Tips to Help Someone with PTSD

What are the most important things you can do to help someone with PTSD? Here are a few tips from Dr. Neria on how to help.
#PTSD #MentalHealth #trauma

[@oni_goroshi]

Be patient and when someone who has PTSD wants to talk about what they are going through, just shut up and listen. Don't say things like "to can get over it" or compare something you went through to what they went through. Just keep your mouth shut and listen. When we open up to someone, it's because we trust you and just need to talk. Talking about what happened to us is the hardest step to take, so just listen.

[@EceAvc..]

I wish I could send this to world as a message

[@BluntlyLIVE]

that’s all i need is someone to talk to fr

[@whitehorse7516]

Thank you.

[@pebbles92able]

My sister literally would compare herself to me during this time and all I wanted to was someone to listen to me. This has really affected me in how i confide in her.

[@elia-_-]

no one owes you anything, neither do they have to listen to you , it's your problem not their's, Don't be so self centered, the world doesn't revolve around you and everyone has their own issues to deal with.

[@TMFproject-SDA]

Everytime i experiencing something traumatic, it took atleast 3 months to recover

[@chikachupsinka]

it's terrible to be in a relationship and socialize as a person with CPTSD, cause you don't want to bother or hurt anyone. you feel like a burden, and after showing signs of CPTSD you feel a lot of guilt and shame. I wanted to isolate myself and disappear so much and guilt & shame are the biggest emotions that I can feel, they replaced any other emotions, so sometimes it feels like it's better not to talk to anyone and meet people, even if you crave connection. it interferes with daily functioning so much, and it feels just like losing time that could be spent on socializing, having fun and connecting to other people.

[@vanessagurr8786]

I feel that way too. You're not alone.

[@jypapi_in_yo_areah]

hey I wanted to ask something my bf also has ptsd any tips tho? I don't want to see him sad. also I hope u r fine too. tc

[@CRAZY-bi7fz]

I’ve struggled with ptsd for many years I have recently gotten help and am on medication. I just want to tell others who suffer from ptsd that help is out there the medication’s will help you.

[@CRAZY-bi7fz]

@@deltascout8241 help is out there. Myself I have a therapist and I’m on medication. It truly helps me stay calm and having someone to talk to helps believe it or not. Make a appointment stick with it

[@HexagonSun990]

I love your pfp

[@CRAZY-bi7fz]

@@HexagonSun990 🙏🏻

[@Jessayy19]

i just feel so weird all the time and i just cry everyday and i don’t know why

[@Jessayy19]

but i’m scared to tell people, i don’t want them to think i’m weird. My friends constantly put my down and make me feel unwanted and i don’t know what i did, i alway wait for them after class because they ask me to but they never wait for me

[@patriciamartin6756]

My husband has PTSD. He served with his native Scandinavian army during the Bosnian conflict as a young man in his 20's, and also guarding the Royal Palace guard for two years before he came to the United States and served with the United States Army. He was honorably discharged and went on to become a Security Officer. All the stress of his military years caught up with him though and when I met him three years ago, he had crippling panic PTSD and panic attacks. His weight had plummetedfrom 185 down to 147 pounds because he couldn't eat. He would spend all day in a chronic depressed state, riddled with anxiety. I came up with an idea. He was hypervigilant,; I could tell he was full of adrenalin that made his PTSD worse in spite of his Zanax. The plan I had was to increase his "combat mode" which meant I made him clean his equipment (he is a licensed armed Security officer in the United States) I made him get up at 5, go on a 1 hour march of maneuvers around our property , while I played military marchers in the Prussian tradition ( that's what he would march to at the changing of the guard at the Royal palace after which I made him go to the armory for at least an hour of target practice. After that, he spent more time doing paintball shooting, archery, bowling, fishing. As a final touch, in his home country, it is customary to wear an old style Prussian uniform while mounted on a horse while wearing a sword and holding a pike. The uniform is a recreation, as are the weapons ( Renn faire) This is a challenge as it is difficult to remain upright in the saddle while wearing a homemade version of a Prussian uniform while wearing a sword. My whole plan was to get him to wear out all the adrenalin coursing throughout his brain to leave him calm and relaxed. I even had him march several times a week on a recreated parade ground to Prussian army marches, played at full blast. I didn't know if any of these ideas would work, but decided to try them. At first, he complained I was wearing him out, worse than his commanding officers but agreed to go along with it. Well, after 5 hours of non stop physical activity, also doing climbing, marching, he was WORN OUT! He had a real appetite for the first time and ate more than I had ever seen him eat. Slowly, this type of therapy, seems to.relieve the PTSD. At the first sign of his PTSD, I start those Military Marches as loud as I can and order him to INSPECT OUR PROPERTY TO MAKE SURE EVERYTHING IS OK. This plan of mine seems screwy, except it seems to dissipate the fight or flight thoughts that send him into a panic attack. Most nights, he is so worn out, he is able to sleep instead of staying awake all night. What do you think? Do you think any of this would help somebody else?

