This ‘TRANS’ character has me SHOOK | Trans Woman REACTS

[@cebaker5671]

To be honest, that first scene was stupid but it was also honest from a parent’s perspective. No parent wants their child to hurt or feel uncomfortable with themselves which can result in emotional difficulties for their entire life. It is not transphobic to wish for your children to have an easier time in life. The difference is in how the parent responds to a child who somehow differs from the norm. I just want my kid to be happy in his life and life choices so I am accepting and supportive of him. As a parent of a trans man, I do worry for his future with the political pendulum swinging back and forth between biological science and gender affirmation. This will likely be a political football for some time to come. I do believe the final outcome will ultimately be defined by how biological women are treated over time and respected or not.

[@FakeVenatus]

Biological women suffering has never been taken much for politics or history- its more like how men will feel. Also I agree. See there was a trend where people would wish transphobes kids turned out to be trans and it made me feel bad because theyre wishing physical discomfort, rejection from family, and struggles in society on a child. When I said I disagree with it they all called me transphobic because "being trans isnt a bad thing". Yes its not a bad thing but I wouldnt wish depression on someone either- I rather the kid be happy with how they were born.

[@MichelleFouche1]

I remember watching Ace Ventura and I was around 12 years old, but I couldn't really understand what was happening or what the problem was in that scene. I feel they could have just scrapped that whole scene. It's unnecessary and derogatory.

[@gnostic268]

Agree. I'm a straight woman who doesn't have any gay or trans people in my family but I see a wave of lesbians who have publicly joined terf women as being anti-trans. If right-wing people go after trans how safe do you think gay people's rights will be? Right wingers are usually more the patriarchal control all women types so imo, it's always important to defend less marginalized groups because it means that solidarity will protect everyone instead of throwing people under the bus in order to ally with right wingers in the hope that they will leave you alone because their goal is to control all women

[@BlackWolf-uk2yb]

Agreed. As a Trans person I would not ideally 'want' my Kids to go through this but I would love them just as much and be as proud of them either way!

[@catscratchfever7540]

@@gnostic268 So how do you explain all the right wing women who influential and powerful positions in politics and other public and private services?

[@mrmr4622]

Its so crazy that people expected that actress to apologize 20 years down the line, who cares at this point?

[@sandracabrera7861]

Ok, important to know past so we do not make the same mistakes but we can't live in the past. I really hate that urge of digging in the past to acuse and cancel people and demand apologies.

[@camille5073]

Agree… felt like she was just saying it to get internet clout & felt icky… like you didn’t do anything wrong back then, you were reading your lines…..

[@CharliStar]

Agreed. It was made nearly 20 years ago. Are we supposed to go back through all music, movies, radio shows, artwork etc from history and “correct” everyone thats still alive and make them grovel for forgiveness for living in a time where the world wasn’t filled with such delicate people, easily offended over just about *_everything?_*

[@1992marigold]

I was feeling the same way while watching her apology. If people started apologizing for gay jokes. We'd be watching apologies for hours and I say that as a lesbian. It's in the past, times change.

[@paulfrels3590]

Apparently Alexis does…………I know I don’t care………there’s a little more going on in the world to worry about 2005

[@vickiebabieful]

It’s a fictional movie, who actually cares? I’m so sick of people apologizing for shit they did in the past because of people on the internet.

[@ninja-mouse]

The sad thing is, in my opinion, that nowadays many people can't/won't distinguish between a joke and an insult. Thereby satire is an important instrument to point out social grievances.

[@slytheringingerwitch]

How about we go back in time and get the actresses who depicted women and girls in a bad light too to apologise? Its kind of strange that we assume that people must pay for the past depiction that is set in time. These are of their time, weirdly that is where they should stay and we can't compare them to today's standards.

[@simongoodwin5253]

Always laugh at Gay jokes as a Gay Man. I can relate. I'm not offended.

[@Ilive_420]

When I was younger I was upset at the sexist jokes at women, but now I dont care at all, make them myself sometimes with friends, and make jokes at men as well. I think what Alexis said applies here, "no one's safe". I don't get annoyed at the jokes themselves, but when it's ppl dishing out jokes but can't take it when it's is at their expense. Or as Alexis said when it comes from a bad place, which I never see them as jokes if the person means it.

[@laurenhowell7691]

As a Bisexual I'm offended by the LACK of jokes 😭 guess I'll just stick with autistic jokes

[@CharliStar]

I watched Ace Ventura as a kid…. And I loved both movies. What did I learn about trans women from this film : I learnt that sometimes, men can make their bodies look like womens bodies, to a certain extent. This taught me that there are all sorts of adult humans and sometimes what you see isn’t always what you would expect. *Maybe that was just my outlook on it though…*

[@ninja-mouse]

I have to say that I never saw the villain in Ace as a transperson, but as someone whose thirst for revenge was so extreme that he was willing to do anything for it. As in Oz, the princess was turned into a boy so that no one would find her. In the end, of course, this is subjective.

[@julzs7493]

Sometimes that relief is because as a parent you know how hard it can be for your child if they had gender dysphoria. My daughter went through a phase of wishing to trans to male. We couldnt accept it because she seemed so unhappy. When she realised it wasnt for her we were so relieved but only because she changed to this smiley girl from a sullen boy.

[@nycketajo149]

Same. Those years with my girl were the hardest of my life. We would love her any way she went. But needed her to not be so low. Now she's happy and fully embraced her girl status.

