this tiktok shopping account claims to be in recovery while still trying to sell you stuff

[@shawnaripari]

Hi everyone! It has come to my attention that this creator has updated their bio and removed the recovering shopaholic component. This was a big part of my issue with the channel, and it has now been resolved.

[@middawnfox]

As someone who used to be more involved in online ED spaces, fake "recovery" accounts are absolute poison.

[@spacebird107]

@@middawnfox yuuup, this is exactly what came to my mind when I saw this video in my recommended.

[@aspengreen4319]

Yes! I think some of these people know they’re not recovering, but just put it so they get less hate.

[@unholierthanthou7748]

Yeppp, there so many fake recovery accounts that use the fact they're "recocering" as a sheild from criticism while they use their content to hurt themselves and their followers

[@ThoughtsonThoughtsandFeelings]

@@middawnfox yes! This is what I thought of immediately. Brittany Dawn specifically did some real damage on this point.

[@designereyebags]

twitter is especially rife with that now

[@beanybean000]

im so glad someone is finally calling her out, I've been wanting to block her for so long but it's like a car crash i can't look away from

[@shawnaripari]

I truly hope that if she is struggling with addiction she gets help

[@emileeshay5823]

I had to block her. Watching her videos made me both feel grossed out and want to shop. I hate how wasteful she is with things.

[@KeryKatto]

@@beanybean000 I've blocked her in the past and tiktok would keep showing her to me. I used to have a shopping addiction so seeing her content would always make me upset because she said she was recovering and the comments were always making excuses for her! "Oh she only bought 1 video worths of stuff instead of 2" like? 😭

[@JstAnothrGrl24]

as soon as i saw the title of this video i KNEW it was her

[@CrackPipe]

also been seeing her for a long time! got sucked into a rabbit hole and way back she admitted she is deep in credit card debt and thats why she has been selling stuff from her closet on poshmark(?) - stuff that viewers have seen her purchase only a few months prior, and then you would see her make purchases the next day and justify it by saying "she decluttered" (selling her unwanted items to her viewers..) I'm not sure if she still posts about decluttering and selling stuff but she was a while back!

[@chrischris7003]

"She talked about getting a couch for her candy corn pillows..." I'm sorry but that line was so funny to me 😅

[@Ractpier]

I came to comment the same thing.......

[@andreacmcp2014]

It's funny because she barely has space for all that stuff.

[@aidanwarren4980]

I've never seen someone who owns so much crap and yet seems to have so little.

[@user-ds3ow7cy6m]

@@aidanwarren4980 for realll, where does she put all of it?!

[@imissnickplur4964]

i used to buy handmade doll outfits, there were a few makers i favored & i would buy tons of their items, but i didnt even have any dolls that they fit. so i started buying the dolls that the were sewn for... so, i was totally vibin' w/that sentiment when she said that she needed to buy a couch for all of her pillows. --i made a few jokes to myself watching this, but then i snapped out of it and thought, this aint funny B, look what you've (myself) done, it's disasterous & sad, there's nothing humorous in this mess you've created. im ashamed of all that buying i did, now ive got four large sheds full of doll stuff & vintage home decor. of course the house if full. ...and now im over 50, no real relationships, no friends, no spaace to take in any family if they needed a place to stay. it's a mess. plus, our older house needs home repairs & i have to sell in order to afford the work. i've mostly decluttered the common areas of the house & that feels better, but im totally overwhelmed at the thought of having to sell all of this by myself & going in the rooms with all the boxes fill me with shame & regret. i didnt know there was all of that various content out there that this video maker mention. maybe w/enough research i can find someone to help me.

[@aidanwarren4980]

She "held out" until those crappy ghost pillows only cost $25! What a steal!

[@callalilly4743]

@@aidanwarren4980 💀

[@AllisonKozik]

As someone who is *actually* a recovering shopping addict this kind of behavior is so insulting. I have lost important relationships as a result of my behavior around my shopping addiction…like any other struggling addict would. Imagine she claimed to be in recovery of alcoholism and documented herself going to bar after bar after club after club documenting all her drinking and promoting it to other struggling addicts. This is insanity.

[@2headed]

Ooooh but you can’t leave an affiliate link to a club or bar.

[@faristasairuv5143]

Good luck on your recovery! I’m proud of you and your efforts, and you should be proud of yourself too!

[@ameliepare6062]

your self awareness is a great step. wishing you a good recovery

[@nico9544]

So ur insulted by someone clearly struggling with their addiction with no real stopping force? Insane

[@caroleigh3461]

@@nico9544 no, i believe they’re insulted because it seems as though the person in the video is making a mockery of recovery. they don’t actually want to recover, and they’re only using that word to get more traction and make more money to fuel their addiction.

[@b.6826]

The rack of blankets in her room is CRAZY! Why would anyone need that many blankets? And most of them looked the same!

[@natalies.8016]

I bought 4 hello kitty blankets last month (i use Halloween decor all year and haven't bought a new blanket in 2 years) and now trying to resell 2 of them because i felt like that was way too much. So the amount of anxiety her collection gives me is insane 😖

[@stephanieweeks3489]

@@b.6826 the rack of blankets is great!! For a department store or a family of 10 🤣

[@disgruntledmoderate5331]

I admit, I have a lot of blankets, but I didn't buy any of them. They were all made for me or bought and then gifted to me (because everyone knows I love to snuggle under blankets all winter long and protect my legs from cat claws in the summer).

