Saoirse Ronan Praised For Powerful Comment On Women's Safety | This Morning

[@micib169]

One of the best made points I’ve heard about this topic is “men walk in to a situation and wonder if there’s any danger there, women walk in and wonder HOW MUCH danger there is”. This is important.

[@myniaroo3294]

Notice that she tried to interject twice and wasn't heard. Great she didn't give up. It really was a mic drop moment

[@caseysprowls7097]

This is why women should ALWAYS be part of the conversation

[@kJ922-h3j]

@@caseysprowls7097 when that is actually the conversation…yes

[@u_u8522]

YES

[@snh5469-f7c]

Agreed. When only cisgendered men are talking, they wouldn’t think necessarily about life experiences that aren’t theirs since you don’t know what you don’t know. Women always being part of the conversation helps people of all genders.

[@StephanieTips]

Well said!!

[@gabifgt]

the silence was so loud, i loved that.

[@DLM440]

Absolutely! That comment hit hard

[@poet2681]

I was sitting at home watching it applauding her . I am so glad that she spoke out about it.

[@mck2021]

S**t got real very quickly. It’s so true. I’ve been thinking about this stuff since I was a child. Key sticking out from a clenched fist.

[@VV-bk1wv]

Touch grass

[@katford7286]

Every woman you know has walked home scared. Every woman. Thank you, Saoirse for checking these guys.

[@belenbarranco8649]

That is true !!!

[@kJ922-h3j]

I just think we need to start (or go back to) acknowledging why it’s worse for women though, cause it’s not because they are more likely to be attacked in public, men are nearly 3 times more likely

[@JK_JK_JK_JK]

🙄

[@moominpic]

@@kJ922-h3j I think it's the type of attacks and perhaps premeditation.

[@SuperJK05]

As though men are not being targeted? Hello? 😂😂😂

[@babotond]

if you watch carefully it didn't came out of nowhere, paul said "who thinks about that?" and she immediately wants to answer but they don't notice so she kinda has to just yell it out.

[@samarycastro]

Yeah, you can clearly see it on her face

[@GinaGreenlee]

I'm 63 years old. My entire female life I've been aware of what's in my bag or on my person that I can use as a weapon to protect myself at night, in parking garages, parks with few people, ON DATES, subways, while traveling solo. Keys, perfume bottles, crochet needles, nail files. I'm also aware of vulnerable points on human bodies. I'm glad she spoke up. The entire couch was making a joke out of using a phone as a weapon but it's hard and if aimed correctly, it can give you time to get away.

[@Driv3rMadness]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@SuperJK05]

So now they can’t make fun at all? I mean do they need to discuss the use of whatever weapons as a defence in a serious manner? Fyi this will happen to men as well 😅

[@amberrose3073]

⁠@@SuperJK05that’s just not what she said is it? She just pointed out that while they were joking about the phone thing it could actually help. Fyi no one said it can’t

[@davidboggs4331]

I'm gonna be honest cause it's more important to be realistic rather than be optimistic and ill prepared. Any weapon you choose, you need to be fit in order to use it effectively. If someone slow, weak and uncoordinated were to swing at an attacker using a phone, majority of the time he would see that coming. It's the same reason why it's not advisable for women to carry tasers. That's why staying physically fit is also important. But that's a good mindset. Be prepared for every scenario. Buy some time then just run.

[@stephanieanderson2263]

I'm glad that Saoirse Ronan said it, I am proud of her because she is right women and girls have to worry about that. The silence was loud and it spoke volumes. I loved that ❤

[@Uncle_Jenny]

Same with men commenting on Anna Kendricks movie "Woman of the Hour" that it was just plain boring, while almost all women wrote that she managed to capture that exact moment when the fear strikes and also understood exactly why the girl who later called the police on Alcala acted like she did.

[@Supergirl-oo5lr]

I actually disagree on this. I am a woman who has known this kind of fear and I don’t think it was well portrayed. The writing and editing were not good enough.

[@emilygilliard4375]

Woman of the hour is a great movie. Anna Kendrick did a great job on it!

[@MissBlueEyeliner]

If I couldn’t relate to those feelings I may have found it boring but I could relate so I was fully engaged. I wouldn’t recommend it to everyone but definitely my girlfriends who are cinemaphiles and would get a lot from it.

[@samarycastro]

Yes, I watched that trailer and my anxiety skyrocketed. Then I tried explaining the trailer to my partner and he just said yeah cool. Men will NEVER understand what that feeling is like.

[@signalfire15]

I always take my keys out before I exit my car and have them ready in my hands. This is a REALITY for women. This is our daily life. It’s not meant to shame anyone. I just love how matter-of-factly she said it. No one needs to feel bad about it, but it’s a good and sobering thing when you realize how the other half of the world lives.

