Tiktok's Fear Of Aging

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[@Random.noodle.on.street]

:00 thank you NIKKI 💕💕 I luv the video too your honesty right 🫶🏼

[@PinnePon]

Seems kind of sketchy ngl

[@justanonexistentuser]

I get ads of this, and my temporary PTSD is kickin"

[@kinggeorgeiii4977]

​@@PinnePon Mistplay works it just takes ages to get anything and the more you get, the slower it takes to earn more. Usually you get like £10/$10 in your first month if you're consistent, so whether it's worth using is entirely based on how busy you are. It was an absolute life-saver during covid 😅

[@404maxnotfound]

@@highdrated369 wouldn't be surprised if it uses your device hardware to do something in the background. Like mine crypto.

[@lilybreee]

So annoying ppl say to wear sunscreen to avoid wrinkles how about we wear sunscreen to avoid skin cancer 💀

[@myhopemyangel2091]

as sad as it sounds its probably easier to convince people to use sunscreen when u tell them theyll get wrinkles rather than telling them theyll get cancer

[@tklllllllllll]

yea, it's like the anti-smoking ads targeted toward teens, the teens usually take heed to the physical effects and not the fact it literally kills you LOL

[@echo_location12]

@OfficerZ637 why is this in a comment section

[@kaleidoscloop]

My chemistry teacher during my sophomore year of highschool wouldn't show up to class sometimes a few days in a row and when she came back, she'd have cuts and sometimes bandages all over her face. She had to get the skin cancer cut out of her face every couple of weeks. The whole class was extra nice to her and she hammered the importance of sunscreen into our heads.

[@ninelo74]

​@OfficerZ637 change your entire profile, you're a dead meme walking

[@ashxnf]

we need to stop worrying about aging and START worrying about freddy fazbear and foxy and chica and bonnie and golden freddy

[@cheez-itmcgee]

FR ‼️

[@sweet.p34]

I think they all started this trend to distract us

[@kw_2707]

because when freddy fivebear goes hor hor hor hor hor and then chica the kitchen and bonnie the bonbon in the animationmatronic suits thats when you know youre in big trouble!

[@Ros-Pictures]

And Williamn aftfon tooo!!!1!

[@cherie..cherry]

@@kw_2707watch your back- you spoke the truth. They might try to silence you 😞😞

[@millie..]

people on instagram when they discover that everyone looks different and everyones skin acts and ages differently 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬😭😭😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@pimqus]

it's instagram what are we even talking about ☠️☠️☠️

[@scream_kinh614]

​@@pimqus literally that place is a hellspace dawg

[@genthe1st]

​@@pimqus i hate Instagram reel comments because you can actually get harassed because you didn't agree with them--😭😭

[@millie..]

@@pimqus SO REAL ACTUALLY...the only reason im on there is to follow my friend who posts their art on there 😭

[@pimqus]

@@genthe1st Instagram users are brainwashed by that app fr

[@hannahzimmerman2449]

we’ve been taught “all women are beautiful,” but what they should say is “all women are deserving of respect.” but beauty = respectability

[@glitter1314]

@OfficerZ637do you think your funny

[@sexyswimsuit]

@@glitter1314just report it

[@nerdalert647]

Exactly. I think "all women are beautiful" is both true and well meaning but still places way to much emphasis on beauty as an attribute. Appearance is literally the least important and least interesting thing about a person.

[@nerdalert647]

Exactly. I think "all women are beautiful" is both true and well meaning but still places way to much emphasis on beauty as an attribute. Appearance is literally the least important and least interesting thing about a person.

[@jakethestatefarm]

But not even though. The more that social media grows, the more emphasis we're putting on looking like supermodels and celebrities, even on regular ass people. It's creating an impossible and unattainable beauty standard. People need to unplug and realize that they can't expect every person they come across to have a carved body and a 24/7 face of makeup that still looks "all natural". We need to stop commodifying beauty like we, especially women, owe it to the world to be pretty. Forget beauty standards!

[@Gothicc666]

Aging is always gonna be a privilege, not a lot of people get to age. It’s sad we have to hide it.

[@Cinnamuromi]

I've never really looked at it that way until now.

[@Drageisha]

Achey joints, exhaustion, drop in hormone production, higher frequency of illness, memory loss, thinning hair, slower healing time, fewer employment opportunities & weight gain disproportionate to calorie intake all seem more punishment than privilege.

[@toannguyen1998]

​@@Drageisha So what's the alternative? We all drop dead at the "beautiful" age of 25?

[@fartsmella10]

​@@Drageishayou have such a miserable view on life its really sad to see

[@moosesues8887]

@@toannguyen1998that’s prolly not even gonna be a choice from global warming

[@Helen_Boz]

Women not supporting women will always make me sad. People age and people age differently and its ok

[@pimqus]

fr just because someone got lucky with looks doesn't mean they have to bring others down

[@TarynRMartin]

⁠@@pimqusExactly. I’m 34 and get asked what grade I’m in at least once a month. What I def don’t do is shit on other women for not being lucky (and half Asian.)

[@voyagersmarch8776]

Theres a study that envious women tend to sabotage other women usually covertly

[@mariiiuuuyyy]

@@TarynRMartinyou look your age

[@Hex_Maniac_Selene]

Literally how do people not realize they are just being mean as hell. Like, why do people need to be like ''They're pretty, but I'm 30 and I'm literally immortal'' Like stop being so insecure that you ignore that your being a big ol meany

[@Idiotbox186]

Right!!?? Like people while hide some of the most heinous, rude statements behind "just my opinion teepee, free speech" like okay, whatever, but your still an asshole! Calling it an opinion doesn't absolve you of the negative reactions you'll get for being an asshole!!

[@Kh-bs7mg]

Because they have a screen to hide behind and don't need to face the consequence of their words

[@ciaranicole1334]

Literally I will never understand how some people just don't have a conscience bc they're hiding behind a screen. Makes no logical sense.

