Tip'harah "Most Men And Women In The Black Community Have Mother Issues" Pt.3

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[@IN-D-YHN]

We ain't African NOR black blank bleak bleach blond Blanc Blanco blackout bla bla bla Webster's Dictionary we be Indigenous American INDYHN!!!!!!

[@qbconnect2883]

It took me 48yrs to fully understand how mentally ill(narcissistic) my mother is. And to see how she passed a lot of those twisted ways on to all of her kids, including myself. I'm now trying to be the one to break generational curses while praying for my family to be released from spiritual darkness 🙏🏾 But after all my praying I finally had to accept the reality that i needed to get away from the source first. I'm still a work in progress but I praise the Lord for deliverance 🙌🏾

[@LifeAroundPerspective]

Thank you for this perspective

[@jaybae7315]

I can relate. My mother was a malignant narcissist but now that she is older with a ton of health issues she is subdued. It’s sad that instead of her working on her issues so she can heal and have good relationships with people, she is instead being tolerated by people.

[@waff6ix]

FACTS WE HAVE MOM && DAD ISSUES BOTH IN BLACK COMMUNITY💯😮‍💨

[@starborn85]

I wish she would have talked about the competition between mother and daughter.

[@Nkosi766]

Honor and praise to this Goddess. She’s worthy of worship.

[@DarrenKWilliams]

Can't wait to hear this divine wisdom in the full interview

[@soulmajor7401]

Learning so much from this network! This interview is very informal with a needed perspective (In my opinion)

[@nubianpwr]

Brilliant and insightful...🙏🏾

[@7majesticsun]

Peace a solid build by the Queen, adding on to her point on the shortage of men and the sidechick situation its one of the main reasons why polygamy is the answer to many of these issues we face regarding solid family foundations.

[@redpillreloaded369]

real talk this defo resonate; the single mother is praised in black society but its very toxic

[@joedeadwildin7730]

👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾 Sis hit the nail on the head

[@ANineOne]

You don't have to agree with everything Tip'harah says, but you have to think about it. She makes some good points. And not all black people have mummy and daddy issues.

[@peacefulblessed2114]

Women are competitive it has something to do with colorism and features. As far as mother issues in the black communities. Most not all our mothers are traumatized from neglect and sa abuse. I will use myself for example, my grandmother died young . My mother and her siblings were separated except for the eldest sister and brother they were on their own. My late mother and her brother close to her age were sent to a uncle and his wife. They really didn't want to take the responsibility. However, my mother brother told me the wife use to throw my mother in the closet and locked the door. My mother grew up traumatized and mean Fast forward growing up, my mother was hell she took her anger out on me. I remembered derogatory names calling me nappy headed. She engage with really low vibration people. My babysitters were mean Women, one of my babysitters was a sit at home drug dealer. My God she looked awful at 30. My mother had another daughter the father didn't accept me he was a dark skin man and his family were terrible people. They were two faced and the most shelf hating selfish black people. I didn't know what was colorism were at that time but it begin early for me . I didn't let that traumatized me . I never wanted to bleach my skin or wanted to be a white Woman. I am glad that never affect me in my life, but I can say this people tried to break my spirit because I am a dark skin Women. That ish never worked . I am growing into embracing myself I realize it was the almighty protecting me from people with bad energies. I grew up and I was told to shut up until I was spoken too. I was a very shy kid. My mother sisters were hateful towards their daughter's. I am from a segregated family dark skin VS light and feature. Majority of my life I never met black Women that were proud of being who they were. I seen this through family, ex Co workers, strangers. I had to support myself and find my own direction I can't think of one adult ever influence. Through this trauma that was pass down to me cause me to rebel towards my mother, one day at 12 she hit me and I hit her back. She never talked to me she always hit. Once I hit her back it continue, I start running away. I became sexual active. I had a baby at 13 ,I went back to streets abandoned my baby to my ill mother until she died. I ended getting pregnant again at 16. I became the black sheep, I was a young mother I put the same trauma onto my daughters. When I had another daughter I a show favoritism. When my third daughter got older I start to show I didn't care. Moving forward I don't have close relationships with none of my now adult daughters. I chose not to have no relationship with my mother other daughter and my mother side of the family. Best decision I ever made. The moral of my story in order for me to heal , I had to move away from places that didn't benefit mentally. I had to appreciate being alone , I had to learn not just blame individuals on my bad decisions in the past I to take accountability too. The biggest problem in black families they point fingers and blame but don't take accountability. They abuse their kids in the worse way and most kids in our community that were brought up in my Era I am 43 . Their parents were part of the Crack Era and they were sa victims

[@DvineWakandandian_Warrior]

😢that was beautiful I'm reading this while high but that's so sad rom your mother being locked away to your story as well. You showed the traumas through generations and give your adult daughters time but also be there when or if they need you. Thank you for sharing your story fam.

[@blackbette07]

Your story is very similar to my family's. My mother's parents also died when she was very young. An aunt took her and her siblings in her home but, she was abusive. My mother was emotionally crippled up until death. She had my sister and I without wedlock. I think that it emotional brokenness wrecked her health. All this to say that we as a people have to find a way to heal. God bless you on your journey. Glad you are flourishing.🖤🖤

[@tezztaliban]

to whomever is reading this • sit down and sincerely apologize to yourself for whatever you allowed to go on or allowed yourself to go through - its essential to starting a new chapter in life. you cant heal without first being completely vulnerable and having a conversation with self in full honesty about who you see when you look in the mirror. take accountability and forgive whats deserving - then deal with it so you can move forward with purpose and strength. you owe yourself ecstasy. I hope you find your way light body. peace to you on your journey •

[@shantelPerkins7673]

Thank you

[@stardaughter444]

❤❤ We were discussing how our parents were closer to slavery than us also. Their parents brought them up not knowing as much as we do about sensitivity but more about discipline and protection instinct ❤❤

[@ShaneM420]

We needta go back to the old days. Discipline....RESPECT.