[@DDSizeBra]

You can see how she was concerned and felt strange that they didn't think that half the world don't have a choice what to use to defend yourself, and it's even before the attacks happen because women have to be alert and aware at all times until they feel safe (which tends to be at home or a place with people she trusts).

[@IamaDanish]

Agreed! And also, lets not forget that the majority of rapes aren't by a stranger but someone we did indeed trust. :(

[@RandomStuff-he7lu]

Men make up the majority of victims of stranger violence making women safer in public than men.

[@elainerempel1613]

It's not just after dark. Every woman alone feels a twinge of anxiety alone in an elevator when a man gets on.

[@tyronevaldez-kruger5313]

​@@Chad_Max nah, that's a twinge of anxiety.

[@RandomStuff-he7lu]

So does the smaller man in that situation.

[@eirebhoy132]

That’s called sexism….

[@John...44...]

What gives you this anxiety? Have you had prior experience where something has happened in an elevator?

[@rachaelb.9476]

One of my best friends was sexually attacked in an elevator. It enrages me every time I think of it.

[@KeepAnEyeOnDan]

I’m a 6ft8 22st man and I have been attacked and mugged in the past so I still get scared walking alone at night and hearing people behind me I can’t even imagine how terrifying it is for a woman who wouldn’t have a chance of overpowering a heavy/large man

[@gracegabriel27]

So incredibly sorry that happened to you. That must have been terrifying and I hope you’re ok now 🙏

[@KeepAnEyeOnDan]

@ I was 11 at the time so it’s been a long time :) I’ve since moved away from the city I lived to a peaceful Irish town where crime is incredibly low and I feel much safer 🥰 Here we have running groups so women can go out running together at night and feel safe but it’s incredibly rare anything happens here anyway

[@KeepAnEyeOnDan]

@ oh of course they are, I mean - I’m proof of that myself 🩷

[@raeraekhan]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for using that experience to also have empathy for people who also feel so vulnerable at night.

[@KeepAnEyeOnDan]

@@gracegabriel27 that’s so kind - thank you 🙏 it was a long time ago 🥰

[@spiderliliez]

Your safety is always what you think about, sadly. I'm glad she made everyone realize it's actually a serious thing. Love this girl even more!

[@Nushka23]

Saoirse's face at 0:28 said it all.

[@flippy_11]

When I was 20 years old I had two men in balaclavas pull up beside me when i was walking home and told me to get in the car. I was able to get away but it changed my life. Ive had ptsd for over 20 years now and cant walk anywhere alone without getting severe anxiety and dont socialise at night unless im driving home safely in my own car or with family or friends.

[@Poshfrocknfluffyslip]

So sorry to read that. We women are all scared and scarred by the thought of what may happen or might have happened to us.

[@flippy_11]

@Poshfrocknfluffyslip thank you ❤️

[@Aurorr]

So sad to hear that. The situation is worse in India. I hope things het better though.

[@Natashagirl9]

At 16 I used to run a lot and one time a car stopped and four guys got out smiling and looking at me. I managed to run away and hid behind a car, luckily they drove away. Another time an older guy stopped next to me and said ‘it’s too dark and cold, you’ll get tired, just get in’.

[@flippy_11]

@@Aurorr I hope you take good care!

[@JordiVanderwaal]

If there's something positive I can get out of this, is that most of the comments and posts from both women and men are actually agreeing with Saoirse. Like, we know she's speaking facts, but a few years ago half of the audience would have just laughed it off and said she was just exaggerating. We're slowly moving forward.

[@tyronevaldez-kruger5313]

Norton Graham Show audience is liberal and open minded and to emphasise that the audience watches the show's "Best Trump jokes" compilation

[@the_glitter_is]

As a woman, I can say no, we are most certainly not.

[@tyronevaldez-kruger5313]

@the_glitter_is Congrats for living in a safe Barby world - like pro Trump women do well in beautiful suburbs

[@tygressblade]

Only Denzel Washington wasn’t laughing. He knows.

[@pattyschell6760]

Yes, I took note of his expression immediately, agree.

[@veronicagalvin1770]

Paul had to tell him what she said.

[@honeyv540]

Saoirse also did a parody song on SNL about these experiences women have, being worried and prepared if we get attacked in public.

[@pameladenicolo3300]

That's the whole point. Men don't actually understand what we go through and how serious this topic is for us

[@John...44...]

Do women understand what men go through, and how serious it is for us?

[@mikelheron20]

I'm sorry but this is so sexist. I'm male and when I was sixteen I was attacked at night by a gang in Plymouth City Centre. There was no provocation or robbery motive. They just felt like kicking somebody. Yes. Women are vulnerable but so are men.

[@reddeviluk]

I'm guessing not ​@@John...44... There's no violent crime against men after all.

[@nabrna3663]

@@John...44... It doesn't happen to men on the same scale that's the point. That's why all the men were laughing on the sofa until she said what she said then they were silent.