[@thehalfmoonmirrorsvenus1234]

This is the best comment here... Got me chuckling so hard.

[@LeapThroughTheSky]

They know they're being mean. They're trying to be but in an underhanded way so if they're confronted by it, they can fake innocence. It sounds so much like the "girl world" attacks from being in Middle School and High school in the 2000's. It's just a behavior to neg, bully, and feel better about themselves,

[@shirinzendehdel7638]

Worse than people equating age with ugliness is them equating aging and therefore "ugliness" with some kind of moral failure? Like as if you are a bad person because you have wrinkles. It's baffling.

[@aphroditescomet]

i think this is because of the age old myth that having scars of smallpox, facial moles, or anything else means you’re evil and a witch 😭

[@totaltotal8481]

Which is ironic, because we are supposed to respect our elders, but then equate aging with moral failure. So what now? Choose one or the other xD

[@dosabella]

not to mention the classism. it often takes a lot of time and money to prevent signs of aging, and the people who can’t afford that - or simply don’t choose to prioritise it - are treated like they’re lazy, bad people. I don’t think people can comprehend that some women have higher priorities than tailoring their appearance to what society thinks they have to look like

[@aelores]

look up the halo effect

[@kirgizikable]

​@OfficerZ637Черт возьми, нигга, это безумие

[@brownie4493]

I had to get off of TikTok. People are so hateful to kids for no reason and just hateful in general. It's really upsetting.

[@rizz_master96]

@@13walkingsexcuz its fun to be mean online where u can hide behind a screen

[@zetanite5538]

DO NOT touch instagram bro it gets worse

[@brownie4493]

@@zetanite5538 Oh my god, yeah 😕

[@ninninin656]

It's actually the teens and kids who are hateful and cruel. Gen Z and Gen Alpha have absolutely zero empathy online especially towards women 30+, it's frightening how normalised ageism and misogyny have become again/still are.

[@Minniemooz]

Same here. Feel so much better for it too.

[@chloe54251]

that first girl, the 28 year old, is literally showing proof of happiness. shes lived happily in the sun and smiled a TON!! i WANT crows feet and smile lines, they show i lived happily!!! why would i want my face to be an empty notebook????

[@krystals777]

@OfficerZ637ur weird ngl

[@totaltotal8481]

@@krystals777 if you see them, report them. What the translation is is insane and they are spamming it underneath everything. I've already reported like 6 comments of them (all copy paste) which they just randomly put underneath stuff.

[@ChessieChess]

@@krystals777weird is being nice. They talked about r***ing little girls

[@yoBmeF]

​@@krystals777 that account acts like a bot wanting rage bait interaction. I'm just reporting the account without interacting with them.

[@kookykiddo]

report for child abuse don’t engage that’s horrific

[@morgangrae]

I went to tour a cosmo school yesterday & the admission director says to me “I never would’ve guessed you were 24! You’re aging so gracefully!” And I was baffled. What do people think 24 year olds look like??

[@Sjood-qs8ol]

“Omg I thought you were younger! You look good for your age!” To a 24 year old is literal insanity

[@moosesues8887]

Warehouse workers, retail, etc etc people be looking like they lived a million years after week one of surviving that Panera job

[@Kiputytto_minis]

No body knows what young adults actually look like because of casting in Hollywood. We have 30yr olds playing high schoolers in movies/TV shows and it skews people's perceptions. At the risk of sounding like some of the tiktok comments I've had my 12yr old daughter called my sister by people before and I'm 32. It's so weird.

[@kitsterangel]

I'm 25 and get mistaken for a teenager a frustrating amount of time... Like I think I look my age so ??? And my friends all look similar to me too. I think people just forget what normal people look like idk.

[@anitachamberlain3391]

Girl. WHAT. I would have expected to hear that in 1730 maybe. God help us

[@goobi941]

“a lot of us see other women through the eyes of a man first and then we see them through our own eyes” holy fuck dude. you just changed my life this is so true

[@goobi941]

@OfficerZ637wow you’re so scary and intimidating i’m so mad

[@goobi941]

@OfficerZ637 tell someone who gives a fuck

[@goobi941]

@OfficerZ637 lmao get a life dude super pathetic no one’s scared of you and your little comments male

[@goobi941]

@OfficerZ637 your body pillow misses you

[@goobi941]

@OfficerZ637 backing down i see

[@jojol.2630]

I also agree with your take on “why is ugly the worst thing”. I have never found myself pretty, to the point where I didn’t want to live. I would beg people just to say it’s okay to be ugly, BECAUSE THAT WAS WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR, but they would just say “BUT YOU ARE PRETTY!” And I would spiral worse.

[@nikkicarreon]

I completely understand, I think in the exact same patterns, like it's not worth living if I can't look like everyone else, or be pretty. And my boyfriend tells me I'm beautiful all the time and is very loving but that of course changes nothing about the way I see myself. He eventually said "You aren't ugly, but even if you were, what does it change? What does that matter at all? People that are "ugly" are also loved", Which actually did make me feel a bit better about it

[@Ndrewyy]

This anti aging stuff seems like looksmaxxing but instead of for insecure young men or teenage boys it’s for insecure millennial or gen z women😭

[@jojol.2630]

Holy moly you’re right

[@nikkicarreon]

you could argue that women have always been "looksmaxxing" in a way lol

[@InternetMameluq]

@@nikkicarreon I agree.

[@lilliputianhitcher3808]

“you don’t wear enough sunscreen” is the new pick me thing to say i stg skincare pick mes

[@nbucwa6621]

"you don't wear enough suncreen" is literally the new "wouldn't you rather eat a salad?"

[@sumlem]

I'm obsessed with sunscreen because I'm neurodivergent lol, but I hate browsing skincare social media because it's not about skin health, just about the fear of aging.

[@multidebbie1]

@@nbucwa6621 I mean the salad part is true. It's healthy and so is sunscreen.

