THIS is how you control your emotions

[@gking407]

Anyone else getting these videos soon after an emotional battle? It’s like my phone is spying on me and for once I’m not mad about it!

[@tess7539]

Yes! I had a panic attack 2days ago, and I hadn’t had one in 2 years. I‘be been a mess since!

[@TimothySmith73]

Im convinced there is an army of people unknown to me that are out here helping me. @ And I am truly greatful for them and feel seriously loved. @ When people show you acts of love and kindness in complete anonymity it leaves you speechless.

[@sarahc.7400]

Not like. Is.

[@boll04-3]

😂you too

[@kristenfuller4909]

That's a nudge from God, Spirit. That's what I believe. ☺️✨️🙏🏼❤️

[@tju9470]

"Most of the time we're reacting to the story that we told ourselves." Wow! That's so important to me.

[@amandagriffin5646]

Literally needed to hear that at this very moment!

[@PixieMakeUp]

The hardest part is to pause!!

[@yanochkayakimaha]

Nicole is the only one who can explain these things with such ease and clarity. Forever grateful for what she does!

[@rocko34]

I had a moment of self appreciation recently in a hard conversation with my partner I felt my body go into fight/flight and paused before speaking out of heightened emotion. The outcome was I suggested taking a short break and continue the conversation when we had both cooled off and when we did come back, we were a lot more calm and real. I wouldn’t have done that a few years ago so pat on the back for me!

[@natashashakirova3441]

❤

[@flugsven]

Indeed! 💪

[@Ela_v8]

That's really powerful! Thank you for sharing.❤

[@stephanieg4950]

We need as many lightworkers like you as possible ! Amazing poignant teachings.

[@CheffScott]

I admire Dr. LePera's holistic approach; it's refreshing and empowering. Learning to respond rather than react is pivotal for personal growth. The emphasis on pausing and self-compassion resonates deeply.

[@mentalsonthemove2916]

I'm trying to respond not react but it's such an entrenched habit, I binge eat, or overexecise, cry, say something mean to loved ones or catastrophise and self sabotage 😢then over analyse and push people away, this content has been helping me so much! I've been journaling a lot about this using holistic psychologist journal prompts, thank you so much for this! I'm going to try and celebrate my shifts from respond and not reacting! pausing is hard in the moment so I've been practising conscious check ins too

[@ryannesumbry4130]

I needed this video today after a betrayal that hurt 😞 😅😢 me so deeply thank you 🙏 ❤😊

[@emiliefonhaugteien8238]

So sorry to hear that 😢 hope you find healing❤

[@ryannesumbry4130]

@@andreasmith9261 yes 🙌 I am thank you 🙏 it feels so good to have toxic people out of my life

[@Annaostrowska]

Response-ability 🙂

[@maddi3582]

Perfect timing! I've just been journalling about the (theoretical - hah!) difference between reacting and responding... But now I'm 'fessing up to myself about my own very subtle 'reactions' - occasional binge eating, and occasional small cute item (ie useless, a waste of money) binge shopping. In the past when I have 'tried' to restrain, hold myself back it's felt like an incredibly unpleasant screeching of brakes, but with the inevitability that I'm still heading over that cliff edge and diving into a pit of craving. But, after this video, I feel I now have a 'non-confrontational' method. This method feels like it is both subtle enough and forgiving enough to make a difference to those debilitating reactions to my feelings of emptiness and sadness. Thank you. I have hope! 🙏

[@firelakie]

This is me about the responses back to my text communication. It literally feels like EVERYONE ignores me all at the same time and I go into the negative scripts about myself. “Am I being annoying? They must hate me. I texted too much. No one cares.” Thanks for posting how to address this, Doc. 💜

[@lolaravioli]

I used to be like this the I realized my anxiety about being annoying, and needing reassurance, was more annoying than the double or triple texting.

