Tips for Dealing with Meltdowns in Children with Autism

[@liyubi]

To summarize: 1. Define 2. Assess frequency and severity 3. Treatment and planning Tip: 95% prevention

[@marybarbera]

yes!

[@Tqueenboss1]

I hate my meltdowns. I'll cry, and feel so fustrated. I'll smack myself in the head, scream at people, call people names, pace around, and pull my hair (I've had this happen *a lot* for around the span 4 years). I also begin to feel overloded (sensory wise). The worse feeling is knowing afterwards that I was mad for a stupid reason and feeling embarrassed 😔 Crazily enough, no one in my family mentions it and they pretend like it doesn't happen. I'm trying to tell my mom I might have Autism (and the symptoms were delayed) and need a diagnosis but she won't believe me! I'll just tell my pediatrician when I see her next, so I can get some closure! Thanks for the video, it was helpful!

[@marybarbera]

I am sorry to hear you are struggling and hope you can get your family to help get you support soon! Thank you for sharing your insight.

[@billiealexander5881]

Tqueenboss_BlueSky omg same I’m watching this cause I’m having one right now

[@zanderr5750]

Update?

[@Tqueenboss1]

@@zanderr5750 well, I got a psychologist appointment, but I had a setback because I never had a chance to tell him my symptoms so he listed it as "low self esteem issues" T_T Now I either go back to him to explain my symptoms or I go to a female psychologist (which I want to go to because I'm female also). But my mom believes me now so I'm in a better spot!

[@zanderr5750]

Tqueenboss1_Infinity Nice!

[@Anna_3184]

My best friend has autism and once at school she had a tough time during class. I didn’t know what to do before but I’m watching these sorts of videos to try and learn how to help her in case she does need that help again. I just feel so bad for her because I felt like I was doing something wrong. She was crying and I sat out there with her and saying that it’s ok. I counted with her when breathing in and out. Thank you for making this video so I can understand more on what I should do next time.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for watching.

[@Havetosucceed]

You such a good friend and i know how its feel when that happens.

[@vanessabayardo9788]

I am so tired of all the adults at home, not been patient with my nephew. My nephew was having a meltdown today. He is 3.7 years old. We were at the park. I told my mom to leave and I would stay with him until he calmed down. She said, "No it's not a nervous breakdown. F...that. It's a tantrum". Apparently because I'm the one with a minor in Psychology. If I'm telling you to leave me alone with him it's because I'm the only one patient with him. Why can't people understand that? And then she talked to me about what grandma used to do to her. I told her, "Exactly and that's why you have so much resentment against grandma. Do you want him to have resentment against you?!" And she said, "Well do you want me to die?" WTH? We're supposed to be focusing on helping my nephew, not on believing your mom's method is superior to all the psychological evidence. I'm about to have a nervous breakdown myself. I am not tired of my nephew. I'm tired of people's attitudes towards my poor nephew.

[@marybarbera]

That sounds very challenging.

[@yusrarujub6836]

They want to raise their kids as their parents raised them but that world do not exist anymore they need to understand that.. poor nephew just like my son please give him as much love as you can please never leave him alone 😭😭😭

[@eminemilly]

So hard. My almost 2 year old meltdown does sound like a nervous breakdown like she's hyperventilating.

[@AshCim_Kpop]

I’ve only recently been diagnosed with autism, not severe, but my main thing is I cry, get mad and just yell. My mum has started trying to help with meltdowns now but I hate them. My main trigger is change and the covid 19 situation with school isn’t helping much at all. My mum will tell me things about school (not realising it’s 1 of my triggers) and she won’t always know when the meltdown is about to transition so at first gets a bit mad and can yell back but eventually will try help. With the covid situation and other things going on I have gone from being able to control my meltdowns (around once a week) 2 like every other day. And they happen whenever they want. Like I literally just had 1 at 3:30 in the morning because my cat had come in room and ripped a bit of my blanket.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for sharing. This sounds very hard. Covid and changes make everything worse for sure.

