The #1 Thing Women Need To Understand about Grown-Boys!

[@akilahbatyah6505]

Don’t retaliate and don’t circle the block. You dealing with demons in meat suits.

[@beefaye6861]

IKR....it ain't worth it....get out !

[@Nectar_Ix]

Well said

[@FatherDIVINE.]

😂😂😂😂ok

[@HashtagAlkaline]

🎯

[@vickyseec]

You hit it right on the money sis!🎯

[@ellebeauty8737]

My dad always told me (and still to this day) not to argue, fuss and fight with a man. If he is bringing me to a point where I want to start getting outside of my character and acting a fool, move on. He ain’t the one for me! At 28, I’ve taken his advice into practice and am glad for it. 🙏🏽

[@itzyogurlEleanor]

Yes, this is where I learned it too.

[@lspence890]

Thank you so much for your comment. I'm going to use your dad's advice myself!

[@Crettyface1]

Ladies PLEASE remove yourself from a toxic relationship. It is not worth it but YOU ARE. Be blessed✨

[@jacquelinerussaw6967]

My cousin husband killed her because she left him for cheating on her. A 14 year old girl named him as her baby daddy, and her parents pressed charges. When the DNA test results named him as the child’s father, and he realized he was on his way to prison, he broke in my cousin”s house and shot her in the head. They have three daughters together. Now the kids are traumatized especially the oldest one. Grown boys are dangerous on every level.

[@nzingahoney]

😢😢😢

[@lco09]

My condolences 💐 and the wild part is that he harmed her and traumatized the children instead of taking responsibility or harming himself. Tony is right about how we cannot even fathom the mind of man

[@katelinparks9536]

That is horrific! My condolences to you and your family. This just shows, a lot of these men it doesn't matter if you don't retaliate, they are straight evil and will try to make someone else pay when they receive the consequences for their actions. I encourage women to be prepared to protect themselves and not just leave, but set strict boundaries afterwards. Many of these men are unhinged

[@verlisahooks]

😢

[@tmcneal6]

😢🙏🏾

[@FernGray]

I was dating a guy for 1 month long distance and then we planned a road trip together.. it didn’t take long for him to show who he was .. anger, shouting, controlling, smoking weed at every chance putting me in danger driving high, gas lighting, insulting, petty and anxious .. it was a road trip and he was carrying a gun. Before I said anything, I got a flight out at the nearest city and distanced myself physically from him before ending it. He owes me money and has some of my possessions butI I let that go. I asked God for wisdom and discernment and to deliver me from that situation. I’m a tender hearted person and I don’t scream and shout so I got out of that situation at the first sign of red flags. Nope not me

[@prettypractical3372]

Smart!

[@Saveren_]

That’s my girl. 😌

[@cassidylove154]

good for u girl

[@breezee7555]

I personally feel as a single woman my life can be at risk depending on who I choose. It's literally getting deadly out here.

[@Her443]

lets normalise Gods choice being the only choice

[@breezee7555]

I still have to encounter and interact with people to EVEN know if it's God right? It's deadly out here. I don't care how you try to twist it!

[@Thats_Sew_Shy]

That's exactly how I feel

[@zuum-sx7ke]

I agree with you Tony. I learned the hard way. Just remove yourself gracefully from a toxic man. Don't ask questions. Just leave. He know he aint treating you right. No explanation needed. He simply don't care about you. Remove yourself from his life ladies. Amen.

[@LilLynda]

Amen

[@Blessed965]

Tony is 💯 correct. My mother told me yeeearrrs ago: “sometimes you gotta EASE your hand out of that lion’s mouth.” And it’s completely true. Even if a guy is in the wrong, the verbal “popping off” that women do can literally TRIGGER a man, and she’ll end up killed. So, even if he’s wrong and you have a right to be upset, you have to “act” as you back up out of the door. You don’t need to leave with a thunder, lol. Don’t forget what my mother said: “sometimes, you gotta eeeaaassseee your hand out of that lion’s mouth.”

[@lco09]

Ohhhh, this is good wisdom

[@belindahill8310]

Your Mom is a Wise Woman. Thanks for sharing her wisdom.

[@joycewatt8289]

Yesssss yes yes!

[@jasminepettigrew371]

Good words right there❤Wisdom!

[@sandrapollard2541]

Ohhhh, wow Wow!!!... So true... Definitely words of wisdom ❤

[@sha2408]

Tony isn’t telling any lies. Don’t even wait on a second red flag. You need to be gone at the first one. I was in a 4 month relationship where I was SCARED FOR MY LIFE, and he used FEAR to control me. We are living in a world where people don’t even fear the wrath of God. Don’t play with these men. I would rather die alone than be in a situation like that ever again.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

I couldn't stop listening. I always say a person who has nothing to lose won't mind losing everything.

