This is how you treat ADHD based off science, Dr Russell Barkley part of 2012 Burnett Lecture

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[@joepvandijk]

Finally someone explaining adhd fast enough so that people with adhd actually keep listening

[@ariesmry]

And I still listened to this on 2x 😂

[@maggiemcjannet9988]

I agree if people(usually neurotypical) are talking too slow(for me),,,I get bored and reatless

[@intraterrestrial5035]

Yea except his solution is "take pharma meds or get the stick". Luckily for us, this video is old as dirt, and we have better answers our there than what this quack is preaching.

[@BobPaul]

​@@intraterrestrial5035yeah, I noticed that, too. While I definitely did better as a kid in the structure of grade school than I did as an adult in college and in the workplace, he made SO MANY "all or nothing" statements that I don't identify with. And where I struggled in college with the delayed feedback loop (homeworks returned after weeks or months, grade is mostly mid term and final), I know so many ADHDers with a graduate degree or two. It's like he put a modern (for 2012) understanding of ADHD on a 90s caricature of "who has ADHD". But I do appreciate he views it as an executive function problem and not a lack of attention. And I can appreciate that his audience isn't us with ADHD but clinicians who need a kick in the pants, so hyperbole for effect may have its place here. Executive Dysfunction instead of lack of attention was a pretty new understanding in 2012. If you want your blood to boil, read WebMD's description of ADHD. It's like a poor interpretation of the 1990s understanding. And there's still clinicians stuck with that 1990s view.

[@garycon25]

@@intraterrestrial5035 Really 🍸😈

[@lucasjordan8105]

I’ve always told people who ask “what does it feel like having adhd” I tell them “it doesn’t feel like anything. It just shows itself in your life. Imagine you wake up and everything you were supposed to do, or wanted to do, just never happened.”

[@stinky6002]

Extremely well put

[@petervasil6159]

I will use this one thx

[@MarkARoutt]

I usually ask them what they do when they have to do the dishes. If their answer is "I do the dishes" I tell them about how I have to mow the grass before I get to the clean dishes. About how I went to do dishes then saw that the dish rag and drying towel was dirty, then I saw that the wash I ran the day before is still in there and smells kinda funny, so I have to re run it. I go to put down the rag and towel in a basket but realize I have no empty baskets because I have a clean cloths in them. So I put them on the sink side and go to fold the laundry in a basket to have a dirty clothes basket. When I go to fold the cloths I see that I have my wives garden stuff on the bed that I just got her. I go to take it out to the shed and realize on my way out that the grass is a bit long. That leads me to start mowing. Then i get to work backwards from there.

[@dukkibhoy1990]

Like going back to your parked car but the cars gone.

[@MarkARoutt]

@@dukkibhoy1990 and you remember after freaking out for 5 minutes that you were dropped off.

[@BuckScrotumn]

My ADHD is so bad that I resort to watching videos like this just for the small serotonin boost I receive from pretending to take steps towards managing my ADHD. Medication doesn’t work, self help guides don’t work, discipline doesn’t work, so sometimes I watch videos like this to essentially role-play as someone who’s on their way to improvement. Once that wears off it’s right back to sitting on the porch staring into space because NOTHING, not even weed or videos games is enough to hold my attention. Wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s completely ruined my life and destroyed any chance of being a normal, functioning human being. Everyone in my family is very successful. My younger sister makes upwards of 6 figures in the medical field, and at the age of 30 I’m still working an entry level job stocking shelves because I can’t work a job that requires even a minuscule amount of thinking. I don’t have to use my head at all with my current job, which allows my mind to rapidly switch focus and daydream while my body is in autopilot. If I was an engineer like I dreamt of as a kid I wouldn’t make it. Because even though I’m passionate about it, if my ADHD decides that it doesn’t care about engineering today, there’s nothing I can do. It’s like watching some lazy slob control your body while you watch from a 3rd person perspective.

[@HappyMSI1]

Damn that was some serious testimony. I wish you to overcome this one way ir another. If your attempts have failed, try new ones like breathing techniques, cold exposure, DMT or hallucigenic experience. As long as you haven't done everything seriously, I suggest you keep going on with the will necessary during the attempts. I know how it feels to fail to find a solution when it's about your health, but when ruminating about not being able to overcome it, tell yourself that it gives you something to go on while giving up won't bring any solution. Wish you the best.

[@sharaudramey9336]

How's your nutrition?

[@joel4960]

This is so validating for me! Just found out I have inattentive ADHD. I had an 1180 SAT so everyone said "go to college". Horrible time in college, barely graduated. Horrible time at the white collar job I got. I had to quit or be fired. I now earn a living at a tipped job at a hotel. ADHD is like a cruel prank. I'm smart but unable to use it.

[@Random_User_042]

​@HappyMSI1 Hey there. Are there any other methods you tried that helped you out? I'm going to look into breathing techniques and cold exposure you mentioned. Unfortunately, DMT is illegal where I am. The other prescriptions I'm taking only help for 3-4 hours in the day, still trying to find the right balance with my doctor.

[@rachel4339]

@@Random_User_042the medication isn’t going to be a full day solution, realistically. For me it’s a good boost to get myself up, on track, and in the right direction for the day. I pack as much as I can in the first half of the day, because I know it will start to decline during the second half until I crash after dinner. If I ate better and exercised I’m sure that would help in keeping my tank full for longer. There’s a European Dr I watch who also suggests *not* drinking caffeine until midday, or at least late morning, because it’s more effective as the day goes on.

[@jordank1813]

This is the first time in my life that I felt like someone finally understands me. This made my eyes water

[@veronical3135]

Same here, been doing research not knowing why my brain is wired differently and this video just clicked. I recognized myself in what this doctor said just like looking in the mirror. Darn, this adhd is exhausting, ruined everything for me. I’m also feeling tired all the time, very poor concentration which makes it very difficult to study. I wonder if it’s part of adhd or some other health issue I might have.

[@followhim1203]

I understand you brother

[@YssaMD]

Same here😢

[@johnny_bang]

So many things to cry about with adhd :(

[@AurielleAurora]

Same 😭

[@Ritalie]

Woa! The opening sentence. "You can know stuff, but you won't do stuff." That's the absolute definition of what it feels like. So many aspirations, ideas and dreams, and yet, when it comes to execution.... Just no.

[@maxroger9198]

+Ryan Hobbs same

[@YouMightGetMe]

+supermuble - So true. This was quite the revelation to me, sums it up perfectly. But not just for things I'm interested in, it's everything. Not knowing it was related to my ADHD, I thought it was/is another mental disorder. Definitely need to learn more about this defect. It's just seems like there's so many accommodations / adjustments required to implement and that's the original problem.

[@b00shay]

I have ADHD and this is exactly how I feel too hahahah man

[@LeoSkyro]

adhd ruined my life and that phrase finally put feelings into words for me

[@jasonhowland9450]

Yep, utterly frustrating. So much want and desire, but implementation is utterly awful. You know it, you know not doing it is wrong, but you can't bring yourself to do it. Like a prison in your own mind.

[@jeffsienkiewicz7119]

It’s like watching your life in third person. I’m constantly yelling at the guy holding the wheel not to do things or TO do things and it rarely connects. Then I have a day or week of epiphany where I decide how I’m going to get my life together, start writing things down and what not. I get so into it that I forget other things like eating, drinking water, self care and get so exhausted from all of the effort it takes to be “normal” that I abandon it all together and do it all again a month or two later. I’m tired.

[@kunai9809]

I know that all too well. Started using a habit tracker for daily routine stuff, went well, but then i just stopped doing it for whatever reason. Reminds me of my relation to books. Even if im really interested in what im reading, i just put the book away at some time and then never look at it again. I'm not diagnosed by the way and although i resonate with things in the video and in the comments i am still very sceptical if i have this disorder

[@fondrees]

I know exactly hiw you feel, and after awhile you know the end result is going to ve the same so, why bother even trying. But you still do.

[@berobero686]

I feel like I have giant disobedient dog on leash, it bigger than me so no matter how hard I pull it's does whatever it wants. And whatever I do, whenever I go feeling of leashes strain is there, all I need/want to do is there haunting me even when it time to rest.

[@ahmedsheikh9356]

Man this is so sad I feel like crying.. actually I’m holding a pen and paper right now going through this exact routine you mentioned and then I got on youtube and found this video. I don’t want to go to a physiologist or get diagnosed.. I guess that would be the case for some time..

[@EgObArNeT]

Ohmy god yes! This is my life

[@GuitarSlayer136]

The amount of times I genuinely blurted out "#$!&ing thank you!". The passion this man presents with nearly put tears in my eyes. I think alot of people fantasize about having a person like this in their life who not only understands but actually CARES.

[@redbloodcell4047]

Yeah this kind of material is super helpful. He has a great youtube channel with other videos which go in-depth into ADHD: Russell Barkley.

[@SevScout]

L-Methionine and Trimethilglycine! Due to a mutation, we with ADHD have a chronic deficiency of those amino acids. Being deficient in Methionine causes, that your brain can't degrade catecholines, which are the root neurochemical cause for the negative aspects of ADHD! The difficulties falling asleep due to an overactive mind being one of them. If you take this advice, welcome aboard, if you don't, I'm chalking it up as you not being ready and be done with it. Have fun!

[@josephbartlett921]

This 100%. Feels like this man knows me better than anyone and I’ve never met the guy!

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

Probably has ASD. Want real fun? Try being ASD and ADHD.

[@neerGdyahS]

@@SevScoutUm, but you didn't actually give any advice, you only gave information, with no indication of what to do with that advice. Do you have advice on how to manage and curb those deficiencies? Perhaps food that can help? Are there supplements for it?

[@BrownGeorge-pw2xo]

I could remember several years ago, I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Was actually diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with related health challenges.

[@NicoleCtirad]

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

[@Bastianbishops]

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

[@SusanaGomez-mp8sk]

Yes very sure of Dr.benfungi. They helped me too to overcome my anxieties and get to the root of much of my "mental Illness" which is all rooted from trauma, abusive relationship and a chaotic childhood and addiction. Shrooms made a huge huge impact to why am totally free today.

