How to Be at Peace With the Inherent Unfairness of Life

We're all told at some point in our life that life is unfair. We see good things happen to bad people and vice versa. So how can we accept the seeming unfairness in our world? How should we exist in, and respond to, an unfair world? Should we try to live rightly, or just look out for ourselves? What's even the point of this crazy, random, nonsensical world?
In today's KZbin video, I answer these questions and more. I talk about what a good life can truly be. I share a model for seeing the world that makes sense of the senseless. And I remind us that no matter what a life looks like on the outside, it's always what is on the inside that counts.
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[@weshill222]

I think God likes to speak through KZbin. The timing of how these videos pop up at the top of my feed feels too personal. Thanks for being a great transmitter Todd!

[@samanthabv]

100% agree about how these videos appear at the right time.

[@susanhastings1523]

I agree

[@Ndamulelo888]

🤗

[@kapenasingson2131]

Totally true. Truths are timeless. And will apply to anyone at all timelines! ❤

[@ag_008]

I feel the same too

[@Power-of-three]

Spot on. My tragedy..my 3 children were killed almost 5 years ago..fast forward now I am heading to Africa in about 90 days to volunteer to help those in need for 2 years. I think it is more common then not that our tragedies do turn into other peoples hope as you shared 3:33 I feel I will gain more then those I serve. Many great nuggets to think on. This is an excellent video. Thank you. ❤️💜💙

[@Jewelmind]

Bless you, sorry for your loss

[@ZPG61]

❤🙏❤

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I’m SO SORRY! I can’t even imagine, but I’m so glad you have the courage to change it into something positive! Bless you (I can’t think of anything else to say.)❣️

[@yourenough3]

You're amazing. So sorry for your loss.

[@krislast9903]

There are no words , there can be none… only what remains in our hearts for one another… best of wishes.

[@samanthabv]

I agree about the comment I just read about seeing videos at the right time. I’m a single mom and I’ve hurt my kids by not being around like I should. Before seeing this vid, I felt immense guilt. It’s not gone but I know I have to make the best of this situation and help my kids as much as humanly possible. Thank you Todd.

[@Jewelmind]

You can only do, the best you can do❤️

[@samanthabv]

Thank you very much ❤

[@Tinyteacher1111]

@@JewelmindI agree! I tried to be THE BEST mom, and still at age 38 and 40, my kids still act like I’ve done nothing right.

[@krislast9903]

Same here, both in regards to synchronicity and especially as far as parenthood

[@pebblesdocherty4421]

Thank you for these words of wisdom Todd. Love and light ❤️🙏

[@malcolmnicoll1165]

God, I’m struggling to find happiness in this season. Please be with me and guide me toward you as I desire happiness with You.

[@miniharez]

I stop the video right at 0:48 ! it’s gonna be wonderful life, only going on the up trajectory going from good to great and peacefully dying in my sleep at age 100!🥳

[@v.dargain1678]

This is a good coming of age lecture . Thanks

[@ericofpacheco1293]

Thanks!

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@maihoang8567]

IF is a pretty broad brush my friend . I just lost my daughter of 30 years and now I'm just struggling to stay alive from the sheer pain of it all everyday let alone live a life

[@theQuietminds]

Support the message, accepting the path is the only to go

[@Green-5599]

I love your thoughts

[@robbiwymer9903]

Thanks

[@corporatemonkey]

You have the insights of a wise old sage sitting on top of a mountain :-). Respect!

[@mariememe3652]

I've had some unbelievably tough challenges and yet I come through them stronger more loving and more understanding that what shows up for me is for me and God doesn't give me anything I can't handle ❤️❤️ feeling blessed and grateful for all that I have ❤️❤️🙏

[@Ndamulelo888]

This world isn't mearnt to make us happy, only to awaken us and it does that by challenging us, by making our lives difficult 🤗✌❤. Thank you for this message and the way you have explained it makes perfect sense. Much love🤗✌

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I am really challenged!