[@deborahbreeden4394]

Dave Chappell was attacked by activists while he was grieving the self deletion of his trans sexual friend named Daphne. Videos of Dave talking about Daphne reveal his deep respect, admiration, and love for his friend. 😢

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

Self deletion? Is suicide not used anymore?

[@darcelharmon]

@@itsacarolbthing5221a lot of words are not being used anymore because it triggers people. I don’t get it but it’s the new world.

[@nancybourbeau7492]

I saw his special where he talked about Daphne. I don’t feel like he is truly transphobic.

[@ghostthelizard]

Yt likes deleting comments for censorship so sometimes people use alternative words. It doesnt affect everybody though

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

@@darcelharmon I don't get it either. People are triggered too easily.

[@_athora__]

I personally didn't find Einhorn's character as a trans woman being painted as the villain.. but i do think it played on mental health like 'ray finkle transitioned to female because he was mentally ill and obsessed over dan marino and wore an elaborate disguise to get to him" 🤔 which is potentially worse!

[@Open_Space0718]

Exactly, well put.

[@marie-michelleanderson2851]

The vomit 🤮🤢 scenes was over the top. Truly awful.

[@marie-michelleanderson2851]

I hear you loud and clear!

[@falygurl9703]

yeah, i never thought she was "trans" it was just an insane way to hide her identity so she could get revenge, in the same way that buffalo bill is not trans---but an actual nutcase (this is very clearly explained in the book).

[@emilybusby6922]

I’d love to see what you have to say about newer media being suddenly over-eager to represent everyone, to the point of pandering. I think that would be a great topic to discuss.

[@siriusnst]

Okay…this is giving people editing Agatha Christie and Roald Dahl for racist language. I’m not here for it. Old art is just that. Old. Art is best understood within its original context, and that includes the historical context. Things were what they were, and when people used the language they used back then, they didn’t mean to be hurtful. It’s just how people spoke. Are we going to be so sensitive that we’re going to be hurt by something an author long dead wrote before the days of political correctness? The important thing is now that we know, we don’t say or do these things we know are hurtful. Maybe it’s because I’m not trans but the apology video legit gave me goosebumps and not in a good way. It made me wonder if society will demand that I apologize for everything I may have or may not have said in my youth that may one day be considered (insert group here)-phobic.

[@sophiacalon3463]

I KNOW. It’s giving 1984… which probably is going to be banned next😭

[@aaronday8701]

I would be relieved to know my kids were not gay or trans simply because I wouldn't have to worry about that aspect of their life (because i believe the road would be bumpier). It's the same feeling as finding out your child doesnt have a nut allergy - "Oh, thank god!"

[@moth8490]

I always thought that Ray Finkle/Lois Einhorn wasn’t actually trans, they just went to very extreme lengths to hide their identity because or what they’ve done (I haven’t seen the film in a while so I could be completely wrong ) I’m trans myself and the men spitting doesn’t really bother me but Ace talking about Ray/Lois’ body and all that was weird to watch and just dragged on a bit

[@TheIrreverentUncleAl]

Those men weren't just spitting, they were PUKING.

[@sewfairyadhock8618]

The program was of the time - no apology needed. For many parents it would have been a relief and for some, if they're not afraid of being called 'transphobic', it still would be. It's not trans women like you that are the problem Alexis...it's the AGPs and RTAs that are the problem.

[@OfTheSeaKND]

I know about AGPs, but what is a RTA? I don’t think I’ve seen it before. 😮

[@vanapirarayne738]

​​@@OfTheSeaKNDradical trans activists. Now let's see how fast this gets deleted by the KZbin bots.

[@Crawlingdreams418]

​@@OfTheSeaKNDI think rta is "radical trans activist"

[@OfTheSeaKND]

@@Crawlingdreams418 Ahh, that makes sense. Thanks for the reply. 🙏

[@JadeEyes1]

I remember when the soap opera "Passions" had a plotline in the early 2000s that featured a trans/intersex villain character named Vincent Clarkson. They passed easily as both a man and a woman (the character was introduced as a woman named "Valerie", who was played by a female actor, then later re-introduced as "Vincent" with a male actor), and wore a Two Face-style half-man/half-woman costume (complete with a creepy mask). "Vincent" had a graphic M/M sex scene (a first in daytime TV!) and later got pregnant by the same man...who turned out to be their half-brother. (Who apparently missed that Vincent had a vagina.) Bizarrely, the plotline was later recycled on "Pretty Little Liars", with another trans/intersex character named "A" (who also got pregnant via a half-sibling). The Naughties were a wild time. 😆

[@johnfohey-rb1eq]

Ahhh Passions…how I miss you! ❤❤

[@C.Church]

Well it was Passions afterall. lmao. They had ghosts, an orangutan and endless exposition scenes outside room explaining the whole plot of why they're standing there and the dilemma they're mulling over. And that self-dialog lasted the entire week!!! lol Holidays always lasted the entire week.

[@mentalalchemysubliminals]

ive been trying to find some of it in YT, have you had any luck finding clips?

