Woman Slaps Kid In A Pool

[@hollib3900]

I’m a Black woman (53) and I was always taught to tip well. My grandmother always tipped, but in this case, she would have left them “a nickel and a note.”

[@greenfox42]

Nickel and a note was taught to me as well

[@liambell708]

I probably would have left 2 cents and a note, same concept, “That’s my two cents!”

[@justanothergamer64]

That. Is so. Perfect. It's just enough money that they can tell you aren't just being ignorant, but obviously not anything actually useful. The note is also good, obviously.

[@Altmetalpunk]

I use to work with people like this all the time, even other black people who said they didn't want black tables when I was a host. When I started serving I learned it doesn't matter the race, it has to do with how someone treats you and the rest of the staff and their attitude. My best tipping regulars at past venues were black so I think it's stupid when servers assume anyone is going to tip good or bad based on race.

[@toebrother]

⁠@@Altmetalpunkthis is beyond just making assumptions. This is making assumptions and acting differently on those assumptions without any basis.

[@aidyll]

There was an update to the "I told you so" one. He left the house, she started looking for divorce lawyers, and he came back home begging for her to stay and not divorce him, and then he admitted to cheating on her with a coworker, and his mother tried to call and harass her for divorcing him.

[@nicjoy4407]

Yeah the mother sounds like a bit of an enabler, I understand being there for your family but being there for your family includes calling them out on their shit sometimes.

[@a5iahellgirl]

That's so rude of the MIL holy shit

[@fireruby1882]

I FREAKING KNEW IT OMG

[@joyfulinhope1210]

Exactly. Daniel seems nice, but he doesn’t seem to have a lot of experience with shitty people. The guy in the story was clearly projecting.

[@GubbiGap]

Like mother, like son it sounds like. Be an a-hole, raise an a-hole.

[@chreese4153]

Sexual assault is potentially a second degree felony, so if anybody touches you sexually and you slap them for it, you are not overreacting. You deserve to be treated as a human and not an object. Please don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Have a nice day

[@chreese4153]

Note also that murder is a first degree felony

[@jijitters]

100%! Physically touching someone without their consent in a way that is intended to violate them is not something you can excuse at all just because someone is a minor. It's not as if he was 8 and goofing around, this is a teenager wanting some sexual thrill like a creep.

[@CMDRunematti]

"we gonna accuse you with assault!!!" "oh okay, I already called the cops to report an SA, you can talk to them when they're here" that's the correct answer

[@CMDRunematti]

Only thing otherwise, women should learn to instinctively hit with fist, not slap. There can come a time when it's not in a safe place like a water park, and then you may need to come out swinging

[@fireruby1882]

@@CMDRunemattibut it’s just as Daniel said. It’s a reflex. She could’ve most likely swung behind her having no idea who she was hitting, just as long as she hit the threat

[@Illhavesnakes]

Pool story- unfriendly reminder; there is no such thing as an overreaction to being SAd. OP is nta.

[@jijitters]

Thank you! There is no excuse for being such a perpetrator; age is irrelevant to her reaction.

[@CaptainSweatpants90]

​@@jijitters wouldn't say age is irrelevant, but the cut-off point is probably somewhere around 6 years, not 15 to 17. So yea, NTA all the way!

[@Roozyj]

I mean, I would say she would've had overreacted if he tugged at her bikini and she had turned round, looked him in the eyes and then drowned him in the pool... but yeah, just slapping him in a reflex isn't an overreaction, that's a lesson for the guy.

[@DrakeBoehm]

THANK YOU

[@kfiraltberger552]

​@Roozyj except he never learned his lesson because his parents supported him. Though I hope that in private they scolded him

[@MadeOfConfusion]

Why is it that person's responsibility to fix the waitress' racism?! Forget that 😭

[@dawn8293]

Exactly. They're allowed to just be petty if they wish. NTA.

[@SevenQs]

If she did give the waitress a tip that would’ve just been paying her for her racism 😭 why would that make her a better person (for both the op and waitress)

[@tyrrollins]

Does she have a responsibility to fix racism? No, of course not. Should she tip for bad service? Once again of course not. However if she wants to not perpetuate stereotypes, maybe tipping something, and leaving a note could have changed somebody's mind. I don't think there really is a best choice, and its really depends on what a person values. I understand the woman, I probably would have done the same exact thing. But I think the high road is leaving a tip and still letting the waitress know her behavior sucked, but your a better person and willing to forgive her. Once again, I'm not even saying I would have the strength of character to do it, perpetuating the cycle, even if in this context she has every right to not tip the woman, wouldn't really do much good. At least not in the long term.

[@jacklyntree7752]

​@@tyrrollins yeah I'm not taking the high road for someone who decides to be rude over a racially charged assumption(?). Maybe be even more petty and give a dollar or something, but absolutely put in my two cents to that waitress

[@MirshikarSilivren]

@@tyrrollins exactly, fill out the check, and openly state that even though you overheard them say black people don't tip, you are willing to forgive her. but honestly, either way works. neither interaction will fundamentally change how the waitress thinks and she will continue to think the same.

[@MikToast]

for the genetics story, i think divorce would genuinely be a valid move. his immediate reaction to a newborn, whom famously lack developed melanin due to being in a WOMB for NINE MONTHS, is to run away to his mommys house, abandoning his wife and the child that had a very real chance of being his, even if he doubted his wifes fidelity. have you seen the recovery process for after birth? the stitches and bleeding and "dont lift anything heavier than your baby for the next several weeks" and "stay in bed as often as you can." if he had any love for his wife at all, he would have known he couldn't be certain that the child wasnt his and he wouldn't have left her to suffer alone

[@Commentingbad]

Yeah, the running away is WAY worse than asking for the paternity test

[@Balou_560]

Saw from another comment, apparently he admitted to cheating himself and they are now divorced. So it certainly was out of his own insecurity

[@Rose_Castle]

Yeah. I personally think maybe paternity tests should be default unless you opt out. To just normalise it. Because I can get that people don't have uh....a lot of knowledge to know that two people with brown eyes can absolutely have a blue eyed baby. So I can get the anxiety. Trust but verify etc. But there was no "trust" here, only verify. With nothing else, even the updates about him cheating and projecting that into her....his behaviour would be enough for me. One thing to be vulnerable and talk about the insecurity and get a test. Another thing to go nuclear on your partner with no evidence just after they gave birth. How traumatic.

[@PinkCatsy]

For me, even given Daniel's perspective and leniency on him, he... didn't apologize??? When it was revealed he was wrong, she mentioned NO apology. I wouldn't advise anyone move forward until there was at least some kind of genuine apology.

[@Rose_Castle]

@PinkCatsy Yeah, forgive and move on requires....an acknowledgement of wrong doing, atonement. But instead it was all about how her reaction to him being wrong made him feel. He went and dobbed. Again.

[@fibanocci314]

I don't think the woman in story two was overreacting at all. The more young boys get away with, the more they'll try, always pushing the envelope to see what they can do without consequences. Young is when they learn. But then I might be biased because I got physical with a seven-year-old who put his head up my skirt when I was a teenager.

[@Roozyj]

Kids need to learn boundaries and if their parents won't teach them, the world is gonna. Good job you for being the world :)

[@Cipher_Paul]

At least they'll think twice before doing it again.

