Things we’re unlearning: Beliefs and habits that gotta go!🚪 - Ep 88

[@tmipodcastke]

Hi inbetweeners, thank you for always supporting our content! We see you! We do! Unfortunately, Chris Njeri’s episode couldn’t air when scheduled due to unforeseen circumstances. But it’s airing next month. So sorry for the delay.

[@azengajael2941]

One lesson I've unlearned is that..I don't have to carry all my family's weight on my shoulders😢..I know sometimes I do have the capacity but they will never experience it, especially my parents since they are soo distant like together but then again not together, bruv, I know I don't have to pick sides ..I love them both and whatever happened between them is between them,, my work is just to support and love them individually. Love this TMI talk❤

[@thegodlyprincess_kenya]

okruuuuuuuuu😍

[@tinaford6619]

The unlearning friendship piece hit me like a ton! I’ve always thought that it’s the one ship that should last forever especially the ones you have called “best” or closest friends. The ones you knew in your heart like it’s a forever thing. Letting go and realizing they served you and you them, during that season was merely a chapter (even if it was decades of friendship) I most certainly unlearned this just last year! Grateful to hear y’all talk about it! 🙏🏾

[@tmipodcastke]

We’re glad this resonated with you😊

[@tinah337]

Just here to say that Dr. Obwaka didn't lie. True Love is really enough. Goes back to the discussion what is love? Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. So going back to that example of the guy who loved going out, that was self seeking and he was not protective of his partners interest or marriage hence one can conclude from the biblical description that wasn't true love.

[@tmipodcastke]

We hear you

[@graceguya1682]

Things i am unlearning: We all need to have figured our lives, goals and passions out by a certain age_ not everyone figures this out early or at all. Life is a journey not a destination. You have to like your family. You are not normal if you set boundaries with some or minimize contact with some_ blood does not make connection especially if you are left feeling mentally drained after interactions with some people. Being too nice is ideal_ it is better to be kind than nice, being nice gets you used. Being too serious and ' mature'_ i am learning to bring that childlike joy and zest for life. its good for my mental health.

[@tmipodcastke]

We agree 100% with all of this!

[@atienomargaret9610]

Omg,what did I just watch?. How would somebody speak such insightful information?I've learnt so much from these two babes and I can't get enough of you .been binge watching for quite sometimes now and still will .I wish I knew this channel back when I was in campus I could have skipped all the common unit classes and attended the classes I'm having here now💜..it's worth one's time and much more..I cannot wait for part 2...and Lydia thanks for the disclaimer towards the end,we can't know everything but we're here to learn I'm coming back with all my friends subscribed🤗,,💜💜💜💜💜 Beautiful insight here

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@annmunyi901]

My take aways 1. There's no one thing that can give you the ultimate joy or fulfilment 2. What getting life right looks like. 3. Love is enough for a marriage to work 4. Forever as a measure of successful relationships 5. You can empathize without being part of the solution 6. Define what a good relationship feels like for you.

[@warey157]

Funny you should mention the kids thing. My husband and I have been happily married 7 years now. No kids and it's out of choice. A huge part of the community around us don't believe that people can just be staring at each other for 7 years and not want kids. But well, that's our truth. We agreed that when we are ready, we would have them. And somehow, the contraceptives have cooperated 😅😅

[@ivynk4647]

What contraceptive method did you settle on that has worked for you? I'm currently 23 and I think I won't want kids in several years from now

[@rahabmukami4291]

​@@ivynk4647 you can use IUD/coil. I am using that too. 6th year now. But get one that works for your body too.

[@SafariByHal]

I love love this

[@warey157]

@@ivynk4647 I’ve used pills all those years. There’s really no “one size fits all” when it comes to contraception. I would advise you to talk to your gynae and get what works for you

[@ivynk4647]

@rahab mukami Thank you

[@RuvimboDadi]

I think it’s very important to get to know the Lord personally and one of the ways of doing that is by reading the bible. So we should always be careful not to justify our lifestyles based on feelings or worldly wokeness when we actually have a Bible that is very clear on all matters. Discernment and revelation can help us navigate much easier.

