THEY'RE TOXIC | Tim Ross on Narcism, Relationships, & Sex |

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GODS KIDS 🫶🏼

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“Move on, this guy doesn’t know how to steward you.” Lord, thank you for that word right there!

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""Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."

[@traceysams9969]

The way I would trust Tim and Juliet to just find me a husband arranged marriage style 😅

[@deionnamhj]

This pod cast is so amazing, I have been able to understand so much and my faith has grown of what it actually means to be a Christian❤

[@susieqshields]

Thank you so much for This! I divorced my husband of 43 years, because the entire T of our marriage he indulged in pornography and sex, addiction and extramarital affairs. Hardest decision of my life… God is faithful!

[@shlialoneal2286]

Wow sis….Ik that was hard and at the same time good for you. I pray God blesses you from the inside out. Rebuild your self esteem, worth, value to His standards. Give you a healthy definition of love, grace, boundaries. And then pour, like flood you love, gifts and opportunities. I felt that for me too…love you!!!!

[@daschuhow]

That was very hard! I know that journaling, talking to God, and in the word every day to help me gain a Christ centered identity. Praying that you get set free from the many lies spoken to you and believed ❤❤

[@ellecheeks7519]

Thank you Pastor Tim. I'm a former pastor's spouse. Your wisdom is a part of my healing path. ❤

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It’s the little miniature Tim Ross in the back for me

[@fruitofthespirit7599]

Conviction and correction is life giving!!

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So thankful for this space and someone who is willing to be REAL with the people.

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Btw, this setup is NOICE

[@Iou655]

My husbands sex addiction came out 4 years ago and since then there’s has been trickles of new information and lies. He refused to do any work. The emotional abuse increased. He watched me have constant panic attacks and my mental health quickly decline. My physical health decline. I finally realized my worth as a person and that I would no longer let his issues eat me alive. I finally separated 5 months ago. At this point I’m still willing to work it out if he’ll do the work but idk if he ever will:

[@kara6356]

I was the one who asked this question in todays live. Thank you for putting your own experience out here for me and others to read. Ambivalence is real. I’ll be praying for you and your husband. If I didn’t have little ones I would have left already. I know that sounds bad and at the same time me staying is eating away at my own happiness.

[@AnitaLuvsPeaches]

At what point do you deserve to live and heal?? Why continue to infect your mind? Your kids know more than you realize. You are teaching them to stay in a toxic environment. If you were in a city that became toxic with fumes in the water and in the air would you stay? Or would you leave and wait for it to be cleaned out and at the same time you be on the medication you need to be healed? Making the wise decision for you and your kids is everything and I think that that's what God wants for us. We want to endure to be martyrs but at the end of the day I don't believe that's God's way I believe that's a distorted man made perspective on being a good Christian woman. I lived through it I let it go and decided I wanted to live instead of die and my life completely turned around. Did it take work? Yes but I'm so glad I made the decision to walk away. At the end of the marriage I told him to go to counseling for himself because he offered to go. But at that point it was too late and I knew it was only stalling so that he could maintain his current image. Don't be deceived by their treachery. If they've done this to you for this long, nothing's going to change. That, to me, is a false teaching amongst churches.

[@stephanierhodes7691]

I've been going through something similar and what I had to realize is there is a difference between long-sufferring and staying in a destructive, abusive relationship. Those that long-suffer are anointed for that but a destructive relationship breaks you down and that is not God's plan for ANYONE. God loves both of you but even He had to divorce Isreal in the OT. I love marriage but I refuse to idolize it bc I matter to God. God doesn't place marriage over an individual. This is something you have to wrestle with God about. No one can give you the answer you are looking for but know that He loves you and says very specific things about how we should treat our brothers & sisters. May God bring you peace as you rest in Him

[@thereeljanedoe]

something that someone told me, gave me the strength to leave my seven year marriage for similar reasons is that you cannot control someone else's testimony. While we'd love "our" testimony to be that he went through this and he is now healed and we are all good, that is not up to you. It's up to him, and one things we've been having since earth, day one, is free will. Praying for your healing and the wisdom for right decision-making for your situation. I've been separated for 5 years now and divorced for three and thriving with 3 young children. Trust yourself. Trust God!❤

[@daschuhow]

Don’t allow him to return until he shows a demonstrated attitude and behaviors of a true Christ follower for minimum of two years 1:09:50

[@PrettySbosh]

Love this. Watching from South Africa I tell everyone about this Pod.

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We are the CHURCH EVERYWHERE WE GO

[@bongintandotshabalala9463]

00:15 FROM SOUTH AFRICA THANK YOU FOR THE WISDOM.💯

[@monarchspeaks435]

Tim you are preaching today! I'm going to try and get my husband to listen to you today

[@jijoalexander5654]

Glad to know there is someone else watching The Basement from India! God Bless!

