Have We Normalized Suffering in Silence? | In The Room

Everyone loves the strong friend. Society has made it okay to internalize and keep it moving even when you’re down to nothing in your emotional tank. In this episode of #InTheRoom we decided that we are no longer going to suffer in silence but we are making the choice to heal out loud.
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[@NeeNee22022]

The way Caitlin said “I know I'm blessed but I'm stressed and I'm also depressed” that was truth and bars at the same time 🔥💯

[@phenomenonto328]

So relatable too🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@delle3955]

All too familiar 🙏🏾♥️

[@somiladayile9094]

I'm writing this comment so I'm reminded to re-watch this episode whenever someone likes it. Note to self: You're allowed to be human, more especially on those days when you feel like you need to "show up and keep it moving!"

[@EbenezerN]

🙌🏾

[@oscarmike1131]

The pressure to be a “perfect” Christian with no flaws is causing more harm than we realize. Glad we can normalize this now. We can’t heal what we don’t acknowledge is hurting. Thank you God for healing your children through this

[@Jiron127]

Because of incorrect teaching over the years by "prosperity" pastors.

[@NasTheeArtist]

It is🥺 I swear Satan has to do nothing cause the way I condemn myself for mistakes & imperfection.. thank God he sent his son

[@alemasmith6206]

Suffering in silence is real. One may feel they must put on a mask in order to pretend to be okay. Key words that were said, "Turn on, turn off." Because in some people's world (alot of people actually) you're just supposed to be okay. And, you are not okay, go talk to someone you can trust.

[@alemasmith6206]

Thanks for the likes, but when you hear God speaking...do that. Don't allow the enemy to unjustly punish for being human. God is love, and so much more. Speaking out about different crisis, especially that in which spoken of within the given platform is needed. Don't be afraid to be brave; be bold in Christ Jesus.

[@beecultured3468]

I've fallen into the premature testimony many times. When I was in pain I'd quickly jump into what I thought I was learning or gaining from the experience instead of admitting that I'm hurt and disappointed. It led to a dishonesty with God and it took a while to learn to say I'm not okay and that's okay because I will be

[@fatimaelswify1657]

Thank you for this- I relate..premature testimony..thats good..sometimes we have to wait for it all to unfold and let God teach us everything He needs to not just our assumption.

[@NeeNee22022]

That's a gem Fatima 💎🙌🏾 “Why am I trying to be unhuman?”

[@zeeb116]

The pressure of perfectionism drove me away from church, And almost drove me insane. But God, is so tender. I am always loved right back into his presence.

[@godswarriornana5860]

This was🔥🔥🔥 Queen Fatima sister I felt and understand your pain😭when I got diagnosed with my lung disease I had to be strong for my children, I would only cry when they weren’t around. But now I cry out because if I can do it in private I should be able to do in public. God didn’t allow this challenge for me to suffer in silence but to be open no matter if I’m feeling good/bad. Like today I was in pain and I chose to say I’m in pain and I’m staying in my room to rest, when usually I’ll just push through it. I know God has me and I’ll continue waiting patiently for my healing. I will see God’s glory in my life🙌🏾🤍🙏🏾 Thank you Queens for been raw and uncut💯💪🏾 we need this in these times because this world is made up with actors.

[@milagroscruz3339]

This was a much needed topic of discussion. “God is never against me” 🙏🏽

[@relebohileferete5791]

Most of us make "born again Christianity" as the high-level of perfection. Which is untrue, it only means we know where to take our weaknesses. You remember the song "What a friend we have in Jesus"? It says to us its OK to be weak before God (His community around you). The Word of God in James 5 says we should come together to be there for one another... Its the honesty that heals us.

[@mrsbrownsugarsweetz]

This is definitely my testimony. I suffered so much until I turned it into fuel. But because I did resolve it I had 5 strokes and a heart aneurism. Then God gave me a vision of a beach with debris all over it and told me to deal with it. I went to therapy and started my journey. It has been hard because like the girl in the video I don’t like to cry. But because I was so full of trauma my cup was running over and I couldn’t control my emotions, which also made me mad 😂. But God told me He would turn my misery in to ministry, my pain into virtue, and my testimony will be someone else deliverance. Now I can really say He restored my soul. 😇🙏🏾❤️check on ur strong friends

[@snowym7188]

When she talks about acknowledging "it" .... that literally gave me a mini breakthrough... Thank you ladies ❤

[@quanlynn6128]

