Tom Took Dr. Drew’s Narcissism Test | Everybody Loves Tom | Ep. 05

[@TomSandoval01]

Thanks for watching! I had an awesome time talking with Dr. Drew. Learned a lot. Continuing to! Got some great guests coming up and as always - lots of fun extras over on my patreon - patreon.com/everybodylovestom !

[@kristinflugaur-wessell1063]

Loved it so much. So refreshing to have 3 men have real talk instead of screaming and yelling on a reunion

[@chapstickdramma8640]

@@kristinflugaur-wessell1063 amen

[@jennifermoreland9111]

Very well said fellas. I have a narcissist in my family and watching you over the years on VPR I knew you wasn't a narcissist. Love your podcast I'm gonna continue to watch. Much much love to you Tom. It's only up from here❤️😎✌🏽

[@laurazytczak9840]

@@jennifermoreland9111me too! I’ve never thought this. I fell it’s short sighted to label people you know only from a scripted TV show, regardless of what he did… I have my thought on Ariana too… I agree most people aren’t bad…this relationship was pretty predictable, although, things can always change.

[@Ocean-do2hi]

Sandoval I can appreciate yr feelings. U did well on Special Forces. However, u always seem to leave out that Ariana was the most liked female on VPR. Yr story doesn't align with hers at all. She stood by u thru all yr shit. And where is Rachel now?? No mention of her. Lose the white nail polish, stop saying 'like' every other word. U speak like a 15 yr old. I've watched all of VPR. I have cheated, on my husband. My life blew up. It never ends well. I want u to really grow up from this. Swartz, u aren't mr.nice guy. U spoke to & treated Katie like shit. U stuck up for everyone but her. I like u as well, truly. Come on guy's...more accountability. Ppl see it as insincere because that's how u talk about it. Like Ariana was just 1/2 of yr brand?? That's a knife to her heart. America sees that, u still don't. There r 5 women on the 'View,' not 4. They've talked to President's, First Ladys & Pulitizer prize winners. Woopie is an EGOT winner. Sunny is a prosecutor. Sara a GMA commentator, Joy a teacher & a comedian & Alisia worked in politics in the White House. Good Luck with them! Swartz Katie was such a ride or die for u. The way u talked to her...ugh! U both should stop drinking. Unsolicited advice from older & wiser now who was also young & dumb once. But I was 20 not 40. We live & learn. I wish u both well, truly. This is nothing u both can't come back from. Just own up more! I am 64, btw.

[@Bettejoane]

There’s a pattern here of blaming his long term spouses for their break ups. Such as this Chicago girl, she was insecure. We all know how he feels about Kristin, and how he blamed her for everything. How insecure she was. And then he did the same thing to Ariana.

[@djbabyv]

Narcissists lie though. They can beat the narcissist test

[@michaelmayer-o3s]

Its easy to answer a test knowing you are specifically avoiding answers that would sound narcissistic. If you are are knowingly taking a "are you a caring person" test and wanted to do well, you would select think of others over yourself type answers. A person can not say they are a person that admits they dont know everything etc while OVERTLY telling everyone to f off when ever they make a suggestion such as Katie and Shwartz not liking the bar name and telling Lisa (the main owner and experienced restauraunt owner) to stay out of it and YOUR ideas were number 1 and you know best when opeing tom toms. It was 90% her money.

[@Naejakire3]

And narcissists know how to manipulate tests. Tests are not a good indicator - people know what the right answers are. His narcissism is indicated more in his anecdotal experiences and his lack of empathy for others. I don't think he has npd or anything but he does have a very clear inability to feel empathy. There's a reason why, but no idea what that is.

[@thecozystitchco]

It’s remarkable that you, Tom are being honest and telling Dr. Drew especially about the past because so much of our trauma doesn’t just stem from an issue in the now. I didn’t think my trauma’s from 6-18+ had anything to do with my life but i’m almost 28, with so much going through my head and trauma resurfacing. Good luck to you, Tom and can’t wait for you to continue to grow. 👏🏼

[@rykersmimi]

As someone who's 51 now and have experienced childhood/adulthood from 4-24. Started in my family home & continued into my first marriage. What saved me was getting into counseling and in patient therapy. I did in patient for 6 months then had weekly counseling sessions for almost a decade. Now I go monthly, just to stay on track. If I need more than monthly appointments I schedule more sessions that month. I'm so much better than I was and I'm so thankful & grateful to all the Dr's who helped me become the best version on myself I can be. You got this! You are so strong & such a fighter! I'm proud of you!

