Things we should not be embarrassed about… | Episode 161

[@wendynyabonyi7639]

Entering a mat then wanting to alight because a fuller one or cheaper one has come by, aki mtu hufeel sijui aje hehe

[@sheenankirote6341]

No apologies it's your time not theirs

[@carolinemuchira6907]

I leave unapologetically

[@Fablyflane]

Oh my God , Murugi mentioned something very profound ! My jaw dropped! Calling something a waiting season is a presumption of something you think you will get and yet you may actually never get it 🤯

[@sunshineheaven1802]

Thank you for this episode! Joan's anxiety brought back my anxiety. 😅I had some years in my early 20s when I ordered in restaurants, supermarkets, etc just so I do not waste people's time. Now I know better. If I do not like the menu or can not afford it, I leave it. I can enter a store and look around without buying and I am okay. And I can also politely decline help to be shown around because I can do it myself and if I need to ask, I can call them. I think farting, wedgies, spitting, etc can be done away from people or we warn them if it is unstoppable. My grandma lives a simple life. She hates the city. She has been there only once for my sister's wedding, and she was ready to go after two days. Her children can afford anything she wants, including a huge mansion, but what is the point? She says how she will climb stairs, who will take up the space, who will clean, etc. Also, she is attached to her house that her husband built, and you can renovate and paint it but nothing more. I love this segment and the end especially. I think I might be both emotional and a farter in my old years of 80s plus.

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

Parents with teenagers shouldn't be embarrassed who are undisciplined, dropped out of college, taking drugs its their choice, the parents did their best

[@the.victorgeorge]

I second Lydia's statement about Murugi's mum being so wise - I hold on to her statement that Murugi shared many episodes ago - first you make your choices then your choices make you

[@lizziemaish3262]

My life literally changed to whoever introduced me here thank you...am addicted

[@misvorey]

For real 😭😭

[@ruthmbugua3195]

Murugi your smile is heavenly 🎉Lydia you look good the outfit damn😊❤

[@belindakemunto6054]

“Johnnie rub my back because this is happening”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Lyd is too funny !

[@misvorey]

😂😂😂

[@miss__mercy]

I cry all the time the way Lydia described her granddad, tears just flow when I feel intense emotions. Be it Joy, sadness, anger, disappointment etc and I don't think it's embarassing, some of us are just wired that way

[@nyamburagituanja3880]

Lydia's gems on the waiting season couldn't be more apt.I needed that.Thank you so much❤

[@olivewawira2060]

OMG! You made me realise I've been in a waiting state for so long in so many aspects of my life. It's time i start living now, whatever I'm waiting for may never come, sad to realise that but it's a good wakeup call. Thanks for that great conversation murugi and Lydia.

[@princessly_precious]

Not murugi's priceless expression on Lydia's view of taking out a wedgie 😂😂😂💔💔

[@lydiashii1987]

😅gosh that's sooo exactly me... I cry whenever am happy, even thinking or remembering something nice, tears come out.. I understand when people think it's strange especially when we are outside but my I thank God my friends came to get used to it. Still say it's weird but 🤗😅it is what it is... Coz I can't control it. I've honestly never meet someone who's like that... So much comfort when you say your grandpa was like that.. Thank you

[@Leticiann121]

Lydia definitely agreeing with you so much especially your pov on poverty that's an eye opener

[@gladysmwangi7365]

Honestly I have carried the shame of poverty due to my dad’s wrong financial choices and this makes me resent him so much,had to take over some financial responsibilities as a result. As an adult I am trying to do better but eeeeiii the embarassment for me is real,especially when someone asks me where my folks live😢 I feel shame and sometimes I lie even though I nolonger live with them😂 Clearly I need THERAPY!!!!!!!!!

[@Cikanyoro]

Gal I feel you

[@deemb5284]

Pole

[@gracewanjiru4961]

I understand you 💯❤

[@waihiga124]

Poverty, indignity, and shame - same whatsapp group

[@Fidey_Kokonya]

Giirrrlll, hugs for you. You got this 🎉

[@Spinkly]

I agree with Lydia on the laughing after the fall. As long as I know you're ok, its over for me. I'm not holding it any longer 🤣🤣🤣

[@Elizabethequeen]

man, i love this podcast and therapy is the shit

[@macheKai]

When murugi said "you wear a thong so you're in a perpetual wedge: 🤣🤣🤣

[@clairewere]

😂😂😂

[@THEWAWERUS]

And here I am who cried for days bcz my son is graduating….i cry too much over anything. Not me almost crying bcz you’ve said that word so many times

[@Cikanyoro]

I am like Murugi about public crying. I have ever cried in a Matatu in NBi. I could see how it was making the men around me uncomfortable.Btw I cried ikaisha. Got out went home. Matatu za Chai road. It breaks my heart seeing women crying. Bt I don't feel the same about men crying and I need to work on that.