[@Edennnn926]

Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!

[@HaileyFoster-fd4ik]

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

[@alisonbanks4185]

I took a screenshot of his slides and thought, “I’ll think about this later” fml 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@DougieBee]

LMAO! Me, too!

[@jccaballona2443]

Same here 😅

[@NOCLUEinvalid]

Same and then my “investigate later” screenshots build up and I avoid them like the plague

[@gini2637]

Lmfao my phone memory is taken up by screenshots and random selfies I say I’ll post later after I edit them in a super cool way I see inside my head, but right now I can’t

[@chrislepine200]

Stfu

[@tacticoolrick5562]

1. This man validated my entire existence 2. He spoke so fast I was able to actually sit and listen to the whole (okay most, but like 90%) of the talk.

[@chewyh6575]

Yesss same! I Love it when people talk fast in videos. Then I can watch the videos on 1,25 speed and not 1,5… I wich there was something like this in real life

[@eciesz]

Validation!!! Yes

[@justokay4548]

Damn I only got to 4 12 😬😔

[@themadpaintress3255]

OMG I never realized that I am better able to listen to people who talk fast 🤯 until you put it into words

[@beinganddoing2123]

Yes! Everyone talks soooooo sloooooooowwwwww.

[@chunkEcheez]

Dr. Barkley is one of the most lucid, incisive, and riveting speakers I have ever heard. The man is a virtuoso of oratory and a blessing to people who struggle with ADHD.

[@tatertots3337]

I have a serious problem with this because I grew up in an extremely high-pressure, emotionally-neglectful home where EVERYTHING had immediate and extreme consequences. Now that I'm an adult, I avoid that pressure as much as possible because it was traumatic and painful, but now I can't get anything done.

[@veronical3135]

Same here, the stressful traumatic childhood might trigger adhd in children. Don’t think we get born with it. I grew up in a horror like home where my dad would daily punish my mom and siblings. Grew up with hearing my mom screaming and siblings being scared before and when he got back from work. It’s still haunting me to this day but messed up my life big time and I’m left with the concequences.

[@minimouette]

Same. The idea of making you more accountable.. I don't need more guilt and shame associated with this. My self esteem has been hit hard by not having a diagnosis in my childhood. It feel like this statement is a recipe for developing performance anxiety:/

[@magicalsimmy]

Agreed, if I was too slow to do something or did something wrong, I had the ban hammer fall onto me by parents and teachers. Added consequences when I was genuinely struggling made me not want to try things, for fear of failure and shaming. This guy doesn’t seem to get that people with ADHD are human beings with feelings.

[@rachel4339]

What’s more high pressure? Small goals with rewards for completion, or not doing anything then scrambling last minute only to fail? What’s more neglectful? Are you not continuing to neglect your needs now as an adult by not getting anything done? You can take the good things and leave the bad, ya know? Consequences are good. Immediacy is good. Even pressure can be good to a degree. Those things are not synonymous with emotional neglect and you can learn to separate them.

[@alv9919]

Just know that I understand you 100%. I was diagnosed ADHD PTSD, but as much as it hurts you need to learn to overcome the PTSD because the world does not care and will be happy to not assist you. Therefore, you are the only one that can do that and should do that for yourself. I know the past sucks but don't let it keep you on your knees forever.

[@MhxAir]

Painfully true. Watching me procrastinate, time flies by, my days off work vanish, and unless there's an actual threatening deadline, I never do anything. I try to, but man it's so easy to just never do it. Such an agonizing disorder to watch yourself struggle with little to no self control, like you're two different people in your head. You want to do something vs you need to something you don't want to do, so you're always mad at yourself all the time.

[@HereToProcrastinate.]

I always say to people 'you have no idea how badly I want to want this' I just have a voice inside screaming do it! just pick up the pen or just get up and do it but I can't and then I watch the time pass until it's too late and beat myself up over it and it's SO.FRUSTRATING. Because why can't I just do it? like everyone else. Even the stuff I love (like drawing, writing, walking whatever it is) I can't bring myself to do anymore, sometimes I just feel like a vegetable unable to move or do anything even talking is exhausting sometimes, it's like watching your whole life just unravel and get away from you and you don't even have the will to hold on

[@kylelove927]

@@HereToProcrastinate. Accurate!!!

[@mattrobertson6864]

Feel you

[@susiemartinez3426]

I didn’t know I had adhd until this year 😩 I just thought I was depressed or something and couldn’t find motivation.

[@morescodesup2087]

I wanna be an engineer, but ADHD: N O Dyslexia: reading? Nah you don’t need that :)

[@carlo1568]

Before I was diagnose with ADHD, I thought it was normal to open 10 other videos relating to this video before I was half way done with this video.

[@TheMrjay95]

xD if you can see how many tabs i have open

[@dwayneneckles]

u just described me :(

[@7imonUP]

Yoooooo that's me

[@blogobre]

Yaaay... I'm not the only one.

[@nursetenderlove7]

😁

[@unanemomanou7939]

I could have cried tears of relief listening to you, sir. I’m 60 and I’ve been suffering from as far as I can remember from ADHD symptoms. I just didn’t know what they were, just that I felt weird and « different « . A few years ago, I tentatively tried to talk about ADHD to people around me, my doctor included, but they just wave my concerns aside and say I’m « absent-minded », « clumsy « , not the tidy type ». How can I get the treatment that could help me live a more serene old age?

[@carynmartin6053]

Get a better doctor or practitioner, like a psychiatric nurse or similar. Medication, time released Concerta, changed my life for the better since diagnosed in my 40's

[@rodiceiarodrigues1147]

Find a better doctor, and externate your feelings to someone you really trust

[@Dee-ow9fb]

Also if there's no one you trust to talk to, try to see a therapist. or if you are financially bound, try reaching to local groups/ free online groups about mental health or adhd and talk it out. it will take some time but trust the process. take medications, IT REALLY HELPS. Start with prescribed doses then decrease them eventually. it might take 2-3 years of understanding every aspect of it then however you'll handle practical situations way better in a real time scenario. However after these you'll have a way way more clearer and productive brain. trust me.

[@unanemomanou7939]

@@Dee-ow9fbThank you for your kind advice. I recently tried to get an appointment with a registered psychiatrist. I phoned a dozen of them: I only got answering machines stating that « Doctor So and So does not take new patients and registered patients must book their appointments on the Internet « . The situation of psychiatry was critical before COVID in France, it is now near impossible to see a psychiatrist.

[@Matthewsavant]

I’ve been suffering with ADHD my entire life and it has negatively impacted literally every facet of my life. I’ve tried the entire gamut of meds with no success I am clawing my way through life and that’s all I do. I’m about to turn 40 this year and I can’t believe I’m still alive. I’ve seen several therapists but it’s done very little. I have zero hope for improving my life at this point. I was a gifted kid I always scored very high when I’ve had my I.Q. tested but being intelligent has gotten me nowhere. I’ve always been talented musically and creatively and I’ve had high ambitions for myself based off of those talents but now my largest ambition is to continue to be alive and to get by. This guy is making a lot of sense but what good does that do me when I can’t find someone like that to see. I rarely research ADHD because it just makes me feel hopeless but this came up in my feed.

[@DORC101]

You should explore "Maps of Meaning", a series created by Dr. Jordan Peterson.

[@northwards2218]

Keep the faith and know you are valuable. God bless you.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Therapeutic ketogenic diet, And lions mane double extract with crocus petals extract.

[@vansays2236]

Don't give up! Keep looking for solutions and what will work for you.

[@edbrown5956]

It's definitely more "dirty" than pharmaceuticals but coffee with a little CBD may temperately help with motivation. Coffee gives you the drive the CBD takes off the anxious edge while helping you remain calm yet focused. Although if tried most of the meds then this probably won't do much. Find a job that lets you be you. Structured jobs like sitting at a desk all day won't let you be you. However many blue collar jobs will let you have a bit more freedom as long as you end the day getting done what was asked.

[@shessoheavy6130]

It's frustrating as hell knowing you're smart, witty, likable, etc,, yet can't get out of your own way to move ahead by completing tasks and attaining your goals.

[@arunk-vc]

So frustrating, same story at all my jobs, yes I understood the task given, yes I know what to do, but no I don't know when I will get it done, I don't know why I am not completing it in time, I don't know what help I need.

[@kashyappatel3458]

its gets even more frustrating if you havent been formally diagnosed like me. Everyday i wake up all pumped up for all the things i want to accomplish and by the end of the day i haven't done anything an feel defeated. I genuinely want to learn things i am interested in but its like the energy barrier to get started is just too high.

[@daftbanna7202]

Wow yeah you are so smart and cool everything that is wrong with you is based on ADHD yeah sure

[@nammyohorengekyoooooo]

If u have a lot of money, u can just get someone to do it 4 u..

[@znori5805]

Yep. It's crippling.

[@yepyep266]

That moment when you wake up early to study and then it's suddenly 6pm.

[@bellyfulochelly4222]

Wish I didn't know what that feels like.

[@gabriellewhalley1328]

lmao

[@alyssahubbell5160]

I relate to this so hard.

[@judef6272]

This is sooo relevant right now in quarantine 😭

[@coreycox2345]

@@bellyfulochelly4222 If you mean hyperfocus, that you studied all day without noticing, it's one of my favourite ways to work. I have to be hyper interested in the topic. I wish I could do it predictably. I need a compelling question, and then I can't stop studying. Without one, it can be hard to focus.

[@trentmcmanus9423]

I figured out how to set up my environment for success as an adhd person: work in a dental office. Constant environment clues as to what I'm supposed to be doing. No possibility that I don't care because people are always in pain or in need of treatment to prevent pain so consequences are immediate. Working all day feels just like playing video games but after it ends, the good feelings persist. Applied to go back to college to be a dentist only a week after I started as a dental assistant because I know how rare it is to find a work environment that is conducive with adhd.