[@harodos3354]

yeah the reason why boys dont respect women as much is because parents arent parenting anymore

[@mrowlsss]

It's not just young boys, and it's not just with SA, it's just young _people_ . The more you let kids get away with, the more they'll try.

[@Mediados]

Not absolutely not, the earlier they learn not think with their rod the better. There are way too many adults who talk about and treat women like objects, and I say that from a male perspective. Makes me feel dirty by proxy everytime I'm in one of these convos.

[@kinsiebelle]

i was always taught the number one rule of gun safety is treat every gun like it’s loaded. even if you know for a fact it’s not loaded, pretend it is. my moms classmate in highschool was shot and killed by their friend who thought the gun wasn’t loaded.

[@YourPalKindred]

seriously. ive never even touched a gun, i live in australia, and even i know this. like is this not common sense?

[@MartinFinnerup]

​@@YourPalKindred I'm from Northern Europe, and have only seen and used real guns two or three times in my almost 3 decades of life, and I've known this since I was a kid. While common sense IS common, it is unfortunately not universal.

[@montrealderogatory]

i was coming down here to say this exactly. FIRST THING i was told before i handled a gun the first time was ALWAYS treat the gun as loaded. you could be actively unloading it with the chamber open and empty, you still treat that gun like it has a live round ready to go. second thing i learned was never point a gun at something you do not intend to shoot, BECAUSE you are treating that gun like it’s loaded. people who do not know basic gun safety (and especially those who refuse to learn) should not have access to handle firearms. people die all the time because they don’t follow these rules. deaths that could have been so easily avoided

[@Vampress09]

I have never even seen a real gun in my life(and hopefully never will) and even I know this rule.

[@CMDRunematti]

2 lives lost due to ignorance of safety rules. Bloody sad...

[@CMDRunematti]

"you didn't have to talk to me like I'm stupid" "you WERE stupid. You're playing with my life."

[@rickoneill4343]

He didn't even have to Google it. There was a doctor right there when the child was born. They should have been able to easily explain that. Sheesh.

[@thrasherplus]

how did i not consider this lol

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

@@thrasherplus because doctors aren't real obviously

[@franciscolaurean8550]

If the husband in the last story says it's not a big deal that he doesn't get the wife off, then why is he so mad? I thought it wasn't a big deal?

[@antine1279]

Because what his friends think of him is a big deal, apparently.

[@AdriansArt]

I hope the peer pressure makes him a better husband.

[@emoliravioli]

My thoughts exactly

[@talia6442]

Sounds like a narcissist. Only cares what his friends think of him…now how he treats his family.

[@Jacky-nx2fn]

Bro I friggun KNEW IT the paternity test one- he did end up admitting to cheating. People don’t freak out that badly unless they themselves did something. They are divorced

[@MadeOfConfusion]

Oh the poor OP wtf 😭 jfc

[@bethchristy1061]

Thank you for the extra information! So glad she divorced him ❤

[@theenolavirus]

Thanks for this, I was really hoping to learn that she got out of that.

[@RemingtonScott-rp8se]

Fuckingggg knew it bro

[@avevee9708]

Omg really??? I just commented that he was definitely the cheater

[@baintreachas]

Slapping someone who SAs you is literally self defense

[@picklearts2678]

it isn't called s. Assault for nothing

[@olive5202]

that third story husband and his family feels like a red flag to me. why is MIL so involved?? why did he just ditch his wife right after her baby was born? he forced her to do a paternity test under threat of divorce? idk i just am getting such terrible vibes from this guy. and he yelled at her! and kept running to his mom instead of working through the conflict.

[@judithrussell9162]

Absolutely! He gets no pass at all for this appalling behaviour, what a way to treat your wife and baby.

[@MadeOfConfusion]

The update has her split with him, he cheated before flipping out and the MIL is insanely awful 😭

[@CorduroyVeg]

@@MadeOfConfusionoh hell nah 😭

[@olive5202]

@@MadeOfConfusion i’m glad they split honestly good on her for getting out of there. thanks for the update

[@rebeccat7912]

@@MadeOfConfusionI literally said “I bet this guy is cheating on her.” His insecurities over her potentially cheating are founded in the fact that he’s cheating.

[@abbyrockwell]

All I learn from these AITA stories is that nobody knows how punnett squares work.

[@Tinttilina]

Unfortunately, a lot of AITA stories also revolve around the fact that a lot of people don’t know that punnett squares aren’t the end all be all of genetics, like some people think they are

[@Rose_Castle]

Didn't know what that means, we didn't use that name in my school here in Australia. I was like..,thinking you were talking about a square fruit punnet....like of strawberries.

[@kinitoswebworld]

@@Rose_Castle I thought the same T_T aussies unite

[@ReptillianStrike]

It's selection bias. The only people posting to ATIA are the ones that don't know how Punnett Squares work.

[@shiina29]

I knew the principle, but not that term, so I looked it up and kept reading and now I'm reserving books on genetics from they library. Thanks! (Genuine, not sarcastic)

[@Nessafiction]

For the O story: It’s NOT something guys with an ego do. Unfortunately, I’ve been with a couple people whose ego’s got in the way and thought they could do so good with their own equipment that it would happen. They did NOTHIN’.

[@Roozyj]

I can't imagine your partner telling you something that affects them negatively about your behaviour, which also has a simple and practical solution and then just not doing it. I mean, one being vegan and being annoyed that the other eats meat, I can imagine not changing as the meat eater, because it doesn't affect either partner directly. If one has a bad habit that's they unconciously do, changing is hard, even if they try, so I can imagine that as well. But this is just "do this action every once in a while when doing a very specific other action to make me happier". It's so easy.

[@justinmartin4407]

Yeah, I was on the fence about the last story. My opinion was that they were both at fault. He should be trying to take care of his partner, but this is something you don't say around people. It might be a problem that you bring up to your SO or with a counselor, but not at a freaking party with a dozen people near you. Many guys think the act is pleasurable enough for their partner and don't even realize that there's a goal for the other person as well, and you should be trying to help them score. Is that stupid? Extremely, but people are stupid, what can I say? BUT the edit changes everything. This isn't about a lack of thought or education. This is a lack of concern or consideration. I'm still not sure I'd have brought this up in public, but... My dude... you did this to you. She brought this up to you, and you literally told her it wasn't a big deal. If it wasn't a big deal, why are you upset that she brought it up in public? I mean, it's not a big deal.

[@xmiunax4385]

yea the only time i would say this is true is if you clearly voice to them that you didnt and want to get off and they do nothing about it... sex education isnt the best and if a guy got all his info from porn alone I can see how they could get the wrong idea about sex and pleasure... in this case though the dude is obviously a prick

[@Myrathosghost]

Ive gone and looked at the comments on that post....in OPs own words "I am not the issue. There is no medical reason I can’t get off. I’ve came close many times, with other men. My husband doesn’t give me oral at all, he just lays there and waits for me to get him off. I know I could get off if he was willing to put in any effort. But at this point I’m done " and "He doesn’t try. I’ve asked him if he’s gay before and he says he isn’t. I believe him honestly, I think he’s just lazy and selfish in bed. He likes to starfish"

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

@@justinmartin4407 The main thing is she didn't bring it up. I totally understood her perspective even before the edit because a question like that puts me into an awkward spot where I either admit something that's maybe humiliating for someone else, or lie, which is something I'm also loathe to do. Not to mention that it's also not like it's the end of the world to be embarrassed in front of your friends. Like yeah that's something that even were it borne of just poor sex education or inconsideration he probably would never have lived down to his friends, but it's a small price to pay for not educating yourself as an adult. Speaking of educating yourself: It has come up a LOT in my life and I want to share with people that my genuine stance on information and learning is that everything I have learned *especially* from my youth with nothing more than an adult's word is to be reevaluated and re-researched at the earliest convenience (typically when it comes up and it's actually important whether I learned the thing correctly; kinda hard to just go through everything you thought was a fact in your life at once to confirm you know the things you think you do :P)

[@chelsmaria]

Damn the last one I thought for sure she would be the AT. Changed my mind once I learned that she tried to discuss the problem with him privately before, but he literally did not care that she wasn't having an O. Omg. That guy deserves ALL the ridicule from his friends. What a selfish brat.

