The ONE thing EVERY man needs but rarely asks for!

[@love7loyalty-MHA]

Wait a min now.. Uncle Tony, coming through with a message coupled with sunshades and a mint green shirt. 😂

[@simplyameeraj]

🤣 lookin fly af

[@4theloveofmoni330]

Ain’t he sharp

[@ebonyessence2838]

AND A GOLD CHAIN NECKLACE 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@mariaowens3399]

He look good 💚🙌🏾

[@c.l.9344]

Vacation outfit.

[@MakingsOfMan]

As a Man who is experiencing this from a woman for the first time ever, in my current relationship… It gives us so much Life! Her affiliations and inspiration has literally propelled me to build 2 new businesses just to create more security around Her

[@evasccl7846]

How beautiful is that?! Thank you for sharing and God bless you both!

[@elvischambers4051]

You're weak, too. If a woman has to propell to the next level, she deserves everything you make. SO MUCH WEAK WANNABE LITTLE BOYS OUT HERE ON THE INTERNET GIVING ADVICE. WEAK

[@Tricey.89]

Rub a man’s head, beard, back of the neck and see him lose his train of thought and eyes roll back. This is true, they love that ❤

[@jolynnesposito9620]

Huge shout out to Brother Tony & all the good guys who are remaining faithful and committed to growing in a world full of ppl with the spirit of pride , envy & lust ! Satan you chump - your time is up !! Interceding for these men in prayer !! 🙏

[@shaunip345]

Excellent message for us ladies to adhere to. I gave to a narcissist, affirmation, building him up. When you build them up, they think they got you!! They think they can play you. However, like Tony said, there are red flags. You may not see them at first, but they're there. Don't dwell in that negative space, ladies. There are good men out there!!

[@jam1369]

The same holds true for our relationship with the Lord God. He desires our praise and affirmation. He is amazing! 💯

[@evasccl7846]

That is also true!! I was thinking about it lately! God is orderly in all He does... that explains why He built the environment with all we need to live, then He created the man, to depend on God and steward His blessings... then God saw it good to create a woman to be the man's ideal helper... both are dependant on God !

[@IvyElizabeth918]

As a single woman about to enter into her thirties and desiring a healthy Christ-centered marriage, I needed to hear this. Showing appreciation is super important! I didn’t do it enough in past relationships.

[@LIVEFIT5D]

affirm/affection/appreciation

[@NikkiYourTallBestie]

This is Such a good message! Your channel is why I’m in a healthy traditional relationship today and we are getting married in December! Thank you for all you do!! Xoxo Nikki

[@Therobynnicole]

This is so good and so very true! My amazing husband passed away last year but I was extremely intentional about affirming him and being affectionate…he was so easy to love and that man was soooo good to me. ❤❤❤

[@kessphotography]

My condolences for your loss. 🙏🏽

[@robinmack6563]

My condolences on your loss

[@queenstatus3049]

I’m so grateful for you. My husbands love language is physical touch and words of affirmation. He is also expressed that he needs more. I’m going to do better.

[@beanniebaby4456]

I concur with this message! Real man right here! More men need to step up in truth! Just put it on the table!

[@grayv4019]

Men should be glad that a brutha like you are giving women like me some healthy relationships advice.....I have so many comments on this subject....⚘️🙏🏾😎

[@YourLoveNeverFails]

Don’t be grabbing his balls 😂 you crack me up brother. Thank you for these words, definitely a message for me!

[@nash.azongafack7309]

😂😂😂😂me too

[@candyk7851]

💯 👍🏽I am naturally affectionate so this is easy for me and I see his smile and know he loves it!

[@s.rosesmith6525]

Men need Respect first. Affirmation is part of Respect.

[@glendanesmith]

I love those shades Tony.

[@evasccl7846]

Good morning Tony, thank you for making this video. You are ABSOLUTELY right! I am a teacher, and whenever I had to teach male students of all ages, I noticed how much things changed when I affirmed them, appreciated their effort and progress.... they experienced a massive transformation and were able to overcome challenges that were more suited for older/more advanced students. By the way, the once a week is very true too 😁, if you do it daily, it ends being taken for granted and more damaging than good. Men need a one sincere, genuine and able to understand logically when speaking to them! If this happens with male students... it happens to men in general. Affection can be shown in so many different ways, a simple rub of your hand on his back when you are with other couples and he is speaking... is such a blessing, a look in the eye and smile, a soft stroke on his face... the little things speak volumes. Show that you are a team, that he has your back and admiration, respect.... it is a great example also for our children and younger people to witness more of this healthy behaviour. Thank you Tony, I loved it, not bland, just transparent and rightly so, this way there is no room for the devil to mess up! God bless you and your family.