[@ArianAlbert]

The amout of blankets on the rack makes sense to me as someone who loves blankets. Having a CLOSET OF BLANKETS is way too much my walet just got phantom pain when I saw it😂

[@jaydenhalverson2410]

@@ArianAlbertno fr and each of them I bet where atleast 25 - 50$ lemme go count it and do the math rq 😭😭 prolly a whole band or two at least

[@PileofAshes53]

Haha! I just remembered the “Shameless” series episode where in order to attract more alcoholics into a bar that was financially struggling, they sent a “decoy” into an AA meeting. And this person proceeded to talk up alcohol in the most graphic way possible. All the AA attendants ended up at that bar, drinking.

[@stephanied6711]

I remember that episode

[@Pearlsandchampagne]

I remember lol

[@BuggyPop47]

Sad. Depraved. I wish they could be in jail

[@elwooddows2218]

​@lowrodrigo47 luckily, shameless is a fictional show.

[@elwooddows2218]

​@@BuggyPop47also... there's so much jail time in shameless anyways

[@itskindofemily]

Buy a pillow for your couch, not a couch for your pillow 😂

[@vegababy]

@@itskindofemily 😭🤣🤣🤣

[@mselectrica5]

Not just any pillow, a candy corn pillow!

[@cwalsh4992]

'I'm not promoting over consumption, I'm just showing you what I bought...' The way she speaks about her no buy and then breaking it. She is fooling herself first and foremost, let alone anyone who chooses to watch her. I sincerely hope she gets the help she clearly needs.

[@emileeshay5823]

I also don’t like that she shops to declutter then has to shop to fill her space back up. Seeing the extremism depending on which way she is currently leaning is hard to watch

[@chicade5449]

Being in shopping addiction recovery but still following other shopping accounts is like a drug addict having their dealer as their best friend- of course you're gonna be tempted to relapse when you're still surrounding yourself with the stuff. If the accounts you are following on social media make you feel bad about yourself or pressured to spend money you should unfollow them, at least temporarily until you are at a more financially and/or emotionally stable point in your life. This goes for her and for anyone who feels tempted to over-consume because of her content.

[@shawnaripari]

@@chicade5449 definitely agree with this!

[@vvitch-mist20]

Tbh it sounds like she's an addict justifying her relapse. A lot of addicts who end up falling back into it always have this "oh well-" kind of attitude. This isn't to admonish her or anything since recovery is difficult, but like I hope she gets help.

[@cassiemeyer1164]

as a self-described minimalist with zero overconsumption and shopping urges, the statement that she was talking about “buying a mini couch for her candy corn pillows” left me REELING!!!!!

[@marinaramalho]

That one had me shocked.

[@cassandraknight8804]

For me it was seeing all those blankets on that rack, it looks like a shop.😢

[@Fnugilet]

@@cassiemeyer1164 I am in recovery from being a hoarder/ocd and what that woman is showing ain't it. Just throwing my old wallet out when I got a knew one was hard, and the same with my purse. It's an everyday struggle and the urge to buy something knew to fill up the empty spaces is always there. 😥

[@faristasairuv5143]

Eyy I’m trying to be minimalist too!

[@nicestpancake]

@@Fnugilet I have to move out sometime within the next year, and I know I have to get rid of all of the stuff I kept from middle school, but man. It's so hard. Having to figure out 'does this actually bring me joy, do I WANT this, will I ever LOOK for this?' are such heartbreaking questions to ask.

[@notesdecoeur]

Not to be dramatic, but your channel has likely single-handedly protected financial security of the older, more physically and financially vulnerable future self, and she and I thank you so deeply for that

[@shawnaripari]

wow, I am truly honoured to have had such a positive impact.

[@PurpleDuck86]

"I'm not promoting over-consumption"....I'm just showing you the 7 blankets I bought to add to my ENTIRE CLOSET OF BLANKETS

[@crazyibel]

I was gobsmacked when she told us what she learned from her 'no-buy'. in the two weeks she didn't shop (excuse me, 15 days) she learned that if you don't immediately buy a trend but wait until it's out of fashion and you still want it it's meant to be... ma'am you waited 15 days at the absolute most, if something is out of style in two weeks you don't need it. I would say, if you want something but you don't absolutely need it wait for 6 months and see if you still want it then you might consider if this is something that fits in your life. but remember, you can absolutely love something and not buy it. I love everything art deco and I absolutely enjoy seeing original pieces, but that doesn't mean I take it all home. I can enjoy it the moment I see it in the thriftstore and imagine how it looked in someone else's interior and how it will look in the next person's interior and how they will love it. I won't buy it because I already have the furniture I need. it's the same with new stuff, I admire it, maybe take a screenshot for future enjoyment or if my house burns down and all of the sudden that item fits perfectly in my new house.... (I truly hope that will never happen) btw I think she noticed her views were 'suffering' and started to shop to keep the followers while also keep the clout from the no shop.

[@henriette2446]

I love taking pictures of things I want to buy, it helps me a lot because I can look at it, admire it and then go about my day. I have a pic of a pink dinosaur pumpkin that I really loved but didn't need so I took a pic. My favorite art piece was part of a Dr Martens collection but the collection was expensive and not vegan so I decided against it because I would've bought these shoes just to display them so I decided to maybe get a poster of them instead (which I didn't do in the end but I could, if I wanted to and some day I maybe will)

[@crazyibel]

@henriette2446 that would be so cool! I can imagine an art project wall, just pictures of random cool stuff in old picture frames and in the middle a beautiful drawing or picture of a shoe. I love a lifetime art piece, something that's build up over a life time, it can be a book full of cool stuff or a wall. a book full of pictures of random cool stuff I have seen throughout my life. it's in the middle of the night so excuse my ramblings 🤭

[@emileeshay5823]

And when she did break this “no buy”, she even said during the haul that she didn’t know why she bought this and would be returning that, so it certainly wasn’t a real want or something she pined after. It was just poor self control and I think when it comes to this level of over consumption you’re creating unrealistic living and single handedly creating so much waste

[@Fnugilet]

Oh my. I thought I was the only "crazy" person who took pictures of things that I wanted but didn't buy 😍🥰

[@alenemarie1726]

@@crazyibel I love window shopping for cute earrings and I really appreciate the artisans and craft people who make these earrings, but I haven’t changed my earrings in a year! I know I’ll never wear the earrings but I still loveeee looking at them

[@xalbatross1]

I never felt emptier than when I was buying and keeping and never letting go of anything and everything. I was surrounded by things but felt like a an empty shell of a person.