Mannnn I really need you guys to do this more often!! I LOVE IT! You all are so real with your feelings and it’s so helpful to hear other Christians admit how they really feel but also hear how GOD is continuously working on us all! I get excited when I see a new video! God bless you all 😇🥰

[@coritaburks758]

SAME!! Sheer excitement! ❤

[@miatavah4298]

This was for me I cried when my girl started shedding tears.. I felt that mama! I’m so grateful for you ladies having this conversation that will heal many people! This was right on time and so needed! I pray God continues to heal all of us throughout this time in society. Normalization in suffering is what I pray for this generation! God bless you all! ❤️🙏🏾🌹

[@mirjamshihepo727]

What I’ve learned from this conversation is we should normalize suffering. In 1Peter 5:9-10 the Bible comforts us that we should know that suffering is part of the process and that our brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And after all this suffering, the God of all grace will restore you and make you strong. We need more safe spaces, but first we need to acknowledge our problems, and that ITS OKAY to be and feel vulnerable. The Lord sees you and wants to heal you. The person next to you that asks you: “are you okay” might be the angel that was sent to be the medium/pathway TO your restoration and healing. God loves us. 🤍

[@aaliyahdavis3458]

Amen!

[@vibezwithnani449]

Amen!!

[@ulricka2131]

I keep saying this but i love Caitlin, such a gentle young lady!! And love the way pst Stephanie looks out for her and makes sure she gets to speak as well. And she is very funny😁 I really enjoyed the whole conversation. Thank you for bringing the truth and the character of the Heavenly father, who is for us, always.

[@noble604]

Yes I agree! I’m so blessed by Caitlin’s insight every time she speaks. I’m so glad Stephanie brings it out.

[@aminaravenell8849]

Yes, they all have dominating personalities in their own authentic way that is so beautiful. It’s the comradery of genuine sisterhood.

[@jae6506]

WOW. Thank you ladies for letting the Lord use you by just being yourselves. Praying for each of you to continue faithfully on your Divine Journey🙏🏾 God is Good…ALWAYS🙌🏾

[@mariasolomon419]

This message exposed me!!! Wow thank you Father God

[@queenus9246]

It’s beautiful to have a platform as such to help people of God to identify and allow themselves to feel their truths. I agree, God will allow us to go through a season. We have to normalize that we all are human and have the right to not feel okay. I agree, I’m good at faking it until I make it. For me… so many people depend upon me for emotional and spiritual support which leaves me drained and it forces me to hide my own mental health. As of late I’ve been allowing myself to be human and to feel every emotion.

[@TheeGodchild]

We worry that by not showing up constantly, we’ll miss opportunities or lose something that we want. God has opened doors for you and He will not allow anyone to close them because you cried or called out. If we “lose” it, it wasn’t for us. Keep shedding the real tears ladies, you give me hope that expressing pain will be normal one day. Love y’all 💕

[@ayandanyathi1331]

God will never be against me🙌🏽

[@refilwetsalaile7647]

This is sooo good guys. Watching all the way from Botswana 🇧🇼 Africa. God bless you to continue shooting these videos and being real about our relationship with God ❤️📌📌

[@benahraphuti6275]

Same here mamas 😍I love them

[@vinchiasmr4648]

Wow. This whole podcast is me. I have been fighting this battle for a while. Jugging many things being single & pregnant at 23, trying to manage, work and grow in the work place. I needed this, it has shown me I am not alone. My father is a pastor and he don’t understand how I feel in this time and why. Thank you ladies! I no longer feel alone.

[@elandrac5099]

God got you ❤ continue to pray and stay in his word through this journey! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and God to continue to guide you in his will💕

[@kiwigirl359]

Hugs mama...you are not alone❤❤

[@vinchiasmr4648]

@@elandrac5099 I appreciate the words of encouragement Elandra, God bless you!❤️

[@amandaecheona1457]

Yesssss In my weakness HE is strong 💪 If I think I am strong when I am not I won't make room for God to be strong for me in that area! Cognitive dissonance for Christians is so real! We all need to remember to live in reality and not in a fantasy. Thank God Jesus and the Holy Spirit for community and family

[@NatesGurl11972]

The Spirit of Truth is calling to us to live in the truth, to acquaint ourselves with Jesus in every area of His being as our Way, Our Truth and our Life that we may release our ways to His way, release the lies, misconceptions and misperceptions we have received as truth to Him and to release our daily lives to Him.

[@amandaecheona1457]

@@NatesGurl11972 thank you!

