Kingbetweeners Contribute🤴🏽| Red Flags That Men Should Look Out For In Women |Epd 81

[@tashawangare695]

I don't know why you guys are screaming my name on the passive aggressive part🤷🏾‍♀️. I've just realized I am walking red flag😂😭

[@tmipodcastke]

Feel tagged sis😂

[@achyysonny4552]

@@tmipodcastke p

[@jonathanthuo]

Hey inbetweeners, a kingbetweener here. First is to give the TMI ladies their flowers 💐, their content is quite informative, and educative to the men on the femal perspective, which can be rare but exceptionally instrumental in terms of helping us understand the female p.o.v and grow in healthy ways. Since the topic is red flags, I'd like to weigh in on the condescending red flag; I've come to respect how closely men attach love to respect. For example, its an uphill task to find men saying they love what another has done but would rather say, 'Respect!' Thus there's a big way in which men who are respected feel that seive into them feeling loved. That being said, constant disrespect is a red flag and even deal breaker for me. Reson being, even when there's criticism to be given, I am a huge beliver that can feedback can be deseminated without dismantling someone's dignity. That most times means 95% honey & 5% salt. It's safe to say beyond the common love languages at the very top for me is gentleness. In conversation and beyond, gentleness and respect should always prevail. Lastly, the best way I've figured to attract the best sort of partner you desire, is for to mould yourself into the best type of partner you could be. 😊 Cheers.

[@gracemumbi6219]

Respect is earned, right?

[@jonathanthuo]

@@gracemumbi6219 Very correct. But that doesn't mean if we are strangers it is not given. 😊 And that tell you a lot about a person. As we say, kindness to others is an attractive trait to look out for, I think part of that kindness us based on the healthy bare minimum level of respect we can allocate to even a stranger. Then from there, assess our interaction to observe the person's behavioural truth, to evaluate whether your respect is being matched or not. I respect you as a stranger. What would happen in a potential 'healthy' relationship is that respect would be compounded by our interaction. So, like as much as someone would have to earn my respect, I feel like, I'd still treat everyone with a certain level of ethereal respect as another human being. Then later decide whether its deserved or misplaced. What do you think?

[@J.G7088]

Be the best person worthy of who you want.💯.

[@crystaltwiri5725]

I agree on the point of even criticism can me done with respect. Make it constructive criticism, not destructive

[@bettyngari]

I agree 💯

[@beatricenjeri5256]

The best thing is going through the episodes and finding one you haven't listened to. TMI really is the gift that keeps on giving.

[@k3ygvrv]

Man, I wish more women had done the self work like Lydia, she usually seems super self aware and not biased towards her own gender, love it!

[@tmipodcastke]

It all takes time😌 But it feels to be seen?

[@slymwende_17]

I love love love Lydia's hair and makeup in this episode,so stunning 😍

[@magalienia6958]

Her skin is aglow & beautiful!

[@angeliquenyagothie7076]

the man who will marry Lydia will find Gold, mark this comment.

[@MsKanyi]

Hello Ellie 🤭

[@stacymueni4774]

Exactly my sentiments. Gal is so self aware ❤

[@murugimunyi2734]

Straight facts!!!!

[@tmipodcastke]

We love this❤️

[@hildakanja5396]

For sure😊

[@faithnjoki1471]

Here now, after seeing Murugi's car and I am dancing for joy. Girl!!! That machine is life. Congratulations! Love the consistency. I'm here for 2023 greatness. Halafu consider a meet and greet this year huku mashinani. Nanyuki may be? Embu? 😭😭😂 Lazima nijitetee. Halafu, Georgie Ndirangu!!! Forgive me for all the exclamations 😂 but aki dude is needed here. His perspective on life is gold especially career, relationships and just being a good human being. He teaches us balance in work and social life. I didn't think it could be done. Please consider him 🙏🙏🙏 Halafu, Lyd, thank you for collaborating with Tuli Brands. I got some really nice dresses from them. Love it. Your plugs are fantastic kwanza the romper from Rencia Boutique. 💙 💙 💙 💙💙 All love ladies, all love from me to you!

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much for this. To more wins this year!

[@terrymwende6722]

Lyd we said there's no whispering to Murugi on the show. 😂😂you tell us all we want to hear.