[@tmipodcastke]

We definitely need discernment❤️

[@charitykathure2528]

TMI ❤️. That bit of our parents has been on my subconscious lately especially from the fact that I felt bad growing up seeing my mum love her biological children and treat me alittle different. Now grown, I know she tried her best and she just didn't know how. Coz definitely now I understand how she tried to treat me as one of her own but it can never match. I still love her for being a mum to me. Dad tried. He wasn't thaat obvious that he is biased. . Love and light❤️

[@tmipodcastke]

We love that you got to this point of peace…

[@MtotowaNjuru]

I want a friend like Lydia The way she always affirms Murugi 😍😍😍😍

[@tmipodcastke]

❤️❤️❤️

[@hildaalividza3461]

On the part where Murugi said loves needs to be peaceful I could 1000% relate...the moment I met the love of my life it's been peace all through ♥️ And I met him at the point where I didn't want to settle anymore

[@esthermumbi3598]

❤❤The right one always shows up when you are not looking

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@lavender_dawn]

TMI is officially my weekly therapy session 😪😪 I love you guys. Empathise but don't carry - new motto 😪

[@elleakenya]

Me too girl 😂

[@agushthuo3578]

New motto I say🎉

[@EstherMuthoni-x4y]

I met Murugi over the weekend and we for sure chatted like Queenbetweeners. Wonderful authentic soul she is. Looking forward to meet Lyd

[@tmipodcastke]

Loved meeting you!❤️

[@pawagisele]

Listening to TMI is definitely very therapeutic🥰🥰🥰. Love the way you guys articulated the point on religion/belief system; Hopefully it spreads the word and make Christians especially more open to the views of other religions cuz I feel like we were conditioned to think our religion as being "the way, the truth" whereas navigating life and being open only teaches us we are just using a way, a truth like other religions. Nice episode!! We definitely unlearning much and will raise a better generation God willingly

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it❤️

[@haajarashehu8632]

This episode is amazing, I love how murugi talked about the issues with religion because honestly there is. If we believe government or our parents can set up rules to live by and it turns out to be for everyone's good then definitely God's rules are for everyone's good except if its being misinterpreted or invented by people to suit individual needs or goals. I honestly think you accept religion twice in your life, the one you were born into and when you truly believed and affirm its truly the one or when you choose another one because that's what you now believe is truly the one.

[@alanpierrers]

Why does it have to be Us against the world? Why not Us in the World? I felt that to my core!!!

[@beckyxl1348]

Hey ladies, I love you two.. Especially yummy mummy.. but ladies I prefer the firm ‘it’s definitely TMI’ instead of the singing. The firm one give’s strength.

[@victorianameneverner6271]

True on the empathy and wanting to help everyone. I try to not listen with my heart but my mind🙈🙈

[@adventuresofmarie]

It's amazing to have these conversations of in learning habits and beliefs. Someone said that the illiterate of the 21st century are not the people that can not read or write but those that can not unlearn and re-learn things

[@tmipodcastke]

Yes!👏🏽👏🏽

[@wangarinyambura9797]

the colors of your outfits today are giving 'happy' 😍🤩

[@tmipodcastke]

Yeesss!

[@june9775]

Can’t wait for part 2. So insightful!

[@marthaauma7503]

I am unlearning that i must pay black tax. After moving abroad my mentality switched, i actually dnt have to pay black tax.i believe in the crashing airplane tutorial, i have to look out for me first before i can look after anyone else. Nowdays mimi ni bwana sina pesa.

[@tmipodcastke]

So true.

[@angelicrue9238]

This has to be one of my favourite episodes. So much to learn and unlearn . Thank you TMI ❤.

[@thatafricanlife]

Haaiiyaa today you decided to step into the fire! I totally agree with Lydia, Kenya is honestly NOT a Christian country. I don’t know where people get that idea, if it was it would be a theocracy. Last I checked, it’s not; this is why the Muslims and Hindu are able to live in Kenya in peace. I think how so many Kenyans think about religion is so limited and scares me to raise my own children as well because people are not as open as other parts of the world to new ideas especially those that challenge the status quo. Great episode as usual!! Great convo

[@faithmungai2285]

According to the constitution, there's no state religion in Kenya . Kenya is a secular nation it's just that Christians are sort of the majority and want to sort of be the dominant religion

[@lynnettelucy1551]

yes, its not just about having the capacity to do something ,but in a relationship, its about compromise and tying to create the space to love someone right in their love languages .

