Things about Relationships I wish someone told me about

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5 жыл бұрын

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@magicaleevee843
@magicaleevee843 5 жыл бұрын
A good phrase the internet taught me is: "You don't have to light yourself on fire, just to keep others warm." Man, that helped me a lot.
@Faith-zt3pq
@Faith-zt3pq 5 жыл бұрын
Woah that's a good one. I've never heard it before
@karla3153
@karla3153 5 жыл бұрын
@@Faith-zt3pq i heard that one too
@alina6623
@alina6623 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@angelchan6398
@angelchan6398 5 жыл бұрын
Thx boiiii
@weymorales
@weymorales 5 жыл бұрын
this is accurated
@eatme982
@eatme982 2 жыл бұрын
"I'm sorry I have to cut you off. I'm not responsible for your happiness." "You're literally my therapist I pay you 250 an hour"
@chloeithsad
@chloeithsad 2 жыл бұрын
i- lmfao that's great.
@kiyoshi5430
@kiyoshi5430 2 жыл бұрын
LMAOO O O O OO O
@SuchitaBhattacharya
@SuchitaBhattacharya 2 жыл бұрын
LMFAO WAIT-
@your_newsavior2436
@your_newsavior2436 2 жыл бұрын
I WAS EXPECTING SOMETHING REALISTIC LOL
@kookiejess
@kookiejess 2 жыл бұрын
They're still not responsible for your happiness, just saying
@nikkijones6070
@nikkijones6070 8 ай бұрын
“you are NOT responsible for anyone’s happiness!!” this single line is actually helping me so much holy crap, thank you so much jaiden.
@simonerose9040
@simonerose9040 6 ай бұрын
*Parents*
@A_Kiwi_Donut_YT
@A_Kiwi_Donut_YT 6 ай бұрын
The only happiness you are responsible for are your own and your imagination
@adithyanr7415
@adithyanr7415 6 ай бұрын
But you are responsible for your own happiness
@simionleva3856
@simionleva3856 6 ай бұрын
Except don't live by it TOO much or you'll become selfish
@user-lr9ho8wc7n
@user-lr9ho8wc7n 6 ай бұрын
@@simionleva3856 There is a difference between not being responsible and not doing sh*t for anyone’s well-being I guess
@justsnoww
@justsnoww Жыл бұрын
"Someone shouldn't ever need you. They should want you." - Jaiden You won't ever get how much this single phrase from an animation helped me in life.
@tennisracket166
@tennisracket166 9 ай бұрын
It's starting to get more important to me now
@zarico6157
@zarico6157 8 ай бұрын
The ecosystem analogy has helped me so much more than i could ever say honestly, its been with me for years and ill always be grateful to this video for it
@rattersworld1016
@rattersworld1016 7 ай бұрын
This video really is amazing.
@Savage_Sonic930
@Savage_Sonic930 7 ай бұрын
This quote was so helpful
@Z3r3na202
@Z3r3na202 7 ай бұрын
well that's good!!
@barnabyjjones2348
@barnabyjjones2348 4 жыл бұрын
“I’m pathetic just leave me” “Ok” *leaves* “Uhm”
@chandawellgapot8399
@chandawellgapot8399 4 жыл бұрын
*me being literal*
@yellowdandelions7760
@yellowdandelions7760 4 жыл бұрын
*Thats what I call a pro gamer move*
@marilynsmalley8807
@marilynsmalley8807 4 жыл бұрын
Poké Dudes meeeeee bro
@barnabyjjones2348
@barnabyjjones2348 4 жыл бұрын
Wow this is my best comment since one I made on a Betty boop video
@theambergryphon4266
@theambergryphon4266 4 жыл бұрын
I hate people who keep repeating that shit.
@EliMunoz2003
@EliMunoz2003 4 жыл бұрын
I saw something once that said: “When you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, the red flags just look like normal flags.”
@clastophobic
@clastophobic 4 жыл бұрын
quote from Bojack Horseman
@endergirldragon
@endergirldragon 4 жыл бұрын
Hahahahha *My glasses are pink*
@chaos7076
@chaos7076 3 жыл бұрын
Wha
@spreademu1218
@spreademu1218 3 жыл бұрын
Every 60 seconds a minuet passes in Africa.
@lex1212
@lex1212 3 жыл бұрын
how does that mean anything /im14andthisisdeep
@greendemon905
@greendemon905 Жыл бұрын
I used to have a friend with severe depression. At first, it wasn't so bad, but over the years, he grew worse and worse. He ignored any chance to improve himself, started acting more and more childish, and eventually blamed his situation on everyone and everything but himself. People started seeing me as greater than him, and it hurt me. I just wanted us both to be seen as equals. He didn't care. People told me to end our friendship, but I was afraid he might do something to himself if I did. I was afraid I might be the last thing keeping him on his feet. It took a long time for me to accept that I couldn't help him, and that I was not responsible for his well-being. So I let him go, and I grew happier. I don't know where he is now, or how he's feeling. I miss the fun things we used to do. But they weren't worth all the negative things that came with them. Any relationship, be it platonic or romantic, is about giving and receiving. Those two need to be in balance. If your give more than you receive, or the other way around, then the relationship is out of balance, and you need to change something.
@tlee1098
@tlee1098 11 ай бұрын
Receive* not need
@samsterhamster948
@samsterhamster948 10 ай бұрын
hey i totally get how you felt!! glad to see that you’re happier now
@gayparakeet
@gayparakeet 9 ай бұрын
That is such a touching story. I dont think I would have to courage to do that. Props to you.❤
@athena5714
@athena5714 8 ай бұрын
You know what they say, misery loves company
@mrcleanthebaguette1422
@mrcleanthebaguette1422 8 ай бұрын
Being depressed is not your fault, but refusing to even try to improve you condition is 100% entirely your fault
@beanieboo-M.K.Y
@beanieboo-M.K.Y 3 ай бұрын
The thing is, this isn’t just with friendships or partners, it’s family also sometimes. I know a lot of people that never thought about it. Personally I experienced a horrible relationship with my father until I inevitably cut him out of my life, and just wanted to put this out there for everyone
@jessicatoussaint9140
@jessicatoussaint9140 3 ай бұрын
I can relate to this. I can't wait to cut mine out of my life too. Good on you
@bashattack2414
@bashattack2414 3 ай бұрын
Same here with my grandma, I cut her off years ago, but have only recently realized how abusive she was towards me. This video has honestly saved my life in a weird way.
@kajunii1297
@kajunii1297 4 күн бұрын
Yup, easing him out of my life rn. It really is amazing what cutting out toxic people can do.
@aarushirawal7231
@aarushirawal7231 4 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: talks about relationships James: talks about his dead moth
@csuporlucifer7744
@csuporlucifer7744 4 жыл бұрын
And yet, which one of them is more successful? They're both awesome tho.
@thegistofthelists
@thegistofthelists 4 жыл бұрын
JustAHamsterOwner Oof he said *more*
@csuporlucifer7744
@csuporlucifer7744 4 жыл бұрын
@@nuggetthehamster7072 they can't both be *more* successful.
@yfi6841
@yfi6841 4 жыл бұрын
@@nuggetthehamster7072 i agree with you my friend.
@csuporlucifer7744
@csuporlucifer7744 4 жыл бұрын
@@nuggetthehamster7072 also agree
@urmomgay
@urmomgay 2 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: "No one wakes up and is like 'haha im gonna be super manipulative today!'" Politicians: *Watch me*
@fusix92
@fusix92 2 жыл бұрын
"Lying isnt a career" **laughs in politician**
@Michael-mh2tw
@Michael-mh2tw 2 жыл бұрын
Hot and original take.