[@John...44...]

@nabrna3663 men are equally as likely to be a victim of violent crime (60% male in the UK) and twice as likely to be murdered. They were laughing at the joke.

[@mauramcgrath3722]

Good for you Saoirse

[@freelikeyve]

and saoirse looked so beautiful that day. loved her light, glowy, peachy/pink makeup and the dress was really good too

[@thetigersjourney5913]

I went to the local police station just a few weeks ago to ask them what is the recommended practice for a woman to stand up to a man during the day when he’s invading my space. I was concerned that I would face an issue if I were too forceful. He was not from this country, had just arrived to study ( I overheard a conversation) & had obviously not educated himself that women in the U.K. don’t like to have men standing incredibly close to them. This was a minor event, but I wanted to update myself on the current rules, as with increasing amounts of violence & the issue with victim blaming / shaming I needed to know. The advice was a forceful no, with a hand 🖐️ out in front, for this situation. In that situation I just moved away. But it’s a constant issue & worry as Alison says.

[@innervoice9025]

I'm glad I saw your comment, because I was wondering the same. I was in a very similar situation myself, not once but couple of times. I live in a small town and I never go out when it's dark. But even in the middle of the day as a woman I don't feel safe anymore. There's this guy who always steps in front of me when he sees me and immediately invades my space. He does this so fast that I cannot even react. I just freeze. When I see him from the distance in front of me, I don't even look at him, I take a few steps away and try to distance myself before I go past him, but he always has something to say, he always demands my attention and he always walks towards me. They say if you just ignore such creeps, they will leave you alone, but some guys are just demented and if you ignore them they take it personally. For a long time now I'm seriously considering taking a self-defense class or start training some martial arts.

[@thetigersjourney5913]

@ the police where I live always recommend to register this type of thing. So you go to the station & make a statement or you can do it on-line. Ask them what you should do in this situation. The person maybe known to them already.

[@Serenity113]

I used to work at a library which was a 10-15 minute walk from my home at the time and they were flexible with my hours because I was a university student. During the day I had no problem walking to there especially it was a busy street. One day one of the managers who is a man, asked me why I never do closing shifts. I told him that I wouldn't dare walk home alone at night especially in my neighborhood as a woman. He was surprised and said that it didn't occur to him how unsafe that would be. And I said to him "That’s because you are a man."

[@foolsraven6924]

It also doesn’t matter what your age is, how you look, or what you’re wearing women are seen as an easy target.

[@fd5927]

I'm with Alison. What Saoirse Ronan said was very brave, especially after what happened to Saoirse. As a man, I don't want to say don't trust them(us) alone at night, but, sadly, you never know. I'm a fast walker, unknowingly caught pace with a women. Had to slow down and had my hand in shame knowing that she may have thought I'd do something terrible. I'M NOT THAT SORT OF MAN.

[@carolineskipper6976]

I'll not forget the time a male friend arrived at our flat one dark evening looking quite shaken - when we quizzed him as to what was the matter, he said he'd just found himself walking down the street behind a woman walking alone and suddenly realised that he had really spooked her as he'd unthinkingly got closer and closer behind her. It had never occurred to him how scary he might look to a vulnerable woman (he was a large man) because he knew he meant no harm - but how was she to know that? It had shaken him, and he said he would be more careful in future.

[@fd5927]

@carolineskipper6976 Exactly, EXACTLY .... that's how I also felt. also had the presence to be mindful of how a lone women would feel with someone walking close to them. Urgh ... what a world we live in. Good minded men fearful of their good-natured actions just walking along the streets at night close to a women and women fearful (sadly with some truly awful events) fearful of walking alone.

[@kathleenclark5877]

Please explain what had happened to SR!

[@fd5927]

@kathleenclark5877 To be honest, I don't know, but like Alison said, "SR" was very "brave" to talk about "it".

[@kaylinsmith6921]

​@@fd5927I think she just meant to bring the subject up in general. It doesn't take much to get labeled "difficult" in that industry, and it can easily cost you jobs. I think that's what Alison was talking about: that Saoirse spoke out even though it could have ended in backlash for her.

[@butterflies015]

As a challenged woman in a wheelchair. I keep my keys in my hand if I'm getting in an elevator to protect myself in my apartment building. So I can protect myself in a closed space if I'm ever feeling worried if in by myself.