[@EveTheRaviolo]

@@multidebbie1 you missed the point so badly that you couldnt find it even with a flashlight and a magnifying glass

[@EveTheRaviolo]

@@multidebbie1 also the salad part is incorrect. Eating salad is not healthy, its quite neutral and its not recommended to eat it as a main dish cause it wouldnt have the necessary nutrients of a full meal (unless you're popping a lot of stuff in that salad). Usually what is meant with "salad is healthy" is that adding salad to a full meal will help you get fuller quicker and therefore eat less. Salad alone can't substitute a full meal unless, again, you're adding a lot of ingredients and foods to that salad.

[@spliffyrodgers4266]

Theres something so insecure about having to be like "well I dont look like that" like you might as well just say "I'm prettyer than her right? Someone please tell me I'm prettyer than her"

[@mittag983]

Such pick-me's

[@kyoril.42]

Right? Like they turned it into a competition for some reason. I feel like it’s just looking for something to validate themselves.

[@darkbrownfox]

instagram comments are really a WHOLE other level of bitterness, i have to constantly close that app when I get too upset at how people are out here being so negative

[@hwoods-kg1jf]

Me too! Instagram is literally the worst! So many hateful people and trolls on there! Lots of Boomers too!

[@MaeArt725]

Honestly just avoid looking at insta comments unless it’s for art. Half of the time it’s people just being hateful and bitter to someone just vibing

[@Kiputytto_minis]

I feel so bad for people on tiktok when I see comments like "Post this to reels" because I know they're only saying it because the comments there are so horrendous and they want OP to be bullied.

[@buzzinbea]

It'll be a video of a baby picking a flower for her mom and every comment will a death threat it's INSANE

[@MaeArt725]

@@buzzinbea it’s that or making jokes about offing themselves seeing someone just sharing a happy moment with someone else, especially under couple videos

[@tehbluedragon]

I've had a lady tell me I looked younger for my age (I was 22-23 at the time) and that it was a good thing... I've never felt more offended in my life 😭I feel like women aren't allowed to just exist without intense societal scrutiny like we have to be a certain way or we're "undesirable" because god forbid if people don't find women attractive 🤮🤮🤮 I've accepted that I want to age and when I'm even older I want to LOOK like my age, wrinkles and all, with long grey hair down to my ass. Let me be an old hag in peace please 🙏

[@imapotato7391]

When I was about 20 I was visiting my aunt's friends and one of them thought I was her 12 year old niece's friend popping by😭Like ma'am I'm a full adult I want to be seen as such.

[@Sjood-qs8ol]

So true I literally turned 24 and was suddenly considered old and told I need to try and look younger but all of my late teens and early 20s were spent with me trying to look older. We just can’t exist lol, ur too young and don’t know anything and then you turn 24 or 25 and people are calling you an old hag lmao.

[@VideosForYou90]

@@Sjood-qs8ol Oof same, I relate to your comment so much!

[@AmazingStoryDewd]

If you want that fine but not everyone does. There's nothing wrong with eating to care of your body. I had a grandmother that led a healthy style as well an took care of her skin. By th Time she was in her 80s she looked like she was in her 50's. TH

[@M0lDy_L3TTUV3]

"people are like flowers, no flower looks the same as the other ,some are soft some are wrinkled some have thorns some have smooth stems, some are striped some have marks and freckles ,flowers are beautiful and different people like different flowers, every flower need different conditions to thrive." I'm not that good at writing shit so I hope that makes sense.

[@sokokokoko]

Omg I literally wrote a poem exactly like this ages ago. Hard agree with your words!

[@crm7n]

it's like the snowflake ideology! no two snowflakes are perfectly identical, every one is unique (:

[@smallcryingchild9322]

This is so beautiful thanks for sharing! Also can u delete that other persons disgusting translation comment :( i cant stand edgelords.

[@poni_poki]

Reminds me of Harold and Maude :)

[@nevevenus]

no i totally think you are good at writing!!! it makes perfect sense, beautiful metaphor

[@AthenaPOfficial]

The surprising part isn’t the misogyny on the internet because that is a CONSTANT but the way it has evolved is soooo upsetting. It’s brain rot. Thanks for another amazing video Nikki knowing there’s funny sane people like you out there makes me less scared of everything

[@nikkicarreon]

Thank you you’re so sweet 🥹

[@iknowwhatyouare102]

Omg hi My worlds have collided

[@swagballin653]

this is actually so scary. people are obsessed with looks, plastic surgeries, edited & photoshopped pics on instagram and at this point people are starting to forget what humans look like....

[@mach.in.a]

i'm a 15 year old girl. i've got acne and acne scars and a few wrinkles. i've got no problem with this personally (i prefer to look more masculine and i think all that adds to that effect) but some people out there wanna treat me damn near inhuman because of how i look. it's weird and scary. why do you care what i look like? i'm happy, i'm healthy, let me live my life.

[@Minniemooz]

And most importantly, you’re completely normal. Don’t let anybody make you feel any different.

[@charmainer9030]

@freyaexists.3657 I was bullied all throughout secondary school because I had awful acne and had a girlfriend at the age of 13, the amount of abuse I got was shocking and so cruel. It hurts my heart now to think back to then. I self harmed a lot and was so suicidal, I couldn't understand how some people (quite alot) could treat me like such a piece of shit when I was literally just trying to be happy and be myself. Stay strong and I've learnt now that people often say and do cruel stuff because they are going through or have been through some bad shit themselves and I feel sorry for them for being like that but regardless of that, it still fucking hurts to live when you have people causing you distress for the way you look or dress or who you love. X

[@teetheatersanonymous]

It’s absurd, having acne as a teenager is the most normal thing, but people really forget that skin isn’t made of silk 💀

[@MaryyyPP]

I have acne scars too. Now they’re leaving, I don’t care about the signs I got from them, also they leave. But even if not,I don’t care, they are part of me and how I am. But my mom seems SO OBBESSED about them. Well I crawled my skin a bit but now those scar are going away, why when you’re next to me you alway look so upset and stare at them? Why you always say “oh those are horrible to see on you I can’t look at you like that” ok don’t look at them so

[@earnieboy54]

Ngl, we’re masters of the compliment with a side of unnecessary shade. “You look so good… for your age.” “She looks great… but I’m 15 years older than her and I don’t have any wrinkles.”