[@Terryon1219]

Yessss

[@1racethehumanrace946]

The only retaliation a woman should do to a man who has wronged her is to -LEAVE.! I'm not trying to end up in prison or rhe cemetery if a man can't respect me and treat like he should. Tony G. I'm listening.🙏🙏🙏

[@tarawiselove]

This is why families need to vet the men before they become involved with their women. Men know within 2 weeks what kind of plan they have with the woman they're dealing with. If it's not marriage, it's prostitution of some kind. Ladies and gents, keep leveling up! We need a more stable foundation for the next generation to build on.

[@user-rx7uh9mg4f]

In Arab families the man doesn’t get to be with the woman until he goes through father, uncle and brothers. That’s how it’s suppose to be. Also, men know men so they can sniff out a grown boy early on.

[@Nurse._.drea28]

Women need to hear this because some of us be trying to act tough. Sometimes it’s the quiet men you think are weak pushovers who finally get enough and snap like the landlord who took his girlfriend and tenants lives 2 weeks ago. I aspire to be so confident that I see a man cheating on me as his loss. Be so much of a good woman that I know me leaving and moving on and being happy is enough torture.

[@debbyshark1596]

👏👏👏

[@camiresaffire]

Hmmmmn...... I like that-well said❤

[@OrchidTingz]

That Part Absolutely Yep and That Comes By Healing, Growth, and Maturity & By Putting Things In Place To Better Help Yourself Thank You For Your Comment❣️💯🙏🏾

[@OrchidTingz]

That Part Absolutely Yep and That Comes By Healing, Growth, and Maturity & By Putting Things In Place To Better Help Yourself Thank You For Your Comment❣️💯🙏🏾

[@Chelle1Love_]

I just heard on the local news tonight, that a black man poured gasoline in the front of a lady's and her two daughters front door in a apartment complex. The girls had to jump out the window and the lady was rescued by first responders. It was said he had done this before, but wasn't sure if it was this same lady or another from a previous relationship. These hurt men are not to be taken lightly. Overly emotional men are dangerous men.

[@Terryon1219]

Yes !

[@her8923]

Heard a white man doing the same thing

[@xiomaras.9260]

This was confirmation for me. I was wronged by someone in the worst way. I thought about getting even with him, but the Lord pressed on my heart not to do so. I decided to forgive him instead(70x7). The pain of this leaves me little by little every single day. Trusting that God will deal with him far better than I can.

[@kendrawilliams5703]

Amen he will. Vengeance is the Lord's!

[@brittanyb5942]

You’re smart for walking away! Peace be with you!!

[@carolyndaniels386]

You’re stronger than you know. God bless you and heal you from any negative experience ❤

[@SharondaMichell]

I know it can be hard. Yet without you going through this youll never know how strong you are or how this can point you to BECOME you. You are a gift and when you focus on you, selflove, selfcare and showing love to yourself everwhere. You will be okay, take the lessom and soar. your more powerful then what you realize, you just needed to be ignited❤❤

[@belizeanhippi3]

Far better than you can sis just read Psalms 35:8 Let destruction come upon him at unawares; and let his net that he hath hid catch himself: into that very destruction let him fall. Psalms 55 tuuhhh baby The Most High 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨will handle it

[@1cindy8552]

The story of Abigail in the Old Testament is a great example to follow. Abigail was married to an awful man, yet her demeanor towards him was kind and respectful. At the end of the story she ends up getting married to king David.

[@abigaila2024]

Where can I find this story

[@1cindy8552]

@@abigaila2024 1 Samuel: 25 - read the whole chapter

[@southernroots3896]

Mr Gaskins is the only man coach I trust

[@beefaye6861]

Me too....I just CAN'T

[@DeniseM4698]

The ONLY!!!

[@BlancaRosa79]

Same here ❤

[@tulip4169]

Me too! The only one I watch and receive from and I mean THE ONLY!!

[@highlovevibration]

Absolutely, the one and only Mr. Tony Gaskins!! 🔈🔊🔉

[@eulandathreat1964]

I agree 100% my mother taught me a valuable lesson at a young age “ keep quiet and move in silence”!! Warning will always come before destruction!! You also have grown boys willing to take out their entire family’s at the side chicks request… Ladies please be careful! Plan and prepare but always move in silence…

[@caredfor6872]

Jealously is crueler than the grave. Jealously is that someone lacks something in themselves. They compare their lives to others and they aren't greatful for what they already have because they are too concerned with other people's lifes

[@leticiajackson2237]

So true Tony! Who got time to be playing games as grown adults. I’m not wasting my time. I’m gone! Play by yourself! Lol 😂