[@yoeli4314]

Yes, prevention is key! So true! So happy I found your channel! Great work!

[@marybarbera]

Thanks again for watching !

[@rachaelbond7902]

Watching these videos after having another emotional breakdown after finally calming my toddler after his meltdown. Im 100 percent sure he is autistic. He just turned 2 and it breaks my heart. He has these melt down daily and its so hard. He bites his self, head butts things hard, kicks ect. He tip toe walks, the smallest things upset him, he doesn't talk yet, he only plays with things that are round or spin. If he has a car he flips it and spins the wheel stuff like that. He also has 3 tics he does with his hands and fingers all day long. He spins on circles. Im worried about him as ive never dealt with autism before and I just want a happy healthy child but when he gets these episodes when he is upset I feel hopeless. Im looking into a specialist to get him diagnosed and some help. I have 2 older boys so I no this is more than just toddler things. I need help on calming him because it's really taking a toll on me and I feel helpless. He has been doing this almost a year now and just turned 2 Dec 28th

[@rachaelbond7902]

I finally calmed him this time by letting him scream and lash out for like 30 mind and switching the TV through the few shows he likes until he finally calmed down enough and wanted to watch his autism stimulating video he watches on youtube.

[@marybarbera]

That sounds really challenging. While you wait for help, I do have online courses that can help! check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@yusrarujub6836]

Same like my son just turned 3.. its so heartbreaking 😭😭😭

[@thorshuatus]

My son is 6 & he's highly functional autism (we think & what some therapist say). He has issues with his socks & things out of order especially in the mornings when we're trying to get him to school. We're late at least 1-3 times a week and as an ex-military Dad, it's taking a toll on me as it's out of my control. I'm a no non-sense & on-time kinda guy and this really drives me up the wall a lot. I have a hard time not putting in my opinions at times and I know this doesn't help the situation. I really want the best for my child and will do anything even if it's putting off my ego & pride.

[@kendrickcampbell7187]

@@thorshuatus I totally understand dad. My son just turned 5 last month. He was diagnosed last year in March. We knew already, he mostly nonverbal but he can say words and repeat the names of objects. We're hopefully, starting kindergarten at the end of August

[@bettygonzalez6084]

WatchEd a couple of your videos so far, excited to apply it with our Ethan. He is about to be five and has autism and the (meltdowns) are definitely increased to about every two hours. Thank you

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching. Sorry to hear you are dealing with those meltdowns. If you haven't yet, make sure to sign up for one of my free workshops www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@JamieRidge-mi9ck]

Thank you so much for your channel and videos, I appreciate the hard work and time it takes for you to do all of this! Much appreciated

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for appreciating what I do. ❤

[@sirwreck1587]

I love you!!!! You are so helpful... Saving for your vids.

[@marybarbera]

Thank you!

[@alienking3427]

Currently trying to handle my meltdown right now. I was a late diagnosis and my mom won't believe me. I have so many meltdowns I'm so tired of having them and having my mom either ignore me or talk down to me like "chill out, stop having a tantrum" or the classic "oh please, it wasn't that bad get over it" I don't know what to do or what to do to get help.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for reaching out. That sounds challenging. Perhaps ask your mom to take you to a psychologist or counselor for support.

[@rachelfarley4856]

Please get it through to Your Mom that You need routine. And always make sure you eat good and have plenty of rest. I know that helps with my kid.

[@simonesmith5337]

Its the same with me except they know that i have asperges and adhd :/ They also blame every ting on electronics and yell at me even though its not electronics that cause them! They always say "im sick of you acting this way! Get over it!" When its very hard to when i get yelled at, im thinking about showing them this video if they yell at me again.

[@israelmeza2061]

I’ll be praying for you my son is two years old and he has them a lot and he has autism, autistic people need to be treated with more respect love and kindness with understanding .

