Tamika Scott Of Xscape Explains Her Side Of The Story For SWV & XSCAPE "Queens Of R&B" Episode 1

#xscape #swv #reality #show #music #over #drama #bravo

[@karmenmoore2325]

It was painful to watch their mom mouth to LaTocha that Tamika is jealous of her. It broke my heart 🥺

[@tanishiacooper4200]

So wrong!!

[@user-nubiangoddess]

My mom is tht same way .she push the issue of sibling rivalry .no mom should av a preference

[@autumn975]

Reminds me of my grandmother and how she is with my aunts compared to my mom

[@Tippy150]

I agree.

[@hoodbttm871]

That hurt me and proved tamika was right bout latacha and Mrs Gloria

[@SthandwaM]

The fact that, despite everything, you tell your daughters to remain respectful to their aunty & grandma says alot about your character, loyalty, & integrity 👏🏾

[@Marshay]

Definitely

[@GeeQue03]

I would cut my mom AND my sister off FOREVER! Them girls know them two birds ain’t right. That’s why Tocha solo career never went anywhere…ole basic hussy

[@phyllismorrow2414]

I believe every word you said . About your sister . You are a beautiful Lady i hate you felt out with Kandi. But life goes on .

[@neeciiw7840]

Definitely!! I love that🙌🏾💯

[@marquitashiver6141]

💯 I love that and that's how it should be ♥️

[@TheMediaSource]

We are with you Tamika. We believe you

[@tamekaseymore9809]

Love Me Some Tamika... Definitely believe her.

[@CleverAOYM]

We’re all on her team. The only people that aren’t are the ones just like Tocha and their mom

[@tamekaseymore9809]

@@CleverAOYM Exactly..

[@praise777always9]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!

[@joyandpeace6885]

I truly believe you, just keep praying about the situation.🥰🤗🙏🏽

[@PeachesYancy]

My heart really breaks for Tamika, and she is still sticking up for them. “My mama was a great mama..” baby no she was not and still currently isn’t.

[@plt4life629]

So true she said that as the little girl still wanting love and acceptance. And knowing Deaconness Wig she would’ve thrown that 2 jobs etc in her face as being a “good” mom.

[@topazspivey823]

Your daughter is an intelligent young queen. She is absolutely correct. Parental favoritism can be a form of psychological abuse if the parent subjects the child to behavior that can result in mental trauma such as depression, anxiety or self-esteem issues.

[@dawndawn45]

I AGREE🙂

[@mercedesvallar3384]

I agree

[@mingteo]

It's narcissistic abuse, any way you slice it. It's clear as day.

[@marthashepherd935]

I agree also 😊

[@asktheglutenfreechef3072]

Absolutely

[@LCMichelle00]

Tamika did an amazing job singing LaTocha's parts at their concert! Although it was only three of them, their show did not miss a beat! Keep growing and glowing!!! (I saw Xscape in November 2022 on the Monica and Friends tour)

[@koeathalatrice]

So the concert was done without her sister?

[@rellysunshine9665]

Great because I plan on catching them when they return to Los Angeles.

[@akimat418]

They went on tour when Kandi left the group because she didn’t want to be in the group anymore.

[@HoneyLove77]

When did you go to the show?!

[@tcp79]

Yes they have been doin shows without her. They took her off the promo pic

[@whitneyfan9019]

We are on your side Tamika. I could tell by your sisters body language that she was lying and same with your mother. I could see the guilt all over their faces. It’s very unfortunate and sad how your sister is behaving. Your sister is going to need you before you need her.

[@chocolatedoll1488]

Well said 🤎

[@nubiangoddess9999]

Exactly, unfortunately this type of thing happens all the time

[@sophianewlevelunlocked3994]

In that order.💯🙏🏽

[@MessyyMissyy]

You could definitely tell Tocha was LYING, lol.

[@nubiangoddess9999]

@@MessyyMissyy yes, that's so sad that they team up on her like that. They should be ashamed of themselves.

[@devlynjackson8049]

I love how you’ve taught your girls, in spite of all that’s going on, to still respect your mom and sister. Those girls LOVE you and don’t want ANYONE mistreating their mom.. ❤️

[@deanthonyparnell1394]

That's a hard thing for a child to watch their mom or dad be attack. Especially their Mother, natural instincts is to fight young or older.💯

[@terence4427]

The daughter wearing glasses is very perceptive and smart. She framed the family dynamic perfectly. Impressive for such a young lady.