@pkmntrainerred4247
@pkmntrainerred4247 2 жыл бұрын
Also politicians: Uh wait don`t watch me its harmful for my career. Don`t watch me just listen to me & everything`s gonna be fine. TOTALLY not gonna manipulate you guys or turn the whole country into elected autocracy, I SWEAR. Just F@@king listen to me & not to those other a$$holes & if something starts making sense just shoot it in the face with a bazooka. And if you don`t listen & start teaching M how to do MY job, I`m gonna throw ya in jail bud, so good time enjoying picnic to prison land adventure park if you decide to buy yourself a ticket, the price for which is- your freedom LOL, so enjoy your time. Totally not gonna turn this into a elected autocracy.``
@astek.lenartowicz
@astek.lenartowicz 2 жыл бұрын
Polish politics:well we manipulator evry dsy every hour every minut eevey secound (i and my friends call Polish politics little liaras)
@collinashley2570
@collinashley2570 2 жыл бұрын
What is Politicians
@chocoboko123
@chocoboko123 Жыл бұрын
"You are NOT personally responsible for anyone's happiness!" Is one of the most important things I have ever heard in my life.
@latexu9589
@latexu9589 22 күн бұрын
That sounds like a legal excuse to be an antisocial jerk.😅
@wyvy7013
@wyvy7013 3 ай бұрын
"do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?" has carried me so far in knowing what relationships are harmful to me
@anson3383
@anson3383 4 жыл бұрын
“Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on y-“ *_D E M O N E T I S E D_*
@SenselessArcade
@SenselessArcade 4 жыл бұрын
King Anson I thought I was the only one who found that joke dirty...🤣🤣🤣
@fischlvonluftschlossnarfid5048
@fischlvonluftschlossnarfid5048 4 жыл бұрын
*69 likes*
@AECcomputers
@AECcomputers 4 жыл бұрын
@@medditor3863 Wha?
@tojislefttoe7505
@tojislefttoe7505 4 жыл бұрын
I just realised this! Lmfao
@tojislefttoe7505
@tojislefttoe7505 4 жыл бұрын
@@medditor3863 bruh, it's a joke
@muffinman2143
@muffinman2143 4 жыл бұрын
Jaiden really out here advocating for everyone to be their own Lorax
@gamegod6859
@gamegod6859 4 жыл бұрын
speak for your own trees
@grumpyoldmanneedsanap8365
@grumpyoldmanneedsanap8365 4 жыл бұрын
Yessss!!!
@abcjhill3063
@abcjhill3063 4 жыл бұрын
i am the Lorax i speak for the trees,if you polute eviction notice to thee
@crack_soda
@crack_soda 4 жыл бұрын
I am the Clorox, and I speak for the Bleach.
@lilyplayz_yt
@lilyplayz_yt 4 жыл бұрын
I am the lorax, I speak for the trees. Litter again, I'll break your knees.
@soapysucks921
@soapysucks921 11 ай бұрын
I just got out of a toxic relationship 2 weeks ago and I've started to think it would've been better if I stayed or dealt with it. I came back to Jaiden's channel and saw this and this video really helped me a lot to see the red flags and the reasons why I left. I just wanted to say thank you for making this, because realizing manipulation or leaving unhealthy relationships is something really important to keep in mind. Thank you :)
@KasaiRayquaza
@KasaiRayquaza 9 ай бұрын
Okay, so I think I'm finally ready to share this. I learned of this video roughly 2 years ago. At the time, I'd already been through a slew of slightly toxic friendships, so I resonated with this video. But, by that point I had a group of great friends who I really trusted. About a year ago, one of those "great friends" asked me out and I said yes. It wasn't exactly how I imagined my first relationship going, but I thought it was going swimmingly well. At least that's what he told me. Because any time I expressed doubts or anxieties about something, he told me that's just how it was supposed to be. And I'd been friends with him for like three years, so obviously he was "very trustworthy". After about three months, I was ready to not be getting him anymore and (after a semi-traumatic experience right after we broke up involving unwilling first kisses and a child-locked door) ready to not know him any more. Because of what he had told me, I felt like it was my fault. Like I had pushed him to whatever. But about a week after I got out I remembered (if a little too late) this video. The number of "toxic traits" listed here that he had were ASTOUNDING: - *_Emotional Blackmail:_* He knew this was my first relationship, and told me that dating someone "super-duper casually" had WAY more emotional responsibilities than most married-couple relationships have, and I basically became his unpaid therapist. He also totally trauma-dumped on basically the first date and kept using that to guilt me into stuff. "I know you'll be the one to not leave" and stuff like that. - *_Shifting Blame:_* He kept blaming me that in those three months we really only ever went on 2 dates. However, I only was the cause of this once, and that was because that weekend I had strep throat AND Hurricane Ian hit. All the other times the dates got postponed he was hanging out with friends or he had a stomach bug (which he also blamed me for... For some reason...). - *_Gaslighting:_* Was used to supplement the shifting blame. - *_Guilt-Tripping:_* Was used to supplement the emotional blackmail. - *_Support system:_* He very much tried (and somewhat succeeded) at cutting me off from my support systems. He kept accusing me of hanging out with my friends more than I hung out with him, even though I hardly went out, and he hung out with his friends all the freaking time. He also told me that in a relationship you don't just go to your parents for everything, that's when you start being able to handle things on your own. And, once all was said and done, he went to our manager and said he didn't feel safe because I told my best friend (who worked with us and is incredibly in tune with people's emotions) a watered-down version of what had happened, and got me in serious trouble and placed under what was basically a "keep-quiet" mandate. Meanwhile I was having mini panic attacks anytime he came too close. (And yes, I knew going into it that dating a coworker was like farting in an elevator, but I figured a one time exception with "one of the sweetest people I knew" would've been fine. Nope.) - *_Justifying/Explaining Actions:_* I'm not even gonna list how many times I did this, either to myself or to others. - *_Disliked by the Trustworthy:_* My best friend mentioned on several occasions that he got a bad vibe from this guy. I just figured he thought he was annoying. - *_Feel Like Leaving Is Dangerous:_* See emotional blackmail. - *_"Do you put off seeing or responding to them?":_* Yeah. Many times he'd text me asking me to play unpaid therapist for him again, and I'd just pretend like I didn't have my phone for a bit. - *_"Have they threatened you or themselves in any way?"_* Yup. There were a lot of veiled threats directed at both of us. He acted super religious and he basically implied that a girl who breaks off a relationship was a "harlot" and would never be forgiven, and he also implied that breaking things off might be dangerous for him. - *_"Do they make you feel like you can't do things on your own or you can't make a single decision without them?"_* Yup. See support system and shifting blame. Also, he kept talking about how I didn't know what was best, so I should give up on my dream and a day-job that I loved so that when he was a famous movie star I'd be able to pull him away from all of the ladies who'd be throwing themselves at him because he's "so hot and so famous". - *_"Do they ask for a lot of favors or money and don't pay them back?"_* I didn't experience this first-hand, but I remember him telling me about an argument he and his friend had about how they'd always go to movies, the friend would pay for the tickets, and he never paid her back. - *_"Do they talk badly behind your back?"_* His best friend (who was toxic in his own right) dated one of our other coworkers. We got to talking one day, and she said that her ex (the best friend) would talk crap about everyone in our workplace. I was apparently the only one he didn't have any comments on, until things ended, and she implied that very nasty things were said. I didn't know the friend that well, so I can only imagine where he heard those things from... - *_" Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around them?"_* Absolutely. That was the three most emotionally draining months in my life. - *_"Do they put you down?"_* Yeah. Between how I "couldn't get the whole dating thing right," I "didn't spend enough time with him," etc. I pretty much felt like total crap by the end of everything. Plus... -When we were together he hit on the coworker who was dating his best friend while I was just a few cubicles away. -He kept going to events "as a friend" with this girl who I knew had a crush on him and would always come up with a lame excuse as to why I couldn't go. -Even though I told him before the first date that I was asexual and he said it was fine, he later told me he just said that in the hopes that he might get me to change my mind. -I brought cookies into work one day, he said that I'd "have a good place in the kitchen" and that was when he started showing interest in me. (Found this out after all was said and done.) -Oh yeah and I brought those cookies in when I was only 16 or 17. He was 5 years older than me, making him 21 or 22. That is illegal and (considering he's the outlier in guys I've liked) likely grooming. But thank you, Jaiden, for helping me realize that it wasn't me. I really need that. (He leaves tomorrow, and hopefully I will no longer be [as] cursed.)
