WHY IS LETTING GO SO HARD? | ** HONEST talking about TEENAGERS **

WHY IS LETTING GO SO HARD? | ** HONEST talking about TEENAGERS **
It's Sunday guys and time for some more honest talking from Zoe, this time about teenagers/young adults, how they change so fast, how hard it is to accept those changes, the challenges that come with it, and how to cope with the changes when they come 😮‍💨 On top of that I give you a Halloween crafting update with the kiddies, and some fantastic news on our Cash for kids fundraising!!! 😁👏 We finish with a look in ASDA at the Halloween gear in the afternoon, and a beautiful walk at the caves in Lossiemouth 😊☀️ We really hope you enjoy the video, thank you for your support x
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[@carolinefoster6257]

I struggled when my son hit his teens, he was a good boy but obviously he changed and i struggled. The best piece of advice was given to me by my boss and it was as follows.. You have to let them go in order for them to come back...this was so true. I know its hard but remember our children are only lent to us. X

[@kathtaylor5544]

That is so right. Children are not yours they are only loaned to us. But just rest assured you will always be there for them and they will always come back to you.

[@francisraffle2948]

Hi zoe I've only got one child a son and he's now an adult a dad and a granddad when he was about 18 and he went out with mates he would say mum you never go out so I think I'll stay in and keep you company I said no you go and enjoy yourself I was a one parent family I met my second hubby just after Andy was 18 so I said to Andy see I'm going out now so you have nothing to worry about when Andy first started going out he use to leave me a note if I wasn't in he always did yes I worried about him going out but I thought he's got to make his own mistakes I can't wrap him in cotton wool he lives with me now has rone since his breakdown of his relationship when my grandson was a baby .he's a brilliant dad and son yes he's made mistakes I think we all do it's our way of growing up his 3 children 2 girls and a boy he's 21 next year are all level headed all working zoe what ever age a child gets we worry about them after all we are mums and they are our kids love fran xxxxxx ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@daniellagolebiowska4414]

It’s so true Zoe, it’s not easy when their older 😔 It’s such a worry 😢Ours are 21,19,15,10 and 9. The worries are bigger as they are out and driving 🤦🏻‍♀️ So much easier when their younger and so true about the sleep 😴 It’s a different world to grow up in now unfortunately 🥺 Lovely Halloween preparations 🎃 👻 🦇 Looks great 🫶🏻 The sea 🌊 view looked stunning at the beginning 🥰 Nice little shopping trip 👍 The beach looks beautiful 🏖️ Thank you for sharing 😘

[@AnnEllenp]

Zoe well done for your chat I think you help many with teenagers. Mine are older now in their 30's and I'll still worry about them, especially my daughter who's on her own due to no fault of her own with three young children. I'd like to say it gets better as they get older but I think it's being a mom thing. Everybody says it's the early years but as you say there's plenty of books to read. Not so much help for teenagers and sometimes teenagers find themselves going down a difficult Road by getting in with the wrong crowd. I've been so lucky with mine and they tell me off for worrying but as I tell them it's part of being the parent. I'm glad you had all had a lovely afternoon on the beach. Take care guys xx

[@philippashanahan9338]

I agree so much with teenagers being such a worry. Thing is - it never gets easier- I’m a grandma now and still worry about them. There’s house hunting worries, money worries … They always need you- until you need them😢 I wouldn’t change a single thing though! ❤

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

No me neither ☺️❤️

[@Hayley0412]

I have two sons my eldest son is a true homely boy, he loved watching movies, gaming and snowboarding down mountains, we live there but I used to worry myself stupid! He would never sleep out at his friends houses they always came to us which I enjoyed immensely! We live rurally so building go carts, computers etc were his choice, he left at eighteen and moved to uni in a small Welsh town, he wouldn’t have coped in a city, he loved his time there but he never went out partying or drinking he enjoyed pub quizzes and going to eat out in expensive restaurants ( which we paid for ) but I was just relieved he was having a good time! He still lives at home at age twenty six he is happy and is in no rush to move out, I am so relieved he is here I don’t worry about him anymore! My youngest is twenty four, he is autistic, very high anxiety and depression so he has only left the house once with his best friend since they were four years old, he is also autistic, they went into a pub to celebrate Pride they stayed for the quiz and called us thirty minutes later to pick them up! He is a writer so his job is something he loves and he isn’t in the office with other people which is something I worry about all the time, I don’t want him to be alone and unsocialised so I worry about him not going out, if he was going out I would also worry about him! You have raised your children to be kind, polite, sensible adults, you have given them love, honesty, respect and kindness so they are well equipped for the world outside world but that will never stop you worrying about them, I used to have black hair it is now mainly grey and that is down to my children being adults! ❤

[@tracyd3022]