[@tmipodcastke]

So true❤️

[@ladydee.6289]

Empathize but don't carry 😊 I learnt 💞

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@annajohannes5455]

Guys, i love you so much, i love your wisdom, I love your authenticity. May we continue to unlearn and apply what we know for sure! lots of love from my Namibia! You are my online friends!

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much!

[@awinojoyce3542]

😢 My best friend introduced me to your podcasts and I swear you guys are the best . As a 23 Yr old in betweener I'm learning alot of things and the pressure i had before of how life had to turn out is literally gone . I'm approaching life more differently now 😌. I'm learning how to appreciate Awino more and its all because of you big sisters ❤❤❤ . Let me take the mantle and introduce another young babe to your podcasts

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@speciozaayieko7449]

That Bible talk by murugi... totally endorse it.👏

[@temwananimposi7175]

This conversation is so eye-opening. It feels like I am in therapy. Thank you, Girls ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you for listening in❤

[@sophiamakau7872]

I had put on this podcast to go on the background as I worked... But I found myself just glued to the screen cause of how relevant the conversations are... From beginning to end... So helpful and eye opening... Thank you 💜

[@tmipodcastke]

We respect your dedication to listening in!❤️

[@passianynancy5785]

This episode! Just! I have no words. Thank you for this one.

[@janiceceline9634]

Premium content. Thank you for being so raw and authentic.

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you❤️

[@ekbalsaab3956]

Hi guys ,,it’s me again watching my favorite ❤it’s definitely tmi🎉🎉🎉

[@sunshineheaven1802]

I have been unlearning a false sense of responsibility ''empathize but do not carry.'' The Bible has no issue, the society is what has an issue. Principles do not change. The issue of heaven and hell and salvation is all about accepting Jesus as our savior and then repenting and sinning no more. The time comes when you actually take that path with both feet in if that is what you are about. You definitely can not understand things you know nothing about but if you study the Bible and get more knowledge then you will make more informed decisions. Many days down the road, you will know more and then you will do what needs to be done. Salvation is a personal journey, nobody can tell you when to get into it, you will feel the conviction when the time comes.

[@tmipodcastke]

We hear you❤️

[@j.maureenwanjiku3545]

When are we watching the episode with Chris Makena??? Been refreshing here nikama nasaka mihadarati bana.

[@lynnettelucy1551]

and that's why its important to communicate your non negotiables and if the other party doesn't find them realistic, move on find what works for you rather than tying to change the person....

[@tmipodcastke]

Exactly😊

[@thesilverliningpodcast]

I had to listen to this episode with a pen and paper... too many gems on here. Hardest thing is unlearning our mental conditioning.

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@_nzasyeRuth.]

I love you ladies.Great content.When I grow up,I want to be a great woman like Murugi❤️

[@gracemumbi6219]

LOVE IS GIVING YOUR BEST! For God so loved the world that he gave his only son... If they say they love you & are not giving you their best, IT'S A SCAM!!!

[@tmipodcastke]

We absolutely agree

[@annetkenyani135]

Honestly lyd and Murugi thank you for holding such conversations. Thank you for being virtual Big sisters ❤

[@myriamchibesa8562]

The friendship part hit me! This happened to me with someone I shared a room with, you can imagine the awkwardness. I've come to accept it now, it was great while it lasted but it just wasn't meant to be.

[@taurybabe7580]

The points mentioned about closure are so true. I am definitely struggling with closure!

[@Claudianyororo]

This episode is pure gems 🥰🫶

[@blackadmiral_]

My best Episode🥹 You both are gifted and sure are the change we need in this generation 👏👏 You just gave me a wake up call Ding Ding 🛎️ Dong🙏

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!❤️

[@magalienia6958]

Beautiful!Beautiful!Powerful!Episode! 👏👏

[@marciajames9434]

Yup we have to read our Bible ourselves and also develop a relationship with God/Jesus ourselves; a lot happening today is prophesied in the Bible too; overall, we are admonished to love God and our neighbor as ourselves!

