“It’s a girlfriend’s job to make her man happy” 👀 - Girlfriend duties | Episode 63

[@TheNaisenya]

What was acquired in the marriage is split 50-50, unless the couple amicably decides otherwise. A recent case is where the high court ruled in favor of a Kenya housewife where at divorce, the husband refused to give her anything, arguing that it’s him who bought all the property. The court ruled that she was entitled to 50% of it all, because it was her efforts in taking care of the children, and effectively running the home, that created the right environment for the husband to be able to go out and acquire the wealth. So though she did not financially contribute towards the assets, she still did contribute to their acquisition in many other ways.

[@roziebaybe1626]

👏👏

[@ndunge03]

It is that way Murugi😂 What is not shared is that which you acquired prior to marriage.

[@driptv2746]

I compromised and sacrificed a lot! We got married but he wanted to be "free" meaning changing jobs from city to city, traveling, advancing his career with no interference from me and the kids, bachelor's lifestyle. We were in Europe, which meant I had to parent alone, with no family, and no help...didn't join uni.. and it took a toll on my mental health. I tried school but I just couldn't with 2 young children because he also had some ideals like homeschooling, not taking kids to kindergarten but taking care of them myself, etc, all at my expense. I also felt the need to overcompensate for his absence as a parent and eventually placed guilt on myself which wasn't even mine to bear. I was super young as well, so I put him on a pedestal and believed in his ideals . Groomed me from 19 years old in simpler terms. He then decided that the kids and I needed to move back to Africa because I was about to have our 3rd and he just needed to put the "responsibility" as far from him as possible, so he would send money and check in like Santa Klaus on birthdays and christmases. Financial abuse and mental abuse heightened. He had such a grip on me, my mind that even when far, the abuse was massive. At this point, you have probably realized that this relationship was deeply abusive and narcissistic because even with all these outrageousnesses, am only scratching the surface. I left and I am now piecing my life together with 3 kids and all those "sacrifices" I thought I was making were useless. I was digging my own pit. Now am struggling to get back up for myself and my kids. I have taken responsibility and am working on recovering and rebuilding myself.

[@bochaberinyakundi7148]

Did you move from Europe? There are countries where single mothers get benefits...allowing you to get free or subsidised costs for kindergarten...you get extra support if you have been abused. Find out what your rights are.

[@mitchy2017.]

Sending you hugs Darling❤

[@r.q5194]

Your arguments have left me confused then what roles does a wife supposed to play?? I know stones are going to be thrown my way but I stand with "girls should not play wife to men who haven't wifed them" how many men are you going to treat like a husband because I believe not all relationships automatically lead to marriage. If you give men all these husband benefits then what incentive will they need to put a ring on it when they are comfortable?? That's why we have so many cases of "come we stay" arrangements marriage is holy and so it's should be treated as such ✌️

[@lavishlovergirl]

I agree with you. I'll stick to what mama taught me. At least I have never felt misused

[@Iletyoulive]

Marriage is not holyzitbhas never been lok

[@reenwanjohi]

Well said! No wifey duties to a man who hasn’t cuffed you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@samkaybeauty2862]

I absolutely agree you 💯💯

[@musinare]

I love it when I act surprised that there’s a TMI episode every wednesday, cheers babes❤

[@aphrodite1699]

When we say that Africans should embrace our skin and natural hair, wigs lines are part of the culture. They are not "wiglines" per se but just natural hair lines. We know that Africans do not have silky hair, so when a woman takes off the wig, she either has short hair, natural hairlines or just her hair ,thats the expectation.

[@roziebaybe1626]

Well worded 👏👏

[@carolmutua5266]

Yasss.

[@Iletyoulive]

Africans have all types of hair textures 🤣🤣

[@june.liveshere]

Hey guys totally love the episode 😁😁; on the ownership question property acquired during the subsistence of a marriage is considered matrimonial property. However, in law companies are legal persons so if WILD is incorporated as an LLC then it has legal personality separate from its owners to limit liability, if it is a sole proprietorship then it, assets and liabilities, belongs fully to Murugi. Most of the complications during divorce or even during administration of a deceased's estate happen if there is joint ownership of property, business and goods or where parties claim monetary contribution towards acquisition or ownership or profit/cost sharing and they have evidence like m-pesa and bank statements.

