Toddler Tantrums During Chores

[@supershepherd]

You see, people always think gentle parenting means letting your kids do whatever they want. What it really means is setting boundaries with your kids clearly and with compassion, not screaming or hitting. Kids are still learning to regulate their feelings and understanding why things are the way they are. All screaming and hitting does is instill fear into your child and that just breeds an anxious, frustrated kid who doesn’t trust their guardian. It’s not easy considering the fact that you as the adult have to learn emotional regulation first, but it’s worth it.

[@sophieschonfeld2943]

The problem is that there are many people out there who say they do gentle parenting and are not setting any boundaries.

[@lindaa2437]

​@sophieschonfeld2943 Very true. Too many parents don't take the time to teach their kids saying 'it is faster to do it myself' That doesn't do a child any favors.

[@rachealconrad1763]

😂

[@nemogris7748]

​@@sophieschonfeld2943 well, thats like with every other thing. People are telling they are teaching good Christian lifestyle while doing the most unholy things to their kids or themselves. Or say they eat a healthy diet while eating a ton of meat and sugar. While the definitions that people have of certain things may vary, that still doesn't make the thing itself less valid just because some individuals mess up.

[@Anointed77]

Amen. It works in my house and makes things easier on my mental health as a mom seeing that my daughter understands.

[@sprousehouse100]

She’s strict. And she’s CONSISTENT! I love how she does things. She’s very hands on I adore it! Work hard now when they’re little and your kids will be good kids as they grow

[@roseannheckel4800]

Thank God she praised him helped him I thought was bit much for lil guy but u can see mommy’s love! Stay that way mommy!

[@MarjoleinPootjes]

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[@MarjoleinPootjes]

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[@shannon8254]

I wouldn't say she is strict. She is firm and giving directions.

[@MarjoleinPootjes]

She is in sane​@@shannon8254

[@anlitatahir9979]

Not just a mother but also a teacher.. the greatest mom..

[@gember1382]

The difference between you and most parents at the moment is that you get involved. I see parents sitting on the couch, with their phone in their hands telling (yelling) the children to do things. You do it TOGETHER! ❤❤❤

[@heykay59]

That’s what I do.. I believe if I’m asking my children to help work (pickup toys, shoes clothes etc) I should lead by example and do the same

[@brynne77]

@@heykay59 Good idea, heykay. I wouldn't have thought of that. I"m not a parent. But I don't look at my phone anyway. If I'm going to talk to a child, I'm going to interact with him or her.

[@kristinroberson1208]

Exactly!!! Very confusing for kids!

[@kattella]

I love the examples this mother is putting out there. She is proof that you can be direct with a child and not be angry. You can also speak softly while not sugar coating it. It also goes to show just how much it helps your entire family dynamic when you treat children as human beings, capable of more understanding than you may think they have. It’s so evident that the bonds of these family members run so deep and are 100% sincere. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!

[@k9m-9]

Anyone notice the little hand petting moma 😂. How cute 🥰.

[@julie.1081]

Why not buy him some kid size brooms? They even have small vacuum cleaners, mops & sweepers. Make him his own "clean up kit". Use non-toxic sprays in smaller spray bottles. Boys especially love those for some reason. Cut a roll of paper towels in half. He's the perfect height to clean off the fronts of lower cabinets & bath tubs. And his little brother is old enough to help with putting shoes & coats away. Make it a game with a ticking timer & challenge them to "beat the clock". There's even really cool step stools so kids can help with dishes safely.

[@sosehgevorgian1905]

Lol I did…its like she was coaching mom along lol 😂

[@TheAslauga]

Yes..this momma is sooo loved

[@rosameijering5161]

​@@julie.1081yeah like this

[@IsaDCTV]

like they are calming her down ... she is heavy

[@soli-x5w]

When she was talking to her son, the other son was petting his mother,it's so cuteeee I'm dyinggg😢❤

[@SLEMPY273]

We all need a mommy like this.

[@shaylacrossland1475]

​@kagu3849Not just her. Lots of people would benefit from having a mom like her. I have a great mom like her myself that teaches me and even others to be kind every day.

[@jupiterneutronsdeath]

My mom might not be like her but she’s still a good one, im grateful i even have a mother

[@JanetLloyd-eg6in]

Mine was just fine....

[@rondagregory5138]

She’s a great teacher of responsibility in a gentle way making sure he understands the why of what she needs him to do. Raising a wonderful child who will be an amazing man.