[@victorynjesus421]

This makes so much sense. I have been married for 36 years. Honestly, I have not been affirming my husband lately, nor giving him basic affection, and that is wrong of me. This is a good reminder for us wives to do what we VOWED to do, til death do us part. My husband works hard and takes good care of me. I will begin to do this from today on, with the Lord's help.

[@sjoyner1737]

Thank you for the Gem. I've been saying this for a couple years now...that the way to a man's heart is through/ stroking his ego, not through his stomach, a man can feed himself!!

[@Ms.Jamieh297]

Wow...Thanks for the wisdom! Peace, Safe Keeping and Blessings To You and Yours!🙏🏾💓

[@jessicat2304]

He told me he can’t stand praise/ applause I’m like do you truly mean that or are you just not use to it ? I use to think I never liked hugs so pretended I didn’t care but I was just starved for physical touch as a kid. Touch is my #1 love language now

[@laureloriginal]

I made a comment on one of your videos saying that it doesn't matter what you teach a woman sometimes because the voids are so deep; I just wanted to make clear that I was under A lot of witchcraft when I said that; & even though the voids are there your words are so valuable & you have changed my life tremendously! Thank you Mr. Gaskins! 💌

[@queensophiab.9990]

❤tell them King.. married 23yrs. Still so very close. Hubby get lots of this 😊, l cut his hair, massage him, he loves to play in my hair oh l can't wait for another 23 years..yes...men needs to feel the affection as much as we do. Oh how l love to kiss his nosey😂... he so loves it too. ❤peace b with you❤

[@thekimberlynproject]

I agree Tony! Real intimacy is non sexual... its intuitive! 👏🏾

[@chrishnah]

Its so true that my former husbands friend group was a terrible influence. I have noticed that you can have a couple of good men and introduce a bad man and he will degrade the morals and morale of the group. They become lazier and more predatory. One bad apple.

[@dantoinettetaylor1663]

You had me cracking up at “Bitter Betty” 😂 but you’re so correct

[@latoyastephens3279]

It’s the scratch the booty and get glad for me lol 😂. But honestly he’s absolutely right. You can’t pour into a man who’s not deserving by any means. You only can do affirmations & affection with a man who’s deserving & who also pours into you. You both have to be emotionally & mentally available in order for this to work. I had to learn this and it definitely works ❤️👏🏾👏🏾

[@Authencitywithsam]

Damn he’s dropping jewels ladies let’s take notes!

[@Yoursweetestlife]

My marriage has just been elevated!! Thank u

[@beautifulheart2986]

“This information is not for bitter Betty” 🤣🤣🤣 Tony always spitting facts!!!

[@rodb2436]

I love how you spoke up for yourself Tony and calling out the ones leading other men astray. Some men just want every excuse to not be good men . Thank you for keeping it real always and warning men about what you been through and teaching them the real .

[@lerandabrewer3923]

It's such a blessing to watch their eyes light up when you affirm them....its such a joy❤

[@doriapatterson3092]

As a licensed massage therapist, I approve this message!

[@ellee.444]

scalp, back, face, beard, neck, shoulders GOT IT ain't got a man yet but GOT IT ✏📝

[@tiffanyland9116]

You are absolutely right about this Tony!! And if you have a good man, this behavior comes , natural for women.

[@Terra_inthe406]

Yes I agree!

[@nixluvsjesus]

Thanks, I needed to hear this 😊 Sometimes life gets so busy with little kids that I forget to affirm my husband, and he really does love it when I do.

[@CKeys-h4z]

I understand. Help to build him up and love on him because the world and life is hard enough.

[@k-dean7485]

As we say in Jamaica ...TALK UP DI TINGZZZZZ BREDA!!!!