[@Bluebomber85]

I was a cook for most of my adult life, and it's the same concept. We used to call it having a sense of urgency. My favorite job was teaching cooking, so when that ended, I went back for my MA, Ed. Turns out I just like teaching cooking! Not teaching, teaching!! Hahaha I couldn't get my $hit straight no matter how many different age groups, subjects or organizational systems I attempted. The only time it worked was when I substituted, where the teacher left detailed instructions for me. So, kind of like the scaffolding- I think. I'm not sure, tbh, I didn't finish the video. 😮

[@sumatrican5990]

Recently got promoted to supervisor requiring me to do things I never thought I could pull off. So far so good but it sure hasn’t been easy and the stress is overwhelming at times. Acknowledging my weakness and making necessary adjustments has been key. I write EVERYTHING down. Even if I don’t go back and read, it helps me remember organically and I have noticed improvement. If you are struggling professionally just keep at it and make adjustments where possible and you will overcome. We will overcome. Good luck everybody!

[@Tiliy74]

Wow, this hit home for me. I've always described my ADHD like driving in a Formula 1 race car, but you're stuck in LA traffic your whole life.

[@HonestAuntyElle]

And people always assume in that analogy it's you calling people stupid. But what you mean is that you don't have enough room to move your thoughts into action inside your own head?

[@NishantShyamGoutam]

@@HonestAuntyElle Thats the whole point you missed. The problem isn't merely confined to converting thoughts into action and its more about converting capability into performance. You can have the highest level of skill in a field and the definition of ADHD is that you can't turn your capability into action because of neuro-genetic issues of your physical brain. Practical solution is breaking a task - small or big into micro tasks and try to finish one task at a time. Killing your confidence and peace of mind by a relentless assault loaded with motivational thoughts (internal or external) is definitely not the way out. The best psychological self-help will be performing the immediate micro task and a proper handling of self blame & stigmatization.

[@HonestAuntyElle]

@@NishantShyamGoutam "I" missed????

[@michellebyrom6551]

I like this analogy. I love F1 as a sport too. I like the quirkiness of my personal vehicle and the amazing things I accomplish with it. What I hate is being forced to onto a monotonous motorway closely hemmed in by a million others doing 20mph when my car doesn't really come to life until it hits 120mph. Another useful sport analogy would be cricket with its combination of standing around and bursts of energy when a good hit is made on the ball, rather than tennis with its regular volleys. Yeah. F1 is much more fun. Lol

[@BilfordBumpkins]

Wow... just so dead on

[@TARMANandTRASH]

44 Years old and in less than 14 mins, I learned more about myself from a video of a person whom I've never met. Amazing. Thank you.

[@jessebaker9430]

Same here at 42 year old

[@ThePerpetualStudent]

45 here.

[@johnlocke3481]

The doctor who invented ADHD said on his deathbed that it was a fictitious disease. You are a normal human.

[@brianb8791]

45, and same.

[@scumlord6680]

THANK YOU so much Dr Russell Barkley 👍🏻😃 I'm 39 and to use a gaming analogy you've helped me finally figure out the controls to myself to play in life 🎮🧠

[@TVVENCH]

The glucose part was especially interesting! I’ve started drinking energy drinks at work in the early afternoon to help with the afternoon slump and it really really works. It’s nice to see a bit of science behind a personal hack!

[@veronical3135]

For me coffee with a ton of sugar works like a charm. It keeps me energized and makes me do all the chores that I would put off if I wouldn’t drink it. I don’t drink it daily though, I let my body rest the next day without it so I don’t become too dependant on it.

[@goaway6339]

I wonder actually if reducing sugar and going low carb/keto is the other option. If cell energy regulation is the problem, using fats and proteins for ATP synthesis is a much more stable way of doing so

[@hughpearson337]

I have been doing all of these for years! Scary stuff. Recent diagnosis. Got through medical school, top grades, never failed a class but I am so tired and still feel like a failure! Recently started medication which has been insane. This is a great lecture, bizarre to see someone just outlining things I have internalised and battled to create to keep myself functional. Wish I had found this sooner.

[@RichmondStar510]

On Dec. 15th I’ll be granted my BS in Microbiology and have just gotten an assessment for ADHD and I too wish I would’ve gotten help earlier in life. I’ve stopped internalizing my shortcomings and began to rebuild my confidence by learning more this disease well, myself. Truly astounding to learn THIS

[@jennifer6029]

i'm someone who's been viewed as intellectually brilliant (34 ACT score, top college, etc) but can never bring myself to do anything but the minimum. everything is rushed, last minute, i have no motivation. i always blamed myself, or thought i was just depressed or thought i was just lazy. this guy literally made me cry. i have been a prisoner to my adhd for years but blamed myself the whole time. i see a psychiatrist for medication this week.

[@kathy2888]

I can relate 😭

[@aardvarkmcgillicuddy]

Did you ever think it might be the expectations of the society we live in? Go outside and stare at a tree for an hour. Calm, calm.

[@betotrono]

Dude totally. People spent so much of my childhood telling me how smart I am. And yes, I am smart. But if you look at a lot of my work it looks... not that amazing at times, even though I am capable of amazing things. Now that I have kids I tell them being smart don't mean squat if you don't utilize it.

[@alanberkeley7282]

So you took Adderall to get higher scores. You are a cheat quite frankly if that is the truth.

[@betotrono]

@@alanberkeley7282 Lol you're so cripplingly insecure you anonymously pick on women on the internet. Pretty pathetic. Go back to r/incels, "Alan".

[@justins7796]

Yep, after countless self-help videos and books just saying "keep going, keep striving," I'm just sitting here like "keep going and striving to *where?"* ADHD is like having all the tools under your belt but never having the quest marker to map you in the right direction.

[@keaten52]

Man, I hear that. This whole time I've been searching for the answer in self-help books and lectures with no such luck, and now I've finally found the answer - I have ADHD (I got diagnosed a few months ago).

[@wickedwonderland9831]

Like being fully charged with nowhere to go 🙃

[@Goldi3loxrox]

For me its like putting your foot on the accelerator but not getting very far then you realise you've been living with the hand brake on and not being able to release it.

[@-MrRichBiker1967]

good wording kidd!

[@ElderFoxDocumentaries]

For me it's like I've got so many winning ideas (multiple epiphanies per week) and I want to pursue them all at the same time, but then I become overwhelmed and don't pursue any..

[@cosanostra1018]

I loves his voice, explanation, speech tempo, how clear his words were. Not less, and not too much. Great lecture overall.

[@jaredteel3445]

That first sentence literally sums it up. Unable to follow through has been my Achilles heel since I was a teenager. Took medication from 1st grade through 12th and made straight A's. Started college, stopped medication, and my whole behavior changed. I would literally drive to the college campus, and sometimes just sit in my car or hang outside campus and skip class. SELF SABATOGE is how I've come to describe my adhd behavior over the years. I know what I need to do, but I find a way to mentally psych myself out. Its as if I fail because I'm afraid to fail. A Viscious cycle.

[@qwa15]

Oh man I feel for you because I'm that way too. When I stopped my stimulant meds after 20 years(!) on it, I still knew how to get myself to do what I need to do. But now there's more psyching myself out. MY ADHD means I start repeating to myself that I really need to do something (like make an important phone call). It is a bad sign--if I remind myself more than 3 times, forget it. The self-talk takes the place of whatever satisfaction I'd find in doing the thing I need to do. How about Russel Barkley, he is uncommonly good, is he? Talking about what its like and what helps.

[@tomtom51000]

My man, this is so relatable :( I've always described my brain as a battle between what I WANT to do and what I NEED to do. Always wanting to succeed, but being too worried about failure to move forward. I hope all has been well now.

[@zard122]

This was me, but stopped in 9th grade. I was even in accelerated classes. Sadly I recently found out that was due to family issues. My father ( he was a family practice physician ) took me off my ADHD medication. He took me off the medication for his fear i would become addicted to drugs (eg: meth), because around the time i was in high school my parent's found out my brother was doing meth. I was only told this after he passed away from leukemia and they lied to me saying my brother left college because his fraternity brother died of blood alchohol intoxication. This was 10 years after I was off the medication. During those year I failed at college so many times and my father's passing didn't help either. I'd rather have failed college than losing my father, but I got both.

[@GenKirby]

From other comments, "It's like watching your life in third person", and your "I fail because I'm afraid to fail." Is by far the most relatable thing I've read so far. I stopped taking Adderall back in high school because I felt like I didn't need it or could over come it. For many years of my life after that, the original need for taking the medication went unnoticed; I thought it was behind me. I took up aviation training to become a pilot and it's been without a doubt the most eye opening experience where I realized that ADD is something I never defeated or outgrew. Self sabotage, day in and day out. I know what I need to do, I tell myself I need to do it, and then I constantly fight with myself to get anything accomplished.

[@MrBUGS713]

That happened to me to. I would park at a park near by and sleep

[@emmcc]

I went undiagnosed for YEARS and I always thought to myself “I am doing everything I can in my own control to try and make my life easier, nothing is working”. When he said that you have to change the environment around you in order for you to physically use the knowledge you have it sent me to tears. I always asked my family if they could do certain things differently because they don’t work for my adhd brain and I was always told “No but you can learn how to adapt to it” so its nice to know that what I was asking for is valid

[@Rachelle0912]

I could’ve written this myself. I was in tears during that part. I have never felt so validated.

[@Treardet]

So valid

[@TravisMcGee151]

@@Treardet Some of students have ADHD. When they are on medication it’s a world of difference. When they forget to take them there’s just no getting to them.

[@vojtechvaligura7054]

Oh god, I spent years lying to myself that I can actually adapt to doing things the way other do it, and yeah, as expected, I failed again and again. Accepting that my brain works differently has been a major step for me. Sadly, most of the "outside world" still expects me to function "normally" even when they see it's not the optimal way for me.

[@mikamar2881]

@@vojtechvaligura7054 oh you need to do it in the way that make you feel good and happy ,for that we are in this world , not to do in the way that other want .And to be like that start a business or stay in one village .

[@Animus989]

I once heard the ADHD mind referred to as the "Hunter's Mind." In the first world we have eliminated the need for the Hunter archetype. It makes sense, that hunters will struggle in a world with nothing to hunt.