[@chanelleali6119]

When I was out on a night out my friend was meant to come back wit me in a taxi and she left me I was completely alone at 3 in the morning. And a group of men started chasing me. I ran and thank god I ran into a man and a women and they got me a taxis and then walked me to my door. Was so scary

[@yzolakitchi]

One of my favourite expressions is 'that's not on my radar' meaning for the guys on the couch, it's not that they dispute it, it's just that they've never had to consider it every time they are out and about. I also think it's drummed into us ladies that if anything does happen, we will in some way be partly to blame - were we out at night? Did we walk down a street with poor lighting? Were we wearing a skirt? High heels? Walking too slow? On our phone? Alone? With other girls having fun - attracting attention? Waiting at a bus stop? Waiting for a cab? Waiting for our friend to meet us? I've probably missed some! All those things were said to me by my parents. Their advice: Obviously there's keys through the fingers, shouting FIRE not help, because people respond more to FIRE. And of course, go for their meat and 2 veg if things get desperate. And always, always walk like you have somewhere to be, so the would-be attacker thinks you will quickly be missed and search parties sent out for you. Good grief! Genuinely interested in the talks lads are given about potentially getting attacked. I had a dear friend whose 16 year old son and a mate were in the country, walking down a lane back to their house one evening around 10pm. They got jumped on by two older lads and severely beaten, just so their mobile phones could be nicked. Her son was badly cut on his face and needed gauze and plasters, also had a broken nose. His dad was away at the time, but when he returned tried to get his son to take the plasters off his face. He explained that if people saw them, they would see him as a victim and he'd entice others to attack him. I was so shocked by his comments - but maybe it's the kind of advice other dads would give to their sons? Any thoughts??

[@LT_1856]

I was thinking it in the instant before she spoke up. Ladies, we have to keep speaking up. Men will get annoyed. Let them. Just like at home, if we nag them enough maybe they’ll finally do something about it. Keep speaking up until it’s safe for us to live our lives.

[@GeekyBibliophile]

Comment is a bit long, but is relevant to the subject. Two years ago, I was walking to the local corner store one night for some snacks, turned a corner and there was a guy about 20 to 25 feet in front of me, and he noticed me walking in the same direction he was. Immediately, I got a bad feeling, and I still can't explain it. He turned and started slowly walking toward me just as I started crossing the street, and then slowly started walking around a nearby parking lot. I was in the store for about five minutes and he was still walking around in that parking lot when I left. I started walking down the street (still on the opposite side from where he was) and noticed he stopped next to a nearby building and was looking in my direction. I got my phone out and pretended to check social media while keeping an eye on him to see what he would do. He stayed where he was and just kept watching me. The thought 'If you keep walking home, he's going to know where you live' hit me, and I walked into the nearest store, headed toward the back, explained to one of the employees what had just happened, and asked if I could stay inside until he left. The store was getting ready to close, but they were more than happy to help me. I called police and waited for them to arrive. He was gone by the time the officer got there, and they walked me the rest of the way home, making sure there was no one nearby who fit the description. I went into that store a few days later, and the same employees who helped me were on shift. They said police reviewed their store security cameras, and did see him, but weren't able to get a good look at him because of the distance. Apparently he had stayed where he was, looking into the store for several minutes before leaving. I live in a small town of less than 2,000 people, the kind of place where you don't expect things like this to happen. But I will never be able to shake the feeling that something would have happened if I had just continued on home instead of going into that store.

[@nannerz1994]

She's so right It's so much emotional labor to have to consistently worry about if you're safe

[@polaanna4071]

Sadly, some people won't get this because they are unable to empathise with how women have to take account of the fact they may not be able to match the strength and force of a male attacker. This of course gives a male perpetrator greater power than the victim. The element of surprise and retreat are usually the only defence a woman will have in a violent situation. That and just running away if feeling threatened - my father was a soldier who was trained in aikido, and he trained me in self defence. Would encourage any father to support their daughters with gaining the skills to defend themselves. Sadly, that goes for their partners and sons too.

[@davidboggs4331]

Maybe a small minority would think that. Majority of people are aware of the difference in physical strength. That's why there's a lot of push back against trans competing in women's athletics. Why most people don't take women officers or soldiers seriously, although that could be a mask for misogyny but still

[@polaanna4071]

​@@davidboggs4331yes, in the actual situation as it is happening it is very apparent to those involved. My point is that women can only prepare for it psychologically and inevitably have done so from a young age. It helps to know how to combat attacks should they occur (running away, defensive moves, avoidance, martial arts etc.) and gives us more confidence when out alone in the first place. I think the discussion about CIS and trans women is irrelevant here.

[@davidboggs4331]

@@polaanna4071 no it's not. It's completely relevant. It's not meant to criticize or demean trans. It's just a talking point to prove that people are aware of the physical differences between men and women.

[@polaanna4071]

That is not really the whole point - I am talking about the difference in psychological impact of the physical differences between men and women. Women think about their safety before they step out the door, even as they are getting ready to go out. It is so difficult to explain something which is always a limit on our freedoms. Even what to wear becomes a minefield - although we can wear what we want, there is always a feeling that somehow we will be judged negatively should something happen. That is not what a man thinks about when getting ready. It is much more complicated and complex than just physical differences.