[@Pink_dots]

Why do you need to feel sorry for men crying. Let them cry

[@lynnieeve]

​@@Pink_dotsI doubt you would feel indifferent if it was your son crying.

[@Pink_dots]

@@lynnieeve Pereka huko😏

[@lynnieeve]

@@Pink_dots 🤣🤣🤣 pore aki

[@makeup800]

What a gem of an episode! This one truly felt synchronistic for me, like I was supposed to hear a lot of the perspectives shared in today's episode. I just love you girls. One of the best things about 2023 is that I found your podcast. ❤

[@judyngendo5027]

I love how lydia genuinely talks Murugi through things...like the crying thing.I felt like Lyd was talking directly to me;cuz I struggle with the same.

[@Elizabeth111t3]

Murugi the crying in a matatu happened to me on my way home after my first heartbreak when I was 20.I totally get those who cry😂😂😂

[@elizabethkariuki1024]

I did just last year 😢😢😅😅

[@maryjoshua1334]

Bring the singing back,😭😭😭

[@iam_gathoni]

PLEASE

[@topistarkiruja99]

Yeeeeees

[@deemb5284]

Ziii we've been through this wachana na singing

[@rubyabuor646]

NO 😂😂😂😂😂

[@graciewangui-l9r]

No please! No singing abeg😭

[@winniekanyaga3462]

Am so happy I discovered this podcast. I have enjoyed the convo that I didn't want it to end. Thank you!

[@kandisphere8828]

Thank you, our leader, Queen Lydia ❤. Proudly single in the 30s 😅

[@FaithAjando]

My doctor said l need medication because l am addicted to your podcast

[@dr.ohuruc.1511]

😂smoooth

[@dadiabduluaz9569]

Lydia Looks So Beautiful❤❤....Wow.... Some Work Behind The Scenes Is Really Showing 😊

[@mitchellmaina83]

Heaven sent episode fr. You've mentioned like 3 major things I'm embarrassed about and have been battling this week. Thank you ❤

[@Kirsten-jumo]

Hello In betweeners Thank you so much for the insights in this episode Lyd and Murugi❤ Personally i think Shame is just a mindset,what you consider embarrassing you might be shocked to see it normal from other people's POV,we grew up with specific things made to go a certain type of way, that if it doesn't, it brings guilt and embarrassment. I think the way to go is just being the truest and authentic version of yourself and guilt free.❤

[@Flourish_today]

There was a time in my life when i was shameful because i was an orphan. All my friends had parents and mine had died at such a young age. It was a struggle for me as a teenager, but as i got older, i overcame it. I just do not want to be asked what they died of because that is also another shameful thing. They died of aids and i felt like i was being judged because of the stigma around aids.

[@gracewanjiru4961]

This touched me. Pole for going through that. Am so glad you overcame it ❤❤

[@marymwangi192]

Hugs. Thank God you overcame it.

[@mentalhealthabode8710]

Hugs❤

[@gracejohnson3048]

Hugs to the younger you ❤❤

[@MaryAnneAchieng]

Lol Murugi really be struggling with the concept of men crying

[@edithoketch2235]

Tuning in from México City. Loving it.....

[@ColletaMaloba.]

Sasa unafanya nn mex̌ico😅😅 asking from Somalia 😂

[@irenesebastian936]

Murugi's mum on podcast, I would listen to it. I used to listen to her on Hope FM some years back. I think it was her, I can't remember - she used to answer life dilemma questions.

[@RoseAdhiambo2309]

she still teaches on breath of heaven, not every day, but certain days of the week or month.

[@patriciapatience2170]

Wednesday is finally here😊😊🎉 Hey Queen Lyd, Queen Murugi and all in betweeners❤❤❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Hello hello 😍

[@VictorMurimi-l6x]

Such a great conversation 🔥🔥🔥

[@fancykirui5941]

Thank you for recognizing the international community. Actually, i was hoping TMI live had a virtual option, for next time maybe?