[@BlancaRosa79]

I’m big on affirming your man. It’s essential part of the relationship. I’ve always been a big believer in that and I’m naturally one to do that. So praying for a man to one day be able to shower him with affirmation ❤

[@aljohn2028]

I love how you're speaking to the comments & politely uninviting issues that are distractions. 😂

[@queenofclarity]

I made mistakes with him and he made mistakes with me as well, but he was a taker and very angry because I was doing everything you said. He wanted to bring his chaos into my peace. I am grateful for the lesson and I’m good to sit with God until God feels I’m ready to date again as a single mother. Thank you.

[@POVTAYYYYYYYY]

This resonates with Jesus’s love for us thank you black man ❤

[@hellothere8347]

I love how vulnerable he is! I hope one day when I meet my soul mate I’m going to really try too be a good wife! I’m very affectionate. That’s one of my love languages and why my exes just takes from me. But honestly that’s ok I’m over it now and I’m glad I could be that for him! But one day my husband going to appreciate me!❤️ never giving up on love

[@brittneymartin9815]

Tony went off in the most eloquent way, I can’t 😂 he told y’all. Love this message.

[@novembrluv]

I’m going to be intentional about doing this with my husband. He works so hard for our family; he deserves it.

[@nadirahtherealtor5173]

Man, my husband comin... but I learn so much raising my son and learned how true this is. Males are more sensitive than women!!!! They just hafta mask it so we want them and feel protected. My son has definitely asked me to "pump him up" slash motivate him several times. I'm learning and thank you for this Tony sir.

[@qalayah]

Tony Gaskins, this video was confirmation for me. Not the affection part, as I am already a very affectionate woman, it is the affirming part. I was literally thinking on that these past few days. I am in my single season, but it was in my spirit and on my heart. Appreciate you

[@terrycalvin7556]

I'm naturally affectionate, but a reminder that affirmation goes a long way; is empowering! Thank you Tony for stepping in on behalf of the men to share what their needs are, so as ladies, we can love them more & understand them better.

[@isantos6543]

Very enlightening! Thank you so much.

[@cynthiareynolds1941]

You are so correct! Healing is very important before you get into another relationship. Do everything that makes you happy before you settle down again.

[@shannonmonaallathat]

ok with the shades😎 Tony! Enjoy Yallselves 🙂

[@jiml5465]

Not grabbing balls…this is why I listen to you because you keep it all the way real and you know that the quirky women out here will do it lol. Thanks for saving us from doing so.

[@rosesjezus]

Tony Gaskins. It’s official! Just received my last grade and this means that I graduated my bachelor in Laws at the University of Amsterdam cum laude while also participating in the Honours-programme. God is great! ❤

[@rosesjezus]

@@tianatiana688 thank you. ❤️ God bless.

[@nicolemaxwell474]

Congratulations 🎊

[@rosesjezus]

@@nicolemaxwell474 thank you. ❤️ All the praise to our holy father. ☺️

[@pinkishdiamondz]

Tony gonna tell you off......Professionally 💀💀😭😭🤣🤣🤣

[@ColdandRain202]

Professionally🎉🎉🎉

[@VivSees]

Thank you Tony from a healed woman who wants to love a man as he needs to be loved. This was very insightful and useful.

[@keelycrawford8622]

This is so empowering! These are things that I truly believe in. Not for the grown boys, but for the TRULY God fearing GOOD man. I know he’s out there‼️ Just waiting on my Father to send him my way🙌🏽😁🙏🏽🥰

[@shawana2744]

This is Amazing! I wish I could play this for Soo many men I know! It's Hard Being A Mature Woman As Well Because it's Soo many guys out here still on that Hit & Quit!! 🤷‍♀️

[@andreaharvey723]

This convicted me and helped me tremendously. Thank you for doing what God called you to do Tony. It's very much appreciated !

[@flygirl1942]

Tony, Thank you for sitting in the hot sun sweating bullets to get this message out to us. I needed this. ❤

[@petalrose4685]

I appreciated this message of non sexual touching and it's place in relationships. It's important for all women but particularly for women of color. And I also appreciate how he wanted us to stay focused on who the message was intended for and not get distract.

[@lunabae777]

“ Bitter Betty” 😂 But this is real! 🧘🏽‍♀️🧘🏽

[@my_opinion_only]

"Please be quiet when it's something for the man" Thank you. That was very much needed.