[@kandisphere8828]

If this is the case, why did Amazon founder Jeff Bezos have to pay his wife part of Amazon shares, if an LLC is an independent entity that cannot be split. Or is the Kenyan law different from US law in this case?

[@thehelpingactor4002]

Similar to what was said in the episode, Amazon was founded in the 90's and had a tumultuous conception as most start ups do it could well be that Jeff's wife supported him whilst he was building his biz and had financial stake. Or they could have been part owners if she had a part to play in the business side of the company.

[@Oregano987]

I just come here to commend the consistency and the well thought out content. I love that there is structure to your content and we can see how much work you put in🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽.

[@dianamukami]

Hi TMI, Everytime am stressed I always find comfort with food alot! Plus the my sister is called Murugi and am Mukami so why wouldn't I be an in-betweener?? Love love the show!

[@mamapsalm1980]

awwwww how nice

[@bosiborimwagi9025]

no Murugi. According to Kenyan Matrimonial Property Law; everything acquired after marriage is fair play. It doesn't matter if you paid for all of it.

[@surpeleisurpelei7501]

Like the use of "fair play" 😂 It indeed helps if the divorce is amicable and the two can divide among themselves without lawyer drama or you'd be there splitting hairs on the big things and the most mundane of things too. 🙆🏽‍♀️

[@eve_intimacywithnature]

29:33 Regarding "what's yours is mine what's mine is yours" in a marriage. Murugi you are correct depending on the marriage contract whether it's "in community of property" or "out of community of property". I don't know about Kenya but here in Zimbabwe all marriages are "out of community of property" therefore what's his is his while what's hers is hers except for things that you co-own or if you have a really good lawyer who can help you argue that you contributed in the purchase of whatever he/she is claiming to be hers. I wish this conversation could be had a lot more because MANY PEOPLE believe "what's yours is mine what's mine is yours" even here in Zim where it doesn't apply at all... and people get the shock of their lives when going through a divorce & they see that they are walking away empty handed. I see many women sacrificing their careers to "build" a man's career/business because "what's his is mine" meanwhile they are helping with the marketing, bookkeeping or whatever... and their names are not included as co-owners of that company or anything. With a good lawyer you may walk away with a backdated payment of being a bookkeeper or marketer but most times you walk away with nothing because do you have a contract that states that you were doing bookkeeping or marketing job as an employee or with a clear agreement that you will get paid... NO! So yeah people need to understand the marriage acts of their countries and in those countries that offer both you need to understand which one you are signing & what the small print means. Every contract has terms & conditions. A marriage contract is no different. Find out the terms & conditions first before just assuming things or signing a marriage certificate/contract.

[@eve_intimacywithnature]

By the way if you choose "in community of property" where "what his/hers is yours and what's yours is his/hers" it is not only limited to the positive things like accumulated assets or money BUT DEBTS TOO. So if your spouse gets into debts, YOUR assets can be used to pay off those debts because "what's his/hers is yours and what's yours is his/hers"

[@b.3845]

Lydia is correct. Any property acquired while in a marriage is considered matrimonial property. The degree to which the spouse is eligible to demand a share of that property upon divorce depends on a myriad of circumstances. However, the property is definitely on the table once a divorce has been filed. For Murugi’s business (Wild), it is matrimonial property as per the law.

[@eunicendisya6302]

True, God forbid buy if a divorce is happening Zack may be entitled to wild if he can prove his contribution towards wild. Contribution doesn't have to be monetary, even giving you peace of mind to work can be considered as contribution

[@mendikiige4292]

It's funny how I used to get a little pissed when a man tells me to be careful maybe when walking and there's a pothole or a puddle. My thought was do you think I'm dumb that I didn't see it 🤣🤣

[@brendakipchoge5784]

Ooh dear Murugi 😂😂 If only you knew I literally can't vibe a minute longer with any girl who doesn't watch you guys. I'm starting to think I take it too personal 🤣❤️. Don't worry, we are spreading the gospel especially to our boring aunts.

[@Perisjiego_official]

I took a pause to type this before I forget. My Church Mavuno Downtown just finished a series called MONEY WALKS last Sunday. I have learnt a lot through the series and my number one take home was look around at what you are good at and try make another income out of it and when Lydia said she's good at giving people therapy and good at looking at people's well being I immediately thought how she can thrive in that business. I don't know.....just a thought!