[@billzbadd5299]

My 3 year old nephew would be on the iPad when it goes off she screams and cry and gets frustrated won't stop crying until we turn on the TV or me giving him my phone what can I do

[@marybarbera]

You may have to teach some other things to do. Or work to trade with him - iPad for toy he likes.

[@hasnain106]

My 3 year old son recently diagnosed with minor autism, and he is currently receiving therapies in early start program school 3 times a week for 2 hours each for the last three weeks but i dont see any behavioral change in him. He still screams, yells and hit his twin brother, myself and his mom during his meltdown or out of frustration...what can we do to make it better i know it wont change in few days we gotta keep trying it which we are ready to do. God bless everyone!!

[@marybarbera]

You may want to look into getting a BCBA to help with problem behavior. Think about how you can prevent it is another good strategy. My online courses can also help too. Check out a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@liezelquirabo3902]

thank you so much for this very useful tips...

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for being here!

[@SalmanArif100]

My 3 and half years old son have recently diagnosed autism. I am living in a town where no slp or therapist available. My son is banging head, throwing things and crying during his meltdown. I need help

[@marybarbera]

That sounds extremely challenging. You may want to check out my online courses so you can learn how to help him. Here is a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@moneylinda]

Hello Mary Barbera , my 8 year old son has autism. Everytime when something doesn't goes his way or if he doesn't get his way or what he wants. He will scream and hit others as far as me and his father and 2 younger brothers. He will stomp his feet and they do happen frequently.

[@marybarbera]

that sounds challenging. We want to use 8 positives to every negative and teach skills of what he can do when upset. We also want to try to offer supports to prevent problem behavior 95 percent of the time. If you can get a local bcba to help create a plan, this is best.

[@christopherlavery2670]

Cheers for the help, we stuck this video on for her and she just stopped 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@marybarbera]

that is good.

[@jmb72390]

mam my nephew he's 5 going on six every time he comes over to our house used to not do this he runs around jumping screams and cries a lot when there's nothing wrong with them

[@marybarbera]

Yes, that may be a meltdown. They can be challenging for the child and all involved.

[@jmb72390]

@@marybarbera he used to not cry and I'm trying to be patient but everytime I try to discipline him not physically I seem to be scared him more more than trying to make him behave I'm just trying to make him understand that i don't mean no harm but I'm seems like I'm doing it wrong

[@marybarbera]

yes discipline can backfire frequently if you don't know the function of behavior. I talk more about all this and techniques to help in my online courses. You can watch a free workshop here: www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@Kendorable]

Were there any big changes in your house before this started happening? Are there any smells or lights which could be bothering him? Does he come directly to your house from a place he was more comfortable? Try to pay attention to what he does right before this starts and see if there's anything in your house he avoids once he's okay. Once you figure out what it is, try to alleviate the problem.

[@pragyak3889]

Mam, my son is three.. he is hitting a lot and also shouting n crying s lot for things. If not given he will keep crying on top of his voice till the thing is given to him .. I m really tired how to control his behaviour

[@marybarbera]

If you give him the item when he is screaming and crying it will likely continue but it can also be more complicated than that. Check out my new quiz to get more resources www.marybarbera.com/quiz

[@huntresssnow3669]

My daughter is 13 and does the same thing. We I peg 1 thing and a new behavior manifest for something else a few weeks later. It's been on going for 10 yrs. You are not alone 🙃

[@BratzFanz123]

My little cousin who’s autistic will steal things like perfume, candy and anything he can get his hands on. It’s been horrible. He fights his siblings and he tries to constantly hit his grandmother and mom. They’re at a loss. They’re waiting to get him on a therapist but he’s on a waiting list. It’s makes no sense and even when we correct him verbally he lashed out and tries to hit the person that’s nearest to him. It’s really unacceptable because he hides things, steals, curse, violent, etc.

[@marybarbera]

That sounds challenging! I would have them watch my free workshops as this can help them while they wait to reduce problem behavior and increase language. www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@skinner1961]

Hi, do you have any videos that would help me help my sons 3 year old autistic child sleep? at the moment she will sleep for an hour or two then wake and scream for about 2 hours. fall asleep again for an hour or so and be awake screaming again. for the last four days she has slept very little, she doesn't take naps during the day. would be grateful for some tips i could use.