[@brittneesanders9632]

Right!!!

[@inmyopinionnnn]

She got just like her mom

[@sunnybright8206]

Yes I like her she’s actually very smart and realizes her mom is being abused

[@mermaid30019]

She called it right, it’s emotional abuse.

[@marztitus3472]

@@mermaid30019 she actually said mental abuse. But it’s both. Mental and emotional. I feel so bad for Tomeka

[@DaringDanielletravels]

It was so hard to watch your mom whisper "She's jealous" to your sister when you were trying to explain your feelings and for them to minimize your feelings by saying you were just acting. You deserve support. Glad you have your daughters.

[@kelisreal]

That really pissed me off and confirmed a lot for me

[@jakeemapatterson1413]

God knew she needed her daughters

[@BeautifulmeMakeup]

God will handle it. He always have a way of bringing ppl back to you who has wronged you.

[@christinad6650]

Yeah that was really horrible. I’ve only heard of this with some of our men, but wow I would’ve never thought. Now we see why Tocha act the way she does. She’s like a big kid! It’s sad.

[@Knowledge33729]

Yes omg I was hoping that was for drama ratings purposes n not her acting like that towards her daughter in real life 😢that’s sickening

[@cjsmalls7636]

I agree with your daughter that it was mental abuse...and emotional abuse when you really think about it. The way your mom whispered "She's just jealous" to your sister behind your back not validates what felt but also exhibits mental and emotional abuse. Prayers to you and your family 🙏🏾

[@GingerBee2011]

I've known Tamika since I was a child, and she's not a mean person, and I'm shocked. I pray that all this comes together for them. I'm so sorry for all of this that they're going through. Nedrea (Bee) Scott; Washington D.C.

[@alexiamathis7330]

I have a new respect for Tamika. She is not speaking with any malice in her heart. Also, though she is speaking and standing strong this has to be hurtful.

[@blackbeauty829]

This sometimes happens when you find your voice and start making decisions for yourself and your family needs (children, husband). Sometimes family can’t stand to see you grow!!! Stay strong Tamika!!!

[@SolarLove7]

Yup!

[@jaz8810]

Baby listen💞

[@KimaJ212]

Exactly!

[@Stayspiritual8]

💯‼️🎯

[@pineapplesunkist537]

Shid I needed ths word.

[@laurenjackson2810]

Side note: I can’t get over how absolutely BEAUTIFUL Tamika & her daughters are! Wow 😍💖

[@ZonDAmour1]

They’re stunning! Esp the youngest!!!

[@dollskull86]

Yesssss she has some stunning girls!! 😍

[@08kels]

Seriously 😍

[@doneeshacunningham2949]

​@@ZonDAmour1 nah the other is just as beautiful you only said that because she lighter and have the colored eyes and that social media look. Both are equally beautiful

[@queenb9432]

@@doneeshacunningham2949 it has nothing to do with shin complexion. The younger one is obviously prettier

[@Geminitwinzz]

I have so much respect for you, Tamika! Tears fell from my eyes because my heart ached for you. I’m happy you found your voice. God will truly prosper you.

[@JP-xq6ob]

Your youngest daughter is smart and explained how she feels very eloquently in a respectful way. Everyone is hurt in the process

[@ComicBrooks]

Tamika & her girls needs their own reality show.... Look how beautiful and poised her daughters are! That show would be a good time!

[@jaz8810]

I agree

[@LoveIeshia]

Tamika is a beautiful forgiving woman who's dealing with people who won't take accountability !!!! Hope she finds peace 💞🙏

[@RoyaltySarah]

As the only girl in a household of three brothers I know what it’s like when your mother has favorites. Everytime the boys spoke she fawned and listened but whenever it came time I spoke my mind she’d throw a fit and always say “here she go” When I have my own kids I’m gunna do what you did and not show favoritism because it was definitely discouraging. Funny thing is when my mom gets too old to look after herself it’ll 9/10 be myself that will look after her, for many reasons

[@mznaturallyfit]

Parents have favorites, lol. You might love them the same but you're going to like/connect with another moreso than the other, lol.

[@queenjj201]

That was psychological abuse. I'm so glad you have a platform to share your story. I love you, my sister.

[@Lyfesdance]

Your daughter is on point…emotional/mental abuse should not be tolerated and or excused/downplayed…we wouldn’t want to set that example for our children to think it’s okay to be treated this way. Sometimes it’s best to walk away.