[@Carolina_Luke]

What the fuck. That doesn't help. That sounds more like a roleplay fantasy. Why the hell are you making him wake up at 5 o'clock and buying a dress uniform for him, playing Prussian marches and all of that?

[@jypapi_in_yo_areah]

Thank you so much for sharing. my bf has anxiety (I do too ) and has ptsd I'm trying to find ways to comfort him and make his life a lil better. I read ur comment. i hope u and ur husband both are healthy and fine ❤ thank you

[@KarakuraRiser]

Everyone asks: why are you smoking weed? No one asks: what happened?

[@DivineLightPaladin]

No kidding 👏

[@victoria5846]

yep.

[@clawthe]

i know some people with cptsd. its incredibly difficult dealing with their triggers sometimes. especially since it can be triggering to me one of my partners is triggered by being ignored. then, they have outbursts occasionaly if i dont respond to them. this triggers a flashback for me. i feel scared and trapped and like a cornered prey animal. my roommate has autism/cptsd and gets triggered by eating noises + other ones, so i can only eat outside or in the bathroom. it makes me feel like starving myself and like im being trapped as well, which adds fuel to the fire of binge eating. i used to think other people should strongly accomodate for my triggers. but now i realized how cringe i was being.. ofc i do believe we all deserve some accomodation. but i shouldnt have to sacrifice my well-being for these people who wont work on their triggers.

[@beckee6282]

I have ptsd. You cannot control the triggers, my brain is literally chemically altered from trauma. It’s like telling a mouse not to be scared of a cat that’s trying to hunt them. Your pain is NOTHING compared to the pain of those who suffer everyday with ptsd. Quit whining.

[@theavasiliu5891]

​@beckee6282 Stop with this bullshit , that your brain is chemically altered bcs of trauma. Somebody ( psychologs and psychiatrists believe on this theory) lied on you and you started being a victim. First of all, NOBODY EVER till now, could proof in a way any chemical change in brain, while there is no blood check or other investigation for it. Secondly i really believe that ppl with ptsd like to stay in this condition, because living as a victim with a suffering( pain) attachment is a comfort zone. You , with your " triggers" only bother and make ko all ppl around you. I am an adult now, but i lived since i was kid many traumas, and now , after your theory i should lay in bed. Of course i suffered, i cried, but i WANTED very much to live different, joyfull and happy. And i am very goog, withoit any therapy, but prayers and God's help. I did get marry, i have kids, a very challenging life and other traumas, but ..hey! I could complain, stay in my victim state, or try hard to live and get out of it. You ppl with ptsd DON'T want to get healthy, this is what i believe now. I have a friend who almost tortured me with her triggers , and somatic pains and so on....but she refuses everything it could help her, she is not at all willing to fight hard for a better change. There is no magic for that! Its only a work with yourself which needs time. Therapy since years that didn't change anything! So ....sorry to say...but if you like to stay in your victimisation, than go ahead, but alone, don't destroy the others live's around you, who show all patient, understanding, give time, are supporting......they are not guilty for your trauma, either for your choice to stay there...maybe so you will be more loved and accepted. No, you will be rather left alone one day...

[@RandomGuyV743]

Ive been through some crazy times In my life but i always stayed focused on a bigger picture. Yes it will be hard today or tomorrow but try to listen to yourself very very closely. It’s not easy but if you manage to do that, get ready for something amazing!!

[@beverlyrezendeblake589]

Thank you so much for sharing.

[@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385]

I have ptsd dealing with people in general, but also my childhood, how I went over to a friend's house, and we were hanging out until they decided to put a pillow over my face, and.... Well, I thank someone who came to my rescue.. that's just one of many things that I've dealt with, I take my trauma out through being a metal and classical musician which has been helping me through my teen years all the way up until now, and it still helps me..

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.