[@ketz_165]

I’ve heard this theory before! It has to do with our ease of distraction benefiting us when predators lurked around every corner and hyper focus when zoning in on prey.

[@rachel4339]

Professional athletes are 3-4 times more likely to have ADHD than the general population, because exercise is so good for their function, they have a superior ability to hyper focus, and I hypothesize that things like postural sway from poor proprioception ultimately lead to faster reaction times.

[@vladimiragreen3581]

I was just thinking that when I came across your comment! Strange. We need to find a job and hobby where we can feel like hunters. I really wouldn’t enjoy killing animals so it has to be something creating the same kind of focus.

[@jack6478]

The audacity to claim it’s a disorder then turn around and say it has benefits

[@Animus989]

@@vladimiragreen3581 Photography has been my answer

[@ronaldbennett1655]

I have ADHD, so does my son. I became a special ed teacher I know the clinical definition of so many of the performance disorders that exist.He has changed my view on so many things related to and beyond ADHD.

[@Anna-km3bq]

Having adhd is like having the lamborghini of all brains locked in a garage

[@mariedelozier2530]

Best analogy I've heard....a Ferrari that doesn't run rite (right) LOCKED in the garage... Lost the remote to the garage door opener...

[@mariedelozier2530]

Oops!! Lamborghini...adhd strikes!

[@mariedelozier2530]

Curious...what "I. Q." were you told you had??

[@Anna-km3bq]

Marie DeLozier thank you! I’m flattered😇 I’ve never found out my IQ, although I’ve had teachers tell me they don’t understand how I’m so smart yet so “lazy” haha Which I beg to differ, I prefer the term work smart, not hard ;)

[@dinacamposlopes]

Ahahahahahah brilliant 😂👍

[@euomu]

1 minute and 34 seconds in and this man already seems to understand me on a deeper level than all of the people I've ever spoken to (including psychiatrists) combined. Wow

[@TellMeMoore]

Yep

[@reecemorton4786]

It’s scary

[@VirgAlexJunchurriki]

Therapy is a scam. Most of the shit out is like this.

[@henndawg42069]

100%. Holy shit.

[@21112111100]

Não tenha dúvidas. Em Portugal, alguns psicólogos e psiquiatras dificilmente sabem o que é tdah

[@forhazen]

I’m so glad I came across this. I surprise-cried while watching this. The kind that comes in totally by surprise because you’re so fundamentally rocked and embarassed with what you learn about yourself. I feel understood and like there’s some hope of NOT always feeling like a passenger in my own mind. Thank you Dr. Barkley

[@ryanrogers3610]

"Like a passenger in my own mind." I'm stealing that line ❤

[@nomadalife]

same- like Im not tearing up, my contact lense is irritating me 🤦‍♂

[@johnandrews3518]

Wow, this is SO incredibly spot on for me it's ridiculous! This man just perfectly described and explained the struggle I deal with every single day of my life.

[@veronical3135]

Yeah, and I thought no one understands me untill now.

[@mrj3217]

His fuel tank analogy is 100% right. Once I am wiped out it's over. My ADHD has caused me to not pay speeding tickets on time even when I had the money, then I got my license suspended for non payment. I knew I had a ticket to pay and thought I had more time. Well over 2 months went by and to me of felt like 2 weeks. Time either moves fast for me or if I M bored time will send still.

[@herewegokids7]

💯💯💯

[@JC-Alan]

God I can relate to this too much

[@mrj3217]

As an update, I have seen 1 Neuropsychologist who took my insurance then after the first appointment called me to say now they don't take my insurance and it cost 3k for the testing to determine if I officially have ADHD, then I found one more Psychologist who 100% did take my insurance and when I spoke to them and just ask to take the official ADHD diagnosis due to my life long issues, all the meds I have been on for depression ( I am not depressed) and Bi-Polar meds ( current mental health doctor says I am not Bi-Polar) I know exactly what symptoms I have dealt with my entire life. That is me 100%. Trying to find a Dr who is willing to just get you to take the ADHD test was hard but I finally found one. I take the test in July so we will know if I am just suffering from anxiety as this newest Dr said she thinks my issue is or if I am a very seriously misdiagnosed 42-year-old man who has ground his way through life never being able to come close to being the best me I can be. I will keep you posted. I just want to have clear slow thoughts and not feel like mentally I am walking a tight rope or going on stage to do a show every time I am doing something out side my home.

[@aliceapathy]

Best wishes from a stranger on the internet! I sincerely hope you finally get the answers and treatment you need. Hang in there!

[@FrancesLocke]

Wow, yeah? I can so relate to that!

[@matturner6890]

I hate it when people ask me to estimate how long something will take me to do. I just never seem to be able to guess properly!

[@douglasduda9826]

For me it helps to keep small notes of how long such tasks usually do take but then add 25-50% time to whatever it usually takes, this way your always ahead of the time you give.

[@Vgallo]

Oh I wish my boss could understand this

[@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs]

MAN- word!!

[@stiefjac5082]

my friends and family consistently tell me to be somewhere an hour before i'm really supposed to be there, i picked up on it so i'm always aware when that's what's going on but in some weird paradoxical way it still works, i'm habitually late on time even though i know deep down im late

[@budgetforsuccess835]

I just don’t answer because I can’t even think of a number. I hate when people ask that.

[@BSXUS]

I've always felt this way, not being able to do anything despite knowing what to do and having minimum attention expand and getting mentally exhausted after doing basic chores, I'm 21 now, I don't have friends I don't have a job although I've had previously as a lifeguard but COVID made me lose my job and that really messed me up and aggravated my isolation, I didn't finish high school. I'm currently visiting a occupational therapist to help me do things otherwise I wouldn't do just like he said the motivation has to be external, she gives me papers with chores I have to do over the week to give her back, thanks to my therapist i'm starting a program in to weeks to get my highschool certificated and hopefully that will make me more functional.

[@WompodReviews]

This video made me cry like 4 times. Going and outlining every struggle I've had in my life and the science behind them. I've asked for help a lot of times but I haven't received it and it's hard to hear that I'm not expected to make progress without outside help. I'm scared to keep asking.

[@theforcefor]

OMFG, THIS MAN JUST MADE A TUTORIAL ON SPEED-RUNNING ADHD TREATMENT, my adhd brain likes it, thank you so much for putting your research online and on youtube on a ADHD-friendly format

[@che595]

You have the attention span of a goldfish, that's it.

[@littlemetalpixie]

"I'm not going to go through all that right now" translates to "I'm sure if you're watching this video, it's very likely you have ADHD and I'm probably starting to lose you since I'm 12 minutes into a 16 minute video." Thank you, doctor. You are correct.

[@marciasloan534]

I shall seize this brilliant man and talk him in to helping me.

[@marciasloan534]

Littlemetalpixie, I made it 46 seconds

[@Babynate1000]

This is scary stuff. Its like an ongoing fight with your brain. Like how is that possible. I get so jealous of people with calm minds

[@lyteyearz5810]

Same here bud 😕

[@kritibhatia475]

nate kingsland yup😢

[@blakeedwards3582]

You are needed just the way you are Nate. Do not fret!

[@honestfriend767]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/gqfZmWSGeteqj8U

[@redvelvet2982]

I feel this so much, i swear!!!

[@nomadalife]

I think we know more now that neuroplasticity can rewire some of this out of the brain; however, I am a late diagnosed ADHD -- after decades of my military PTSD distracting my healthcare providers-- and now I feel (1) emotional about how I used to try to mitigate these behaviours in school. uni, and work without knowing what was wrong; and (2) I feel a bit overwhelmed by how I have to now build a prosthetic environment. This is a lot of work.

[@samtastisch86]

Almost done with my Bachelor in Psychology. Its not the level of education that makes it difficult, but the DOING part. Im very proud of myself if I can finish this and I will continue to go get my masters. I was 32 when I started. Trust me if I say its all about self optimalisation. Do what works for you and and change what doesnt work. And yes excercising works great. 3 days hard work, one day excercise. Works like a charm (for me). Also for big study assignements I use meds (dexamfetamine), but only for study assignements or else my costs like sleep deprivation etc. would get to high.

[@ChimeraActual]

I have a BA in psych, seemed a natural thing. Could have taken a programing course, this was 1966, instead of psych 101. Gotta say I never put the psych to use. Really couldn't keep a job. When I was about 50 I was diagnosed, put on meds, and discovered computer programming and got an MS in it. Programming suited me, worked in the field successfully until I retired. Wish I were diagnosed and had taken that programming course in 1966!

[@hyperfirefly5879]

You got distracted and are reading the comments during the video aren’t you? This video gives some really good tips! Wait to read the comments until after the video!

[@diywithemma]

You caught me 🤣🤣 and i had to scroll down FAR to see this comment.

[@crystalstellwagen2600]

oops, I scrolled down to read the comments before watching the video. also I should get off youtube because it's after my bedtime 😅thanks!

[@ultravioletpisces3666]

No, I actually paused the video to write a comment. :)

[@sagalduraan3489]

Hhhhhh are you talking to me,.

[@natashawhatman551]

Thank you 😅

[@manemada3676]

Dr: "I'm not going to excuse your behaviour, I'm going to hold you more accountable than other people" Me: anxiety shot

[@tranminhnghia5498]

After watching through all of it I realized that he meant "hold accountable" as in "slapping physical responsibility reminders onto your face because your brain doesn't remember them". In a way, it DOES mean holding us more accountable because, he will keep remind us of what we need to do and when and why and what we will get after it is done.

[@lanieparker5730]

It’s his way of saying find ways to keep you on track or on task. More loving and helpful, less judgmental than it sounds.

[@venuss1818]

LOL same

[@lorismithokon9028]

Refueling the tank is so important

[@grapentine739]

I like how he said it is 80% treatable with medication. I would like to see it. Here is a list of different meds: adderall, adderall, adderall, and Ritalin. Meth

[@Cyberphunk303]

I wish I'd seen this earlier. Knowing what to do and just NOT DOING IT is very frustrating to me, and strategies to combat executive dysfunction have been hard to come by. Props to Dr. Barkley for all the work he put into this lecture.

