swimming (as if he's just seen something supernatural), plus him completely petrified when she gets out of the pool bathed in light really supports that theory

[@paulaaaaaaaaaaaaa25]

i think that in this music video the old men represents a past lover. lana is a ghost bc she’s dead and he just keeps seeing her years after.

[@tom_j.]

Just got tickets to see Lana in Italy, this is the best way to end this day😊

[@myopia2020]

Congratulations!👏 (I hope Lana and her hair are ready to go onstage at the allotted time)

[@tom_j.]

@@myopia2020 lmaooo, honestly she can get on that stage, only sing Salvatore and leave and I would be happy

[@myopia2020]

@@tom_j. I'm sure you're going to have a great time!🙂

[@mendwithmere]

Ahhh amazing!!

[@LasagnaDelRey99]

Your beef with older men is so funny i cant

[@Pheonixess]

She must have had one or a couple relations with them in the past and loves them deep down, but hates them so much now ahahaha.

[@mendwithmere]

@@Pheonixesshahaha now you are psychoanalyzing me! Ahha love it. There is def some truth there

[@txsgreen714]

When I got older and realized the older guys weren't actually cool, they were creepy and controlling ..ugh

[@jens2049]

​​@@txsgreen714all older men right?

[@txsgreen714]

@jens2049 Well, it takes a certain type of man to date a high school kid.

[@marticiapulp]

I believe its part of a story about when she was dating this (here portrayed as) older man. He used to be in West Coast video. West Coast lyrics said "I'm leaving You for the moment, boy blue" and that she "sees him swingin'" what is a metaphor for cheating. So chronically Shades of Cool says how she can't change her gloomy (blue) lover, telling about him dating other women, him being a drug addict. Then we got West Coast where she tells she is actually leaving him for the same actor portrayed in Born to Die and Blue Jeans. I believe she comes back to East Coast and New York because she said she's leaving the older lover "for the music" and in Brooklyn Baby we can hear her singing that she came back to singing jazz with her boyfriend that plays in the band. Then, next song on album is still about being cheated on, and it's Sad Girl. May be meaning that she believed she will be happy leaving him, but she feels like no one can replace him. "His Bonnie on the side makes me a sad sad girl" Then we got Pretty When You Cry, in which she says "All those special times I spent with you, my love" still thinking about how the past lover hurt her and lyrics: Don't say you need me when, You leave and you leave again. I'm stronger than all my men except for you" I believe it's a whole story. In Honeymoon album she seems like trying to heal from this era and this toxic relationship but she is still hurt. That's how I see it at least. You guys can correct me if my interpretation of the plot is wrong

[@Cami_2006.]

May I suggest “Cheery Blossom” for a future video? It’s a very beautiful song and I think it has more mother related themes.

[@xhappyponyxwasmyoldname1395]

Yes!!!

[@lakesbarbara8776]

The song is about loving a cool dude . Now we know lots of interesting , cool dudes aint your average pretty boy . It’s an energy . Mark Maloney depicts someone that’s complex been around the block many times, has a stories to tell , wisdom ,kinda like Keith Richard’s . Lana loves the complicated , old soul and will take that over a pretty innocent boy anyday. I. Love how she makes this known in the video and song , she’s not your basic chick .

[@nanc-y]

Please do Tropico! It's such a gorgeous short film for the "Paradise" EP, it's like a music video for 3 songs)

[@anapivotto]

This old man is an American tattoo artist, Lana has another clip with him of the song "West Coast", please review this music video too, it's very good, has many references to a documentary about jazz singer Chet Baker and it's in black and white, a masterpiece. This song is amazing by the way, her voice is sublime! Love your reactions and all your eye rolls hahahah 💙

[@draculatherapy]

blue banisters would just be an amazing album to react to

[@pawnblue]

There's also an outtake from this music video at the end, in the footage she sinks in the water slowly and dies. I believe the video got changed last minute over her controversy after saying "i wish i was dead already" in an interview

[@CyndeLooWho]

This poor guy. He’s just an actor.