[@maccliff2115]

🎯 The Pause - the first step, especially in today’s fast pace word where an immediate “response” has been expected and normalized, will take much awareness...to Pause, and process the situation objectively. I like the strategy of placing your hand on your belly as a physical reminder to focus on your breathing. I have sought counseling since November for how I have responded to my wife. Content like this is very helpful. 🎯

[@sarahpinho1114]

I've suffered with this my whole life, and have finally resorted to avoiding people. I would love to not have intense feelings and physical responses, but I haven't been able to accomplish regulation yet, all that works is removing myself. Exposure doesn't work with me at all. I will continue to try, and this video is helpful.. I'm just saying I think my trauma may be too deep to make much progress very quickly. I have very strong somatic reactions to certain situations and even thinking about going back there.. I have to protect my health.

[@manysides2340]

I wish they taught emotional intelligence in school

[@DjEnsi]

Hi, I just started following as someone who is healing from childhood trauma. This was so reassuring that I'm making improvements in my mental health. I started meditating almost a year ago been in therapy doing all the things and little by little it's all working out. I'm truly grateful to have found your channel. Keep up the good work! :) Sincerely Hortensia

[@Conscious59]

Thank you Dr. Lepera for the hope that our responses CAN improve over time with consciousness!!! These 11:20 minutes were so needed!! Thank you for putting it put into The Universe for our collective healing!! God bless you Dr. Lepera!

[@jackivacha]

I’m going to share this video. Thank you so much! I hope and pray I can shift from react to response. ❤

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I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year.. Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life.

[@wells7147]

Thanks for the advice! I'm new to financial planning and wasn't sure where to start. Any tips on finding a reliable financial adviser or resource to guide beginners?

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[@adamalker71]

I met Stacey Macken at a conference in 2018 and we have been working together ever since.

[@uppercut147]

It's so incredibly helpful to hear that this is something everyone struggle with, even if they've been practicing for a long time or are otherwise really well adjusted and emotionally regulated. It's so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we aren't successful unless we just stop having these reactive moments completely. But, as you point out, that's not true! It's more so about being able to handle yourself when these moments DO occur because they WILL occur. Thank you for all that you do!

[@Sieggis]

I noticed that I wanna react and share this to a few ppl and now I'm stuck. In one hand, I legit think that this could help them in the long run. On the other, I've been hurt. And I want them to understand, why I was hurt. And this explanation here is golden at it. But it is reactive of me. Emotionally.

[@Embarasin]

“Paws”/Pause (the difference between the “ruff” bark.. of someone doggin another.. And Patience Attitude Wait Say (P’AWS) much cutter then back biting :) Imagdry helps us remember faster.. also maybe do one of your kid videos showing Examples of React/shun versus Response’ability.

[@ginageorgio814]

Great advice. I’ve been doing this fr sometime and it has taken me a year or 2 it’s a challenge at first but eventually it becomes the norm that’s replaced. Patience is key . Thanks x

[@lindagabriel3419]

I was just thinking about this exact topic this morning. It is hard. You video has really helped me. Thank you.

[@juliadean2473]

This is wonderful. Simple, strong and kind guidance .

[@ooulalah4333]

I'd add to not over analyze, get caught in the overthinking trap. When anxious, sit and rock, hug yourself, tell yourself things like "youre ok", "im here for you" etc breath in time w the rocking and let the overwhelm be processed through

[@TimothySmith73]

I Have to learn to practice this more. My bipolar is getting the best of me both in my personal and professional lives. It has become painfully obvious to me.

[@strangerthan765]

The timing couldn't have been more perfect. Thank you!

[@lindajones6835]

God is in control. I had an upsetting experience, and my phone was not in the building. God helps us out by bringing us what we need to help us during difficult times.😀

[@Aurora-e6o]

Thank you for this video ❤ You explain things so much easier and clearer than other therapists. Our priest was speaking of these topics, and we agreed. 🙏

[@jimmykeyes7852]

I agree e been much better at following these methods and feel like it has helped me process situations from a completely different perspective than before. I notice a more calm demeanor and usually a more appropriate outcome or solution happens, thank you!!!