[@ShutterbugVideo671]

I think this is great. Not only is he learning skills about cleaning, but he’s also learning how to work through tasks that he needs to do even when he’s upset. These are things that he will need to know how to do when he’s an adult.

[@Anointed77]

Good job mom. More parents need to learn emotional intelligence so they can also use gentle parenting to teach emotional intelligence to this generation.

[@RichardLong-x9g]

No thank you

[@juanitawhite7486]

This mama has the patience of a saint! 🥰 This world and families need more moms like her. Great job mama!!

[@lisarimbo8696]

I absolutely love how he makes picking up a pair of shoes look like a life altering, horrendous experience 🤣! My kids used to do the same, but we muscled through and got the work done. You’re so patient and fair - I totally admire the way you parent your kids. Good job momma ❤️

[@beths4334]

Liv- you are a very DEDICATED MOTHER!! Raising strong, independent and happy children with CLEAR and CONCISE guidelines and boundaries to follow. My FAVORITE part of this video was when your younger Son was stroking your hair as a sign of love and support. ❤ KEEP BEING A WONDERFUL ROLE MODEL Liv!

[@lisabailey2515]

His sense of pride in a job well done! These lessons will serve him well for his entire life. Great job Mama!

[@judytelles3518]

He will find a woman who does it all. The woman needs to always have his mum in the house.

[@shaylacrossland1475]

​@@judytelles3518Doubtful

[@eugeniajuico2814]

Wish there were more Mamas like her.

[@VanessaAnn93]

This is the way, reassuring, not invalidating, respectful, helpful. The kids will individuate knowing they are loved but also capable and secure in themselves and how to treat others. Great modelling!

[@AryamanGamerZ1]

Love how she manages all her kids 😊

[@XuanHuongTran]

You’re so cool, methodical and patient with parenting! I admire you wholeheartedly. 💜💜💜

[@Sharon-gb5ku]

Mom, YOU are the BOSS!!! He RESPECTS and LOVES you!!! Good job!!! Don't worry. Be HAPPY!!!

[@sunshinesuzi5324]

You are the best mommy I have seen on the internet… true life situations and excellent training for your children. A loving and nurturing mommy !! I love that for your children ❤

[@jeantodd8823]

YAY!! FINALLY a parent who doesn't ask their children if it's "Ok??" "Understand?" is the way to go!

[@RobynBellospirito]

You're a great mom raising your children to feel confident and loved. Bless your heart! Wish every parent would learn this.

[@lindsayomary8774]

This mom rocks! I need some more Olivia in my life 😂😂❤❤❤

[@andrearomero2692]

This is exactly what parents need to look like 😢 ❤👏👏10-15 years ago this is what it was. In Todays days parents just hand their kids a phone/tablet and ignore their child for hours on end. Sad. You’re an amazing mother

[@brynne77]

I've seen and heard of this, too (of mothers giving their kids an iPhone or tablet and ignoring their kids for the rest of the day). It's tragic. I wonder if the child ends up thinking the parent doesn't like him or her?

[@fragilefleur]

It’s the threat of number three and the followup that made him reset himself. Little guy was cleaning the way I feel some days. Lol. Flop flop! Key is to make it more positive once he’s getting the groove of it. Maybe get him a small broom and dustpan to help and his own little container of spray and a microfiber cloth cut down to his hand size. In montessori they make cleaning part of their play and have tools and utensils to help make the jobs more easy and part of play. Good luck with him learning self regulation. He is learning with your 1,2,3 so clearly your time outs have made impact.

[@ms.krueger2660]

I have three sons. Brings back memories!! 💜 They are grown now.

[@NoSnowflakesHere]

Wonderful teaching children life skills. So proud of you!

[@l.insid3s]

Thats a good mom right there

[@michelearanda1566]

Growing up in a Mexican household, it’s so conflicting to watch this for me because if my mom would’ve parented this way, our community will label it as “her not having authority” etc. It’s really nice to see that I don’t have to stick to what my culture tells me to do with my kids and that it’s okay to teach kids how to regulate their emotions rather than “hitting them with a chancla”

[@mlmj1994]

Thank you - sincerely from teachers everywhere

[@darasmith4069]

Anyone notice how many times they had to edit this. And I stay strong that nobody should film their kids when they are having a meltdown, and put it on the internet. If you are a great mom, great, and respect your kid’s privacy.