[@sammynjuguna5759]

Hey inbetweeners I really enjoyed the episode especially the last segment about religious and spirituality and I think we should have it as a topic soon...cause there's a lot to unpack on there

[@blackadmiral_]

Sure sure And it’s also a side people are afraid to touch for no reason Can’t wait for this🥹🥹

[@roziegunjan3684]

This episode is so colourful, healing, and right on time! ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@imungukalevera8671]

Someone can love you deeply and still not wash the dishes on your schedule. Some things they can compromise but some they can just never wash the dishes when you want. And you deciding to not stress over the dishes with them is also you showing your partner grace and love.

[@estherowino6762]

💯

[@tmipodcastke]

So true!

[@richauntie316]

❤❤facts

[@kobbykanyu148]

Am unlearning people please. I have a tendency to bend over backwards so as not to inconvenience others.

[@nyaradhiambo]

Actually, the bible does not say don't have earrings. God himself told Israeli women to get jewelery from their Egyptian Masters. The tattoo one was "don't mark yourself on account of the dead" People judge the bible based misinterpreted versions 😮 Jesus said mosaic law can be superceded by grace and this was why the Galatian churc, which was being too formalistic, was asked, "Who bewitched you?" Also, yes, the bible can be taken in context.

[@tmipodcastke]

We agree

[@marymukami9864]

This is just powerful am soo much informed wooooow,I wish we had this kitambo just open and candid conversations.

[@wambuiwaithira1864]

When Murugi says, when I meet couples who are married more than 2 years without children! She goes why? I have laughed so hard because those couples are US 9 years on 😂😂😂😂 happily married !We get that alot btw 😅Mambo ni mengi lakini 😅. Funny thing people will ask my husband the question not me 😂.

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it and we are happy that you are happy because thats all that matters❤️

[@MaryNjoroge-li4ci]

What does a good life look like to me me right. It's just the next best life in line. Where bills are not an issue. Things like food, fuel, wifi and a weekend getaway are all taken care of. With very healthy friendships and relationships all round me.

[@MaryNjoroge-li4ci]

So I'll be a step or 2 higher, wiser and truer in my journey of life.

[@karenselenkei4804]

The way I look forward to Wednesday because of TMI💃💃

[@judithgicobiarbeit]

My twin..there's a week ,I think last week I went on KZbin to check the week's episode napata hakuna then it hit me it was on a Tuesday. Not a Wednesday. The growth I have experienced here since 2021 is just👌👌

[@tmipodcastke]

We really love this😂😂😂

[@MissMagyy]

Yeeeey ☺️ let's go!!!

[@lucynduta6272]

The conditioning that a peacefull relationship is being boring is real..we were taught to survive and thrive in chaos..peace and stability feels unfamiliar , untrue mostly like a setup😂

[@Reneeshans04]

What does TMI stand for..??...I just love these two queens...I have really improved in verbal reasoning and communication

[@awinoawiti]

I looove this episode so much😍😍. You ladies motivate me to keep going and pushing my Podcast to get to where yours is and even better. Keep up😍👏👏

[@jennifermurai9716]

Gai Murugi preach that part on the Bible needs it’s own session …we pick and choose what we want the Bible is a buffet pick what you want 😭😭😭

[@tmipodcastke]

So true

[@shalommirembe500]

😂 Us against the world. Seriously WHY are we against the world

[@tmipodcastke]

Exactly!

[@JUSTWANGUI]

Lyd u spoke to me directly in this episode ,love love u gals 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@tmipodcastke]

Love t hear it❤️

[@florahzboke8724]

You guys you don't know how much you are helping a sister out here ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

We are honored!

[@maryhope4538]

What i have been waiting for my week to start ❤❤

[@faithngwenya828]

It's the consistency for me love you guys

[@tmipodcastke]

We love you too!

[@vickyitenyo.]

I love this episode so much!! Great job girls❤

[@azengajael2941]

Please put a TMI live experience in November so that I can atleast attend when I come to Kenya to visit my family 😁

[@shammahnzaana214]

Pllllleeeeaassseee do an episode on FRIENDSHIP BREAKUPS

[@Cikanyoro]

Oh my.... empathising without feeling responsible for their circumstances. It is sooo hard for me too Murugi.

[@arianakinjoh1044]

Lovely episode as always, loookatchuu both🥰🥰🥰, looking forward to enjoy

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@gracembugua526]

This looks great already

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you!