[@GubbiGap]

I agree! Also he said it's not a big deal. Well if it's not a big deal then telling his friends also isn't a big deal Right? Clearly this man wants her to think it's normal that she should just please her man and be out of there. HELL NAH! She also doesn't strike me as the type who'd complain had he actually tried even if he hadn't succeeded yet. Also I'm sure his dick isn't a big deal either :P (this is a joke)

[@justinmartin4407]

Yeah. He figured it wasn't a big deal. All of his friends certainly think it's a big deal. xD

[@GubbiGap]

@@justinmartin4407 His reaction makes me think that deep down he probably knew it was a big deal but idk maybe he really was convinced it wasn't until he saw people's reactions

[@adrienstarfaer]

I had the feeling it was going that way. It's extremely common for men, at least cis men, to not be very considerate of their partners.

[@cannonbyrd1755]

​@@adrienstarfaerthats factually false, dont make assumptions about 50% of the world population based on stereotypes.

[@HolldollMcG]

A lot of "guys with an ego" just believe they're so good, they feel they don't need to try.

[@BoatingMyFloat]

Bingo, they think being with them is enough and they are too selfish to consider otherwise

[@alternativebeel852]

There's also people that suck at foreplay, so maybe he's insecure. Either way, I personally believe they're both somewhat in the wrong. One is not willing to help the value of mutual pleasure, and the other kinda casually dropped a literal death pill in front of every friend. (When you're a man, one of the unique struggles is usually that there are more social rules between friends. Since it is a dangerous game to sincerely diss masculinity.) Just the other side, I'm Aro ace. Just figured I'd give you the other side.

[@alternativebeel852]

//I should also mention that I don't think she's being evil, she just didn't understand the importance of a white lie. I struggle with that too, so she gets more sympathy from me personally. I'm just trying to make sure that a silly reddit thread doesn't grow to a bullet point, as I know it can be easier to reaffirm things. (As a man I can tell you most people I know including myself have a tendency to fulfill bias. Albeit subconsciously.) So while I wouldn't jump to it being a purely egotistical thing, I won't discourage your opinion. Both perspectives are very valid, and some men have a bad tendency to view a women's opinions as undervalued. Just being cautious, as the only major red flag was added at the very end.

[@theSpel]

​@@alternativebeel852 man you gotta reconsider that whole "unique struggle of social rules between male friends" nonsense. I 100% guarantee you women also have social rules and regs to follow. Also gender essentialism is wrong and bad. So there's that aspect of it too. Just a PSA

[@HuiXingMusic]

Maybe one or both of these people could lie on the asexuality spectrum, even if it's not mentioned here.

[@Neithie]

I'm Aussie, I don't even know how to check if a gun is loaded and even I know not to point a gun at someone. Never. Ever. Don't. Even if you verify it it IS unloaded.

[@sophiel787]

Yeah America is pretty messed up

[@jijitters]

I'm a USian and I feel the same as you. I despise guns and think they shouldn't exist, but even I have held one because in this country they'll find any excuse to put everyone in that situation, and it feels so sickeningly threatening to hold and lift a gun. I can't imagine being so careless.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Jup. I'm Dutch and I'm pretty sure I'll never see a gun in my life (besides in movies), let alone handle one. There's just no reason to know how they're loaded. 🤷

[@irishjournalgaming]

I have never interacted with a gun in my life, but I have heard so many horror stories of people accidentally shooting their family or friends. I even think guns and knives are actually kind of cool, but I would still treat a gun as carefully as a land mine. You can't fool around with that stuff

[@winebird8952]

I’m embarrassed to be american. I do not own guns because I know I wouldn’t survive my demons. But growing up in the country you learn gun safety and often shoot targets. It’s a kind of sport, like playing. Basketball or racing. We didn’t get good at shooting to hurt people, but just to be better than our friends. Disarming a firearm is typically as easy as dropping the magazine and clearing the chamber, which is done by cocking the gun. Some guns, such as pump action shotguns, have a slightly different requirement for clearing them, but if you are with the owner of the gun they can easily demonstrate proper firearm safety. It takes all of two minutes. “Do this to make it safe, do this to make it deadly, don’t point at anything you don’t want to kill, keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to shoot” Guns are terrifying, even when you have a really good understanding of them. Don’t believe me? Watch any shooting range fail videos. Professional shooters get VERY nervous when a firearm is not handled with utmost respect. No one should ever approach firearms as if they are a toy or a tool. They are a weapon. That said, shooting targets can be a lot of fun.

[@mindyourbusiness660]

The lack of empathy from the mom of the boyfriend in the first story is wild. Like, "yah you were discriminated against, but you should still be nice 😢" BFFR

[@davishropshire5361]

🚩🚩 on the potential future mom in law. If she has plans on marrying the guy she’s dating, hope she remembers you don’t just marry a person, you marry into a family

[@Lurkerlady]

Legit though what's wrong with responding to someone's nastiness with kindness? It proves that you are above such immature behavior and it makes the other person look even worse. Responding to hate with hate does not help anyone, and it just perpetuates more hate. Giving the waitress a tip and a comment about assuming the worst of people would have been more impactful than literally "proving" the woman's point and being snide about it. That waitress will go "see? I told you they don't tip well" and will continue making such horrible assumptions about people. The future MIL is somewhat right in that situation, if the woman still tipped it would have shown that she has a better character than the bitchy waitress. I don't understand this whole mentality of lowering yourself to other people's gross behaviors. It just shows that you're petty as shit and just as immature as the person making assumptions about people 🤦‍♀️.

[@quichehappens1544]

The mom in question is white and likely never been the subject of racism, very easy to shrug it off and say 'be the better person'.

[@lynniewood]

Yeah and she's white, who TF does she think she is telling a black woman how she should respond to racism and how nice she should be to racists? So so weird

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

@@davishropshire5361 I mean yes and no. You can choose to marry a person and not their family, but it is a bit of a conscious choice. I do agree that it's a pretty major red flag on the part of the mother-in-law though, I'd probably also bring that up with said boyfriend and if he tries to get all defensive that she's 'not racist' or whatever would probably just choose to get out of the relationship then and there.

