My Natural at Home Water Birth did NOT go as Planned | Birthing Story

[@SquishySquatter]

i grew up watching you, you were like my youtube mom. the first channel i ever subscribed to was “ihascupquake”. now i’m 15 and you’re an actual momma 🥰 i’m so proud of how far both of us have come in life. love you tiffy 💜

[@unaconchadulce5391]

Same! And im 15 too!!

[@TheMarshmallowMushroom]

same, but i'm 16

[@trezyounan793]

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[@TheMarshmallowMushroom]

@@trezyounan793 ???

[@danishalongneck3242]

Me too but I’m 19

[@madrose26]

I remember watching your Oasis series as a kid and how you were afraid of having a baby in real life. I’m turning 19 this month and seeing you now with your own baby makes me feel enlightened to see how you grew as a person, and how I hope to grow like you too!

[@arianaegan5064]

LITERALLY SAME BRO IM SO HAPPYYY

[@Lexiz2902]

Same! I’ll be 19 next month though lol

[@beep_beep_]

Me too! :)

[@madrose26]

TURNING 19 CUPPYQUAKE GANG

[@seasonedglue9178]

i felt this. im also 19 but i just had my first baby too so i was like shook to head she was pregnant 😭

[@rain_gamingyt]

Hearing Red cry and him saying that he was happy that the baby was ok and alive and that tiffy was ok too, that bit broke me. They both are going to be such great, loving, and supportive parents. I've been having baby fever(I AM NOT planning on having one anytime soon but I get waves of baby fever) and hearing stories like Tiffs kinda reassure me because, I know it isn't the same for everyone, but if I ever went through something similar I kinda know what to expect Tiff and Mario you guys are such troopers, getting through all that to finally be rewarded with your beautiful baby boy. I know he is going to be a great addition to your family and to the world Sending love

[@crescent_foxx1014]

I get waves of baby fever too, even though I don't plan on having kids for a long time. Babies are just so precious!

[@hdjshdjsus9222]

As a woman who plans to have children in the future this vlogging through every week and telling your story and experiences is just beautiful and really eye opening I almost cried

[@slightlyclueless]

I'm so glad you decided to go to the hospital when you did. So many babies suffer injuries because the vision of that perfect home birth distracted from the ultimate goal- bringing a healthy child safely into the world. I hope your recovery goes smoothly and that you enjoy your time with your growing family.

[@TheMarsymars]

Exactly this!

[@DARTHYURI]

Yes! I just wish she would have been told to go in sooner due to all the symptoms she was having. Could have gone very wrong.

[@jaynecrafter2684]

@Mrs.Maplesyrup They don't cherry pick data.. most of the birth's in the uk which are low risk are home births.. along with several other places.. it depends on the midwife and their training. she sadly didn't get a very good midwife or they would have immediately known something was up!

[@jaynecrafter2684]

@Mrs.Maplesyrup Home births definitely aren't for everyone and sometimes do go wrong but so do hospital births.. no one should ever feel pressured to stay home and birth if that is just not what they are comfterble with

[@jaynecrafter2684]

@Mrs.Maplesyrup wasn't defensive or trying to be rude. Maybe your reading my typing wrong. I was agreeing with you for the most part. Not sure why you saw it as defensive or rude.

[@sherilynl4038]

congratulations to you all. and yep..."Surrender" was a word that became a mantra...all through the raising of our kids. neither of my two births were the way they were "planned" and both of them were completely different, too. glad you were flexible enough with yours that you went to the hospital. hope you are getting some rest now, as best you can.

[@vtirado925]

Red sobbing broke my heart! I can't imagine but I'm so happy you and baby are safe. I wish you guys nothing but happiness and blessing on this new chapter

[@quinnherrin8561]

the likes are at 666! nothing but positive energy here ✨

[@sarasearbear1]

We found out we were pregnant at the same time! We both had boys and we both share the same birth story! I planned for a natural water birth but was met with an emergency c-section. My heart broke. You are not alone! You are completely right! It's the first lesson of parenthood! 💙

[@yankis.]

Your heart broke because your baby was saved by actual professionals? smh

[@devaneegarcia8428]

@@yankis. her heart broke bc things didn’t go as she expected, it’s hard for mothers. Bc you’ll have it all planned and think it will go that way and when it doesn’t it becomes scary and heartbreaking. Don’t shame her bc things didn’t happen the way she thought it would

[@prettygirlgaming6047]

Congratulations ❤

[@prettygirlgaming6047]

@@yankis. you obviously didn’t understand why her heart is broken and that’s okay❤

[@victorzamae4176]

As a doctor, watching this got me desperate when you said your belly was starting to become a peanut shape 😰😰😰 that's a sign to emergency C-section due to risk of a uterine rupture! I'm glad you're okay and recovering just fine

[@Cove_Blue]

I'm very upset that this wasn't a sign to the others there to get her to a hospital

[@sumiechieru5507]

Pardon my ignorance, cuz I am genuinely curious, but do midwives (or any one of the other healthcare professionals with her during the home birth) have the credentials and medical knowledge to recognize what a "Bandl's Ring" is? Cuz I too was shocked that no one saw it as a sign to go to the hospital and have it checked tbh (btw I'm not pushing the blame on anybody here, I'm just wondering is all lol).