[@joannlopezvasquez483]

When I say I needed this! It is exactly what women in church culture and in life in general need to hear! Amazingly authentic and transparent ladies and I greatly appreciate how you show up and shift an entire paradigm! These are the women who have turned the world upside for Christ & the Kingdom of God! I am so proud of each of you! Please never stop!

[@jessicaajuonuma7211]

I like this episode. I remembered last year when my sister told me a piece of news that made me go from a 100 to a 0. I was really suffering but still, I was attending meetings, and classes, and was even trying to be there for friends while crying a lotttt in my private space. And my only prayer was that someone would see that I'm suffering, that while I shared a laugh with friends or work with my team, someone would see something off. While we receive strength in the lord, we need to first see our weaknesses, and acknowledge those weaknesses, and then God will provide the strength that we need.

[@ulricka2131]

12: 34 Caitlin had me laughing so much🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Love her transparency 😘😍😍

[@templefuel5408]

“Constantly pouring but not receiving anything “

[@favored6007]

I really enjoyed you all being real. This was an awesome episode. My only critique would be I would like to hear more from everyone equally.

[@marywangui4354]

Acknowledging what your going through and bring it before the feet of Jesus.I was just sharing testimony with my best friend after watching half of the wisdom shared here. I used to be so angry with the season I was in life and how I was suffering at my work place.I was filled with jealousy and anger that I never felt any wrong about it.I couldn’t speak to anyone but God, I would question Him why things are happening to me and He isn’t doing anything.I love Jesus because what happened next is that He did not withhold himself from guiding as a good shepherd He is. By His grace He placed me in a position of acknowledging my flaws and surrendering all of my emotions to Him. All I do know is glorify His name and share of the good and bad season in my life for Him to be glorified more. Thank you pastor Stephanie and the team for this.May God bless you 🙏🏽

[@noriamaango5576]

Why I'm I just finding this channel?..🥰🥰 God remains the same yesterday, today and forever. He will be the same in whatever season you find your self in..

[@dennismagee9555]

To boil it down we don't know how to serve God and be human. We to want to be God and not be human. We deny our feelings because we think God do not want us to feel anything. We made ourselves believe we don't deserve anything or deserve to be treated right as a human being. We deny everything because we trying to be God. You keep doing this God will show that you are human and you can't be him.

[@nduh2232]

Oh my God I can't even articulate how good this was😭thank u ladies 💖. Even experience is a blessing 🙌🏾that my key take away

[@harmonious.balance]

I think the safe space element is critical. I have found that alot of people at work and even "friends" either don't care or care from a distance. They would rather not be made uncomfortable or inconvenienced by my pain. It has to be something big like a loss of a parent or child in order for them "excuse" my vulnerability. And that's led me to ultimately handle the heavy part on my own and then once I've collected myself then I can share after the fact.

[@Jiron127]

That's a word!!! Although a part of me feel like the structural racism, feminist movement and broken homes strongly contribute to the way many black women feel. Black women are expected nowadays to carry the burden a black man would + black women hardships. Meaning the expectations are to be 'super woman' and do everything!!!

[@harmonious.balance]

@@Jiron127 I’m not so sure it’s expected; it’s just what is. If we can’t share our burdens, then what are we supposed to do? We bear them alone. We figure out how to cope, manage, and move forward. I think we have a fortitude for persistence and endurance. That’s actually not a bad thing. But it’s not always balanced out with support and recovery. It ends up being this terrible cycle because we’ve learned how to self soothe and others don’t offer support because they think we don’t need it.

[@simplydee4522]

Excellent topic.. Believer's will interalize what they're going through to avoid being made to feel like they like faith. Nothing will change until the actions, mindset, attitudes and views of a believer suffering. Whether the suffering stems in the area of financial, job conflict, Christian Walk challenges, we need to move beyond our Christian-ese interaction with one another responding...God's in control. You want to see believer's raise brows then get real with them with your struggles. I have a so-called friend (believer) whose attitude is for us to only talk about positive things and avoids speaking about the reality of not so positive issues being faced.