[@mendwithmere]

I know, I’m the worst

[@LolitaLaGrotta]

@@mendwithmerehe’s actually a very well known tattoo artist in los angeles, he owns the shamrock social club tattoo parlor. his name is mark mahoney.

[@renosplants1048]

Most of her early work is controversial, with these dark and taboo subjects. Her later work is very different. She’s evolved greatly as a writer.

[@elsalanchester8495]

The lyrics "and when he calls, he calls for me not for you" could also very well be a reference to when she said that same line in her cover of a Nina Simone song titled "the other woman" (from her "ultraviolence" album)

[@lilisannaosou]

She has a lot of songs with the theme of "the other woman" and I can't understand why I felt so connected to it, I still don't know if it can be related, but in her case, she had an absent mother during her childhood and in my case, my father was very absent in my upbringing...he never liked to talk to me and if there was a scale to define how much between him and my mother I wanted them to be present in my life, he was always below from the average. But however distant, I always felt more protected when he was around, and when he wasn't around, I didn't feel like a normal child.... I never managed to have friends, bring friends to my house, create deep bonds of friendship , getting along with ex-boyfriends...or relatives who distanced themselves from me...

[@wjejeiissue4308]

You my little sparkle jump rope queen

[@erinhawkins5984]

The man is Mark Mahoney, a legendary tattoo artist. He’s also in the West Coast video of Lana’s. I wouldn’t read into it too much. They were just acting out a story, plus some women dig older guys.

[@roselane8152]

I'm not much into man, but dude he has some charm 😅.

[@mendwithmere]

I dig older guys. If you know my background, my husband cheated on me with a much younger woman so it has nothing to do with Mark and everything to do with me. Kinda embarrassing now that I’ve healed. He didn’t deserve it.

[@gevieouttaluck]

Kinda wish Lana had more music videos with old men just to see Mere roast them

[@anam14149]

Can you please do Lana's short movie Tropico (it contains of 3 Lana songs: Body electric, Gods and monsters and finally my favorite Lana's song Bel Air) Also few great unreleased songs: fine china, your girl, kinda outta luck, Pawn shop blues... Thanks in advance🥹💝

[@jkdw]

yes Tropico

[@aleksR18]

Also Because of you Tired of singing the blues Pink champagne ( this is demo version of her COTCC song Let me love you like a woman and honestly I prefer the demo version even though they're both great) 1949 Big eyes (she did this and I can fly for the movie Big eyes) Serial killer She's not me Queen of disaster TV in black and white Hollywood's dead Smarty Yayo

[@anam14149]

@@aleksR18 omg yess it would be so great if she did those songs cause there aren't many reactions for unreleased songs on KZbin

[@jens2049]

Gotta love when its okay to shame a man for being old

[@dominic3137]

You have to do the candy necklace music video pleaseee😫😫😫

[@pawnblue]

You should give a listen to an unreleased song of hers called "cult leader", its an outtake from the ultraviolence album. The song's lyrics also talk about this Jim person that she often mentions, especially in the ultraviolence song. I would be curious to see what you think the song is about, many people say its about Jim Jones, it's one of her darkest songs tbh, Lana herself was in a cult in the past, in a 2014 interview she said "I used to be a part of this, I'll call it a sect. There was this insane charisma about this guy who was a leader of the cult, he surrounded himself with young girls. But then i found out this guru wasn't a good but a bad person. Eventually I left the sect, the guru believed he had to break people before he can build them up again" its a really disturbing story tbh, this interview itself is really hard to find.

[@MinaBlak]

I believe he's representing an old man who never got over his dead lover & sees her ghost everywhere, thus the drinking & the mournful blue vibe. The last scene, he has to get drunk to still be able to feel her dancing with him for a brief moment until she literally slips through his fingers...

[@coast7325]

Lana’s “High By The Beach” music video is the best, the song is really empowering

[@renna4216]

singing "all I wanna do is get high by the beach" for 4 minutes straight is not creative, nor empowering... one of her worst singles ever. super generic and boring.

[@jjxxn.]