@localsoul9760
@localsoul9760 7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I may not have gone through any toxic relationships (as far as I'm aware), but after reading your story and many others in this comment section, I REALLY feel bad for people like you and those people, while they CAN get better, often don't. They are super harmful and I really get pissed off at them when I read these types of stories. However, I do get that people like them can get better.
@one-onessadhalf3393
@one-onessadhalf3393 7 ай бұрын
Wow, your ex sounds like a really gross dude. I’m glad you’re free of him now.
@licarsmeth6890
@licarsmeth6890 6 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you had to go through all that. One point has me genuinely curious- you being asexual means you wouldn't wanna date anyone? Or have a romantic relationship? Or is it just you want to have a platonic relationship and not a sexual one? If so, why chamge from friend to boyfriend?
@KasaiRayquaza
@KasaiRayquaza 6 ай бұрын
@@licarsmeth6890 I'm romantic I just don't want to... Canoodle.
@vignotum132
@vignotum132 6 ай бұрын
Holy fuck dude. Best of luck in the future
@JKH133
@JKH133 4 жыл бұрын
“When you do the kisses with someone” Cutest phrase ever
@eebertdeebert
@eebertdeebert 4 жыл бұрын
JKH133 Yep.
@bigboyobi-wan
@bigboyobi-wan 4 жыл бұрын
haha yA
@fluffernal
@fluffernal 4 жыл бұрын
SHIP
@miciah3351
@miciah3351 4 жыл бұрын
Ship you and yo doggie
@toatlord247extreme5
@toatlord247extreme5 4 жыл бұрын
Wow
@shimmienshake
@shimmienshake 3 жыл бұрын
“you are NOT responsible for anybody’s happiness” Me: But they’re my children
@genericdude9082
@genericdude9082 3 жыл бұрын
Bruh
@KlavierMenn
@KlavierMenn 3 жыл бұрын
Well... that's the only case, it's your responsability, I guess? But there's a fine line in being responsible and being a helicopter.
@KlavierMenn
@KlavierMenn 3 жыл бұрын
@@suravinayan2753 When the child is yours? sure.
@belltempest3708
@belltempest3708 3 жыл бұрын
Ok gray area
@darthestar8791
@darthestar8791 3 жыл бұрын
Ok. That's a gray area. While you're responsible for making sure they grow up to be a happy, responsible, loving individual. You're not always responsible for their happiness(In other words. Don't make decisions that are already going to make them happy unless it's related to their needs(unless it's them being picky about things like food))
@Lalalalandrawr
@Lalalalandrawr 6 ай бұрын
Jaiden's channel gives me a breath of fresh air, a cousin I don't see often but always have a blast when they're around
@ava8068
@ava8068 Жыл бұрын
jaiden ik u will probably not see this but i really wanted to say thank you for this video. the "you are not responsible for anyone's happiness" changed my life completely. it got me out of a friendship where i was being SA and it got me to cut people off when they put everything on me. also the ecosystem analogy. i always tell my friends that line if their in a similar situation and it had helped them so much. 3 years later, thank you jaiden❤
@animationcity8178
@animationcity8178 2 жыл бұрын
Jaiden:”You dont have to solve other people’s problems” Me: *Looks at math* “Well, if you say so…”
@ziyahdavis2571
@ziyahdavis2571 2 жыл бұрын
Wait wha
@kingvoid8823
@kingvoid8823 2 жыл бұрын
holy shit your IQ
@funnyvideoguy3216
@funnyvideoguy3216 2 жыл бұрын
I mean, when are you gonna need it anyway (unless you aren't in high school yet)
@animationcity8178
@animationcity8178 2 жыл бұрын
@@funnyvideoguy3216 Or in Turkey.
@DanielLovesArt
@DanielLovesArt 2 жыл бұрын
@ii_nixliiYT agreed.
@bearrring
@bearrring 2 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: Someone shouldn't ever need you. They should want you. Romantic Movies: Wha'd you say?
@shaina4891
@shaina4891 2 жыл бұрын
Ifkr! The idea of love they project is really toxic if you ask me (I know you didn't but still) It's just that the whole "I'll die without you" facade is really shitty.
@TheWorldPillow
@TheWorldPillow 2 жыл бұрын
@@shaina4891 Strong agree.
@RAINY7701
@RAINY7701 2 жыл бұрын
100% AGREED. You should NOT need anyone to survive, unless there is a valid reason to require help from another individual. (I.e caretakers). YOU SHOULD NOT USE OTHERS AS A TOOL FOR YOUR SURVIVAL. This idea is toxic asf and annoying to hear about for the millionth time. (Sorry this kinda became a rant)
@FlakeTillman
@FlakeTillman 2 жыл бұрын
You should see what Hollywood producers do behind the scenes... (Seriously. Those movies are made by sick people.)
@lucienanimations4041
@lucienanimations4041 2 жыл бұрын
Dum you are so rude to her i don't know why people hate her she is awesome👍🙄
@reesesduckk
@reesesduckk 14 күн бұрын
rewatching this after having gotten out of a toxic relationship is so eye-opening. I was being manipulated and bullied for so long, and I didnt even realize it I would blame myself constantly, because I always felt like it was my fault. but, finally ending things off was the best decision, it did sting, but I wasnt myself anymore and I had lost so many friends in the process. being in a toxic relationship is extremely difficult, especially when you feel like there's no one to turn to and you feel trapped. but, just remember youre your own person, no one should ever control your life and the things that you do
@JokingSteak
@JokingSteak 3 ай бұрын
As someone who is battling depression and anxiety, I wonder how I come off to others. I just got back in touch with some old high school friends, they don't know what I'm going through because I haven't told them, but I catch myself oversharing certain things and being overally emotional. Honestly, reconnecting with them has helped me take my first steps to take charge of my life by going back to school, but I have to learn not to text them so much when I'm feeling down. I feel like it's kind of selfish, but I just get so damn lonely sometimes. I just hope I'm not being an emotional vampire.
@shaynatang8888
@shaynatang8888 3 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: Not responsible for anyone's happiness. Person: But I'm a therapist.
@marco_panda4606
@marco_panda4606 3 жыл бұрын
Therapy gives people the tools to help them fix themselves
@lightning2738
@lightning2738 3 жыл бұрын
Okay gray area there.
@crazybot1123
@crazybot1123 3 жыл бұрын
Alright, grey area.
@backwardsdescription4971
@backwardsdescription4971 3 жыл бұрын
Or a mother
@linguine_noodle
@linguine_noodle 3 жыл бұрын
I’d just like to say that therapists have the job of helping people and/or giving them the professional social/emotional help they need. Therapists are responsible for helping people to change into being the better version of themselves’ in order to make their life more enjoyable, but, therapists do not control the people they see. If their visitors refuse the advice they are given and decide to be so incompetent that they block out any useful information towards a better path to the future, the therapist is not responsible. (Y’all probably know this, I just wanted to comment it)
@SpiderKidAnimations
@SpiderKidAnimations 3 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: We have to interact with people Pandemic: Allow me to introduce myself
@hunnydayzzxxx6610
@hunnydayzzxxx6610 3 жыл бұрын
THE HUGGING AAEÆÆÆŔĚƏƏ
@TheKiwiCache
@TheKiwiCache 3 жыл бұрын
Celestial Dragons the fuck are you saying my guy
@dood9191
@dood9191 3 жыл бұрын
Hmmm, I like the stealing joke.....
@NaxDucky
@NaxDucky 3 жыл бұрын
Me, an extrovert with discord and zoom: are you challenging me?