[@Cove_Blue]

@@sumiechieru5507 You'd hope they're educated in all possibilities and if not then in being able to tell when something is out of their league or someone is in a dangerous, potentially life threatening position. Her potentially showing signs of shock after 3 days of labor with only 3cm dilation and the abnormality of the shape of her stomach should've been enough for them to call an ambulance to at least get her checked out if she wouldn't go voluntarily. They should have their licenses revoked. They could have died. Sorry but I am livid about this.

[@EcoJulie-vx6rx]

If she were to get pregnant again, would she still have Bandl’s ring?

[@Heoz]

@@EcoJulie-vx6rx if they were reluctant to get pregnant once I don't think she'll risk it with a second.

[@caitlin2649]

As a new l&d nurse, hearing your story I grew increasingly stressed with each red flag that popped up. I'm so glad that you went to the hospital when you did, and that God protected you from uterine rupture or something else happening to your sweet baby.

[@Violet-qf8dr]

I surprised no one even bothered to check on her on Friday. They could have at !east made a quick stop to make sure the baby's heartbeat was still going strong and to just check on her as well.

[@19aml89]

@@Violet-qf8dr Hard agree - something could have gone seriously wrong!

[@Thebeezzkneezz.]

How could the midwives not know she had a bandl ring??

[@flameepidemic4839]

Im not a nurse but ive seen many births and i was like omg why arent they going to the hospital and omg i was so stressed watching this

[@luxconcept]

Shouldn’t the 4 midwives have caught it? Like is that a red flag?

[@SpaceCroissant]

congrats tiffy!! although things didn't go as planned, glad baby is happy and healthy!! wishing you lots of love and happiness with your new family, you and red are already such great parents with all you've done to prepare for the baby boy :) ❤

[@Aaaahna]

I didn’t expect to see you here Space Croissant 😭

[@YurLocalNerd]

Omg hi didn't expect to see you. I just watched one of your videos before this 🤣 glad to see you here honestly

[@akk385]

i'm teary eyed, watching someone who was there through most of your own childhood get a family of their own is truly such a happy feeling, congratulations!! I'm relieved you and the baby are alright. Get as much rest as you need

[@autumnpayton9067]

I’ve never cried so hard during a video. I’m so proud of you! Even though things didn’t go as planned, you did it! You really really did it! You and Mario helped raise me for years, and I’m so excited to see how you both grow and become amazing parents. I’m so proud of you! Congratulations to you both 💕

[@ponsxl3596]

Me too I’m so happy for her

[@edenarmeli6058]

this story made me cry so hard. birth is so unpredictable and scary. my daughters birth was an induction but it went so smoothly, and im pretty positive ill not have the same luck next time. im SO glad that all of you are okay, and I hope you're taking the time to grieve the birth you wanted, because that's important too.

[@anak6748]

I’m so glad that both you and baby are healthy! Hearing Red’s voice when the doctors announced that baby was okay made me start crying. I was a C-section baby myself, but it was because I never flipped my head down into birthing position Wishing you guys a beautiful and happy first months together with baby!

[@roopkd]

I was too, ended up giving my mom and myself a fever coming out. But Reds voice really calmed me down knowing the baby is okay

[@Sapphyyyy]

yeah i was a c-section cause my moms uterus was slanted from my older sisters birth so I had to be removed. and hearing red made me feel so glad and calm.

[@chicanalex4529]

I was a c- section baby too, but because I am a twin and the doctors saw that it would be complicated

[@Stephy.p.from.biology]

c-section gang!!!!

[@virgil6290]

I was also a c section baby I don’t know what was wrong but my heart rate went down when my mom pushed so

[@christie8725]

I am so glad everyone is okay. And the fact Red was/is a great partner during this process - you are so blessed. Thank you for sharing this. I don’t want to have kids, and usually it’s stories like this that keep me sold on that decision 😂 You handled this situation as best as you could. You’ve got a beautiful baby boy. Congratulations. Both of you. 🤍

[@PkmnMasterHolly]

OMG I'M SO GLAD YOU AND BABY ARE OK!!!!!! You guys went through a tough experience but you're so strong that you got through it AND made a vlog about it wow!!! Incredible! Huge kudos also to Mario for being Dad of the year already!!!!! 👏 You guys are amazing, you both tackle problems with so much positivity that nothing could ever get in your way!!!! Congratulations on your new baby!!! 👏 happy for your family!!! :)

[@fal4stini]

It’s so scary to think of how safe you and others feel with their midwives, that they should know everything. But then to know you were showing very concerning signs early on in the birthing time and nothing was ever brought up to you. To think about how many people don’t end up at the hospital in time is just crazy. So glad you’re okay.