[@BoatingMyFloat]

A lot of men with bigger egos are self absorbed in their own pleasure and dont consider making sure the other person is getting off too. Just plain selfishness and lack of empathy

[@beyondawesomegaming3517]

@@BoatingMyFloat I absolutely agree there, and I strive to be better myself in that regard. While I have an astronomical body count of 0 so I don’t know exactly what it’s like to get someone off, I’ve always had my own little fantasies with dates and just haven’t been able to do much with said fantasies since most of my dates are long distance. However I have always remained adamant because it is my actual feelings that I have an easier time getting off myself if I have the knowledge that my partner is enjoying it too. TLDR as Ronnie radke from falling in reverse one said “baby I get off by getting you off first”

[@catbatrat1760]

I watch the Beastars anime, and there's one scene where Bill the tiger is with his friends in a cafe, telling them a story of when his girlfriend started crying because he's only focused on pleasuring himself. And he almost sounded like he was mocking her? Idk, it was the English dub, idk if it's like that in the Japanese dub or the manga. Anyway, he then says "But the stripe pattern on her butt is so hot... I don't want to break up with her." And my immediate thought was "Then just... be a less selfish boyfriend?" I may be underestimating how hard it is to resist the temptation to only chase your own high, but ya gotta.

[@FeathersAnon]

​@catbatrat1760 Okay, fair enough, I don't remember that scene.

[@unichan5]

@@beyondawesomegaming3517That kind of attitude is extremely rare in dating or hooking up in general. Good on you and your partners that you think that way!

[@fibanocci314]

He took some space from his postpartum wife and newborn???? Naw.

[@fibanocci314]

@moon-moth1 Yeah, I was objecting to the wording, mostly. What a way to say it, huh?

[@Mediados]

I wouldn't say he cheated instantly, but this is someone who you don't want to end up with. Someone who will not listen to your end of the story and just assumes their first instinct to be the absolute truth.

[@TheAravisTarkheena]

Yeah, the guy sounded like a red flag to me

[@bucketofsunshine6366]

Yeah, postpartum is literally when you need your partner the most. It's stressful and you're filled with conflicting hormones and difficult even with a loving partner. The way he abandoned her and the baby pissed me off so hard.

[@judahbarracuda_]

“Optimism is not delusion, optimism is practical” wow I actually really needed to hear that today

[@jijitters]

Please stay optimistic! We need more and more of you in this world, and I hope you hold onto that optimistic part of you even when it's hard.

[@judahbarracuda_]

@@jijitters thank you :)))

[@tardybloomer]

RIGHT? ive only ever heard negative stuff about optimism since i was a kid. its time to change up my mindset about it.

[@xmiunax4385]

lovely comment section 😁

[@Ijjo-DOTOTK]

Optimism is not ignorance, it is hope for a brighter future

[@AdamGoodtime247]

The idea of tipping for bad service, let alone RACIST service is insanity to me.

[@theangelicpyro42]

i will say that cheaters tend to be a lot more paranoid about their partner and accuse them of infidelity due to their own shit

[@RemingtonScott-rp8se]

Oh yeah, definitely. Also I have no idea why, but some people will get super offended if you accuse them of cheating (which is a great indicator that they are in fact cheating on you)

[@nena41156]

​@@RemingtonScott-rp8se I agree. There's a HUGE difference between getting greatly offended and making a big scene vs feeling hurt and sad when a loved one accuses you of cheating and you're innocent.

[@eg_manifest510]

yeah according to a couple other comments they updated the story and turns out they did cheat, so yeah the paranoid ones often are the guilty ones themselves. "Thieves think the whole world steals" as they say

[@mountain_dreams]

someone else in the comments says there was an update to that story where he did admit to cheating so, guess y'all are right

[@GubbiGap]

Either that or people who have been cheated on in the past. My first boyfriend was a bit paranoid (although very little) at first because his previous ex cheated with his best friend. Idk why he was still friends with both of them but to each their own I guess. The thing with that is that after a few months he felt better and while it never fully went away it helped him knowing he could always talk to me if he for some reason had something on his mind. But even then the worst he ever did was message me and ask where I was when I wasn't at his place which was usually "I'm home playing League of Legends" or "I'm helping my mom around the house" and that was that. These messages disappeared after around 3 months when he got used to me answering within an hour or so and not getting mad at him for asking. I didn't particularly enjoy getting those messaged 'cause it made me feel a bit like he didn't trust me but because he was open and honest about his ex from the start I also understood and let it be.

[@mothmanlastname8454]

If my partner had left me to care for our child alone for three weeks over an inability to understand basic genetics and a paternity test that proved they were the father, I don't know that I'd stay with them, or ever let it go. That's tantamount to me accusing them of cheating every time an ex or a friend of theirs announces a pregnancy.

[@boneenthusiast2052]

not to mention if my mother in law instantly turned on me in a vicious "I'm going to make sure you have NOTHING" way over a false suspicion??? I can no longer trust my husband or his family at that point. Divorce !

[@ZeroChan]

GOOD NEWS! There was an update and she’s talking to divorce lawyers. In the middle of begging her to stay, she finds out he actually cheated on her. She’s not staying with him.

[@boneenthusiast2052]

@@ZeroChan good for her !!

[@jasperzatch610]

Hell yeah, I'd fucking leave them that was insane to hear. Especially him getting angry at her when she tried to play it off. I think he was planning on the affair and not taking care of the kid, so he was angry he had to for sure now

[@fakenamesam7453]

Im sorry but how the frick is a teenager literally trying to publicly harrass a women not concerning for the boy's parents? This is probably like every parent's worst nightmare. Im fricking 26M and Im feeling anxious by the simple thought of how this dude would turn out when he is older.

[@Jungleali]

Most Parents nowadays cannot raise a kid properly

[@fakenamesam7453]

@@Jungleali Yeah. The more I'm on the internet the more apparent this seems.

[@chloskyskies4399]

@@Junglealitbf i don’t think this issue is anywhere near new

[@Gale-the-Prophet]

@ Jungleali I wouldn’t call it “most” Many A very very disappointing and horrific many… But like actual population wise? No 70% of us are fucking HORRIFIED, and 30% are these fuckers who you’re *entirely* correct about… unfortunately T-T

[@frogsbongs]

​@@chloskyskies4399yeah I think a lot of people take the "boys will be boys" quote and run with it

[@dcarter455]

I don’t think this was about teaching her a lesson, and more about “you don’t deserve my money when it contingent upon service that was only good because of who i came with and not me”. You are not entitled to anyone’s hard earned money ESPECIALLY if you’re a raging unapologetic racist 🙄 I am a black woman living in the south and often get this experience and I make a point to not give my business to places where I am not respected, bc I am a generous tipper and no one is entitled to that money if they aren’t going to do their job well bc of my skin.

[@mxdnxght_moor]

Daniel not picking up on the massive red flags about that paternity test story is both hilarious and concerning. Husband definitely is not acting like a WALKING red flag screaming "divorce me and get this child away from me". He sounds totally secure and FULL of trust and faith in his wife. Also amazing emotional regulation and definitely DOES NOT pose a risk of emotional abuse in the future. Yeah. Real solid guy, this guy. Should make a great dad :D

[@Sirena860]

Lmao. That got me too.

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

He seemed a bit on the fence about it. I think he *wanted* to give the red flag sewn into the shape of a man the benefit of the doubt is all.

[@JaiAutumn94]

"kicking him while he's down" ?! how about the fresh mother, who knows it's his? being accused. then forced to heal and adapt to new motherhood without your husband and being berated by HIS family? that's being kicked while you're down. she was totally right in her reaction, he's just too big of a man baby to take it to the chin

[@ettinakitten5047]

The fact that he was "down" about finding out the kid was his is very concerning.