[@JadeEyes1]

​​​​@@C.ChurchThe show had ghosts, witches, living dolls, reincarnated lovers, angel girls, zombie succubi, mermaids, an orangutan nurse, and homages to Psycho, Titanic, Chicago, Tarzan, The Wizard of Oz, Brokeback Mountain, Pirates of the Caribbean, and The Da Vinci Code (among other things). And yet that was considered the wackiest storyline they ever did. 😆

[@C.Church]

@@JadeEyes1 lmao so true it was an amazingly chock full show that took forever to progress same convo happening for 3 days. 😂 And... one of the actresses moved on to "adult acting". Very colorful place.

[@janemcnaughten7275]

Hello Alexis. People can react like the actress from the Suite Life Of Zach & Cody for anything. For example, I married a Catholic man. A year later I decided to become a Catholic ( for my own reasons ) My Mother was sooo upset. Her response was " but you were brought up High Church Of England" this threw me for six. I was christened in the Church Of England, yes that was true, but I think I only went to church for marriages & Harvest Festival!! It took my Mum quite awhile to get used to this but bless her she ended up being my little family's biggest supporter. Jane in New Zealand 🇬🇧 🇳🇿

[@kimc555]

I am a parent of an autistic son who's 15. Media's portrayal of neurodivergent ppl hasn't always been accurate or respectful but neither was society's view. Just as i don't allow ppl to use derogatory language or make jokes about ppl with disabilities, the past is different than it is now. Ppl who feature disabled or neuro diverse cutlure in comedy - that i have no issue with.

[@BubbleB0T]

I 100% agree! I’m a wheelchair user and also autistic and I feel like we are still one of the most targeted groups regarding the hurtful jokes. Like saying the R word etc. However, there are some absolutely hilarious jokes about people with disabilities and I make them all the time. I feel like when you make jokes about everyone it’s absolutely okay. Jokes made from a place of hate are the only ones I have an issue with ❤❤ Sending love to you!

[@trublgrl]

I remember a show I saw as a little child, when I knew I wanted to be a girl, but didn't know anything about transsexuality, that was called "SOAP." It was a comedy soap opera, I guess, and I couldn't follow it that well, but I knew Billy Crystal played a gay man, probably the first openly gay character on TV. In one episode, he meets this wonderful guy, and they hit it off, and then he shows up to a date _in a dress._ He says "I'm going to get a sex change, and then we can be married!" WHAT? Even as a little child I knew that was absurd. You don't get a sex change to be with a man, you get one because you NEED to be the opposite sex. Transsexual is not the end result of gayness. I couldn't believe that was how they showed it, and I may have been like, six or seven at the time. I look back and appreciated that they tried, but it was a weird kinda allyship.

[@angelawalker-scott6108]

I was born in the 60s and I think the comedy at the expense of us TS made people less frightened of us, as long as it wasn’t too gross. You have to realise that times were different then. With out the internet I got to realise what I was by seeing TS of any kind on the tv and so did the general population.

[@outlander_...]

Listen, I support you Alexis and the sensible people in your community but if my son said wearing a skirt to dress as a girl was pretend to win money and such I'd say thank god too. I'd never want my children to go through what you have had to with gender dysphoria etc.

[@Mila_Brearey]

100% same!!!

[@kerrydevlin]

Have to disagree Alexis,im 43 and i had no idea about trans at the time and neither did the rest of my pals,we just thought it was funny. Nobody gave two fucks about anybody else.

[@thelestrangelair]

Let's go back to those days, please, please, please! lol.

[@Open_Space0718]

Don't feel guilty about truth, nothing we do is ever good enough.

[@mrburgess1698]

I’m 49 and when I was growing up transgenders or transsexuals were treated either as a joke or something sinister. This was mostly due to the negative stereotypes portrayed within the media, also general ignorance of why and how people transition. These stereotypes still persist and have sown the seeds for today’s transphobic rhetoric.

[@ninja-mouse]

Same generation. In my childhood it was definitely the case that we judged someone by their actions and and did not put everything on the gold scale. We teased each other, but we were friends and stood up for each other. What is generally considered racist today was just a joke for me and my classmates, example: as a Yugoslavian I was a yoghurt, Germans were potatoes, and so on. If you ask me, differences were rather appreciated than covered up.

[@dollface2917]

Trans issues aside, I remember being a really little girl and feeling so sorry for boys, that they could only wear shorts or trousers, while I could wear anything at all.

[@steph678]

You know women and girls didn't have it easier than boys. We couldn't just "wear anything we like" I got shamed for not shaving my legs at 10 years old. I got made fun of for wearing nice clothing and for wearing alternative outfits.

[@dollface2917]

@@steph678 I’m 43, I’m well aware that girls (me included), would be picked on for their choice of clothing. I’m saying as a little girl, I felt sorry for boys. Shaving my legs hadn’t even occurred to me at that point, but good for you, turning an innocent statement in to you being a victim 👏

[@steph678]

@dollface2917 I'm just correcting the common sentiment im always seeing in the comments saying society allowed "Tom boys to just exist " in the 90s and early 2000s. I was a Tom boy growing up, and it was never easy. It actually has nothing to do with you.

[@NisJol]

@@steph678”shamed”? Or bullied? Cause news flash. Bullies exist. Bullying is not oppression.

[@dollface2917]

@@steph678 You still had an easier time back then, as a tomboy, than if a boy nowadays wanted to wear a dress. My point is that society decided that certain clothes were for girls only, while girls have had, for a really long time, much more freedom.

[@deborahbreeden4394]

Censored for remembering Daphne and her friend Dave.