@villainshototheythem2178
@villainshototheythem2178 3 жыл бұрын
SpiderKidAnimations Anti-socials with anxiety such as I. “We are going to be great friends 😌”
@purityang3l
@purityang3l 7 ай бұрын
i came back to this video after i got broken up with and i realized that both of us were being terrible to each other . its really hard to see bad behavior in yourself but coming back and seeing it explained from an outside perspective is really enlightening . i always forget how helpful this video is until i come back to it
@Hatstockings
@Hatstockings 5 ай бұрын
“You’re NOT responsible for other people happiness!” You do not know how much this helped me Jaiden with a certain relationship so thank you so much!
@applepie2147
@applepie2147 4 жыл бұрын
Anyone else super afraid that they're being manipulative towards others without noticing?
@anaveragehooman2364
@anaveragehooman2364 4 жыл бұрын
Me
@gmkdraws2477
@gmkdraws2477 4 жыл бұрын
I’m not cuz I don’t have any relationships :3
@maryanderham9967
@maryanderham9967 4 жыл бұрын
Yep. Now I’m scared everyone thinks I’m a jerk and I have no clue
@aod.1
@aod.1 4 жыл бұрын
your profile picture reminds me of 2012 and I love it so much
@nolifenerd2750
@nolifenerd2750 4 жыл бұрын
Me
@zuricchu
@zuricchu 3 жыл бұрын
"You're not responsible for someone else's happiness." This is a truth that's really hard to learn but very important to accept.
@somethingunusual8456
@somethingunusual8456 3 жыл бұрын
I'd love to print it and put in my forehead, so that MAYBE that one specific person would finally get it.
@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147
@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147 3 жыл бұрын
@singularling It's harder when you lived a life where making others happy is practically survival and just an instinct. Edit: grammar mistake.
@sridaran2666
@sridaran2666 3 жыл бұрын
"but i'm santa clause"
@peachesandcream333
@peachesandcream333 3 жыл бұрын
I cant stop myself from doing this yet lol. I need to go to a rage room XD
@peachesandcream333
@peachesandcream333 3 жыл бұрын
@@elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147 omg so right, I didn't know how to put it into words lol
@imnina865
@imnina865 8 ай бұрын
This helped me sm. When I was younger, around 6th grade, I met a girl we'll call K. She would justify her actions by being goofy or whatever. She used to insult my writing, something I was very talented in at that age and was all around a bad friend. My sisters would constantly pester me about blocking her and cutting her off. I listened after this video. So thank you, Jaiden.
@i_gacha_panda_2714
@i_gacha_panda_2714 11 ай бұрын
Every once in a while I'll come back to this video, I've had a couple toxic relationships, one was more recent and we were friends for a long time with no problems and randomly they became sour. I doubt myself a lot on if I am actually " in the right" but this video always helps me realize and remember that I did all I could before it went bad and that I didn't do anything to cause it to happen. Thank you ❤️
@Kirbzi
@Kirbzi 11 ай бұрын
I've recently had to ask my best friend of a few years to give me some space and leave me alone for a few days, I felt horrible for doing this but he has slowly become much more toxic over the past few weeks and it is starting to negatively impact me. I know I will thank myself for this in a few weeks time. Like this video says, we are not responsible for other peoples happiness. Hopefully you are in a better place now and have found some new people to bring some positivity into your life!
@ArthurSilva-ql4zd
@ArthurSilva-ql4zd 5 жыл бұрын
“Yeet toxic people out, yoink good people in” -Mahatma Gandhi
@lilywoodrow7881
@lilywoodrow7881 5 жыл бұрын
Mind if I use that for my research paper?
@-acne
@-acne 5 жыл бұрын
I have to yeet more than anything else :,,)
@ArthurSilva-ql4zd
@ArthurSilva-ql4zd 5 жыл бұрын
alpha bet Subscribe to Pewdiepie, also T-gei
@HotDogSkins
@HotDogSkins 5 жыл бұрын
I thought she was gonna cuss
@wolfsmith7285
@wolfsmith7285 5 жыл бұрын
I mean in reality it'll get to the point where relationships wont exists seriously i mean now a days toxicity is nearly over 75% 🙏💥cant wait for the earth to end at some time period 👌
@ricecracker1723
@ricecracker1723 5 жыл бұрын
*”Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on you.”* -Jaiden
@alecody
@alecody 5 жыл бұрын
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
@thegratercheese8457
@thegratercheese8457 5 жыл бұрын
no
@swordslinger2269
@swordslinger2269 4 жыл бұрын
She can hide jokes better than Disney XD
@georgemissailidis1504
@georgemissailidis1504 4 жыл бұрын
@katt9004
@katt9004 4 жыл бұрын
*o h*
@agrafenabaharava3852
@agrafenabaharava3852 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been in a toxic relationship for six months and these were the most tiring months of my life, him wanting to kill himself and having draining mental health and it was slowly draining my mental health too and until he got sued for child pornography i didn’t let go of him… I wish I had broken up sooner. I had to carry so much responsibility for him and also carrying for my own it was too much stress… at least I remembered this video and it helped me a lot to see what happened and what could’ve gone wrong and how it could’ve drained me. THANK YOU SO MUCH JAIDEN! You’re such a wonderful creator and you deserve even more recognition and it helps all of us a lot in life. once again… THANK YOU
@attackingtew2053
@attackingtew2053 6 ай бұрын
This is such a heartfelt and deep video. It feels like psych2go
@teagannam
@teagannam 4 жыл бұрын
*”It’s not selfish to want the best for yourself”* I really really need to learn that. Tysm Jaiden (and Katie!)
@todorokishoto2176
@todorokishoto2176 4 жыл бұрын
For me it is
@teagannam
@teagannam 4 жыл бұрын
Todoroki Shoto fALSEHOOD this applies to literally everybody. It’s completely natural and healthy to want the best for yourself and if someone calls you selfish for caring abt yourself, cut them out!! It’s not that you shouldn’t care abt yourself, it’s that they don’t care abt YOU.
@taylorcampbell2653
@taylorcampbell2653 4 жыл бұрын
I agree
@meganparker550
@meganparker550 4 жыл бұрын
i liked this now it has 666 likes. I will unlike it to keep it holy but know i like this comment uwu
@doris4469
@doris4469 4 жыл бұрын
It is selfish, but who said selfishness is evil?
@tylers9006
@tylers9006 5 жыл бұрын
When someone drinks straight out of the milk carton RED FLAG
@belleyelena7720
@belleyelena7720 5 жыл бұрын
Just drinking plain milk is a red flag :/
@crystalbubbleaj7581
@crystalbubbleaj7581 5 жыл бұрын
TJ Shavis oh darn they caught us
@fangirlgames6963
@fangirlgames6963 5 жыл бұрын
🚩
@bella9590
@bella9590 5 жыл бұрын
BOTH OF YALL ARE WRONG
@claritycw6424
@claritycw6424 5 жыл бұрын
Yes thank u
@aidennevada243
@aidennevada243 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video! It helped me to notice that I need some distance in one relationship (non romantic, more familial). Just because they want me, I don't need to be close to them.
@joyflameball
@joyflameball 6 ай бұрын
I have sent this video to two of my friends when they were in toxic relationships, and used the eight points you listed out around eight minutes and thirty seconds in to help them figure things out. Thank you SO much.
@laumishhhh
@laumishhhh 3 жыл бұрын
Now that I'm out of a toxic relationship, this video hits different.
@MalakSmalak
@MalakSmalak 3 жыл бұрын
I had a super toxic friend. We used to always fall out and he would always find i way to lay the blame on me, making me feel like it was my fault we were in this shithole of a situation to begin with. What i didn't know, is that we fell out because he didn't agree with what i did. He didn't like what i did so that made it a problem. This is a brief rundown of what happened. Me: 'Hey i'm going to go hang out with (insert random friend name here) today!' Him: 'So you're just going to leave me alone? What the hell is wrong with you. I thought we were close friends. You always treat me like shit!' You see where i'm coming from?