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

@@ettinakitten5047 Yeah straight up even if I were a nincompoop who thought that you had to match at least one of your parents' features to the T in order to know genetically that you were related that's a moment of relief and education not a moment of 'down'ness

[@bucketofsunshine6366]

This exactly. So glad to see the updates in the comments that she's leaving him.

[@Neithie]

Also wtf with the genetics guy... look, it's not bad to be shocked if you don't know a lot about genetics, but the first thing he jumped t o was CHEATING? Not baby swapped at hospital or something? And then he just leaves her with a newborn? I'd argue her laughter was a natural stress release as well after that.... hormones, no sleep, up to her elbows in baby mess, yikes.

[@dalailarose1596]

I actually met a pair of kids who were accidentally swapped at birth, so yeah, it has happened! They were both gingers, too, even tho none of the 4 parents were.

[@jijitters]

It's also completely illogical, because the baby also didn't look anything like her, and that alone should've clued the guy into the fact that hair/eye color are not a universal 1:1 copy-paste.

[@GubbiGap]

@@jijitters Ohhh that's so true wtf I didn't even think of that xD dude's actually just dumb

[@allisoncastle]

@@jijitters omg trueee I think so many people (including myself) forgot that part of it

[@GrahamCarle]

it's because he cheated and was projecting. it came out in a later update and she divorced him.

[@feliscodylinae]

Third story is the epitome of "guilty until proven innocent". Don't run with your first conclusion and then make other people suffer the consequences of your ignorant zealousness

[@fibanocci314]

Turns out he was cheating and they're divorced now

[@mountain_dreams]

For the last story this apparently a pretty common thing. Ive seen tons of stuff throughout reddit and such where guys are saying that women dont need to org*sm, or that they dont believe women can at all and are just making it up. so...

[@steamyvegetables1445]

This is why I am glad to still be a virgin.🙃

[@bear9295]

Guess they listen to fresh and fit a lot

[@TrueImmortality]

To be married to someone and to tell them their pleasure isn't important is awful. Like, divorce worthy awful.

[@Patrickisat]

Dude Tipping needs to just fucking go away, IMO. I get people rely on tips for staying alive at best... but the places they work should provide actual pay.

[@slavicandroid1999]

We have that in Europe already, tips here are pretty much just a reward for excellent service, not expected at all

[@TrixyTrixter]

Agree. Tipping culture is terrible and people need to stop giving tips as a standard.

[@dragonfan8647]

Tipping is fine. The problem is having an optional(!) service fee and calling it tipping.

[@NerdAlert42]

​@@TrixyTrixterthe problem is people literally need it to live bc they're paid less than minimum wage- we shouldn't get rid of tipping until that issue is fixed, and unfortunately, that doesn't look like it's gonna happen 😢

[@TrixyTrixter]

@@NerdAlert42 Here is a tip then: Don't apply for a job where they are paying you less than you need to live. You are creating the problem by accepting this and blaming the people that had nothing to do with it. Edit: And of course tipping still exists not like we could get rid of it, but it would be what it should be. Completely optional.

[@zach-shea]

"Optimism is practical" and "They're gonna bleed on you" Daniel with the bangers

[@capnbootz]

For the third story; of all the partners I’ve had, a very low percentage have “tried” Most guys I’ve been with have literally just assumed that what works for them works for me too, which a lot of the time has not been the case. Or they’re just selfish and don’t care (which has been the case the older I’ve gotten)

[@Jupiter-T]

Are the straights ok :(

[@kindauncool]

oh boo why didnt you tell them

[@KarinaJivkova]

There's also this thing of assuming that what worked for a previous partner will work for the current one as well. People are different and like different things so it's better to talk about it rather than assume.

[@bucketofsunshine6366]

I'm trying to decide how lucky I need to feel that out of the few men I've been with, all of them tried their damndest to make sure I was taken care of. I've never been with someone who wasn't turned on to see me... enjoying my time with him, as it were. Lol.

[@Rose_Castle]

I like not being American. Here it is nice to know that your servers are being paid well and they treat you nicely because that is just....their job. And if you are rude to them they may just give you some back because being mildly snarky isn't going to decide if rent is paid.

[@randomlittlewaffle]

This comment needs way more likes

[@jijitters]

After your first sentence I thought you were going to mention being relieved you don't have to worry about guns 😭 There are a lot of reasons not to like the USA huh.

[@TrixyTrixter]

​@@jijitters Na, I worry about guns because the only people around me who has them are criminals who don't care about laws.

[@jijitters]

​@TrixyTrixter 🍅 🍅 🍅 🍅 🍅 🍅 "b-but if bad guys have guns then all the """"""good guys""""" should have them too that's totally fair and logical right?!" is peak American idiot delusion, don't fall down that hole.

[@oni7488]

@@jijitters As someone who recently moved out of the states I *am* very relieved about that!

[@Ryokhael]

There is an appalling number of men and (het) women who think the female orgasm isn't real or doesn't matter because it's not vital to the making of babies. I've found this to be an especially common mindset in communities with a more conservative and religious populace. I have personal experience with this, but I'm not sure how explicit I want to get on the internet. lol

[@steamyvegetables1445]

This is why I am glad to still be a virgin.🙃

[@jaadn6197]

​@@steamyvegetables1445 wym?

[@steamyvegetables1445]

@jaadn6197 I am glad that I am a virgin cuz typically men are terrible bed and use women. Like what's the point of having se* with a guy when he gets to c*m and you don't, leaving you se*ually frustrated, feeling like a used c*m sock. Like fingers and toys can get the job done better than most men.

[@steamyvegetables1445]

@jaadn6197 I am glad that I am a virgin cuz typically men are terrible bed and use women. Like what's the point of having se* with a guy when he gets to cum and you don't, leaving you se*ually frustrated, feeling like a used c*m sock. Like fingers and toys can get the job done better than most men.

[@Gorblebim]

I was taking my meds when you told me to pour one out so now I have to pick up depression meds off the floor

[@sophiel787]

I spit on my chest…..

[@Hulana42]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Tues48]

22:29 "Every guy with an ego will try" I had an ex who couldn't make me.... you know. He knew, we talked about it. I told him what i liked, he said no. He got mad cause i couldn't finish with him. He thought it was because he didn't last long. Which was not the case. The real reason was he didn't/wouldn't touch the pleasure button most female bodies have and that i was begging him to do so. Yeah, we broke.up. not for that reason specifically but it was amoung the list of reason.

[@cynister7384]

Did he just straight up refuse to touch you there? Why? I don't understand these types of men.

[@Tues48]

@@cynister7384 I forgot the exact line but it was mostly I should get off from being in me and nothing else so the fact I couldn't meant he wasn't lasting long enough ( in his eyes) and I kept telling him otherwise.

[@cynister7384]

@@Tues48 Glad he's an ex.

[@Tues48]

@@cynister7384 you and me both lol

[@shadenox8164]

Turns out guys with inflated egos don't listen.

[@antine1279]

A family member had a son who was a war veteran. The war had just recently ended and himself and his best friend were in a bar drinking, laughing and having fun. They were joking around and the friend pointed a gun at my cousin, forgetting it was loaded, "haha so funny, look at us having fun", the gun went off by accident and my cousin was killed. He was in his 20s. His mum was devastated, ended up in the hospital severly depressed. Luckily, she managed to move on eventually. This was nearly 30 years ago. The friend that shot him never forgave himself. It was an accident, he is not in jail and he's a good person (was also in his 20s when this happened) but it fucked him up for life. Way more so than the war did. Moral of the story: GUNS ARE MEANT TO KILL PEOPLE, NEVER EVER FUCK AROUND WITH THEM!!!!