[@deborahbreeden4394]

Chappell

[@davidwinkle2818]

I found a script for a sketch that was meant to introduce a trans awareness talk but I don't think it was ever filmed. Two guys are trying to welcome a trans woman to their workplace and they don't handle it very well - from asking questions about surgery to giving her some unwanted voice coaching. The difference was that it wasn't inviting you to laugh not at someone for being trans, but instead at the two guys for being dolts. It was probably inspired by The Office episodes like "Gay Witch Hunt", which in my view have aged well despite the comedy involving discriminated groups - it's actually the bumbling boss who you end up laughing at.

[@iitzSammie]

I love your vids Alexis. You're a great voice for trans women 💖

[@Donice09]

Agree with all your points 100%. Can I say your voice is brilliant, I wouldn’t even know you were trans you have such a naturally feminine voice! Love you and Liam you seem like such a lovely couple.

[@just_passing_through]

3:01 Funny. Lighthearted. Made for kids. Nothing to get offended over, and absolutely nothing for her to apologise about. She was reading lines that were appropriate at the time. Not aged well, but it was 20 years ago. 9:02 Extremely cringy. To be honest, I’ve never found Jim Carey funny in the slightest, so nothing new here. I think it would have been just as cringey at the time.

[@galileodos4329]

Yeah same thoughts here.

[@LadyVineXIII]

I honestly took the relief that Cary feels in the first clip as 'thank goodness you're not going to have to go through those struggles' instead of 'thank goodness you're not trans because that's not ok'. Perhaps that's just my upbringing though. My mom would not want me to be Trans not because she would have an issue with me being a trans man, but because she understands the difficulties I would face in terms of my mental and physical health. She would be supportive, but also really worried about my health and safety. Not gonna lie, saw the Ace Ventura movie when I was a teen and I was actually grossed out by a lot of it. The Trans scene was the toxic icing on the gross cake.

[@chuiduma]

In Friends Chandler's dad is trans, and works at a place with burlesque shows, so there are a lot of trans jokes; same as all the lesbian jokes because of Susan and Carol. I'm a lesbian and I don't care what anyone says. Friends is the best TV show and I'll fight anyone trying to censor it. I watched it every week for all ten seasons, and bought every season on DVD when they released. No one would play any of my Friends trivia games with me back then.

[@authorish2187]

I also found the jokes in friends funny, it felt more inclusive than exclusive and was nice to laugh with them.

[@mandyh7802]

Hi Alexis 😊 I have just discovered your channel and I am thoroughly enjoying your content. Binge watching your videos as we speak 💕

[@RedundantHuman-CandyBites]

I remember watching the Ace Ventura scene years later when I was older and could not believe how they reacted in that movie. Like vomiting, they made it seem like the trans woman was not human or something.

[@melissadwiggins]

1:43 when it comes to comedy, no one should be safe! And if somebody is bitching and moaning about it, turn it off, sweetheart! If you can't handle a joke, you're probably not someone that most people want to be around! Just saying! Love you, Alexis and Liam!❤

[@MaxRyderDragKing]

With the villain in ace Ventura, I recall/read it at the time, that the character technically wasn’t trans, but hid in the form of a woman. So in this day and age, used the trans umberella to avoid jail / continue their crime. Never considered them as ‘truly’ trans, just a villain with a lot of money

[@Momokitty121]

The audio sounds good! Thank you for being chill about comedy. We all get made fun of and it’s normal. It DEFINITELY does not have to be hurtful though. Love you both!

[@sylasgirl]

The transwomen activists now are frighteningly like the I’m A Lady sketch from Little Britain. Scarily accurate!

[@laurazepam8382]

And still funny to me.

[@JadeEyes1]

The "rubbish transvestite"?

[@iceslick16]

I honestly think the character's reaction about her child possibly being trans isn't really a bad thing. Because she could've probably be concerned that her child would be bullied. The only reason why I think that because my mother was more concerned about me being bullied when I told her I was gay. Sometimes parents are more worried about the world not accepting their child and are afraid what challenges might happen that they have to face as a parent that has a child that's gay or trans. It isn't always about them accepting because that can be the easy part.

[@briankinney3140]

There is so many things we could go back and go over and analyze but we move past and we learn to be better toward each other. Clothes do not make a person, only an honest loving heart

[@ksustrick1]

"Too Wong Foo: Thanks for Everything, Julie Numar".... TOTAL CLASSIC! Im posting this at the beginning of the video, so I'm trylu hoping you mention it!

[@JamesAlex88]

I’ve always loved the Ace Ventura movies, ‘When Nature Calls’ is bar far the better out of the two. As someone born in ‘88, I grew up watching them. They were always the 2 movies my parents would rent on VHS for me when we went to my grandparents. For me, and even now, the trans character is just the villain however, there are elements where you get to understand somewhat as to why Einhorn is the way she is, particularly in the scene when Ace visits her parents where he gets to see Eirnhorn’s childhood home. Using transition in this way, I think made for a very good movie.

[@Spudkee]

Love your content. Your presentation is thoughtful, empathetic, and engaging. Thanks for sharing this and continuing healthy conversation (Manchester, UK, work in mental health) x

[@CodeNameBlood]

I love your content, but I'd like to push back on the Ace Ventura movie. I understand that because the character Fickle, grew out their hair and got implants, they looked like a woman, but they never identified as a woman. It wasn't a case of a transwoman being a villain. Fickle transitioned their appearance, not to relieve gender dysphoria or because they believed they were a woman. They did it specifically to match the description of a missing hiker which was a woman and become a part of the police department to eventually kill Marino. The scene is cringey, but it's not about being transgender or a transwoman being a villain. It was about a mentally unwell man who was so obsessed with getting revenge, they changed their appearance to facilitate that revenge.