[@mygirldarby]

Yes. Childbirth takes a woman as close to death as possible. It's like nature takes us right to the edge in terms of pain and potential dangers when it comes to labor/delivery. It's very serious. We don't realize it because with modern medicine women and babies normally survive it and do quite well, but it was a very different story before we had epidurals, c sections, medicines to reduce blood pressure, monitors, infection control, etc, etc. Maternal deaths were extremely high before modern medicine. Having a baby at home is like having a baby before modern medicine, except at least we can call an ambulance if things become potentially life-threatening. Even today childbirth is the 6th leading cause of death for women 20-34. It's even higher for women over 35. Having a child always needs to be a woman's choice because it is a life-threatenig event and getting pregnant doesn't always mean a woman is ready to give birth. Women need to be trusted to know their own bodies and to make the right decision. The GOP wants to take us back to the old days when girls and women were forced to give birth. Nobody should be forced to do something so dangerous and life-changing.

[@shakibamorvarid8054]

I heard double of stories about OB making a mistake and causing a problem

[@karamaryott6124]

When red was crying and I saw he couldn’t be let back in I bawled my eyes out, I’m so glad you and baby are okay and that you can heal and enjoy this time with you’re new little family ❤️

[@beaabadoobees]

i remember watching Tiffy when I was 7-8 years old I'm turning 15 this year, so seeing her give birth just makes me think of how the time flies by so fastly :') im so so happy for tiffy and mario i know they'll be great parents.

[@aminaspector9198]

Im like halfway through the video but hearing how sweet Red was to you and your story and everything makes me want to cry 🥺🥺 you have such a wonderful husband and family and its so exciting to hear youre a mother now after being with you since 2013.

[@allieb9348]

that’s when i started to tear up too

[@kathleenoneill5470]

When Tiff starting to cry I choked up then when I heard Mario cry that was it 😭😭😭😭

[@arlo7046]

I've been watching you since about the age of 8, you've basically been the reason I learned English and I always thought of you as one of my first mother figures in my life. now I'm almost 18 and you've become and actually mom! it's crazy to think about but I'm insanely happy for you! I'm glad you and the baby are both doing good! I hope the postpartum will also go by great :)

[@woomp2004]

SAMMMEEEE

[@jennifer8171]

though things didn't go as planned, i'm glad everyone and everything went well/as best as it could've gone. i hope for the best for your new family

[@sarahpallot7659]

I remember you saying one time “no babies just cats”. It makes me so happy to know that I’ve grown up watching you for years and now you’ve had a baby. I hope you and your baby is okay, I wish all goodluck for you and your baby. Take care ☺️

[@reaganj750]

It’s so crazy that you had such a healthy pregnancy then right at the end it becomes life threatening to you and your baby I’m so glad you are both okay ❤️

[@acuriouswriter]

I had my baby in April, and hearing your story I’m realizing how lucky I was to have such a quick labor. It was by no means easy, but I guess that’s what us mamas are built for. Congrats to you both, your baby is absolutely precious ❤

[@torimackenzie6673]

congratulations on your recent birth!!

[@acuriouswriter]

@@torimackenzie6673 thank you!

[@jessicahatcher4183]

As another mama with a traumatic first birth that ended in a C-section, I feel this. My situation was totally different, but the trauma and disappointment is the same. Treat yourself with kindness and patience and remember that it is ok to feel how you feel. Having your baby here and safe doesn’t negate the negative feelings of missing out on the birth you wanted. You aren’t alone. Congratulations on your son and I wish you a speedy recovery!!

[@Silencer796]

Disappointment?

[@samoyedhugger]

@@Silencer796I’m late and I’m not a mum but c’mon man. The disappointment of what you hoped would be a wonderful experience of meeting your baby for the first time, hopefully fast without any complications being extremely traumatic instead, surely you can put two and two together.

[@lucidblue7273]

This was such an intimate and truly personal emotion experience that you shared with us. I am so so happy that you and baby are okay, we love you Tiff!!

[@milliemaldonado1383]

OMG CONGRATS!!! As someone who at this very moment is 9 months pregnant and this my first child, this was so helpful to me. I get anxious just thinking of labor but how you explained everything and all your emotions and details really helped almost feel more prepared. Thank you and CONGRATS TO YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABY 💕💕

[@rachelfrancis1990]

DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU YOU ARENT ALLOWED TO YELL!!! You yell all you need to.