[@Flybabesonly_]

I 1000000% agree, DO NOT RETALIATE!!! Was in a physically & verbally situationship w/ my bd. Found out he was in what seemed like a relationship & I confronted him about it. He immediately started being verbally abusive towards me. He did more verbal abuse than physical. & that day, I had a breaking point! He caught me busing out his tire & in return I ended up with a broken 👃, 2 ⚫️ eyes, busted lip, & a scar on my face I’m forever stuck w/. No I wasn’t right & neither was he. But it’s a continuous cycle of “for every action there is a reaction”!! Just walk away like Tony said, with your dignity & your head held high!! It’s not worth it

[@prettypractical3372]

Whew. I’m glad you lived to tell the story.

[@she-she8970]

As women, we must learn how to leave in peace and give it to God. Trust me. When God hand is in it and not yours, he will take care of the situation. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction. Galatians 6.

[@eyme290]

I learned very early on in life that bullies do not care that they had no right to hurt you. They will double down on it if you retaliate or stoop to their level. And I also learned with adult men to not play tit for tat with them, because while you think you’re giving someone what they deserve for their trespass against you, some people will not see it like that, they will not even register that they did something to deserve that, & they will attack you. It’s definitely best to turn away from anger and just walk away & forgive your enemies. Because at least you walk away with your life in tact.

[@dancemomerika]

YES!!!!!

[@blessedqueen555]

Thank you for this confirmation

[@paolaorellana2375]

Yes thank you for this information

[@beefaye6861]

I can RELATE....I survived an abusive Ex.....I moved to another state n no contact with him n no-one connected to him ✌....its real out here.

[@jessicagriffin7974]

Ephesians 6:12 kjv for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places

[@TooBlessedBabyDoll]

Preach Tony! I remember my mom teaching me as a young girl not to play with boys and men in a certain way. No wrestling, no play fighting, no aggressive arguing and to avoid any situation that puts me in harms way with men that can cause me to be hit or abused.

[@Tiggity80]

Facts. I thank God for showing me the red flags within the first 3 months of dating the last guy. He was quick to anger, seemed to have something against women and was jealous. Even tho he checked a lot of other boxes, I knew having him in my life would be a problem. I ended things with him and have no regrets. Taught me a valuable lesson. If I paid attention, he truly wouldn’t have even gotten that first date. Men like that ALWAYS show signs beforehand. You can’t be so desperate for love that you turn a blind eye to them

[@PamPam919]

Every man, woman and child needs to learn this lesson - You can do or say whatever you want, but you don't get to dictate the response to what you say and do. Be mindful of how you speak to people. All that loud talking, cursing and dysfunction only escalates the dysfunction.

[@feliciagray5781]

A lot of us don’t know cuz we didn’t have fathers around.

[@NanaHoneyB]

and a lot of us know because we DID have fathers around🥴

[@feliciagray5781]

@@NanaHoneyB whew 🍿

[@rhondapatterson6463]

I definitely listen to this. Back in 2017 I was in a horrible abusive relationship and one thing I take with me that my ex said was don't even play with a man's emotions/feelings. I don't play with people period because you never know.

[@nataliemoore9965]

Ladies, you heard it walk away

[@lingling7366]

I have no intentions of engaging in fights or name-calling with my significant other. My past experience has shown that my instinct is to leave such situations. I cannot bear to stay within an abusive relationship. I refuse to let things escalate to the point where my life is at risk.

[@yasminedkittles9663]

I approve of this message and I have been saying this for years. I've been with my husband for 14 years and you'll never catch me trying to be him, argue with another man, or have him argue with another man or women on my behalf. "Nooooo, you got it!" Is always my response or I say absolutely nothing at all because people can get crazy and that's for every individual.

[@katrynlittle1991]

If he hit you, leave, if you stay that man will never RESPECT you anymore

[@Essential.Nursing]

Im dealing with a neighbor right now (black man) who has been harrassing me. He's been purposfully blocking my car in with his car and when i finally reported him to the leasing office he waited for me to walk my dog (mini poodle) today and came around the corner with his pit bull who was / is very aggressive and trying to get to my dog, it really scared me. This is the first time hes ever walked his dog at this time of day. Ive filed a police report but he hasnt done anything illegal yet so im kind of stuck. I have a hunch he has a crush on me and is trying to get my attention but its very immature and because of the things hes done he has NO CHANCE what so ever with me. I would never give him a chance even if this is his way of getting my attention. Im trying my best not to defend myself and say something to him but i dont feel safe even walking my dog anymore. He has no reason at all to be doing any of this to me. Ive never done / said anything to him smh

[@Essential.Nursing]

Thank you. I know and i am worried. I only walk my dog and take my trash out during the day from now on and i think im going to let the police officer who helped me yesterday know what happened today. The scary part is he has another black male friend who also lives out here. I see them together often and it worries me that they could work together to do something to me. Idk what else to do besides move but my lease isnt up until may smh

[@1racethehumanrace946]

Please let careful and try not to speak to him unless necessary. and try to find someone you can stay with some of the time. A family member or friend or a hotel.