[@noelorraine]

Really enjoying this episode..I feel the first point Murugi said about the Restaurant..I would also feel really embarrassed to get up and leave..i know I'm definitely a people pleaser and I don't like it

[@beloncekamz2821]

It's Definitely TMIIII 🎤🎶❤❤😅

[@nuriakavira9143]

This thing of being ashamed to tell something happened to me yesterday. I send a message to my boda guy to bring me fresh tilapia fish,I think he didn’t read it well and he brought me smoked fish khai when I saw the package I was like oh my oh my🤦‍♀️ I jst took it and said thank you,I didn’t tell him anything. Imagine i had to change all my plan for the day,changed my baby’s meal,started looking for tomatoes cause I didn’t have any. To make the matter worse that day I was craving fried fish and chips,I cried to release the anger 😂😂😂😂 but all in all today I am okay and life goes on🤗

[@Jakks07]

Woiye. Ungemshow tu arudiashe. But glad you're good.

[@nuriakavira9143]

@ aha I didn’t want to stress him cause the seller of fresh fish and smoked fish are different and he hasn’t committed any mistake since I know him so I decided jst to leave it.

[@gracewanjiru4961]

Pole ❤

[@metrinediana2144]

Lydia's hair❤️

[@cynthiamackie8162]

1:16:37 it's simple. Why would you pick up a camera, set yourself, sit down and then... Go! 😂😂😂😂

[@RosaKomingoi]

Lyd❤❤ so smart. I love you and you inspire me. There are a lot of rebuilding I am going through and thanks to you I have a guide. Thank you. Murugi receive my flowers too. You seem like a safe space to be vulnerable. I love you. To my inbetweeners I'm sure you'd say the same. Let's journey together

[@esthermuthoni2765]

I've pooped my pants in public. Just about to board the sgr too lol 😂😂😂 Lydia please I'm sorry 😂😂😂

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

church ya Awori followers dnt be embarrassed about those long dresses that sweep the streets and wearing pullneck while its so hot... enjoy

[@valthestylist9433]

😂😂this is serious

[@valortavasi2418]

😂😂😂aaah

[@sellahchabe1248]

Me and Lydia same whatsup group.If it's time for me to cry ,I will cry I don't care about my location.

[@by_amikerah]

What if both your mums come to the podcast it would be great 😊

[@carolekakwasi]

Fav pod❤

[@robinahadyero3261]

I love you both! 😂❤

[@noel8841]

Time for my favourite podcast and airpods🥰

[@tmipodcastke]

You know it ! 🤪

[@didiash]

NO LYDIA GETTING A WEDGE OUT IN PUBLIC IS LIKE FARTING IN PEOPLES FACES😂😂😂. Take it out but be discrete. But don't fart on people's faces or presence

[@RuthBirgen-t8s]

I am eating and I bite myself laughing at Murugi saying " hire me as a Mum"🤣

[@nancykagwiri7135]

I think Joan and I need more therapy, coz I hate the idea of anyone seeing me crying and even hate it more to feel like people want to come and comfort me, I just feel leave me alone and let me have this on my own😅

[@DIon..Godismyshield]

What a podcast 👏 ❤❤ The crying part i agree wth lydia😅

[@FirMoje]

There are times i bought things i didn't even like because i didn't want to seem rude. I used to go to a restaurant and the food was great but it didn't tickle my taste buds that day. I didn't even then to pack it as take away since i was going for drinks later. The waiter came and asked if i the food was the problem and in that instance i was like a deer in headlights. I was praising everything: the waiter, the ambience, their service, dang i almost praised the roof and i had to smile so hard and leave a tip. The people pleaser in me went to weird lengths. But now i have no problem walking away

[@juliecacy_dishes9833]

😂😂😂

[@phoebewasike5397]

😂😂😂

[@vee_kemmy]

Not the roof 😂😂

[@esthernungari3861]

Not the roof!!!!😂

[@nuriakavira9143]

😂😂😂😂

[@trendingbypam209]

Love you ladies 😘

[@estherchibutia3283]

I love the conversation it's very relatable we need to normalize this things

[@DIon..Godismyshield]