[@Healeroflifetay444]

Grand rising Todd thank you for delivering this message to the collective sending light and harmony 🪶

[@sidoughty428]

Dear Todd, thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement to develop gratitude. Much appreciated ❤

[@angienavarro7362]

Thank you for your wisdom Todd. I’ve been in a dark hopeless place basically all of my life. I am 50 now. So much suffering. You’re words remind me of how amazing it is to have this life. God bless you…

[@mariememe3652]

You are doing amazing and incase noone told you today you are loved ❤️❤️stay strong sending you love and light ❤️❤️🙏

[@patriciacardoso568]

I wish you the best too. 🌷🌷🌷

[@mettacine]

I'm in a similar situation. 51. To be honest, all the mindfulness practice, meditation, and listening to videos like this, and embracing painful emotions...I struggle with wondering will I ever be able to find peace. I mentally agree totally with Todd, but real life is too difficult. The echos of the past never process.

[@claudiaschneider5744]

@@mettacine Yes, indeed - real life is much to painful as to just meditate or talk it away with words - happyness were just little moments in my life - the rest was pain and dissapointments.

[@demelza32]

Thank you. Impermanence, and change are reality. Expectations, beliefs, grasping, ill conceived identities are all constructed from the ego and endless unhelpful social conditioning. All of these cause nonsensical and unnecessary suffering .

[@Jones8orejas]

Loved those beautiful landscapes in your video......Gracias.

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Beautiful!

[@sumithrasiva1507]

The universe shows us what we are capable of by all the experience and lessons we go through. Most of it comes as a blessing in disguise and all it takes is to embrace them and know it's all for good..and trust God with the process .we can become passionate about connection, healing and helping others discover their own purpose in life. I think it is truly amazing to trust the universe and know it has got our back . Let it be. ❤

[@TheAbundanceVibration]

you’re changing my life for the positive man. Thank you for your art and expression.

[@rabeatjaden5971]

This is so beautiful & beautifully true! 🙏🏼💕

[@Everythingisstars]

What a discourse of grace and wisdom. So well put. Thank you❤

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Absolutely❣️

[@Jones8orejas]

Thank you Todd.....today I´m feeling awful....I figured I just had to stop what I was doing and look for something on youtube....I found your video...rather....your video found me....tnank you again...

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Me too!

[@Earthtime3978]

What if the problems are self generated ? Maybe we quit a good job or made a bad financial decision.. I wonder how the universe restructures that, if at all.

[@ricksawyer9102]

Todd, everything you say makes a lot of sense. Yet, when reality hits it's a different story. My ex has stage 3 cancer. I'm trying everything you have taught unfortunately is not helping. My adult children are devastated and are looking to me for strength and support. My friend, I don't know what to do.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

My heart breaks for you, Rick. All I can say is, as best you can, allow the fear, don't resist the doubt and uncertainty, and let the flood of emotions to wash over you. This is how you will face the fears, know what to do, and process these difficult times. Sometimes being honest and open with our children can be healing for everyone. It lets them know what authentic healing looks like. You dont have to be perfect and tough, and they will surely love you no matter what. I'll be sending lots of love as well

[@ricksawyer9102]

Thank you Todd for your empathy and compassion. I value your advice, more than you know!

[@catherinehays8609]

I appreciate this reminder, Todd,❤ Namiste 😊

[@vindyasachithry2381]

Really needed to hear this right now and love the ending, gives so much of hope

[@jason_m2003]

Great video, thank you Todd for this 🙏

[@adikeys]

Gratitude, love and prayers ❤🙏

[@beyourself9162]

2:30 Tony Robins quote…. we call this toxic positivity … in this case Robins is gaslighting his self… just saying….he may never resolved his childhood trauma…

[@dtubetk]

Thanks

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thank you so much ❤

[@rezamohamadakhavan_abdolla8627]

The only way to peace is to be of service to others. To those who are not as fortunate as we are. We all need to see the suffering of others in order to recognize our blessings.

[@TheTazz2you]

BECAUSE U WERE BORN BY A BEAST. ALL WILL CHANGE SOON TRUST ME. I AM A BEAST OF A DIFFRENT KIND I SEE ALL THE PAIN ❤😂😂😢😊😮😢🎉😂❤❤

[@TheTazz2you]

CLEAR YOUR MINDS. DO U KNOW MY. NAME😊😅😮😢🎉😂😂❤❤😂😢😊😅😮😢🎉😢

[@TheTazz2you]

TONY I AM COMING FOR YOU BEAST OF A DIFFRENT KIND. BEWARE❤😂😂😢😮😅😊❤😊

[@melissatoni8633]

Beautiful advice and wisdom at the end! Thank you, Todd. There are dark threads that are healing as well as the beautiful wonderful, absolutely grateful light threads. As you said, it’s important not to resist or remain stuck in struggle over the dark threads. Let them heal and make overall sense in one’s purposeful life ❤ And I really do love my boyfriend so much. So so much. He wanted my freedom and when things got God awful after that guy in Arizona and a million other people wouldn’t give me a job and an apartment, things got real…whatever it takes.