[@bjelfin]

Why do I feel that this man is only one out of a handful of professionals who truly understands ADD, especially "Inattentive " type?

[@elfqueen8673]

“This is the kid after school” points to empty tank. “And you want them to do homework? Forget it!” Love it. Same for adults after work of any kind. We come home and crash. Doesn’t matter what the work was we are spent and want to unhook.

[@snowps1]

Yes, I can either stay home and clean my house or go to work for the day. I cannot do both of those on the same day. When I come home from work, I'm done for the rest of the day.

[@stevebean1234]

I think decompressing after work is a thing for normies, too. I also think better diet, sleep, and exercise will help with that for normies and neurodivergent, too, but defining what better diet, sleep, and exercise is takes a very long time and is tricky to implement. And then once all that’s said and done, a stressful job can undermine all of it.

[@Vanadium]

@@stevebean1234I am to exhausted to do exercise after I get home. I would need to do that right after I leaving my work. If I sit down I would not get up anymore. I have thought about doing exercises before work but that would mean I really need to wake up at 4 am. I love exercises but hate/can’t get to them.

[@stevebean1234]

@@Vanadium if you're exhausted when you get home, its probably diet. maybe sleep or stress management but diet is the biggest driver. get a big freezer and meal prep a ridiculous amount of chicken, rice, vegetables. 1lb chicken 1lb cooked rice and 2lb vegetables is about the macros you need. or go get a nutritionist (make sure you find a good one not a quack) and theyll be able to help you get on a better diet. exercise will also push your body to actually metabolize your food, rather than just store it. if you can metabolzie food better you will feel more energetic overall as well. therefore, it is all a process and you need to have good exercise andnutrition for a while before everything starts getting easier.

[@JetJockey87]

​​@@stevebean1234did you not watch this video at all? They mentioned diet once, and that was about how ADHD people need rapid glucose to the frontal lobe for maintaining EF. Get outta here with your HelloFresh subscription meal plan, braindead

[@Camyoudigit25]

I'm not going to lie, reading this comment section has me feeling a lot of things. It's a relief, while also very sad knowing how many other people out there know what my day to day struggles are like.

[@Hailiehuman]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/npimmJh8rMh9eNk Hope this might help.

[@asdfghlkjh100]

Just a suggestion, there is cure for mankind in the Qur'an, only if you could read the first and second chapter, or even if u could hear it before u learn to read it by yourself by the will of our CREATOR you would soon feel better . A link for you to download it, (u also have the translation in the settings) Check out Quran: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co Majeed app on your mobilem.pakdata.QuranMajeed

[@kathy2888]

I felt the same thing! I feel like we should all exchange numbers and create a support group!

[@mohdmanzarabbas6356]

@@kathy2888 want to exchange our numbers?

[@chainmanz7476]

right with you, got the same feelings

[@thejackedrabbit427]

1. This man described everything I'm going through. 2. Made me stop beating myself over everything

[@eddieleong6490]

Excellent. I am not watching the slides, just watching the speech on screen. My first video and I love this Professor;

[@kirani111]

My entire life I built systems around me that kept me accountable- when I was in 6th grade I voluntarily went to afterschool detention because they forced you to do homework. When the teachers realized I wasn't supposed to be there they were baffled. I LIKED it, and otherwise I would never start my homework until two *hours* before the deadline. I purposely applied to a college that was known for being a "boot camp". Then COVID came and crumbled those systems I carefully chose. Until then I didn't realize I had ADHD because I was doing well (still struggling but doing well). I failed a class for the first time in my life on the first semester of online class. I felt like I derailed my life because I was lazy and unmotivated. My self esteem tanked, I went through depression, and I'm still slowly picking my way back up with the help of videos like these. Thank you!!

[@shessoheavy6130]

Hang in there! If you're intuitive enough and smart enough to create systems that worked in the past, you can certainly develop new systems that can help. Good luck to you, Natalia!!!

[@kirani111]

@@shessoheavy6130 Thank you :’)

[@shessoheavy6130]

@@kirani111 You're welcome. The detention strategy sounds like something I would do. It's all about forcing yourself to be accountable and buckling down for those two hours (or however long) to get the work done. Maybe someone close to you can hold you accountable? That's worked for me.

[@sheilagavin8281]

Thank you! Blessings to you 🙏 your statement is inspiring me. You know you can overcome, because have done so before. You will again.

[@loisavci3382]

Using detention as a study hall is not a sign of laziness, so give yourself some credit! One thing I do (as a freelance copy editor) is tell clients I need a deadline, even if there is no particular time constraint on their end. Most people are very understanding if you simply tell them you need a deadline or you will have a really hard time getting started.

[@masterninja401k]

This man has probably the single greatest understanding of this disorder on the planet.

[@g.s.5868]

he is selling something & paid by big pharma, ALL OF THEM if you check his references & studies

[@CynicalOldDwarf]

*sigh* I had a feeling he was 'sponsored' with all his talk about medication. His brief mention of CBT does sound interesting though, building organisational frameworks to offset ADHD's spacing out and inability to manage time. Real shame he glossed over that to push drugs instead.

[@albertogomez-han8366]

@@alanberkeley7282 That has got to be the dumbest blog post I've ever read. It's basically "ADHD doesn't exist" + a ton of other dubious claims without citations or evidence. If a guy with a PhD that's researched the subject for decades and cites his claims tells me one thing, and a rando on WordPress tells me another, why should I believe the rando on WordPress? Because he tries to make me feel warm and fuzzy by telling me there's nothing wrong with me?

[@alanberkeley7282]

A guy with a PHD who is in bed with Big Pharma, who receives a third of his taxable income from them, who has made a career and good living out of promoting a bullshit disorder. I'm a retired engineer. I have nothing to lose. I'm not in bed with Big Pharma or taking their money or gifts or holidays or payments. My career doesn't depend on it. And besides this guy has a PHD. So what? He couldn't do my job. He wouldn't have a clue. Just because he has a PHD behind his name doesn't make him a smart, or good person, or in his case moral,. because he isn't. He telling you what his pharma paymasters want you to know. He's nothing better than the drug pusher on the street corner. In fact he's worse.

[@alanberkeley7282]

@@albertogomez-han8366 Prove ADHD or anything else is caused by a chemical imbalance?

[@VIEW-ut3bu]

I had a huge change occur one day I just could not execute and been combating the disconnect for 8years. I found the same exact thing about what I was doing and glad more people are on board about addressing this.

[@hentaimonster]

This explanation explains why I excelled as a cook. All hands on learning, a job filled with short tasks and short time limits. Move from one task to the next with severe consequences if something goes wrong. And the end result of cooking is a delicious reward.

[@maeevans4773]

speaking fast, effective powerpoint, interesting content; can i hug this man?

[@alanberkeley7282]

I'd like to hug him as well, but it would be a lot harder than you

[@mariachristina55]

Omg I hate when people speak slow or use too many words/are not succinct when explaining something.... is that an ADHD thing?

[@ammarkhan6883]

Yeah, finally an informational video I don't have to listen to on faster speeds

[@EritreanChic]

mariachristina55 Omg! For me, it is. I have to avoid people who are redundant, speak slowly, or use filler words often (well, you know, basically, um). I think that’s why I interrupt people so much.

[@12centuries]

Guys, if videos are too slow for you, then you will LOVE this -- there is an addon for your browser that speeds up videos. I watch most videos at 1.3x and it is SO MUCH BETTER. Search for "Video Speed Controller." It has radically changed my ability to focus on videos like this. (EDIT: Yes, I know you can change the speed with KZbin controls, but 1) KZbin doesn't give enough fine-grain control and 2) You can use it on other sites besides KZbin.)

[@ashleybrown1447]

"We're undertreating the most treatable disorder in Psychiatry" - thank you!!!!! Those of us who have figured it out on our own and seek help are made to feel like drug addicts; we're given medication for things like anxiety and depression, with the side effect of "suicidal thoughts." I've been misdiagnosed so many times, it's a wonder I am even alive.

[@LisaMaryification]

@Ashley Elbra Never has any doctor diagnosed me with ADHD. I have been diagnosed with depression and it was suggested to me that I may have dyslexia but, to me, ADHD seems to describe me.

[@pineavis751]

Me too. Doctors used to insist on antidepressants which made me more hyper.

[@pineavis751]

Nailed it.

[@NMarkeTech]

Wow, I am struggling for so long and not being able to figure out why I do what I do. Now I have something to work with...

[@TheEvilWalrusLord]

Wasted so much time in programs, rooms, 'rehabs' (jails effectively). Fuck AA old heads and any medical professional who refused to hear me when I said 'there's something else, please can we look again, I don't feel like alcohol is my main issue, it the depression, these pills I still wanna fucken die' FUCK PAYNE WHITNEY, FUCK CORNELL WEILL! DON'T SEND ANYONE THERE!!!! FOR YEARS THEY IGNORED MY DIAGNOSIS. I HAD THE DIAGNOSIS. I LEFT WHEN DR ROMANO, THIRD FAILED SHIT ASS IGNORANT FUCK AT E68TH IN 3 YEARS SAID POINT BLANK 'no, that not something we can help you with' . For real, I almost killed myself so many times. I was hopeless, for my entire life. I was just going through motions, not killing myself 100% selflessly got my family who cried a bunch when my uncle died. Finally after years I said ok fine I don't see why a private doctor paid for by my uncle could do something my entire clinic couldn't. Turns out they wouldn't, not couldn't. In one session, I had a second positive diagnosis, a script to pick up, and within 24 hours I had hope that I could accomplish something (like, even coming back to minute tasks) and a will to live. Thank you Dr Griffin for saving my life, and fuck the entire medical machine that wasted so many years of my life. So many years. I almost didn't make it, many times.

[@nigelwitgunn3406]

I'm 64 - undiagonsed - this video reduced me to tears. The overwhelming frustration of always being told you're lazzy makes one feel like a failure. But it would seem, it was ADHA and dyslexia that have ruined my life. This is what it means when someone slips through the cracks in the system. So I finally have an answer for my 10th grade history teacher's question of, what am I so agree at? The system. It would also explain why I don't like people very much. I fucking hate being broken.