@@renna4216whaaaat😃

[@caps07]

Actually the music video explains a lot. It is a continue to born to die. Lana died and her boyfriend after years(that's why he is older) can't forget about her. And in the music video imagines being with Lana. She appears in the pool the first time, but then she is not, cause he imagined of her. And that's why she says she can't break through his world. She is dead and not in Earth

[@thetherionsway]

my FAVVVVV theory

[@mendwithmere]

Ok, this makes sense. Im doing a video on all this

[@QuadrupleAndy]

laughed so much at your reaction to the poor old man😭 honestly agree with that after going through my share of relationships with older men...

[@lucaslionardo]

YOUR REACTION ON IT IS JUST FUCKING HILARIOUS LOOOOOOOL

[@enyayo]

fucking DYING at your reactions every time the old dude comes on. relatable.

[@DianaTreviño-t7y]

Please do White Dress!!!! There’s a lot to unpack

[@justamelia]

mere looking at lana coming out of the pool: 😍💘😌🤩 mere looking at the old man see lana coming out of the pool: 🤢🤮🥴😵‍💫 LITERALLY MY REAL REACTION 😭

[@lanadeldamsel]

The random facts you tell us out of nowhere is so funny 😭

[@mendwithmere]

Hahaha like what??

[@susyycarlyle]

@@mendwithmerethe veins thing (cool undertones etc)

[@danielecarta7383]

It would be beautiful if you’d react to every Lana’s album the way they went out cause they (she) tell(s) her story. You can see her growth and her maturity and the deepness of her song and thematics release after release. I think you’d appreciate. Btw my favorite album is Honeymoon and I hope you’ll react to it ❣️

[@kiddDEVY]

Not, Mere, sitting her roasting Lana's lover for several minutes straight. I'm lmao. But I think you get the type of guy that Lana was attracted too or is attracted too - don't know if its still, yet the description that you grasped is what we know of men that have come through her life. This song I think fits in lot with Lana having both types of "parent holes" and in trying to fix it in lovers while also some point realising that she can't and leaving him (them) which we see in later songs. I want to say that this might be another clear mention of the "Bill" who is the unconfirmed person from Lana's past with whom she was romantically involved, who was also the subject of "Black Beauty" and "Hundred Dollar Bill" along with other a few other songs. Anyways, great interpretation, Mere.

[@wellinbrito8608]

Born to die and blue jeans' videos are my favorites, visually perfect in my op

[@hi-xv9kt]

PLS TAKE A LOOK ON SERIAL KILLER PLS PLS TAKE A LOOK ON SERIAL KILLER PLS PLS TAKE A LOOK ON SERIAL KILLER PLS

[@superhamham]

Lana is definitely a ghost and is haunting her past lover because he can't get over her ❤

[@Nik-xk1jm]

There's a connecting story that runs thru some of these mvs. It starts from Born to Die mv where Lana dies, and part 2 is Blue Jeans, part 3 is Shades of Cool, and lastly part 4 is West Coast mv where in the last scene she is again burning in the fire, like the way she died in part 1 Born to Die mv. All these follow the story that their teenage love(as shown in BTD mv) was so strong that even when she died, he kept seeing her soul till he is old. One reference is Lana swimming in the pool in Shades Of Cool mv with her eyes above water, like crocodiles, just like they are shown in Blue Jeans mv, and her white dress is repeated here to show that reference! Another reference is in last scene of West Coast where she is buring in fure but she seems alright, because its her soul now. She has already died in the Born to Die mv. Do check those out and you'll love how the story follows thru the visuals!

[@LeslyQuii]

OMGG i never click a video so fast, i love It, thanks for react to Shades of cool❤

[@emobucket3083]

I’m surprised no one has said that the old man is actually Lana’s tattoo artist in real life

[@MaryVaughnMusic]

I always thought it was “I’m one of many on his beau,” ? Will have to listen again. Forgot how much I love this song!