[@marybarbera]

That sounds hard. Make sure to get a medical evaluation and also check this out www.marybarbera.com/sleep

[@sahmed7467]

Very useful info

[@marybarbera]

Thank you!

[@jelynalvendo8777]

I have a daughter that having this kind of behaviors she bangs her head in the floor, she throws things,she screams no one can control her she has multi disability,visually impaired,can't talk it so hard for me to see her like that😭 is there anyone suffering like this or same case as my daughter?

[@marybarbera]

Can you get a BCBA in your area? That would be the best bet!

[@hudasamad902]

hello mam kindly guide me i have some confusions regarding dealing meltdown, my 5 years old autistic son use to throw away his glasses (poor eyesight) when we do not give him the things he dmands.my question is,should i give him what ever he wants?

[@marybarbera]

That's not usually the appropriate answer but building skills to help him accept no may help.

[@Youarebeautiful6690]

Whoever is reading this I hope you stay safe and well 💗 💓 💕 💖 💜 ❤️ 💗

[@chriscook460]

How do you not understand meltdown....screeming crying refusing to calm down🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ my autistic grandson has the same reaction everytime he doesnt get to do what he wants to do.🙂 hes only 2..Only time he melts down is usually when we stop him on his way to tour chaotically.We play peek a boo...it changes his thoughts to run off...and he has no reaction to no or time out.🤷‍♀️Hes nonverbal.but has a smile that can melt the artic!⚘💞

[@backwoodstef1222]

Is there anything I can do to help my son not have a panic attack I don't want him on a tablet or phone all day I wanna try to get him to interact or play he throws himself to the ground and cries as if in pain he just turned four

[@marybarbera]

That is really difficult. A lot of kids need to be taught skills in order to engage in those things outside of tablet time. My free workshop can get you started in teaching these skills. www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@laurasrecords7213]

But what if the meltdown is because not getting what the child wants but shouldn't have like prolonged time on computer game? There is no possible way to prevent the meltdown by letting him play 12 hours a day.

[@marybarbera]

I understand, but perhaps you could teach coping skills or things he can do, like new leisure skills, to help prevent the blow ups. Sometimes it takes a lot of assessment to figure out what to do.

[@RMayliah]

My autistic child is 5 years old, nonverbal, flight risk, and very high functioning, however all of this crying, and whining is a new thing, he never acted like that before!

[@marybarbera]

New behavior can be a sign of something medical or pain related going on! check out my mini course all about reducing behaviors turntantrumsaround.com

[@RMayliah]

@@marybarbera After I had him a few days, we had an amazing time, but when I went to take him to his momma he started clutching his backpack, again never before!

[@quanisha01]

I live in south Florida and I’m on ABA waiting lists and As well as therapist waiting list for my 10 year old son. Resources down here are scarce and my child is having more meltdowns such as hitting, screaming curse words, threats of self harm, tonight I was almost at the brink of taking him to facility, but I stopped myself because these doctors don’t help, they just prescribe medication. Florida is a pill mill state. What do I do?

[@marybarbera]

Great Question.... To learn more attend a 💻 free workshop to help children increase talking, decrease tantrums, and improve picky eating, sleeping, potty training and more: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

[@suchibalan1640]

My 6 year son gets irritated for the sound of crying from babies and toddlers. He starts crying himself, terribly hitting me and pulling my hair. Very difficult to go in public. Please help to overcome this...

[@marybarbera]

That is challenging! Without knowing him I cannot give individualized advice. I do have free workshops that many parents have found very helpful. Sign up free here: www.marybarbera.com/workshop

[@jragon9215]

It’s hard for me, I don’t have the patience to deal with this and I have anger issues and that’s a terrible combination when dealing with this.

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for sharing to us!