[@lisaogden9549]

He's emotionally stuck at the age of his trauma. He just doesn't realize it.

[@Evan-bw8zr]

I love how every 'guest' on this show interviews the host 😂

[@RealiTEAwithKristaMarie]

I’ve noticed ! Lol

[@hayfergroup]

It's a show about Everybody Loves Tom so yes, Tom's fans want to know about Tom and I think that's a good thing

[@Evan-bw8zr]

@@hayfergroup I think you're taking the title of the show too literally.

[@laurazytczak9840]

I love that too ❤

[@lauriemarvin9795]

Exactly!!!

[@holbol9468]

This has been my favorite episode by far. Even learned about myself a little. Thx Dr. Drew! ❤️

[@ningyding]

I listened to the end and care. What an incredible distinction made by Dr. Drew about apology vs amends! Tom, if you want to make amends, give Ariana a fair price for the house and let her move on with her life. Put HER first, do what is right. (You will make back your fortune, clearly.) But yes you have to sacrifice something meaningful. for her. I still haven’t heard you empathize with her at all. That is the way to get people back on your side, to finally REALLY take a moment to stop thinking about yourself and care about what you put her through. I know it’s hard when you’re on the defensive, and I really admire how you are making so many healthy and brave decisions in the way you are moving forward from this… but that’s your last frontier and you haven’t done it yet. Don’t have 5 kids, just take responsibility for every lie you’ve told.

[@MissteryDiva]

Their house appreciated by $900,000 Tom needs to sell it & give Ariana her fair share, and pay off the $90,000 Tom took out for his businesses!

[@bjlafeversswatrub]

I think his health rewind is a farce, heard his weight program is all steroids…I dunno, he has to be off the adderall etc…he needs to never touch alcohol, mushrooms again! Tom has never fully Apologized to her on camera…he’d say I love her but then essentially spits in her face…what Tom did was cowardly and he’s always gotten by bamboozling his way thru stuff…he even said I’ll get all my friends back, I’m doing it…he didn’t care what he’d done to them…shame…he should’ve learned something from his hard lessons! you’re a narcissistic person 100% ! Own up Tom…

[@paigeharris1032]

Tom left out MANY facts of this story. Also, this is all from his perspective. Anyway, would love to know if the narcissist test he took was based off his opinion of himself or was formatted to find truth.

[@marlenetobin3242]

He's definitely a narcissistic person....

[@michaelmayer-o3s]

Tom can not take advice or opinions from anyone! It has been made loud and clear on vanderpump that his opinion and ideas are the ONLY good ones and are above all others. just like getting pissed at Lisa every time she had a thought about Tom toms even though she has yrs of experience and owned 90%. And Im talking spit flying from the mouth, disdain for her when she ever had an idea. Among many other incidents of this behavior with many other cast members. What I have seen since Scandovol is him continuing to not listen to peoples advice. The haters have made it clear what would allow people to move on but he continues to think HIS idea/way is the best. It didnt work and he has continued to keep doing it over and over and over, rather than take advice. This all shows he has learned NOTHING, he still thinks HIS ideas/ways trump all other humans. and still takes no accountability. Its fairly simple what was needed for people to move on, and is the right thing to do, so he shows he can not take advice once again and HE is the reason it went on for so long.

[@leontineanderson919]

What a great convo! I've admired Doctor Drew since way back to his KROQ days Many of the callers were young people in real trouble and Drew plunged right in with a solution, really listening to them with no judgement He had a strong but gentle voice, very comforting to teenagers of L.A in the eighties. Thank you, Tom, for being so open. Keep up the good work!

[@chapstickdramma8640]

I wish some people would interact with Schwartz its not right. He gets ignored

[@leahsawyer8094]

I am sorry but I think someone "TOM SANDOVAL" cheated on the Narcissist Test. I took it a couple of times and changed the answers. I scored a 2 on one and 14 on another - most ppl are 15 and the highest number is 40. Tom would be a 35 to 40. So, he took the low route like my first test....7 my ass!