[@EspoMoon]

Yasssssss let’s do more video reactions to Lana 🎉❤

[@azidanenr]

everytime i feel like 'hating' for Lana loving an old men, it also reminds me to her song that said "but you haven't see my man". and i was like ok then🤣

[@m_li_ma]

Sad Girl! Another great song to react to ❤

[@h3xd0ll]

at the risk of coming off ageist, which i am not at all. i totally empathize and relate to your feelings towards these older men that she has in these videos. it definitely makes me uncomfortable and get the ick just from my own personal experiences and feelings. and i have a feeling lana does that purposefully, which i haven’t thought about til now.

[@pamelapiano3904]

Yes, an interview with Lana, plllleeeaaasssseeee!!!!

[@GiovanniBorgneth-fb8pm]

Violet for Roses next

[@jan-qi7mx]

We love you old man from shades of cool video 😭

[@andrew01016]

Say how you feel! Give all the faces

[@Dave-vb4nd]

The whole Ultraviolence album is gonna be a hard pillow to swallow for you as far as I can tell…

[@karlitapalacios5719]

You're hot hot, weather in the summer, high high, neglecful lover, hot hot, weather in the summer, high, neglecful lover, you're crumbling sadly, you're sadly crumbling. It's the lyrics of the bridge.

[@guilhermecruz3857]

I suggest you doing Black Bathing Suit!!!

[@beliarincon9156]

This older guy is an actor. Hes not the actual guy in her lyrics lol hes a good looking older man and probably nice lol

[@srgwyoutube]

8:11 I wonder if those lyrics are parallel to her "Sad Girl" lyrics. Maybe in this moment shes mentioning the acquisition of the upper hand of being or feeling like the favorite, maybe Bonnie is another girl of his who is lonely aka blue because he is spending his time with or thinking about Lana. Maybe when she says Bonnie's blue shes mentioning his back and forth between multiple women and how it effects their mental states Sad Girl: "His bonnie on the side makes me a sad sad girl" Shades of Cool: "I'm one of many, Bonnie's blue." Sad Girl: "Being a mistress might not be something you would do, But you haven't seen my man, hes got the fire and he lives with it." "Watch what you say to me, careful who you're talking to, I'm on fire" She has the same edginess and attitude but shes bothered and expressing an emotion that she's still in, and she talks about him in a good light like hes worth whatever down sides. Shades of Cool: I can't do nothing bout his strange weather. Unfixable. Hot weather in the summer, High neglectful lover. You're crumbling sadly. At this point it sounds like she's not even mad anymore shes just tired of dealing with him

[@AsiaKishai]

Can't wait for Cruel World ❤❤

[@JoseGM8]

I’d recommend reacting to pretty when you cry. Great song and there’s a lot to discuss

[@EspoMoon]

There’s a theory that he is actually the guy from born to die and this is in the future after she died in the scar crash and this video is him having memories of her and wishing she was still there

[@feruribe3801]

You should do of: Pretty When You Cry, Cola, White Mustang, Fuck It I Love You. !!!! Btw, I love your videos Mere !!!!

[@somuchsavv]

Ahhh the 28th is my puppies birthday, so that’s a sign for me if I’ve ever seen one! Lol also I totally relate to getting the ick from old men. Since childhood I remember being sexualized by men in my family/fam friends etc I hated it then and I hate it even more now.

[@odin8352]

The actor is her friend and she made another video with him.

[@sol_badano]

The best videos are candy necklace and national anthem! (My opinion) I'm sure you will love the first one ❤

[@thytuz]

Rewatching every single one of your Lana reactions just to say that you are amazing and I love you

[@mendwithmere]

❤

[@JJ-hr2ti]

Violets for roses next please!!!

[@Pietro-hv4sy]

There are many theories about this song being about an old man stuck on his love (who's dead) and so he's like "depressed" and is haunted by her

[@juniorhuante658]

Tbh i always thought that the man in this mv is really cute

[@ezequielerso6684]

👁️👄👁️ your face every scene when the man is on screen

[@maquinaextraordinaria]

I love all your analysis so much!!! Could you make one to You Can Be the Boss? I think it goes a lot into these themes as well. Thank u

[@edoliveira7695]

WHERE IS OLD MONEY QUEEN

[@rebelrebel2567]

ARTDECO should be next ..