[@ladylike2220]

Even now with “coming clean,” Tamika is still protecting her sister. Notice how she isn’t saying most of the things her sister said and did to her. A real class act.

[@CC-pc6fz]

She is sitting up talking about her sister and it's not cool because you don't have to be like others

[@CC-pc6fz]

Her daughters need to stay in a child's place

[@Damami4U]

She is smfh and I wanna buy some of her seasonings ...She gone win though Tamika gone win regardless.

[@akimat418]

We don’t need to know everything that was done or said to her. Maybe a reconciliation will happen soon.

[@KD4Essence]

You are setting a wonderful example for your daughters. Sometimes you can't help everyone, even siblings. So proud of you and your girls.

[@w.j8856]

To be honest Xscape would be a great trio! Sometimes you just have to let people go and do what they want....and when they do, be sure you close the door so they can't come back! Let her go and stay solo. Tameka its unfortunate you didn't get more lead parts cuz in my opinion, you have better vocal ability than your sibling. Stay blessed Queen!

[@badvette6947]

Yep! Close the door for good! She wants to go--then let her Goooo! GIT!

[@asktheglutenfreechef3072]

Yup the door needs to be closed to Tocha in the group

[@lacimichelle09]

‼️‼️‼️

[@deondrathomas4785]

Family is always the start mess, so stay strong. She will come around soon. Money comes and goes, family is forever. She should know that.

[@calindelajonesrenee901]

🙏🏽Thank you for sharing additional insight with us as fans of Xscape. ♥️🙏🏽 After watching this, my heart went out to you and your family💕🙏🏽 The world should Never see and know this much about personal family matters. Communication is Healing🙏🏽 Everyone has to hold themselves Accountable for some part of the confusion. This is why Jesus said to Forgive 77x7(it’s a metaphor)! It’s ok to say “I was wrong, I hurt you with my words, my actions, Please forgive me🙏🏽and turn away and do better going forward! Love Always Always Wins❣️❣️ See, everybody has an opinion, we have to learn to Work hard a Pleasing God, Not People❣️ Tosha experienced the world judging her body negatively 🙏🏽 That hurt runs long and deep♥️🙏🏽 I’m praying for Healing over her because she was and is still beautiful. It’s a Mean O World Out here🙏🏽 All these years and still unresolved is simply allowing the enemy to bounce y’all up against every wall he can. Time to beat the enemy at his foolishness! Seriously, we All got something!!! Nobody is truly right and we are All wrong!! Forgiveness, Hugs and Love… everyone make your favorite dish, come together and start with.. I was wrong starting with…. And please find it in your heart to Forgive Me?♥️🙏🏽♥️ In front of the kids and all! No one will be Perfect! Just try to be honest with each other and Love on Each Other🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽 Cut the Embarrassment- Be real to each other. Be the example we need to bring Peace to our youth and how to Rise Above🙏🏽 And it’s enough money for Everyone! Do your Solo and help each other!! And do Xscape💕 Come on Now, Step into it ♥️ All of you have beautiful voices, Sang and Show up for Your Children and Grandchildren 🙌💕♥️🙏🏽I Love Y’all

[@lns3383]

Hats off to you Tamika for raising very mature and insightful young ladies...

[@michellemann6362]

Yes...

[@Fourwindsofsuccess]

Yes they seem mature, level headed, and conduct themselves like normal healthy minded young women. There’s no jealous or envious or narcissistic energy from Tamika family. Her sister family with their mother are shady twisted people trying to put up a front it shows.

[@Nolaishere00]

I'm glad she is speaking up for herself. It was painful to see her mother act that way.

[@mrsneshaball]

Agreed!!! That hurt MYYY feelings to see her act like that towards Tamika. Like WTF was that?!!😟 But as soon as I heard her mama on the phone say, you need to hear Tosha side of it, I was like WOWWW ohhhkkk...🙄not yall need to sit down and hear each other or tell me what happened from your side so I can hear both counts of what happened.... It's really sad! They really need an Iyanla sit down for real!!! I pray that they heal from all this lifelong family dynamic trauma.

[@w.j8856]

When she whispered to Tomika, "she's jealous " it irritated my soul. We have to get out of the mindset, that older people should be respected to the utmost degree or they deserve it just because they are the parent. She disrespected Tamika in front of her own child. I've had that happen to me and baby I gave my grandmother the smoke. My mother didn't want to disrespect her mother because she is from the old school, honor thy mother and thy father.....but baby I'm giving it to whoever goes at my Mom, period point blank. It really is a tough situation to navigate.