[@joshuadeslandes]

THANK YOU TIM I LOVE YOU

[@BkVincy]

Honor publicly and honest privately --- that the truth right there

[@Tacha2878]

Love Tim! He never brings judgment, just truth!

[@faithmassok1983]

Wow, wow, wow, Tim & Team, WOW, WOW, WOW... I learn something NEW/FREAH everytime... Faith Massok from South Africa, Cape Town, Mithell's Plain...

[@WhitfordPR]

I didn’t know that loving your husband or ministering TO your husband (through love, through being a safe place, through listening, encouraging, through holding accountable in love) is also a ministry, same with kids and (extended) family, or caring for elderly parents, etc. or people you serve through your work as a case manager in a hospital, or the example that the way you conduct yourself the way you love your family or your kids, I had no idea all those things are also minitry, advocacy, etc.

[@daschuhow]

Amen!!!

[@FranLaVoix]

31:33 to 38:00 confirms and answers everything of my life about how to hear from God, have confidence that he is leading me in the right direction, and not feeling like I have to be forced to do things that I think he is saying to me. I've been struggling in this area of pursuing and furthering my career in nursing, my relationships and more. 38:00 to 40:36: has confirmed what I needed to do relational on all levels. Thank you

[@lateshaward7175]

Thank you for letting me know I am enough before God! Nothing can keep me from His Love and know HE is ALWAYS with me ❤

[@Sheena2021]

Hello Goodnight Fellow Dwellers and Basement Staff I love You All. This was an amazing Episode!!!! Thank You All For All You Do ❤❤❤❤

[@Gregandhisboys]

Ahhh of course I missed the live I needed!! 😭😭😭😭😭 - wife on hubby’s account. Cannot wait to consume this

[@Dwellevator]

📣 THIS LIVE POD 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@daschuhow]

Thank you for saying that about trust God AND take medication. ❤❤❤❤❤ 1:15:09

[@lisafoster3419]

Hey Tim and the crew❤. Love your transparency

[@g-raymurrell23]

Hey Tim this basement pod has been a blessing to me and I loved that you said ministry is not just the pulpit, I feel like I am called to ministry but it’s not in the pulpit I believe it’s been an influencer, love you man you are an inspirational don’t stop being you.

[@sassypants0421]

I've been clean and sober for 21 years, and I just started sharing my testimony.

[@1990imthebest]

Uncle Tim! I luv him 😭😂😂

[@BkVincy]

McDonald's question 😂😂😂😂😂😂 left field

[@jessicashine3924]

Holy crap the way this struck right to the core of my soul 🔥

[@HeathBlair]

Love everybody and their questions! I came in an hour later for live but got a lot out of it and it was awesome!

[@arkenawillis7511]

This spoke to me!

[@msandream]

My God! This has been rich from the first Q/A.

[@Brittroqksz]

For the first question, initially, I took it as if the wife isn’t a believer. I’m curious to hear Tim’s thoughts if that was the case

[@BkVincy]

Thank you!! You are in control of you

[@derrickaswing1092]

Good morning to your feet first 😂😂😂😂 cant wait to hear the barefoot conversation 🤣

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Love what you do... you're real

[@michellerenee8070]

"The minute you give your life to Jesus you're in ministry"!💯

[@daniellemccurry8349]

Aw man! I missed MoLive Monday! But glad I’m catching it today!🙌🏾

[@mzanudo86]

I want to hear more of Sam’s and Hector’s story!!

[@jt-For_me]

Hey guys love the podcast; As you see questions you like,maybe you could paste them into a word document so it doesn't get lost?

[@archwodrichemond-fils6187]

The Heat reference 🔥🔥🔥

[@michellerenee8070]

"Preachers don't wait for an engagement", that part!

[@shevonewhitaker4894]

1:11:01 Don’t allow a woman to fall for the POTENTIAL.. allow them to see you where you at and see the work you are putting in to who you are trying to become.. but what if you don’t become that person you can potentially be. Then failed expectations has happened. I hope that makes any sense at all.

[@Y.O274]

I'll Watch this and the enemy be attacking Sexually those Who are single and I was a victim too,So in Jesus name I pray that every person who is single shall be free and thank you lord that I'm free

[@NeshieMoore]

This was excellent!!

[@BkVincy]

Tim amd his story telling skills is why I hold the tension between my thoughts on cussing and him giving us the truth and compassion at the same time 😂😂

[@nkemijeh7264]

It’s for real tension for me too!!🥴🥴😩😂

[@jillianrawson5248]

Yoooo😂😂😂😂 this Pod is hilarious. I love the comic relief!! I also love the responses Tim is giving!!