[@Essential.Nursing]

Thats a good idea. Ive thought about that too. I don't want him to start to learn my schedule, I can be very schedule oriented but he's obviously been watching me so I need to throw him off a little. I have a few friends house i can stay at some nights, i might even break my lease early and use this to get out of any fees. Im working on a way to get out of this situation safely. Tonys video popped up on my home page for a reason. @@1racethehumanrace946

[@Essential.Nursing]

Thank you. Just pray for me, he gives me a really bad feeling.@@Pinkavocados

[@HSBsoulsurfer]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. My best suggestions are to read up on the VAWA Act (Violence Against Women Act) which I believe has a clause in there where if you can prove, with police reports that you have a stalker situation threatening your safety, you can technically legally BREAK the lease early. Please read into what your options are, and don't be afraid to Google your states legal aid services. They may be able to coach you briefly or provide some basic advice on working with your landlord to do this. Please stay inside at night and I suggest also buying one of those portable door alarms made for women to take to hotels. If you are showering or sleeping, and someone tries breaking in, it should scare them, and alert you and other neighbors. Also, I strongly urge you to buy the palm-size Fox brand pepper spray can to always keep in your pocket, ready to reach and spray. I unfortunately had to shake this visibly in my hand when a sketchy behaving black male came out towards me from a Chicago alleyway in my 20's. Tiny little white redhead girl right here. Don't keep it zipped in a purse. You need to be able to grab it immediately. This is assuming he is not armed w an actual weapon. I sleep w a can of this mace near my bed too, as well as near my shower. It's been a rough life. You are blessed, God will get you through this.

[@zuum-sx7ke]

Everything you said about how an abuser operates i went through it. He started by yelling. He gave little red flags at first. Ok they weren't little red flags. I agree with you Tony in that abusers know what personality type to abuse. Like in my case, i come off as the quiet nice shy girl and because of my personality they knew i was a perfect prey. Unfortunately me being a nice person, i put up with the abuse until like the 10th red flag. 😡😡😡. The new me gives NO second chances. I recognize abuse from a mile away.😊

[@SlimmBeauty89]

He’s not lying because my ex hit me, I defended myself and left. He wanted me to come back so bad but when I stood my ground and didn’t he said he would ruin my life and tried to do exactly just that. Because of my career he falsified charges against me thinking I would lose everything I had. Even though he was the aggressor the entire time. I didn’t run to the cops right away like I should of because I didn’t think crazy went as far as his crazy had. Guess what? When he went and lied in his statement I got arrested . Thank god for my family that I got a lawyer right away and got it but that’s something on my record which I didn’t do and I had to fix. Just leave it’s not worth trying to fight crazy with crazy because you can lose in the end

[@tanesharichardson9487]

I hear you Tony! It’s real out here. I too came out of an abusive relationship of 10 months. He started with demeaning comments. I block and delete him so quick and not look back. Allow God to show these grown boys vengeance. Stay prayerful and stay safe too🙏🏽

[@HSBsoulsurfer]

That's it, it always starts with the demeaning comments. I saw it in someone else and checked his ass.

[@tianatiana688]

Glad you are still here 🙏🏽

[@RocSkater09]

Tony Gaskins! Man I just want to share some words of gratitude to you. I am incredibly thankful for your devotion for the kingdom of God. Your testimony and your work is greatly appreciated. Im sure you get plenty of praise, but I just have too share it man. God is using you to reach the 1 left behind with the 99. Praise the Lord, may he continue to keep you and increase you!

[@JustAGalAndHerDog]

Amen

[@cynthiareynolds1941]

You are so right!! This is what I told my daughter after being with this thug boyfriend that she had. I told her to leave him alone. You don’t know what he is capable of doing. Then she begins to tell me what he did to her after she left him. He would say crazy stuff and what he would do to her. If a man tells you that he will kill you! Leave him alone!! They are out of control!! With all these drugs and alcohol and fentanyl you don’t know what they are capable of killing you and your whole family. Leave , delete and block and move forward!! Period 😢

[@mc.2638]

Men see women as being on the same level as them. Women better listen to this and take heed because these men ain’t really “men” and will tear you up like a man. I’ve heard a lot about especially since this “boss chick” era

[@danilaroche1156]

Life changing. A woman cannot go toe to toe with a man.