[@teteyiankapaiko5111]

Welcome back Lyd. We missed you ❤

[@carolynekodiyo518]

I learn a lot about myself from you girls. I love your energy.

[@crinahtasha97]

Me too

[@joycemwangi1399]

Chivalry gives me ptsd 😂some day in town my man decided he should be the one to walk on the side of the road and me on the pavement and alas 2 hawkers started a fight and their weapon of choice was water. So one of them ducked and boom! aliniosha head to toe. Now, inbetweeners! i had a short nude chiffon dress which changed to a darker shade coz of the water. I dint know whether to wipe my face and before i could decide she came charging with the dirtiest leso ever and started wiping me😭 i wanted to cry coz everyone on that street was now watching us. I got into one of those cabs with a Taxi sign hapo juu, tusiongelee bei coz this day was loss across the board. Nimekumbuka after murugi talked about kushikwa mikono when crossing the road 😆immediately no. Congratulations ladies on the nomination.

[@carenkutto8206]

😂😂😂 when r you dropping your new book? Such a descriptive writer!!

[@joycemwangi1399]

Thankyou Caren😅

[@Perisjiego_official]

Waaaaait waaaah! how comes I don't know of this story. when is our next date night I want to laugh

[@joycemwangi1399]

Kijo😅 make it soon. You never ask these stories for the streets.

[@jacklinekimathi4736]

How I wake up every Wednesday looking forward to TMI. I am 8hours behind, and I always watch them as soon as I wake up on Wednesday.

[@margaretwambura9999]

same here. literally. 8hrs behind and this show makes me so happy

[@wanjamary.]

First episode we are not hearing mike or my man from mukami 😢 , we move regardless

[@kaayconnect8112]

Definitely wrong, ownership of matrimonial property (any property acquired within the marriage)is divided equally between the spouses if the marriage is dissolved

[@damarisotieno4117]

I concur that’s the law. Support doesn’t have to be financial even moral support is enough.

[@valentinediaries]

Not equally but as per contribution

[@limitlesstrends2792]

Hi ladies looking amazing as always, I feel like when you put these things as duties they feel like it's a burden but when you flow and do what you feel is best for your relationship then it's not a duty, you woke up and choose to do that willingly and not forced. And when it's a duty and one day you are maybe tired and not perform in bed then you feel remorseful and you have wronged your man.

[@elizabethnzisa873]

Be calm Gorgeous have join...and congratulations girls for nomination 💖 wish you all the best 🥳🥳🥳🥳have faith girls you'll 🏆 💞💞💞

[@suemuithya7648]

Your position Lady Murugi on matrimonial property is actually spot on

[@antonettewambani805]

Murugi unfortunately your wrong, when you get divorced the property will be fair play , in some cases you would have to show contribution to the acquisition of the property

[@maureenchepkemoi5683]

I take comfort in food.I will be crying from a heartbreak and when its lunch time, I will eat like never before.😃

[@tadiwanashet]

Inbetweener here and reporting for duty !!! Its definitely TMI !!!! I am giving, I have recommended you to all my friends and they are also voting for you ( I made sure kkkkk)

[@sharonwanja7303]

Always fun coming back to watch you ladies, I never miss any

[@malkiadebbie]

Congratulations on the nomination😍I definitely voted for you!!! I understand the feeling you explained bc I was nominated as female fashion influencer🙈on the subscribing bit😂I promise you I really want to…however, KZbin has the habit of flooding my wall and it gets overwhelming and I end up not watching the channel I’ve subscribed to. But I do tune in every week🥰 Ebu I finish this one, weuh😂this one is quite something.

[@carol76798]

Why does Lyd look prettier today😍😍

[@ajayiegharevba4741]

The most attractive attributes of a woman is : love and kindness. It earns you a greater respect than you can ever imagined. Men respect women who doesn’t pay attention to what they have. If you are going on a date with a man, let him know when it’s going to be your treat or his. Learn to pick up the tab occasionally and say “ I will take care of it “

[@chanya_ella254]

Its so amazing Congratulations guys you deserve it 👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉 Love you all❤❤

[@loisewanjiku9075]

Congratulations ladies.....can't wait to see u walking up the stage to recieve the awards......claim it!!!