[@allisoncastle]

Oh my god. Him dying from a gunshot RIGHT AFTER getting home from the war is a new level of heartbreaking.

[@kaylynnirvinesthetics]

As someone who has been a server in more than one establishment, the treatment these women were receiving prior to her bf and his mom showing up is absolutely deplorable. No matter if you as the server think the table is going to tip well or not, it is your job to give them stellar service and NOT be blatantly racist. I worked at a country club and had multiple older people who came in everyday and NEVER tipped. I still served them and treated them as great as I would have treated someone who was an extremely well tipper. After a while, these people started to tip me because of how I treated and served them. I will always tip even if the service is not great, however, in this situation she did not deserve a tip because of her actions and the words she spoke. I think the OP is completely in the right in this situation. Hopefully this racist waitress learned a lesson, but I doubt it.

[@DiZoSoMom]

I agree with you on a lot of your takes on things, but the paternity one… nope. Saying “he could’ve said ‘I trust you, but I wanna be sure with a test’”?! That is an absolute oxymoron. You don’t trust someone and accuse them at the same time. This poor woman did nothing wrong! She was ridiculed, accused of the WORST betrayal, and left alone to recover from a major medical issue. Then he went and bitched to his family to get them to gang up on her?!! This is wild. Genetics are insane and it’s common knowledge. She needs to just walk away from that manchild. He cannot parent a child as a child himself.

[@davidprince6877]

I've seen similar stories end in weird switched at birth stuff. The test might be worth doing. That dude does suck though.

[@VictarisGX]

"Being the arzhole can and should affect your wages." BIG FACTS

[@Rose_Castle]

"Pour one out for the boyfriend." Why?? Hes not the one who has never gotten to pour one out before. And the reality is that there are...a lot of guys who make little to no effort. They don't try to figure out what works and what doesn't and really the ego thing is something they put back onto the woman. There is something wrong with HER. His strategy of "put it in, take it out, put it in take it out" is a winner and she isbthe problem. Leading to women either giving up and just being passive participants or faking orgasm. I do not believe that they have never had a conversation about it. I dont believe they have had less than 10 about it.

[@antine1279]

Many years ago I had a boyfriend who kept blaming me for not being able to have an orgasm. The amount of times he said "there's something wrong with you, it's all in your head" is unbelievable. In fairness to him, he wasn't wrong - I wasn't attracted to him. Luckily, he's an ex.

[@cynister7384]

@@antine1279 Gee, I wonder why you weren't attracted to him...

[@steamyvegetables1445]

​@@antine1279 This is why I am glad to still be a virgin.🙃

[@Becks-and-books]

Yeppp. I've been with a couple of guys and NONE of them would do a thing to "help on it's way" during sex. A few of them made efforts before, but neverrrr during. It was so hilarious when they'd ask "did you come" when all they did was go in and out

[@Omnomnomnoma]

Hell yeah!! You tell them!! I completely agree with you

[@faerie.1]

“it’s a beautiful day, for AITA…H.”

[@JerryCuberton]

I'm best friends with my own front door

[@marcuswestphal1994]

If you have such little faith in your partner that you would do what that guy did, you absolutely should not be bringing a child into a world. What a scumbag.

[@melodyconte]

22:20 It's not the case. Any guy with an ego gets mad at you for not confirming he's a stud. You'll say "harder" and he'll stop and mope because you told him what to do.

[@c.jishnu378]

Wtf.

[@michellemuenich7432]

Literally PRECIOUS that Daniel cannot conceive of being with multiple men who don't try.

[@callitags]

There is no "I trust you, but .." Asking for a paternity test is an accusation of cheating. Once you introduce that into a relationship, there is no going back. It may not end the relationship, but it changes it, and your partner has to live with that cloud of your distrust and the terrible thing you thought about them.

[@shadenox8164]

I could maybe see being concerned there was a mixup at the hospital, but man went straight to cheating.

[@Nowheres_Channel]

"Am I the arsehole" has taught me more about moral consideration than elementary ever could.

[@empressmarowynn]

I've been with entirely too many guys who wouldn't even attempt to get me off. Like I'd be telling them exactly what to do and they would refuse. I had one boyfriend who reluctantly used his mouth one single time in the year we were together and afterwards said "You're lucky I love you because that was disgusting." And yet my family wonders why I've been intentionally single for over a year. I have rechargeable devices that make me much happier than literally any person I've been with and I don't have to worry about someone disrespecting me.

[@Jupiter-T]

This makes me sad. I don't understand this mindset. When I tried "using my mouth" on a woman the first time, I was a bit overwhelmed by the sensory aspect of it. I was HEARTBROKEN about this, and I told my girlfriend despite being embarrassed. She told me it was ok if I could never do it again. We ended up making it work - I didn't do it every time, but I eventually ended up acquiring the "taste" for it, and we also found ways to improve the sensory aspect (towels and a less chemically soap). Sorry if this is TMI. But the point is, I can't fathom why someone wouldn't care about the pleasure of the person they supposedly love.

[@Violet-Sky-4580]

As a kid my siblings and my cousins and I used to play w nerf guns all the time and I cannot tell you the number of times I thought my gun was unloaded and jokingly pointed it at someone only to have it go off. It got to the point that the oldest had to sit me and my little brother down and tell us that if we ever did it again he wouldn't be friends w us anymore. As a kid it really hurt but it taught me my lesson really well and I'm glad he did it. Occasionally I would do it out of habit and I'd immediately get this sinking feeling in my stomach and aim it down. (We had a convo about it at an older age and he apologized dw) but it sure taught me gun safety.

[@katherineknapp3782]

Story 3 had me so sad-mad. That fool destroyed his family life because he couldn’t be assed to learn that dominant and recessive traits exist. I’m not saying everybody has to know that. But I think you should try to look into how traits are inherited before you abandon a baby. Ideally.

[@kodomoshawn6729]

Apparently he later confessed that HE was cheating on her. So, it wasn't actually about how the baby looked.

[@katherineknapp3782]

Oh, that does track. To be as righteously sure as he was, he’d have be either stupid or projecting.

[@MirshikarSilivren]

first rule of gun safety is the opposite of fight club, "AWAYS TALK ABOUT IT". rule 1.1 is "Never point at something you aren't prepared to shoot."

[@burpie_b0wie]

The first story reminds me of a situation that happened like a week ago. I was with my dad and we went to a restaurant, the place was very busy and I saw maybe like three waiters/waitresses running around like crazy. Our waitress was very kind and very apologetic. But unfortunately we didn’t get our food for like an hour, and I have to admit, the food was quite disgusting. We did not enjoy it at all. But we did get it for free because of the long wait. Even with the bad food and the long waiting, we still tipped our waitress. I didn’t blame her for our poor service, it seemed she was overwhelmed and doing her best and obviously the bad food was not her fault in the slightest. That just shows, if you are a kind person and show respect to whoever you serve, you really will get something nice in return. Sometimes people are complete assholes and no matter your hospitality they will treat you horribly. But if you continue with your service in a respectful manner, then good will come to you!