[@kressebanana]

hearing about tom’s childhood puts a lot of his behavior into perspective. the sort of trauma that leads to hyper sexuality at such a young age affects you forever. good luck tom

[@kal2487]

Re: On people savoring the outrage. There is a concept called "negative pleasure." Basically people want to feel alive. But if they feel numb, dead inside, and nothing gives them pleasure, anger is the easiest way to feel something. Anger is energy coursing through your body. It's a physical charge that at least makes people feel alive, and they get addicted to it. Not that it's an excuse to abuse someone on the internet...Another great deep convo!

[@lindadavis3728]

Tom Sandoval doesn't realize what a great interview with Dr. Drew turned out to be. Dr. Drew was completely himself and that is what you want in an interview. He could not help himself from delving into a Tom's tramatic situation and be helpful to another that got himself into harmful situation. Dr. Drew felt comfortable to ask the questions to help Tom be able to look at himself in a realilistic manner. He made a necessary move in life for him that everyone said a betrayal. It wasn't a betrayal. It was a layered relationship that was based on only the two in it know about. We wish them both much success and hope for them to move forward unharmed. Dr. Drew was completely himself, transparent and humanly and was one of the best interviews I have seen in a long time.

[@angiek1819]

Take a drink every time Tom says “like”.

[@stephaniechristie2342]

Someone please tell Tom there are other words to use besides LIKE! 😂

[@ShellyBomb]

P.S. Really applaud Tom for his transparency with Dr. Drew; really revealing! Great job Dr. Drew - 🤍

[@susanbothwell2234]

Dr. Drew ... such a beautiful soul. Where are men like him

[@caseyghaner]

Test for narcissistic behavior and the first thing he wants to know is how good he looks in a cardigan 😂

[@clairebearsquarehair]

I giggled at that too, but its just vanity

[@HikerGirl13]

so vanity has nothing to do with narcissism, and they discuss this in the episode. No doubt he’s vain probably from his insecurities, but that don’t make you a narcissist. You should really listen to the interview.

[@HikerGirl13]

I feel like these great interviews should be a subscription. Also and I mean this with love, sound quality on this one is not great. I have to keep turning up the volume to hear Tom and then turning it down when Dr. Drew speaks. I don’t know what the producer with the laptop does, but maybe he was the sound person? Where is he? Love seeing Schwartz and I can’t wait for that in-depth interview with TomTom and LVP!

[@gailbrown4205]

Dr. Drew said he was Vain, different than being narractist

[@DavidDevanMT]

@@HikerGirl13yes agree and the lighting needs much improvement at least light up their faces so we can see them

[@Anna-pz9ry]

I hope you get an expert on ADHD to interview. You exhibit a lot traits. Especially around rejection dysphoria and your coping mechanisms. Can relate.

[@heathert.4637]

This is interesting…. Also major lack of impulse control. Really interesting observation.

[@hunterandolive2693]

I'm so tired of this ADHD bullshit. None of you have ADHD. I know you're just dying to diagnose yourself with something, but you, your mom, your neighbour, your aunt and everyone on the internet, DO NOT HAVE ADHD.

[@djbabyv]

Narcissists never answer the question!!!!

[@caroljena]

It was a great interview. I could relate to Tom so much. I know about codependency, boundaries, and people pleasing. Trauma in childhood changes people and most people have some sort of trauma in childhood. Unless you’ve been there you can’t comprehend why people do what they do. Dr. Drew is a wonderful and compassion therapist; we need more people like him in this world. I’ve learned so much in my lifetime; just wish I had this wisdom years ago.

[@lynn1505]

Tom, you have no idea how powerful radio was to us in the decades before social media.

[@jamiesouthcombe7319]

He’s 40. He was around before social media. He might’ve been at the very end of that era but still old enough to remember it

[@donzybid]

Really Dr. Drew…. “when all this Bullsh- happened”?? Integrity harm to another person (s) is real and traumatic ( ongoing patterns of lying, manipulation, denial, gaslighting) to other person. I wouldn’t wish this behaviour on my worst enemy! It is absolutely traumatic and devastating…….takes so much effort and support to heal from it💜

[@hb3116]

This episode was really great. The world needs more relatability and this served up a huge dish of it. Plus Dr. Drew Just doesn’t lose ❤

[@joannefaille920]

Tom this is a Super interview! Chock full of information about the human condition and how to behave in response to hurtful situations. As well as, self monitoring and developing behavior changes. I learned stuff. Thank you Dr Drew.