[@xiolaamapola3180]

Learning this in DBT right now!!!!!! I love the way you word it, thank you 😊

[@Rene411]

I am good at pausing because I work on the phone in customer service. I must let the beast pass before I speak. I usually do come across angry but its a lot more professional lol. I swear, sometimes I want to reach through that phone.

[@trinirivera5658]

Thank you so much for these informative videos. They are so helpful! There are times when reacting to a situation with anger, indignation or frustration is completely appropriate. I personally, often seek validation. But it is also not easy to obtain, especially from strangers. These tools are very helpful. But what about validation? Thank you

[@crystal3251]

Right on time!! I am struggling with how I am showing up in long standing relationships. I now feel like a different person trying to show up differently, and people are not accepting. So I’m trying not to react so harshly at not being seen as who I am now. This is. hard.. Thank you!

[@johnslaymaker]

This is really excellent. The clearest & most concise way I've seen it explained. Thank you.

[@daileighnovember]

Yes this list is what ive been doong + praying.

[@EJinVA]

I say I don’t get upset unless the situation merits it! That’s what I’ve learned to live by since I used to be extremely reactive and I thought it was ok until I saw someone else acting that way. They are impossible to be around and I don’t want to be that way!

[@inzichte]

It is the same with triggers.

[@mikeolsen6927]

Most grateful for this, and the timing is spot on🙏🤙

[@lynniepallanes8245]

Hi. I just watched 3 of your videos. Mother Issues and React vs Respond. Your experience knowledge is 💯. All 3, resonated with my learned conscious awareness and the challenging practice over soooo long. Peace, Forgiveness, Compassion, Love, is the result....with ongoing awareness and practice. It's awesome to be able to listen to your words saying exactly how I feel with these emotions. Thank You. Grateful. Love and Light be with you. Lynnie

[@paulsuttie4080]

Always find the good, even if it doesn’t look like there is any . Find the love within and share that love in place of the once shared hate. Hate requires a play mate and if we return with love it becomes a one player game . Namaste

[@paran01d11]

Holy moly I REALLY needed this. I'm doing my best to improve and when you spoke about the 4th step, it really made me feel human again. This is such a great video, thank you for posting this!

[@Melody-hf1zn]

Absolutely working it !!! Main points of recovery has been/is...Self-compassion ( grace/space), less judgement, more grounded awareness...insight and intuitive knowing, forgiveness.💔❤️‍🩹💪🙏

[@Oceanbee21]

I get so upset sometimes. I hate it. I’d love to stop that reaction.

[@sindyc7777]

Thank you for sharing this! 🙏

[@nopethesesharks]

I’ve been focusing on this practice recently, and synchronicity seems to be hitting, bc Pearl Jam’s amazing brand new album has a track called React, Respond, and now this popped up in my feed. I love your work, and watch all I can, I’m just glad this made its way to me today. I needed this today. ❤

[@M11TS]

This is true, I have practiced that since a few years now, it made my life better. 💙

[@alphadog3384]

What a wonderful teaching message for all of us. Thank you for your service.

[@nerminyilmaz1719]

Thank you. Greetings from Germany ❤

[@Anya-sv7de]

Sorry too general, impossible to do when already triggered. I think shake exercise is more useful in my experience. .

[@Ojoma-n7y]

Dear Nicole , you have been the one saving me since last year. I am dealing with complex trauma, that has made me seem irredeemable. My anger outburst is scary to me too. I never knew I was that way , till I got into another relationship. The way I threaten to break things when my partner ignores me , or makes me triggered makes me scared . Could this be the bipolar disorder they speak of ? I wish I could be in your cycle where one can share it is as it is. I desire a change with my whole being . The aftermath of the words I say after getting angry is also not it for me . Please do more topics on emotional regulation, I feel like I am a mess and I am scared of my reactions . 😢

[@hellyeah_ellajane]

Ugh yes please. I’m three months postpartum and just want to scream all the freaking time lately.