[@courtneyhoward9096]

Tony you are spot on! 👌 I would literally argue back and forth with one of my exes instead of just walking away. I ended up being abused multiple times even in front of his own mother (who didnt even do anything to try and help me). I would continue to still see this man and go on to even having two kids by him. Did the abuse stop no I was put in a chokehold while 8 months pregnant, slammed into a dresser, mushed in the face. I take accountability for my actions and say that I would get ticked off when I felt that he should be doing more when it came to parenting instead of always downtalking me so I would say things back when we were arguing , try to go tit for tat, or get on the phone with others talking smack about the situation in front him (which was something that would trigger him so badly But I would always think I'm not even talking to him im on the phone so more than likely he will just walk away or leave my home not physically assault me) But im here to say that I am free of that. I made multiple police reports and finally stood my ground when it came to having him charged for CDV. But in his eyes he still to this day does not see anything wrong with what he did during that time period. His response is always I did not beat you like Ike did Tina smh. So please listen to what Tony is saying because if I had this information back then I wouldve FOR SURE left the minute I saw the red flags. I wouldve been so grateful to hear from a man all the wisdom that Tony is speaking because not everybody thinks the way you think and not everybody will react the same way that you will react to a situation. A lesson I learned the hard way but I'm thankful to God im still here and my children are still here. 🙏🏾 🙌🏾 Now that I am in my single season these videos are just what I need to continue to help me grow I pray they do the same for everyone else 🙏🏾 ***ALWAYS KNOW YOUR WORTH, HAVE SET BOUNDARIES AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE LOVED BY GOD ❤❤❤***

[@paige_0023]

So true. I almost lost my life.

[@leticiajackson2237]

Glad you ok!

[@jenniferrose9474]

🙏🏽

[@MWisdomWisdom]

😫😫🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@hellothere8347]

When he was talking about the story with the white boy I just felt sick and got sad because those black boys who try to want to be thugs are the worst kind of guys because they will do anything to prove they tough

[@Kaye.Nicole]

Tony is 1000% correct.....the best thing you ever could do is walk away from a grown boy. Show someone you're not a game instead of playing them.

[@lavonnepatterson1327]

Life must be taken seriously by all who want to live and not die!

[@jkr6302]

Yes. Real men are stoic. They do not overreact. A leader can control their emotions even in confrontations. A stable mind can come up with solutions and result into better decision making. Not saying not to express their feelings, he can always do it in his safe place. Men should represent themselves as a leader so people relying on him or around him will feel encouraged and at ease.

[@Laila_Voice_AsMR]

The bible says the wicked shall never go unpunished ☝🏾 we should always pray for our children 🙏🏾💜 May God protect our children and guide them through out their lives… Amen 🙏🏾 thank you Tony for this eye opening message 💜

[@melissajdelacruz]

Thank you for this Tony! I always say, if we want better in men, it starts with us. Holding our own selves accountable to our own actions and reactions. We can't control nobody, we can only control what we do and how we react and what we allow and put up with. I'm guilty of the bleaching, but that's it, sadly and regretfully. When I saw myself doing that I knew it was time to go. I am a new creation in Christ now and I'm never looking back! ✌🏽

[@ladynottingham89]

This may sound random but I've always heard my dad and other men in my family tell stories about how they messed with animals as a kid. Just last week I was down in Florida with my family and my dad was telling a story about a German shepherd puppy he used to mess with as a kid and how one day the puppy finally decided to get him back for it. I saw a little boy in a reel try to put the cat in a blender just before his mom caught him. I never thought about it, but that killer instinct or hunter instinct does seem to be innate in men.

[@nzingahoney]

Yup. They will easily kill for free

[@user-rx7uh9mg4f]

I’ve scolded many little boys for chasing cats and harassing them. I’ve never seen a little girl go and scare cats for her pleasure.

[@caredfor6872]

Some men who will be abusive to you are the ones that appear to be kind and caring in the beginning of a relationship. They get you attached to them for so long. They blame you for what they do to you. What I don't understand why someone would feel so out of place and miss someone who emotionally and physically abused them in the relationship when they walk out the door and leave

[@hellothere8347]

I definitely agree with what you said Tony. Trying to get your lick back or get even nowadays is scary. I don’t even play like that.

[@tamikadaniels6556]

I’m glad he said, “ you got some men who are going to do what they want to do, no matter what you do.” Tell’em Tony! Preach!!

[@MsCouve]

it was so disgusting to hear what happened to that boy. i have a 18 & 19 y/o… it will be my mission for them to go to jail.