[@Grumbug]

Wishing you a safe and healthy delivery! 🍀

[@rosestarofroseclan8094]

Omg, update the comment when you have him/her if you could! We all hope you have an easy birth and healthy baby

[@shishkebab6267]

Same🥺

[@crashurcar]

i dont know why but this made me so emotional. bawling my eyes out rn. you are such an amazing person and you have so much light. your vibes are so RIGHT IDK? i've been watching you since i was a kid- it's so cool to watch someone grow so much from a distance. so happy you and your family are healthy, sending good vibes your way!

[@sharaleeisme]

i knew i was gonna cry hearing this story. i’m overly proud of you both for becoming parents. i’m glad you and baby are healthy congratulations! :’)

[@ralusa6970]

Even if you and baby are now okay, it's not "all that matters", this seems to have been quite a traumatic experience for you and it's okay to talk about it and get help if needed because your feelings are valid too (this goes for anyone who needs to hear this

[@Lady-Aloha]

Tiffy, I’m so glad to hear you were doing great after your story. I’m so happy for you and Red to finally be parents. I wish you guys very best luck and have many memories to come in your life.

[@airimonke]

I wasn't expecting to cry to this video when you were talking about c section and going under. Mario's reaction to hearing the baby crying made me breakdown. SO SO Happy for you guys!

[@cloverleaf7925]

Man this made me cry some. I’m so happy and thankful that you and the baby are okay!! I’m so sorry that it didn’t go that great and you had to go through a C section. I can’t imagine how scary and stressful it must have been for both of you. It makes me so happy to see someone who I’ve watched growing up start a family! Congratulations to you both. So so happy everything went okay. ❤️❤️❤️

[@LovelessDevine]

Man, I was in labor for 4 hours. I couldn’t even imagine 80+ hours. Congrats mama, you did good even if it didn’t go as plan.

[@cholello3556]

It was so hard to see the pain in your eyes as you told your birth story and how it ended up being traumatic, but so thankful that you and baby made it through safely! And very glad you had Mario with you to help you through most of it. So excited for your journeys ahead with baby boy

[@Ciiqher]

I remember watching you as a little kid and you were my role model. I always wanted purple hair like you used to have, and now I'm 16. It's crazy how far you've come and I really can't believe you're a mom now. I know Leo will have the best mom. I absolutely love you Tiffy! Thank you for making my childhood so special. ❤️

[@corinthiap6044]

Omg the tears! You are absolutely amazing!! Your outlook on life is inspiring! I had 2 homebirth transfers, one ending in a c/s cause my son was breech. I understand that pain, but as a first time mom I can’t imagine how scary that must have been! Mine was my 4th baby. I’m so glad he’s heathy, and your doing well!! Red sounds like such an amazing partner, you guys will/are the best parents, I just know it!

[@destinymedlin6771]

I remember watching you play “among the sleep” as a kid, and the funny thing is, although it was a scary game, your voice and tone and the way you spoke to the camera was so comforting, and as a young kid I had a lot of family issues and horrible situations happening right in front of me. But your videos made me feel safe. Your kid is so so lucky to have you as a mom! Your so sweet and gentle and caring, and thoughtful! Thanks for everything, you inspire me everyday. love ya tiff❤️

[@lovemenot82]

Mario made me cry because I knew exactly what he was feeling and that's a dam good feeling. Girl congrats 👏 💓 💖 happy first 4th July with baby

[@alicewharton7916]

Seeing that Red wasn’t allowed back into the room broke my heart :(( and how he cried once baby boy was born❤️ it just makes me sad that neither of you got to see the moment that your beautiful boy was born but I’m happy you and baby are happy and safe and that you went to the hospital when you did. Congratulations guys you’re the best parents ever💕

[@offsetlunchbox9826]

Hey fellow 2022 baby mama. I also had an unexpected C-section and I agree that although it was traumatic, but as long as my baby was healthy and happy it was all worth it. So happy for your family and I hope you rest, heal and enjoy the sweet moments.

[@VanessaHBIC]

I had an emergency c section, too ❤️ my daughter was still breech and broke my water after having a stretch. It was scary and her dad couldn't be in there with me which broke my heart. I remember waking up like "WHERES MY BABY". You are a true warrior of a momma, tiff ❤️ and your husband is amazing. Bless your new family ❤️

[@absolutelynotLily]

I started crying literally the second you did. I’m so sorry things didn’t go as planned Tiff :( Just by looking at your face, I know you were pissed and exhausted beyond belief but in the end you and your baby were okay and that’s what matters🤍 you had so much love and support behind you. I’m so glad the pain is over and you and Mario can care for and love your little one :)

[@nathanliang9390]

I am SO happy everyone is okay! Red’s voice coming in after the birth really made me tear up. Wishing you all a safe and happy journey as you watch your baby grow! 💕

[@julibee.]

jesus, i totally cried with you. i am so insanely grateful that you and baby are okay. i'm sorry that things didn't go how you had planned, but baby will only grow and be loved from here on out. i am wishing you healing energy and so so much love. congratulations on your new addition to your family!! i've followed you for 11 years and through this entire pregnancy, im so happy to see you become a mother. i have so much love for you and your family 💛

[@courtneyadams4958]

I cried. I BAWLED at red crying. I strive to find the love you have and that man cannot live without you. You are soulmates.