[@babotond]

the other thing is that in a given situation you don't really have a way to gauge the LEVEL of danger you're in until it is potentially too late. you have to make an incredible amount of assumptions, and if s**t goes down, you're gonna be questioned on all of them.

[@fionam7768]

Great discussions guys - well done all four ❤❤

[@jdax21]

The fact that all the men were silent after she said that speaks volumes, as does the fact that she had to make several efforts to be heard. Furthermore, it's outrageous that what she said has been true forever, yet generation after generation of men seem completely clueless about this horrible lived reality of half the people on the planet.

[@neriwest3161]

Us women have a deep seating fear in us about getting assaulted. We are never safe. No matter where we are, what we do, the time of the day, we need to put our guard up and be very alert about our surroundings and possible threats and how to protect ourselves. It's not something many men understand because they are not wired to think about that.

[@christinecleavest9099]

Denzil knew, I took another look and saw his reactions. I'm go glad this conversation has been brought back to the fore front.

[@elizabethstanley4541]

He nailed it. Men should be thinking about it.

[@Love.ellie.]

Obsessed with this clap back

[@sampriceandeverythingnice]

Making fun of the phone thing is so shortsighted. If you’re attacked by someone stronger than you, you use anything you can to take them down. Sometimes it is about using everyday objects or hitting someone in just the right place/way.

[@mariatsarmpou6267]

One of the guys pointing out how men -just like the ones in Graham Norton's show- take women's safety for granted 👌 It's so very true, while for us girls it's embedded in our subconscious, the need to be alert and cautious... 👏 for Saoirse speaking the hard truth.

[@CSV119]

They weren't doing that though. They weren't taking anyone's safety-- man or woman-- for granted. They were joking about using a phone for such a purpose.

[@adamgarratt9915]

Sadly, I have walked around at night and happened to be behind a woman walking ahead, and she felt the need to cross the road after noticing me. I tend to avoid talking to people let alone anything else. But she didn’t know me and I can totally understand why she did what she did. It’s just a real shame that in this day and age women still don’t feel completely safe.

[@kaylinsmith6921]

I was at a restaurant with a male friend. He wanted to show me a game room that they had off to the side. When we left our seats, I took my drink with me. He scoffed, "You really think something's gonna happen to it?" I said, "Whose fault would it be if something did? Mine. Because I knew better and should have been more careful. Must be nice to not have to worry about that kind of thing." And he didn't. And he's been a victim of a mugging before. And he *still* didn't get it. And I wildly disagree with two things presented here: 1. That it's okay for men to joke about, and 2. That "part of the conversation" has to be teaching boys/men to be better. Nope. That's the *entire* conversation. Because women know all the tricks in the world that are supposed to keep us safe, and it's still not enough. It is *not* on women to bear the weight of someone else's choices and actions. It is solely on the perpetrator.

[@melaniewegner6214]

Saoirse, AWESOME!!

[@moominpic]

The problem is that a lot of men are not aware of their own safety. Women are taught about it and taught strategies.

[@01watercress]

Hypervigilence = survival. 24/7 all life long!

[@hollypusheen7651]

Who's actually thinks about that? Roughly half the population, every single day.

[@jackster2568]

Alright love, i also think about imaginary fights.

[@aislingprendergast9235]

Fair play to Saoirse for highlighting something so important as women we always have to be looking over our shoulders which should not be the case in this day and age at all the silence said it all

[@mariannehavisham8323]

It's 1 in 3 or 4 women who expsrience some form of violence from men. Not 1 in 12

[@missbeaussie]

Notice how she tried to speak about 3 times as well.

[@kaylinsmith6921]

Yup. And even the guy sitting next to Alison kept interrupting the other woman while she was trying to make her point. Let her speak! You can reiterate her point after if you think it means more if you say it, but let her say it first!

[@heatherwilliams-px3um]

my nan taught me how to fight with keys between my fingers. my mum was mortified but nan was right , the worlds a dangerous place. i still walk with my keys between my fingers.

[@BP-nn7tq]

Yes! She was extremely brave and I was dissapointed that the males were so snob about it, like come on, this is known to be a problem don’t pretend is not. I love her❤

[@mONchichi11]

We see them in the news no... We live them in a daily basis

[@michaelaharris964]

When I was a community care worker at night, I used to run to my car with my phone in my hand and my keys in the other. Sometimes there was no street lights too.

[@strawberryblondemilk7249]

The fact Pepper spray an affective but non lethal weapon is illegal in this nation is disgusting.

[@gerryclarke9795]

What if attacker can get same!

[@AJP1613]

Really?! Wow!!! Why???

[@tylerbrown7246]

I’ve heard that the keys between the fingers should really just be a key between the thumb and pointer finger because between the fingers probably will do more damage to your hand than it would to the attacker.