@velmadinkly1093
@velmadinkly1093 3 жыл бұрын
@@MalakSmalak ah yeah. I had a friend like that. She was awful but I then I moved so it was fine I guess
@MalakSmalak
@MalakSmalak 3 жыл бұрын
@@velmadinkly1093 oof sorry to hear that :(
@felinefrost7023
@felinefrost7023 3 жыл бұрын
I’m proud of all of you in the comments who got out of that It takes a lot of strength so good job
@MalakSmalak
@MalakSmalak 3 жыл бұрын
@@felinefrost7023 well it most certainly takes a lot of strength to say you are proud of someone! Thank you :)
@lokithekitten8668
@lokithekitten8668 4 жыл бұрын
"Don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -Jaiden 2019
@vico1054
@vico1054 4 жыл бұрын
Loki the kitten ikr
@criticalgamerx172
@criticalgamerx172 4 жыл бұрын
9/10 Kids don't understand this joke
@pineapple3555
@pineapple3555 4 жыл бұрын
Ew lmaooooo
@pineapple3555
@pineapple3555 4 жыл бұрын
I didn’t even realize that... I’m never gonna unhear that xD
@justsomeguy144
@justsomeguy144 4 жыл бұрын
Her chuckle after saying that though.
@CherryXXCola
@CherryXXCola 5 ай бұрын
Two years ago I watched this video and it made me realise i was a part of a REALLY toxic friendship. It was one of those “but she’s really depressed and su1c1d@l i don’t want anything to happen to her!” Friendships where I end up being forced to carry the burdens of my friend to the point that they aren’t getting any better, but I’m getting worse. It pulled me into a really dark place but this video smacked some sense into me and I ended the friendship. Now I can say I’m really truly happy.
@deadchaos912
@deadchaos912 7 ай бұрын
I just broke off a 10 year friendship because me and the friend had grown apart and they lashed out at me and started blaming me for situations I can’t control. Breaking my friendship off with them will most likely cause most of my friendships to disappear which I’m terrified of, but this video made me feel more confident about my choice. It reminded me why I broke it off
@connorl0204
@connorl0204 2 жыл бұрын
“Dont let people force their junk on you” -jaiden, preventing sexual assaults 10 minutes at a time.
@aceofheartzxaver1366
@aceofheartzxaver1366 2 жыл бұрын
Even if it was a accidental convenient sentence
@kingstonsilva1417
@kingstonsilva1417 2 жыл бұрын
Hey great anology😃😃😃
@TheActualMrLink
@TheActualMrLink 2 жыл бұрын
@@kingstonsilva1417 dontyoumeanANALogy
@eiko1
@eiko1 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheActualMrLink _w h y_
@CozyAlaedu
@CozyAlaedu 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheActualMrLink WHY
@yalldothemost6892
@yalldothemost6892 3 жыл бұрын
“Someone shouldn’t ever need you, they should want you” I felt that
@nachomolaolivera7580
@nachomolaolivera7580 3 жыл бұрын
Except with kids. Mostly your kids.
@ca352256
@ca352256 3 жыл бұрын
Haha, that reply made me laugh.
@red_phantom7310
@red_phantom7310 3 жыл бұрын
One problem no one wants me
@monroefoster4606
@monroefoster4606 3 ай бұрын
I like the pile example because it symbolizes that it's perfectly fine to help them out a bit with what you can without neglecting your own mental health but it's important to set boundaries about how much you can handle helping with
@westerholt1071
@westerholt1071 3 ай бұрын
I'm really glad I stumbled along to watch this video. Thank you. I've been struggling with a situation and at least for a little bit it brought some calm to that storm :)
@Sizzox
@Sizzox 4 жыл бұрын
”When you look at somebody through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just looks like flags” - Wanda Pierce
@Lol-zw8ks
@Lol-zw8ks 4 жыл бұрын
Damn that’s a good fucking quote holy shit
@warrena5515
@warrena5515 4 жыл бұрын
Bojack moment
@certifiedtoaster2425
@certifiedtoaster2425 4 жыл бұрын
I used to be in a really famous teee vee show...
@livlovd6380
@livlovd6380 4 жыл бұрын
So like if you look at someone you “love” the red flags arent as visible?
@warrena5515
@warrena5515 4 жыл бұрын
@@livlovd6380 no shit
@Boyandarrow
@Boyandarrow 5 жыл бұрын
-You deserve clean air. *China* : stop right there
@michellesouthward6606
@michellesouthward6606 5 жыл бұрын
sea turtles : I have air but I CANT BREATHE
@augusteklimantaviciute9445
@augusteklimantaviciute9445 5 жыл бұрын
FOSSIL FUELS, POLLUTION, DEATHHHHHH.. sorry I've been in school for too long..
@omoghosty5777
@omoghosty5777 5 жыл бұрын
China: We are selling _canned air_
@nahiyan4564
@nahiyan4564 5 жыл бұрын
Air: MaDe In ChInA
@geoss2346
@geoss2346 5 жыл бұрын
@@omoghosty5777 i became zillionaire
@katon4444
@katon4444 9 ай бұрын
You know, i watch this video at least twice a year. This is by far one of the best video on youtube you could watch to slowly heal and get back self-confidence. This video is extraordinary pure and full of kindness as much as good for putting limits where they need to. Jaiden, you can't imagine how much this video has helped me so I want to say: Thank you
@littleflowersbloom
@littleflowersbloom 3 ай бұрын
This video taught me to stand up for myself and put myself first when I would always justify someone else's behaviour. I am proud of myself for making the right decision. I also learnt what is toxic within me. I do not vocalise what I feel or need when it is required.I must learn to stop being embarrassed of my own wants, needs and emotions. I am not too much or too sensitive for being the way I am. Further, a reminder to everyone. None of us are perfect human beings. We are all flawed. In fact, incredibly flawed human beings. So, I want you let be less harsh on yourself. If you are toxic in some ways or were, do your best to work on it! No one can perfectly eliminate the ugly sides of ourselves but we can always try to reflect on ourselves each day, be mindful and progress. Being too mindful is very stressful! Relax, do what is best in your consciousness and enjoy life :)
@The_sad_skater
@The_sad_skater 5 жыл бұрын
Me: but...I have kids? Jaiden: NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONES HAPPINESS !!!!!
@mcdowneywhite279
@mcdowneywhite279 5 жыл бұрын
You here of the giving tree?
@Technoanima
@Technoanima 5 жыл бұрын
It’s a grey area! 🤣 Plenty of standards to follow. In dog country, it’s the moment your kid starts yapping back at you.
@patrickmccarthy349
@patrickmccarthy349 5 жыл бұрын
But I'm a therapist
@pointyfingersazel5986
@pointyfingersazel5986 5 жыл бұрын
thats wrong but its still funny
@genomerc
@genomerc 5 жыл бұрын
@@mcdowneywhite279 *hear
@ozymandias3846
@ozymandias3846 2 жыл бұрын
My health teacher played this in class, best teacher ever
@johannamorales3478
@johannamorales3478 2 жыл бұрын
:0
@verzionhorizon
@verzionhorizon 2 жыл бұрын
i want that teacher.
@insectcat7057
@insectcat7057 2 жыл бұрын
I wish mine did, we had this exact same talk but longer and more confusing so playing this video would have saved multiple weeks worth of thought and agony.
@lamp888
@lamp888 2 жыл бұрын
Yasss
@verzionhorizon
@verzionhorizon 2 жыл бұрын
wait your a lamp? well you better be careful of moth then-
@JustARandomLesbian
@JustARandomLesbian Жыл бұрын
Once me and my friend got in a fight and they said it was to hard for them to take care of both of us so I started not telling them about any of my problems and helping them to much for me to take care of myself while originally I was actually the one taking care of both of us.