[@catherinenjeri5327]

G😊

[@mercykanana141]

"Struggle Olympics" got me, lyd you are a comedian

[@wambuimuthoni4221]

Truth be told Murugi,struggles make you develop thick skin in life,right from thinking doing and living life.

[@thekyauproject8825]

"does she wanna change you, or does she wanna adjust you slightly..." i'm dead!😂

[@tmipodcastke]

It’s a valid question 😂😂

[@paprika7930]

Lyd saying, "struggle olympics" 😭 I've laughed a lot watching today's episode! Thank you, ladies.

[@nicolechemutai5603]

39:00 about this part…..what if you just need some time to find away to communicate more effectively other than just lashing out…..what if you want to find the right words to communicate what he or she has done wrong and how that has affected you……see the problem with telling your partner that you need time to process your emotions is that they’ll get used to the fact that every time they do something wrong…..or when your going through something or in a bad mood…..they’ll automatically feel like they need to give you space so that you can sort all that internal turmoil alone…..and sometimes that isn’t the case😅sometimes you need they to just hold your hand through it…..I hope I’m making sense😅for me personally when I’m angry or sad I just have a lot of unfiltered , messy noise going on in my head and I wouldn’t like to expose my partner to all that darkness💔

[@jackline1429]

Can George Ndirangu be on TMI guest list this year please

[@tutoh.]

Yes!!

[@zaitunnkubitu1109]

please...invite Georgie

[@monicahthiga2436]

Yes please

[@aishaathman2484]

Yes yes please!

[@janegitauW]

OMG Yess please.

[@anzalbabe]

I have AVOIDED watching this episode but since i have exhausted the next 2, today is the day. Not even halfway through and let me just say, i have been TAGGED, DRAAAGED and definitely attacked 😭🤣 Aggressively taking notes.

[@lylo301]

When Lyd said is this your gorilla 🤣🤣..I loved this episode ladies!

[@TheNaisenya]

At home + eating biryani + drinking a cold Heineken zero beer + WATCHING TMI = the PERFECT Wednesday evening. Just bliss 🥰

[@kirabozeridahsarah]

I Love thissssssss

[@solitaire6162]

Wow lovely..

[@tmipodcastke]

Inbetweeners always be comfortable 😍

[@victoriamuriithi5591]

"Does she want to change you or does she want to adjust you slightly" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 please!! 😂😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Just a small degree of adjustment 😂😂😂

[@thesilverliningpodcast]

Listening to this I realized, like Murugi, that I have some serious Red Flags and I don't even know how these men have been dealing with me...😂😂 this made me realize that we honestly need to display some level of grace coz I too need grace and to be understood. However, setting my boundaries and standards is important coz there's only so much that I can handle.

[@tmipodcastke]

Exactly. 😊

[@suemuithya7648]

The way shawties got me confused on the Happy new year vibe though!!!!🤣

[@wacekewanjoroge6679]

First of all..looking great ladies,the consistency in this podcast 👏🏽👏🏽we are here for it. Also..i believe as a GROWN adult,one should have the discernment to decipher what is shareable and what is not esp when it comes to your friends,as much as we love “mushene” there are some lines you just can’t cross esp if it was told to you in total confidentiality.

[@gracejohnson3048]

Yes please

[@silaton305]

I agree completely. Thank you for this comment

[@tmipodcastke]

So true 😊

[@Cardiff369]

As a guy,These has to be my best episode.

[@namulandaivy2731]

Now you want to scream😂😂😂

[@Cardiff369]

@@namulandaivy2731 i must scream😂

[@missmuroti]

Wow you my name sake ..wamaitha

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!

[@blessedkrick83]

Never felt so understood like this before👑. Your mental health is as important as you're physical health

[@tmipodcastke]

So true😌

[@susankipsang1258]

Oh! Susan😂😂I give silent treatment.But this year I am trying my best to communicate than snob somebody who has disappointed me.I love you Lyd and Murugi you guys give us really good content..I have never missed an episode ever...Keep winning.Lyd your make up is on point 😘😘🥰🥰.We love to see women thriving At least we have people like you to look up to.