[@exnihilo415]

For me Fickle's gender identity doesn't even matter. My problem is the over the top collective vomiting, tongue scraping and using a toilet plunger on your face because of someone that's really dehumanizing and from my point of view it really has carryover both to relationships with cross dressers and trans women who were not murderous, duplicitous villains. The public commentary about the movie at the time was about this scene and not because they were a murderous villain. It did no favors to the image of trans women, cross dressers or people in relationships with them at that time.

[@LaLa4iZ]

I have no issues with any of the clips shown, It never stopped me transitioning and I still really enjoy watching old movies like ACE because I can see the funny side of it, and it was a great twist to the movie that fit, all the plot lines lead to this point. I agree it's cringe but on the plus side even those the actress wasn't trans it showed me I could look like that some day (even if I didn't truly know at the time what I was)but don't agree that anyone should apologize for joke 20 year ago more so if they have changed themselves and the joke isn't malice in nature. Unless it's a direct malice attack on trans people I'm happy for a joke being said.

[@Im_Aware_I_Know]

What's funny about the suite life scene, is though I know the joke is "thank God he's a guy" my current Era brain saw that clip and the relief in Carrie was interpreted as "I don't have to have this conversation" the joke being, I don't want to deal with complex emotions along with money problems. Obviously that's not the intention, and the skirt question is accusatory instead of inquisitive, but it's crazy how my brain rewired that for a second.

[@terryestepp2615]

I'm a woman and the clothes-ripping cringed me.... I didn't remember that scene. But I would have cringed if they were ripping the clothes off anyone... To me it was awful because they were exposing any person on the planet I'm a Jim Carey fan and was thinking of buying this movie for my grandkids... I watched it with my teenage son. I won't be buying the movie. I'm no.prude.... I don't like humiliating any people.

[@traceyhemana3220]

Love your videos. I didnt notice anything at all with the sound. I didnt even notice the mic till you pointed it out. 😊

[@Lea-bw9wj]

It's been so long since I saw Ace Ventura I couldn't even remember the scene. It mostly went over my head and I saw it when it first came out I was 20. I don't think any actor should be apologising for the movies and tv shows they were in decade ago. It was a job and they were just reading their lines and playing their part. Jokes always change and evolve over time. We don't still sit around watching Charlie Chaplin movies thinking how funny they are. I would have turned my nose up to them back in the 80s/90s. Of course shows are going to date. Some faster than others. Everything that's around now will be dated in 20 years. That's just life

[@deborahbreeden4394]

Yuutoob censors Dave's last name. Great comedian from Baltimore/DC area, now in Ohio.

[@dianne6399]

I don’t remember the season or the characters name but in sons of anarchy there was a trans woman character, played by a non-trans man,And I thought overall they made her very human and even with her flaws as a human being she was also very sweet and the storyline with her biker boyfriend was actually kind of heartwarming.

[@l0g1c29]

Thank you for this video Alexis! I agree that the shows haven't aged well. It makes me think about how shows like this have influenced me and my sense of humor etc. Food for thought, for sure. Also, the mic sounded great!

[@karengreenfield7773]

This comment is probably in here. Chandler’s father was transgender. They got Kathleen Turner to play his ‘father’. To be honest they could have got someone else to okay that part. However, you have to admit that Kathleen Turner makes an excellent transgender woman. Her deep voice really suits the part. Great video Alexis. Loved it.

[@yara-um6tx]

Alexis your voice and accent are so soothing, could listen to you all day!

[@demeter3x3]

She is 55, and got absolutely beautiful skin. Also love the natural grey hair on her. She also played Jody Mills in Supernatural, love that serie.... Glad to see lot have changed in 20 years...

[@skyevitiritti]

I remember seeing Ace Ventura in theaters. I was a teenager and still trying to figure out who I was and where I was on my own journey. I didn't know why at the time but I felt so ashamed for the villain in the film because I identified with her rather than Jim Carrey's character. To this day, I can't watch the film.

[@fenzirulfr]

we, society, need to, in general, not go back in time looking or reasons to be offended...

[@thelestrangelair]

Muggles addicted to being offended, it's a self inflicted curse, don't you know?

[@user-nb8tk6hh6x]

I think there’s a difference between making a character of villain who is trans we just happens to be trans and making a villain who is a villain because they are trans or that the trans of that character is villainized. There’s an anime called Haku and there is a villain in there, but they don’t treat her as evil because she’s trans. She’s just getting in the hero’s way.

[@TheShockedboy]

I think there are some aspects you aren't thinking of, one it was the 90s made fun of everything. Secondly just because a parent would support their kids, doesn't mean they wouldn't be relieved that their kid was in their mind normal. In Ace Ventura Ray Finkle wasn't actually trans, he basically stole Inhorns identity to get his revenge. Also was a murderer so not really caring about his identity. Then for the 90 it was a movie geared at straight white guys, obviously the comedy in the movie is an exaggeration of how the average guy might reacted findings out the knowingly made out with a man.