@GeekyGrant
@GeekyGrant 6 ай бұрын
I remember watching this years ago when it first dropped, it was great back then, but I didn't realise how much I needed this now... Just had to go NC with someone and this helped bring context to things and validated my actions... Thank you Jaiden
@henry5783
@henry5783 4 жыл бұрын
"don't let them forcefully shove their junk on you" -jaiden 2019
@moxximain
@moxximain 4 жыл бұрын
DIRTY MIND TEST!!!
@hellryderplayz1854
@hellryderplayz1854 4 жыл бұрын
doing that is something called rape i suppose
@sunclove3554
@sunclove3554 4 жыл бұрын
I S T H A T A N A N T I R A P E J O K E ? SJWs 2019: BURN IT WITH FIRE!
@velconx15
@velconx15 4 жыл бұрын
Wait what?
@velconx15
@velconx15 4 жыл бұрын
How is it dirty mindex?
@stemginger5880
@stemginger5880 4 жыл бұрын
"Drugs are bad...are my other friends going to do it???" Friends: slams heads into coke
@cupcakeletsplay9475
@cupcakeletsplay9475 4 жыл бұрын
That was funny I don't know why😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@AnAppleSlice
@AnAppleSlice 4 жыл бұрын
*SNIFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF*
@murdurerjack7463
@murdurerjack7463 4 жыл бұрын
Yes, the rest of us also saw that.
@philswift2435
@philswift2435 4 жыл бұрын
CANS COKE INGOB-)HEADS SMACkWould FRIENDS MY
@tiffanymills7479
@tiffanymills7479 4 жыл бұрын
I could not stop laughing
@dizzyrocket8
@dizzyrocket8 4 ай бұрын
Don’t measure a relationship on happiness. Happiness is a state of mind. For instance you could be happy you got your dream job, a good job that pays your bills and affords you a reasonably comfortable life. That doesn’t mean you’re going to be happy everyday of your life. So many factors go into your happiness. For instance you can base your happiness on what you don’t have and what other do have on social media… (etc) everyone talks about red flags, that’s a negative outlook and can manipulate you from seeing and noticing the good flags. A “green flag” would be, for instance, someone who has a reasonable base of happiness, and emotional stability. Great video, got me thinking…
@iam1coolkid
@iam1coolkid Жыл бұрын
i come and watch this video quite often, it helps me a lot and helps me remember to value my own happiness when it comes to relationships, so thanks!
@SSaucers
@SSaucers 4 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: *Swears in a video* KZbin: RED FLAG
@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255
@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255 4 жыл бұрын
Dang right
@nethascotx24
@nethascotx24 4 жыл бұрын
Well it's not technically a swear as she didn't say the last letter
@peachy1954
@peachy1954 4 жыл бұрын
@@nethascotx24 yeah but this is KZbin. stop doing drugs your high sis
@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255
@wesleysceilingfanjoint5255 4 жыл бұрын
@@nethascotx24 yeah she definitely did say the last letter on
@girlyvideos2809
@girlyvideos2809 4 жыл бұрын
Dean lol
@Nezuk0._
@Nezuk0._ 5 жыл бұрын
"That's toxic as *SHIIII* " -Axolotl Jaiden
@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee
@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee 5 жыл бұрын
XD H THATS WAT I PUT XD
@Nezuk0._
@Nezuk0._ 5 жыл бұрын
@@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee OOP-
@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee
@Insertcashorselectpaymenttypee 5 жыл бұрын
@@Nezuk0._ XD
@HM-xw7gp
@HM-xw7gp 3 ай бұрын
Jaiden, I hope you realize how much this video (and a few others) helped us become happier by learning more about who we are, what we desire, and shaping our boundaries. It's "only" been 4 years this video came out now, but I can see how much things changed for me in the meantime, and how, without even knowing it, this video (alon with many many other experiences) shaped who I am today, and the fact I'm happier everyday with who I am and where I am :) I still have a long way to go and a lot of things are unsure for me, but I learn about myself and better interacting with people every day, my friends are the best I could have hoped for and I found ways to easily come back to a safe space when necessary. I don't tire myself out every day anymore, and I try to enjoy life as much as I can before getting to the next step, be it through hobbies, relationships, silly stuff or whatever else I'm so happy I can call myself happy
@melshiemoo412
@melshiemoo412 10 ай бұрын
ironically I watched this video when I was in a toxic 5 year relationship, and i remember thinking nothing was wrong at the time and applied the video to other people in my life in my head. But revisiting the video really makes the parts of us that didn't work out become glaringly obvious, goes to show that hindsight is 20/20. I know the things i messed up in the relationship, and am more aware of the things my partner did behind my back now that we are done. i love your videos jaiden, keep it up!
@Souchi-ito
@Souchi-ito 4 жыл бұрын
*Someone shouldn't need you, they should want you* - wise words.
@beingweirdisnormal1404
@beingweirdisnormal1404 4 жыл бұрын
Right as I read this, the part came on
@halicusnguyen8864
@halicusnguyen8864 4 жыл бұрын
so the wisdom water is kicking in, eh?
@skinman4207
@skinman4207 3 жыл бұрын
Doctors, children, babies and therapists: *_Sweating increases_*
@isabellas1600
@isabellas1600 5 жыл бұрын
Moral of the story: *don’t be friends with anyone unless they are fertilizer*
@sofi_sticado111
@sofi_sticado111 5 жыл бұрын
Quote of the year
@maythegamer1291
@maythegamer1291 5 жыл бұрын
What if they’re animals living in the plants?
@jadinrobinson603
@jadinrobinson603 5 жыл бұрын
I subed to you because that cat is cute
@gamingcookiereal
@gamingcookiereal 5 жыл бұрын
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
@Bennie_Tziek
@Bennie_Tziek 5 жыл бұрын
Or if they are Santa
@strawbs_03T
@strawbs_03T 6 ай бұрын
Thank you, jaiden. I've been going through some tough friendship changes. 0:46 -1:21 hit home for me rewatching this video. This has helped me understand my situation more clearly & about myself as well :)
@sn0wii.__
@sn0wii.__ 9 ай бұрын
rewatching this video after leaving toxic friends really hits different. made me learn that it’s really not easy to spot manipulation. stay safe out there.
@JustaLamborghiniCountachWhoCom
@JustaLamborghiniCountachWhoCom 3 жыл бұрын
"Responsibilities aren't just assigned to you." Schools: I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.
@justsomeguy144
@justsomeguy144 3 жыл бұрын
The guidance counselor: No No... He's got a point.
@SOMEONE-pr8qp
@SOMEONE-pr8qp 3 жыл бұрын
Expooooosssssseeeeddddd
@trevorbean1534
@trevorbean1534 3 жыл бұрын
Employers: Nothing to see here...
@patriciafarrelly1068
@patriciafarrelly1068 3 жыл бұрын
Parents: yea... just schools..
@brodysawa5563
@brodysawa5563 3 жыл бұрын
666th like
@angelchan6398
@angelchan6398 4 жыл бұрын
_when someone sneezes with their eyes open_ *_RED FLAG_*
@thehat371
@thehat371 4 жыл бұрын
*impossible*
@memorableman3709
@memorableman3709 4 жыл бұрын
If someone does that, they are not human.
@-cosmiclown-
@-cosmiclown- 4 жыл бұрын
Hold up
@irislxv
@irislxv 4 жыл бұрын
Did you know sneezing with your eyes open is actually bad for you?
@its_eva
@its_eva 4 жыл бұрын
The moØn playzz no coz it’s legit impossible a human can’t physical sneeze with their eyes open
@RoxieBunnyHeart
@RoxieBunnyHeart 11 ай бұрын
I've used this video to help other friends for many years, and now this year I'm using it to help myself. I even have the hard pill section clipped for repeated mantras and for slapping at friends who are struggling with this kind of thing. Codependency can sneak up on you no matter how healthy or well meaning you are. Thanks for this wonderful bite-sized video of self affirmation. It'll be a while before I feel better, but I can rest easy knowing that eventually I will. ♥
@ninalockie
@ninalockie 6 ай бұрын
this is a really valuable piece of info that is essential for maintaining healthy dynamics. positive and negative relationships are both incredibly nuanced. like you said, most people don’t wake up and decide to be manipulative. it’s usually a product of their environment or something that harmed them. fear and control are, unfortunately, powerful driving forces for questionable behaviour. and i don’t think any of us get out of this without being influenced by one or the other. it’s most important to see where those two factors come into play and how they contribute to our interactions. where is the lack coming from? that’s how we can pinpoint it and begin repairing the damages.