Great vlog and talk Zoe 👏 It must be hard with so many teenagers / adults in the house, you never stop worrying, no matter how old they get but you are fortunate that you are a very close family and your kids are a credit to you and Ben. I remember my mum saying to me many years ago the same thing, you never stop worrying but it’s not until you have kids of your own you realise just how true that is. Great work from the wee yins with the Halloween decorations and loved the walk on that beautiful beach to finish the vlog. Enjoy rest of week guys ❤

[@lucygale336]

Great talk zoe 👏 👌 ❤😊bless you i have a 19 18 15 and 11 and i struggle so bad deep down when there away out and about i cant help it 😔it never goes away or gets easier 😩

[@melissahodgson6767]

So nice to see joseph colouring in with the girls, he has come such a long way in a short time. from where he was last year. He can hold the pens so well now. Well done joseph, you are amazing. Xx

[@cathybritt6312]

You know you’ve done a good job. When they leave to make their own way. My daughter has left for uni really far away. She’s good at budget, cooking I’m just looking forward to when she comes back for Xmas one a mother always a mother, I’m so proud of my children ❤

[@starrperry6395]

As a mom of 3 kids that are grown and married with their own families now, I understand exactly what you are feeling Zoe. Letting go of our babies is sooo hard but we have to trust that we have done our job in building their foundation. Sometimes they might stumble and sometimes one might fall flat on their face eating dirt. But as long as they get up, dust off and learn from that mouthful of dirt, they will be fine. Just know you will still be needed and wanted through all the different phases of life that they go through. FYI ~ it sucks when they start flying the nest!!!

[@dianehackett4197]

I always say as the kids get older the toys get smaller n problems get bigger 😂❤😂

[@christinebrophy1789]

Worrying is very normal all mums and dad's do it every time they go out ❤

[@sallysmith155]

The vlog was brilliant thank you Zoe for talking about teenagers. There are lots of parents that can say it's not the easiest of years. The beach looks amazing.And seeing the children having fun.Have a lovely week all of you.🩷🩵😊

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Thanks Sally 🥰

[@inaconway7144]

Oh Zoe you are so like me, and most other parents, worrying about your kids. My eldest is 28 and has 3 babies of her own and my son is 25 and living at home,I still worry about them. When they were smaller I used to tell them to stop fighting etc and recently my daughter was home from Scotland for her third baby christening and at one stage the two of them were arguing over something and I just said to them I am so happy, having the two of you home with me, even if you are arguing. I just felt so at peace as I knew they were safe. As you said you just have to hope you taught them enought to keep safe and mind themselves. Love to all

[@lisbrealey1343]

I’ve only got one child but found the teenage to adult stage the hardest. It was the not knowing where they are that kept me up at night especially when he went to university.

[@cassiesadz352]

Snap and now mine lives abroad too🥹

[@LindaDavis-hi2un]

Looking at your family picture on instagram, just reminds us of how important it is to include all family members in celebrations. Your girls are just beautiful…no wonder you worry so much! I think you’ve been very blessed. Thank you Olivia for sharing your Birthday.😊

[@maymartin5583]

Zoe i mind my mum saying at least when we were all wee we were tucked up in bed safe but she would sit up to two or three in morning waiting on us coming home then get up at 6:30 for work in our local hospital there's no one like your mum i miss mine so much 😢

[@Mars-nf3db]

Zoe you did an excellent real talk on what its like to have teenagers, another lovely vlog, love you Sullivan family

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Aww thank you ❤❤❤

[@dawnysdennumber10]

i have a daughter, 34. A son 29. Daughter is mom to 3 and has done jail. She`s covered in tattoo`s. Currently drives an HGV....... Son is a homie, and is very clever and law abiding. He could`nt lie if his life depended on it . They could not be more different. Yet were raised exactly the same. xx

[@LivvyAlexW]

Love your videos. Can’t wait for Christmas content. I agree about saying bad things about teenagers. I’m one of three kinds and we were good teenagers. It’s how they’re raised

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Definitely 🥰

[@amyschneidhorst1384]

I think UK and Irish, and European teens are given much more independence, and therefore more opportunities to get into risky situations at a younger age, than North American teens. In the US, much of the drinking and clubbing doesn't (at least legally) happen until after high school or during college out of eyesight and earshot of parents. I think most American parents would feel uncomfortable with 14 yr olds working late shifts, or 16 yr olds drinking and leaving formal education. I know I was always surprised with seeing teens working in UK shops when they would have been in school (in the US). No wonder you worry.

[@gillhutchin9244]

The teenage years are a challenge for sure, my marriage ended , I had a sixteen year old who struggled terribly my son was at home in his early twenties and I had a daughter that had left home, we had our moments believe me, I had to suddenly go out to work full time to keep our home, but they all grew into wonderful happy healthy adults and we are very close which is wonderful along with grandchildren , they do have to follow there own path but they will get there, I wouldn't change a thing, so keep smiling you will be fine, as 😘❤

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Thanks Gill 🥰

[@LindMm]

Enjoyed vlog Zoe i get it when you said you worry about kids my oldest is 41 and other 2 are in 30s they've all got children of there own but still worry about them all.yous are doing good jobs kids.