[@Fnugilet]

I am there now 💔 I began my decluttering journey two years ago, and I hope that when I am finally done I will feel more whole and less empty ❤

[@actuallyfrankie]

I needed to read this. I have so much clutter. I'm tired but don't know how to get out.

[@ms_needle]

Addiction of any kind is often a coping mechanism/attempt to fill that said emptyness and hole u carry around. First id recommend get ppl around you that will hold you accountable and second give Jesus a try and i mean it man he heals that wound and hole in every heart ❤ nothin is impossible if you put your trust in him. And also find out the hurt or trauma or pain that might lay beneath the compulsive behavior it will make it easier to de construct the problem into smaller pieces and understand your brain a bit more. All the best to everyone here in this comment section & much love

[@michaela5002]

It doesn’t help that the places she goes to promote literal FOMO. Burlington, TJ Maxx, Marshals, and Ross would have so mushy trendy stuff but sometimes limited quantities so if you don’t get it then you might not get unless for resale prices.

[@shawnaripari]

This is a great point that the kind of store you shop at can promote/trigger FOMO

[@XDominiqueXFranconX]

Those are all stores I’ve been addicted to as a shopaholic pursuing recovery. ❤️‍🩹 Fortunately, her taste is vastly different from mine, so none of the items she was showing tempted me, but the whole situation is still a huge yikes.

[@sungexpression9093]

Exactly they get stock in daily so it can be easy to add it to your routine

[@ScootersArtDiary]

I’m autistic and have a really hard time not buying things related to my special interests such as dolls, monkeys and sanrio. I’m actively trying to think about if I actually want the product or if I just like that it’s related and surprisingly seeing how much hello kitty things she had just made me more determined. I don’t want my room to be so cluttered with things that I don’t or barely ever use

[@hollieb6257]

It's sooo hard, especially with sanrio being everywhere at the moment. I also feel the fomo that if the hello kitty trend dies down it will be harder to find other characters again

[@natalies.8016]

THIS. I went shopping one time and got HK fuzzy socks, a couple blankets, a ceramic, and the 3 new sanrio build a bears. And now ive cut myself off because ive already bought plenty. I dont allow myself to go to TJ Maxx anymore because i know I'll buy something.

[@ArianAlbert]

Im AUDHD and those collecting urges mixed with poor impulse control and hobby hopping is dangerous. I just want to complete the set but I live in a world with never ending series of things from manufacturers

[@lilgorgo]

I get it! I try to curb impulses by leaning into my strong desire for justice by refusing to allow corporations to convince me I need to participate in overconsumption!

[@person-iw8qj]

@@ScootersArtDiary MONKEYS IS MY SPECIAL INTEREST 😭

[@YurinanAcquiline]

Plot twist: She used to buy ten times this amount and this is her recovered.

[@faristasairuv5143]

Jesus

[@haileyosaurus]

Yes! I’ve watched her for sometime and it is frustrating to see, but she does discuss how much of a problem it is. She has become more self-aware and does work on it, but she’s very honest about how hard it is for her.

[@LegalVampire]

@@YurinanAcquiline Even if that is the case, it's irresponsible of her to still put out haul videos when her followers may consist of people who aspire to recover 😔 It's not helpful for them at all

[@erininpink]

I tried too watch her few videos on "decluttering" her purses but she really didn't get rid of stuff and mostly just showed off bags so I lost interest...

[@smolshay]

I watched a video where a lady "decluttered" a cupboard in her kitchen filled with Stanley's and other cups. She got rid of maybe 3 Stanley's and a bunch of other cups but the cupboard was still BURSTING. And like, I have a bunch of coffee mugs themed after Halloween & Fall because my Husband & I use them every day, so we're not always washing dishes. But it's one shelf in a half cupboard compared to this lady who had an entire double cupboard where EVERY SHELF had Stanley's and reusable cups on it. And she barely decluttered, she basically had enough reusable travel mugs/Stanley's to outfit a soccer team left at the end!

[@skullsandunicorn]

​@smolshay that's what's so frustrating with the misleading declutering titles. I want to see someone truly go through the selected area and truly clean it up and declutter. A real clean up, even if in a couple parts. That's what helps motivate me to clean my own space

[@deltasaves]

She needs to seek professional help. I really dont think she stopped buying during that break, i think she just didnt show anything she got

[@singingfan]

She keeps calling herself a “shopping account”. There ya go. She’s shopping. I don’t believe for one millisecond she thinks she has a problem.

[@ScarlettKay494]

Right? If you were ACTUALLY recovering from a shopping addiction, you would not continue on with all this shopping content.

[@alisonsmith7162]

Melanie, of A Hoarders Heart is awesome. She, over a period of 5 years, has gone from a level 4 hoarder, to a level 1. She is definitely a great role model, and has therapy too, to understand how the hoarding behaviours started, got reinforced, and can be overcome.