[@ramonacooper5407]

Tks brother Tony God Blessing upon you and family ❤️

[@Twister_numba24]

I want to caution not to make the mistake not to keep pouring into an empty cup, though(I wasted three years of my life, thinking that me pouring into a man that was just completely broken and all he did was leave me drained)..

[@dhawkinsish]

Tony said we don’t really need to hear from you thank you 😂 Tony be reading the crap out of y’all 😅

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Teach Tony, I got the lesson. Now I am trusting God, learning more about men and myself. Glory to God.❤

[@bcook4212]

I know exactly that connection you're speaking of. It's a beautiful thing when a man and woman have that special connection where everybody around knows they belong together, and respect it. Other than my faith, my man would always be the center of my focus, affirmation, care and appreciation. Things do happen but you have to see those infrequent instances for what they are. We tie in with who we can feel good about and yes, the desire should be mutual.❤

[@makerstrongbooks]

RE:14:44 We should let go of childhood trauma before we get married. I would actually say that before you marry someone, get counseling together for at least 9 months or more. It may not be a complete cure, but it should help both parties comprehend what each other needs to make the marriage successful. From experience: I wish I would have done this.

[@mjj5642]

Now THAT’S what you need to do a video on!! “Using a husband for a title.” This is so true!!

[@Malitubee]

Tony I swear if you had a church in Atlanta I’d be there every Sunday , you are so important to the community man. I loved this message. I swear you are helping me to become a better man just by listening to you, I’m figuring out my wrongs and actually making an effort to change them .

[@TonyGaskins]

Help me find a lil building

[@hellothere8347]

I love this for you

[@GG93173]

Your bluntness is needed! Thank you for sharing this information and holding us accountable for not being in our natural state. Feminine, nurturing, inspirational and affectionate.

[@thedopeconversationspodcast]

Glad Tony speaking on this. & I’ve noticed a lot of bitterness too from both sexes, both sides who are struggling with accountability.

[@sofiamafumba]

👀 Who that??? Uncle T looking good with the bright shirt and shades.👌🏽 Thank you so much for blessing us once again with a beautiful message and wisdom. May God bless you with many more. You're saving and changing women's lifes with your videos. NB: Bitter Betty's, please stay out the comments. 😂

[@karenwright8491]

Tony this is a great message. We must speak life into our men and give them affection. Got it. And I really appreciate the secrets, we need them as a people. Keep teaching our men, ladies and people, all people❤🎉

[@iamallisonalanna]

Tony’s vacation fashion’s are 🔥🔥….Man looking sharper than a sword 🕶️

[@jam1369]

So true. We need to be loved and receive affirmation. Amen.

[@melaninpopping175]

Men yal need to give affirmations to your women also n respect. We all human it go both ways to work . N receive it when it’s being given

[@blackmanskeeper_]

Why do one always "Deflect" & "Project"? Let a man speak without what about us or it go both ways or we'll women need such and such too smh.. listen.

[@nofybn7794]

@@blackmanskeeper_ Funny, men always always always always make it about them!! She is right!!

[@nofybn7794]

@@blackmanskeeper_ Sexist

[@nofybn7794]

@@blackmanskeeper_ Let a woman speak!!

[@blackmanskeeper_]

@@nofybn7794 I Am A WOMAN And I'm speaking!! Let a WOMAN SPEAK!

[@patrinamuldrow3363]

Yes I tried doing that with my husband but he was the wrong man to receive it because he wasn't. So I figured out why he never had feelings for me. I was blaming myself for being foolish enough to fall in love with someone who is not going to even be able to be Present mentally spiritually and physically. The affection I was given was real but his was fate. My heart was all in for him even though we both knew our issues well so I thought but his work in multiple supplies . I know this video was not for me and I got your message. You enjoy this Blessed wonderful day and have fun Tony.🙏❤

[@amyanderson6702]

Thank you Tony for educating me in ways I've never known about men. I enjoy your manner of teaching. You are truly inspirational. 💕💕💕🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@yolandakendrick7277]

Im a hairstylist, there's too many bitter Betty's out here and thats so concerning. I like to encourage women, plese dont shut doen because of what happened in the past, move on and learn from that or you'll end up being a bitter woman and will never attract your King.