[@SeriouslySpeaking-nw5nh]

Yeah her momma got issues!

[@jg122487]

The saddest scene I've witnessed in a long time was her with her Mother and Sister. I don't care how hard she worked to provide financially, the emotional support is not there and it's toxic.

[@chawday393]

This is happening in a lot of families today. It’s not right but I’m in the same shoes as Tamika just minus the moolah.

[@jg122487]

@Chawday 39 so heartbreaking. Sending love your way. No child deserves that. Lord knows my childhood was messed up. Seeing your parent is capable of being there for you but chooses to not be is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone. 💔❤️💯

[@RuizMrs]

I love how well spoken Niya is and she made a good point when Tamika was saying that in spite of the favoritism that her mom was still a good mom. “Isn’t that still mental abuse?” It doesn’t have to be physical to leave scars.

[@sheliajames3075]

Gurl everything you have done has been out of Love....God knew you would never remove yourself from the toxicity so he allowed their heart to become obstinate (like he did Pharoah) and she removed herself from you. You see it hard to get the respect from the older siblings because you followed them blindly all your like and now that you are older with children you expect respect but instead of giving you the respect you have earned they try manipulation and intimidation. Anything bit owned where they are wrong. Continue to stay prayed up but respect your boundaries you have established As long as you know you come from place of love that includes mutual respect..let go and let God....this is a marathon not a sprint. Try to always pray before speaking and remember God said vengeance was his and he shall repay. Don't allow them to gaslight you. God will settle all of this baby girl...keep loving them and praying for them but you don't have to lay down and get walked over....You are so kind and compassionate. I felt your pain and I know this happened to you.

[@Camille-mv3mr]

It is indeed mental and emotional abuse.

[@justicemai1517]

And if she was at that sit down I feel she would turnt up in grandma and auntie.

[@mariej.richard5114]

Yes favorites is mental abuse it revokes negative feelings

[@Worme95]

Kids will just say it when we won't.

[@tarabeverly3680]

Sometimes your sibling relationship can be toxic AF! And I'm proud of you for speaking & sharing your truth Tamika!! And I'm grateful you have support around you that is genuine!!!

[@keishabrown1776]

Facts I barely talk to mines because of the same reason...my sister can never do any wrong in my parents eyes and now she grown and spoil.

[@tracyshakur4053]

@@keishabrown1776 I feel you. Going through the same with my sister. Sometimes I feel like I’m the black sheep of the family.

[@keishabrown1776]

@@tracyshakur4053 I say the same thing all the time

[@bettyb1313]

It's beautiful to see a mother being a parent a role model and guiding your children...

[@vavadav1]

You don't look crazy at all. You appear genuine, hurt and truthful on and off the show. We rising with you. We love originality!!! Period!!! #TeamTamika

[@butter1956]

I believe everything Tamika said - I would take a break from my sister and my mom - sometimes family will hurt you more than your enemies

[@mirandajames1245]

So true.

[@marcusbenjamin9252]

Tamika! I believe in YOU!! You are Loved and Supported! Period!! The way your Daughters are there to support you shows how beautiful of a job you and your husband did raising them! Your heart shines! We see it!! Prayers for reconciliations, apologies, ownership, moving forward, and healing! Love you!!

[@jocelynhicks3820]

I feel the hurt and burden that you have been carrying for the love and loyalty that you’ve shown to your family and to witness the favoritism,(not because you told us, we saw it) is heartbreaking. I just pray that your mother can rewatch this and see herself and correct her behavior towards you. Sometimes parents don’t like what they see in their children because it reminds them of themselves. I know that you’re hurting and you still want to do right by them but also understand that this is your breakthrough and victory is the result. Introducing the full fledged Tamika Scott that we have always loved and was waiting on! Do your thing Sis!❤❤❤

[@parismichelle2952]

I wish she would’ve addressed her mom calling her jealous behind her back. That was the worst part for me. My heart goes out to you Tamika ❤ I pray it gets better for y’all

[@rnbjunkie4859]

I think she did when she mentioned there would be whispers and giggles behind her back....

[@parismichelle2952]

@@rnbjunkie4859 I wanted her to touch on how she felt seeing it. It’s a difference assuming your mother and sister is talking behind your back, but actually seeing it is a whole other level.