[@alissamae424]

The way tom is still playing victim… is actually crazy

[@kelleycustomartistry5542]

It’s so hilarious to hear him describe himself. Wow I mean I love how open he’s been and how honest he’s been, but it’s so funny the way we see ourselves.

[@randyholloway920]

Tom still has an inflated sense of self, like wanting to be a super hero. It’s childish.

[@oneblessedfam5767]

Better than wanting to be a super villain. That’s gross

[@christinestetser5734]

Best show yet! Keep it up. Bring Dr. Drew back again!🎉

[@nonyabusiness2503]

I think he out-smarted the rest. He says he has much to sounding introspective but how he would fight and give vanderpump and the other owner such a hard time. He believed his ideas were better and would get angry if he didn't get his way. He was always a know it all and tried to look good while making his friends look bad. He lied often and continued patterns of treating women poorly. Leaving one for another. If he does not identify his problems, he's never going to learn from them. I think he knew what they were asking on the task and answered the way he believed he should've answered in order to prove he wasn't a narcissist. But clearly he's got more than one trait.

[@va23498]

For definite!

[@lupeduran36]

I do not believe a word Tim is saying..He lying through his theeth..It's obvious Dr.Drew didn't watch the show.😂

[@jenileighb]

You can tell when he’s lying and being truthful. When hes speaking from his true personality he leans forward or is relaxed talked with his hands. And when he’s lying his whole face drops. And he goes blank in the face. Like there is nothing behind his eyes

[@alexisrichardsonhair]

This is a fantastic episode. I love Schwartz being there. I also love that you didn't offer any cocktails, especially since you're sober. I appreciate the thought behind originally including a cocktail, but you really don't need it for the episode to be good!! Maybe once a quarter if you're having a slow episode. This self reflection is deep and insightful. Good work, Tom!

[@kalispoon6076]

Great episode fellas. I feel like Dr. Drew should’ve been your first interview after the scandal-not Howie. He was able to help you tell your story in a vulnerable and honest way. Enjoyed this!

[@selenesimonson9930]

The only reason he was able to get an interview with Howie back then was because Jason’s( drummer) wife is his producer.

[@miriammontez8577]

The meaning of of the word Personality qualities include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, believing others are inferior, and lacking empathy for others. Literally Tom Sandoval 😂

[@fifilamoore1718]

❤❤❤ I’m sorry , I honestly can’t watch this without cracking up 🤣 like , you know like , like yeah man like

[@jenileighb]

Yeah like whatever you know whatever and like yeah

[@MamaRobynR]

What was not mentioned was the type of test Tom took was a extremely face value level of questioning and if one is actually a narcissist, and they are aware they are being questioned for such things, they will manipulate their answers to be such that they don’t score too highly. So basically it’s worthless.

[@abelgonzales3695]

So do the ones who score high not narcissist?

[@AshS411]

Thanks for being so vulnerable. Great show! Dr Drew is always great

[@sandeejerseygrl9504]

This was worth the time to watch and really listen . Dr Drew is brilliant and both Toms have walls and a bunch of immaturity stopping them from growing into real, lovable Men!! I hope they continue to grow and mature they both really have it with in them!! ☮️

[@jl_nwestie]

It annoys me how this is all based on his perspective. I wonder if Dr. Drew has watched how he treated her after the scandal. He's painting himself as the victim instead of saying it was an attraction thing that pulled me in and stroked my ego as i was turning 40. His friends are just as bad. They really shouldn't be around vulnerable women or even in relationships until they truly feel like they are ready. The way most of the comments on here are from women praising him is concerning as they can't see through him and think that this is accountability.

[@sarahg7263]

So good 💯 loved learning about your life in this new way Tom 💗 your hard work is paying off love from St. Louis

[@kandyharris2195]

Wait a second, what about when Tom and Raychel were in the pool / hot tub and Tom tells her that he and Ariana had an open relationship? Was that helping Raychel come out of her shell? Was that helping her? Tom came onto Raychel like a manipulative narcissist... 🤢

[@asmrcat5130]

This was a great episode. Dr. Drew is great at what he does.