[@yvonnebarrett3339]

Saoirse done amazing, what an impact she had

[@lisastenzel5713]

I'm from Germany and we never had anyone give us lessons like that in school. However my mother taught us a few things, from a young age. Like how to act if someone hands us sweets or want us to go with them. I was mearly 3 years old, when I learned to scream 'fire' instead of 'help'. And to make as much noise as I can. To fight them off best I can. I picked up things from movies, like that key knuckle thing. And the one year my biological father was around more often for some reason, he taught me something. I was 11 or 12, I think. And it's very dangerous and very deadly, if you actually manage it. It can be that you break your thumb trying...but if you succeed the guy has a heart attack. Could die in seconds. Which is why I rather not say it here. Like she mentioned...you can be held accountable for trying to fight of the nightmare of your life and the thing that would make you wish you were dead. Which is actually making my blood boil....so. what else. My biological father also showed us some self defense moves, about how to get free of someone who has us in a hold. We practiced that with him, and he was a very strong man. And that about sums up the parenting from his side.😂 But hey, at least something in 18 years.

[@shepherdboy9692]

We've known this for decades. In 1981 Facts Of Life did an episode S3E2 "Fear Strikes Back" where Natalie was attacked. They teach the girls self-defense including using your keys, a pen, a hairbrush, (mobile phones didn't exist then) to get away. That was 43 years ago... this is not news or groundbreaking

[@BlinkedAgain]

No one is saying it's groundbreaking. But it most certainly is news. You just want us to shut up about it? No.

[@shepherdboy9692]

@@BlinkedAgain no, I don't want people to shut up about women's self defense...quite the opposite. But if it was a common thing, as it should be, it wouldn't be viral.

[@LuPhu1]

It's not about the technique of using a phone for self defense but it's more about the conditions of having to use it . Isn't it unfortunate? Most of us would be finding silly like " who uses a phone as self defense" blah blah But here we are, anything that seems silly might be the only desperate measures to save oneself in those scenarios.

[@shepherdboy9692]

@@LuPhu1 Yes. It's sad that BOTH sexes leverage control over the other in any way that gives them the advantage.

[@prid1669]

pretty evident it is news to the men sitting on the couch here.

[@luna85uk41]

Yep, keys through your fingers always, flat yale style keys, I've collected them over the years from previous houses so that I have enough. My current home needs one key and it's not the right size or shape to be effective, so it's on a separate keyring with my car fob, this also means I don't have to remove the keys from my fingers until I am safely locked in my car. I also carry a full heavy glass bottle of perfume in my bag. I don't wear the perfume, nor really need the bag, as I carry my valuables in my pockets it's purely there should I ever need to use it defensively, or to allow someone to take it from me whilst I run the other way.

[@littleblackswan1]

Honest question. Do you know how to strike well with the keys between your fingers? It's really good that they are not keys that you currently need but the technique for the strike takes training starting with the ability to strike efficiently without the keys in your hand and also having the psychological ability to strike someone with pointed metal. It is more like stabbing someone than punching them and for most of us that can be quite hard.

[@teresaridge3228]

Fair play to her and brave comment. We don't feel safe in or outside anymore . Education and tough lawa also any man or woman who abuses or coerce and prosecuted should be on a registry where can be accessed. How many people in relationships and abused sometimes killed and they have numerous abusive relationships I think law must act accordingly no one man woman or child should be allowed to get away with serious abusive behavior. Well said and love the Graham Norton show and all the guests too Proud to be Irish

[@faaaduma6876]

The fact that they were joking about it, when a girl sits right next to them. The luck of self awareness with these men.

[@maddiestephens9730]

39 yr old female - I turn into wolverine everytime I walk from my car to the mall/shopping center with my keys between my fingers 🤷‍♀️

[@Brightongirl666]

Hard not to be seen as a woman thank you saoirse ronan no negativity behind it just facts but it’s like every woman already knows this it really is men’s and boys time to really no seriously really listen i honestly don’t blame men for the blatant narrow would view I need to lease be understood and acknowledge just what it is to be in the mind of a woman, and I feel as a woman and I experience a long more fair and stress than men like trust isn’t something that I just do I actively have to choose to trust saoirse ronan well said

[@againstthedyingofthelight]

I got SA at 10 in broad daylight in a local takeaway and nearly r worded at age 16 in broad daylight walking home from a sleepover. The dark is scarier, because it hides more but it doesn’t stop predatory men and to a lesser extent predatory women.

[@Rockblue01]

Ok this was a 1:47 really brief report on what the police woman instructed to do but-how is a teenager supposed to “make sure” that they are not put into a car?!?

[@Inconsistent-Dogwash]

Just giving some friendly advice don’t put keys in-between your fingers it’s ineffective and will most likely break your hand, instead hold one key with your thumb and forefinger you’ll have more control and power. Taking self-defence classes go a long way in protecting yourself.