[@kuritmanok9174]

Those moments that I just "do" and "not think" was one of the most freeing and productive phrases of my life. I keep wanting to have more control on recreating those moments, and i found this video to be helpful and insighful. Especially converting mental/abstract things into something physical/concrete. Very informative. Thanks.

[@pastalavista5784]

Initially watching this video, I honestly thought that he was angry and frustrated at people with ADHD. But it slowly became more clear that, no, he isnt angry at people with ADHD. He’s angry at people who refuse to help! I love this man’s commitment to helping people with adhd. Its clearly shown in this video that he’s been trying to get this through peoples skulls for a while now.

[@nathanialb9115]

FAX

[@mikeymoo1291]

there's still a lot of general practitioners who don't actually believe it exists or that it's something you can live with.

[@sk-fc8in]

So well said; I love his passion.

[@rpetersen3801]

And angry at people who dont want to learn about the help for adhd when there are a lot of help out there.

[@Zxv975]

I assumed the exact same. From the video title I thought it was gonna be a nutcase trying to cure ADHD like those guys that tried to "cure homosexuals" (shudder), so I came straight to the comments before even watching to see the general reception of the video. Pleasantly surprised to see a lot of people with ADHD resonating with the video and feeling empowered by the tools he's suggesting, so it's probably worth a watch now!

[@venuss1818]

I felt that when he said, “You can know stuff but you won’t do stuff” like a stake through my heart 🥲

[@lmendel58]

Me too. The message I hear is you can do it but you won't therefore you will fail unless you just buck up and do it.

[@andresgutierrez3126]

me too. I have two careers, speak 4 languages and my parents always say that I don't have goals (which I do). I just don't act on them

[@AKINAacacia]

Can I get a hear-hear?!

[@Catlily5]

It is just hard for us to apply what we have learned. Knowing is not the same as knowing HOW to use it.

[@andresgutierrez3126]

@@Catlily5 totally. How do you manage Cat? I'm about to start therapy and I'n not on medication

[@Sonic-gy7kq]

This dude understands his stuff. Even people who are relatively accommodating kinda have reluctance to understanding how truly disabling adhd is. This dude fully well knows more than most without having it himself (presumably, if he does explains why he knows so well).

[@LazzarrusLong]

04:19 EXCELLENT steps to take. This gentleman is on-point and I only regret not finding him sooner.

[@zombieowen]

It's highly treatable and yet I've been trying to get help for years with no luck. Getting a diagnosis, just a diagnosis, is brutally difficult. Getting help for ahdh is NOT adhd friendly.

[@tiaryan1350]

Your right. I'm jumping through a hoop right now. Basically have to pay money to get proper diagnosis (hopefully!) just to get the help that's needed.

[@alanberkeley7282]

There is no ADHD

[@tiaryan1350]

@@alanberkeley7282 just because you don't have adhd, no have ever experienced it, doesn't mean it's not real.

[@alanberkeley7282]

@@tiaryan1350 I've looked and looked and I've yet to see anything to convince me it exists. I was 72 in March

[@tiaryan1350]

@@alanberkeley7282 it's definitely a real thing. Myself, and my daughter have it. It a feeling, causes many issues with childhood, growing up, effects grades, causes an umbrella of extra things with mental illness. You have to have ADHD to know it. I'm ADD, and so is my child... The more quiet type. I have no idea where to even begin. Do you think you may or may not have it? It's changes in the brain chemistry. Autism runs along with it like a cousin, but the two are very different, yet similar. I have one of each. If you don't have it, it's obviously going to be hard to understand.

[@verydarkchi1d914]

I swear to God, it feels as though he is speaking specifically at me. He is able to clearly explain what I feel inside that I just can't explain. It's so scary that he's 100% spot on.

[@carolmaciel2908]

Same

[@DS.the1st]

Yep

[@user-fi4rn6hr4r]

So true

[@12centuries]

Imagine discovering years later that it was never your fault to begin with. And that it's treatable. Now does anybody have a time machine we can borrow?

[@Hailiehuman]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/laXTc2B4baeLoZI I offer this to help not to say all other options are bad but something as simple as changing the food eaten can help should be talked about more before just passing out a pill.

[@MNman87]

I had to watch this video three times in five-minute intervals, but I finally understood what he said, and it spoke directly to me!

[@user-rz7ih2vh1c]

Driving. Not affected. Its as immediate as it gets. It relaxes me incredibly.

[@CooperCarr]

The hardest part...scheduling a doctors visit

[@julius43461]

This, so much.

[@frimmin]

Cooper, I can only speak for myself, but I'm willing to bet you'll be glad you did. I'm 56, have been mostly unemployed for over a year now, and recently got diagnosed, although I always knew I had it. Finally after getting treatment, I can see how it really affected my life, why I never wrote the books and stories I began, why I got fired from jobs, why I am where I am today. Things are starting to make sense, and I'm starting to change a lifetime's patterns of avoiding high EF tasks, and beginning to be able to put into practice some of the time-management and personal development practices I've studied my whole life but could NEVER F***IN' DO. Thanks to my treatment, I really feel like life begins at 56.

[@julius43461]

frimmin, I am 27 but I am delaying getting diagnosed for at least 5 years now. Main reason is because that is just not something that people do around here, if you have a problem you should just man up and deal with it, year right... Also I am afraid that meds that l get will not help me, so I will be completely hopeless. Right now I know that as long as I can dream about meds at least I know there is hope, but if meds fail I'm screwed.

[@djlivvy46]

There are lots of articles and videos about natural alternatives to ADHD medication, maybe these would help?

[@julius43461]

djlvvy46, Most of the time it comes down to eating better food, working out and maybe taking supplements. I tried all of these. Exercise does nothing for me. Even when I was playing football almost daily I was still struggling with mental tasks.

[@mariedelozier2530]

Oh. My. God. This is what I've been doing, just on my own, knowing what I need help with. The timers, clocks, lists, you-name-it.

[@MariposaRedimida]

Me too! If I need to buy more dog food, I need to leave the empty bag in front of the door, visual reminders work!

[@rosethorns1893]

I have done this as well. Schedules. Everything in its place always! Unfortunately, after my retirement, I have nothing or nobody to hold me accountable, to push me forward...there’s nothing. It’s now, that it’s all falling apart. This makes so much sense! I was a construction worker and always physically active.

[@cecyc5556]

@@MariposaRedimida I would go past the empty bag and forget it...

[@cecyc5556]

@@MariposaRedimida I need a personal assistant.

[@Ray2311us]

An assistant sounds like a luxury to me. I need a female assistant to hire.

[@TheOnlyToblin]

As a 42 year old with rampant ADHD, this man single handedly both validated my existence and explained why I am still functioning decently. What a wizard!

[@samanthajones4797]

I appreciate this man even the way he talks is designed to keep our attention. Short bursts that are straight to the point yes chefs kiss

[@TheTalesOfRyujin]

I feel like I should've had more awareness of my ADHD before I applied to college.

[@YouMightGetMe]

At least you made it to college ... (sorry, bad day)

[@roel5591]

John Szarek I made it to college (university). failed 2 years on different subjects and I'm still in my first year. I dont want to fail this time because all the friends I have, all my aspirations in sport, all other things I have going for me in my life are based around this uni. It's 1 am. tomorrow I have one of the deciding exams and I'm completely unprepared. yet here I am reminding myself of what makes me hate who I am. wish I never "made it to college".

[@elizabethhollins5988]

Roel Kox: I hope you're sleeping and best of luck when test time comes today.

[@mojomojo5779]

God, I hear you. I dropped out of college because I could not get Algebra ll with a 3.0 in other classes. I understood it. I couldn't remember all of the formulas. Some of that might be from being an ISFJ personality type. I was devastated. Fortunately, I'm retired and still have a paycheck.

[@ExtremeTG]

lol thats true. Hell i found out that I had adhd after going into college and sitting down for lectures. Its bad.

[@babyboy1971]

This is the best video I’ve ever seen on ADHD. Just diagnosed with adult ADHD, at 48. One week on adderall, it’s like putting on glasses and finally being able to see the blackboard of my past.

[@tomw7551]

Does it still feel Like that? The honeymoon phase always be hitting

[@Moose00019]

Bro, right?! The same fucking day I started, my wife noticed immediate, noticable improvement. Not lasting, but it was there. And me being ADHD, "You think so?" I can't recognize when I'm doing right or not most of them time, I just do and hope it works out at this point.

[@crusader2.0_loading89]

Everything still ok?

[@soberserotonin1850]

just never ever overtake your meds

[@michaelt645]

Donavan, it's literally mind blowing.

[@ConsciousConversations]

What an absolutely stunning introduction to you and your teams work and channel. And this time, be it algorithm or synchronicity .. glad to know you made this.

[@tiffymag]

This is so good. Thank you for sharing. "Point of performance scaffolding!"

[@ClellBiggs]

Full of ideas with no motivation to follow through. Sums it up pretty well. Thinking about what I could've accomplished if I didn't have ADHD is incredibly upsetting.

[@vineetraswant3108]

Same with me. It hurts!

[@inikans123]

Nah, you probably hadn’t actually thought about all those things you would have accomplished )

[@dailyredapple]

I know, it hurts me so much. I know I’m not stupid. A handful of my friends went to IvyLeagues out of high school. But my dumbass became super over emotional over a break up in high school and I basically ruined my life over some silly kiddie relationship. Here I am now, in debt, 5 years Into community college with nothing to show for it because no matter how many colleges I keep transferring to, I end up fucking up my GPA in the first semester.

[@kazzamite]

@@dailyredapple How about fuck college and go and get a trade aka an apprenticeship. Make friends with someone that owns a business and hammer them to get it!! xx

[@suzishealthyhome8678]

Same! I have THE BEST ideas, find the best products.... But... Then I see these products on the shelves months later selling so well, but none are mine. I have great foresight and can advise and coach others magnificently keeping them to task.. But not myself. I've been mistaken for a psychologist, marketing manager, teacher and nurse.. Just with "stuff" I've researched and what I think... Zero qualifications as I'm interested in so much but can't commit to one thing. I've been called "lazy" by family as I'm not a domestic goddess (though ok) but others think I'm super organised and efficient, achieving great things in the community... Can't win.