[@saratonin_music]

I was actually so shocked that Daniel reacted with pouring one out for the HUSBAND?? How about pouring one out for the WIFE good lordy… he is embarrassed AND SHE HAS NEVER CAME BEFORE one is much worse than the other

[@sassberrysnap]

RIGHT???? WHAT. ALSO "Any man with an ego is gonna try" Daniel... Daniel.... most men with egos DON'T try... Edit: he changed his opinion halfway through I hadn't gotten there yet

[@PB-qe6ce]

If she hadn't talked to him before I would say she was wrong from bringing it up in front of their friends because it is the type of talk you have in private, but she did and he was a jerk about it so serves him right to get called out like that.

[@PhotonLemonade]

I mean, by that point he had only read the headline and generally speaking you shouldn’t be revealing very private information to dozens of friends… it only becomes clear that the boyfriend is an asshole after you discover that he doesn’t care about her orgasms and that information is more than halfway through the post. Therefore when he said “pour one out” he didn’t yet realise that, hence why he changes his mind halfway through

[@raikasha8152]

Well cause he didn't have full context and it brings out the empathy of being horribly emasculated since he's ya know, a man. It's not rocket science

[@luciadreaming9]

Yeah I was disappointed right off the bat🥲

[@suzannahbrough]

Okay but the "Keep it to yourself" song was actually fire 🔥🔥

[@BoatingMyFloat]

timestamp: 7:38

[@BoatingMyFloat]

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[@Lotschi]

🔥

[@blu.dru_]

"Fear is stupid." -Daniel Thrasher, August 2024 words to 👏live👏by👏

[@strawberryfox8819]

A 15-17 year old isn't that much of a kid. They're a minor, yes, but children at the age of 6 learn and understand not to touch someone without their permission. There is no excuse for a teenager to try and unty someone's top without their permission, much less that of an adult. Her reaction was not over the top, it was entirely perfect for that act. I'm sorry, but perpetrators of SA and harassment don't learn through lectures, they only learn through consequences. His parents obviously downplay what he did, so he probably got away with it more than once. Her slapping him might be the only real consequence he ever received for a crime like that (which it is). And he smirked, so he obviously knew what he was doing. A slap was more than okay, personally I would've screamed at him as well, make his crime the center of attention because that type of person can't handle Humiliation.

[@KimbiW]

Babies look like a potato for their like first several months, and then they generally look like a generic baby. I don’t know how you can say the baby doesn’t look like it’s parents when it looks like a potato

[@hello93617]

I'm in a city that gets a lot of Canadian tourists, and indeed, they do not tip. They have an entirely different system called "paying servers a livable wage" and are surprised that we pay for a meal, and then pay the wages of the person who brings us the meal.

[@SnowyOwl369]

That one dude must've failed 8th grade biology

[@i.a.m.g.1862]

2nd story, kid deserved the slap and husband is an ass for saying she overreacted. Why ain’t nobody talking about that? It’s disgusting how many of men don’t support their partners of women in general in these cases. His reaction is also part of the problem

[@calvinadinaro2367]

Daniel is probably the most qualified person to react to these wild reddit stories. He's super smart and ADHD. The perfect combo for funny and sofiscticated reactions. Keep this up!

[@Cipher_Paul]

Yeah, I always felt like a bunch of guys don't even try to please their partner. They just want to empty themselves I guess.

[@GogiRegion]

So TECHNICALLY the AR-15 wasn't designed with the purpose of mowing people down. It was intended to be a less lethal (to someone at long range wearing protective equipment) but higher magazine size alternative to the AK-47. Why would they want it less lethal? Because a wounded soldier requires care from other soldiers while a dead one can be left behind. It was effectively designed to fire a lot of bullets at long range (300+ feet/100+ meter combat) in order to overwhelm military hospitals. The difference between a pistol and an AR-15 is range of lethality and max magazine size.

[@UBERsnosluoc]

Speak

[@gender_anarchist]

Because of genetics, if there is blonde hair and blue eyes anywhere at all in either family, you can have a blonde/blue baby from two brown/brown parents. The opposite is not true

[@alicelaybourne1620]

The opposite is not GENERALLY true. Much like albinism, and other chromosomal mutations, our outward appearance doesn't always match Mendelian genetics. It is 99.99% accurate but it is not impossible. In this case, it is incredibly common in the United States (melting pot) for brown hair/brown eyes to have a blonde hair and blue eyes. 1/4 for either trait, 1/16 for both. Leaping to "you cheated on me" is rough. glad they did the test and didn't increase the power struggle.

[@gender_anarchist]

@@alicelaybourne1620 Thank you for speaking the nuance, something I'm not always good at :)

[@Kylandris20]

babies are all kinds of confusing though. my naturally blonde friend with two naturally blonde parents was born with a full head of black hair. there was definitely confusion at that birth, since the common belief is "the opposite is not true" as you say. she ended up looking very much like both parents later.

[@KattoTang]

While the majority of humans as a whole are born with brown eyes, the majority of white babies specifically are born with paler eyes, many of which darken as they get older. Only a small percentage of white babies are born with brown eyes. I (and also one of my brothers) was part of that small percentage, being born with very dark brown eyes. Babies can also look like their grandparents or other close relatives rather than looking like the parents. I almost certainly got my dark eyes from my maternal grandfather, since while my mom has brown eyes, they're a pale brown, with a hazel-ish hue, and my dad has hazel eyes. Both my grandmothers had hazel eyes, and my paternal grandfather had blue eyes. Only my maternal grandfather had dark eyes. I think I'd count as proof that the opposite can be true, it's just not common.

[@Becks-and-books]

fun thing is! Green eyed parents can have brown-eyed babies, because green eyes are technically brown ;) Figured that one out when my niece came out with dark brown eyes when my sister and BIL have green eyes (sister has green eyes with flecks of brown) (my niece is identical to her paternal aunt so anyone who thinks anyone was cheating)

[@antine1279]

Let me blow your mind, Daniel. That is NOT the case. Not all men care. In my experience, most don't. And those that do often put in very little effort and then blame the woman when it doesn't work. Sorry love, it's just the truth

[@avevee9708]

The paternity test one: Yeah he’s the one cheating. I’m just saying it’s always the people who insist that someone is cheating are the ones who have something to hide

[@portlyminnow8402]

You would be surprised to learn how many men simply do not care if you finish as long as they finish. They think that if it was good for them, it was good for you too.

[@BecauseImBatmanFilms]

My favorite thing about Daniel's specific version of these types of videos is that he usually tries to give the best possible interpretation of the "adversary" in the stories.

[@Howeydoit]

Optimism is not delusion, optimism is practical. Now that's a phrase I'd get tattooed

[@Altmetalpunk]

As a server the garunteed bad tippers are church people on sundays. I use to work up the street from 3 churches and we were lucky to get a tip and not a jesus card. Like "thanks, my half of rent is 450/prayers a month. I dont even need the $2.75/hr im making."

[@user-mb9yl5bl9r]

Daniel saying “op” like black ops vs “oh p” kills me

[@Altmetalpunk]

Blond hair and blue eyes are also recessive traits so both parents could have brown hair and brown eyes but have a blond kid because someone in your family like 3 generations back had those genes.

[@crittercre8r]

I've only ever had one guy try. I'll never be with anyone else who doesn't care if I'm taken care of.