[@dangermouse6687]

There's all heavily edited. We see what she wants us to see. We never see the tantrums or how she actually deals with them. We only see the aftermath of the "tantrum". I watched one where the baby was on time out sitting on the bottom step of the stairs. If was edited so heavily I wondered how long the child sat there. Of if against her rules he kept getting up and was put back down again.

[@TheSiobhan12]

These are the kid videos people should post, not kids swearing like a sailor or offering the mum a knuckle sandwich!!! Thank you!!! 👍🏻👍🏻

[@cathyc.2512]

I love your videos. You’re such a sweet mom ❤

[@trishervin3331]

It takes a LOT OF PATIENCE... Doesn't it? .... 🙋🤗

[@NPC8087]

You’re raising a future husband. I wish my late mother-in-law did the same.

[@missnlahi]

Same thing that I thought😂

[@නිහාල්කෝසල]

I really love the way you bring up your kids. They will be good people oneday . We need people like them into this world.

[@GreenBamboo-jg7pk]

My life would be so different as an adult if I had a mom who raised me this way. As an adult, I have to learn all the things she’s teaching her children at a young age.This will help them focus on other things as an adult instead of healing and having to teach yourself things your parents should have taught you. You’re doing great momma!

[@JR-cp9zb]

Love how the other boy supporting you from the back, patting your hair ❤

[@IsaDCTV]

why does she need support?

[@JR-cp9zb]

@IsaDCTV I would think of 2 scenarios. The first the kid feels that his mom is also in emotional distress. We never really like this kind of situation. The other case can be that the kid wants to help his mom deliver the consequences, the 3rd option which will be in the rare cases, the kid is a sociopath and manipulate his way into being his mom favorite but that is so so rare.

[@yaldakhaliq7886]

Excellent job mom!

[@Jojo-gg6jc]

You're a wonderful mom, others should take lessons from your channel. Great job momma ❤

[@keelymontalvo9065]

I love how your other child is gently caressing your hair and giving you the support you need to for Hudson ❤😂😊 love iiiit . Thanks for the videos !

[@kbarnettbarnett8273]

Love to see actual parenting. Good for you mom. Not allowing a tantrum to override the tasks. Good job.

[@emmajones9975]

I love her gentle she is when she explains things to them. Being a mom is really tough. My sincere respect

[@RM-sj5lp]

Finally! The handbook for parenting. Excellent!!

[@marcizollinger6341]

Every time I watch her, I am more and more impressed with her parenting skills It’s so easy just to tell a kid go do your chores and then you disappear but if you’re there with them helping them learning new skills cheering them on, it’s gonna be an enjoyable experiencefor them

[@Aint-no-slave]

Excellent! Well done job mama.. A mama's work never ends and little man has learnt some valuable lessons for life.❤

[@CharlesDavis-k2h]

I love this Mom, she's tough on the boys in the just the right way. She's raising boys to be well rounded, level headed men. We need more Mom's & families like this.

[@belpri633]

Yesssss, the type of parenting the worlds needs ❤❤❤❤❤

[@klo85290]

It can be so very hard to make ourselves do what we need to do sometimes! It was especially touching to see how his feelings came out in his body language ~ his limp arms when you hugged him at the beginning, his suffering when picking things up off the floor, his facial expressions... such a wonderful example of learning to practice fortitude and self-control and experiencing their rewards! It was beautiful to witness the way you came alongside to guide him throughout, and that he was allowed to have his feelings without being reprimanded. The only thing a bit missing for me (and it could have occurred often and earlier) was expression of empathy. Are you familiar with the acronym ACT? It stands for Acknowledge the feeling, Communicate the limit (which you did so well!) and Target the alternatives (providing choice, which children need as much as grown-ups). Acknowledgment of his feelings at the beginning would've softened the start of the video. Sprinkling it throughout the chore completing process would have amplified connection and feelings of support and understanding. Overall, such a great example of positive parenting!! Your concrete examples will surely encourage and help so many ~ thank you!!!