[@proudblackwoman4824]

This is a great message, Tony. I personally have NEVER been abused by a man. Ever. Not even once. And because I see so many OTHER women being abused by men, I am determined to make sure it will never happen to me. So that means I am WILLING to put a dude 6 feet under if one ever tries. There are women out here who will put a man to sleep just as quick. I have male friends who have been set up and robbed my women they were dealing with. So men need to be careful as well. I refuse to live a life where I am "afraid" of men. I will fight BACK . And until women get the courage to STOP allowing this, it will continue. I'm the wrong one for a man to play with. Trust and believe.

[@andreanadean8935]

Tony, I’m hanging up clothes laughing about the $600 check.

[@user-dj6ot8pp5h]

my sister is very aggressive on the road, every single time she drives a car she would curse out other drivers or show them humiiating hand gestures, i keep telling her to stop not only because this is not a proper response but also because i am so worried she might get into trouble, because some men won't tolerate that curses and stuff and might actually put hands on her, unfortunately she won't listen to me

[@brittanyb5942]

Tony this is true! It’s only by the grace of God that he kept me from losing my life (dead or prison) because of these toxic abusive relationships I’ve been in. Thank you Jesus! Been single and celibate for a little over 3 yrs and it’s been peaceful!

[@nadiajones6250]

Tony, me and my sister have been listening to you for some years now you have truly been a blessing in our lives. I’m a celebrity stylist, and I always give your information to women in my chair when I hear all the crazy stories They give me. When I tell them about you and your truth, they quickly listen and tell me thank you for helping him not self-destruct. I’m so glad that you’re doing this new thing with your live videos again. There will always be naysayers to facts and truth that you always deliver. Don’t come off the wall Nehemiah keep building a greater is here now. Blessings to you and your family.

[@leticiajackson2237]

Tony is 100% correct! NOBODY is worth it.

[@melissecasillas5377]

True men and woman are different. if someone cheated and feels the relationship or dating not working out, to solve the problems is to walk away. With Daily Prayer God heals. Thanks for the video. 😊👍Hope more people sees this video

[@anc77707]

“You don’t get to determine how somebody responds to what you do.” Thank You Tony…. Vital words of wisdom and caution to me that I needed to hear this morning.

[@vickyseec]

Some people aren’t crazy, they’re honest! And they will honestly hurt somebody! Always answer softly to ignorance & get AWAY. That is the best option! Prioritize your peace! 🙏🏾

[@phizzy123]

thank you for the piece on accepting slavery and making the best of our situation by accepting the past because i’m tired of the fairytale bs people make up to cope with that.

[@Prettybrowz333]

I hear your heart on this Tony…I’m praying Gods protection over us women 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Only1QueenOfEverything]

I’m praying along with you! Amen. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@krocker8112]

TG! Ur so right! As soon as a man/woman shows you any type of aggression....Remove yourself from the situation! Periodt! Reminds me of the woman recently in Cleveland who was shot 6 (six) times (by her FIANCE), after he was the one who had a history of being abusive to her (allegedly). He off'd her. So sad. Take heed, ladies and gentlemen! Tony is speaking straight facts. God Bless Us All!! 😮💪🏽😢💯💔🥺

[@WildAntics13]

This shows how good man Tony is. Warning women and protecting at all costs. God bless you ❤May the Holy Spirit guide and angels protect you all the days of your life. Ladies take notice even a nicest man who’s ego stroke in the hard way can snap your neck in an instant. Be wise as serpents and gentle like a dove protect your life ladies protect your children ❤

[@MsOrganic1]

I enjoy listening to TG on repeat. I agree that walking away is best, especially in silence. I did. I disappeared when my x was violent with me. I was ghost. At the time, I was ridiculed for it. I didn't care. I don't talk to those women who wanted me to retaliate -- anymore. TG confirms I did the right thing. My safety and peace of mind is more important than to make a point. I automatically knew I was no match to a man's strength, peri-odd.

[@Bells_Ville]

It’s crystal clear what Tony is saying. He’s not endorsing violence or an unfavorable reaction but it doesn’t mean you won’t get one. We can’t even trust our own reactions when at a heightened state let alone trust someone else’s.

[@coriemckinney]

I just did my COGIC shout!!!!!!! This is 100% WISDOM!! I have personally experienced exactly what you are speaking on and I pray that one day we all learn to love and respect one another. 🙏🏾 Tony I’m sure everyone would agree that God spoke through you tonight not only to warn us but to make everyone aware of how we should be mindful concerning the tactics of the enemy! Bless you 👏🏾👏🏾

[@racheloshaksmusic]

You are right sir! I went through it and I was naive to think I was on his good side. But I saw how he treated other men and I should've known it was only a matter of time before he turns on me too, this is just the nature of men with demons, men without the Holy Spirit of self-control, men who are staying in bad, toxic environments, men who grew up with abusive parents, men who has adult children that have left them, these men are vulnerable to being used by Satan, they hate themselves and see no positive commitment in their life and so they will drag you down with them. As soon as you sense from the Holy Spirit to run away, don't try and use your logic or tolerance or patience to convince yourself to do otherwise. Accept the reality of things and run. God will take care of you. Be WISE. Be SMART.