[@rnbjunkie4859]

@@parismichelle2952 Clearly, there's still a love for her sister and mother. I'm sure she didn't want to detail every little piece of her family business and rightfully so. She mentioned she didn't want the drama to unfold on TV but she was provoked and it just happened.

[@mrspetty7515]

Her girls are drop dead gorgeous!!! We love you Tamika!!!! Keep being you!!!

[@nicolajackson2876]

You are the chosen one … modern day Cinderella ! You and your girls are beautiful inside out ❤

[@BamaraisedMeNCpaysMe]

I always felt that Tamika was the realest and most relatable one. I know what you going through. My mom is like that with my sister. I'm the so-called "black sheep" but will ride for mine. Just keep doing what you doing. We can tell that you've raised some intelligent, gorgeous, and mannerable children. GOD will continue to bless you and your family.

[@alexistaylor8838]

Be down for who's down for you. I'm not saying your sister and mom isn't because I don't know them. But we gotta outgrow these notions of riding for some one because of a title that we had no control of them getting. Love what love you. Ik outgrowing titles.

[@m.sullivan6008]

We love you Tamika I hope we continue to see you on tv more ❤

[@robertervin6920]

We do,her whole vibe is cool and her personality and disposition are on point.

[@Honeybbritt]

Tamika, God knew what he was doing when he BLESSED you with 3 daughters. I’m gonna leave it at that! This made me tear up so bad ❤😢

[@shannon6249]

Exactly ❤

[@rashonagethers7111]

It’s just a sad situation. There’s 3 sides to every story, but I truly believe you. I pray that you all are able to get through this, but I understand that sometimes you gotta leave people where they are.

[@ak-xp4hp]

Tamika, take this hug. As someone who has recently discovered some of my familial relationships can be toxic and I've had to stand up to it, it's hurtful but so worth it to stand up for yourself. All the time, every time.

[@tammydavis5180]

100%

[@reneebarnes55]

Tamika you are a respectful lady hold your head up continue to be who you are your sister will have to deal with God and your mother suppose to clear this situation your are sibilings yes you argue with each other but do not hurt each other

[@Whocarez299]

I applaud her for holding her composure and keeping it in THAT long. This ain’t $30 or $3000 she said $30,000 my sister would’ve had to wear a serious azz whooping over that! I feel SO bad for her bc her mother is clearly bias. It is OKAY to separate yourself from people that do more harm than good. Blood included!

[@britonyabanks]

$30K?! It would always be ON SIGHT.

[@zbodyfitness17]

Plus she had to pay taxes on it! 😵

[@Fourwindsofsuccess]

There’s no way. I would’ve created a lawsuit then went no contact. Unfortunately black women tolerate their black relatives to always have a fake bond. You don’t have to pretend you love these black relatives. All blood ain’t your blood like that, they’re people who share your DNA. I don’t care if it’s a mother or father or sister or brother or cousin, don’t cross me like that.

[@mademoiseledoshay618]

On sight? She would be locked up

[@cjohnson_]

The way I'm hollen rn @ wear a serious ass whooping 😂😂😂😂 n mamma bet not say shit about it ok!!!

[@teresajenkins4061]

Baby your daughter is wise beyond her years...I love that she calls out everything for what it is but I really love on how she told her daughters to still respect them.

[@arvellgreen1]

Your daughter is a star! She’s beautiful and articulate. She knows how to advocate for herself and that’s important.

[@sunnybright8206]

Facts

[@shemiyahyasharalla7695]

Yes! Especially dealing with family. It took me years to stand up for myself because I had been programmed not to as a child.

[@RW-yt7ro]

both daughters are STUNNING

[@tiffanybritt163]

It be your own people! They definitely set you up and attacked you. But you held your own. I'm so sorry to see them hurt you. Especially, mama. I saw how your eyes lit up when you talked about the love you have for her. But sometimes you have to keep distance between toxic people (even family). It's not worth your sanity.

[@SB-dt6yp]

Exactly, sometimes you of to walk away from family for your own sanity and to save yourself. That’s what I had to do to save myself!

[@nataliem.3879]

Exactly!! her mental health is more important, than her narc sis!!

[@janettaanderson125]

Omg yes preach you said a mouthful I definitely know about toxic family members & so call friends and you must distance yourself from that and yes i can love you from a distance i don't have to be around negative energy or situation

[@keishuareid]

Watching that scene hurt my feelings so bad. For your mother to side with your sister is unbelievable to me. As a mother I would try to fix it between my children, not choose a side. I pray it works out for all of you.