[@carmineV255]

Hi Dr Mary can you help me I have a 12 year old autistic grand son that every day between 5 pm and 7 pm he has a meltdown cry’s stamp his hands and feet. He also slaps his head and screams he is on risperidone 1 mg /ml the dose is .50 in the morning and at night .25.. We are thinking to switch him to Ritalin what is your suggestion please help me I known it’s not for you to make decisions like this but I would really appreciated your thoughts thank you for all your help . Papa Carmine

[@marybarbera]

You can google mary barbera +medication for more on this topic. Ritalin and risperidone are very different medications. It does sound like there may be a medical component so definately talk to his doctor.

[@s4txan.x.51]

My brother has autism and Down syndrome he has months where he’s completely calm and communicates with us and is absolutely great but then comes some months where for the whole month he literally every single night tries to break EVERYTHING IN THE HOUSE like when I say break everything I mean it this month it has gotten so bad that I can’t don’t feel safe around him and don’t feel safe putting stuff on the table and whenever he gets a meltdown he just runs for my 5 year old sister and tries to hit her My parents are talking about sending him to boarding school for a year or two and I love my brother and absolutely don’t want him to go but I’m 14 and like I can’t do anything so like when my brother is breaking all this stuff and is trying to hit us what should I do? Ok so his meltdowns are basically 1breaking everything in front of him 2hitting everyone including himself 3not talking he does not talk and when he’s having a meltdown he’s like not himself and is weirdly very very strong for a 9 year old like my dad a big 6,3 man can barley hold him even tho my brother is very small and skinny for his age like he’d totally pass for a 7 year old Also my mom is discussing pills is that ok or are pills harmful?

[@marybarbera]

Medication helps many kids ! Also looking into medical issues and pain as a cause may be helpful

[@monkeypantz2293]

thank u very much for this video I've been looking for tips bout this

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for watching. Have you watched my free workshops? They may help you even more. bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@monkeypantz2293]

yes

[@haideralazam6850]

my son is 15 years old autistic boy who is happy and smiley but lately he turns to have a strange behavior like he is getting panic attack or some thing I don't understand three times a day at the exact time 2:45 pm ,3:45 pm,4:45 pm. not before not after so he is ok the rest of the day except these times I can watch the clock and run to him at the Nano second he will scream and start panicking and hit any thing front of him, his face full of horror and he is shaking and like he is losing control and when we try to come him down he gets abrasive and push or pull our t-shirt or even sequels our nicks or arms he will not satisfied until he hits wall with madness or brake some thing while breathing deep this can go like 3-5 minutes then he gets quite and felling sorry trying to apologize to me and to his mom I foregate to mention that he will play a Tomas train raze game during the panic in his I phone to trigger him self and keep it playing loud and repeat the game at certain level during the screaming and attacking , we don't want to take his I phone a way thinking he may get worst without losing him self and screaming out loud about how he is feeling at the moment - this is getting too much for me and for his mom we are just watching the clock and don't know how worst it can get . sorry for my bad English if you know some thing about this issue please help

[@awadhnarayansingh9629]

My son is crying every evening for more than an hour. Does not stop at all. Is this a meltdown ? He cries everyday evening and every morning he wakes up to go to school. Is there anything you can advice me to help him. He also cries when we say we need to go outside to buy grocery. Please some help

[@marybarbera]

If there is anything you can do to prevent the behavior, we want to do this. I do discuss this and how to make a plan to stop this within my online courses. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@AutismAwareness]

Thank you!

[@marybarbera]

You're welcome!

[@lornalitonjua7414]

Good afternoon mam. I have a son and now 31yrs.. His tandrums arises because he wants to go out by himself. Another reason he said he has girl friend and he want to see his girl friend and want to stay with her. We normally do some stratergy saying not now, tomorror or on sunday or not now its raining, or its very hot.. And somehow he is calm and hus father normally take care of him because im working his dad passed away already. The burden is in me he is very strong he will throw things.. How to prevent him from going out by himself. But it doesnt mean he dont go out. We go out and his father always bring him whwn going out.