[@scout8145]

@@alisonsmith7162 Yes! I recommend her too! I find her content extra helpful for me, because I tend to be the type of hoarder who can’t let go of existing items I don’t need, rather than an excessive shopping hoarder. But I can absolutely see how these are two sides of the same disorder, and many people likely have both

[@MCgrinseprinzessin]

Okay i am not sure if you will come to this point (am only halfway through the video) but the main problem for me is the following: when I see this video and see the masses she bought I get the feeling of: oh my own problem isn't so big. If I would buy 2 items more than I planned it will still be not as bad as this. And I think this is a horrible thought that's put in my brain with watching this 😮

[@shawnaripari]

@@MCgrinseprinzessin I didn't mention this, but I can definitely see your point!

[@alexamandes8872]

Exactly what I was thinking and just commented myself!

[@RowletGod69]

“Recovering Shopaholic” while enabling recovering shopaholics to relapse… this account is fucked up yikes

[@shawnaripari]

yes, it's the promotion of the exact kind of behaviour a recovering addict would typically be against, or showcasing enabling behaviour.

[@oliverose1530]

reminds me of ED recovery accounts that still do weigh-ins & body checks honestly yiiikes

[@racheljarvis3623]

​@@shawnaripari This, but I think this gives insight to a bigger problem we as a society have. "I'm not promoting overconsumption," while excitedly filming hauls as if the disclaimer is enough feels like half baked accountablity. It's the same vein as "I meant it as a joke," is used to smooth over bullying, harassment and slurs. As if saying the right thing alone is taking accountability and grants immunity.

[@racheljarvis3623]

It also reads as an opening for blame-shifting. "It was a joke," so if saying that is taking accountability, then any residual hurt or hurt that occurs if I do the same thing again, is on the other person. If she says, "I am not promoting overconsumption yada yada ya," then if watching her video makes viewers relapse/spiral, it's their own fault.

[@TurtledoveASMR]

I haven’t finished the video yet, I’m at 5:26 so I’m sorry if this gets touched on but- I feel like her entire account is designed for masking the fact she’s a reseller. I’m not sure it started off that way but she buys so she can “declutter” and it all gets sold and then the cycle repeats but it almost feels intentional. I almost wonder if it’s all been an elaborate scheme lol

[@grapeskitlls]

@@TurtledoveASMR I would think that except she has very little control over her life and isn’t that savvy.

[@jmeg7412]

I am loving Financial Audit with Caleb Hammer. It’s repetitive, but I need that. I’m bipolar and adhd, when I’m manic, I spend money on wild shit I still don’t use to this day. Financial Audit makes me feel not alone and gave me the kick in the ass I needed because I “don’t want to die on the Wal-Mart floor”. Between my therapist, meds, and Financial Audit, I put much more into my retirement accounts. I’m almost completely out of bad debt, but I still slip up from time to time. Also working on my emergency fund. Learning more about finances and investing, has helped me little by little with my shopping issues. Then one day after Financial Audit, one of your videos popped up for me! I love it here. Good luck to everyone on this journey with me! You got this!

[@Greeneyedgeny7]

I myself have a little shopping problem specially with clothes but her collection of stuffed animals and decor gives me anxiety

[@gwenmph]

I think I would be triggered by all the bags she’s buying, but honestly as you pointed out the excessive decor gives me hella anxiety. WHERE DOES SHE PUT ALL OF IT!

[@louise3953]

@@gwenmph this is what I’m wondering about! Like she’s got to have a room where stuff is just thrown in or something

[@SeonasStudio]

I can't imagine a more shallow existence than this honestly. So much waste. wasted money, wasted space, wasted time and ultimately landfill waste. Just so much plastic.

[@SloanePaoPow]

This feels like if someone had an account claiming to be a recovering alcoholic filming their pub crawls while reviewing drinks....make it make sense!!! 🤦‍♀️

[@ms6760]

00:46 This is wild. 😳 Looking at so much stuff makes me anxious.

[@greasyykhaleesi]

same! so overwhelming!

[@cwalsh4992]

Same! I'm overwhelmed looking at it, how is she not?!

[@lli457]

its soo overwhelming, I cannot.

[@aw6356]

Same! I feel stressed, it’s so off putting. Who has space for it, it so MUCH even just in quantity!

[@greensheen8759]

For real! How the fuck do you keep so much junk clean?

[@bekahk605]

Im currently on a 'no yarn buy' for a couple months 😅 I love to knit and crochet, and I've apparently bought a lot of yarn (at least 2 giant cardboard boxes worth of yarn) that I haven't used so Im consciously not buying anymore but instead finding ways to use it up!

[@citronGXB]

Same position here! I'm not sure what sort of projects you prefer doing, but I keep finding that blankets have been my most effective stash busting works so far. 😅 I feel like it gives you a great idea of how often you actually use certain colors or weights.

[@bekahk605]

@citronGXB I currently love making crochet play food that can I give to families with young kids to use or crochet some hats, headbands, mitts, bags, etc. to give as gifts to my friends!

[@citronGXB]

​@@bekahk605❤️ I think that's fantastic! Keep it up, I hope you're able to drain your stash to something more manageable in time!

[@marinaramalho]

That's me with fabric and patterns! I am not allowed to get anymore until I make a dent on my stash...

[@ARareAndDifferentTune_13]

@@bekahk605that is so cute!

[@Rin-mf4bf]

I remember coming across her videos and thinking, oh that's so cool I wonder how far she's gotten, then almost nothing has changed. I saw her in 2021 and now 2024.