[@JustKet99]

Aging is so important to me because so many girls, women, afab people never got to age throughout history. From femicide, childbirth, to just dying young... So many people never got the chance to grow up, experience the wrinkles and sunspots and discoloration. I WANT to experience it.

[@MaryyyPP]

I found aging beautiful also for that,and aging is like hair, they got your memories, they got YOUR HISTORY

[@tyler-df3wy]

I’m 21 and I’ve had forehead wrinkles for years. Literally who gives a shit

[@bogperson]

same

[@zenleeparadise]

"spent too much time in the sun" like oh no maybe she likes to have fun or something 😂 crazy idea ik

[@katelynnvens1974]

The irony of getting a youth serum advertised to me on this video 💀

[@katelynnvens1974]

And another lool

[@KH0LRA]

I got sunblock for mine 🥴

[@dupeskara]

being 19, I really feel like already dying, because so many teens make it feel like being over 18 is a death sentence. i dont mind aging, but I does feel like you are casted away from society as soon as you are not "useful" to older men. my wish is to be able to be myself until my last days, without having to worry if im "too old" or "too young". ive been told that im mature for my age, which is meh, but it doesn't make me happy (which it shouldn't but anyways). thank you for the last part of the video, where you showed your true self, i really relate to it. being "average" is what truly makes us human (you are very pretty and very funny!!)

[@Minniemooz]

Completely understand this. I’m 21 now and felt the exact same after turning 18. I think the most important thing is just learning to love yourself and not letting society make you feel like your worth only lies in how men view you and what men prefer. You’re still so young and have the rest of your life ahead of you

[@dupeskara]

@@Minniemooz thank you so much for your comment :)) ik that male attention is not of most importance, but sometimes you feel like you are worth nothing if you are not desired!! im looking forward to my 20s this year, so i hope for the best!!

[@teetheatersanonymous]

Quite the opposite! You’re just starting your life! Take this with a grain of salt (I’m 18, and a guy), but you’re entering the age where you get to explore the world and study what you want and make new friends! Your brain and body aren’t even at their peak yet- the only people who want you to be a teenager forever are freaks

[@Firelupe4ever]

Coming in a week late to this, but I just turned 29, and as a girly a decade older than you, I know you've got this! Change, especially physical change, can be hard. I look a bit different from what I did 10 years ago, and accepting that was tough at first. (It's normal to be sad about change, so don't beat yourself up if you're sad.) But then I decided that I don't give a crap what others think, especially immature people whose opinions are just a product of social media and peer pressure. My value, and your value, are not determined by others. You are beautiful and priceless because you are human, wholly unique! Hang onto that. ❤️

[@dupeskara]

@@Firelupe4ever thank you very much :)))

[@shiloh3412]

i always found aging to be so beautiful and it's really upsetting because no one in my personal life really sees it . i love the aspect of just living long enough to experience life and have so many stories to tell and it's shown through your wrinkles . how mature and wise it makes you look . it's like scars but it's done naturally

[@Kiputytto_minis]

I was always the youngest of my friend groups so I've always been excited to get older. 😂

[@cherie..cherry]

No exactly!! I feel the same way. When I look at my grandmas and family members, I see immense wisdom and life lived. That’s what I aspire to achieve one day godwilling. It’s so sad to see how *Western* culture has dismissed and vilified aging. So many cultures outside the west bubble revere and celebrate their elders and growing up smh

[@MrLanceDaily]

Stress ages people prematurely. I’ve lived through the Y2K scare, 9/11, the Great Recession, regular trials and tribulations, and the pandemic. It’s surprising that people think we’re aging better than the next generation

[@goontender_lowercase.]

One of my fave hockey goalies has had a very stressful life esp with injury and its definetly aged him quicker than his teammates so i agree

[@EveloGrave]

I assume everyone is 28. It is a good age. Old enough to be responsible. Young enough to be irresponsible also. Then you hit 65 and are no longer 28.

[@moonsigil]

I turned 34 a month ago and I spend way way way too much time thinking about my "faded beauty" to the point that it genuinely depresses me. I wish I didn't have these thoughts in my head! Every time I look in the mirror I feel so sad and all I can think is "I've gotten so old and ugly." This type of thinking really rots women's brains. It's horrifying to me to see teenagers already feeling this way...

[@nikkicarreon]

I'm so sorry you feel this way, I'm 25 but I feel the exact same way, please don't let those thoughts stop you from having fun and living boldly

[@moonsigil]

@@nikkicarreon Nikki, you are beautiful inside and out and so worthy of love -- from yourself most of all. Thank you so much for the comforting reply 🩵😭😭

[@maria-beatles2692]

Aging is a privilege. It is so heartbreaking that we view signs of aging to be "ugly" & "undesirable". Nikki is right about the problems with filters & the toxic beauty industry warping the concept of beauty & aging.

[@Xandrvick]

“Gertrude, thank you for the ten shillings” absolutely took me OUT queen 😭

[@6tomb]

the green hair + orange eyeshadow combo is serving oompa loompa realness... were you involved with the glasgow wonka experience perchance

[@nikkicarreon]

Yes omg I was just there!

[@lydauqbsjxbsj]

I don’t know how any parent is ok that their 9 year old child wants to have a whole skin care routine…like…how could you not question as to WHY your child wants this and WHERE they are getting this idea from?? Why would you not tell your child “you do not need anti-aging skincare, you are beautiful the way you are”??? We literally see everything age around us, so why do we think that we shouldn’t also age?