[@marybarbera]

That is tough. It may be best to find some safe places he can go or find someone who can go out with him! Check into adult services in your area.

[@dreamweaver3178]

I get the word "No." When asking my 6 year old to eat and or do his work ect. He started say that with his teacher. I have made a social story that shows that word "no" makes me sad and when he listens makes me happy. Looking for any other advice. Please help!!

[@marybarbera]

That sounds challenging! I did recently do a video blog on this topic. Check it out here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sHqsg6VjgLacaNk

[@dreamweaver3178]

@@marybarbera Thank you so much! I have subscribed, you are awesome! Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!

[@peopleskarmasquad1042]

Dream Weaver Beat his ass

[@Siriusgxmiq]

@@peopleskarmasquad1042 stfu bitch

[@peopleskarmasquad1042]

Jantz R Who do you think you are, the Pink Guy?

[@sprinkelle1165]

Idk if this is a meltdown but whenever something overhwelming happens or im hangry ill have the sudden urge to burst out laughing and then after laughing ill cry about the littlest thingz. One time in PE I fell over in front of everyone and ran away to the back and cried and all my friends hugged me, and then i saw a kid fall over the tiniest step and fell in the dumbest way i laughed and cried the whole lesson ( 50 mins)

[@marybarbera]

thanks for sharing your insight.

[@Channelizing_D_EDUCATION]

Hi this is vidhya from India i have a son around 1 yr 4months he is closing his ears do this is sign of artism kindly write to me

[@marybarbera]

With only knowing one thing, it is very hard to say. It could be typical or if combined with other red flags may be part of the puzzle.

[@iknowright1284]

Lately I'm having a difficult time to put him to sleep in the afternoon my son who is 5 years old.what i do because recently he is attached with his toys.he wants all his toys to bed.so when i tried to get it he cries and always says do you want me to bite you , kick you. Everytime he does it, I will tell him to face the wall, or go out in the room.or tell him if he does not behave , I will spank him.then immediately he will stop crying and hug me.after that a few minutes he will cry again and will get mad because i get all his toys. But when i ignore him he will just stop. Is it ok if that's my aproach towards him?

[@iknowright1284]

I'm a little.bit scared because I'm thinking that perhaps it would cause him emotional trauma, because i get all his toys as a punishment if won't listen.

[@marybarbera]

I cannot give personal advice without knowing a child but I would be careful using punishment. I can help you turn behavior around with my online courses. Sign up for a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@jengon4369]

So after we assessed? What to do next maam? I was looking for the tips on how to deal with meltdowns. My son screams everytime we say No to what he wants and cries a lot for a long time. We spank him bec he hits anyone he does t like on the face. But the therapist said that spanking is not beneficial

[@marybarbera]

We want to work on preventing the behavior, perhaps you don't say flat out no, you keep things he can't have out of sight, you redirect him to something else he enjoys, etc. We mostly just want to find ways that we can prevent while we teach skills

[@jengon4369]

Thank you for the response maam

[@shrutisingh6774]

Hello doc my son is 3yr 8 months old I don't know if he is mild autistic or speech delayed He is good with abc he is a very good piano player he even can compose Some songs on piano His conversation is clear but limited to his demands He doesn't follow teachers order Like sitting in class room for long time He recognises all animals colours numbers shapes He knows so much more than his class mates He reply to my question only when he want too He gets excited to see moving objects like bus truck and flaps his arm Some time he hits on his head with hands He spends time reading books and piano But limited conversation Help me with this

[@marybarbera]

Unfortunately I do not diagnose children but a full evaluation is best when you are worried .

[@danielleb.7884]

Hello! I handle and teach children with autism, and I have a student who is a small kid. He is a 4 year old boy and he usually cries, yells and does not sit properly whenever I tell him to. He does that when he doesn't get what he wants or when I am not letting him stand up and get the toys. What should I do to prevent him from crying and having meltdowns? Because it is hard for me since I have to teach him academics everyday. Thank you.