[@blueskies382]

i didnt watch the video but when i was about 17/18 i had worries. my friend told me one day can you stop talking about your worries and telling me to wear my jeans properly.. like she doesnt know then it was the only good jeans i had... people dont want to hear other peoples problems... now we have to go to a church and tell them out problems because people dont want to hear it. i dont know how it is now.. but after covid maybe people are more open

[@justlillian__]

I loveee this topic bc I consistently stop ppl from staying they are okay when they're not okay. It's literally okay to not be okay.... feel those feelings. I know better than anyone. I had to teach myself and still remind myself of this from time to time. This key is to acknowledge Jesus in the brokeness, so he can meet you in that and pull you out. Dont be ashamed of your sadness and never hide in it bc the enemy finds his victory in the dark and hidden places ....Great discussion! 🙌🏾

[@veganladymyles5855]

I THANK YOU ALL FOR THIS PODCASTS IT HAS REALLY HELPED ME IN SO MANY WAYS IM GOING THROUGH SO MUCH RIGHT NOW AND THIS HELP ME EVERYDAY I ALSO WATCH AND LISTEN TO THEM ALL MORNING AND NIGHT 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@TheFisayo]

I loved it; thank you for sharing this and being vulnerable with your stories; it's unlocking new dimensions in my thought process. Love you guys.

[@raymondleslie6026]

This is a great and powerful conversation! Thank you all. Keep having these real topics that’s needed.

[@TimewithLivi]

Everytime I watch an episode, I always resonate with Brenda.

[@zechariah4663]

Thank you so much for this broadcast and this great conversation. I've been binge watching since I found the channel. I am in a season of waiting and I left the church because I was tired of biblical platitudes that people would plaster on top of my very painful situation.. I want more than church.. I need answers and only God can give them to me. I feel like I have grown and I have learned more in the past 3 years then perhaps all of my years attending church and I am 59 years old. I accepted Christ at the age of 27.got out of an abusive marriage 7 years ago, he then proceeded to manipulate my daughter against me an put his mistress in my place ( in my daughter's eyes). Trying to understand how Roman's 8:28 applies, or when psalm 37 will kick in. I'm tired of waiting. I believe my daughter will see the truth of her dad but at what cost? How much emotional damage may she suffer as a result of God not intervening....

[@deejdaniels]

I LOVE THE SAME ROOM!!! Keep up the great work ladies, y'all are so necessary!!

[@metruthmusic]

I needed this so bad!! God bless you all for being so real and speaking out on this. Praying more people are set free from these mindsets and they can see they’re not alone. We’re human too fr 👏🏿👏🏿

[@nndhlovu7346]

Thats why we need the Holy Spirit:)

[@jacalynb6871]

This blessed me so much! Thank you!!!

[@destinidudley7226]

I love every bit of this! Thank you ladies.

[@JustArin]

Whewwww so powerful the conversation about this definitely I was definitely in tears because I can relate in so many ways definitely brought some encouragement and understanding and wisdom in my life I’m glad I clicked on this video 💙💙💙 God bless y’all

[@ruvimbonyabando3849]

I absolutely love this conversations. Very insightful

[@ritjakozonguizi3077]

This just set me free. Thank you ladies.♥

[@anekakemp8988]

I Thank God for y’all! This helped me tremendously!!! The year 2022 started out tough! My brother was murdered 12/31/21 and left behind 4 beautiful kids, 3 months later my grandmother who raised me passed away and 5 months later my grandson’s dad was murdered! I know God is with me and I will not allow the devil to defeat me! My testimony is going to be HUGE thanks to MY GOD🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@popularmisfitz5690]

I’m so grateful this just popped up on my timeline…it’s very relevant to the season I’m in. God bless you guys xx

[@dellking3373]

This was so good! You Ladies were awesome and thanks for being transparent🙏🏾👏🏽. Hi Caitlin😘💖

[@montileigh_]

Wow ladies, thank you! Thank you for knowledge, vulnerability, space, wisdom, and so much more! All beautiful and helpful insight! Truly needed this!

[@naomithole8046]

🤣🤣 I've been waiting for Caitlin to say something, and then she gets me cracking up 🤣🤣 This is so much needed! ❤️🙏🏽

[@lornamclaren1471]

This is so good. I hope there is a continuation. Thank you Ladies

[@nicoleglasford6662]

One of the best conversations! Thank you ladies

[@millionaire679]

I been suffering in silence for a long time. Thank you so much for this discussion😭 this has helped me in so many ways. Thanking God for each and everyone of y’all’s lives. Grateful for the content y’all creating 💙 So divinely timed ✨😭🙏🏾 Godbless you all 💙

[@coritaburks758]

Such an on point conversation! Thank you for sharing your lives so willingly and unashamedly! I'm made better! ❤❤

[@kishakyler5313]

You all hit the nail on the head with this! 🙌🏾

[@jeanrubiano6077]

This really blessed me. Please keep this going,we need this Bless you all.🙏❤️

[@gleekskitchen]

This episode is a blessing , thank you !