[@juste.une_]

i love her

[@dre.arsen_]

Most women Don’t want to hear about Polygamy.

[@Mr._Johns_Productions]

She deserves commendations for using this platform for Black issues. When U.S Blacks are Beyond just being diverse and post after Trumps economy people with little common ground. Beautiful woman 😍

[@karenl7786]

Much respect to the sister. But so much of who and what we think we are is forced socialization, particularly for black people. Neither polygamy nor monogamy should be forced, but the option chosen by the families and people involved, according to their cultural and spiritual values, and needs and wants. The problem has never been what we should or shouldn't do, but that which was forced on us and that which was taken away. This whole notion that women are by "nature" competitive just feeds into a divisive narrative. Our ancestors observed all of the natural world, why are we no longer smart enough to do so? In very few other species is the female competitive for the male, especially in so-called "higher" species; she doesn't need to be.

[@aeamae]

Sage wisdom

[@iraazela]

I've never seen a crooked mango seed bear crocked fruits. The tree will bear as good as the soil (soul) that nurtures it. We need more healthy wholistical women to bear and nuture our children.

[@unbiasedtv6525]

🐐

[@shellyh.2033]

👏🏿👊🏿💯💛

[@sbaby-kg8hn]

True but black women don't have to just date black men they can date men from different cultures if their is a shortage of good men in the black community.

[@darkfeminineconsciousness]

Most black women have a preference for black men and you can’t fault us for that because genetically, they are the best choice. In Africa, the solution to this issue is polygyny and we have been doing that in the west. Just in a very toxic way.

[@ANineOne]

a shortage of good black men in the black community? Which black community in the world exactly are you speaking about? Because this is a hideous generalisation.

[@ntuan9360]

@@darkfeminineconsciousness there’s no shortage of men in Africa

[@sbaby-kg8hn]

@@darkfeminineconsciousness key words very toxic way . I could only ever be with one woman having two or three wives would be too stressful 😕

[@itssteph4693]

I agree with you, same goes for black man we have the choice to choose who gone be our partner

[@asheldover4050]

💯…………..🇬🇾

[@raymondalcock6515]

Well spoken sister.I also made that observation and was chastised for saying.Hence why some men do tbe same thing that happened to their mother and likewise the daughters

[@shiatsuman01]

Truth spoken !!

[@lakeside321]

This must be speaking about the Caribbean community, because she sounds West Indian.

[@A_LivingTestimony]

Mostly mother issues being raised in single parent households by women

[@dearbreanna]

🎯

[@Royalrae23]

I agree with everything but polyamory

[@Kattkiteyez]

I understand Polygamy but I don't agree with it either.

[@155rudeboy]

When will our people have true honesty and real self reflection. The last time we had this type of honesty was with Marcus Garvey. Let’s be honest our women have assimilated to this sick society and such a deep way that they will never resist or fight against the system of capitalism. Our women never will really deal with the reality that capitalism was built off our peoples back and the only way we will have true freedom is to resist western hegemony, which our women are scared or afraid to do. If you read any slave narrative you can see that these oppressor knew to destroy the women and thereby destroy the community. If our women were as serious for liberation as they were about being apart of a sick system we would have repetitions, a seat on In security council, our nations would have high GDP etc. the mother is the first teacher this is why Islamic countries go so hard in protecting/ dominating their women. Like Marcus Garvey said if you are not ready to do what other races have done then we had better ….

[@Nkosi766]

Love your views. In my view women are competitive by nature, women by nature will choose the best mate to survive, their only so much high value men. She’s so brilliant to be so young. All great views, and excellent answers to the question. You’re a shining star sister, you’re views are reality based.

[@karenl7786]

Interesting opinion. If women are competitive by nature, what are we competing for? Who we have now decided are "high" value men is determined by societal status factors, which change over time historically. And if these "natural" factors were true, it would apply equally too most if not all human cultures because it would be after all "natural". Not only is it not predominantly true for most human societies throughout time, it isn't even true for most species of living creatures. Human beings particularly in the last 1000 years have just been held bent on pursuing as unnatural a path as they possibly could, and black people in particular seem to have suddenly forgotten who and what they were for millennia.

[@Nkosi766]

@@karenl7786 , there’s always nuances. See what the science says. Or nature , just look at other primates, the chimpanzees or the gorillas. It’s all genetic. But in order for human genes to go on ppl must compromise , or settle. High value man can be anything from genetics make up, health, the ability to take care of a family. You can see it in high school, the fine girl goes for the jocks, the ordinary dude settles for the what left, and the nerds don’t even get looked at. Not always, but majority of the time

[@kwekuoboasi9352]

Nonsense 85% of my Neighborhood didn’t have no Fathers in there life. All of us was raised by single parent.

[@Kiki-xc2zx]

Why has the breakfast club not interviewed one of the biggest Israelite groups in the world, IUIC? They have meet with heads of the Igbo in Nigeria, governors of many west African countries, met with the most wanted man in Haiti, many celebrities, they swamped the Barclays center in regards to the Kyrie issue, they are at every protest, every march, they have thousands of subs on their KZbin channels, why have I not yet seen an interview??

[@kreativesolutions7.0]

I think she needs to heal herself. I don't agree with some of the things she says.

[@lintleramonate2470]

I dont agree with some of the things she's saying. ..specifically polygamy...

[@tricialwest4389]

Love this powerful message 🖤🤎 I just don't agree with the polygamy part because I am pro monogamy. But I absolutely respect people for what they do and believe in. And I attract I don't chase and so I will attract my soulmate

[@darkfeminineconsciousness]

Ase!