[@marybarbera]

We need to pair him sitting with you and learning with reinforcement/enjoyment. If he's crying and having meltdowns daily, the demand is too high and reinforcement is too low. My coaches and I can help you in my private online course and community, where you can ask any questions you have as you get through the lessons. All of my resources can be found here: MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

[@srinivasulukolli9710]

Rocking back and forth comes under melt down?

[@marybarbera]

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[@shabnaazthakur3292]

Meltdown here is profusely crying

[@Blackharborina]

Dr. My son is 6 years old he always crying and felt down on the floor please give me advice thanks

[@marybarbera]

That sounds like a difficult behavior. My free workshops will help you get started on decreasing problem behavior bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@andrewablitt4906]

My daughter had a meltdown because she wanted to have a wee outside (she is 5) just got off the phone to my partner as I was struggling she said try taking the potty outside (she is toilet trained ) and it worked meltdown over now I'm her best friend again

[@imanimizan4332]

pls help me i have an autistic brother and he's currently is 12 years old. Lately, he's starting to show some aggresive act whenever he is in his meltdown, exp: pulling my mother's hair and try to bite it furiously, scratching anyone of us if we try to calm him down that would sometimes makes us bleeding and etc. i dont know how to help my mother and she was almost had an accident as my brother tried to pull her hair from behind when she was driving. we dont know how to calm him down nor how to stop him from doing all of this. pls i hope someone can help me😭😭😔

[@marybarbera]

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[@bjthedjdutchdude1992]

I PDD-NOS. Usually when I get a meltdown or a panic, I walk back and forth in my apartment. If I have stress, I usually bite my nails or tear my lips.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for sharing your insight.

[@vanessabayardo9788]

I believe my nephew is autistic. His parents are too strict with him. When he comes to my house I am super lenient with him because I feel he suffers a lot at home. I just feel like if he gets rid of his energy in my house hopefully he'll go back home in holy peace?

[@marybarbera]

That is challenging. Perhaps google mary barbera denial for a video to help them with denial.

[@vanessabayardo9788]

@@marybarbera thank you.

[@JenniferFlores-hs8ow]

I hope that I'm not wasting my time saying this Melton basically means to throwing a tantrum or frustrated and starts throwing stuff that's what I mean by a meltdown I am trying to take on a child that is autistic and it's my future husband's other child from another woman I want to learn how to handle her without her hurting herself or hurting others

[@marybarbera]

Check out a free workshop at marybarbera.com/workshops

[@rasehawkins2603]

my brother that has autism he acts like he is going to hit me or he screams i don't know how to handle it

[@marybarbera]

It can be challenging. try to prevent it and if you can leave safely when it happens.

[@gaming_teacher1]

I stumbled across your videos the other day, I work in a daycare with 2 year olds and my oldest child in my class displays some of the signs of autism (in my opinion)He has “meltdowns” and is non-verbal (but his mom is taking him to be evaluated for speech this week)

[@marybarbera]

That is great she is getting on it . Please share my free workshops with her because she can start working with him and you can too even before a diagnosis. My proven techniques works with children regardless of diagnosis. Marybarbera.com/workshops

[@debrabendickson8088]

With out meds my grandson hits teachers and throws chIrs and desks

[@distinctexpert2331]

I have autistic daughter recently in every month from last 6 months she gets upset with sth, its for 5 days crying running around not eating but taking medicine if I tell her that it will make u good, on the 6th day she is like nothing happened,,, need help if any one knows what is it? :( ,

[@marybarbera]

I recommend joining our workshop to know where to start. Join here: MaryBarbera.com/workshop

[@tdubblz]

My kid is driving me crazy and I’m losing my mind and my confidence as a parent.