[@angelapatino9582]

I want a 1:1 with Dr Drew. He really knows what questions to ask and how to delve into issues

[@lisaogden9549]

Dr. Drew is so awesome......

[@ginacikoja525]

This was truly brilliant and just honest..Really great! I enjoyed this episode immensely..

[@NicksStrengthandPower]

I started watching Vanderpump from season 1 when my gf told me about Scandoval. After watching the entire series I still don't understand why what Sandoval did was so bad or different. Cheating is bad, of course. But every single cast member, especially the ones bashing Tom the hardest, were either cheaters, mistresses, or both. People cheat, especially on reality TV, it's kinda funny to me so many people are out for blood and want to cancel Tom for doing the same thing this entire cast has done and WORSE over the last 10 seasons. Tom's one of the most entertaining characters on the show.

[@Brianna-q3p]

Because he cheated with his partner of 9 years BESTFRIEND … for 8 long months … cheating happens everyday .. but to cheat on someone with their bestfriend basically rub it in their face is actually so sickening .. they were both playing in Ariana’s face … Ariana let Rachel live there for a while with them she literally put a roof over the girls head … she took her in as a friend when no one else would.. then both smiling in Ariana’s face while cheating while Ariana defends Rachel all season is just demented, Tom literally dressed up as Rachel for Halloween before they got caught .. its like he was getting off to playing in her face , they both then showed no remorse for what they did and Tom kept lying and lying changing his story untill finally the full truth came out.. and also their on a show that shows their lives so that does make a tiny bit difference on why it’s so “ different” does it take away others pain when they get cheated on .. of course not but they didn’t get humiliated on national television for the whole world to see. Oh and then to have to watch Tom try to justify cheating … not taking any accountability.. No one cheated worse than Tom on the cast😂..you obviously have your blinders on to even compare any of what the other cast members did to what Tom did. Probably playing favoritism.

[@Clovaco]

Wow Tom is bringing on great guests!

[@Naejakire3]

Interesting that any time Dr drew asks about empathy, he talks about himself.. I genuinely think he might not feel empathy for others. Like, "did you experience empathy?" an hes like "well, I got the rug pulled from me and everyone didn't like me" or something like that. I don't know that he's capable of empathizing which, I wonder where that comes from

[@Naejakire3]

But I do agree that tom and Rachel were scapegoated. Everyone on that show has done horrible things but they were soo quick to mob together. You should have Dr Honda for psychology in Seattle on. He's a GENIUS therapist and reacts to reality TV to describe psychological processes going on

[@AmandaJohn-k5m]

Scapegoats are innocent people. Please look up the definition of scapegoat, before you even try this stupid argument.

[@ningyding]

By the end I really felt like Dr. Drew went too easy on Sandoval. Sandoval, you’re not the devil but I would love for you to sit with what you did specifically. Not like, “Aw man, I hurt so many people I just want to put positivity out in the world.” But like, I stopped caring about my partner. I broke promises. I lied when I said this (insert lie here), I lied when I said that (insert another lie here), and I say I’m sorry but my actions say otherwise, because I’m still living in the house with her and complaining about her fame. You act like you hate and resent Ariana so much. You don’t act or speak like someone who is sorry. So I ultimately am still not convinced that you’re a grownup or a good man. But having said that, I can’t pretend to be an ethical consumer of reality tv, I just want to be entertained. (I’m obsessed with Love Is Blind after all!). So I’ll keep watching until I’m sick of your BS. Which after binging three episodes is already starting to wear on me. If you grow, maybe I’ll stay for the long haul.

[@Wiseguy429]

Great podcast good interview keep up the good work and don’t let trolls bring you guys down😊

[@44nk96]

I love Dr. Drew. He is one of the most competent mental health advocates ever. Such a saint 👏

[@basicallyno1722]

Absolutely not

[@ShellyBomb]

P.S.S. After the extreme fall-out from SCANDOVAL - I had really hoped that Tom & Rachel might stay together, especially after all the destruction that was caused - it felt like maybe if they made it as a couple it would all have been worthwhile ... 💔

[@taurus28281]

I don’t hate you Tom. Also I appreciate your vulnerability in this episode.