[@chanya_ella254]

Yaaaaay 🎉🎉🎉🎉Atlist today for the first time i got so fresh😅 not like other time am ibusy and chekin late on weekend 🙃 Thank you ladies for this,so therapeutic ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@valentinengare3022]

Ladies...thank you❤

[@aj-gw1rl]

Wow this is so deep. I’m learning a lot, thanks TMI

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@wanjirigrace]

Such an informative episode. Love guys so much.

[@tmipodcastke]

We love you too💋

[@joycenangiro581]

This was a great episode! Could you please do an episode on friendships?

[@izziejames2994]

Gang gang,we love you♥️♥️

[@tmipodcastke]

We love you too!

[@estherndaya9540]

Just wooow, girls, you are deep!!

[@monicahwamuhu83]

Word of the day "vis a vis"

[@TheNaisenya]

I am yet to see a bible verse that says drinking alcohol is sinful, especially drinking it responsibly. As Murugi said some of these beliefs are based on cultural contexts

[@kobbykanyu148]

People who haven't subscribed changamkeni.

[@tmipodcastke]

Yes!

[@emmymusimbi285]

Love is not enough that got straight to me. I never learned that got to learn that later in life. Toxic relationship i can get closure on my on own very true ❤❤❤

[@joannenjenga6130]

The best episode yet🔥🔥🔥

[@muchokiwanene670]

Beliefs: That part need to hear more

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it

[@allthingsmaya7022]

With spirituality,,you are either living in sin or walking with Jesus..the in-between is just being lukewarm(read what the bible says about lukewarm believers) also listen to "soft life through christ podcast" I love it,young people talking about their journey in CHRIST.

[@marionyano9746]

I agree.

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it❤️

[@riyahshamar2222]

Me patiently watching the add for my babes to secure the bag 💰

[@tmipodcastke]

Yees❤️

[@patriciahgithure4280]

Very impressive. I've really learnt so much

[@tmipodcastke]

Great to hear!

[@neemohneemzey]

Lovely conversation with this queens here as always.Am I the only one who noticed Lyd kept interrupting Murugi when she was speaking!😟

[@joycemburu8041]

I'm I the only one waiting for the episode tmi shot with Makena Njeri?

[@abigailmwololo9072]

Haki tuko wengiiii

[@moniekarocho9576]

Waiting too

[@agirlnamedfave]

Me tooooooo

[@jenifferndungu900]

Me too I thought it's today

[@whitneymorrah9108]

Its Chris Murithi now

[@rosemarymbonika8945]

I knew I'll love this episode n behold!!

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@Sassyandcandidpodcast]

Always interesting 🎉🎉

[@immaculatekioko21]

Couldn't miss Murugis' iPhone at the begging 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂

[@surpeleisurpelei7501]

One of the fastest way to cure the "adults need to procreate" conditioning is to volunteer at/follow the work of the likes of Usikimye/Njeri Wa Migwi and see the number of kids/infants that are severely abused by their own parents. Childfree people, especially those that choose the path not because they hate kids or were severely hurt growing up but because they just have no desire to have kids, tend to be more level-headed and couple up pretty neatly, as it takes a level of introspection to reach that decision. Most importantly, the childfree hurt nobody with their decision, but a whole lot of parents bring forth life and go on to cause their own so much harm, so much hurt.

[@tmipodcastke]

We absolutely hear you

[@teresiamaina9573]

A childfree person here celebrating this fact🎉

[@sharonnyakio1145]

Not me saying "wacha kwanza niwatch hawa wasupa" everytime I'm on youtube

[@tmipodcastke]

Eish!

[@lucywanjiru2499]

Amazing content so mature and alot to learn and think about 💯💯you ladies are gorgeous ❤️❤️

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much 🤗

[@edwins..kitchendiaries]

First to watch and comment ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@peruthmwenkanya2508]

I agree with Joan's mom on not teaching her daughters about contraceptives and sex before marriage.. it's how I was raised and it's how am raising my two daughters.. it's a Christianity teaching.. not bad in my opinion

[@tmipodcastke]

….well

[@elleakenya]

Vile nawafuatilia kama siafu aki 😂 you're my therapist Also road to 100k

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!