[@patriciamartin6756]

In addition to the comments I made here, I also encourages my husband to talk about his combat experience, cry, scream, shout instead of holding it all in. Men are taught it is unmanly to be depressed, sad and to show their feelings. I told him, it was time for him to do the opposite to talk about it all he wanted to. It seems to help him

[@dustin1722]

You sound like a great woman. Right on.

[@bagyutte]

인내심을 가지고 비난에 적대적이지 않은 오픈 마인디드는 ptsd에만 해당되는 건 아닌 듯. 사실 세 개 다 대부분의 정신질환을 가지고 있는 사람들을 대하는 상황에 적용된다고 생각함

[@aida7212]

Patience!💓🥲💯

[@tronghieuchu2184]

i experience something so trauma that i forgot it

[@HugoRamirez-fw5ny]

Mine started from the time i got jumped by two dope dealers that worked for the zetas cartel, then a few years later i got jumped by 20 guys here in mexico, ever since then when i step outside i feel like someone is trying to kill me for no reason

[@vanessagurr8786]

I'm so sorry for what you are suffering through. The Zetas are the most dangerous cartel in Latin America. I hope you are doing okay. Hugs from Canada.

[@TerminatorTheory]

I mentioned I had some traumatic event of watching a horrific gore video to "friends" on discord. *The next few days they thought it would be funny to see my voice-call reaction when one of them DMed me that same video.*

[@liamlo7624]

Those aren't real friends they are just cold blooded people.

[@DivineLightPaladin]

"friends" 😢 indeed

[@miss_8thwonder]

What's horrific more videos ?

[@Punisher1830]

To each their own I guess, there are grown men who play a game of tag in Prison, but they do with knives.

[@barbarabagatin8962]

Better having enemies than ur "friends".

[@MurshidaAhmed]

one of my friend have arrhythmia,hyperthyroidism and mental health issues like ocd,ptsd ,etc..the person is telling that he hates himself and the world.what can i do ? T-T

[@PsychHub]

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[@mindy1230]

I am at my height of frustration tonight and saw this clip. It's difficult to express my emotions or relate to people. I feel so completely weird. Like spock or some creepy alien at the zoo watching hominids. I'm sad and afraid. Like I don't belong anywhere.

[@theavasiliu5891]

Then start to pray and cry for God's help in statt to complain. He can make wonders...ppl not. Make the Cross sign on you, go to talk with an orthodox priest.

[@pattif192]

Thank you. ♡

[@hiteshmehta800]

Thanks for to the point video👏

[@zeniaHorses124]

My dad has PTSD He’s been through a lot of trauma but I tryed to help I’m Always there for him Iam a good daughter? Or no?

[@tiffytoo]

It hurts so bad to live with PTSD and Cptsd even with the best of help. That individual is suffering far more than they let anyone know. I have fought this thing my entire life. Now I'm maybe accepting that I have it. I'm just sick of ppl saying I'm to blame for everything any problems are me. So I am afraid to admit anything because they twist it and use it against me. It's crazy really the same ppl that caused my PTSD have something to say about my PTSD it tech Cptsd but that throws me off in my recovery process. I'm sickkkkkkkkkk of living with this y'all. Can I be real a minute. I'm not just fly off the handle violent but I do constantly look for threats. I can't get all the things that happened out of my mind. Because I felt my mom exaggerated my symptoms I felt like I didn't really have it. It's only now at 32 years old that I see it. I was shot in a drive by at point blank while I was in my bed asleep. It was my parents being severeeeeeeee addicts before that. I was shot over them robbing a big gang. I have spent my life protecting my children from my mom. I hurt so bad somedays but other days I feel like I have a heart because of Cptsd and everyone else is "crazy" sorry if my terminology offends u but I just speak the truth. There's another problem and yes it is a problem. Because of it I have no friends and very very little support.

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.

[@OnlyTheBest345]