[@tonsdelegal]

eu não aguento a cara que ela faz toda vez que aparece um homem nos clipes hahhahah

[@JR_Cargile]

Love would be a very refreshing positive one to listen to if you feel like you need a positive song. And Love Song!

[@edoliveira7695]

i don’t know if you know marina and the diamonds, but i think you’ll love “starring role”

[@dalemartin7439]

I wonder what she'd think of "Teen Idle"

[@onyourownkid.]

all of electra heart honestly!

[@edoliveira7695]

@@dalemartin7439 literal depression and sadness :/

[@edoliveira7695]

@@onyourownkid. yesssssssss

[@pcbusby]

Or happy by marina! That song is wonderful

[@ericschielke1954]

I have to laugh so hard, everytime you see this old guy and make that face 😂😂😂

[@canyousaylegendaric]

Her smile fading away 11:40 I'M CRYINGGG

[@yasna450]

Girl u gotta balance your sound and the music vid sound . Love your reaction xx

[@dafinnyrez]

I'm late but may i suggest "dark but just a game" for a future react? I think it has a little bit of connection w/ change and the concept of the "candy necklace" mv

[@coreyperkins3608]

You should play California by Lana Please!!! I love you and thank you for this fun trip as well

[@edoliveira7695]

and i love your reactions ❤️

[@cagehro]

I just want to say: I love the way your eyes roll when you see the old man. I think the same. She deserves fresh blood, young bodies of beautiful men. Love all of your reactions. I hope you do Thunder

I'm from Argentina. Love your reactions. I don´t speack english but.... I learn english listening to you!

[@mendwithmere]

That's awesome!

[@larissadovalle]

please add pink champagne to your list, it's kinda dark but i'm sure you'll love it, it’s an unreleased song and it's one of my favorites

[@bryanorta6949]

A lo que yo entiendo en el video es que eran pareja cuando eran jóvenes y ella murió (por eso la escena del disparo) y el la mira joven (porque murió joven) pero el ya envejeció y por eso la mira porque la recuerda

[@florayelen5139]

As a psychologist, why do you think it's wrong to fall in love with an older man???? it happens to most of us lana fans

[@mendwithmere]

I don’t think it’s wrong. It’s triggering for me bc I relate so much and yes, it happens to most women. It’s complex. I explain more in other videos ❤️

[@faisalalzhrani9838]

11:50 stop ittt I laughed so hard😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@Whimsy_Leaf]

11:33 the Bi panic was so real for me in that moment. she is sooooo gorgeous

[@cherrydelrey1949]

Mere, you've got to react to the West Coast video. I think you would just love the song sonically overall, it's my second favorite song of hers. I think we would love to share that experience with you. 😊 The mobster reference, yes! Tony Soprano has entered the chat hahaha and he always had side chicks while he was married hmmm you may be on to something. And Lana's favorite movie is The Godfather and she's said in interviews that it heavily inspired her early work. So I can certainly see her romanticizing that type of man. Lol the deep "gangly" omg I love it. I think "Cruel World" would also be a fun one for you to analyze too.

[@katherineauber]

The older men thing is starting to make me kind of sad. This is going to sound strange, but it was one of the first things I related to Lana about when I left my abusive relationship I kind of traveled along a bit, and I made a lot of friends with older people, especially some older men and their wisdom Got me through a lot. Strangely enough I am now in love with someone who is 21 years older than me I’m 34 he is 55 and I am happier than I’ve ever been in my entire life. For me personally, I dated men my age and got abused mentally , physically or both. And I don’t think it’s all what it seems in her videos I believe in this video she’s a ghost, and this is the man when he is much older.

[@dannvint]

Thank you so much for reacting to this, even though some things were a little disgusting. The song with the video are truly a masterpiece.

[@emrah8328]

chemtrails over the country club music video is one of her best and theres no old man hahah, i believe you would love it since its happier song, you didnt do any song from that album anyway

[@clara11t]

You saying that she's a goddess and wanting this old man who really doesn't care about her, it's amazing hahahah it's exactly what I always feel watching it 🫠