You guys are funny 😁 😅the last part of shosho i still choose to be lydia crying part😅😅

[@Fidey_Kokonya]

I bless ❤ the day i got to know TMI

[@briibrey__]

🎉🎉❤❤we love you ladies

[@tmipodcastke]

Love you right back ❤️

[@MaipeloRamontsho]

Yaaaaaaaass ...day made ❤❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

😉😉

[@WanjiruMuya]

Saying No to someone or something for the fear of being judged 😁i screamt when i conquered that

[@margaretnjoki7338]

It's liberating 😂

[@Joanchepar]

I really enjoyed this episode

[@GlobaltravelsTiv2000]

Never be embarrassed while breastfeeding your baby in public ❤

[@sarahaudi6273]

Locked in ❤!

[@tmipodcastke]

🔐 ❤️

[@Wilkister_Musungu]

A glance or eye contact ...now you have to buy...if not, INSULTS🤦🏿

[@beryljeptoo9626]

16:01 at this point I laughed really hard😂😂😂

[@maryannkeya7764]

I love you guys so much, your vibe and energy is top notch, and I’m always excited to see a new video ….🥰🥰 y’all are a power house!!! Let me now watch the video 😃😃

[@valthestylist9433]

Coming from poverty hit deep

[@Aunty254]

So true on 30 year old single men.,😂😂

[@WairimuWanjiku-w1z]

My all time favorite gals ❤❤❤

[@unreservedwithjune3217]

On the issue of crying in public I really understand it makes others uncomfortable,it happened in church one man gave a thanksgiving speech and it was teary and he cried while speaking I had empathy however I felt uncomfortable

[@sheilarisper1922]

Google Podcast does not exist anymore 😞

[@christinesitawa6334]

lol, so Lydia has smelt a dead person to know difference 😢

[@gracecaroline6472]

Whoop whoop❤

[@tmipodcastke]

😍😍

[@charlesmasumba3563]

Greetings from Zambia.

[@carolyncheburet6515]

Am so ashamed to say I have been watching TMI and I haven't subscribed 😢Anyway I did now

[@Wanjiru_Eve]

Some level of embarrassment is good, just a bit of it, it will help you to some degree, like shame around coming from poor background is kinda good if only it's pushing you to create better. But don't entirely be like it's hiding, I mean you could hide from everyone else but inner, mid circle.

[@JustVibes600]

I'm too early 😂❤

[@tmipodcastke]

As you should be 😍😍

[@gracedaniel726]

Lyyyyddddd 16 boyfriends ago 😩😆❤️

[@johnobosh1626]

Since "" she"" abandoned rice in foreigner land I stuck there. I have to review that episode before niwatch new upload 😅 😅to 😅

[@Augenia]

I buy things not bcos i need them but am unable to say no😢someone help i will be trembling as i try to say no😂

[@sheenankirote6341]

All my life I've been ashamed of having a dead beat father like somehow it eas mu fault. I'm done with that bs.

[@obilakathyreginaatieno9074]

55:03 You should not be embarrassed but you should not make it your identity.

[@lucyabura2585]

Iam with Lydia on emotional vulnerability.

[@samuelkamau1550]

you already saw me yesterday Shosho🤣

[@SO-xi6vm]

A human who is not dead 💀 😂😂😭😭

[@esthernungari3861]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@salomenjuhi4782]

When you haven't furnished your house with like fancy furniture or electronics or even having an almost empty house

[@nancykahuho]

😂😂😂 swallow got me

[@kache-]

❤❤❤❤

[@junewambui9293]

Have you been working out and a line of bum sweat shows through your pants?😭 MORTIFYING!

[@may-fd8jc]

Being unemployed, getting cheated on

[@deemb5284]

I will never fart or pull out a wedgie in public.

[@totietoo6218]

Joan Joan 😂😂

[@NdegzzMrOX]

You're in a perpetual wedgie is def tmi🤣

[@Wanjiru_Eve]

Thought I was the only one who kisses my bestie on the mouth, like peck

[@lorrecco]

What's with Murugi's eyes? She looks either sick or high.. hope she's okay

[@waihiga124]

Sexual purity glows beautifully.

[@faith.adeyaa]

The number of times I have bought things to avoid feeling embarassed😩🫠 Free me please

[@gracedaniel726]

Lyyyyddddd 16 boyfriends ago 😩😆❤️