I have been where you are. Reacting, rather than responding. I also have c-ptsd / long-term PTSD. I've had so many different forms of abuse, but I think one of the worst was narcissistic abuse. It's never too late to experience healing. Would you believe that I no longer react? I respond and that's only if I want. I never thought that would happen, but I can walk away without even having the last word or Desiring to have the last word. I'm 59 and only discovered CPTSD in December of 2019. I found a therapist, but then covid happened. She would never keep our appointments, so I found someone who did EMDR. At my first appointment she triggered me so bad that I didn't want to go back but a friend who had had success being healed from c-ptsd through EMDR encouraged me to give her another chance. I was not wrong the first time. That sealed the deal for me and I did not return. I went back to my friend and told her what happened and she said she had to go through a lot of talk therapy before that, so it wasn't a complete loss. I watched a video on how to find a trauma therapist, saw the transcripts, took screenshots, then went to my Insurance website to look for a therapist. I looked for trauma and PTSD because nobody had c-ptsd. I knew I wanted a female because I've had too much trauma from male doctors. I found three or four that fit the bill and if they had a website I checked it out. I sent emails to all of them and asked if they accepted my insurance even though they were on my insurance list, if they were familiar with narcissistic abuse and cptsd. The next day I heard from all but one, the one I most wanted to see due to her website. Her website sold me. Late in the day I heard back from her. In October it will be 3 years and she has been my lifesaver. She hasn't healed me, but she's been my confidant, my cheerleader, and someone who validates my feelings and symptoms. She, herself, has both PTSD and cptsd. First appointment I pulled up the screenshots and interviewed her. To this day she still talks about it. She's never had anyone do that. She told me she knew I was going to be successful in my therapy. Through her I was finally able to seek out therapies I needed, beginning with a new nurse practitioner as my primary. It's already a long enough story, so let me just tell you that I went to physical therapy because I have pain from injuries, but they had to release me because I started hurting more. It was while I was in physical therapy I got a copy of the book the neufit method. It's the brand that created the Neubie, an e-stim device that is different from a TENS unit. It operates on a different frequency. It doesn't act at all like a TENS unit. The book said that sometimes we don't respond to physical therapy much like somebody who has PTSD and is in fight or flight. The body can view physical therapy as impending danger or trauma. So it can resist treatment thereby leaving you with no improvement or worse. That explained why I was worse. What I've read about PTSD and complex PTSD made me think that this device could help it, even though the Creator never claimed to help PTSD. He mentioned it one time and like I said it was to compare how the body can react to physical therapy. I shared the Kindle version with my therapist and she told me at our next session, she hadn't read it all, because she ordered her own hard copy. She wanted to have to give it to her clients. That was two years ago and we still talk about things in that book. She has pulled it up several times and I just pulled it up recently. I said all that to say this, I have been anxiety-free for about a year-and-a-half. Came to realize I had anxiety my entire life, but it got amplified around 2000 and then 2018. I got to the point where I was barely functioning and had developed social anxiety. I had fear and nightmares, I couldn't use my brain - I knew I knew things, but I could not access the information. These days, if something traumatic happens I may go into fight or flight and experienced anxiety, depression, nightmares, Etc, but my body now knows how to return to a state of calm. When the unexpected situation is done, I'm one hundred percent back to normal. My therapist is shocked by the amount of my healing. Oh yes, I still need her, but it makes it so much easier for me to set boundaries now. Before, I would hear about setting boundaries, but I didn't know how to do that. I rarely have nightmares anymore except if I'm in trauma again. What this device did was calm the sympathetic nervous system to sort of let it know that the oncoming Physical Therapy was nothing to be weary of and it activated the parasympathetic nervous system which helps in healing. I went to the website and found that there were only three physical therapy clinics that had this in my state. One was 20 minutes away. If you cannot access something similar, work on things that address the vagus nerve. The position I used on this device had the electrodes placed at the bottom of the feet and the base of the neck near the vagus nerve. So yes you can do this manually with some KZbin videos, it'll just take a lot more time. Not all clinics that have this device are going to accept your insurance. I have physical injuries and they accepted my insurance. However, it has not yet been proven to help with PTSD or c-ptsd, so you can't go to a doctor and ask for a prescription for that. It's just an added bonus. The Creator is now delving into the realm of helping PTSD and cptsd using this device and another feature that I've not used yet, but now plan to ask for it after my month long break from physical therapy. In his most recent podcast he talked about it, compared it to EMDR, and talked about a lot of what you read in "the body keeps the score" and more. Another thing to explore is somatic focused therapies like yoga, for example. Good luck. You did not do this to yourself, but sadly you have to be the one to heal yourself. There is no justice. It is not fair, but it is so freeing to make progress. ❤

[@hbanana7]

Thank you. I have a dear friend with ptsd and I am running out of patience with her. She unloads all her raw emotions and drama and I'm overwhelmed. I should remember that she is much more overwhelmed than I.