[@livjowen]

Thank you for sharing this. I was not familiar with that acronym, but it's one I'm going to be holding on to. Thank you for the suggestions, the kind words, and the support! ❤️

[@klo85290]

You are so welcome! There is also CAT, when speed is of the essence, such as in a dangerous situation ~ simply switch the order of A and C. I was taught that two of the most helpful feeling reflections are simply "It's hard" and "It hurts" ~ useful in a multitude of situations. You can see that I utilized one of them at the beginning of my first comment :)

[@emj1768]

This is just NORMAL parenting to me. Needs no label just straight parenting. Getting to the point where you count to 3 & he stops crying is what I'm intersted in most tho. Great job edtsblishing boundries while teaching & lifting up your kids!!! ❤❤❤

[@saAbbasi1]

Crying still doing it 😂😂😂 that's right way to make them work for themselves so later in life they know where to put stuff instead of leaving it on floor for you or their partners

[@tinanielsen1309]

She is the Hero 🌸💯 Motherhood is the most important job on the planet. Always remember that Mom, even when folks act like you are invisible. I was a stay at home and home schooling Mom

[@joyspellmann4312]

She’s teaching decisively and not asking them. She’s also having them see a natural outcome from following direction. Good on her. Ruling with strength. 👍🏻

[@DawnshieId]

*_Ruling_* with *_strength_* How much more evil can you get

[@preciousleano847]

I love your parenting style! Kudos to you momma!

[@karolinecruz3391]

Such a good mom. ❤

[@kayodudu5190]

Awwh He is soo sweet

[@Trigun_arcx]

Nice to have the GREATEST MOM!!

[@angelinaeredia3292]

I love this this is great!!!! You not only helped him understand that he needs to get his chores done but also helped guide him and made him feel better. 💕💕💕💕🥰🥰🥰🥰. Toddler tantrums are not always easy. Great job mama!

[@mishasmith2450]

❤❤GOOD MAMA!❤❤❤ JUST WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS MORE OF WHEN HANDLING TANTRUMS

[@yumisage]

She has a unique and beautiful gift. Imagine if we were all like that... world peace be had💖

[@sophie_siesta_art]

You are setting your kids up for success in life, they are so lucky to have a mother like you ❤

[@LesIsMoreTube]

I think this is a little rigid. He’s a child. Take a moment to validate that he’s upset and let him know that his pain matters to you. And that his happiness matters to you. Then go into correction. Show love first and last.

[@selahs3110]

Good for you, Mama 💖💖

[@kimlee1416]

Well done, love the way you teach your children. God bless you.

[@susanneklein8113]

Its not emotional regulation training if you tell him to stop your feelings otherwise you are in timeout. This is getting rid of annoying feelings by punishment... nothing to do with guiding children through their unpleasant feelings. She doesn't yell, but otherwise she doesn't help him at all. He regulates himself out of fear due to the counting.

[@KMkindmind]

Yup!

[@libertyvilleguy2903]

You are the rarest of things these days - a good parent. Love and consistent reasonable discipline. Not letting the kids run wild because you’re too lazy to stand up to them. Wish the U.S. had 40 million more parents like you. The difference in our society, especially in our schools, would be transformative.

[@danaythvillasenor146]

I'm a psychologist currently working with elementary age kids with behavior challenges. I love your channel! Thanks for sharing and helping other parents.

[@brynne77]

I appreciate you, then! And I appreciate you appreciating her videos, haha! (Hope that made sense :)

[@LoriWagner-iw6qc]

I’d suggest a child size broom set the adult size is a bit much for that toddler but great parenting

[@CocoTheDiamond]

way to go!!!!!! love seeing a mom be firm, loving, and guiding all at once! i know it's not easy, but you're doing it right!!

[@gloria4506]

Great mom! Raising a great son who will some day be very grateful! ❤

[@timeflysss]

Draw the line early, communicate with love, and parenting becomes a wonderful experience. **everyone take note of her down on his level, educated positioning - well-done!❤

[@Spider-Manhomecoming-lr1iq]

The kids are so cute and adorable I love the video so much 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@zairanieto3608]

After finding your videos I feel like they will guide me through parenthood, one day. Thank you for sharing

[@patriciabridgers5421]

Good Job mom😊❤Set rules and boundaries and stick to them! Its so nice to see this because kids have to have structure and learn that rules are a part of life! It makes their lives easier when theyre older❤

[@TaraPutri2023]

This is not just an employees. This is family.❤ Wow.

[@florenceprince1302]

Love your style of parenting. As a mother, you'll enjoy your efforts at parenting correctly as time goes on.

[@Escaping_Reality_Official]

thank you, I wish there were more parents like you in the world raising good humans for the future :)

[@DieVorleserin2013]

You are doing very well. Know so many parents, that discuss all the time and ruin the kids possibilitys of learning a nice calm behavior. I also love how you talk, clear and friendly ❤❤❤

[@mariaorourke1159]

Calm kind and firm. Super impressed!