[@rubyabuor646]

Murugi looks stunning 😍😍😍

[@rhena4249]

The way Murugi humbles herself and looks down when Lydia talks about a red flag that Murugi relates with is so funny

[@tmipodcastke]

It’s the cutest most humble look😂

[@esstarh.6861]

Ladies you look beautiful and the quality of the video is great,so is the editing and lighting 😍😍

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you 🥰🥰

[@wanjiku805]

Lyd your sense of humor is 10/10. You both deliver such great content❤

[@viviangacho5555]

The constant thing I've had in this episode is laughter😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it!😊

[@gracemumbi6219]

The buffoon! 🤣🤣🤣 Oh my goodness - that just made my day. Today's has been so funny - love it!

[@katrinamwakamri872]

since we've been told to chile..I'll only say that I'm glad to understand the concerns kingbetweeners have expressed, so profound and enlightening...ladies y'all looking sooo glamorous and the make up is 😘

[@tmipodcastke]

Shout out to our Kingbetweeners 😊

[@valenciahillary3509]

I was watching on my laptop and I quickly had to grab my phone to comment. Females who tell their men their friends secrets is a red flag even in friendships!! THATS A NO from me. It shows you don’t respect your friends.👐🏾 Lol and when the relationship ends on a bad note watch those secrets fly out🤣

[@irizajadenatacha]

Damnnnnn! I felt so tagged hereeeeee...Go good when men speak out, now I know how women could be toxic too!

[@annwambuiw]

Naah I've rewatched that cow part multiple times because 😂😂😂😂😂 i'm in tears

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂😂

[@tamalapalesagondwe4652]

As a beb who can be passive aggressive, I have learned through self introspection that it's due to childhood trauma. The trauma of not being heard or considered, so the only way you can express your self is through tu little little aggressive things

[@tmipodcastke]

It all goes down to how we were brought up….

[@queenluigi]

My girls’ make up is GIVING today! Looking great ladies ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you!!

[@kennedysarahmuendi6156]

The episode was fantastic💖 I enjoyed it Lydia's hair wins the award today😍

[@tmipodcastke]

Why thank you😊 Thank you for tuning In!

[@sandraujeneza6853]

Best episode ever...i not only learnt that i am a walking red flag but also that i am an emotional abuser coz am the queen of silence treatement😂🤭

[@sharonalloo7615]

😂😂😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Y’all need to stop😂

[@sandraujeneza6853]

@@tmipodcastke I will i promise🤗🤗🤗Going to therapy sometimes this year for sure

[@__mwesh__]

😂😂😂😂Lydia's mood in this episode was at tops. Hilarious video. Love it.

[@tmipodcastke]

It’s the new year energy😍

[@mutaicherobon6550]

Am a red flag..I understand why I am single now😅 working on this babe on therapy 🥰

[@tmipodcastke]

We love the self awareness 😊

[@irenekabithi]

🤣🤣🤣 couldn't wait for today's episode!! I feel tagged. Its crazy that I've never thought of myself having a red flag. Always ready to learn from my TMI besties📚🥂

[@shilabal]

It means you lack self awareness.... but with time, you'll pick on it.

[@winniewangui9661]

This episode has made me check myself honestly most of the time we always concentrate on the flaws of others, I've been tagged in more than 2 characters thankyou for this I'm working on myself.

[@marthawanjiru2532]

Murugi saying Cows reminds me of Sustas and the way Danni hated the fact that her boyfriend was always speaking about cows🤣🤣🤣🤣 and she hated cows so it is hilarious

[@valleryapiyo9836]

It is Murugi and the cows for me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tmipodcastke]

The cows were just chilling 😂😂

[@surpeleisurpelei7501]

Great episode. As one who grew up in the city, I get not seeing where cows can come in, but so glad that my old man introduced us all to both the city and farm worlds. There're the siblings that fell in love with farm life and though they work in the city, they have a "small farm" to escape to and breathe every so often. My dad has a much blissful retirement as he has his goat/cow or two to wake up to and animals can be therapeutic. I'm with the Ozband. Introduce kids to as many worlds as you can. Let them have a feel and decide if they're into it or nah. They might surprise you. 🙂

[@monicahnjeri8309]

Murugi's earrings 🥰 🔥❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Check out @wildbymurugi for more pieces like this😊

[@ekbalsaab3956]

But Lydia is funny,,,her sense of humor is amazing ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

She’s a ball of laughter 😊

[@namuyabamwafrika]

Thank you. It is critical for us to talk about challenges, explore solutions, and find resources. I really enjoy your content, even the stuff I am not on board with. May you continue to have success because we all benefit.