[@faithmarlow2295]

Hi Shawna! just wanted to say i’ve loved your videos recently & the in-depth conversation. i’ve definitely fell into the hole of watching tiktoks and losing my attention span, so your slower paced & insightful style isn’t only interesting but has really helped me keep interest in something again!! love your account!

[@i2agirls]

I second this!

[@TenaciousP]

Can’t remember who said this but you never see a uhaul trailer behind a hearse.

[@lauraann7816]

That's a good one too. My husband says you don't see an armored car following a hearse for people who are afraid to spend any money. Not over spend or over consume just like people with enough money to live well using a tea bag twice.

[@belindagritter1572]

The shopper knows exactly what she is doing. She is a shopping account - her purpose is to get people to shop. There are a lot of shopping accounts out there so how does she get attention drawn to her account? By preying on the weak who are clicking on this video for help and in fact are tricked into going back into their old ways. Let's not be fooled here. You are way too generous with the person. This is not recovery language, it is enabling language.. If you listen to her words she tells you she is a shopping account and that's her purpose. To lure in the ones who are working so hard to break that addiction is cruel. She is not on a recovery journey, she, like all other youtubers, is after the views. She has just increased her viewing base. That's all there is too it. She is not attempting to help anyone but herself - she wants others to join her in overconsumption, she's making it look attractive. Do not cut her any slack because she said she was in recovery from shopping. It's all a joke to her.

[@Mxrtal_Destructixn]

One of my biggest issues with her is that rather than donate anything she doesn't use (aka products in prime condition to be donated) she chooses to resell them, furthering others and her own shopping addiction. If she were to donate the items it could encourage her and her audience to cut back on their spending because they aren't making any profit back by donating (plus it helps the needy ofc) and it also helps in controlling overindulgence. Rather than glaze over the over shopping she could encourage her viewers to donate anything they bought and haven't/rarely used yet she chooses NOT to even bring that up in her videos.

[@carris2scents57]

O M G!! I saw something in Target the other day and it made me think of your channel!!! Ok there was a girl maybe 19 or 20 recording her putting stuff in her buggy.. I saw her near the clothes first then again over by the Fall stuff I didn’t think about it again until my daughter said look Everything in this buggy is pink. I looked and I would bet $100bucks that had been her buggy!! She just left it😮😂 There was so much! What I remember was Lotion, body washes, a sweater, some Halloween decorations, candy, Blankets,Socks, PJs, school/office supplies and canned drinks ALL PINK!!! 🤣 I felt bad for the employee who had to put it all back.

[@StaticCling99]

I guess since the employee is paid by the hour, it isn't as bad as it could be, but still a super inconsiderate way to promote overspending without putting themselves into personal debt. At least put it back!

[@dreampigeon333]

Watching this video as I start to declutter as a recovering shopping addict and its so interesting how her content is simultaneously giving me the itch to shop but also making me SO overwhelmed and stressed! The overwhelming amount of just STUFF i have even after having been slowly decluttering for over a year is my motivation to stop. Your videos and these concious and thoughtful view points are so refreshing when I feel like all I see is just more more more! Your videos have been helping me so much. Thank you for your content.

[@MCognettaable]

Same! I have started to realize over the last couple of years is how I have a problem, it just looks so different than the typical shopaholic hoarder…I would say I’m more akin to like a binge drinker va an alcoholic 🤦🏻‍♀️ I started to massively declutter 4 years ago and I noticed I (somehow) just bring it all back in 🙄 these pages have been helping me because a huge part of my relapse is even 4-5 years ago this content wasn’t out there and it has harmed me falling back into this bad habit because it’s almost like it’s been normalized.

[@t0bikk039]

I’m so glad you ended up covering her! When I think of overconsumption and shopping addiction, I always think of Brooke’s account 😅

[@amandamarks8360]

You’re actually my favorite “stop shopping” account. Listening to someone who has been there and struggled is so refreshing. 32:28

[@kellimshaver]

Your videos have stopped me from making a lot of small frivilous purchases. I wouldn't consider myself a shopping addict by any means, but I've generally been an "if I want it, I buy it" person - I just have modest wants. This still leads to frequently spending $10 here, $20 there though and it adds up. Just this morning, I was about to order an organizer off of Amazon for some things in my kitchen, but then I thought about your recent videos and that made me stop and ask myself what was the goal I was really trying to accomplish. Then I found a solution using items I already have around the house. I think I'll give this "no buy" thing a try for September. I'll refill consumables that run out (e.g. my one bottle of face wash is almost gone) or essentials that break, and I'll use the Audible credits I have in my account that were already purchased. Apart from that, I'll see about making it through the month without unnecessary spending. I'm curious how much of an impact it will make. My current hypothesis is that the noticeable impact it will have on my life is that there will be more money in my bank account.

[@kayleemitchell8071]

Oh my gosh…. This was infuriating! I just wanted to slap her hands every time she reached for an item. “I don’t see it as I didn’t last 30 days, I see it as I decided to end it after 15 days.” Girl be quiet! Then there are the people who physically avoiding stores like TJ MAXX and here she is recording herself shopping . Ughh

[@jjellyfishjjam11]

Another thing about her shopping habits is the amount of low quality garbage she accumulates. She spends thousands of dollars a week on dropped shipped garbage quality SHEIN/temu stuff as well as random “microtrend” discount store decor that goes out of style in a matter of weeks. With this amount of money she could at least invest in higher quality products or spend more on lifestyle comforts or even save for large things in the future like a house. It’s all so bizarre to me. Where does she keep this massive accumulation of items??