[@AlanahAzura]

I’m so happy everything turned out for you three in the end and that you and baby are healthy. I hope you’re healing journey goes well Tiffany ❤️ Congrats Momma on your adorable baby boy!

[@staritrix]

I almost started crying when Tiffy started crying and Mario being so happy that the baby was okay and Tiffy as well. I'm so happy you're okay Tiffy. You're literally so strong and I love you so much 💜

[@Felicia9919]

First of all (and most important), I am SO happy that you and baby are alright ❤ I know the incision will hurt for a while, just take it easy, Tiffy. I had a c-section (planned) Nov26th 2020 when I had my son, he was overdue and born at 41+6 weeks, he was also a real chunky boy. First thing doctor said about him was "oh what a big boy!". I'm so sorry Mario wasn't able to be with you but I'm glad you had that kind nurse by your side 💕My husband wasn't allowed to be with me either, not cause of covid but because of some infection risk (???) but as soon as he was born they took our son to his daddy. Best wishes to you and your little family ❤I hope you have a speedy recovery! We're now scar buddies! 💞

[@Heoz]

As a single mom, I'm so glad they let my mom inside with me. She saw everything and supported me every step of the way.

[@consuelochavez740]

Congratulations 🎈🎉, as a nurse , I am traumatized by ur birth story . For my colleagues to be running and rushing u to have an emergency c section it was a life and death situation. I am so relieved and happy that u and ur baby are well . Please keep us posted ! Always sending u strength and love .

[@earthylo3790]

this is so beautiful, raw, and real and you look so lovely! It's okay to mourn the birth you "planned" not going the way you wanted, but I'm so glad your beautiful babe made it into the world safe and healthy, and that the hypnobabies course helped you so much! I also love how you call it the "birthing time" and "pressure waves", it seems so much more sacred and beautiful than the medical terms they usually use. Many blessings for you and your family!

[@bluemars5305]

the best advice i heard for soon to be mommas is that YOURE MADE FOR THIS, definitely helped me sweat a little less about it

[@scythe7823]

Sobbing when i saw you with tears in your eyes :/ So so glad you and the baby are healthy and okay! Best of wishes for the Quake family, and please just take as much time as you need for yourself you deserve a break

[@BryceMorrow_1448]

When mario started crying I legit was bawling my eyes out so hard because he is such a good loving husband to tiff.

[@samapradas]

Congrats Tiffy!!!!! So excited for you, you look so beautiful and we’re so proud of u as a new Mama❤️ + Red! Congrats to both of you

[@Silver-jn3jl]

I been through labor 7 times. It's so intense how things can go wrong so fast. Your water can leak and not know. The waters can not fully break. I leaked with my son I was a -4 and rushed into a emergency delivery they gave me meds to start everything. My 3rd son I did bleed out they didn't think I was going to make it throughout the night. I'm so glad you went into the hospital before things got worse. Congratulations on a healthy baby and I hope you have a speedy recovery. Get some much needed rest.

[@Ted1yBear]

I’ve never smiled, laughed, and cried all together in one video. I’ve been a huge fan and watching you grow up with me has been an amazing experience. I’m so sorry you couldn’t have birth in your conditions but I’m so glad the baby is healthy and happy. I hope you guys learn and grow together as a family. I love you❤️

[@itac.2280]

You laboured for four days but you only were 3cm dilated?! Girl, I don’t know how you went through that! I would have absolutely just thrown myself at the hospital at that point. I’m glad you were able to get through it!

[@leanneadams2549]

Not smart ! Not smart at all !!!!! Dangerous!!! And risky!!! I would never never risk my babies health to have a home decor birth

[@brittanyhawk2900]

⁠​⁠@@leanneadams2549good thing that’s your choice then to labor how you’d like. she had her own plan and followed as long as she could which is her right. i would never personally do a home birth but you don’t see me being rude and shaming a mom for making the choice to labor/birth how she wants. choose kindness next time 😘

[@ttaravella]

Been watching since newbieweds. And I’m so excited for you both. I’ve had four children. One thing I’ve learned is nothing goes as expected. I’ve not been able to have the birth experience I wanted on any of them. But what matters is we are all happy and healthy. Congratulations and blessings to you and your little family!