@zephyr5048
@zephyr5048 5 жыл бұрын
7:23 Didn't expect a BHA reference, but here we are.
@ashtoncarbry6492
@ashtoncarbry6492 5 жыл бұрын
Oh thank god I thought I was the only one who saw it.
@kenl001
@kenl001 5 жыл бұрын
Me neither! But as you said, here we are!
@adeliadrawstuff
@adeliadrawstuff 5 жыл бұрын
Zephyr Toga got a sneaky sneak
@ixmadexaxvideo
@ixmadexaxvideo 5 жыл бұрын
That was the best part of my day today :)
@RyanStaben
@RyanStaben 5 жыл бұрын
*BNHA
@SummerRene
@SummerRene 5 жыл бұрын
“But I’m Santa!” “Alright, grey area.”
@agnes6010
@agnes6010 5 жыл бұрын
SandyIRL No she said Grey
@elisefr
@elisefr 5 жыл бұрын
Um excuse me its spelt grAy not grEy I’m just kidding
@agnes6010
@agnes6010 5 жыл бұрын
SandyIRL It’s okay. It was just a mistake
@spookster8984
@spookster8984 4 жыл бұрын
Me in Santa costume: "hahaha!"
@MidnightTheGothArtist
@MidnightTheGothArtist 9 ай бұрын
I recently stopped hanging out with somebody who was mentally and emotionally draining in my life and this video really helped me be confident in myself that I made the right choice. Much like Jaiden said, they would pull constant guilt trips, tell me that if I ever left them they’d be depressed forever, always claim they “always have something to cry about”, and basically just throw pity parties. I felt bad and wanted to do what I could to help, but it got to the point that it was taking a toll on my mental health (especially whenever they’d flirt with me after I told them I wasn’t interested) Anyways, long story short, I felt bad for awhile about leaving them but I didn’t want to go back to them because of how mentally draining they were. So hearing this video was really a good pat on the shoulder. Gotta take care of my ecosystem🌸
@Djdivess
@Djdivess Ай бұрын
This is so true relationship needs to be maintained and consistent with each other ❤ thank you for this Jaiden
@unknownkitsune5674
@unknownkitsune5674 4 жыл бұрын
So if everyone is their own ecosystem, does that make therapists conservationists?
@mrpineapple7920
@mrpineapple7920 4 жыл бұрын
yes it does
@TheSuicidalGiraffe
@TheSuicidalGiraffe 4 жыл бұрын
Pretty sure they're gardening supply shops. They give you the tools to learn how to maintain your ecosystem and improve or change it in a simple but non damaging way. And YOU decide to listen to their advice and follow their instructions.
@user-fq4hj8yv2z
@user-fq4hj8yv2z 4 жыл бұрын
Probably
@ancientess4424
@ancientess4424 4 жыл бұрын
I feel happy
@danielandrade483
@danielandrade483 4 жыл бұрын
Nah, makes em lawmowers
@Jireninyourrecommendations
@Jireninyourrecommendations 5 жыл бұрын
When you hear someone knocking your door and it says "You forgot your French lessons" *_RED FLAG_*
@smildoddlesXD
@smildoddlesXD 5 жыл бұрын
ehehehehehheheeh
@burdenuner9084
@burdenuner9084 5 жыл бұрын
Beg for your life in spanish
@dragonz3037
@dragonz3037 5 жыл бұрын
NO DUO! DON'T DO IT!!
@wolfheart8604
@wolfheart8604 5 жыл бұрын
Getting a notification for that same thing JUST as I read this comment? Red flag. *BIG RED FLAG*
@DiamondRose
@DiamondRose 5 жыл бұрын
I’m gonna go do some Spanish now.....
@Historicutuber
@Historicutuber 5 ай бұрын
This video was so helpful. Thanks Jaden!
@SiennatheHuman-_-
@SiennatheHuman-_- 3 ай бұрын
Imma be honest the ecosystem planet thing helped me so much and helps me put it into perspective for others too honestly thank you Jaiden
@dogwithheadphones
@dogwithheadphones 3 жыл бұрын
I love how Jaiden’s channel is a mix of stupid funny life stories and just really deep topics like how to deal with emotions
@makinbaconbitz689
@makinbaconbitz689 3 жыл бұрын
“You should care about yourself more!” Vs “I ATE SO MANY GREEN BREANS I-“
@sara_4900
@sara_4900 3 жыл бұрын
Yes the perfect balance 🌟
@xxvioletcookiexx1668
@xxvioletcookiexx1668 3 жыл бұрын
The girl who said"im gonna be super muniplitive today"looked like one of the villians for my hero accedmi anyone else notice that?
@sara_4900
@sara_4900 3 жыл бұрын
@@xxvioletcookiexx1668 She looked like toga to me at least
@no_cubed
@no_cubed 3 жыл бұрын
It’s also filled with beautiful animation ✨
@shanonymous2010
@shanonymous2010 3 жыл бұрын
“Don’t tolerate any pollution, you are the one who has to live in it, and you deserve clean air.” -Jaiden Animations What a great quote honestly. (Fixed my comment)
@shinyzane2660
@shinyzane2660 3 жыл бұрын
first reply of 337 likes lol
@shanonymous2010
@shanonymous2010 3 жыл бұрын
@@shinyzane2660 what lol
@shinyzane2660
@shinyzane2660 3 жыл бұрын
@@shanonymous2010 i was the first reply to your comment
@aydenday5805
@aydenday5805 2 жыл бұрын
That freaking hit different oh my gosh
@daithioloinsigh
@daithioloinsigh 2 жыл бұрын
Ye
@leona5167
@leona5167 8 ай бұрын
thank you for this, it's so hard to manage yourself around relationships. this video really helped me a lot in realizing and taking action even though it hurts but I guess things just need to change
@Ittlibawbisb
@Ittlibawbisb 16 күн бұрын
Hi Jaiden! I know you’re highly likely to not read this but here it is anyways. Your advice in this video has actually helped me so much these past few years. I recently broke it off with my best friend Jasmine, she and I have both helped each other through very tough times and we’ve been best friends for at least a year. I started realising the warning signs you listed in this video, your example with Chad and Sally is quite a good way to describe it. Whenever I made new friends, or even TALKED about making new friends than she’d start sh-t talking them. She often made me feel bad by saying things like ‘oh… her… well she’s best friends/ is someone I really don’t like.’ She conditioned me into never making other friends unless she made them, otherwise she’d call me a terrible best friend and say I’m just like her old friends. I tried everything you said, I’ve set boundaries and self-reflected myself to death after breaking things off with her… I do realise how toxic she actually was. She manipulated me, isolated me, and made me feel so little. And also, if Sophie or Mansi are reading this, THANK YOU SO MUCH. As the friends that Jasmine made for both of us, I could never say in words how much I appreciate you and everyone reading who is like you. If you’re not Sophie or Mansi, be like Sophie or Mansi. If you know a toxic person AND the person who they are toxic with, please support the victim of the toxicity. If it’s anything like my situation, they most likely will not have anyone else to go to after breaking things off with that toxic person. Final note/summary: Don’t be toxic, do what Jaiden says because all this info is terrifyingly accurate, and support people who are not longer in toxic situations.