[@theactualegg]

I’ve been WAITING for you to cover Brooke! She needs some sort of professional intervention for sure

[@spinstercatlady]

I'm sorry, but when I see that bedroom all I see is piles of CHEAPLY MADE PLASTIC JUNK that's going to be so non trendy in a few years. When she gets tired of the Hello Kitty/kawaii style (as many folks will as they get older and their tastes change), what's going to happen to all that stuff? Why not invest in some well made pieces of decor (or better yet, check secondhand for beautiful vintage items), since she's already spending the money (assuming she's not going into debt, which would be a whole other story)? There's just SO much of the same type of item. How many pinky throw blankets, pillows and purses can one person realistically use? Just seems like a massively overfilled yet incredibly empty life, imho.

[@coquelicot9455]

Yep she's buying a whole lot of crap and she seems a shopping addict to me, she just doesn't look like someone who is trying to recover 🤷‍♀️

[@HalicanDrops]

I think it's a little unfair to say her tastes are going to change in terms of things being pink and cute/girly and that that's the issue. Many adults love that stuff into their adult life, and the aesthetic of the things she is buying isn't the problem. The problem is the sheer amount of things she is buying and needing to follow trends. She can like cute pink hello kitty stuff and not buy every single thing that fits into that category.

[@coolchameleon21]

@@HalicanDropscame here to say the same thing. it really bugs me when women put down other women for liking cutesy things or call them “juvenile” or whatever. like you’re not better than anyone just because you prefer beige decor over pink decor…

[@vitamins00]

@@coolchameleon21 I really don't think that was the point OP made...

[@coolchameleon21]

@@vitamins00 well it’s written in the comment, so what am i missing?

[@AKbaby89]

1:22 This isnt even pleasureable or desirable. Im stressed tf out and im not even 90 seconds in. How tf do ppl watch these and want that?! The clutter is giving me INSANE anxiety just seeing it, and her adding to the clutter isnt helping. Wtf how do people enjoy this?!

[@gwenmph]

The amount of space her stuff is taking in up on the floor in that huge bedroom is giving me anxiety just looking at it.

[@valentinamendes3791]

Your ability to dissect and convey your thoughts on these matters is a delight, Shawna. Your slower paste is also a breath of fresh air, and I'm always thrilled to hear your opinions.

[@BuyLessJess]

The best no buy videos for me have been finance channels. I can either shop like I am wealthy or retire with dignity but not both. I read a book that said beyond your true needs, savings is the difference between income and ego (income - ego = savings); that really stayed with me.

[@cal6137]

I cannot imagine having to move all of that stuff 😭 these people often at least own houses, vs a large majority of people who go into debt on shopping sprees and then have to also move all of the stuff if they are renting and changing apartments. it's a spiral

[@MichaelDavis-mh8bb]

Imagine joining a support group, for, literally anything and then the next week you go to the support group it’s filled to the brim with the stuff you’re trying to seek help for…. And everyone around is indulging so it makes it that much harder to not partake. Thats exactly what she’s doing

[@Yabbagabbagool]

I remember seeing a video of Brooke's where her (very young) daughter was with her while shopping and she asked Brooke what the maintenance worker was doing with some ceiling light fixtures. Like, the kid was genuinely curious about what this dude is up to but Brooke has her bloody consumer tunnel vision on and just kind of brushes off her daughter's interest in the world around her with some vacant response. Anyway, I said all that to say I hope Brooke can find a focus other than buying the same 10 nasty synthetic blankets over and over again because it will absolutely end up affecting her daughter's development and that's really sad.

[@bubblecalf]

For me the hardest part getting over my impulsive buying and hoarding problems was getting over the fact that I lost that money, I would keep things simply because I felt guilty from impulse buying it which lead to me hoarding stuff I didn’t want- but I learned there is no point keeping something when it makes you feel bad and you can’t go back in time to fix that error, you can only move forward, you just need to learn from it. You may relapse but it won’t be as bad as before and each time you learn something better and new from it

[@MCognettaable]

I got rid of sooo much and ended up bringing it all back in somehow🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s really a problem..and ppl that claim they never need or miss or want any of the things they purged are lying…it’s almost like the regret I have felt several times for items I got rid of, had a weird boomerang effect of me holding more tight to things now than before 🙄 I dunno i probably need therapy lol

[@londonh1800]

She also mentioned reselling items… To make a profit by buying and reselling trendy items like hello kitty seasonal items to an audience who most likely struggle with shopping addictions.

[@amandacahill6385]

I can imagine if she even has credit cards -- which I'm sure she does -- the bank is probably shaking to their core with every purchase she makes.

[@2headed]

If the bank is collecting interest from those credit cards I’m sure they don’t care.

[@singingfan]

@@2headedif she’s able to pay it. The CC companies actually do take a punch from people unable to pay and declaring bankruptcy.

[@emileeshay5823]

There was a moment in time, maybe a year ago, that she was talking about paying off her debt so she was selling and decluttering, and once it was over, the excessive shopping started again

[@elizabethread1674]

She doesn’t regret this shopping trip. She isn’t ready for recovery. So hard to watch. I agree that she is being irresponsible to her audience. She is well aware who would be guided to her channel. New sub from 🇨🇦

[@HanneMary]

I’m actually glad I don’t have any access to my Amazon account. Because I don’t have the access to physical stores and it was just more convenient. I’m nursing myself of buying stuff or at least buy 80% second hand. All this stuff. “I’m not promoting overconsumption?”yes my dude you do. I’m pretty sure the whole need to match my sheets to my nails or needing to decorate for every of the 15 seasons isn’t just your problem and you’re not keeping around for next year.