[@coolfashiondollshow]

That sence with the clothes being ripped off was too much 😢

[@MedusaEcho]

My son was born in 1999. He loved wearing princess dresses and his favourite silver sequence shoes and it never crossed my mind that he would have any identity or sexuality issues simply because I was his mom. However, no parents would ever want to see their children suffering. Ah, I’m a bit ill and can’t write more than this but I hope I’m making just enough sense here 🎉

[@nikimagelakis9085]

Oh wow! People can be so sensitive. As a woman, it is hard to watch any movie featuring a woman, made before 1990. I don’t think it’s specifically targeted to a particular section of society. I tried watching Flashdance and had to stop. Art can only reflect its time, so most movies do not age well.

[@thelestrangelair]

I am genuinely depressed because I don't know if you're joking or not.

[@nikimagelakis9085]

@@thelestrangelair What about? That people’s perception changes over time? About everything! We can’t live in the now and be able to live 20 years ahead simultaneously. In the 80’s, the word gay was not printed in newspapers, mentioned in any television shows/ news. Never, ever. Then AIDS forced people to use that word. Times change.❤️

[@trublgrl]

I only watched Ace Ventura once, but even though I knew Sean Young was a female actress, I actually kind of liked that they showed a trans woman that was so beautiful. I grew up thinking that passing was impossible, even before puberty, which was a bit nuts, and while it didn't make sense, I felt good that at least in movies, you could become a beautiful woman. It was way better than the "men in dresses" trope we generally used to see.

[@smallfries3462]

Ive always told my kids if got issues or gonna do something controversial plz talk to me first so i dont want to hear about it from a stranger id rather hear it grom my child and even if i don't agree im still gonna love you very much and we can work on what ever the problem is

[@mscheurk]

Struggling with your sexuality or gender isn't easy. No parent wants their child to go through something like that. I can imagine a mom being relieved her son doesn't have to go through that. Plus, it isn't realistic to expect the people around you to adjust to the new 'situation' this fast; it takes time.

[@luivgauss]

9:01 Speaking of a villain who transitioned, there was an episode of NCIS where a naval officer murdered his comrade and then became a girl to escape justice, making use of a fake ID aside from HRT and stuff. I don't remember if she already underwent the SRS or if she would have it soon (I think it was the second, if i remember correctly Abby confirmed that to agent DiNozzo, who almost hooked up with her😅)

[@rydbthatsme]

I still found it HILARIOUS and will continue to do so, some people are so touchy🙄

[@krystaldaniels7940]

I’d like to point out (and I hope this doesn’t offend you because I absolutely adore you and Liam!❤) but as a mother myself, I can honestly understand the mom from the first clip being relieved when he son said he was just trying to win money for the bike. It’s not that we would love our child any less or even be disappointed. I feel like for me, I would just be relieved that my child isn’t going through something so difficult as gender dysphoria and all of the surgeries, physical pain, emotional struggles, societal struggles…I can’t even imagine going through all that as an adult, much less a child! So yes, I will admit that I’d feel somewhat relieved too BUT if my child were going through it, I’d most certainly be right there beside them every step of the way!!❤💕

[@whistl034]

Hi Alexis! I think the audio was fine in this video. Thanks for sharing

[@teresalatiolais8477]

You and Liam need to watch Mel Brooks HE poked at everybody even himself

[@ghostthelizard]

I think the zack and cody scene actually isnt that bad and that it could very much fit a parent who is probably gen x or a baby boomer to have certain beliefs. Like you could say maybe the mom is actually supportive of lgbt but wouldnt want her son to suffer since being trans and transitioning is really not an easy thing. Likewise you wouldnt be happy if your child turned out to have depression. But its also possible the mother really had some prejudice, and since she is a character theres nothing wrong with that. There are characters like the joker who literally kill people, yet people like these character, but a character isnt allowed to be transphobic or homophobic and still generally liked especially when they arent deeply prejudiced and seem more uneducated? The only characters that really negatively reacted in the scene seems to be the mother and the girl, though the latter only did so because she was tricked, essentially like catfishing. This wasnt an actual trans woman being accused of deceiving people, this is an actual boy in a dress case The ace ventura scene though...thats uncomfortable. I like the rest of the movie but that part is just cringe. Especially the reactions. They didnt react in a way that theyre shocked about who she used to be (a criminal) but instead seem to be disgusted about who she used to be (a man). I think a trans villain who deceives people about their identity could be an interesting character, but id prefer that probably not be in a comedy or at least give the people more...nice reactions. Like you can definitely be devastated. Imagine if instead you found out your partner cheated on you. You clearly wouldnt react with disgust Lastly: actors do not have to apologize for the actions of their characters. Unless the scenes and lines were improvised (which usually isnt the case) the actor simply did what they were told

[@jacquisutherland4955]

I really enjoy listening to you. You are so classy, kind and genuine

[@doveymariedesigns8156]

I always thought the spitting and scratching of the tongue in Ace Ventura was a spoof on the movie The Crying Game hence the song. In the Crying Game the man has this theatrical reaction to being with a trans person. I guess I never really saw the detective character as a transperson because they transition not because they suffered from body dysmorphia but because they has an elaborate plan to get revenge. And changing their sex was the perfect disguise. It is interesting to see it from a different perspective though.