[@craig6363]

After watching the first episode you have def gained a new fan. Sometimes you have to leave toxic family members where they are.

[@leoqueen300]

👁 👁 👄 Everything has an expiration date ( relationships friendships marriages FOOD) good while it lasted when it's time to go it's time to go👀 I haven't spoken to my mother's daughter( sister) in almost 20 years I buried💀⚰️that relationship looong time ago 👀

[@trishamoore7042]

I agree. The sad part is it seems like we don't believe in mental/ emotional abuse in the black community, just physical abuse. We don't even know when we are being mentally and emotionally abused because we have normalize this toxic behavior within the community.

[@yahwehissalvation1]

Yasssss I'm so hurt😭😭😭😭😭and devastated by the level of ignorance and blindness of it all.😭😭😭😭😭

[@terrelberry2592]

Amen

[@marissar.359]

And then you're seen as "sensitive" and "doing too much" when you try to hold people accountable for the emotional abuse.

[@derthinc]

Hats off to you and your daughters. What a beautiful relationship you have with them and they are clearly wise beyond their years. ❤

[@nikkiteatawk9604]

I'm so proud of you, Tamika for standing up for yourself. I know it was hard for you to do that being that it's your family but sometimes family is worst than a friend to you and that's a hard pill to swallow when you're a loyal individual. Continue to stand in your truth bc God's got you, stay encouraged and prayed up..🙏🏿❤️ #justicefortamika30k

[@asktheglutenfreechef3072]

Me too

[@chun-le4049]

*CAN WE JUST TALK ABOUT HOW BEAUTIFUL YOUR DAUGHTERS ARE...TAMIKA YOU ARE SO BLESSED..LOVE TO SEE YALL💕💕💕*

[@janikiabailey5254]

I’m so proud of you Tamika for raising two beautiful daughters and speaking your truth but you didn’t deserve to be done wrong at all and God got you and your daughters no matter what y’all keep shining 🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟🌟🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟

[@rlovek1988]

My heart goes out to this family. I pray her mom and sister reflect on their actions and REALIZE what they actually have done to her. This is heartbreaking 😢

[@DeeJaiNotDJ]

I just love me some Tamika Scott! So real, well spoken, and just THAT girl! ❤❤❤

[@TaurusHere]

She is Definitely a Real One

[@mrsrussell58]

I’m just sitting here in tears because I go through the same thing with my mom. I’ll be 41, and I have tried to fix whatever. But, nothing I do…u know what, I luv u for this

[@journeydodge5812]

Tamika needs to be on RHOA. Bravo and Kandi, help Tamika. God will elevate you Tamika. Keep praying Tamika, God got you.

[@EmpressElle1111]

Agreed. And she’ll actually be married

[@gigisgiftofgab]

I wanna see her on RHOA as well she’s the perfect cast member to bring on.

[@rellysunshine9665]

I agree. I think she and Latocha should both be on the show. Can you imagine the storylines?

[@IMINTHEWILLOFGOD]

I always thought I loved Tamika, but now I know for a FACT that I love her!!! Your spirit always shines THROUGH! And I love how respectful and loving you are towards your family, no matter how they may treat you! I’m actually learning from you in this moment, how to deal with family issues. You handle it with Grace ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@toyav7944]

She is not the problem, it’s the sister

[@tyna7397]

Tameka, I just want to say KUDOS to you for being such an amazing mom and an inspirational role model to your precious daughters. I have two grown daughters too and always encourage them to do the same thing you’re teaching your daughters to do which is to separate themselves from family drama between me and my sisters and always love and respect them no matter what. As Roman 8:28 says, “All things work together for the good for those who love the Lord.” I pray that everything work out for you and your family. Love you sis 🤗🙏🏽🙏🏽💕

[@joe103060]

Emotional abuse is real. The scars can't be seen, but felt. I feel so bad that this is happening.

[@tomicka8552]

I deal with emotional and verbal abuse from my mom right now

[@joe103060]

@@tomicka8552 I am so sad that is happening to you. I hope you two can get help to help you both process the pain.

[@roslynsledge1884]

I hope Tamika does what’s best for her own mental and emotional well being. If someone is toxic no matter who they are, free yourself from the toxicity. Keep your head up Tamika. Love you Sis. ❤

[@carmenhyson1408]

Agreed

[@humble_mik]

Some people hate you for the confidence you have. Some people don't like you due to the way others love and view you.