[@melissatoni8633]

I love you for pointing out more opportunities for positive change, especially regarding homelessness. Independent women need to be able to get apartments and jobs. Independent men too, but holy crap was that a hurdle in my personal life. Independence is necessary and needed before any sort of romance outside can grow. Covid was one of the dumbest ideas anyone ever came up with. However, those of us who made it through have learned a lot and are now working hard to reestablish the world. I will never support or believe in handing out money to people for doing absolutely nothing productive or helpful for the world. …unless that is, they’re retired and at the age of retirement. And I must say a bit about the whole “they’re dead” notion about this belief. Nope. Not dead. Just real. No celebrities are coming to save or make any of us famous. They are aware of many of us, but that doesn’t mean anything will get better because of that lol

[@ericofpacheco1293]

Thank you Todd, one more time you touch my Being with the Truth of Life. Where does this inifinte energy come from, to do hard work when we are at our limit? Certainly I know part of it was channelled by you, master. Grateful to be here with you. Peace and Harmony to you, brother.

[@goodlife5D]

You just made me happy, with endless possibilities of how to appreciate this life 🧬 that is a gift 🎁💝 from the universe . Life is limited we all become a pile of dust at the end if our so called life , your amazing Todd i have much love 💗 23:38 towards you 😘

[@melissatoni8633]

I love your big world focus and way of making positive sense. This will never stop being important as romantic love zeroes in to take over focus. While romantic love can be wonderful, it is beyond healthy to never stop falling in love with earth itself 🌎

[@melissatoni8633]

And I really am grateful to have full-circled around to revealing how awful porn is and ridding my own personal life (and beyond) of it.

[@claudiaschneider5744]

My whole life has been already messed up, at the day I was born - into a very dysfunctional, evil and abusive family system. Even after I left all that real abusive family - my life did not work out that much better - even doing trauma therapy and trying hard to change my point of view - I am still suffering very much from C-PTSD. Just found your videos today but there is not much hope that my life will turn into a better place.

[@mygreenenvy]

Claudia I don’t know if this will help but when you say there is not much hope think of this phrase- When everything feels hopeless or you feel like all hope is gone remember that YOU are the hope ! It’s not something I thought of myself. It was said by one of the few politicians I have respect for and it wasn’t even his own mantra- he said it was something his father always told him.

[@michelled6745]

Thank you Todd, I can relate, and needed to hear those words ,🌻

[@maihoang8567]

Please someone tell me how to get past the debilitating pain in my Sun Nerve Complex , because the death of my only loving daughter is literally killing me .

[@mygreenenvy]

Maihoang I wish I could tell you how to get past the pain. I feel the same. My wife of 30 yrs passed only two months ago and it’s extremely painful. I’ve been watching Todd’s videos and someone else named Nora McInerny ( who speaks mostly about grief ) and they are both helping somewhat. You should check her out too. One of the things that’s said about grief is that you don’t move past it or move on from it like most people will suggest but rather you can just move forward with it

[@ericglasson7140]

Thanks

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thank you so much ❤

[@krishnapartha]

Thanks!

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thank you so much ❤

[@paulscousedownie]

Todds a special guy.

[@mikeleuk]

Thanks Todd, needed this

[@krislast9903]

It takes one to know one :)

[@doramarcelino768]

Great, great,....so important teaching and reflection. Thank you. Um abraço sentido de Portugal.

[@ElisPalmer]

Looove your contents 🌟🩵🌟

[@gabe2045]

Wow 🤯

[@TheTazz2you]

Thanks!

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thank you so much for your generous support

[@StJane]

I disagree with your premise. It is not inherently unfair. But I'm going to watch anyway because I like your channel and I think expressing our disagree ing is healthy ❤️🤣

[@johnnybookreader]

Thank you Todd

[@LONELYOLDFATUGLYHOMELESSBUM]

gee thanks lol