[@marybarbera]

I'm so sorry that things have become stressful for you. My online courses can really help you prevent these behaviors by building on their language/communication skills. Join me for a free workshop for more information: www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

[@rose-hope]

Screaming endlessly for hours (3.5 yrs old) multiple times a day

[@marybarbera]

That does sound difficult. Your best path is probably to join our online course and community. Attend a free workshop to see if it's a good fit. Marybarbera.com/workshops

[@samucob123]

I. AM. AUTISTIC. (batman referance). i have meltdowns and just cry it out. at home i just go upstairs and cry in my bed. it somehow works. Edit: well actually i call it a breakdown. and i try to minimize them. i had a breakdown at school the day i posted this during gym class. we were stretching and it hurt for me so i started to weep. the push ups and pull ups didnt help. i cried until the end of the day. and that was through gym class (from 1:35 to 2:15pm) and dismissal. and we were also playing a game of kickball (NOT SOCCER) and i didnt participate bc i was too sad to play. and the gym teacher said it was unnecessary to cry. and i could tell he didnt care. nearly everyone playing kickball knew that i was crying. so yeah, i was ignored while having a breakdown.

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for your willingness to share your experience here. A lot of people mean well, but don't necessarily know how to handle big emotions in other people. It might help if you talked to your teachers and friends/classmates about what you need when you feel this way. I'm hoping you're having a better day today

[@samucob123]

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[@inosukeganjirokamapoko9824]

My older sister has severe autism and I have it as well but it's mild and I have a very very hard time dealing with her. Because since she's older than me that means I have to be the responsibe one. And I'm mostly get grounded for her since she can't be punished that much cause she would get angry. and it's also faustrating for me as well cause I get extremely annoyed with her by making my mom's life harder since my sister needed more attention and help her deal with a sleeping problem my sister has.

[@marybarbera]

That does sound upsetting.

[@katecorrigan6356]

My grandson hit out at us but laughs, or hits himself

[@marybarbera]

That sounds challenging. My new book likely has strategies that can help. Check out turnautismaround.com

[@DL-xf3ur]

I understand prevention is important but there was no advice on prevention here.

[@marybarbera]

It depends on the child and the reason or hypothesized function of the problem behavior.

[@barikopman5550]

I have a meltdown all the time

[@AshTheDuke]

well what about parents meltdown because theres nothing they can do cant let the kid do whatever they want. I was said that autistic kids are like forced to learn the rules of life just like us. But we fail.

[@panzer_00]

My autistic brother gets meltdowns when he dies too many times in a game on his tablet. When he's in a meltdown, he starts screaming, crying at a deafening tone, jumps up and down while trying to beat himself up, runs around, etc. It usually lasts around 10-30 minutes, but those 10-30 minutes feel like 2 hours. The only reason he does this is cuz he sees these pro gameplays on Sonic Dash, Super Mario 3D Land, etc. He also thinks he's a pro but dies a crap ton anyways. It's fucking annoying. My parents don't even try to calm him down.

[@marybarbera]

That sounds challenging for both him and you. I hope he can get some consultation from a qualified BCBA .

[@beingwithautistic2629]

Good job 👏 #BeingwithAutistic

[@marybarbera]

Thank you.

[@darylhunt9070]

complete crap in my experience. life does not divert you . You need to face the meltdowns head on

[@beverlyray9463]

Polo

[@thatcrazydaisey3437]

What do you mean?

[@Sailormoonfan88]

Sometimes you have to pick your battles with people on the spectrum. Yes, prevention is not always possible but if you tackle it to much it can be too overwhelming.

[@darylhunt9070]

@@Sailormoonfan88 agree to disagree. In life we need to face our problems . People on spectrum cannot live in a bubble.

[@Sailormoonfan88]

@@darylhunt9070 If you had a child on the spectrum and say they were having a meltdown in Wal-Mart would you rather walk out and let the child calm down or have your child screaming in agony? Somethings are just to much, I'm on the spectrum myself and somethings are too much and if my mom forces me I get too overwhelmed.

[@jennymcm4823]

Pop master and the kids your own family

[@cindersspace5011]

Thank you for the great advice

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching and for the great feedback