[@mshill2406]

Yes

[@basicallyv9873]

Thats it

[@donna30]

Oh lord when you mentioned that about the whispering and the giggling I felt that because one of my sisters and her ex husband would do that whenever I was around them and it would really hurt me. Your sister was right when she said y'all are sisters but not by choice because she has shown you how she really feels about you. You're a stronger person than me and I commend you for that because I never got over how they made me feel and deep down I resent them both for that.

[@candijohnson6382]

And one last thing, God gave you those two amazing daughters to show how absolutely loved you are and DESERVE!!!! You have done an AMAZING job raising these beautiful young women. Praying for positivity to resonate in your life ❤❤❤❤

[@cassandrapickett7371]

My mom said the same thing she was treated differently than her sister and she said she would never do her kids like that and she didn't

[@PinkWillow1]

As a parent myself. I never understand how a mother can pick favorites. It's so sad and does a lifetime of damage to your child. The favoritism is so obvious in that episode by your mom. I think your sister thinks she is the SUPER star and her husband is probably putting stuff in her ear. So glad your beautiful daughters are their to support you! All the best💕

[@LaToya13]

WE BELIEVE YOU. WE SUPPORT YOU. 🖤 I’m glad you spoke up. Continue to advocate for yourself! You and your daughters are beautiful.

[@lakeshacortesramirez604]

Her voice is beautiful I don't know why everyone act like tocha voice is the best Tamika got a better voice and a better attitude WELCOME TO THE RIGHT SIDE OF RIGHT LIL SIS!

[@Lovely-ff7uv]

You are NOT alone. I COMPLETELY understand the dynamics between you, your sister & mom. Unfortunately a lot of families deal with this

[@londiej9215]

Good for you Tamika. Stand up for yourself!🙌💜💜 And speak YOUR truth.

[@wacoviaking4163]

When her mo said "I'm the fifth member of Xscape" I KNEW SHE WAS THE DRAMA... and everything she showed us afterwards let me know that she is more problematic than even I realized.

[@Thatwater123]

We got you Tamika! Time heals all wounds. Stay prayed up.

[@sheShe34]

This was so powerful to see these Queens discuss these crazy family dynamics. I have always been a fan of Tamika but this just makes me love her even more.

[@jocelyngipson197]

God bless this family ❤🙏🏽 Tamika, you an excellent Mother! Your daughters are so beautiful and loving. I just wish you would love your mom and sister from a distance. It's hard for me to see them treat you the way they do, I cannot imagine how much it hurts your beautiful girls. Cling to the ones that love you most.

[@nikkisixx1832]

Glad u broke the cycle of choosing one daughter over the other. Your entire story is so familiar & relatable. I was glad your daughter didn't get involved when yall were arguing! Seems like some good raising!

[@Vivaciousboi2]

Agreed! ❤

[@vonreed-or7cm]

That’s a painful feeling when your parent shows favoritism towards your sibling. My father did it with me and my sister so I understand how she feels

[@kendalldickson-womack4109]

I’m that sister too! Would do anything for my sister but the pain of feeling like the outsider while your mom & sister go to dinners, shows, share clothes, giggle when you enter the room I mean the list goes on & on. This episode broke my heart & stirred up so many memories. It will be ok & maybe not but you have to live your life on your terms & walk in your truth! ❤

[@Msqueen_d]

Yup but it was time sis to let it out this is long over due

[@gigisgiftofgab]

Me too

[@typ2456]

I was already a fan, but now it has been a total honor to feel see and hear your truth. May I also add I wanted you to keep singing when you SANG SWV's song! Such a beautiful voice. One more add- beautiful, beautiful family. Keep raising them right.... it never stops!

[@DaughterofZion1440]

Please do this every week! It’s great to hear the story of what doesn’t get shown on the show. Peace and Happiness to all of you beautiful ladies.

[@mrsbook5206]

I believe every word! After watching the show and listening to this, I know who the common denominator is with all the mess!! I'm glad you found your voice, sis!! 💜💜💜

[@08missaka]

Thanks for sharing your story Tamika! I also was outcast from my family and never understood why. We have the favor of God over us and light shines bright over darkness. Keep being yourself ❤

[@ycumbess]

We love you Tamika! We are glad you got your story out. We appreciate your honesty. ❤🌸🙏🏽

[@gingerwider6494]

Your family is the one you created. You continue to be a great mom. Love the family you came from, from a distance if you have to. Your growth and maturity speaks for itself. 💕

[@tonyab.l.7101]

Sending you love, Tamika! You are a good mom with a beautiful voice and spirit and a positive attitude. But just because people are family doesn't mean they need to be in your life.