[@DragonRose610]

I’m 40 and this obsession with everyone wanting to look 20 for the rest of their lives is a turnoff to me. It actually makes me want to embrace aging, I have no desire to be like these people, There’s a lot more things I’d rather enjoy than spending hours and hours a week and a lot of money to try to cling to my youth. I have friends who spend $500 every few months on Botox. No thanks I’ll use that 2k a year to go on vacation.

[@TheBecke1983]

"The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time." - Mark Twain I think it all is just the fear of death behind this hate

[@nbucwa6621]

I don't exactly agree but I don't wholly disagree either. I think many would rather die young and pretty than live to be old and ugly and ignored. I think for many, social death is more terrifying than physical death.

[@splendidsimp]

​@nbucwa6621 idk where tf you got the idea that most people would rather die young instead of being able to live a full life, just because they won't be pretty when they die. I have literally never met a person who wanted to die young unless theyre suicidal

[@moosesues8887]

@@nbucwa6621why is it more scary 😂

[@hotsexyangel]

Orrrr it’s just blatant misogyny. Lmao try living in a woman’s world.

[@hotsexyangel]

This is such a man comment lmfao 🤣 I think you’re missing too many pieces of the puzzle here. You’re far off from the real reason behind any of this. (Hint: Misogyny✨)

[@kermit734]

nikki doesn't realise how impactful and positive her videos are. i hope she never stops making these videos. i love you nikki :)

[@zoelo8513]

body dysmorphia really is something else; i know i have it too and i look at you and say “how can you not see how absolutely beautiful you are?” like I haven’t had that same conversation with my friends before smh even if you’re aware there’s no escaping

[@nbucwa6621]

same.

[@Kiputytto_minis]

I've been with my husband since we were teens and he's always told me how beautiful I am even as we age and I've had children and my body has changed. Yet it doesn't matter. I still have dysmorphia. I wish just one time I could see myself the way he does. I see women online who are my weight/height and same size in clothes and I think they're beautiful. I just can't think that for myself and it sucks.

[@Minniemooz]

TikTok gave me an eating disorder and made me use retinol at 19 years old. Almost a year off tiktok now, happily pregnant and embracing my changing body at 21 years old. Not bothered about anti ageing products either. Ageing is a privilege not all get to experience.

[@handlecannotbeblank]

Imagine being only 21 and pregnant, such a sad hetero 😂💀

[@Minniemooz]

@@handlecannotbeblank I’m financially stable and my baby was planned. I’ve always wanted to be a young parent and I’m very happy about it, thank you!

[@azulyraazul9287]

21 years old is adult age so i don't get what is supposed to be wrong about it? Good age to have a child too (biologically speaking)

[@chaoticneutralsheep]

@@azulyraazul9287 It's great for her to have a child at 21 because that's what she wants but biologically speaking it's different for everyone. Best not to reduce women to youth and fertility considering the subject matter of the video.

[@mittag983]

​@@handlecannotbeblankI'm lesbian and I also think that ppl so young in this Gen and pregnant will end up single mothers but it's her choice in the end and maybe she doesn't care if her hetero man will cheat or leave someday

[@nudimane_]

it's terrifying how comfortable people are with just, harassing people over their appearance, the last thing I ever wanna do is hurt people's feelings wth 😭

[@Sjood-qs8ol]

Young people don’t realize that a lot of us in our 20s didn’t grow up in a world where wearing sunscreen on your face was drilled into our heads. Quite the opposite. In the early 2000s people wanted to be tan. Even when I was a teen in the later 2010s a lot of people still wanted to be tan. I grew up being told the sun is good for you and it’s good to get some sun on your skin. So these 13 year olds calling her a bad person for not wearing spf are just plain ignorant and loud.

[@Sjood-qs8ol]

Also these kids have grown up only ever seeing extremely filtered or photoshopped skin and celebrities with Botox playing high schoolers in their late 20s and early 30s. They are so terribly insecure about literally everything, every week they come up with a new body feature or function to be ashamed for. They think if they project on others that it won’t happen to them well sucks for them, acne, eye bags, wrinkles, and dark spots are all normal and they’re definitely in store for them. They’re in for a harsh reality check

[@raevamay]

seeing people equate aging to being ugly reminds me of how a lot of people perceive weight as well. i was told as a kid “you’re not fat, you’re pretty” as if someone can’t be bigger and pretty as well. personally, i’m excited to age though because it will mean i managed to live a full life

[@virginmary8794]

do people not realize that majority of kids are not even capable to have acne or any skin "flaws" (including acne scars, acne in general, wrinkles), because they (majority of them) have not gone through puberty....so companies and people promoting use of skincare and makeup to reduce the aging process is...interesting

[@Matthew-gl6ni]

Gen.z. isn't all aging quickly, but there is definitely a rise in steroid use, vaping, and extremely unhealthy diets and "micro-plastic surgery" with gen.z. like I do think people are taking this whole thing way too far, but I think there will definitely be a rapid aging in the body as well if we don't push back on these toxic trends that have become normalized. Like buccal fat removal and botox touch ups. I feel like people's faces might fall off at 50 years old tbh, like eventually people will start getting skinnier bones implanted or something.

[@MrFrigid247]

I Genuinely feel bad for people who just want to use TikTok for entertainment and are exposed to this shit daily.

[@weiwuxian1577]

no bc this is actually crazy. IG/tiktok users NEED to go outside more, in a VERY literal sense💀sun screen is not the fountain of youth and PPL AGE THROUGH VARIOUS WAYS-- they need to stop obsessing over smooth skin (as well as every other made up insecurity) as if that's the entirety of our value... pls go outside and learn that ppl are not perfect, nor are we suppose to be 💀

[@MeganGster69]

This idea of aging is wild; the other day I had to show a security person my ID because they thought I was 13... I'm 18...💀and then they said, "Wow, you look great for 18; good genetics." (They were dead serious.) Like, sir, when has 18 ever been a "bad" age? Also, it's clearly not a good thing to look 13 (when you're not). Like you are saying, I look like a prepubescent child, not a fully grown woman. And what scares me is that these days, people on TikTok would take a situation like this as a compliment.💀

[@snowyyzoe]

It’s honestly really sad that all these women with jobs and families are bullying teenagers and college students online. I can’t even imagine how bad it will be for the children of these same people

[@dozingdaisy2083]

Retinol already exists for some while, there are people who've used it and sunscreen for about 30 years and they look their age. Sure, they look like they take good care of their skin, but they look their age and that's not bad. I've literally never seen a 70 years old looking like a 40-50 years old, let alone still in their 20s. It's literally ridiculous!