[@arista_owo]

I honestly didn't think the Zack & Cody one was bad at all I think it aged well and her breathe of relief seemed more like she was relieved that she didn't have more issues to deal with. As a mom I would feel the same. I don't think she needed to apologize but it was ok that she did. The Ace Ventura one was a little bit direct because it made her a villain only because of being trans and the part of pointing out the anatomy which was dehumanizing the person.

[@ALicia-rn4mq]

I dunno.. I kinda get that first scene. As a parent I want my children to live an easy life wherever possible. I don't want them to experience mental illness, and I definitely wouldn't want them to experience gender dysphoria and end up needing surgery to be able to live an authentic and happy life. Nobody should want that for their child. That doesn't mean they shouldn't be loved and supported and accepted if that was to come to pass. Just that I understand her relief in that scene.

[@melissadwiggins]

6:55 Even if a parent is on board 100% with their child transitioning (which is something I don't think is right because they're minors and they can't make life-changing decisions like that), that parent is still going to be sad that what their child is going through or is about to go through is going to be very hard for them and heartbreaking for the parents to watch and not really be able to do anything about it except support their child. That being said, I don't think any kind of medicalization should happen until after they're 18. Really I think 25 is a better starting point, but once you're 18 here in the States you're an adult. You might not be able to buy cigarettes or alcohol, but you'll damn sure get thrown in the ADC if the police catch you doing some craziness.

[@frankpierce8489]

Look at all the important things you cleared up by sharing and talking about this in “our” history! Another important reason why we shouldn’t delete past films or flags or statues we don’t understand now as there is an important lesson to be learned why it’s there to teach us something. You don’t see Europe tearing down statues?

[@lynisathome222]

Sadly, most Jim Carey movies have a high cringe value whether trans involved or not!

[@1992marigold]

I agree. I've only seen one of his comedies and that was The Mask. I didn't like his comedy when he was on In Living Color.

[@vickyjohnson2502]

When I watch Ace Ventura I don't see Lois Einhorn a trans woman, I see Ray Finkle a man driven so crazy over getting revenge that he's willing to go that far to exact his revenge & the way its so over the top is why I find it funny. The fact of all these men gagging is a way of showing how many people Ray has been willing to have relations with in order to get his revenge, even though there is no hint to him being gay or feeling like a woman trapped in a mans body. I will admit they could've used a different song though.

[@Mother.Mulberry]

I'd love to hear your pov on "Little Britain" crossing dressing ladies. I loved that the distinction was made because that characters were no way Trans.

[@Crookhicks7777]

The Zach & Cody one wasn’t even about trans tho. It was about cross dressing

[@CarRobbin]

Lord if you have an issue with this do not watch Bosom Buddies or Tootsie . Do not watch anything like that. People really are super sensitive I mean i can get it but why is the actor making a video she is not the one who created it. Sometimes i feel like there is too much ass kissing. There is too much going on in this world for me to give a flying flip about this. I am only watching this because i dig Alexis content.

[@mrburgess1698]

The first one may not seem like a big deal, but Alexis brought it up because it affected her directly as a child. It placed doubts in her mind about dressing and her transition, which luckily for her she got over.

[@CrazyLittleMonster1994]

Nothing should be off limits for comedy ever. What I think matters most is the intent behind the joke right? Comedy, real comedy, is supposed to get people talking about these problems and not spread more hate or incite violence. I’d like to point out I’m German, and bisexual, and the amount of slurs and hateful jokes that were thrown at me during Highschool was awful alright? I love comedy, I love when it comes from a good place, and I make TERRIBLE jokes myself but they always come from a good place.

[@TanyaRando]

The Mic does sound different to the usual one, not bad, just different, it won't hurt to swap back and fore😍

[@Alexis_blake00]

Good to know!

[@meechie69Official]

I understand how in this day and age that this did not age well. But when I watch this movie, I never laugh so hard in my life. And the entire movie was funny. It wasn’t just because of that he would be canceled for making that movie today, the problem is that should be allowed to be made today. If you don’t like it, that’s because comedy is subjective.some people take their issues and make jokes out of them. I know I do so it’s not tasteless comedy it’s comedy. Specifically, I’m talking about Ace Ventura.

[@willma2625]

Ricky Gervais's recent Netflix stand up show has many transgender jokes - would love to see your reaction to those!

[@EvelynVash]

I know its dumb but stuff like the ace ventura scene where they depict us as nonhumans or just totally disgusting creatures is what kept me in the closet and fearful for my early years.

[@werdnarellom1529]

The voice of reason!!! Thank God!!

[@missymother]

Any parent would be relieved that their kids are not trans etc, they want their kids to lead as happy and as easy of a life as possible, being trans is not easy at all (if you are really trans)

[@thelestrangelair]

The mum's releaf isn't bad, because every t*ans person I have heard of say that it is not easy being t*ans so why celebrate it? if it is so bad, so distressing not to be okay with your own body, why not be happy if your child does not have to experience it? I think it's a mixed message here, which is it? Bella L

[@cindymolesky3492]

These were from a different time when the term "transgender" wasn't part of a woke vocabulary. Transvestite and crossdresser were the definition of the day. Jim Carey films are always a little crude. I think EVERYTHING these days is analyzed and over analyzed when some things were just ment to be a joke. Obviously, it won't be funny to everyone. Life is short. We take away what we can from it, we learn and let the rest go.