[@MariaBrito-cx7eu]

Que mulher sábia! Excelente! 👏👏👏👏👏

[@fearneperez3714]

He was overwhelmed and needed help organizing the tasks. He was still capable of doing the tasks! He learned that momma will help him and he can do hard things.

[@mahamo92]

I love your shorts❤god bless Ur kids I love the way you're talking with them so wise❤

[@CarloPalumbo-w5d]

❤This mom is so beautiful &sweet ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊

[@annamarielewis7078]

Thank you. You are raising a human and doing beautifully 💝

[@leelarkman4155]

Don’t worry, be happy but here’s a little song I wrote. You might want to hear it note from notes so don’t worry be happy in life. We have some troubles when you worry you make it double so don’t worry be happy

[@reneek7721]

What I do is tell them they are in charge of picking up the shoes and socks. That way, they feel like a big person.

[@mindchow9618]

You are doing an amazing job...like a best mom!! The little one is also watching you 2 and learning!!

[@phebienewman819]

I wish I'd learnt from you when my son was little - so important to bring up our boys and train them to take part in house duties with responsibilities and pride 🙏 Well-done Mum you are young beautiful and wise Hope many will learn from you ❤

[@miysonhana2151]

I Love this beautiful family God bless this family 🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️

[@cami4CYeshua787]

Thank you. This helps. I don't always know how to handle my daughter's tantrums and I always feel ashamed to ask, so it's nice to be able to see someone actually doing the response for me to see. Idk if it's cause I have Asperger's or if it's a normal thing, but I don't just _know_ how to parent/mother sometimes and it's frustrating. Probably also doesn't help that I didn't have a good mom or stepmom growing up, both were abusive, one physically the other mentally. 🙄 I've tried spanking, but I really don't like spanking them. I've recently settled for explaining before and after spankings so that I'm not just confusing them with unexplained punishment, but if I can avoid spankings I would much prefer that.

[@livjowen]

Thank you for sharing this. I know it's not necessarily easy to admit these things ❤️. I completely understand where you are coming from. When I first became a mom, lots of parents advised me to spank as a form of discipline. I tried it a few times and realized how much I was uncomfortable with it. I decided to go on a journey to find a way to effectively discipline my children while also curating healthy and long lasting relationships. I feel like I've done a pretty good job at figuring out. If ever you need anything, don't hesitate to reach out! We're all in this together 🫶🥰

[@cami4CYeshua787]

@@livjowen Thank you! Yes having an example like yours is very helpful in finding discipline options that are constructive. Especially for women like myself who don't really have good examples or anyone to really turn to for advice. 🙂

[@lindaa2437]

​@@cami4CYeshua787Don't ever feel ashamed asking for advice. Just try to ask people that you feel are effective at disciplining their kids without using methods that you don't like. Most moms are happy to share their ideas with folks who ask for advice.

[@GiftyLily]

Olivia, my best parenting style coach. Thank you for this!

[@jasprerph]

Love this mom and her parenting ! ❤

[@RicajaneMoana]

I love how her kids listen to her,it means she's doing right things to handle her kids❤

[@catherinechiara3914]

Parents are their children's first teachers. We should have a Parents as First Teachers Day😊

[@Phpier-cg8qj]

What a great mom❤

[@Lorine-vl6nn]

I read one time that some chores are age-appropriate and some are not..for example in his age chores should be like..putting his toys back in the box,making his bed, helping with the table setting but stuff like cleaning should be untill he is 10 and up

[@nedafahim76]

You’re a wonderful mother! I specialize in gentle parenting, which emphasizes the importance of allowing space for a child's emotions. Sometimes it seems like you might be suppressing those emotions, and that can be unsettling for the kids. Loving parenting is definitely about providing a nurturing framework, but it’s also crucial to validate their feelings. Additionally, avoiding time-outs is important, as they can make children feel abandoned during tough moments. A child's nervous system thrives with a calm and loving parent, as this helps them co-regulate their emotions. We should recognize the difference between gentle parenting and a more rigid approach. Keep up the great work; your love is evident!

[@AngelicaC-mq6ui]

What an awesome mom❤🎉🎉God Bless this beautiful family ❤

[@fridaguerra6801]

what a sweet mother omg

[@barbarapagels4675]

Excellent Job! Both Momma AND Little One! ❤🎉😊