[@ShutupandListen]

I have🙋🏿‍♀️ I be shocked asf when ID’ing ppl at my job

[@anagomes9911]

What people often seem to forget is that our concept of "good for their age" also drastically changes with time and our perception of the person in question. Like yes, it IS surprising that my grandmother is 73 and has no gray hairs, but if you asked me? She looks her age. Because I know her and that's the age I associate with her. I've had people think I'm younger or older than I am at first glance all my life. It always changed to my current age once we became close enough they knew my birthday. "Good for their age" is not a science and these people need to learn that

[@thinecuprunnethoverwithblood]

I have a connective tissue disease that causes my skin to have excessive elasticity and smoothness, giving me a literal "baby face" at 22... But it also causes my limbs to constantly pop in and out of their sockets, muscles to tear off the bone at random times if I'm not excessively cautious, as well as organ and blood dysfunction 24/7. It scares the shit out of me that there's so many people who, despite how DEBILITATING the disease is, have casually mentioned in person that they "wish they had it" because of how it affects my skin. They'd be willing to live a life of literal constant agony, being in and out of different mobility aides, and monthly doctor's visits just for some shiny skin that doesn't even work properly???? It both breaks my heart and absolutely BAFFLES me that our society is still so rooted in appearance-based measurements of worthiness, I feel like I need to start workshopping asap how to teach my future kiddos to address this in a healthy way because it's incredibly sad to witness. For reference, I am not a woman, but I was raised as one for about 18 years of my life, so I'm very familiar with the wild expectations and standards set (BY MEN MIGHT I ADD) for folks who exist within the femme areas of gender expression.

[@Zucifer8]

Is it Ehlers Danlos or something?

[@LoneLupine]

Perfect timing. I'm turning 36 in March and have been feeling really down about my looks. I don't even go on tiktok or Instagram, just feelin ugly. This video smacked some sense into me

[@nikkicarreon]

I’m so happy you’re alive! Turning 36 should be a celebration, sorry you’re feeling down

[@LoneLupine]

​@@nikkicarreonahh thank you so much!! I feel much better ty ♡

[@frogg_tv4774]

aging is such a beautiful concept. you get lines on your face and spots that show your history, show how happy you were or how much time you spent in the sun, etc. i want to smile and spend time in the sun and do all kinds of stuff that gives me wrinkles bc WHY NOT???

[@hilarious557rox]

that first woman especially was sooooo pretty. I am 22 and literally have the same amount of “wrinkles” as this 28 year old. She just has dark circles and crows feet? which are super normal and honestly not due to age? but all of this aside so many people are incapable of grasping that other people experience life differently and have different bodies???

[@mittag983]

She doesn't even have dark circles so condescending if you want dark circles ask me for a selfie

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

The way people are so terrified of aging is just exhausting and dismaying because they’re only amplifying it. We have grown adults attacking each other for visibly aging differently and preteens having meltdowns about needing anti-aging products for wrinkles they do not have and won’t have for years because they’re hearing all this garbage. If we’re expecting to live long, we’re not going to look like we’re in our 20’s forever.

[@mateeeeeo]

My take on this is that every generation has been scared of aging but you overcome it by aging itself; the problem is that online communities provide unavoidable echo chambers no matter your opinion and the problem gets amplified

[@jackznn]

a few years ago, someone said to me that scars and wrinkles are beautiful because it shows that a body is well lived in and experienced lots of things

[@ItsMeBeeee]

For like 40 whole seconds I got to feel like completely normal 26 and not doing everything I can to min-max skin care. Thank you for taking the time to let that woman know she is beautiful.

[@thefoolonthehill9756]

Growing up, my sister made me terrified of raising my eyebrows, telling me that I would get wrinkles even now. If I notice myself raising my eyebrows, I get mad at myself then get mad that I got mad.

[@radiofreejenn0]

Oh man...my body dysmorphia started young. My eating habits started being criticized by 8 and at 10 my grandmother put me on a Slimfast diet one summer. I was forced to run laps around our backyard or jump on the trampoline a certain amount of time. I had a keep a food diary and keep a count of the calories for everything else I ate in the day and I couldn't go over a certain number. Even when I got down to 100 pounds, I was still so affectionately called "thunder thighs" and as a 40 year old woman, I can't wear shorts or bathing suits in public.

[@smartfoam5107]

The attractiveness of a person comes from the acceptance of who they are. To love yourself is sexy af

[@smallcryingchild9322]

This video really covered the whole wide range of gendered ageism. Thank you for speaking about your personal experience because that is so important as well. Also when you talked about how women see eachother and themselves first how a MAN would see them...LITERALLY SO TRUE even I have done it and it was weird because when i was younger (a teen) it wasnt as prevelant, maybe because ive always identified as nonbinary, but now even as an almost 23 year old i find myself unpacking A LOT of internalized misogyny and we all really need to keep ourselves and eachother accountable for that. Ageism is just another thing we have to keep in check. Lets keep doing the work, yall!

[@userrrr.440]

It is a common misconception that a single product can reverse the aging process. However, aging is a natural process that cannot be stopped. That being said, one can still feel youthful at any age. I personally had to take a break from social media to avoid getting caught up in unrealistic beauty standards.