[@Boxoboi]

Mario being there for you is so sweet, you always hear the horror stories of the father not helping the mother what so ever. And just it warms my heart..:

[@lexissrosea]

ahh i grew up watching you since i was around 5-6ish years old and now i'm going on 18! watching you and mario grow as a couple has been so amazing, and now having the opportunity to watch you two grow as parents through your videos is even better!! you were such an important part of my childhood and i know that you and mario will be such great parents to your baby boy! congrats and so happy for the new addition to the family

[@Brbgtgkms]

This is why I’m get so worried when people have an in home birth. There could always be something unexpected when labor starts so being in the hospital is the best and safest option in my opinion. I started watching you during Minecraft Oasis series when I was a little girl, and now you guys have a baby! You and red will be amazing parents, I’m so happy for y’all!!

[@haleyk7699]

She had complications, went to the hospital, and things went fine. Which is pretty standard for home birth complications. Most are not going to stay home if things aren't looking good. But about 90% of planned home births are "successful" and the baby is born at home. Complications arise in and out of hospital, but they are rare. Plenty of births are sabatoged in hospitals, which is why our maternal and fetal outcomes are the lowest and our fatality rates are the highest of the developed nations. The best and safest option is the place you are the mother feel safest. I knew from a young age I did not want a hospital birth, and I had my baby girl at home last December.

[@rachelcookie321]

@@haleyk7699 in this case they were fine but they were so close to something going wrong. There was obvious signs that something wasn’t right but the midwifes just carried on with the home birth plan. She was 3 days into labour and they didn’t even come in to check if the baby was doing ok. Tiffy and Mario decided to go to the hospital themselves but imagine if they had trusted the midwives and stayed home. It very easily could of gone south and this whole thing could of ended very differently. This was not just a simple case of the midwives noticed something was wrong so sent them to the hospital. The midwives didn’t notice something was wrong and it would of been reasonable to trust Their judgement since they should know this stuff and had Tiffy done that, things would of gone wrong. Everyone came out alive and healthy but it’s obviously affected Tiffy quite heavily mentally and it’s probably affected Mario a lot too. I wouldn’t say coming out of it with quite obvious trauma and almost losing your baby is an ok outcome when all of this could of been avoided if they had gone to the hospital. I don’t blame them for wanting to do a home birth because it does sound like a much nicer experience but it can get dangerous fast especially when the midwives aren’t properly trained.

[@haleyk7699]

@@rachelcookie321 You say with so much confidence that this could have been avoided by being in the hospital, when in reality, no one will ever know what the outcome would have been if they were in the hospital from the start. Sure, maybe it would have been 100% different. But it may not have. Maybe she would have still had a long labor and thus has more interventions that led to their own set of negative outcomes. There are so many women that realize their birth trauma was due to birthing in the hospital and that it would have been avoidable if they had birthed at home. So you can say the same thing for both scenarios in that case. But either way, birth happens only once. You can point out any failures, but you can not make assumptions about things that did not happen. Most hospital births end with mom and baby alive. Most home births end with mom and baby alive. 30% of US hospital births end in C-section vs. 5.3% of US home births. C-sections can be very traumatic for some, maybe not others. I think instead of saying "if she would have just given birth at the hospital ..." we should recognize the failures of her midwife. Maybe "if she would have just had a different midwife ..." but ultimately we will never know. So I'll say it again. The best place for a mother to birth her baby is where she feels the safest, because feeling unsafe will almost always cause issues with labor (it's biological to not birth your baby if the situation is unsafe for you and your baby.) If you feel unsafe at hospital, stay home. If you feel unsafe at home, go to hospital. You can always change your mind, even if you are in the hospital. You can actually just leave. And if you are not feeling right about staying home during your home birth, then go to the hospital. And while we can absolutely look to the downfalls of the midwife, we should recognize that we as women are so in tune with our bodies. The more we listen to our body communicating with us, the better. A bad midwife can make the situation even harder than having no midwife because you second guess your own intuition based on the perceived position of authority over your body during labor. Anyways. Birth your baby where you want to and be confident in your decisions. You can always change your mind literally up until the point that the baby comes out.

[@lunarialoonatic]

@@haleyk7699 you can’t deny though that hospitals are safer at times ESPECIALLY if you have some kind of pre existing complication or for precaution bc birth is rough and a lot can happen. There’s risks for everyone. However, home birth and those mid wives and support can greatly make a difference. It’s just great that she wasn’t alone and had Red and was able to recognize something was wrong and left and that’s most important

[@leanneadams2549]

EXACTLY!!! No way would I risked my babies life like she did !

[@Precioussof]

this made me so emotional and i hope future me will find a husband as supportive as red, he was amazing with you and the baby is so incredibly lucky to have supportive and loving parents. Tiffy you were so strong and i cried when you did and the entire video had me so emotional, i love you guys! take care,

[@Sakinocchi]

Man this feels so crazy to me I've been watching since 2011, literally grew up with you 😂 Watched you getting married, buying houses and now a baby 🥺 I am so happy for you! I'm sure the baby is in very good hands, you and Red are such amazing people

[@DevynDrums]

I haven't watched you in a few years and saw this pop up in my recommended. I'm a mom of a 3 year old boy and had a relatively "easy" birth (in a hospital) and I'm so so sorry that your birth plan didn't work out as you had hoped, I know that a lot of times the birth experience is just as meaningful as the actual child that you are giving birth to, but I'm so glad both you and baby are okay! Good luck as you continue on the beautiful journey that is parenthood

[@hannahh5763]

Your relationship with Mario is so inspiring. After watching this I truly believe in love again. I’m so glad everyone is healthy and happy. I love you three so much ❤️❤️

[@vanah8927]

Congratulations Tiffy and Mario on your little bean!!