[@originalhazelgreene]

I about cried when he said medication IS the right treatment for this.... I've been off Ritalin for 27 years (at 18 they told us we'd grow out of ADD and promptly cut us off) and living like this is slowly killing my will to live. I've become a recluse who pretends to be high functioning at work. The last time I didn't feel like a total moron was when I was on Ritalin. I was always the smartest person in the room! Nothing could get me down! Man I miss those days so much. I might not have dropped out of college if I had been allowed to stay on medication, and I might have a career right now instead of a dead end job.

[@JayCrandell]

Totally wish I had kept up the Ritalin as well. I got a new prescription, my old diagnosis was still active, and it has been really helpful. Talk to your doctor!

[@luizalouyoga]

My dear, I don’t know how old you are, but don’t give up. Even if you think it’s too late, maybe it’s not. You can go back to meds and try to develop strategies to better your situation. I don’t know you, but I really hope you can feel better.

[@ra-dg5rf]

try vyvanse

[@NormalRarin]

I wanted to suggest you look into neurofeedback for ADHD, because it worked for me. You'd try a psychologist (not a psychiatrist). It's not medication, it's a treatment. Good luck.

[@quietlightning4063]

Why can’t you use Ritalin again?

[@salmank3131]

This video is by far the most practical and sought out video we all needs to tackle EF, mind blowing facts and remedies.

[@JCJW101]

This is amazing, as an adult I've never heard anyone describe what i have so well. Ive tried to get people and systems in place just like this but have really troubled with getting help from anyone, no one seems to want to do it 😢

[@KoriC4077]

Watching this as a recently diagnosed 33 year old adult, made me ugly cry. This is my whole life in 13 minutes.

[@N1GHTW4TCH]

On the path to diagnosis at 28. I feel you..

[@celiapolman5618]

Just recently realizing myself as a 28 year old that I likely have ADHD and it really makes me tear up too being hit with that realization that it’s not that I’m unable to take care of my life how I think I should, but that I’ve never had the right tools… validating and scary at the same time.

[@jjjooe]

I am also 33 and I was diagnosed last month. I learned so much in the past month and started my medication last week. But to fully get better, I still need to develop some good habits and design my environment.

[@MrHatranpro]

@@jjjooe Can you name the medication please?

[@XAtmo97]

This man has just explained what took me 25 years to figure out in a short video. Excellent content and so practical.

[@bjugler]

I literally just said to 4 different people after watching this "this guy explains in 10 minutes what I've been trying to say for 25 years".

[@XAtmo97]

@@bjugler JINX!

[@jamitibbs8614]

I am 41 undiagnosed- my husband diagnosed and freshman son diagnosed no wonder I’m so overwhelmed... this I’m explained me to a t. I’m ready for help but now frozen as far as what to do or how to get it!

[@bjugler]

Jami Tibbs You can start with your regular doctor as a first step, but expect that they won't know much and you'll have to educate them. It is probably a good idea to look online and see if you can find a specialist near you. Would be happy to help in anyway.

[@jamitibbs8614]

@@bjugler thank you. That’s the problem is I do so much research it feels pointless to go it’s a mistrust I have and it’s just unfortunate

[@scottinguito5997]

"Prosthetic environment" As a person with ADD, I love this idea. I'd always wondered why I could be focused, reliable and follow through on things in certain environments yet totally space out in others. When he talked about making time physical outside the mind of the ADD person, I laughed out loud. Time passing just doesn't exist for me the way it does for a normal person. I've learned to design my environment and.use tools for time awareness along the way.

[@elliote2971]

This the most accurate description of how ADHD works. The speaker really hit a bullseye within this field of ADHD.

[@Thomas-pq4ys]

Nailed it. I'm 72. As I age, my ADHD is getting worse. I've so much to do. It's in my face, but I freeze, becoming overwhelmed. Things are piling up, commitments loom. I know I'm highly intelligent. I constantly study, learn things, but when it comes to being motovated in the physical world, nothing, little at best, gets done. I am seeking help, medication, but even getting this done gets put off... damnit. Aerobic activity is becoming more difficult in that it takes me away from what I need to do, adding to my overwhelmedness. It is maddening. I hate having to rermind people to remind me, and I hate constantly being reminded, it goes around and around, destroying any semblance of self-esteem.

[@cleverkathy]

Me too. I am 71 and was just diagnosed this year.

[@21112111100]

Tenho 61 anos. descobri que tinha tdah há 3 anos e tive de procurar psiquiatra especializada para VALIDAR o meu diagnóstico. Passo por tudo isso. É dose !!

[@anxez]

I hope someone in your life has told you that you're doing amazing. And you've done amazing things. Because I guarantee you have and you are.

[@tonyatorres999]

Late reply but offering this: Drop everything and get a DX and the right RX meds. Then take control of what’s looming and set up clocks in your visual field, in every room! Don’t rely on the iPhone!

[@juanitaglenn9042]

@@tonyatorres999 I own a watch. It goes with me everywhere. LOVE it, can't live(properly) without it

[@michaelrichards698]

"They can't hold things in mind and move them around as well as other people" That really just hit me...

[@cigall]

Brings back memories of how I was great at math until we started geometry...

[@AshleyCaranci]

But seriously he said this as I was scrolling down the comments and reading yours 💀 I'm freaked out/happy because I've been studying enlightenment/synchronicities and this was definitely one of them 🤣🙏

[@kellyjane3966]

I finally feel like someone understands what I'm trying to have to explain to everyone around me. Thankyou

[@djstarrjunkie]

THIS EXPLAINS EVERYTHING! Now that I can see there's "intention & time blindness" that is REALLY happening, I can use the CBT skills to build the scaffolding in the direction to DO what I KNOW. For years, I've put so much blame on myself as to the "WHY can't I DO THIS!?" When I KNOW I can do great things, because I've actually DONE them before, but repeating the process is where I'll get stuck... An almost bizarre paralysis it feels like. Thank you for posting this video years ago; At the least I can try another angle. 😁

[@ajs9613]

Sat crying at this. I’m dyslexic & clinically depressed & diagnosed with anxiety but since actually looking at myself, I’ve come to realise that I exhibit all symptoms of ADHD. It’s so hard to get a diagnosis here but this video made me break down in tears man. This resonated with me like nothing before. I’ve written all of this down. I’m determined to get my fucking life back.

[@hassanpatwary2884]

its ok. Have faith and work like a dog and read BOOKS ! Books changed my life, on ADHD and PTSD. Most importantly though NEVER EVER GIVE UP !!

[@hopesvt9288]

That last sentence resonates with me. We're rooting for you! 💗

[@rynaa-nj2vn]

I had exactly what you have. I changed jobs. Took some psychedelics once or twice. I now work nights.I use Stimulant medication. I am almost a fully functional member of society now. My depression is gone. It is possible to get your life back. I'm still dyslexic but Google helps a lot😅

[@laurawerner9158]

Hey man, what a story. My heart goes out to you. How are things going? Are you close to a diagnosis and have you found a prescribing doctor?

[@MZinHI]

It can be hard to find a doctor who is willing to diagnose and treat this condition. I was not diagnosed until I was 40. I had started looking for treatment 7 years before I was diagnosed, but the psychiatrist I first saw about it - the only psychiatrist my then-health insurance company covered - lead me to believe that I was within the range of normal. I wasn't. I just happened to be single, childless and exercising 2x a day when I visited with her. So I went about my life, still struggling some. Moved up in my career to management level roles, got married, had a baby...and stopped having time to exercise even 1x a day consistently. And my life started slowly falling apart. I tried again to get treatment, having a new PPO insurance plan, but actually getting the appointment took almost a year. Thank goodness I had gotten recommendations from family and friends about the best doctor to see about the condition and he diagnosed me in 1 visit. Medication isn't a silver bullet. (Honestly, exercising 2x a day was closer to a silver bullet.) But it helps! And so does having a name for the condition and the issues. So I can watch videos like this one, and know a few more changes I can implement to help myself cope. Keep looking for the doctor who can and will treat you! P.S. Besides exercise or stimulant meds, my D.O. psychiatrist let me know that Flax Seed Oil or Fish Oil 3 times a day can help. (D.O.s always wanna try the "natural" approach first. I am personally over the natural approach, but keep this info in my back pocket in case I ever run out of meds between appointments.)

[@bsferguson1]

🙌🏼🙌🏼SHOUT OUT TO EVERYONE WHO SCROLLS DOWN THE COMMENTS OR HAVE TO REWIND BACK THE VIDEO AT TIMES BECAUSE ~~~~

[@EddieBoes]

truth....

[@Lulu_de81]

Woah it feels like you saw me through me, Im litterally doing that what you said right now o-o

[@TobyCatlin]

I found myself checking reddit at about the 9 min mark. Exactly what he said about running down the tank in 10 mins.

[@Mrseanisawesomedude]

fuck im embaressed

[@daxu9605]

I paused.

[@lissakaye610]

This is amazing, thank you for the no BS, concise presentation. There are several things you covered that I never knew how to articulate. There are also many tools I am going to try from this. ❤

[@j.haulum2444]

These lectures are the most enlightening I have ever seen. At 71 years old I finally understand why my mama said go away to me more than anything thing else. I'm not a horrible person.

[@TheCatWrangler]

ADHD is so frustrating to have because no body believes you that you're trying your hardest. It feels like I'm always gaslighting myself. Like I'm told I'm just bad at organizing or bad at time management, but it's so much deeper than that. I just cant get out of my own way, it's the most frustrating thing and neurotypical people see it as laziness or stupidity when in fact most people with ADHD are brilliant. That's not the problem at all. It's the execution.

[@Damon242]

This is the most amazing information I’ve ever received on ADHD, 31 years of being called lazy and heckled despite giving it my all

[@utopia7841]

Your comment made me cry! Same here, but i wouldnt give up

[@johnlocke3481]

The doctor who invented ADHD said on his deathbed that it was a fictitious disease. You are a normal human.