[@TheRedZoneDJs]

Fire Q&A! You Went Off!

[@thabsilengcobo4880]

Im here for Tim's AND!!!!! 😂😀 Love from South Africa 🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@Thewillowranchhomestead]

The mom jeans 😂😂😂

[@CROrsak]

Congrats to the winners!! I need to listen during week hahaha

[@andreaclarke3560]

This was so informative 👏

[@KFMServices]

Love this podcast man.

[@Kcoli3]

Yes I can’t wait this live was amazing

[@Sheena2021]

Clapping In The Chat @ Sarahhhhhhh I’m just tuning In We Love You Girl clapping 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Were Proud Of You ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Efese76]

Love this background.

[@jonfoli]

I know the intro music word for word and I never slip past it I be killing it and feeeeeelliing myself doing it

[@HotterChocoLate]

Dinero 12 verse 3 im hollering!!!!!

[@medshell4vr]

I’m 55 and single and the man pool is slim to none where I live 😤

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OH SO YALL GAVE US 2 HOURS?!?!? 😭♥️ THANK YEWWWWW

[@jamiehigh924]

Not the Whole fruit pie with Whipped cream!Lol!

[@allenbryant]

Amen! You don't have to be on a church staff to serve God.

[@renitaharrigan5913]

God’s tone has been different based on my obedience / disobedience to His word.

[@tiffanyharkey5975]

Love heat

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Not mr. Magoo😂😂😂

[@HotterChocoLate]

Press B! Lets go

[@Keratile_Mandy]

9:50 Write a book for them Tim😊

[@NBnNC]

Would you explain the context of happy used in 1 Peter 3:14 “ But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled”?

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Livegust going great!

[@sassypants0421]

I would love it if tim could get Mr Bishop T.D. Jake's on his podcast to shine light on some or all of the things that are discussed on the show. He would bring great perspective.

[@christthelord91]

Na, the old space in the livingroom is brighter and more inviting

[@amiliciouss]

Shots from the jump lol

[@minervadouglas7576]

Right

[@michellerenee8070]

"Don't do anything your wife don't want you to do".

[@dnycexdesign]

I love ya and what y’all doing in the basement aaaaaand ya’ll gotta get your audio straight. Idk if you’re using a limiter as a safety or something but Tim keeps peaking and cutting out. This has been irking the production person in me across multiple episodes. If you don’t have a 32bit float audio recorder yet make that investment my homies. Sound Devices or the compact Tentacle are my go to jawns. Love y’all

[@Shawn-pn6wx]

❤ nobody : Turning down sneakers from Tim Ross 1:36:23

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You are too real! u hate you but i love you hahaha "going down the alter to die!!! that was heavy!

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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

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Go Sara!

[@quintonque1040]

Is this the new basement setup if so it is cosy

[@tamaramontral]

Omg I love the cousin from India!

[@MrGaddely]

We appreciate if you please add spanish subtitles 🙌🏼🙌🏼😩😂

[@jae_leMora]

The “uncle Tim” from the 19 yr old had me crying bc i definitely call you uncle Tim as well and it felt like hearing my little cousin ask our uncle a question. 🥹🩷

[@christthelord91]

But this space is good for informal epidodes like this, where theres no guests

[@telesamorrison2238]

❤❤❤❤

[@christthelord91]

Your house has an arcade?!! Whoah

[@trevor8714]

My husband and I share the KZbin account - but I thought it might be worth mentioning that I was the kid preaching growing up. Its taken me what feels like a life time - and I'm still learning that my value is in that I am a human made in the image and likeness of God and not in what I do and how good I can be at it. So I just wanted to say that you were spot on Uncle Tim, thank you for validating my experience.. and thanks to Tabitha in India for bringing it up. - Savannah 🩷

[@Jovaniel]

Where are the square patties

[@TAIRA_TYLER.G]

CHAZZZZZ LETS GOOOOOOO BOI

[@angiekahler7851]

First part of the pod…same advise even if your spouse is not saved?

[@Angie0214]

You have one lucky woman pastor as these women these days wont even date anyone without a car or a job

[@Angie0214]

This was a great podcast

[@stephanierhodes7691]

I hear from around my way that the dating in 2023 sucks bc there is pee in the dating pool 😂😂😂😂

[@rosiezuniga855]

It's because yall were gone for so long!

[@johnoliver2128]

Timotheous, give me a job I don’t care what the pay is

[@variousblack7922]

White is actually the color of death in some cultures.... so a white dress suits the situation... ( this just dawned on me by the way 😅)