[@user16846]

still remember watching the “husband vs wife” now ur a very strong momma so proud of you i wish u nothing but the best for u and the fam❤️🙏🏽

[@lilith_trst]

You are a warrior tiffy. I cannot believe this is how it had to go but you are so strong and so powerful for going trough all of that. I’m so glad that you and the baby are both okay and healthy. This must have been such a rollercoaster for you and Mario. I admire you so much for staying so strong during all of that. It must have been devastating not being albe to have the waterbirth as planned. That is honestly such a crazy story and even I got emotional just listening to it. I cannot imagine how it must have been for you. I love you so much and just know that because of this very odd experience it’s gonna make you love your little baby even more. Because of course you love him and care for him but this is just an extra reminder for how special he is. This makes your family even stronger. I love you so much, you are not alone ❤️

[@ErzaScarlet4300]

Hearing Red crying made me wanna cry😭😭 I'm so grateful to know you and Baby boy are okay! You are a tough momma you ender that much pain for so long I have to give you props I can't do that. You've been my idol since oasis and now you are finally a momma makes me so happy you and red are gonna be fantastic parents and his baby is so lucky to have such inspirational and amazing parents

[@PsykeeMoon]

This story was increasingly traumatic, you talking about being on the table feeling them poke you and looking at the nurse I could tell she offered you so much relief. I'm so glad you both are healthy.

[@ghostbunnie7092]

congratulations tiff! i am so sorry your birth didn't go as you planned but you are so strong! i am happy that you and your baby is okay and healthy. thank you for sharing your labor story with us. i followed along through this journey and loved every single moment. wishing you the best and a speedy recovery 💖

[@lilsmilez185]

I was crying/tearing with you tiff. Your so so so strong as a mother. Your were so strong through that tough situation, even though you did not think you were. I’m am so happy you and the baby are okay. Mario I got to give you a thumbs up to man👍🏾 for stepping in and fulfilling your role as not only the husband figure, but as a father figure. For staying with your wife through thick and thin. May God bless you and strengthen you through your journey as a dad and a husband even the more❤️ Congrats you two

[@abigailcornelius9026]

I am so glad that you were protected from what could have been. I'm also proud of you for sharing what happened so the rest of us know to look for that as a sign ❤️

[@tajhb.4911]

Currently 37 weeks & i thought i would be strong enough to make it through the video without tears. But man, hearing your husband and the babies first cry really did it for me. Glad you all are healthy and back in the comfort of your home ❣️

[@NeoKeliJo]

As a mom of four with four c sections births, I just wanna say you did amazing! Always! Trust those instincts. Congradulations to you and Red, and welcome to the parent side of KZbin.

[@kaydelebeau1158]

I’m 7 weeks pregnant and decided to watch this all though you didn’t recommend it, but I didn’t regret it. I’ve been watching you for such a long time and to hear your story, it’s very much so appreciated

[@mayacontreras318]

Congratulations tiffy I’m so proud of you I wish you the best 💞💞💞

[@luvsluna4]

literally bursted into tears when u had to go under and saw the nice doctor, it was even more heatbreaking hearing Red cry as well :(( im so glad youre all okay and doing well

[@emily_mp4329]

wow! i remember watching you as a kid and i remember when i first found out you were pregnant. I'm so glad that everyone is okay and that all of you guys are safe. you and your husband played a huge role in my childhood and now it's time for you guys to raise a child of your own. hope everything goes well in the future!

[@sunflwrsvsp]

towards the end when you started crying and brought your shirt down made me cry with you, and then when mario was talking i just sobbed. im so glad you and the baby are alive and okay, tiff:(

[@Yuzukarii]

Congrats on the pregnancy!! Im so sorry you had to go through such a scary preganacy but I'm so glad you and the baby are safe and happy! Im wishing you a great recovery

[@kttynet6171]

I haven't watched you in over 7 years and seeing how much you've grown but also stayed the same honestly makes feel so many emotions at once, I'm so proud of you and even though you probably won't ever know or meet me you changed my life and I'm so happy for you

[@minty1691]

I grew up with you and I am so proud ❤️ It sounds like such a traumatizing time, but I'm so glad everything turned out fine and you get to hold your baby in your arms, so so much could've went wrong...and it didn't...I'm so relieved I hope you two can heal, I can't even imagine how terrifying that was ❤️

[@yoruafakefriend8]

the way u stopped and started to tear up made me so emotional and started saying "no, noooooo.." ;( im glad the baby is fine with u now!!