[@aw6356]

Rooting for you! 👏

[@AngelGarcia-tb4ux]

The fact that she needed to buy a whole couch for all her new pillows😭 right next to her rack of blankets

[@racheljames9187]

My favourite conscious consumption channels are Conscious Consumerism, Joshua Becker, Louise Wears, Simple Happy Zen, Lara Likes Mascara, Leena Norms, Cara Nicole, The Financial Diet and Grace Nevitt (I follow a bunch of low waste channels as well, but they're more sustainable consumption and thrifting rather than not spending)

[@felixfeelstherock]

the way I KNEW who this was going to be about before even clicking the video

[@msfaye026]

She has a rack with NEW BLANKETS like they are in a store! 11:53

[@eric6cartman9]

this is random asf but I got too high and this video strangely calmed me down

[@Marxnchill]

lol 9/10 times I walk out of tj maxx with nothing. It’s all so tacky. I don’t understand how people can go in there and think it’s valuable stuff 😂

[@TempestPhaedra]

For me it’s the other customers. I enjoy a good browse, but the customers in those stores are so rude and oblivious, I get angry and leave.

[@SuperFoxdemon]

I’ve seen shopping accounts that don’t actually buy anything. They just go to the store, point out what’s new, what they like, what’s viral or whatever, and they just leave the store without getting anything or just getting the essential things they came in for. She can still have a shopping channel without over consuming. It’s possible. She doesn’t have to stop doing what she enjoys.

[@LoremLipsumz]

I think for her it’s about taking it home and surrounding herself with it. It’s just hoarding. She’s making money for sure but I doubt she’s saving any.

[@SleeplessBeauty_Alexandra]

I agree - I just watched a couple of Target shorts with young women buying a very reasonable amount of toiletries that they had run out of (ok, and one or two treats), but they talked about other products too. I don't think I'll watch many more of those cos to me it gets boring, and it still promotes consumption in my opinion, but I found it very interesting because until I saw these videos all the others I had seen were hauls, 'reviews', collections, shopping recommendations etc.

[@kiljiun9715]

I never really saw the appeal in these hauls and I always find it gross over consumption. I literally can’t sit through any of these videos with all these hauls. For me it’s really overwhelming and I can never keep track of it if I did it. I never really went on a craze over consuming but I did do it with food and stuff but I don’t do it anymore really, so I’m better at it because I really understood what I need and what I use. These videos you make about these topics are amazing and I had an impact on me. ❤❤❤❤

[@greeneghost44]

I knew who this was about before even getting into the video, I’ve been DYING for someone to talk about her and her consumption habits. It’s absolutely insane the amount of junk she buys. I remember Halloween stuff she bought last year in hoards, where did all of that go?

[@reallylongsnake]

A tik tok account I used to really like but I can’t remember the name of was a girl who was a recovering shopaholic and she just had a TON of clothing and her videos were all decluttering/donating/selling like “I can only keep what fits in this bin” and it was really motivating to watch! Hope she’s doing well because I’m glad I saw her content and not this kind of stuff.

[@sneeria]

I remember that, she finished the challenge IIRC. I've since deleted tiktok, so haven't seen her channel in a bit.

[@cassandraknight8804]

I’ve seen similar things on KZbin, when I clicked on someone’s channel the other day, it headlined - becoming minimal and decluttering ect; and then when I watched SHE was decluttering by promoting her stuff for sale like an add- as someone who over shops, I felt baited to click and then VERY annoyed at her.

[@kristinnared]

Uggghh hearing her screeching and constantly using the word "obsessed" is driving me crazy. I don't get it at all - she tells that she is not promoting overconsumption - proceeds to show us a million stupid, unnecessary things... Don't get me wrong - I love treating myself and sometimes buying things because they are cute - BUT - I don't buy 3-5-10 of the same item just in different color. Insanity

[@hauntedcoffee749]

I have a bit of a shopping addiction that I’m dealing with, but instead of buying things that clutter my room, I spend my money building a coral reef aquarium. Corals can be so expensive though 😫

[@lorenabpv]

tbh this is sorta how i feel about certain creators here, like HLP. of course HLP goes toward high quality, expensive stuff, but it's still unrealistic and rooted in promotion of consumption to people who are likely dealing with financial hurdles after overconsumption. the whole "buy one quality thing so that you don't have to buy multiples" is a cop-out imho. especially when you're buying another high quality expensive thing by the next video

[@jessicareyes3348]

Her declutter videos where she just gets rid of 3-5 things while posting a video the next day of a multi part haul with 10x as much drives me insane

[@lpspinkfoxes]

Im a pink lover and all the pink Halloween stuff excites me, but I just don’t have the storage to decorate now that I live in an apartment. It just makes me feel stressed to decorate for every season.

[@amberrrr_editz]

I KNEW THIS VIDEO WAS ABOUT HER. She is pretending like she is revovering but when i checked her tiktok today, she posted so much hauls 😂.

[@cynthialin5700]

Omg came across her account on tik tok, tapped into and saw that she posted a video saying that she cant buy anything that isn't pumpkins or candy for halloween because it doesnt worship jesus. Her source was by saying that she looked it up on chat gpt 😭😭😭 quoting the bible through chat gpt is crazy to me! Like babe aren't gluttony and greed deadly sins? I think witches, ghosts, and mummies as halloween decor is the least of your spiritual worries 🤧

[@coolchameleon21]

she seems mentally unwell. maybe psychosis or something

[@coolchameleon21]

christians try not to cherry pick their beliefs challenge: impossible

[@wrensea]

I love how thought-out and well-structured your videos are. I was halfway through this one and realised how refreshing it is to see - no cutaways, no weird green-screen comedy "bits" - not to say I don't like those videos, but its nice to see something that departs from that structure and focuses solely on the topic you're covering.