[@owwwkinky]

Keep going sir 👏🏻

[@thecreamchi]

Do you work out five times at least a week?

[@DavidCardonaESM]

Same here, i'm 40 but at 35 i realized i wasn't lazy, i work 12 hours a day, but i get really easily distracted, when i realized i worked most than every body i know something clicked in my mind, "I AM A REALLY HARD WORKING PERSON", "I AM AN OREDERED PERSON" but i had something else i couldn't understand. I repeat to myself every week these 2 sentences and my self love has grown

[@ToniaForneaPeters-xc6vi]

This is the best explanation I have ever heard of my experience as an adhd person

[@johnfreund4456]

I’ve come to say that ADD is a misnomer. It’s not attention deficit disorder; it’s attention deluge disorder. I see and pay attention to everything, and it becomes very hard to filter and select. It’s given my creativity, an incredible breadth and depth, but it takes a very long time for me to produce. What’s amazing about stumbling across this video right now is that I have been repeatedly over the last few years trying to make accountability partners out of my kids. Unfortunately my ex and I are not a team when it comes to our children, and maybe that’s because we’re both ADD. And no surprise, so are our kids. And it manifests a little differently for all four of us. This video helped validate my approach, but it is the blind leading the blind. Very difficult to create a structure. What’s really frustrating is I actually CAN thread a plan of action for somebody else by watching them try to do something. The big irony of a ADHD is that we’re trying to be present and in a productive flow, but having to consciously leap outside ourselves and redirect all the time kind of works against the flow part.

[@theaugurschronicle2000]

We are great at seeing other people’s schtik, less so our own. Also the environment and family culture we grow up in is how we build our emotional toolkit and some people got stuck with flogging a dead horse in that regard. ime sometimes this pov you’re expressing *may* reflect a dynamic that’s about trying to manage emotions of overwhelm and rejection. Not to say that your attempts to creat strict are a bad thing, obvs you love your family and are trying to make things easier for everyone, but nd folks generally have heard ‘you’re not trying hard enough’ quite a lot; and you may find that turning your attention on yourself and looking at CBT strategies to manage your own emotional response to how it feels when you efforts to organise aren’t working (eg, things like rejection sensitivity, overwhelm) that might help a lot to take the emotional pressure out if the situation. Also, because different tools can help have a look at these worksheets and if they seem like something that has a different approach to the one you’ve been trying then talk to your fam about what they think about this and is it different livesinthebalance.org/cps-materials-paperwork/ and then also have a look at thinkkids.org pages for parents. Evidence based and great tools and skills.

[@johnfreund4456]

Noted. My kids are 16 and 20 at this point, so there’s a certain amount that they’re going to have to sort out - neither are on any medication, but even they were, learning to be more mindful can help mitigate, and that’s only works if the person decides to establish that practice and engage the right help. There’s no cure, just modalities. And everybody has to dance with it a little differently.

[@theaugurschronicle2000]

@johnfreund4456 Yeah, totally.. may still come in handy .. it informs how I grandparent and also now a lot of my own self talk mainly because of its plan c ‘only tackle a few problems at a time, shelve everything else’ which stops me feeling that sense of overwhelm from a laundry list of things. But all the feels on the teen years I wasn’t diagnosed until I was a grandma but I was still a nightmare teen. So you defs have my empathy. The main reason I take medication is that it helps a lot with the emotional dysregulation, I tend not to get RSD effects at all when I’m taking it. But I do think that learning CBT from a great psychologist has helped me enormously. And there are some great DIY CBT content creators on here too. Also mindfulness. I do a lot if guided meditation type stuff. It’s how I quit smoking and the effects of a good track that I can sink myself into give me about three or four hrs of the same calm the medication gives. Takes about an hour though. Steve g jones does a really good ‘healing green liquid’ track. but really as you say, everyone is different and what works for me might not work for everyone. These are just things that don’t cost money that have made the most difference to me I guess… things I would have loved to know about much sooner.

[@johnfreund4456]

100% on that. Diagnosed in my 50s. When I told some of my long-term friends, that I had been diagnosed, they replied in some form with good-natured sarcasm: “Really! You?!!!” Having a sense of humor about myself actually helped me. There is a disconnection from our autonomy that I think some of us feel, which often becomes the “I’m inept I’m lazy I suck” voice in our heads. The fact is, these thought patterns are part of our magic while they can also nail one foot to the floor. Being diagnosed allowed me to view the mental habits as part of me and not the whole. The self-effacing humor allowed me to turn that virtual 3rd-person perspective from critic to mentor, from self-effacing to self-soothing. …From “Lamont, ya big dummy!” to “John, you’re overthinking again”. Kinda CBT before I knew what that was!

[@theaugurschronicle2000]

@@johnfreund4456 Totally. I mean there is a part of me that feels a little less competent (ok, a lot) because I thought I really had all the things together but life was throwing too many curve balls at me. But I’m so glad now I understand that people who I thought were being mean to me weren’t.. I was just being easily distracted and neither of us knew why.. But what I found most interesting was how many people wanted to reassure me that I probably didn’t have it.. like it was a definite net zero to get a dx, like cancer or something. It was really hard to get through to a few people that this was a wonderful thing.. bittersweet because if grieving who I thought I was for a bit.. it does really pull the ground out from under you eh! But also I found my tribe. I just kinda fell in love with life and my kooky brain. Because from the very first moment a freind said “I think you should read this” it was all just me. My life. But it was all the things I’ve always loved about me., the hyper focus. The heartfelt feels. Being really good at puzzles..

[@bryanosbourne1781]

By the grace of Adderall combined with a highly caffenatied sport drink I was able to absorb 40% of this 13 minute presentation. And that 40% alone is life changing. "ADHD The diabetes of psychiatry.." 'An INTENTION deficit disorder not attention." " Make time external." "An executive function disorder not attention."

[@key2827]

Dude, your first paragraph if hilarious and painfully true. Thanks for mirroring how I feel.

[@NickanM]

I was diagnosed ten years ago, at age 39. Adderall has changed my life, I HAVE A LIFE now! I'm addicted to energy drinks so you are not alone....

[@blacktoothgriner]

Yes brain glucose

[@IsleNaK]

I stopped drinking coke a few years ago because of stomach issues. now I only drink plain water. I've been also hitting my coping limits the past 2 years to the point that I saw a doctor and got diagnosed. now you/he made me thinking.... is there a chance that coke helped me to function to a certain degree....?

[@backpropagated]

@@IsleNaK Caffeine causes an epinephrine response, and medications that are known to help adhd like Wellbutrin are designed to make your brain experience more epinephrine. Wellbutrin is definitely preferable though if you can get it because your brain will adjust to consistent use of caffeine and null it out, but wellbutrin is a reuptake inhibitor, which side steps that adjustment mechanism for the most part

[@70two]

Listening to Dr.Barkley tell me WHY I cant stand myself after 41 years is somehow comforting. I'm such a mess at this point in my life. No friends, relationships or any normal sign of a healthy lifestyle. i'm tired

[@Happy78704gal]

70two same here

[@dailyredapple]

“WHY I can’t stand myself” OOF, yes, I feel that with my soul

[@gabriellewhalley1328]

My friends are always upset with me being late and sometimes I dont want to socialize if my house is not tidy enough... and getting there... but give us some names of drugs then? I used to anti medical drugs before this video. ritalin has been compared to cocaine...

[@doney1996]

Smoke some 420 and rethink life. God.

[@doney1996]

Miracles do happen with your life changing.

[@suzannemorrow9987]

I am 63 . I just clicked on the wonderful man & lecture. I have struggled with this without treatment all my life. i did much of this on my own coping and raising my children on my own.... I have had a very tough life. Still do. I will bring this post with me now. to any medical appointment or situations where i need to explain ...Me . thank you

[@gravity00x]

bless you and your phrnomenal strenght. raising children on top of it, i cannot imagine your struggle, but I sure do hope that the people around you recognise what an incredibly strong person you are.

[@samo917]

Years of studying to no avail, no one believing you when you say can't work. Meditation retreats, leaving the internet, psychotherapy for depression, daily meditation, scheduling, goal setting. Years of time lost. Finally, understanding its not your moral shortcoming, but an undiagnosed issue that other people simply don't deal with is a bittersweet understanding. Its just so sad to know so many will go through their lives with no diagnosis.

[@omdraws7325]

If only people understood the insurmountable daily struggles of having adhd. (Myself included.) So exhausted from no sleep, no break from thinking, and never being able to sustain focus. Lots to give. No way to give it. Zero self pity just a dwindling loss of hope and optimism after four decades of consistent inconsistencies. Humour is the last thing to go, eh. My sincere empathy for all you fellow adhders out there in the foggy ether of hyper neuro ville. I for one would relish a simple, stable life where I could wholeheartedly apply my passion and skills. In the meantime, I'll pen a youtoob miniature violin concerto comment. Impulses ahoy!

[@ericmoresea6461]

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[@phatmattd]

And then delete the draft 10 minutes into writing 3 paragraphs because who thinks this rant is adding anything to the conversation...

[@b00gyman1]

@@phatmattd when in fact it gives quite a lot

[@b00gyman1]

@Danielle W. I don't know what kind of ADD you have but if my mind is not stimulated when I want to fall asleep, it's close to impossible if I'm not already very tired, and even then I put like a old episode from a series that I like to run in the backgound for the noise, it's smooth falling asleep after. And I read some other peoples comments doing the same thing so it's not just me.

[@Dani-ef3cf]

Danielle W. 💯understand exactly what you're saying and where you're coming from, I can also tell you, some of us, our minds don't stop thinking 💭 unless they are at the point of almost a physical exhaustion. And I think 🤔 that's what the other comment [ (edit) @Om Draws!] was about. I decided to learn Chinese, one of the most difficult languages, just so my brain 🧠 would stop thinking 💭. Or maybe it was as a test, if my brain would stop thinking💭 Lol 😆 It didn't🙄 I actually learned Mandarin 😆🙄So now the challenge is learning to read and write it😁😉