[@djginaturnerTV]

This was a great episode, I love how dr drew went through your entire history to get to the root of everything. He’s wildly professional and the best at what he does. This conversation feels healing

[@dcoleman4444]

Is Tom a Narcissist ? First question out of his mouth, "How do I look?" Enough said

[@ChrissyCAGirl]

Tom says “like” every other word.

[@RealiTEAwithKristaMarie]

So do I lol

[@laurensloane3209]

People are only watching this is cause, everyone loves DR. DREWW. he's absolutely 💯 human being that you know he actually has empathy and remorse

[@marnatieger6652]

The disregard for Ariana is disgusting!

[@laurazytczak9840]

Ariana using Tom isn’t so pretty either

[@rangemaster918]

Ariana is doing okay, playing the jilted girlfriend for more than a minute…she has monetized this break up…without Tom we would not know her.

[@310filmbuff]

I haven’t even listened to this interview… yet I am here for it. I respect Dr. Drew immensely. I know this is going to be a great conversation.👏🏼

[@kardilee]

Great show today, Tom. Even though I am not a fan of Dr. Drew’s work, I still found this episode to be very helpful. I don’t think you’re a narcissist at all. Most people have a couple narcissistic traits but that doesn’t make one a narcissist. Keep growing, learning and opening up and you’ll be just fine.

[@dearblabby]

People break up and people cheat everyday. The way you treated Ariana after and the way you tried to stuff your affair down her throat seemed like an attempt to hurt her. Also taking no responsibility for what you did is the problem.

[@AmandaJohn-k5m]

Yassss!🙌🏼

[@crystalrios5387]

Yessssssss I hate when he says I apologize for the people I hurt. No sir apologize directly to Ariana!!!

[@AmandaJohn-k5m]

@crystalrios5387 Exactly. I couldn’t agree more! Let’s also not forget how he hurt Rachel by filming their intimate time, without her consent and he’s not addressing or apologizing for that either!! He’s lucky she’s not yet taken legal action.

[@kamijackson7521]

People can do really bad things and still have intentions to not hurt anyone.

[@dearblabby]

@@kamijackson7521 Yes, I agree. The difference is when you realize you have hurt someone that perhaps you once cared for, would you be contrite? Tom has never shown remorse at all.

[@jola9403]

Great insightful and open - great interview. 🇦🇺

[@amandac7895]

Great episode! Thank you for opening up and I really appreciate Dr Drew getting a different point of view on people's insistence of feeling entitled to rage out on you acting narcissistic while calling you that. Tom you will come back from this.

[@juliakang4907]

are you going to address how you screen-recorded rachel without her consent or knowledge?

[@AmandaJohn-k5m]

Thank you! I’ve been asking this too.

[@sashacairesse]

Such a great episode ~ thank you for being so thoughtful and open with Dr. Drew, Tom. Wishing you much happiness and good health! 💞 P.S. Lovely to see Tom Schwartz and you together 💝🫶💝

[@ningyding]

1. I love watching a real therapy session. How awesome! 2. I want Dr. Drew to be my therapist

[@randyholloway920]

He has never really owned all his lying. I don’t believe he really told Ariana that he wanted to break up.

[@jazmine6971]

Can we get Scheana to take the narcissist test? I would love to see those results. 😬

[@HikerGirl13]

and LahhhhLahhhh

[@Wiseguy429]

For sure that girl is the biggest narcissist

[@marhar1172]

Agree..that woman screams narcissism..I doubt she will ever own up to it as she lacks the self awareness..

[@rachaelrome]

dont forget white kanye

[@lauchzwiebel]

Kens among each other performing „deep conversation“ it is snowing big perfect snow flakes

[@kristim5084]

I love Dr Drew but he needed to watch a little bit of VPR to get a firm grasp on who Tom is and how he behaved with Ariana. He's a great guy but he is a bit of a narcissist. I can tell Tom has been working on himself and i really hope he can rebuild a friendship with Ariana. ❤

[@marhar1172]

Dr Drew knows how reality tv works so he was wise not to watch VR to get any background information on Tom's produced behaviour for the show. Also he didn't want to judge him by the mob who came after him, but wanted to get to know him after meeting him at a Special Forces reunion..Dr Drew is smart.