[@mysweetpets4904]

Ahhhhhh congrats! It's still so crazy to think about you guys having a baby. It's insane how much time has gone by.

[@blueberrydinosaur1]

Tiff and Mario, you guys are absolutely amazing. You helped each other and your baby get through everything. It was a much rockier road than you expected but you did it together! All three of you worked very hard and did your absolute best but were also very very strong. You realized you needed extra help going to the hospital, in your angel room with your angel nurse. I know the emergency c section isn’t what you wanted but knew it was for the best. I felt all of your emotion as you told the story especially at the hospital. Some people might say oh well it’s in the past so get over it, but that’s not true at all. You are allowed to have emotions, feel them and express them. Your birthing time was long, stressful and scary at times. And there’s all sorts of emotion each step of the way of birthing time. For you Mario and your baby, not to mention the emotions of all of the other supporters within your birthing time team, family and friends. We are all so proud and excited for all of you!!! You told the story day by day which reminded me that we gotta take life a day at a time especially in emotional, physical stressful situations. I felt your joy and hope in the beginning, then your (and Mario’s) heavier emotions during the chaotic hospital delivery, and finally joy and hope again. The final joy and hope that you all made it, you can enjoy every moment now and also enjoy the exciting things the future holds. Sending so much love, rest, healing and more love to you and your family❤️

[@harleyarmstrong8175]

i’ve been watching you since i was 8 or 9 and i’m 18 now and it’s been so cool seeing you grow w red! thank you for sticking around on youtube all these years and being one of my favorite youtubers. stay safe and take care of yourself! ❤️

[@KitKat10281]

Omg, I just found your channel and had a mad flashback! My now-16-year-old daughter used to watch your ihascupcake channel ALL. THE. TIME. about 7 years ago! When I saw this video, I was like "she looks and sounds so familiar!" Now I know why! 😂❤ thanks for the memories and I'm so happy to see you're a mommy now and doing so well! 😊❤

[@TheLaurasaurus]

Omg congratulations!! I’m so happy for all of y’all. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. Please take all the time you need with the new little one and enjoy being parents as much as possible 💕we love you

[@sundial_lupine]

Your child is going to have such an amazing life. they are going to be blessed with such loving and accepting parents. your child is going to love living.

[@SaraSann]

Awww I'm sorry things didn't go as planned Tiff! But that's alright I hope the birth went smooth enough. You are definitely lucky Red was there for you, I dont wanna imagine how difficult it would've been! I hope you're okay now and that you and Red can have a goodnight rest. Also again congrats on a healthy baby boy!

[@LilacLycanvic]

I am so glad you and the baby are okay. As soon as you started talking about that nurse and started crying, I cried with you. I know that your sweet little baby boy will have the best life ever.

[@mymch-c3x]

Also sorry things didnt go as planned, im just so happy your baby is here you and red are going to be really good parents in just so happy for you!!!

[@evalillyyy]

literally started crying. but im happy for you both and the baby, baby leo has the best parents 🥺 he is going to grow up to be so happy and healthy 🤍

[@britt_readsxox]

Wow. I’m so glad you’re both okay. I know it could be super scary my sister had a scary birth too but the father wasn’t there. I’m so glad Mario was there for you. ❤️❤️❤️ Happy heading momma!!!!

[@prittybritty761]

Girl!!! What a crazy rollercoaster! Thanks so much for sharing this. I absolutely believe that God was with you every step of the way. From the moment you walked into room 1111 he was telling you I am here with you. The fact that you didn't progress too fast and didn't rupture is CRAZY! Your hubby made me cry when he was crying. What a warrior he is too. And the nurse who smiled at you was definitely sent from God. He gave her the ability to know exactly what to do from comforting you to giving baby colostrum while you were unconscious. OMG gave me chills. God bless you and your family. What a great story to remember and share.

[@thecherryontop3251]

Congratulations Mom and Dad!!! I can only imagine the exhaustion, fear and pain you must have experienced - that nurse was for sure not a coincidence. Every time I see you, you remind me in spirit (I am South American) of native women from my country, your connection and love to Earth is so strong you feel it even miles away and on a video! My cousin also had a very healthy pregnancy, no issues whatsoever, and ended up giving natural labor but she also had an unexpected emergency that caused her to almost lose her life due to blood loss. Nature is sometimes unpredictable but I believe things happen for a reason. My niece is now 8 almost 9, and my cousin is just as fine as she was before. I remember the fear we all felt, so I am sending you all of my love in a big, big hug for healing those difficult days. I am sure many happy days are to come, I love you both and welcome Baby to the World!!! You got lucky with your parents!!! Much love, Leti