[@Unhappytimeaper]

It reminds me of how people talk about collagen, and that there might be products that can do minor benefits so many are scams because it’s simply not now it works. Rubbing it into your face isn’t going to do anything, and pills/powders might do minor things but usually unless medically designed aren’t bounded to be some savior for your aging skin since it has mixed results. You can take all these supplements and products as much as you want but none of them can inherently magically stop or reverse aging- majority just want your money to feed the capitalistic machines and greed that keep people self conscious

[@Sebastian-ny8qi]

This is so crazy to me, because I know this one girl who is 18 years old, and she was already talking abt fearing aging. And she was advertizing an anti aging product. She is barely even an adult doing all that. Why is this such a thing?

[@eIoisa]

I'm currently a senior in high school and for one my classes doing a project on gendered ageism, just wanted to say I found this video really insightful and it sparked some new ideas for my work. I've noticed I usually learn something new from Nikki's videos especially this one and your Lolita/Age gaps one. You're super funny Nikki, Love ya!

[@Alex-fb4tl]

1:23 being outside is way more fun then staying inside rubbing coconut oil on myself

[@Jaybeclownin48]

Dude I love your content like this way that people have been terrified of aging is honestly just sad like wrinkles show that you’re getting older which isn’t a bad thing, if anything I find it beautiful because that means your body is showing that you are living. Not many people get to grow old, I almost committed soduku when I was 12 and I appreciate every day that I can that I am still alive. I enjoy knowing that I’m trying to make my life in to something I can look back on with smile (while not worrying about how my emotions may cause wrinkles 💀)

[@Jaybeclownin48]

Also what I would give to have her collab with ChadChad and FunkyFrogBait I feel like they all got that some humor of commentary

[@abbypierce4196]

I deleted tik tok last month and I have genuinely felt an increased sense of confidence and lessened anxiety. I think it’s really hard to use the app and not addicted to it, or to not get swayed by the bombardement of trends.

[@kevlikekevin7296]

Okay I just wanna say, new subber here! I am a HUGE fan of you. I am blown away by the detail you include and even the way you speak and tell jokes and stories are amazing and the verbiage you use is extremely impressive. I discovered you thru Kurtis and Jacob and I am so happy I have a new favorite to listen to while I work for 8+ hours a day. Keep at it! You're doing great. I have always thought people's desire to be young literally drains the youth from them. I have always wanted to be older but now I am content with my age. I am excited to grow old. Our culture doesn't allow for middle aged people to enjoy life at all.

[@millie..]

I WAS JUST COMING TO REWATCH THE SHREK BOOK VIDEO??? THIS IS MY LUCKY DAY 🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@Thesbian91]

GIRL ME TOO

[@batjokes1]

the whole “aging is bad don’t age” thing pisses me off so much. i have a lot of chronic illnesses and mental problems that shorten my lifespan largely. i’ll be lucky if i make it to 50/60 at all, i don’t care if i look “aged” by then as long as im alive

[@HazelMateria]

the reasoning behind it is because the emphasis on beauty culture. When we were growing up we were essentially ALLOWED to be young look young act like kids etc, gen z and alpha really aren't given that space anymore. Like if you as a 15 year old dont look a certain way you're getting roasted, and its crazy. Like little girls saying "youre just angry I look better than you at 15 than you do at 27" babe..... Acting and looking 25 as a 15 year old is not a flex, you're setting yourself up to be a victim...

[@Blaineji]

I'm 19 and have had severe body dysmorphia about my face for as long as I can remember. It's the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning because of a society seemingly now cultivated on looks. :( I had to delete Tiktok years ago because the beauty hierarchy was already terrible even back in 2021 on that godforsaken app. I'm way better now than how I was at 13 or 14, and I can actually go outside without caking my face in toxic makeup, but It's still so hard! I feel so dumb explaining this to people as well as I guess It's seen as a very superficial and self-centered concern. I get that feedback a lot from older women, especially gen x (for whatever reason). Yes they grew up with the Y2K, stick thin model era, but it wasn't as fast-paced and recycled as everything is now. Those skinny "influencers" at the time also, were models for a reason. I feel the standard now is that everyone, despite your place in life, is supposed to be 100% perfect and beautiful all the time. This simply just not do-able; nobody has the time for that. We're exposed to so much more and I hope that young girls who see the perfect faces of random people online do not think that that's how everybody looks... It's just quite sad and nobody really truly talks about it the effects. Body dysmorphia has had such a negative effect on my life and It's been a terribly deep hole to crawl out of. Life can be hard to live when the body you're supposed to be living in feels wrong and insufficient.

[@paigewalters9544]

I literally got an ad about hair dye to make you look younger 😭

[@apples6375]

I’ve been thinking about this a lot how people seem to view people as worthy only if they’re “pretty”. Like obviously that’s always existed but a lot more in the past years. It’s great to see someone else sharing these feelings 😭

[@elizaschofield8078]

As a teen with anorexia who struggles with body image, this video reminded me try to ignore all of the noise and chaos of social media. I appreciate you sharing you're own struggles with body dysmorphia too. To anyone out there, it is difficult but we will get through it :)

[@oceanbearmountain]

i'm 31, and i can't remember a time in my life where my mother wasn't obsessed with how old she looked. everyone is insecure about appearance, and when you associate one [age] with the other [attractiveness] then yea.. literally nothing new. the only thing that's new is tiktok incentivizing thinking/perceiving things as new in some unprecedented way, although admittedly tiktok isn't actually doing something new in that regard; arguably desiring a "radical", new newness is far from new...

[@iangondzaldo]

my (at the time) 13 year old friend was scared of SMILING because it would cause smile lines...

[@L_.o._ve]

I really appreciate your vulnerability at the end there. As much as I hate society’s gross obsession with youth, I’m also a victim of it. I admire your ability to articulate your struggles while also promoting a healthier culture surrounding them. so maybe eventually we can all benefit from videos like yours by bringing issues like these to the light. thanks!