[@littleblackswan1]

I agree with your warning about the keys between the fingers but there also needs to be a realistic attitude to how easy or not it is for the average woman to stab someone with a metal key. I totally agree with your comment about self defence classes but as a self defence teacher I have to admit I'm a little biased.

[@thethirdcrouch]

i just realized she's trying to give a comment

[@jackietcarroll5679]

Ashling Murphy and Sarah Everard were brutally murdered and they did everything we women are taught from a young age to do. Nothing will change until men and Government leaders get involved. A male friend recently made me so happy, that I could feel tears coming, when he told me that he's been talking to his teen son about how to treat girls. I think he's raising a gentleman and a gentle man

[@NatashaHarper]

It's not just at night. This is every single time we are outside or even indoors around people. My mom had a talk with me when I was 4-6 years old to grab and do whatever I can to survive. Boys need to be raised to be mindful in regards to this and that we shouldn't just educate our girls and women to be careful, teach out boys to be real human beings instead.

[@oneohfive6584]

Where is this lady getting her stats from? The number of women attacked by men is much higher, I don’t know a woman who either hasn’t been SA’d or narrowly escaped an attempted SA

[@fr514]

The comment that "you don't want to get prosecuted for physically attacking someone". Good god. She's right. But to get prosecuted for defending yourself is shameful. If they hadn't attacked - the woman would not need to defend herself.

[@MissBlueEyeliner]

Always have a plan. I used to have a guy “friend” who would shout “Don’t get r@ped” every time I would leave to go home. He thought it was a joke. How funny for _him_ 🤢

[@littleblackswan1]

Please stop with the keys between the fingers suggestion. There are several things you can use but your front door keys are not a good idea.The chance of dropping them in a physical altercation is pretty high and the technique for using them well is quite challenging. This cliche/trope needs to be replaced with more useful usable advice

[@christinec7892]

Once again so many men in the comments missing the point.

[@umpus]

Women walk home in fear. Men walk home thinking ... Pity the man who tries anything with me... 😅

[@Lucyintheskywithdiamonds140]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤

[@Londonererer]

A night and day, walking into an empty shop, an alley, toilets down a rabbit warren of corridors.

[@SicKno-i5r]

What i find annoying is that every one of these guys wouldn't be alone to begin with. These are celebrity "men" who always have security or an entourage with them. If alone, the first thing they'd do is also whip out their phones. Because 1v1's don't happen in real life. Men are stronger than women and that's just a fact, but they 9 times out of 10 would never attack another man anyway, unless they're with a group. Too risky otherwise. I will bet 5000 dollars that neither Redmayne, Denzel, or that Mescal guy ever got into a real physical fight with anyone ever, except maybe in kindergarden. Redmayne especially is Highschool bully victim material. And here he's trying to act all tough saying "That's a good point, i'd never whip out my phone" Yeah you would. You're scrawny and an easy target.

[@ko0974]

They were discussing how he was trained with a phone for self defense, Mescal is not taking the pis$ he saying who would think to use phone in kiddle if attack, not first thing would think to use, yes Saokse right to say what she did, Mescal wasn't silent and nodded and said well yes .....mountain molehill

[@goofygirl5576]

We just elected a man for our president who thinks it's ok to attack women. To "protect" women "whether they like it or not". How do you think that makes us feel? Brava Saoirse.

[@leilaevans2564]

I've got two teenage boys. I have taught them that if they are walking behind a woman at night to either stop and open up the distance between them so the woman doesn't feel threatened or to shout something along the lines of "I'm just walking home I'm not following you. I come in peace" something light hearted that lets them know they aren't going to hurt them.

[@VV-bk1wv]

Oh my god

[@raphaelsainte-claire4861]

I was stunned by how powerful and brave this was.

[@timparis70]

Dermot O'Leary says "The fact that they are taking their own safety for granted". But I didn"t hear that in the clip I watched. Eddie Redmayne talked about using a mobile phone as a weapon for his latest film, a remake of The Day of the Jackal. Paul Mescal then says "who's actually going to think about that ? If someone attacked me I'm not going to go phone." So Mescal is joking that a phone is not an appropriate weapon for self defence. Is O'Leary making things up or did I miss something ?

[@KieranHamilton-y7s]

Interesting how a man heard what he wanted to. Almost as if you’re always the problem

[@timparis70]

@@KieranHamilton-y7s I just wrote out almost verbatim what was said, and you turn to personal insults 😗 Tells me everything that I need to know, thanks 👍

[@kJ922-h3j]

@@KieranHamilton-y7syou haven’t seen the actual interview at all have you 😂 you can’t have

[@davidwinner6926]

Youre right.

[@VV-bk1wv]

Graham was the one who was almost stabbed to death

[@sjc4]

In America its 1 in 4 😢

[@lamamohammed226]

Good for her

[@sleepeasy3343]

All they were saying is that your phone is not a good weapon though, which is true. I swear I'm going insane because it's like people are actively ignoring the content of the clip.