[@RamboQuellz]

Daughters are beautiful! ❤ you can tell they are a safe space for her.

[@darlenecalloway30]

Respect I understand your situation. I’ve been going through the same situation with my mother and sister all my life, but I still respect them, but I choose to love them from a distance but that’s for my mental health

[@therodfather916]

Tamika, a lot of us can relate to you. Some of us wake up from the nightmare. We realize the one sided relationship isn't good for our mental health and learn to love them from afar and focus on relationships that is mutually beneficial

[@IAMJEWEL7]

Yes!

[@johannejoseph2036]

I am happy that her daughters are there for her and LOVES her for being the mother that she is…

[@araka17]

This hits so close to home for me!!! My mother has 3 kids, and I'm the ONLY GIRL AND THE BABY, But treated the worse!! I felt all of this. Keep going Tamika, you are a true WOMAN!! And I applaud your GREATNESS!! God Bless ❤️

[@mindboggler797]

Same here. Same exact situation. Mom has 3 kids. Only girl and the baby but treated the worst. Sending air hugs🥹❤️

[@uncut3293]

🙏🏽

[@MoUniqueMedia]

I can relate..I’m the youngest, my brother is 7 years older..I do everything for my mom but my brother is the one that’s put on a pedestal and he does the bare minimum…I love them so much though, came from a single mom and it’s always been us three but not being the favorite hurts..I make a point not to do it with my three kids..we have our separate relationships and our one all together..breaking hurtful cycles ❤

[@barikiwa22]

The ways things look, its best to love and respect such family members from a great distance to protect your own sanity!

[@OhThatsBabyJoe]

PLEASE do this weekly with your daughters!!! I didn’t like the topic because I can sense that it hurts you to have to deal with family matters on TV but it’s good to see you and your daughters talk about it!

[@donnataylor1583]

Girl, I had the same mother. I totally identified with you when you said you’d walk in the room and they’d stop talking or you walk passed and they’d giggle. Your daughter is correct. It is emotional abuse. I realized I had to love my mother from afar. It was the only way keep my sanity.

[@ycumbess]

💔💗

[@sunnybright8206]

What some moms will do to a persons sanity smh

[@donnataylor1583]

@@sunnybright8206 💔

[@yolandac9334]

Same with my mom smh

[@donnataylor1583]

@@yolandac9334 sending hugs. I understand

[@MissKWoods]

I know what your going through Tameka, I have sisters also and I'm going through a similar situation. Sending peace and blessings to you and your family.

[@cynthiareese4279]

My bff is soo humble. She stand down a lot due to being humble and her Christian background. One of the most loving and down to earth individual I’ve ever known.

[@ikeepwinning1629]

Who is your best friend?

[@swaggerish]

​@@ikeepwinning1629 I was bout to ask that same question!

[@SuchATourist]

@@swaggerish 😂

[@MissBeeMarie]

Wtf? We know you’re not talking about Tocha…lol! 😂

[@breezykey229]

Because it’s definitely not tamika 😭😭😭

[@Jiorgiapeach]

Unfortunately the only solution for super toxic family members is to set up strong boundaries and let them go. No need to argue or explain to them or anyone… just distance and protect yourself. It’s very sad but it’s very real. Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable on tv. It’s powerful and important. Much love to you ❤

[@InternetGirl1093]

WE BELIEVE YOU, TAMIKA! I hope you find peace, and even if you never get an apology, just know: WHAT’S DONE IN THE DARK, WILL ALWAYS COME TO THE LIGHT! ❤ Protect your mental well-being!

[@4136631]

Time heals all family wounds. Be ready for the on camera show again. Don’t let the drama interfere with your love for your family, friends or your income stream. ❤❤❤. Keep loving your family, no matter what.

[@TheGoldenAge7]

I saw & experienced the favoritism with my grandmother and her daughters, so I know how your girls feel seeing it. It hurts to see a matriarch help create division. Keep praying and stay strong

[@g.pearson4726]

I fail out w my sister for the first time in our life. We stopped talking for almost a year Everyone made excuses for her in the situation. We didn’t involve our children. That’s still auntie. I swore I would never speak to her again. Everyone tried to get us to talk. We’re speaking again. God erased my pain. We picked up like nothing happened. You two will mend. I’m wishing y’all the best