[@christinalang3904]

This message was so needed at this time in my life so thankful for God's servants he knew I needed this

[@empressericka8062]

I really needed this. Thank you sisters 💕🙏🏽

[@tanyshajackson4037]

You are most definitely blessed ladies, no one actually gives me permission to take a mental health break.. I have to TAKE IT,

[@lillianad4617]

Thank you so much for this! Very powerful! It's lovely to hear black ladies talk on the matter. Gives me a feeling I ain't alone! 💞

[@yoruichi2644]

Thank you ladies for allowing yourself to share your testimonies and be a light to others who share your feelings. God’s timing is the best. I needed this 💕💗❤️

[@cherhonda]

Looking forward to receiving this message👏🏾

[@michellej606]

❤️ 🙏 Praying for your healing Fatima. Thank you ladies for being so transparent. Can definitely relate to that “turn on, turn off” 😩

[@CandaceLeAnne]

Oh my goodness! Getting at the healing in uncovering pain is richly blessing me!!!

[@lwazitshabalala716]

This conversation really moved me🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@mechellekelly4846]

Wow! I needed this. Thank you so so much

[@kimberlyt9584]

I really needed to see this episode today. Wish it was longer

[@melissadillon1563]

This is so GOOD‼️I LOVE LOVE LOVE this conversation /group‼️

[@konjebyron4251]

These are my types of conversations! Thank you so much for this dialogue. Praying that it ignites a fire in the body of CHRIST. Praying that mass healing takes place like never before.

[@maydavalle]

♥️Moms know in your voice. Jesus in Gethsemane, my soul is sorrowful until death. 💙 😞 Who are we sharing the weaknesses with? The disconnect. Love how Stephanie sees when Caitlin wants to speak.💗 God anchors♥️you. Always brings you up and out of what hurts and is against you.

[@reggiealvarez5040]

Ladies...I just want to say thank you so much for this platform. I work with youth, and I now send episodes of your conversations (which I personally find extremely powerful and important) to my youth weekly. Thank you again and again!!!!!

[@tonyajscott]

Such an empowering conversation. Ministry all throughout this platform. Relatable and profound.

[@brittanyb9292]

Podcast is such need during this time if so real need to hear I suffer in silence having y’all talk about it make feel not alone

[@aliviablount]

This is such an important conversation. Safe spaces are so important.

[@e-klassbeauty750]

"The Shoveling and piling it on", now that's a word by itself!. Keep these discussions coming as believers learn that being vulnerable and transparent is part of what keeps our witnessing to others honest and authentic!!!

[@christi-annryan4607]

This conversation is EVERYTHING right now! As a Christian, woman of colour - the power in this conversation is liberating..... Thank you ladies for your transparency

[@tebogomolefe]

My cup was so empty. I kept pouring and pouring. Suffered in silence and almost let the world change me into someone that I am not. Continue to be kind even when your cup is empty.

[@denisealonzo9998]

Wow what a great definition of what a blessing is. This changes my perspective on so many things

[@crazy4Christ]

This is blessing me big time fam 🙏 Glory to God 🙌

[@ashleighncube8637]

I needed this.. Thank you

[@Osarumen]

Thank you!🥹

[@libertinenaris4903]

Hello Ladies ❤️ thanks for talking about this, I relate, I suffer alone, coz I feel like nobody gets me, thy don't understand me, so I decided let me suffer alone with God 😭

[@ruthsarahachieng3917]

thanks for this ladies. its powerful

[@merindaarvie28]

Thank you Lord for sick days

[@mamancooper942]

What a powerful conversation!

[@D.S24]

WOW, I felt that🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@claudiaban676]

Aman Aman I'm so blessed to be in the process right now, I acknowledge every pressure that life is allowing it to show up now. I trust and acknowledge not my will but Adiona's Will ... Thanks you powerful sisters..

[@nomfundomathebula528]

Everything God does is a blessing 💕🌸

[@ErikaDavisCooks]

We are Spirit beings having a whole human experience. As Christians, we need to normalize our humanity.

[@michelledickson4302]

This is So....On Time for me...#Take A Mental Health Day..God Knows..What We Need..#BeOpen

[@CandaceLeAnne]

These women are breaking chains with this conversation!

[@DashaTheDivineDivah]

Crazy because I've recently started to have these conversations with my elder's. After learning how to deal with an acknowledgment of my own feelings I started to question why I had never seen them deal with theirs. It took 39 years

[@Antixocialbutterfly]

Yay you’re back!

[@pebblesduckmurray]

To answer to topic question. Yes!