[@REALITYBLENDERx]

Tom, you have more supporters than what you think ❤

[@RealiTEAwithKristaMarie]

How much therapy does Schwartz not neeed? He Keeps bringing up himself up and entering the chat ! Lol

[@trae74]

I took shots every time Tom said like. I passed out before the end. 😂 love you Tom!

[@observeandrapport8862]

7:30 begins the narcissism evaluation.

[@kshejohnson9207]

Its James. James is the inly person on the show who shows the signs and traits and has the childhood to fit the bill.

[@jenileighb]

Jax

[@Sammiedallas]

First time checking out the podcast, eager to see if u stay to the end on special forces! Great to hear your story

[@Grommomworld]

The only thing worse than being alone is being alone with someone sitting right beside you.

[@stargazeranemiac]

LOVED seeing you and Doctor Drew together!! Amazing! 🩷🩷

[@nicolekhorasani7019]

Tom, I really appreciate all your years on Vanderpump. You really have given the viewers a good series to follow. Good luck pushing forward and figuring it all out. I hope they invite you into the view and you go.

[@MamaHen87_TheUncensoredVersion]

Loved this episode ❤

[@lauriekline2920]

I agree with many of the comments. I hope because of the severity of the repercussions you continue to mature and grow up like we all have to. I didnt really grow up and mature til 40. Be cautious of who you settle down with next, know yourself and get to know them well beforehand. Its true because your on a show everything is hyped up by everyone more than if you werent obviously. It was bad what you did, but being open and honest with your guests is helping you to grow and were getting to see it. Dont just keep being busy, do the work to keep growing as an adult. God bless you 🙏

[@kandykaye9981]

Thank you Dr.Drew! Pet peeve is the armchair narcissist diagnosis everyone is handing out daily to anyone with whom they have a problem. I’m not surprised about Tom’s rating in the least.

[@heathert.4637]

Absolutely LOVE Dr. Drew

[@lindaderry8469]

We all love the Tom's

[@oneblessedfam5767]

I love Dr. Drew telling Tom “If they spend the time to listen and attack, THEY SPENT THE TIME TO LISTEN! THEY’RE INTERESTED!”

[@sashacairesse]

Exactly 💯

[@0405aries]

These shows seem to end up with the guest interviewing TOM instead of general topics.(all about him)

[@barbriley583]

Drink every time he says like…I’m on the floor

[@racheljulien4026]

Said this the second the interview started 😂 like like

[@sandy_Jo]

I think this is absolutely amazing. For a number of reasons. But as far as you being honest about your life your past and your feelings being so vulnerable, there isn't one person out there that has judged and shamed you that could own up to there past and childhood. Hurt people hurt people that's a f***ing fact. You being honest about a girl that reminded you of Rachel is so freaking amazing because your being real and honest. I truly believe that you are your authentic self. honestIy can't help but be angry at all the people that has did you wrong and treated you so crazy and said all the horrible things they've said but it gives me pleasure to sit and listen to you prove them all wrong because you're a lovable guy. Good job Tom and I continue to hope the best for you!

[@katherineveduccio1720]

Dr. Drew is my hero ❤ im obsessed i remember when he and Adam were on mtv together

[@erikapistacchio8375]

Tom if you need to say like, try taking a pause. It's a habit it's easy to break. Been there.

[@josefig842]

Not gonna lie, it’s hard to believe anything Tom says. He’s lied so much on the show and in interviews so I take everything he says with a grain of salt. Like all of this background he gives could really be made up 😂

[@SpaceLanderGirl]

This is a quite interesting pod cast. I could not have talked about my past like that good for you. I really liked Dr Drew takjing about how social media can become like an angry mob. It is becoming more ad more of that on a lot of topics. I think people have to look at what they are posting and think about what they are writing. I have enjoyed your interviews so far.

[@rosiewalter4812]

Tom, you are killing it with your Podcast. I absolutely love Dr. Drew and have loved him for years. I am so happy for you and I wish you continued success!

[@crystalobaseki]

Jax is probably a narcissist.

[@thegodmamaonelove9874]

Absolutely!

[@Wiseguy429]

I’m so happy Tom sound of all you’re doing your own podcast and Tom Schwartz don’t let people bring you down always remember we’re human beings we make mistakes happy you’re getting your own podcast