[@ericac8416]

Omg! I was just telling my sister this the other day and it's disturbing. I keep praying for God to comfort their hearts and fill them with his love before they attempt another relationship. Self love and healing is so beneficial and a lot of people are lacking this. 🙏🏾

[@mariajackson2570]

Good stuff! Thanks for this. I’m in a new relationship after being single for a long time and I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing 😂

[@bonitahopkins2958]

I do it naturally. I was so glad you said to space it out. Because I remembered you taught that some men didn't respect affirmation if they knew they hadn't earned it.

[@LayanaHazel]

So true I do this with my husband naturally after watching so many of your videos and healing I enjoy loving on my husband the way he needs it and respecting him thankyou for what you do you are appreciated you are the brother I never had and I thank God for you !

[@kimtrinidad9377]

Thank you for this timely education! We pray a hedge of protection around you, your family, and your ministry. May God bless you exponentially!!

[@anitamapp2701]

You are absolutely right. My man love compliments and affection.

[@vivian.eni.official]

I knew this but didn’t know a man needed it. Thank you for this

[@KB-ok1en]

Thank God for this word 🙌🙌🙌

[@sophiaf.]

Amen 🙏🏾 For “Affirmation”👨🏽 ❤👨🏽❤️

[@HealingHelpHeal]

So correct, AFFIRMATION & AFFECTION….Thank you!!!!

[@NikiNacole]

No one I've ever dealt with has ever appreciated me for this but I'm still out here trying to love like I've never been hurt. Maybe one day

[@latashalewis873]

Keep going @nikkinicole! God's not a liar😊

[@Youre_the_Magician]

I love it when you are blunt and direct. God bless you, Tony!

[@patrciakavini]

Great video Tony, and very very true! A church mentor told me the same thing, the top 3 things men need in a relationship are respect, affirmation/admiration, and sex. I remember hearing that for every negative comment there should be 5 positive comments said to balance the criticism, and that was the trick a NBA or maybe NFL coach would do to produce optimal results from his players (who, understandably, had big egos haha). And because men are more wired to protect their status in their social circles, it def does make it harder for them to go against the grain, as you say, of socially accepted practices (like watching and sharing porn, buying sex, and being promiscuous) that are in truth ultimately rooted in sin. And additionally, because men are socialized to not show emotion/express their feelings and just be expected to "do man things", it means we should take care all the more to speak words of encouragement and appreciation to men, esp those we see trying. We literally need nurture and physical touch as babies in order to grow and survive, and that need never goes away from men. Inside every man is a little boy who still loves hearing "Great job!" or "I'm so proud of you for XYZ!" and enjoys a hug or other similar touch of affection. Thanks for sharing Tony, I enjoyed this video!

[@user-vj4cj6wl9t]

Thank you. I appreciate ur authenticity. Blessings

[@gma904]

My aunt gave me this advice one day and it’s a game changer if you want a better relationship and family life. Ty Anna Fe ❤

[@elmyra.jackson]

Young man,thank you so much for this message! I know at almost 65 God has man for me and I know who he is! I understand more fully why Holy Spirit has taught me to be affirming,to the extent that it comes natural for me! This may seem silly but I'm looking forward to giving my king all the affirmations he needs and I know by faith he'll do the same💙😀

[@Officialpriscillajackson]

Gracious day mog (man of God) I want to say that I love you with the love of the Lord sincerely I love your total transparency, your honesty, your politeness, even your boldness at times & most of all I want to thank Mrs. Gaskins four allowing you to flourish in your gifts and ministries to help the nation be better Thank you wog (woman of God) I love you both 🥰

[@akilahbatyah6505]

Thanks. I’ve been through narcissistic abuse with a partnership. I was steeped in it growing up. However, I still like that’s lessons because it’s wisdom stored up for me or for me helping someone else in the future.

[@hesterhenry2141]

This is great!! Hate you were in the heat though. Nice color on you. Blessings 🙏🏽❤️

[@armettalandrum4942]

THANK YOU - FOR THIS ADVICE !!!!! I UNDERSTAND THE ASSIGNEMENT~!!!

[@melstarr1864]

One reason women may not be affectionate is that they know sex must follow, and they are not really up for it at the time. We women may have to work on that part.

[@deirdrejohnson7179]

Glad you made that point. I'm a very affectionate woman...I just don't believe it ALWAYS has to lead to s❤️x. When that happens I tend to stop being as affectionate. 🤔🤷‍♀️