[@mrs.k1525]

I am ALL EARS! Thank you Tony!

[@mtay__2218]

Tony i respect you and the wisdom you have through God. I was one of those included who felt when he cheated, retaliate by yelling cussing him out but it almost cost me my life 2023 he almost killed me and the beatings got worse each time. I use to think i could be a man, trying to be too masculine but i got so offended and i also idolized a man before God because i was desperate for love. I shouldve left the first time, if you are a woman dont take his teachings for granted, i had no father so hearing Tony is like a father/brother i never had. I didnt know my worth so i settled, and that desperation almost turned into being killed. LEAVE the first time PLEASE. I Thank God i'm still here and i know my testimony will help many others, Thank you Tony! 🤍🙏🏾 God bless you, your union, your children and may God continue blessing you for your obidience.

[@ellec8632]

My God-This is a serious word! Ladies-i challenge you/us to do as Mr TG mentioned…send this to our friends, nieces, daughters, bonus/God daughters, cousins, sisters, BFFs, women’s groups, book/social clubs… etc. This is solid wisdom & a life saving word to those who will hear and apply it. Personally, I thank God bc he spared my own life on more than one occasion dealing with these unregulated unstable manboys as described here. One thing I can say for sure that they all had in common? At one point EARLY in our dealings as friends, dating, or in the relationship they ALL took it too far. A response to me saying no, a difference in opinion, a mistake, laughing too hard, declining to give my phone #, etc… Those were red flags! Not signs of strong feelings or any other bs. Mr Tony you are saving lives with this one! Each one teach one, & maybe just maybe we live to tell the story. 🙏🏾 peace & blessings.

[@kimpossible2725]

Tony, when you told the story of that young man killing both of his ex's and that he wasn't crazy. You're absolutely right, we are all just one circumstance from taking someone's life force. I almost unalived my ex-husband for infidelity the 2nd time. Glad I didn't...he wasn't worth it.

[@patricialantigua]

U are right about the back n forth. I def learned my lesson when I was interested in someone. I didn’t like the games he was playing and I respectfully expressed my boundaries and I gave opportunity for change. But, all it did was allow him to keep playing mind games and I found myself going back in forth and I thought what the hell. I ran and never looked back. Will never do that again. That’s when God told me get a paper and pen and write His Boundaries and Standards and I did.

[@mariono244]

im in this situation, how to end it? he's not picking up my calls

[@patricialantigua]

@@mariono244 Baby girl! The best way to end it is walking away with dignity and respect because the devil is out here using all his devices to kill and destroy. We live and learn but never going back and or walking around the same mountain for 40 years like the days of Moses. Heavenly Fathers Blessings is always on the other side. Once HE transformes you and what to look out for and what your boundaries are, which should align to Heavenly Fathers ways. You’ll spot these kinds and they’ll turn around and keep it moving. It’s a process but you will get there with Heavenly Fathers help and by your side. But, first step is, don’t call again. EVER! And fix your crown 👑 and keep your head up. Love ❤️ Patti

[@mariono244]

Thank you so much Patricia, I walked away two weeks ago and feel so much better. The drastic change in his character was quite shocking, came in after 3 months of dating. But as soon as the disrespect began, I left. Praying to God for my kingdom spouse and for protection. Thank you for answering me, God bless you abundantly (Ephesians 3:20)

[@patricialantigua]

@@mariono244 GOD BLESS YOU TOO SISTER PROVERBS 31!!! HEAVENLY PROTECTS AND WATCHES OVER AND LEADS US TO GOD BE THE GLORY

[@topazgraham2643]

You right Tony! These men crazy these days…That’s why I walk away the first and only time when you first see the red flags. You HAVE to be mindful Ladies!

[@beatsbymelody]

Exactly. I had to learn to deal with things as they are, not as they should be. We have to think about how it will all play out and move strategically. When i left my ex i played nice, kept my cool, covered the cameras in his place, and just packed all my stuff when he was out and had my mentor(father figure) come pick us up when he was gone. Some ppl have a fear of abandonment things can escalate quickly, so you really have to be strategic. If you know youre not gonna stay and the disrespect has reached a certain level you have to just skip the confrontation and move accordingly.

[@iamunstoppable205]

ITS TAKE WISDOM TO MOVE STRATEGICALLY

[@diamondjack-cooper5322]

Dont argue! Sidestep the power struggle,it could save your life!