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much for this❤️

[@chepkoecheddith]

Weeeeh,the way I have been tagged,Mungu tu.2023,we are working on ourselves. You ladies look so lovely.

[@magalienia6958]

Murugi,herding cows is not necessarily abt the manual labor aspect of it but can be seen thru the lens of a bonding experience btn ya hubby & ya son. It's great for kids to see/experience how their parents grew up,so outdoorsy stuff shldn't be aligned or perceived with negative connotation. Positive experiences open up childrens' minds.

[@tabby_teacher]

Murugis new ride is 🔥 🔥 love love love

[@tmipodcastke]

We love Shaba too!😊

[@bernicefenton]

it's hilarious that y'all spent the first 20 mins talking about your own red flags 😂 i love y'all

[@monicahthiga2436]

Giiiiirrrrll 😍 both of you are stunning...completely tagged, a walking red flag for sure

[@mwikalimaluli4072]

😂😂😂 Not a whole walking red flag!

[@nyashatasha]

Drag us by the edges, drag us🤣🤣. One thing about TMI is the consistency💜

[@tmipodcastke]

Y’all need stronger edge control at this point😂😂😂

[@vallerieanyona1034]

You two are couple goals😍. Love the connection between you two, and how you both know each others' red flags😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Bestie goals 😍

[@annetkuria801]

I was away for a while my phone had issues but I have repaired it and I missed many episodes but am back to watch all but now am back ...♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@tmipodcastke]

You have a lot to catch up on but we are glad to have you back 😊

[@thebasementchild_]

Lyd’s sense of humor is so nice😂🫶🏽

[@tmipodcastke]

She’s a ball of laughs😂😂

[@catherinemuchiri9046]

Tagged on all the points. Getting therapy ASAP

[@HildaJ]

😂😂😂

[@thoughtsofgertrude8163]

I didn't know that I have been seriously passive aggresive untill today. All I knew is that I would not communicate my feelings clearly. My other red flag according to other people is that am too principled. 🤦🏻🙊 Thanks Lydia and Murungi.

[@ruth_twin]

0:06 Awesome make up...looking beautiful ladies❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you!

[@gracengigi2379]

"Adjust you slightly" Murugi? I'm on the floor🤣🤣🤣

[@tmipodcastke]

Just slightly 😂😂😂

[@carolkageni1168]

"Is this the buffoon u want to be with?"😂😂😂😂😂😂 Let's all embrace therapy

[@tmipodcastke]

We definitely need it😂

[@godschild2342]

The energy here is giving ..brilliant amazing gorg babes with fantastic content .....murugi and mukami good job👍

[@dawn_lavender]

I feel tagged on all of these, a waving red flag over here 🤣🤣🤣

[@wilterchumo1690]

Mid week check in It's definitely Tmi 😊😊❤

[@thekindpisces2857]

Huby's 6 month silent treatment is a hot chillie red flag!! That's a defunct relationship/a gone case, i doubt i can stand that narcissistic abuse

[@marynjeru6856]

Ooh my gosh ..... Am a victim of silence treatment ... Red flag I thought it was maturity 🤣🤣 shock on me

[@tash5115]

Murugi's reactions🤣😂😂

[@dorisponi6801]

The church also gives free counselling. I feel tagged on the critical part n wanting to change the man. What if the change is on the positive side? What if you want to improve the man in terms of his career and aspirations? I was that girl last year pushing my man to be the best version of himself, but it never yielded any fruit. This year, I am more relaxed. I'm not grooming a grown man. If he sees the need to change n improve himself, he will do it. And i agree with Lydia on this one. It's tiring in the long run.

[@csitawa]

Lyd is STUNNING!….looks happier and well restrd

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you 😍

[@kirabozeridahsarah]

Strong solid mennnnnnnnnn I feel you Lydia

[@cosmicrafiki7092]

Not the whispering agaiiiinnnn, haha, just kidding. Love you guys

[@tmipodcastke]

We can’t shout out everything 😂😂

[@tutoh.]