[@firelakie]

💜

[@CrimsonWave89]

Thank you so much for this priceless information! You and your channel are appreciated! ❤

[@achtube85]

Great video, as usual ♥ I wonder whether "Focus on breath" should be step nr. 2

[@chaoticneutralmystic]

i feel like there's a lot of great videos out there about unhealthy reactions and response patterns, but i think for some of us like myself it would be a great resource to be modeled more life enhancing/healthier ways of responding to others and communicating feelings.

[@Peacelove1981]

I needed this so much. thank you!

[@jekylljekyllhyde821]

That's just so hard! I lash out at literally anything, even though there's no reason to that, I've just always been like that. I mean, if you do manage to control yourself, the situation itself probably wasn't so annoying to begin with, so it's not even a big deal. But, like, if you do manage to change completely and never ever scream again, the desire to complain won't disappear, will it? You'll still feel bad, but now no one will pity you

[@selenabrown2377]

God bless you🙏🏽

[@SneakySteevy]

We cant control our emotions because emotions are a result of our thoughts. To manage (not control) oyr emotions we have to choose our thoughts.

[@songlantang2840]

Thank you so much!! I wish I could have learned this years ago

[@innerwestie1446]

thank you 🙏

[@Shanaya1402]

Plz make on Codependency mam...how to let go codependent feelings...nd not feel responsible for others emotional health or emotional state...

[@mts992]

Any advice on how to actually forgive ourselves for the times that we reacted instead of pausing?

[@dabberdan3200]

It’s so hard to find good counseling with Medicaid. I can’t find any of the tools that I need for CPTSD,Asperger’s,Depression.Mood disorder. The only tools that I’ve been given is breathing exercises 🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@KittyFoxArtWorld]

Really great. Thank you❤

[@_pearl_]

Thank you!

[@traditionalfood367]

Breathe intentionally and notice each breath.

[@Babygirldagoat]

Love ❤ this

[@livechangechallenge]

Hi Nicole, will this work if you have ADHD too? Thanks, Adele 😊

[@mentalsonthemove2916]

great question, I always femy emotions and emotional reactions are soooooo much bigger than neuro typical! I have ADHD and my emotions were always too much for my mum and others growing up n so I detached for most of my life

[@mentalsonthemove2916]

great question I have ADHD and my emotions and emotional reactions always seemed to much or too big for my mum and primary care givers growing up n so I learned to suppress them, people please and detach for most of my life. with therapy and self learning over last 7 years my true emotions have come back and I'm learning to express and feel them but they take over me and seem so much bigger than neuro typicals! I struggle several times a day to respond not react then feel like there is something "wrong" with me! I still believe us adhd ers can learn tools to help not let our emotions run out lives but it is soooooooo hard in the moment! thanks for ur question and raising this point.🎉❤😊

[@melaniemoran3401]

I think the title of this is misleading. Learning to respond vs react is not the samenas controlling your emotions. Control is not the goal, nor is it truly possible. Feeling the emotions and choosing how to respond is. If you are trying to control your emotions you're likely avoiding feeling them

[@lindsay5305]

Yes, I know ignoring my feelings does not work.

[@josiehewing]

Listen again , not about control, respond DONTreact it's all about the pause ......

[@ooulalah4333]

I think for title's sake it needed to be short. It still encompasses the same situations. I read "controlling" emotions as dealing or coping with, or processing past them. I think everyone knows feelings happen. You don't actually control what you feel but your responses to them.

[@Star-dj1kw]

✅ good video

[@goodgemini9803]

No one can control their emotions

[@treeearth1407]

It’s such a lesson. We can meditate all we want but when it comes down to it in the moment, can we do this practice so we don’t cause harm? That’s where is counts. Meditation doesn’t fix habitual reactions. It’s a tool to help you notice your reactions more readily and then do this practice to relieve suffering.

[@RespectAndLoveAndPeaceWins]

🤍🍀🤍🍀🤍🍀🤍🍀thank you

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[@zelkovamind]

👏

[@saranevillerogueart9627]

I scream as loud and cry loudly as I can let it all out . All the excess adrenaline.Not good to overanalyze . Thank you

[@ΕνέργειαΑΤΜΑΝ]

!!!!!

[@Nancy20012]

Thank you ❤❤