[@magalienia6958]

These two kill me when they re-enact situations like crossing the road PDA.🤣🤣🤣

[@imungukalevera8671]

Note. On the issue of whether Murugi's husband would be able to claim Wild if anything were to happen, yes he can legally claim unless you have a prenup in place.

[@valentinediaries]

A prenuptial agreement cannot be acquired during the subsistence of a marriage. Whatever she has acquired in the marriage is matrimonial property and yes you're right he can claim only if he's able to prove contribution

[@leahjune6517]

The law does legally consider anything that you acquire while married is matrimonial property and will be split 50-50 unless you amicably decide otherwise

[@valentinediaries]

Contribution not 50:50

[@luciemaina7020]

I love your top Lydia😍😍

[@kijanayaaput8940]

*Give and Take, that's how it ought to be👏*

[@marychepkirui2860]

You ladies are so humourous. I love this.

[@cynthiawambui9652]

Title: It's a girlfriend's job to make her man happy Lyd & Jo on the thumbnail: 😂😂😂 Is she new? Who's gon' tell her? Anyone???

[@mamapsalm1980]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mercynjeri706]

Love this 💯 I love you guys ❤❤

[@Mumo_K]

I discovered the channel via podcasts i love it 💯💯 very sweet voices and nice English although sometimes I don't agree with all of your content anyway you said we normalise disagreeing respectfully

[@sunshineheaven1802]

Congrats on that nomination, well deserved!!! Put away that OMO T-shirt hahhahahahah...all promotional things basically. I am as single as a pringle by choice at the moment so I will just say; let relationship ''duties'' be about you both. Be sexy for you first and then him next because you did something right that attracted them, you can maintain that. But it cannot be about who we are dating 100%, we were attractive before we met I would like to think. Bare minimum let's be clean.🤣 Important to note; We are individuals first before we are couples...

[@pamelayvonne6127]

Aki I'm an inbetweener since I discovered you guys nko ndani ndani

[@diana-pn2hu]

I feel about the 'sneak peak' intro part how I feel about spoilers. I skipped passed it at 600kmph

[@carol76798]

It's sneak peek babe. I've also been using "peak" for the longest time😄

[@kezkaraya6829]

@@carol76798 I

[@diana-pn2hu]

@@carol76798 that absolutely makes sense. Thanks

[@mercykeya6158]

Please another episode about wife duties because me I am confused... What are boyfriend duties??

[@queenluigi]

Wig lines are perfectly acceptable. We ❤ you Lyds.

[@KristineWinnie]

My first day and I just felt the urge to subscribe 💯❤️

[@arianakinjoh1044]

I love you ladies 🥰❤️.... thank you for showing up always

[@Thesthershow]

It's definitely tmi...all the best loves

[@moraamomanyi4795]

When I grow up I want to be fluent like you two 🔥🔥🙌🙌

[@daisyadhiamboochieng826]

Including the 'Me I?'

[@genuinejay7696]

This channel is very informative 👌

[@shammahnzaana214]

If they're mean to everyone else but kind to you, a day will come when they're mean to you 📌

[@mamapsalm1980]

hahahahahah the part where joan is pretend crossing the road🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 i cantttt

[@malkiadebbie]

This has to be one of my favorites🤌🏾

[@homebyhadassah5084]

hahaha Lyd is hilarious unprovoked.... Murugi's authenticity is smth.....Is that Murugi's hair or there's an extension

[@thefoodchannelke]

Some of this "duties" are just waaao really?!? and to think that some people actually do abide by them... I'm mind blown!🤯

[@concyoginga6855]

By December we will be at 100k subscribers. I'm manifesting . I just looooooooooooove you.💕

[@beloncekamz2821]

Good vibes🔥. Every time Joan says "subscribe, if only we could subscribe every episode, I would😍.Love the pants👌🏾🌸. Twendeee #Roadto100k.

[@sandyjyn8473]

Can't wait ti watch this later when I get off work, I know it will be a banger. I know that I will laugh oooh. Welcome Lyd to these social streets, missed you bebs ❤

[@rosemarymbonika8945]

I am the eater ,the stress eater!! I’ll eat EVERYTHING OUT OF LIFE😢

[@gakuru_wambui]

I loove murugi's laugh... you are so beautiful.