@stevefilms1997
@stevefilms1997 5 жыл бұрын
There’s an easy solution: You can’t have manipulative friends if you don’t have friends it’s just simple logic
@nicholite697
@nicholite697 5 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@GrayCatbird1
@GrayCatbird1 5 жыл бұрын
This. still waiting for a better solution than this
@LBF197
@LBF197 5 жыл бұрын
Doesn't fix manipulative family members thoooooooooo
@joey2837
@joey2837 5 жыл бұрын
I feel like your trying to manipulate me into not having friends
@osszes19valaszmegtekintese40
@osszes19valaszmegtekintese40 5 жыл бұрын
@@LBF197 can't have manipulative family members if you're an orphan ;)
@WulfieZi
@WulfieZi 4 жыл бұрын
My therapist: exists Jaiden: I'm about to end this whole man's career.
@joselint7158
@joselint7158 4 жыл бұрын
Omg literally what I was just thinking about it 😂
@Maukiki
@Maukiki 4 жыл бұрын
*lets act that is not there
@chopperbrosadvance9760
@chopperbrosadvance9760 4 жыл бұрын
Wtf
@le5052
@le5052 4 жыл бұрын
PLEASE get actual help if you need it, don’t use a KZbin as a substitute.( still love jaiden!) not trying to ruin the joke, but jokes aside, PLEASE get help if you need it.
@goobing
@goobing 4 жыл бұрын
Jaiden, the ultimate therapist
@BrynnWit
@BrynnWit 7 ай бұрын
I saved this video and reflect back onto it when ever things feel fishy for me or a friend who is telling me about a crappy person. I normally watch through and if a friend needs it send it to them. It’s always nice to have a refresher
@horror_game999
@horror_game999 4 ай бұрын
This video helped me so much on relationships. I watched it ages ago and liked it despite being young and not understanding it a lot, I really liked it and watched it every year since. it's really helped me and given me a good understanding on relationships, whether it be friends or partners
@sheevpalpatine8889
@sheevpalpatine8889 2 жыл бұрын
"No one wakes up and is like "haha, I'm gonna be super manipulative today!" " You're right. You can all trust me.
@Destinyawe
@Destinyawe 2 жыл бұрын
I will do whatever you ask. I pledge myself to your teachings.
@krysticblue1336
@krysticblue1336 2 жыл бұрын
*heavy breathing* HUAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
@olisbricks2468
@olisbricks2468 2 жыл бұрын
Why does she look like toga from mha
@Sammy_Wammy_
@Sammy_Wammy_ 2 жыл бұрын
@@olisbricks2468 she does
@shantanuurgunde2013
@shantanuurgunde2013 2 жыл бұрын
did anyone notice toga?
@charlieli4199
@charlieli4199 4 жыл бұрын
Jaiden: THAT"S TOXIC AS SHIIIIIIII KZbin: RED FLAG
@thatguy5720
@thatguy5720 4 жыл бұрын
Lol
@Rapidihnov2
@Rapidihnov2 4 жыл бұрын
No it’s Jaiden: THATS TOXIC A SHIIIIII KZbin: YELLOW SIGN
@galaxyadalyn1324
@galaxyadalyn1324 4 жыл бұрын
Lol😂
@guxkkusamamama
@guxkkusamamama 4 жыл бұрын
XD IM DEAD XDXDDXDXDXD
@trashwolf9563
@trashwolf9563 4 жыл бұрын
Ah! She didn’t say the whole word!
@Elliott4
@Elliott4 8 ай бұрын
Your video is the only one I've been watching through this. I am in the process of leaving my abusive father, and your video is helping me be able to move forward with the steps I need to get to a better place. Thank you. ❤
@marimba_jenga
@marimba_jenga 8 ай бұрын
tysm for this, i was going through a hard time and you helped me detatch from them. now that i confronted him he is acting as the victim. even though he hurt me so much and technecally cheated on me he did way more and hes acting like i did way more. im still recovering and i js wanna say ty, i hope this video helps others ❤
@theowinters6314
@theowinters6314 3 жыл бұрын
"When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"
@CadeAlex
@CadeAlex 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 13 and this is deep
@pamelakrejci1840
@pamelakrejci1840 3 жыл бұрын
I mean- its true-
@airplane6417
@airplane6417 3 жыл бұрын
Damn. Just damn.
@tessaholman5511
@tessaholman5511 3 жыл бұрын
Wow......that’s poetic
@polarbot8982
@polarbot8982 3 жыл бұрын
Isn't that the horse from horsin' around?
@aromanticfranziskavonkarma
@aromanticfranziskavonkarma 3 жыл бұрын
"NOT responsible for anyone's happiness!" "But.. I'm Santa Claus..?" "..." "Alright, grey area."
@RegularRhombicDodecahedron
@RegularRhombicDodecahedron 3 жыл бұрын
jesh
@8-bitgiraffe917
@8-bitgiraffe917 3 жыл бұрын
thomas jefferson
@RegularRhombicDodecahedron
@RegularRhombicDodecahedron 3 жыл бұрын
@@8-bitgiraffe917 noe
@8-bitgiraffe917
@8-bitgiraffe917 3 жыл бұрын
@@RegularRhombicDodecahedron i said that because of the op's profile picture. it's daveed diggs playing thomas jefferson in the hamilton musical
@moonie9750
@moonie9750 3 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@raccoonjuice
@raccoonjuice 10 ай бұрын
bro i needed this video for the last 6 months my girlfriend has been manipulating me exactly like this it got to the point that is was difficult to think about anything else and it took until a week ago to really realize that it could not be healthy i was bassically doing anything and everything to make her happy at the expense of my own mental health, it sounds litterally exactly like this video its scary im just so happy im out of it and my real friends are amazing for helping me notice it and break away
@zionthetree5145
@zionthetree5145 4 ай бұрын
I'm gonna recommend this video to my schools guidance counselor. The metaphors you use to convey what you're trying to explain works so well and I feel like a lot of people could benefit from this video.
@clover-il7tf
@clover-il7tf 3 жыл бұрын
“Don’t let them forcefully shove their junk on you” -Jaiden, 2019
@uwukiepookiebear
@uwukiepookiebear 3 жыл бұрын
yeah pretty sure that's illegal anyways
@some_1214
@some_1214 3 жыл бұрын
That’s what she said
@lorenzolinguine
@lorenzolinguine 3 жыл бұрын
Oh. Now I can't unhear it.
@psychoemo4573
@psychoemo4573 3 жыл бұрын
Why does that sound like jadens giving a speech about no no squares🤔😆
@pilotoffxbox7515
@pilotoffxbox7515 3 жыл бұрын
These nuts: Allow me to introduce myself 😏😏😏
@authorundercover3490
@authorundercover3490 5 жыл бұрын
3:23 "Are my other friends gonna do it??" **THUNK**
@jonathanwhite6576
@jonathanwhite6576 5 жыл бұрын
I laughed so hard at the thunk
@oddly_ace2837
@oddly_ace2837 5 жыл бұрын
@@jonathanwhite6576 me too, it was halarious!
@xXTr4ShXx
@xXTr4ShXx 5 жыл бұрын
I was looking for this comment.
@miajimenez7931
@miajimenez7931 5 жыл бұрын
**THUNK**
@kaylamarch254
@kaylamarch254 5 жыл бұрын
My favorite part!!
@graceb_irl
@graceb_irl 6 ай бұрын
this video is so important to me, it's helped me so much and really changed the way i view things. no joke i send this video to my teachers if they ever even MENTION something along these lines (and they always love it)
@notcec1l
@notcec1l 7 ай бұрын
For many years I was led to believe that you can’t take care of yourself if you’re supposedly in the wrong in a situation. I was told I was always the villain in every common conflict in a relationship I had and it made me feel so guilty that I couldn’t make any boundaries for myself or even take care of myself. And now I’ve learned that person was purposely blaming me for everything so I would be more vulnerable and willing to do anything they suggested. It doesn’t matter if you feel you’re right or wrong in any confrontation. If someone is hurting you and draining you, you may have to consider kicking them off your little ecosystem. Which is hard at first, but is refreshing once you build up the strength to make it happen.
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