[@robinnewton1061]

I feel so bad for that young man that got beat up. If I was a parent I’ll be looking for them right now.😤….thank you, Mr. Gaskin for being a godly man and keeping us informed, it is much needed. Please don’t stop…🙏🏾don’t give up on us. I’m listening 👂

[@afoodiesguidetofasting9412]

Truth, there is a man at my job who got triggered because I said I wouldn’t talk to/date anyone at my job! He has been too grabby in the past and I have politely and not so politely checked him on it at least two occasions, me making this mere comment sent him, first he tried to say he knew someone who hooked up with me, and when I called him a liar he was pretty much like well you look like a whore! (I’m paraphrasing) he then says to me I know you address, there was another man in the room and when he realized the this person was listening and witnessing he said, you know I’m just playing and proceeded to reach out and squeeze my shoulder… I wanted to slap the dog piss out of him! But I know as a woman I have to keep myself together! Tony is right about this… “Some men” in this world are unhinged, this a man who was set off by me even insinuating he could not have access to me!

[@Arya-pe1dr]

🥰🥰🥰😊Thanks Tony. Great message! As a 53 year old Black lady, I can say that back in my teens and 20s and 40s and would severely curse out my boyfriend and male relatives who I got in to altercations with and threatened if they laid a hand on me and could have been killed if they lost their control!! The young me might have not received thus message well at all and would have blown it off.

[@lesapriv3496]

I love this and a lot of grown girls and women need to hear it. We living in the real world where it’s action now and consequences later

[@HSBsoulsurfer]

While it can be tempting to stoop to their level, sometimes the best revenge is going on to live a really great, satisfying life. Oftentimes karma bites them in the ass. I've seen it several occasions.

[@tha161]

Right, I know I'm blessed because I was the type to hold things in and explode. I've been in a physical fight with an ex because I wasn't allowed to leave. I know now anything could have happened. Now I don't even match energy, I just ignore and remove myself.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

The story of Joseph, because his brothers were jealous of him they planned on killing him but decided to put him in a deep hole leaving him to die over jealousy JEALOUSY IS AS EVIL AS THE GRAVE 🪦 jealousy is the most dangerous evil spirit, man or woman , family, coworkers, neighbors or friends, a person you've never done anything to or may not even know you !!!

[@aliciawoods8925]

I almost lost my life over a miserable jealous lady over her predator son. That woman did all she could to destroy me. Even almost taking my life.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

@@aliciawoods8925 VERY sad VERY believable. 🙏🏽 Jealous people become obsessed with destroying your character or even wanting you to die 💀

[@mrs.truthseekertruthseeker5973]

This is why I would never argue or say anything to my ex husband when he disrespected me on every level. I know he was waiting so he can lay me to rest. I knew this in my heart. We need to know better. May He rest in peace.. He passed away on my birthday. He was so ugly towards me. But, I loved him as a person. I had to help lay him to rest.

[@litrle]

IRON sharpeneth IRON...!!!!!!!

[@LetticKeller-to8bl]

I agree with you! Blessings to you and your family ❤

[@mimiforeign9023]

I completely agree!! My reactions without thought always lead me to destruction BUT also when I removed myself away softly, the grown boy would still threaten my life and make it hard. Then what!

[@Prettywings777]

Not women coming in the comments writing school reports… “actively” process this COMMON SENSE MESSAGE, 2 ears to listen LADIES.. Tony is doing the work of God! and saving and changing life’s for women and men, don’t come here if you’re not ready to be accountable and change your life! Peace and Love 🙏

[@tonyakyndra]

This is the absolute truth. Firsthand witnessed and learned the hard way. So grateful God brought me out that controlling and toxic relationship.

[@monir3275]

That's right, Vengeance is the LORD'S. Amen

[@RoseMon3yy]

God will take care of them in due time just step away from them silently & you’ll see

[@manoniemoments]

You’re out here saving lives!🙌🏾

[@11940ful]

A soft answer turns away wrath!! 🙏🏽

[@madelinefrank770]

Tony you are absolutely 💯 on point! The truth hurts some people. Thank you for your continued wisdom. 💪🏽♥️

[@tonijohnson7804]

"LEAVE,LEAVE👋😂"AMEN! Cuz some people will carry they foolishness straight to the grave ,keep your peace, move on

[@aishawilliams5933]

Thank you so much for this I have experienced the escalation from cursing to yelling to hitting in my own life. Thank you for speaking the truth .

[@thenaturalmermaid]

This is so true! Left Eye burned her cheating boyfriend’s house down. Sometimes being single is better. Take care of your mental health before entering a relationship! Violence is NEVER the answer!