[@Flourish_today]

Ladies, the voting link is not in the description box.

[@nancywambui2543]

Therapizing ....is that a word 😹😹😹😹 And now it's theraputations ✌️🥂

[@noellaliz5911]

Finally.... Been really waiting 🤩

[@janetakelo5718]

Premier gang gang 💪 I'm always waiting for Wednesday 12 noon

[@deekims779]

When you acquire property during your marriage both of you have an equal stake on it. Zach is entitled to claim wild during your divorce because its matrimonial property

[@faithmaingi4731]

I have learned a lot from you girls. I mean a lot.

[@kendikaburu2598]

Please refer to Matrimonial property Act

[@homebyhadassah5084]

hahahaha Murugi lifting her leg to market wild pants

[@JOSEPH-is7wp]

Alot of women are opposed to term 'girlfriend duties' yet go on to demand a 'girlfriend allowance'. The double standardness tskkkk..... like all things with women, its only right when its convenient.

[@yvonneawuor9809]

Am here for liiiife🥰🥰🥰

[@wanjiraschannel6931]

I'm definitely a stress eater please incase you need guests 😭😭😭

[@vanessakj6261]

Me too😂😂😂😂

[@glorykaimuri2545]

Congratulations ladies on your nominations, well am ready to vote

[@JMandy]

The friendship between the two of you. It's too juicy.🤗 I now have a reference for what I'll be looking for here in NYC coz girl, that's exactly what I need!😀

[@daisykimani7884]

How I love this ladies 😩😊...

[@tps8518]

I’m not sure about Jo’s views about each partner’s money being theirs in a marriage set up.

[@jackywanjiru6675]

Unless you agree amicably, anything acquired during marriage is termed as matrimonial property.unless you came with the said property in that marriage.

[@katrinamwakamri872]

Pengtin' killin' it... I'd missed y'all on these online streets.. stalking is allowed?😉

[@artiesimba3197]

CAME LATE SORRY I COULD NOT VOTE! Polls were closed.

[@JuliusOmony]

Tmi Size 16 am in love with your teeth 🤗🤗🤗 and the swagger of your face 😋

[@nasechafavored1495]

Where is the link to vote?

[@irenesebastian936]

Where is the link for voting please

[@kobbimbimu9943]

It's definitely tmi😊

[@nancymagangi1654]

Best combo❤️🥰

[@mariefrancerw]

Where is the link ? we want to vote

[@ajayiegharevba4741]

You are wrong . In marriage, there is no longer I but we. It has to be symbiotic. You share everything together. Do not run your marriage like a business. You are only supposed to set boundaries on how the money will be spent.

[@lavishlovergirl]

Let people handle their marriage as they please. You're not the custodian of right and wrong

[@thegodlyprincess_kenya]

Weuh sema kungojaaa!

[@zoeNyamburab49]

Officially subscribed 😂 after 5epsisods 😅

[@ggll5240]

I was literally ready to vote the moment I heard about your nomination on this video but no link 😶

[@fionagrace1318]

Me too

[@lucyKj254]

btw let me ask what about the boundaries... where do you draw the line between girlfriend duties and marriage duties. utapata unafanya all that na unaachwa mtu wangu🤣. I've been there and it ended in premium tears. NEVER AGAIN.

[@Perisjiego_official]

I VOTTED !!!!!

[@mbugajeraldyn6511]

Well I did tell my ex's gf abt this channel🤗

[@sheilarisper1922]

Your what again? 💀💀😪

[@viviannabulime1218]

@@sheilarisper1922 😂😂😂

[@dorothyomondi7690]

I was once my man's therapist and ended up needing therapy

[@gladwellmwendwa2807]

Refer to matrimonial property act kenya

[@mbugajeraldyn6511]

Where is the link for votin ba dear?

[@hildaalividza3461]

It's definitely TMI Yeeeey🙌

[@carolmwendwa98]

Put away that kimbo tshirt😂😂

[@jacklinekimathi4736]

I voted kitambo... Like a week or two ago?

[@kobbimbimu9943]

How are we voting guys?

[@irenemunga1286]

Where are the links we vote