[@nicolewood7957]

24:07 he cares so much what his friends think but he don’t give a single damn that his wife doesn’t get off 😩😩😩

[@HolldollMcG]

23:15 I ACTUALLY CACKLED AT "MORMON??"

[@cassiopee26]

The fact that this kid was feeling at ease to SA OP without worrying about the consequences WHILE HIS PARENTS ARE THERE is craaazy! It was def not his first time and I hope it'll be the last, but considering his parents reaction I'd be surprised.

[@fredarooni21]

Daniel: "Do people do that? is my mind about to be blown?" Also Daniel: "What is wrong with you, you selfish maniac?!" One of the good ones ;)

[@alicelaybourne1620]

Gun story: I feel the friend with guns was the irresponsible one. He is the owner and should never hand a weapon (loaded or not) to an untrained person. I try not to make assumptions, but she is definitely untrained (likely wouldn't know how to clear a weapon if her life depended on it) because gun safety 101 is NEVER brandish a weapon (raise weapon towards another or in a shooting position). If she was trained she wouldn't skulk, she would be embarrassed and apologize profusely. That said, the nurse is right, that is how I have seen MANY gunshot victims in the hospital. They swore it wasn't loaded. Some were crying children who shot their parents. Truly high level of danger, NTAH

[@jijitters]

I didn't think about that until reading your comment but you're completely correct. A girl walked in the room and he just handed her a gun without even discussing it first? Bad idea #1!

[@NoiseDay]

The first red flag is that he had the guns in the first place. Second red flag is showing them off to his friend.

[@shadenox8164]

@@NoiseDay Nah. I have friends who own guns they're responsible with them and are very nice people. The red flag is people who wear guns like fashion accessories or get mad if you call a gun a weapon.

[@izumisomthing8178]

I have actually been with some guys who find it a burden to finish off anyone else but themself😅 So yes, they do exist Dont find her to be an asshole for brining it up with other female friends. Would have been something else if she told his male friends. But even then she wouldnt be the bad guy for telling the truth. If her husband doesnt like the truth then he should do something to change that

[@steamyvegetables1445]

This is why I am glad to still be a virgin.🙃

[@BagelBoy42]

“If they’re wounded they’re gonna bleed on you and then the rest of your life you’re gonna be cleaning up blood for both of you” that’s hard

[@allisonstevens9592]

Used to work at a pizza restaurant delivering pizza. There was some of my coworkers that didn't want to take the delivery because "they were black and never tip" I thought that was BS and took the order, and of course there were no issues. I delivered to their house several times after that with still no issue. This experience confirmed for me that there is no way your black customers aren't picking up on your terrible attitude and distain for them, so why do you expect a tip from them if you treat them like crap? Isn't that just common sense?

[@SweetCarolineBAMBAMBAM]

3:00 "Optimism isn't delusion. Optimism is practical"❤

[@TheAndie130]

I spent many years with partners who were too lazy to try to "get me across the finish line", but with my current husband of 15 years that has never been a problem because we discuss what works and try things. Communication is the key in any relationship, and sex talk is vital too.

[@steamyvegetables1445]

This is why I am glad to still be a virgin.🙃

[@TheAndie130]

@@steamyvegetables1445 ah the uncomplicated life of a virgin. I envy you.

[@TheBallingers3]

On the pool story, I wish there was an update where the kid had to take a plea deal to avoid time in juvie. That park should be facing a lawsuit, and the only reason they didn’t is because the woman felt some unwarranted shame. Her husband is TA as well, and should have 100% supported her physical reaction. On the gun story- people have AR-15s because it’s a right that shall not be infringed. And I agree that he talked to her like she was stupid because she made a stupid mistake. I blame her parents, though. My 2 kids, 8 and 12, both know that first rule of gun safety. Neither would point any weapon other than a nerf or water gun at another person.

[@roselover411]

OP with the paternity test needs to kick husband's ass to the curb. Not only was he severely doubting her loyalty by thinking she cheated, but he left them alone for the first 5 weeks after birth for her to care for the baby herself (what if her sis couldn't be there to help?) and after learning that he was indeed the father, he threw another tantrum about her laughing that he had doubted her erroneously? I'm not remotely surprised that he was cheating on HER, as cheaters almost always project that onto everyone else around them.

[@maranathaschraag5757]

the first reaction to a child shouldn't be 'paternity test to confirm you didn't cheat'. maybe 'paternity test to make sure they didn't swap the babies'. and you have to stay and support your partner and the baby! you can't just bail. that alone would be divorce territory. if there is any Scandinavian blood in their families this is super normal. I had white hair until i hit puberty. AND - if he's accusing her of cheating, he's probably cheating.

[@cjd3053]

I was expecting at 24:45 for him to say, "if you don't respect them, then 🎶 KEEEEEP TOOOO YOURRSELLFFFF🎶"

[@thonatmo]

I agree with your confliction over the first situation. But I also can't get over the fact that it is not OP's onus to teach racist people how to act or "end" racism. There is a discussion to be had on whether revenge is justified, but as a white person I can only imagine the anger and I would totally be on her side.

[@shadenox8164]

Yeah, I'm never going to tell a minority they have to be a certain way to try and earn people's respect or prove them wrong. There's a term for that I can't remember, but it's something racists place on black people in particular a lot.

[@D3ad_art]

With the story about the big O, I've never personally and it's typically not from a lack of care, it's from a lack of knowledge. Men tend to forget that women and afab people have a very different experience when it comes to sex

[@Cieloan]

The husband with the paternity test is a jerk. Asking for a paternity test would be grounds for divorce--how can you be married to someone who trusts you so little?

[@tabathaalshalhoub1653]

I’ve also walked out of restaurants for not being served. One time, it was an Applebees because my husband, daughter, and I were the only ones in the place and no one came near us for 15 minutes. Also, don’t threaten SA charges. Just file them. Seriously. He needs a wake up call and his coddling parents means that he absolutely will try it (and worse) again.

[@hehefrog281]

for the last story: ego doesn’t play a huge part in it in my experience. most (not all thankfully) guys i’ve been with have never tried or even wanted to try getting me off. some had huge ass egos and didn’t and some were very insecure and didn’t. guys who genuinely care about their partner and if they have a good time will try, because they want a good time for both people involved.

[@lisapeesalemonsqueezah3241]

My experience is very similar.

[@Maddie-behappyyournotdead]

"SurpRIse microphone!!" 0:17 Not the voice crack 🤣

[@chinemapictures]

20:37 babes im not pouring shit out for anyone until they can make me pour ok????

[@chinemapictures]

Some men need to be publically shamed 😂😂😂

[@tbull1545]

no counter suit for SA should have had the kid arrested right there instead of bluffing.

[@NeuroNotTypical]

There are very few situations I think yelling at someone is appropriate, and genuinely dangerous situations is absolutely it. When someone is putting you in very real danger, it is 100% very appropriate to yell at them. She pointed a gun at his face. There are so many situations where someone DIED because a gun was thought to be empty, but it wasn’t. She has absolutely no grasp of how dangerous her behavior was in that moment. It reminds me of a Reddit story about a guy who broke up with a girl because she kept tickling him WHILE HE WAS DRIVING and almost got them into a really bad accident after he told her multiple times to never tickle him. She couldn’t understand that she almost killed them and totaled his car, and she tried to say she was “scared of him” when he yelled “WTF” at her after getting out of the car. Absolutely insane.