[@miaallen6119]

I’m 23 and every time I find a grey/white hair (I have vitiligo so it’s hard to tell what’s what, and I’m clearly part of the problem cos why do I need to qualify this?), I hate how self conscious it makes me. Aging is a privilege. Having enough nutrition and comfort and money to survive is not accessible to so many people around the world. I should be happy to know I’m allowed to age.

[@Mathee]

I'm 28 and I've been getting white hair since my early 20's. Personally, I think I'm gonna look so good with white hair 😄

[@thatplantinthecornerofyourroom]

@@Mathee I also think white/grey hair looks so cool if you embrace it. Once there was this woman on the train with a bunch of tattoos, wrinkles and white hair coming in and I thought she looked amazing!

[@swittley]

Nikki thank you for this. It's sad to see so many people in fear of aging, and so quick to judge and criticize one another. Aging is a privilege. Everyone who is born gets to be young, but not everyone gets the chance to grow old

[@sudenazaktas5385]

The thing is even if someone does everything to not age, they can still age bc early or late aging is really connected to genetics in general. Some people get white hair when they are 25 or not even get white hairs when they are 55...

[@scarabeedae]

This actually made me think a bit why i sometimes feel attatched to looking younger and i realized its because at least for me its become less about beauty standards and more about how i dont feel like an adult, i dont feel responsible and independent. It feels like the older i look the less people will want to forgive me for all my goof ups. This all feels a bit weird to write out because I would like to be a fully functional adult, i just dont know how im going to get there.

[@KoiaKiss]

people are disgustingly superficial.

[@TheDreRock]

This is so informative, especially to a guy who has recently realized my lil ceraVe products were not nearly as [relatively] expensive as i thought

[@mariamii7443]

I was so disturbed when I saw those comments, I honestly couldn’t believe people actually think this way

[@porcelainrobot]

im almost 21 and ive had a bunch of people shocked when i told them my age, people think im way younger than i am. i dont see it as a compliment, i find it pretty disturbing, like what do they think a 20 year old looks like? do they think if become a decrepit old hag the second i hit 18? im not scared of aging, i look forward to it, im excited to be milfy when i get older. this is a great video and such a difficult topic, i appreciate you for making this

[@cherryo5994]

The irony of me getting a skincare ad right after this video. I am so sick and tired of skincare. People left and right, saying you “need”! These products. I am 16 years old, and I can admit I have been a victim of the fear mongering. Especially since I struggle with acne all over my face and body, it ends up being what I think about right when I wake up. I am trying my very best to get out of that mindset. It’s draining. I feel for all the younger girls getting bashed for being all over Sephora/Ulta as well, people so mad about it. Where do you think they saw that same skincare and were told that they “need it”.? Exactly. They are being used and fear mongered as well.

[@faerietailss]

ik this may be corny but ty for making this video. i’m a teenage girl and being on the internet has made me feel so ugly. i am trying to feel better about the way that i look but it is hard but this video made me feel better. it is also very sad to see all my friends and the other girls at my school go through the same feelings. this video reassured me a lot and gave me comfort :)

[@EurypteridFossil]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@briz3950]

I cant believe that age is now a competition💀

[@coletteandrews2916]

I feel the same way about my face. I just turned 25 yet the amount of wrinkles and acne on my face would say otherwise. Trying so many different things that just dont seem to stick for me for one reason or another. I still do things like using the restroom and washing my face with the lights off just so i dont have to have a panic attack over the warzone that is my face and upper body. I love your message Nikki! Everyone should feel better about themselves in general and you are very beautiful too! Thank you for your great videos!

[@caitlyntrenaman8304]

I'm so happy whenever I see you and anyone else making content about this issue. I'm so glad that you pointed out how strange it is that we are making such huge steps toward body positivity and other feminist, appearance-acceptance stuff but still so many of us are so ridiculously blindly critical of age and praising of youth. It scares me how intense it is and I can feel it having an effect on me when I look in the mirror as a twenty year old. I'm so passionate about feminism and acceptance and yet I can't help but give into it, so people really do need to talk about it. Thank you for making this video.

[@gnalkhere]

Couple of tree things: -I knew this one girl in my first dorms who had wrinkles on her face likely from being a very expressive person. She happened to look like she was straight out of the 80s, like I'd see her face on a Smiths album cover, so I nicknamed her "80s". She did work the look. -My mom looked the same for the majority of my life. Only 2 years ago did she let her hair go grey. When I was 9 she was halfway through her forties and my sister blurted out "but you'll be ooooooold :(" and she goes "yeah well I'll still be pretty". It stuck with me to this day and she stayed true to her word, and I think part of me will follow suit (her brothers are still the same weight and I've been compared aplenty to them). She's got that Paul Rudd thing going on in that where she was a kid she looked 30 so it was a bit of everything. The only visual imagery I'll give of my mom is Arab Julia Roberts

[@Dandelions479]

Its sad that we live in a society where we are torn between growing up too fast yet trying to keep pur bodies young forever

[@FinnFongus]

Bro getting old is GOOD the other option is DYING; I’m not on any social media besides KZbin (i don’t think it really counts as much but still) and this kinda stuff is the big reason, people really get so wrapped up in whatever else someone else is freaking out about. Imagine twenty years from now when you really start aging and then think how silly you are. Even if you “look older” you are LIVING, you are A PERSON, your appearance is not your value. Maybe I feel this way because I’ve always had freckles and got bullied for it, so I already have marks I didn’t choose all over my face and body. I just want people to ACTUALLY love themselves and not look in the mirror and say “I love my face because it’s YOUNG” or some other adjective, life is crazy and your appearance could always change, a medical emergency or everyday accident could even do it 🤷

[@6ayunca]

As women why are we critiquing on other woman like this…

[@chipsandlays]

i love your editing style so much, really applaud how much effort you put into your videos:)

[@oddott]

13:07 don't forget about the children who put only skin care on their xmas lists... what happened to american girl dolls and legos? if i got skin care when i was their age i would probably cry (im 21 just to add context lol)