[@LindMm]

Mine used to go out drinking but don't now maybe special occasion. Doesn't matter how old they are us parents still worry .

[@dianeweaver9215]

The hardest are the teenager age. Driving I had 3 children and my daughter was the hardest. None did drugs or anything like that. My oldest son went in the air force at 18 so that was a worry other 2 went to college. Their lifestyle was the hardest for me. I couldn't sleep till they were in. And then we didn't have cell phones then and the phone calls ringing all night. I miss the babies and I only have 1 grand daughter. She is already 17 . Enjoy all stages because they r gone before you know. You and Ben do great

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Thank you Diane 🥰

[@Lyn-tr6gm]

Ahh Zoe don’t look so sad we all have done this wen are babies get older and wish they were still in their prams taking to the park and seaside but then them memories pass so quickly you don’t realise it youngest child is all grown up you know makes me so sad and wish for them days back but that can’t happen we have to move on with them Zoe and wish and pray we have set them on the right path you and Ben have a beautiful family ❤ and all you both can do is to guide them safely into there adult life as yous did wen they were young luv you all so very much xxxxxxx

[@debrachapman60]

Ah the teenage years. I have two of them. One who has just turned 14 and an almost 18 year old. My almost 18 year old went on a trip to London with his mates and honestly, I was so worried. Thankfully he sent me a link so I could track him. I could not relax until he was home safe. My 14 year old has started to go out more so its double whammy. 😶

[@amyschneidhorst1384]

Congratulations on reaching your Cash for Kids target, smashing your original monetary goal and months earlier than your December deadline. Thank you from those of us who support you but live outside the UK.

[@karenentwistle6635]

Aww bless you Ben you looked so happy doing your vlog , having most of the children with you on your trip to the beach wad very nice for you , children decorations for Halloween are looking wicked 👊👍 , seeing the children sitting at the table colouring was so sweet , even Joseph enjoys showing what hes Done , but flo is amazing for her age sitting nicely and drawing , well get you tea adults and coffee and bed time , night night god bless , 👍😘🥰🖐️🍀xxx

[@carolrobertson3179]

You both have done a brilliant job bringing up your lovely family x

[@MichelleOliviamc]

Zoe I have a 22 and 20 year old also my little Olivia 9 who loves a shout out lol I hear what your saying you never stop worrying especially with the world we live in mine are like yours very well mannered behaved kids but still a worry also Ben will you sit down 😂 myself and Olivia couldn't stop laughing at flo 😂

[@lizregan1949]

You have children for years they depend on you for everything. Then they grow up and become teenagers. They don't depend on you for everything and want their independence. You just pray you gave them the skills to make good choices.

[@deniseherrington9339]

Just to let you know, it's wooden toy week at lidl and aldi .got kitchens at lidl £45.00 ,Love you &Ben & family

[@mitzikolody4569]

Hi Zoey i know there is nothing i can say which will make you worry less ,you always will no matter what age they are because your a mum an a bloody excuse me good one each of your lovely children will have their own path in life to follow the best you can do give them advice when they need it an let them you are there for them whatever i can understand you worrying because nomatter what age they are their your babies take care 😊❤x

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

They always will be 🫢❤️

[@elainedavies1654]

My son is 22and told me he’s going to American I cried I know it’s silly.i want him to live his life but it killing me inside am so worried.

[@janeklebba]

Wow amazing on cash for kids. I donated.

[@74nicckki]

I for one very much appreciate your talk and views on the older kids and the struggles as parents we have. My teen with autism is the cause of my sleepless nights, but I know he has to find his foothold in this world and as a mom I will be there for whatever he may need along the way! I have 3 boys and 1 girl, 2 teens and 2 older adults, the worry never leaves you. You are a truly beautiful human being and I just wish there were more people like you in this world! Blessings dear heart! xoxoxoxo Is there a book in your future? xoxoxoxo

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Aww we would love to write a book 🥰

[@margaretwrench1473]

Just remember how you bought them up Zoe you done a good job ❤

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Thanks 🥰

[@dorisspecial3619]

Zoe, I sympathize with you about the worry teenagers can give. Becoming a legal adult doesn't make you grown. They don't have the right to worry you unnecessarily. Still stand your ground. Just my opinion. 💗

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Thanks Doris 🥰

[@tracym1724]

So beautiful there❤

[@JulieAmanda-yp9ci]

Loved today's vlog❤from julie

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Thanks Julie 🥰

[@cassiesadz352]

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[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Hey 👋 ❤❤❤

[@juliegilchrist4821]

Hi ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@michelleclinton8079]

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