[@iMutedMC]

I'm 15. Ive had ptsd since I was 12 since I got into bad stuff with bad people. I didn't really know I had ptsd since I was 14 since I was experiencing symptom's and the doctor told me thats what I have. Didn't know what to do about it so now I'm looking for help, its too much sometimes.

[@optimoprimo132]

I always associated PTSD with those who served in the military. I don't know if what I'm experiencing are symptoms of PTSD. I was a missionary. Sent to Italy and learned the language after 2 years, then USA, then back to italy, then to india, then australia, then to french speaking africa, then back to italy. I experienced some horrible situations that i cant even talk about. Now i find myself as if a different person. I dont like going out in crowds, i find i get very short with people like ive lost my patience i use to have, i get internally angry at people. I see double motives behind people's words and actions. I often feel like Dr. Jekkle and Mr. Hyde not in the sense of split personality but in that i often walk away from interactions wondering why i said what i said or why i lashed out or expressed frustration unnecessarily. I never had issues like this before and i just wonder if the wirlwind of my missionary life, obedience and difficult situations changed something in me.

[@PsychHub]

Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. We want you to know you are not alone in how you feel. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.

[@halfpint7301]

I hadn't realised Andy Warhol had branched out 😁

[@hannahscott6604]

I promise I’m doing my best. promise

[@banmej9319]

i was diagnosed with severe recurrent ptsd and i’m only 17 but im on meds now but last night was the first night where i woke up and saw shadows on my chest that stay at night and only at night as soon as the lights are on it’s gone but i just lay with a heavy weight of a shadow watching me and i don’t know where or how to explain this

[@gilesbennett5681]

Helping people with ptsd most of them just want to be left the f*** alone they don't want company they don't want to f****** see people they don't want to chit chat and be social they just want to be left the f*** alone why is it so hard for people just to leave people alone best treatment money can buy guarantee it

[@hanginthere8391]

I think it's human nature to want to try to help people. Sometimes, people don't understand that they're doing more harm than good, though.

[@DivineLightPaladin]

It's a fine line between wanting to be left alone and wanting someone who is understanding of our symptoms to allow us to process but not push it

[@rosesavocado8557]

What you want isn’t always what you need. For example, I want to lay in bed all day and eat junk food, but is that good for my body? No. Human beings need a shoulder to cry on, they need interaction. Coming from an introvert that doesn’t enjoy interaction with most people, I’ll admit that I still need that interaction anyways.

[@marlenecarrillo6399]

❤

[@eddieandrews3335]

Just turn up and be genuine about asking questions.

[@oMunch]

I got PTSD From accidentally throwing a rock at someone back in gr2 now looking at one feels different

[@jacquelinecruz4187]

Nice job

[@lpslancelot05]

Basically talk to a therapist and listen to them. Well duh. Truly ground breaking stuff here 😂

[@whitehorse7516]

If it's obvious to you I guess it is but for the rest of us we're dealing with a loved one who's suffering from PTSD this video is a good resource

[@jamiepolk9515]

is it normal to want to give up and live on the streets.

[@ashleydobson1532]

💙💙💙

[@PQI777]

I don’t show it and then just let it out at home, CBT.

[@miss_8thwonder]

What's CBT

[@BooklikesBFDI]

Oh also if the one who largely cause the ptsd was drunk often at the person's young age, and they start saying things, "You're acting weird..." don't reply back with "No I'm not!"

[@BooklikesBFDI]

I know this is oddly specific but still

[@ozeletsplay9746]

wow tipps changed my life - irony

[@JonathanGarcia-wx8tc]

I got real fucking opps wym be patient 😂😂

[@user-jj6td9di4s]

Ptsd doesn't exist

[@misterxrd]

As someone with mild C-PTSD these aren't useful tips at all (in most cases) but thanks. Lol

[@irmuunmichid6424]

Umm thats wierd

[@angelwings7930]

Criticism ??? Wtf ?

[@user-qg7ej4rv6c]

מרגישה שפגשתי ישראלי בחול😂 תודה על הידע❤

[@cumcrip7582]

I almost have non3 of this

[@swolfe9668]

Its a HUGE slap in the face to all military people who has seen war when a civilian "claims" they have PTSD, shame on you for that

[@scoobydoo8893]

clearly you have no idea how ptsd works, the most common cause of ptsd is rape and/or childhood abuse. the fact that people only think vets can have ptsd just makes it harder for people to get help and recover because they don't think they are "worthy". so shame on you actually

[@user-bd5fn5zz7s]

PTSD is a mental illness it has nothing to do with the military you fool