[@angelika_munkastrap4634]

I think the mums relief was a good one - who wants their child to feel different or be in pain or turmoil? It would be weird if she was disappointed he wasn’t one

[@ksustrick1]

I LOVE Kim Rhodes! I had the privilege of meeting her a few times, and she's TRULY an amazing and sweet lady! ❤

[@PapaM-u7b]

Audio was fine with the new microphone

[@haileyranson8255]

I dont think its really awful as a parent to be relieved that their child is not trans. Its not because they dont like trans people, but no parent wants their child to have to face a more difficult life and face hatred or conflict because of who they are. Its natural to want your child to grow up and have a nice life. Its not wrong to have a baby and have dreams of what life is going to be like for their little girl/boy. To dream of seeing them in their wedding dress, or having a baby etc. Of course Id accept my child if they come out as trans or gay or anything else and I will support them no matter what, but I would have to grieve my dreams too. However, i do also see why that joke was just unnecessary and why it was so problematic. I can relate to hearing jokes at the expense of yourself - I have red hair and was bullied relentlessly for it and still get really hurt when I hear jokes or insults related to that. It was so difficult and I felt id never be attractive to anyone and I still live with those scars to this day, so i completely agree that the beauty pagent scene would've been funny and fine without that joke. Its awful to imagine children seeing that and being too frightened to go to their parents to talk about how they feel out of fear of making their parents disappointed. Its lovely that she apologised and I think the way she did it was great. Love you Alexis! ❤

[@Jessica-lt8ug]

so one point I want to make is the mum from Sweet Life..maybe she wasn't relieved because he isn't trans, etc. Still, it could be more about worrying about how he knows about sexuality, or perhaps SHE is not ready/prepared to handle that big of an issue, or maybe she hopes it would be further down the line give her time to prep or consider how to approach it and there might be signs and such? Just a thought. As far as apologizing 20 years later, we don't know what kind of blowback she was getting. and Maybe seeing how it affected some people she wanted to ensure that people understood it was *not* her actual views. And as it stands I think, in general, we need to look at the world with a tad kinder eyes. We are all trying to find spaces to be and exist and be accepted. Comedy is a place where everyone is on the chopping block, where sometimes it might veer into touchy or hurtful territory. BUT we don't have to tear down the people who said/portrayed etc the joke that is now considered offensive. You can nicely let them know, say hey this joke really touched a nerve, and was a tad hurtful..give them grace enough to help them consider changing, and if they don't then as a person you don't have to enjoy that joke(s) but can enjoy the rest. But this constant push and pull of past issues has to end. We can't walk forward looking backward. The past is a roadmap to help us realize the pitfalls of what was, so we can create a better what will be. (end rant sorry this was so long! LOL ) P.S. love your videos hon, you and Liam keep being AWESOME!!!

[@LauraleyB]

I absolutely agree with everything you said now onto the microphone I actually like the sound of the microphone that you’re using right now. I have low tone deafness, and the bigger more proper. If you will microphones have a basier sound to them. So it makes some words unclear for my hearing. This one seems to be a little more toned as opposed to deep toned. It is not brassy sounding like that. It’s still very clear. The only thing I noticed that might be a negative until you adjust is you do talk with your hands a lot so do I even as I’m dictating this? I’m moving my hands around. We tend to touch our chest when we really means something, and since you are honest in all of your videos and sincere, you tend to do the same thing a lot so just be aware that when you touch your chest, you’re tapping the microphone and that sounds a little wonky but other than that, I actually enjoy the sound of the smaller more than the bigger. “ Proper “microphones as always. I love your content and commented on a few as I am a biological female. I’m also double nickels in age, and watching you has given me a better opinion of trans women because you actually see my point of view and how I’m now having to call and fight to be called a woman, not a woman or a womb or a baby carrier or whatever all the other terms are so thank you for being your most honest and authentic self and changing at least my opinion so that when someone does refer to me in other ways other than a real woman, I just now ignore them because I know that not every trans woman is as bigoted as the ones who attack me so thank you so very much. You are amazing as I always say have Liam give you a big bear hug because you deserve it. Have a wonderful day!

[@janebennetto5655]

Re: twins episode --The majority of humanity is heterogeneous and so anything out of the ‘norm’ will be deemed an added stressor for the parents children. Most reasonable parents want their children to have a happy and trouble-free life. All of us go through ‘what are we’ during puberty it’s a normal and essential development path. I believe that there is no such thing as a ‘trans-child’ - we all have queries and it is not until we reach sexual and cognitive maturity that we can believe our ‘mind’. So Alexis - you did your surgery and change of life at the correct age. 🇬🇧❤

[@sophiacalon3463]

15:05 i LOVE those but maybe add something that makes the ruffles of clothes not pick up when you bend!

[@Crawlingdreams418]

It's creepy of Kim to feel the need to apologize. She didnt write the script and sometimes actors don't have a say in what's written

[@theonlymuse]

The mics are great I prefer these

[@saraalanhank]

I was a big fan of Suite Life, too! But that scene was a cheap shot. Uncalled for. I love your content.

[@konstantinosvlachantonis2471]

I hate when LGBT constantly cry every time a villain is LGBT (as bisexual I find that problematic, both because gay villains can exist and because villains can be deep and interesting characters), but THIS character is a true example of this complaint being justified. Even as a kid, when I didn't understand much, I remember watching this film and feeling cringe, like this villain was a bad caricature or something.