[@kJ922-h3j]

People are really commenting as if they were talking about self defence and women generally 😂 it wasn’t the topic in the slightest. Their “silenced” reaction was because of how random it was, not because they got told something they didn’t know

[@sleepeasy3343]

@kJ922-h3j exactly! The silenced reaction was because Saoirse Ronan just said that out of nowhere having completely misunderstood what the conversation was about. I have no idea why people are saying how brave she is.

[@ceemartin5624]

Paul Mescal was saying 'like who would use a phone!' and you could see Saorise thinking 'Any woman would if she had nothing else', and that's why she said 'That's what girls have to think about all the time'.

[@davidwinner6926]

@@ceemartin5624 Or it was an excuse to be political and raise her profile to get more exposure for her flailing career lately. Her movies are getting worse.

[@gavinmceneff5612]

Ronan not rona

[@danielcann]

Legit though

[@CSV119]

The guys weren't joking about self-defense in general. They were joking about "Who thinks about using their cellphone as a weapon?" One of them should've asked Ronan, "You've thought about jabbing someone in the throat with your phone?"

[@KieranHamilton-y7s]

🥱 just shut up and listen.

[@CSV119]

@@KieranHamilton-y7s Please don't strawman the argument. I haven't implied that self-defense for women is unimportant. It most certainly is. The point is that a phone is a highly unusual idea for such use. Perhaps it's effective; it's just something that I bet you, Ronan, and definitely myself never thought of before.

[@soonlet4977]

It's not at all unusual like you're trying to imply because self defense for women is finding what you have at any point of time for defense, but it also means making sure your everyday items can serve for those emergencies. Keys is because people always have them for decades, and now phones especially smartphone for the same reason. Sure there are other items but the most common across the board are these two. The next simplest thing is smartphones follow that same rule. If you're a woman and have never *thought* about it at least once then you are uniquely privileged.

[@Lightwood_AF]

The point is that she probably hasn’t thought about it before but it is still super useful to know. As a woman any tip is useful, any way to make an everyday object into something we can use to protect ourselves is useful to know and you can bet we’d share it with all the women we know. So yes, if someone had told her ‘this is how you can use your phone if you’re ever in that situation’, I’m sure she would have thanked them. No-one is saying they’re joking about self-defence - it’s the simple fact that it’s not even on their radar that this sort of information is actually useful for a woman to have in their everyday life. A lot of women walking alone would have their phones to hand so I personally would have loved to see how it could be used as a weapon.

[@CSV119]

@@Lightwood_AF The video above, and many of the comments here, are implying that their cellphone jokes show some sort of denial or ignorance that women face grave danger. That's a mischaracterization of what they were talking about. Plus, I think we agree that she would've said "No" to "You've thought about jabbing someone in the throat with your phone?"

[@1CelloOne]

Can women carry MACE in the UK?

[@againstthedyingofthelight]

I don’t know about the UK but in rep of Ireland it’s illegal.

[@dancemaniac3868]

I carry a taser in my purse. How many men do that?

[@davidwinner6926]

Illegal in the UK. Self defence devices are illegal.

[@altyfc2010]

Isn't it tragic that people feel unsafe in this country . Let's discuss why that is.

[@wowiehowiethatscrayzy]

men!

[@hankro1]

country is irrelevant, it’s the same everywhere

[@wowiehowiethatscrayzy]

@@hankro1 agreed

[@lindawitt9063]

Unsafe for women, mostly, not just ‘people’. And it’s in every country. Not restricted to England. It’s no safe have in Australia, where I live.

[@davidwinner6926]

@@hankro1 Wrong. The UK is particularly violent.

[@zinebt7060]

I am definitely expired. I don’t understand culture anymore. I dont understand what she did that was so heroic. Is it SO important to mention that we keep our phones close?

[@olixz]

I don't get it they were saying whos going to be thinking about using a phone as a self defence tool. Not whos thinking about getting attacked etc.

[@madgeapple]

Women think about using whatever they can when fighting back. Phone, keys, heels etc.

[@davidwinner6926]

@@madgeapple Men do too. Men are the victims of violence way more than women. But its a comedy show, not an opportunity to spread hatred towards ALL men. Sexism is a two way street.

[@annisanegara5399]

I love saoirse since I was young and she just make me love her more

[@DianeCooperTW]

Is a very rich country problem because around here everyone is at risk the moment they step outside the amount of armed robbery that happens especially people on motorbikes, on trains on buses no one is safe

[@davidwinner6926]

Rich people don't rob other rich people. Its a poor people in a high GDP country problem you mean. The UK has a millions of poor people. Rich countries don't have potholes in the roads, cancer waiting lists, and full prisons.

[@deb-1558]

It still amaazes me that in this day and age us women are still terrified to walk home alone 😢