My Ethan😂😂😂

[@periswerimo8]

😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄

[@EunyEunice]

19min in... Struggle Olympics 😭😭😭😭😭😂😂

[@sheilahmusotsi425]

I was just like "Talk to me directly please ladies"😂😂😂. Best episode so far. I purpose to do better aki

[@tmipodcastke]

You felt heavily tagged, didn’t you 😂

[@annkioko5916]

I swear Murugi is a whole duvet!Red duvet 🤦🏾😹😹

[@tmipodcastke]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@titoabumere]

Hey ladies. Another Kingbetweener and a fellow KZbinr here. 🥂🥂 Yeah, I think a woman telling her homegirl's secrets to her man is a red flag because it kind of shows she's got loose lips. A lot of men like to feel like their woman is their fortress and their safe place and that what we share with her or what goes on between us stays between us. But when she's sharing other people's confidential matters it can easily make us thinks she's divulging our personal matters as well to third parties and that's not cool. Yeah, so for me it's a red flag. People need to be able to trust you if they open up to you about private matters. Love the podcast by the way.

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you for this perspective 😊😊

[@titoabumere]

@@tmipodcastke You are most welcome. Have a great week ahead.

[@carolinemusiime336]

Always funny and real at the same time. Lv u guys.

[@muciikujoyce]

called us ALL out on the pinterest project lol !!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tash5115]

Can't even buy off one idea pls 🤣

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂

[@aliceneba]

“My Ethan!!!!” 😂😂. Actually a good topic would be “how to navigate dating/marrying someone from a different social/financial class”

[@myranjeri3401]

This whole episode made me want to run to therapy 😶🤨 taggeeeeddddd!!!!. *Sighs*!!

[@ruo.]

Murugi decided to bring out the comedian in her😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Sometimes you just have laugh😂😂

[@beloncekamz2821]

It's definitely TMI😄.We appreciate the King betweeners 😂😂😂 even on this #WCW❤️.

[@raychowaweru4827]

Lyd is so funny and Murugi's laughter😂

[@yvonnemurugi6795]

yes we are here gals love love love you two.

[@agnesmaina2315]

Am here seriously waiting to hear my red flags 🚩 then boom struggle olympics 😂 not the baboon and gorilla chilling 😂giving me stand up comedy 😂😂😂karibu 🤏i loose sight on the importance of the topic ,,,,vibe back to back❤️🥰

[@moh_mithamo]

Aaah not lyd keeping in adding the🚩🚩🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@moh_mithamo]

Murugi is Soo brutal🚩😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@rao023]

@@moh_mithamo kwanza hapo minute 19

[@moh_mithamo]

@@rao023 riiiiiight 🤣🤣🤣

[@zippyjoseph7314]

This episode is epic,aki the facial expressions 😂😂hawa madem watanimaliza 😂😂

[@abigailnganga]

Murugi would have made an amazing lawyer because what are these rebuttals 😂😂🙆🏾‍♀️

[@Cikanyoro]

Don't patience and listening kinda go hand in hand. People who are patience with people are amazing listeners too. Am learning to be a good listener. Like be truly present when listening to people. Enjoyed this ....I like your honesty

[@priscillah4831]

It's struggle Olympics for me 😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Because it’s like we are all competing 😂

[@bephynekhalachi9214]

Wueh Murugi, full disclosure 😄

[@tadiwanashet]

We are here!!! A slight adjustment kkkk that took me out !!!!

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂😂

[@gracemureithi4161]

'The sky isn't green'is sending me😭😭😭😭

[@idafavoured9686]

You two are so funny 😂😂 your expressions, how you talk your are just funny ♥️

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you 😊

[@violajemutai697]

I loved this episode 😌

[@franciscaampratwum8397]

Struggle Olympics 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Love from Ghana 🇬🇭

[@tmipodcastke]

It was the perfect term 😂

[@Asalix2]

I was literally just told, for the upteenth time, that I make him feel stupid...in the meantime in my head...."but that is so stupid!" We cannot argue over the same thing multiple times, with you presenting the same , ahem, stupid argument, and expecting a different result...Bottom line, I cannot repeat myself a hundred times. I am neither your school teacher nor your mother!

[@tmipodcastke]

Yikes😂 But we understand where you’re coming from.

[@zulekhaathman959]

Happy new year ladies ❤

[@jjgamers3169]

For me sharing gossip with my hubby is a no go zone..I have learnt some life lessons here..its a no for me.