[@nharber9837]

Sounds like there need to be scare quotes around the “no” in “no buy.”

[@jochenkraus7016]

Maybe it's a girls math no buy like it's free if it's a gift card 😮

[@FireTember]

I don’t understand Hello Kitty addicts. They seem to need to get everything Hello Kitty related and can’t say no to any Hello Kitty products? An author KZbinr I like also has this Hello Kitty addiction. I like Hello Kitty too, she has a cute character design, but is it really worth spending so much money on?

[@SleeplessBeauty_Alexandra]

I watched till min 28 to hear you say it - whatever her situation, what she is doing with her channel is unethical. It's the first word that came to my mind.

[@clairewaldo7761]

I blocked this person. Also if you look at her poshmark she is constantly selling stuff that she promoted & “loved”

[@1SpicyMeataball]

"No shopping but I'm a shopping account." Are we sure this isn't on purpose to trigger people and drive interactivity?

[@citronGXB]

😲 seeing the hauls is a bit anxiety inducing. Having grown up in an entire family of addicts in one fashion or another, I know that quitting cold turkey isn't the best choice, but I struggle to see how the gigantic hauls after two weeks really sid anything positive for her! It's okay to admit you know you've got an issue, but it feels pretty bad if your profile seems to be marketing yourself as recovering without any meaningful content associated with that tag. It's definitely one thing if that's in your bio and you make lifestyle content or something unrelated to shopping, but it feels poorly placed next to being a shopping/haul channel.

[@shawnaripari]

I agree with so much of what you've said. Quitting cold turkey can be so challenging and lead to relapse. Her desire to be a shopping channel after the no buy really seems at odds with the recovery goal/claim

[@dustytin]

Watching her videos is giving me anxiety. So much stuff!!

[@Ryanneey]

The thing that helps me with my no-buy is to stay off TikTok and Instagram. I didn’t realize how much they're just one long commercial. I also unsubscribed from emails from stores. I don’t need the temptation of sales because I honestly don't need anything.

[@kyrashotwell]

wow i’ve been watching her since 2020ish and it’s gotten so crazy !!! thank you for this video !!!!

[@beefy222]

Found her a while ago, she gives me so much anxiety looking at the crap she buys.

[@meganwalker27]

Omg gonna be Broke not Brooke 😮

[@Staci_Beard]

Ok she says she’s in recovery but she’s still a shopping channel…that’s mind-boggling. Imagine someone with a whiskey-reviewing channel also saying they’re a recovering alcoholic. Like, what???

[@sughbear]

As someone who was never a shopper and ended up finding her account, I was so so close with going down the rabbit hole. This account is so bad for any type of person because of how she films and entices you. I feel like she's a siren of shopping. I'm glad I deleted my tiktok account.

[@IndoorsyAdventures]

Thanks for another great and thought-provoking video Shawna!! I've been watching Grace Nevitt for a couple of months now. She's on a no buy year. I like her because she is super genuine, open and honest, and she has clear goals for why she's doing a no buy. She's on a learning and growth journey and I find her content very relatable.

[@quosoon4709]

It felt icky and disturbed watching her video. I can't put up with it. Her claim doesn't match at all with her attitude. She said she just shares her things, but she is encouraging people to shop recklessly. Who tf buys so many towels like that if she really wants to cure her shopaholic?

[@lulu65245]

I love love love Gittemarie Johansen, she is also not afraid to call bs and speak the truth from a sustainable pov, she talks and shares great ideas about underconsuption, thrifting instead of buying new, using what you have, and she also has a vegan food page with recipes. Seriously if you dont know her you are missing out my friend!!! Thank me later ❣️

[@monsterous6152]

As someone who has a shopping addiction and had a successful no/low buy for the forst 6 months of the year, her content stressed me out when I came across it and I think I blocked her. But her content also enables someone like me who can say to herself, "Well, my shopping isn't as bad as THAT", which isn't ok.

[@astonishinglydee]

I got the chance to be able to watch her content last year and she was in recovery for her shopping addiction then. However, I have not been on TikTok since last year and it’s so sad to see her still in recovery. I really do hope that she gets the help that she needs.

[@Pesciolotto]

I've found your channel last week and I'm binging your videos almost daily I don't have an overconsumption problem but I love your commentary

[@nebulonicc]

I just keep thinking about how people would react if this was someone claiming to be in, for example, alcohol recovery, or s3lf harm recovery, or ED recovery; and was posting content talking about their relapses excitedly and romanticizing it, or god forbid making videos SHOWING them relapsing or purging or what have you. I mean, talking from experience, i know that there's communities out there that do romanticize their addictions and you can have whatever opinions you want about that, but at the very least they understand that they have a responsibility to keep it away from people who are actively in recovery who could easily get triggered. I think a lot of it probably stems from lack of awareness about it, a lot of people will go online and enable this behavior because they probably don't understand how problematic it is

[@kiereanm3254]

These videos actually make me so so anxious and uncomfortable AAAAAAA

[@hayleighrankin4874]

As a person struggling with a shopping addiction, I’ve had her blocked for at least a year now she causes me so much anxiety and stress and I’m just glad somebody is finally calling her out. This is the first time I’ve seen anything she’s posted in quite a while and honestly this amount of stuff is a lot less than what she used to buy.

[@musiclaura]

I'm glad you're covering Brookelynn. I've followed her on TikTok for awhile, and it always seemed crazy how much stuff she'd buy. Then she decided to declutter and stop shopping, and I was rooting for her but then she started shopping again and basically replaced the things she had sold. It's been hard to watch.